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ksue7274
10-31-2008, 03:31 PM
I have been a member for over a year now...my husband is also a member. Up until this point I have not found the need to tell anyone that we are both here. I never mentioned it before because I thought people would feel awkward flirting with us if they knew. It's worked in the past and I have no problem with women flirting with my husband. That being said, lately my husband has been having jealousy issues. We are trying to work through them but have hit a roadblock because there seems to be two LOVELY ladies feeding into my husbands jealousy issues and making the situation worse. Just so we're clear...I have no problem with women flirting and talking to my husband. The problem comes in when you are no longer flirting but being malicious and trying to dig "dirt" up on me and my friends. This pisses me off!!! If you want to continue talking to my husband that's great but LEAVE MY NAME OUT OF IT!!!!! This place is my escape...there are so many great people here and I have been lucky enough to find wonderful friends and I plan on keeping them. I apologize to anyone else that has to read this but it seems this threesome is not adult enough to talk to me about the situation. I guess it's easier to hear one side of the story and pass judgement. The games stop now. I'm going back to flirting and hope you do as well.
StripPoker
10-31-2008, 03:40 PM
:hug:
jmsmith12345
10-31-2008, 03:42 PM
Don't worry sue, you will always be my friend and we can go diving anytime. :ok :sng
wow.. i am so sorry that you are experiencing that.. You seem like a wonderful person, and I can't imagine anyone wanting to cause trouble for you. I have no idea who your hubby is, but sounds like you both have good communication skills and can work this out!!!
I have been a member for over a year now...my husband is also a member. Up until this point I have not found the need to tell anyone that we are both here. I never mentioned it before because I thought people would feel awkward flirting with us if they knew. It's worked in the past and I have no problem with women flirting with my husband. That being said, lately my husband has been having jealousy issues. We are trying to work through them but have hit a roadblock because there seems to be two LOVELY ladies feeding into my husbands jealousy issues and making the situation worse. Just so we're clear...I have no problem with women flirting and talking to my husband. The problem comes in when you are no longer flirting but being malicious and trying to dig "dirt" up on me and my friends. This pisses me off!!! If you want to continue talking to my husband that's great but LEAVE MY NAME OUT OF IT!!!!! This place is my escape...there are so many great people here and I have been lucky enough to find wonderful friends and I plan on keeping them. I apologize to anyone else that has to read this but it seems this threesome is not adult enough to talk to me about the situation. I guess it's easier to hear one side of the story and pass judgement. The games stop now. I'm going back to flirting and hope you do as well.
um......I don't know you that well. And I have NO idea who your hubby is. But why do you feel the need to hide that you are both here? Wouldn't it be MORE awkward to say after the fact "oh by the way......."
I guess I'm a very "up front and direct" sorta gal.
But if I found out that my friend had a hubby on the site and hadn't told anyone (or vice versa) that would make me extremely distrustful of them.
There are couples here who are very open about their being here together and it doesn't seem to get in the way of their flirting.
Not trying to judge you.......just this sorta thing doesn't sit well with me.
ksue7274
10-31-2008, 04:03 PM
um......I don't know you that well. And I have NO idea who your hubby is. But why do you feel the need to hide that you are both here? Wouldn't it be MORE awkward to say after the fact "oh by the way......."
I guess I'm a very "up front and direct" sorta gal.
But if I found out that my friend had a hubby on the site and hadn't told anyone (or vice versa) that would make me extremely distrustful of them.
There are couples here who are very open about their being here together and it doesn't seem to get in the way of their flirting.
Not trying to judge you.......just this sorta thing doesn't sit well with me.
I understand what you mean but we do tell our "friends" who we are and obviously that's where the problem came in.
I understand what you mean but we do tell our "friends" who we are and obviously that's where the problem came in.
I'm sorry you're having problems........um.
Maybe you need some new "friends"?????:sg
Sweetdreams069
10-31-2008, 04:11 PM
I think it's cool that you can both be here and enjoy the site. Wish I was with someone like that. I can imagine that it could be awkward though especially if you're both not on the same page totally. Hope it works out for both of you.
scoobertina
10-31-2008, 04:29 PM
I find it sad that we have this happening...
I think it is awesome that you and your husband can both be on this site, flirting and maybe even making your marriage stronger...
Please continue flirting and enjoying the site, and please don't allow anyone to make you feel down...
:hug: and if you want to flirt with me Ksue.... bring it!!!!
ksue7274
10-31-2008, 04:47 PM
I'm sorry you're having problems........um.
Maybe you need some new "friends"?????:sg
I'm thinking you may be right :)
ksue7274
10-31-2008, 04:47 PM
I find it sad that we have this happening...
I think it is awesome that you and your husband can both be on this site, flirting and maybe even making your marriage stronger...
Please continue flirting and enjoying the site, and please don't allow anyone to make you feel down...
:hug: and if you want to flirt with me Ksue.... bring it!!!!
