Past Lovers

[Penny]

Do you ever talk about them with your partner? Do you ever see any of them and wonder what it would be like if you stayed together?

[Norfolkdave]

We talk about what and if, and wonder, I think we all do, sometimes I think what would life been like the changes wether we would have had children and what would I be doing now. Chris talks about her sailor boyfriend long before me, and I ask if she has regrets and she says she doesnt, who knows. Yes I often wonder what past lover would have been female enough to take me on. Life can be cruel but also wonderous, and dreams help people along, fantasies of the past are but a mere port in the storm.

[Annie]

Yes we do! A whole lot lately since one of them still wants to "be my friend". Friends like him I do not need! Actually hubby might try to get him to leave me alone if he doesn't take a hike soon! It would have been a nightmare for me if we stayed together, no doubt about it!

[sweetgapeach]

I have never really talked about my past lovers , just causes jealousy . But I have and do see a couple of close ex's , and I wondered for a minute what it would be like, only one I have wondered alot about untill lately , but I think well enough is left to the past . And I think people are really looking for that connection they once thought they had, and then you have to think , there is a reason they are your past lovers.

[Zifnab]

Oh that has been a FUN one over the years! She has an ex that was a police officer in our old precinct and he would stop by to vist aLOT. And as I have a child from one of my past ooppsses we have that family situation to contend with regularly. Includeing being invited over for parties etc. Her ex and his latest girlfriend have even come over to our new house and hung out in the pub.

[Sandy]

yes we've talked about our exs, and no neither one of us would want to go back to them.

[Trev]

yes we've talked about our exs, and no neither one of us would want to go back to them.

Isn't that what we all tell or partners.:D

[Barkiss]

Isn't that what we all tell or partners.:D

I have to agree Trev...I don't see saying, "well hell, they won't have me, so I'm stuck with you!" ;)

[Sandy]

i choose to be with him. believe me i'n not stuck

[kissiemybuttie]

I have only really had one other lover than my hubby....and that was during the 18 months we were split up...would i like to go back to him??? No i think I have finally gotten over him....I love hubby just not his drinking!!!!

[MCat]

When my kids were younger they used to tease me when I would run into an old boyfriend in the grocery store. I have only had 1 lover and he is right here with me everyday. :knuddel:

[sex_kitten_4u]

my ex hubby and i used to talk about our ex's and there is only 1 of my ex's that i have wondered about we stayed friends but have not seen him in a few years

[quax999]

There are a couple that my wife and I talk about, there's even one that calls the house from time to time, pisses my wife off, but this ex-gf thinks she can whip my wifes butt, and my wife keeps telling her to just bring it. She hasn't called back since.


Naw, I don't really wonder what it could have been. With any one else from my past.

[Zifnab]

there were several gfs way back in the dark history of my life that I often wonder what happened to. But I have never been good at keeping in touch with the past. Never been much back there I want to hang on to.

[Shiane]

Nope we don't talk about them, I think it's best to let sleeping dogs lie, besides there are reasons they are called ex's!

[Zifnab]

Nope we don't talk about them, I think it's best to let sleeping dogs lie, besides there are reasons they are called ex's!

true, and there are some back there that I am still wondering why..... but not losing sleep over it. Already lost enough over them and moved on.

[Shiane]

true, and there are some back there that I am still wondering why..... but not losing sleep over it. Already lost enough over them and moved on.

Uhhhh huh, you said a mouthful!:whee:

[chopperh3]

No not that much at all. I was her first and I only had a handfull so there isn't much to talk about

[blanjas3]

past lovers..very interesting ..how many could you have married?

[Zifnab]

past lovers..very interesting ..how many could you have married? three

[Shiane]

past lovers..very interesting ..how many could you have married?

None:sc

[code20]

awesome photo

[sweetgapeach]

awesome photo


Yeah isnt she Beautiful !!

[Zifnab]

Yeah isnt she Beautiful !!
And you are not bad yourself! So be sure you smile when you say things like that!

[sweetgapeach]

And you are not bad yourself! So be sure you smile when you say things like that!

Aww , Now that was sweet !! Thank you !

[Zifnab]

Aww , Now that was sweet !! Thank you !
Dang! There I go being sweet again! Ia m going to ruin my reputation if I keep that up!

[Traxster]

Well my wife and I do talk about past lovers.....But since she is from Chicago I don't ever run into them.....On the other hand I have lived here a long time so alot of my past lovers I run into alot. I have no regrets and am glad I married the right woman. Bot you always wonder at times what if!!!!! :D

[harley doc]

It was so long ago we don't remember...................lol

[sweetgapeach]

Funny this was up when I got on , As I said before I do see some past lovers . Well the funny thing is , My daughter had Softball try outs Today . And 1 of the Coaches was a Guy a dated awhile in High School , just Weird . Small world . Nice to see how people grow up and be able to see their kids and his wife was there, which was a girls sister that I knew .Weird

[surfnchat]

It is easy for my wife and me. We were both virgins when we got married. No baggage or expectations to live up to. :D

[sweetgapeach]

It is easy for my wife and me. We were both virgins when we got married. No baggage or expectations to live up to. :D