Woohoooo....well if this was what it took...lol Thanks Scoob, I may just take you up on your offer ;)
StripPoker
10-31-2008, 04:57 PM
Let the flirting begin, I will pour the wine :dt
ksue7274
10-31-2008, 05:04 PM
Let the flirting begin, I will pour the wine :dt
Well since you have the wine I'll start the fire ;)
WandaRing
10-31-2008, 05:07 PM
ksue, :sry that you and hubby are dealing with this. It is sad that some people are not happy unless they are causing mayhem and chaos for others. I really don't get why some people feel it's okay to interfere in a marriage and try to destroy it.... I don't know if it's emotional problems or just plain jealousy that make these people act like this....:yks
keep having fun and don't let the morons ruin your fun or allow them the joy of interfering in your marriage. :crs
StripPoker
10-31-2008, 05:07 PM
sounds like the perfect halloween....scoob..you are invited too :ok
fever
10-31-2008, 05:10 PM
I'm sorry you're going through this...you shouldn't have to disclose more than you're comfortable with under any circumstance...it's a shame this thread, like others before it, even had to happen. I hope it sorts itself out quickly, that everyone can just act like grown-ups and flirt already!
FeIsTy FaV
10-31-2008, 07:03 PM
Ksue... I'm sorry for the petty BS that you are going through.... It seems to be in the air these days....
1sxymama
10-31-2008, 07:09 PM
I dont know you or your hubby but am sorry this is happening to you both not real friends to do this sort of thing
RedVixen
10-31-2008, 09:20 PM
I hope your problems get resolved quickly - sorry you have to go through any of this :(
Like Fly said, maybe you need better friends :hug:
Xanadu7
10-31-2008, 09:41 PM
Ksue, just tell me who they are, and I'll kick their asses! WTF?
Kissie
10-31-2008, 10:00 PM
Let me just say this...my hubby has joined the site...and things can be fun...
Guess they cant be much of friends if they are talking about you behind your back like that!!!!
To bad this crap has to go on...guess we all arent all respecting adults after all!!!!
Dragon_lady
10-31-2008, 11:33 PM
Its very sad that you are going through this, even sadder that you need to make it public when you didn,t want to.
Hope all the dust settles and petty bs dies off so you and hubby can get back to flirting amongst friends.
private beaches
10-31-2008, 11:51 PM
Thinking of you Ksue and your hubby. :hug::hug:Just hoping you and hubby can continue having fun here w/o the problems you have experienced. Why do people have to cause problems???? :(
Sorry to hear that you are going through this. Like most large groups of people in life, you always come across trouble makers. I hope that things work out for the best and know that you have a friend to chat with if you ever need it.
Catman354
11-01-2008, 01:39 AM
I'm thinking you may be right :)
Well, Ksue, I'll be your friend :).
Penny
11-01-2008, 01:45 PM
Best thing to do is take it for what it is, A website:( Everyone should be very careful telling anyone anything personal about yourself on a place like this. Believe me I used to be the most trusting person in the world but whatever you say here to anyone should be considered public information :(
GeekMaster
11-01-2008, 03:59 PM
I have been a member for over a year now... ...The games stop now. I'm going back to flirting and hope you do as well.
It is my observed opinion that, there are patterns to this kind of treatment of members here. Patterns include what is said, and who is saying it, and how low and despicable they can be.
Ksue, stand your ground, tell the trouble makers to kiss off or simply ignore them.:sng
:spbx:
Best thing to do is take it for what it is, A website:( Everyone should be very careful telling anyone anything personal about yourself on a place like this. Believe me I used to be the most trusting person in the world but whatever you say here to anyone should be considered public information :(
Even in pm's?
scoobertina
11-01-2008, 04:23 PM
Even in pm's?
lol.. GOD I HOPE NOT!!!
Kissie
11-01-2008, 04:27 PM
Thinking of you Ksue and your hubby. :hug::hug:Just hoping you and hubby can continue having fun here w/o the problems you have experienced. Why do people have to cause problems???? :(
cuz they want everyone to be as misrable as they are!!!!!
UltimateNaneki
11-01-2008, 04:30 PM
Being both of your friends, I have known about you for a very long time...I love flirting with him and I know he has fun too...and you're a dear and wonderful friend with me. I enjoy your friendship and hope we can continue for a very long time...
Lately I have not been here or there...I feel sorrow that my friends are being hurt. You come here to have fun and relax. The troublemakers should go and find somewhere else to cause chaos.
:hug:s to the pair of my great friends Ksue and hubby!! :)
leighm
11-02-2008, 06:50 AM
Ksue I am sorry this has happened to you. People can be very cruel. As long as you're relationship with your hubby stays strong you will get passed this. You both will also have the support of your friends, of which I think you have many. You seem a lovely person and I wonder at those who wish to cause you trouble. They are in the wrong, not you and they should be ashamed of themselves. Obviously they are very jealous and vindictive people. Take care.
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