Thats nice though .:)

[surfnchat]

Thats nice though .:)

Yes, it is... But sometimes I wonder what I missed out on when I was single. I'm not sure I'd save myself for marriage if I had the chance to do it again. ;)

[sweetgapeach]

Yes, it is... But sometimes I wonder what I missed out on when I was single. I'm not sure I'd save myself for marriage if I had the chance to do it again. ;)


Aint all its cracked up to be, and You never had to be compared to anyone lol

[surfnchat]

Aint all its cracked up to be, and You never had to be compared to anyone lol

LOL... Yes, my wife and I could pretty much suck at sex and we wouldn't know any better. :D

[sweetgapeach]

LOL... Yes, my wife and I could pretty much suck at sex and we wouldn't know any better. :D


Exactly !!!!

[SaltyLime]

i do think about the ex occasionally, dream, wondering how that person is doing. but never talk about him to anyone other than my sister.

[cherokeered]

Well...my ex-boyfriend is dead...so I dont run into him..but Idothink of him from time to time...


That would be the only ex I have at the moment...:D

[Seeker]

Yikes!! I guess you don't like loose ends ....Well...my ex-boyfriend is dead...so I dont run into him..but Idothink of him from time to time...


That would be the only ex I have at the moment...:D

[musicmer]

I still talk to a couple of my ex's. But they live far away so that it isnt any trouble with my wife.

And no I dont wonder what it would be like because there is a reason we broke up.

[Shiane]

If you live in the past then you're missing the present.

I read something the other day, someone made reference to the past, the pleasant, and the future. It just made me wonder if some people live in the past because their present is not so pleasant.

[cherokeered]

Yikes!! I guess you don't like loose ends ....

Ya not scared are ya...lol :whee:

[Seeker]

lol ... nah not at all ... {now wheres that damn door ...... }Ya not scared are ya...lol :whee:

[cherokeered]

lol ... nah not at all ... {now wheres that damn door ...... }


Lol...its locked silly....:whee:


Cherokee....holding the key...with a smile on her face....:D

[Seeker]

Uh, oh! ..... hey wait a minute, this could be a good thing!! Cum 'ere, baby! :knuddel: Lol...its locked silly....:whee:


Cherokee....holding the key...with a smile on her face....:D

[SnakeBite369]

I only talk to my wife about my ex's when forced. LOL Honestly, she hates hearing about them and thinks I was some kind of major stud muffin or something. (eyeroll - where was I when that was happening?) I do have one ex that I keep in touch with though. We started out hot and heavy, lived together for a few years, then broke up badly. After about a year apart, we got together again in more of a "friends with privileges" kind of arrangement and we got on great. I've known her for 20 years now and don't see that ending anytime soon, although the "with privileges" part kind of died since I moved over 400 miles away to get married. I still wonder though...

[Figgler]

I try hard not to talk about my ex's but its not easy when you end up talking about your sex life! what you have done in the past and have you done this then it the who with thing!
I remember in the early days of me and my wife before we married going in to the local pub were i grew up and one of my childhood sweethearts that i was forcefully seperated from (By her parents!) she came over to me put her arms round and gave me a kiss my girlfriend (now wife) was steaming and ready to knock her out!
I do think of past relationships often and yes that girl in the pub was one that i wish i could have married even after all these years!
My ex before my wife was a total nutter but we had great sex on the bus in the park even in the living room while everyone was asleep in the same room on xmas day boy that was fun lol!!
But i dont like to tell my wife these things because i dont want her to think she is not good enough for me or that she bores me different relationships have different quality's! and although every body wants more or some thing else i'd like to keep what i have also.....

[SaltyLime]

and although every body wants more or some thing else i'd like to keep what i have also.....

gotta agree with you there.

when i think back about anything, including the ex, i focus more on the old me compared to the new me. just to remember me at a younger, fresher stage. places i've been. and of course with those places comes the people who were in your life at that time. wouldn't give up what i have for something i wouldn't have kept.

[Cotties]

I never speak to ex's ... just don't...I don't get why anyone would unless you're looking for trouble..

[S.E]

Sometimes when I look back at some of my old lovers some didn't have closure and I know there isn't a thing I can do but other times there were some hot times also..

[S.E]

It's ok to look back..Just don't stareSometimes when I look back at some of my old lovers some didn't have closure and I know there isn't a thing I can do but other times there were some hot times also..

[Traxster]

Funny this tread is here....I ran into my high school sweetheart and was engaged to.....was totally shocked!! She's here for her class reunion......she's gonna skip the dance and we're gonna connect tonight...:whee: For only a drink i hope.....:D

[sweet]

Funny this tread is here....I ran into my high school sweetheart and was engaged to.....was totally shocked!! She's here for her class reunion......she's gonna skip the dance and we're gonna connect tonight...:whee: For only a drink i hope.....:D

Woooo Sweet Cheeks gonna score tonight :D

J/K :wa:

[Traxster]

Woooo Sweet Cheeks gonna score tonight :D

J/K :wa:

Sweetie i'm hoping i have will power...lol....but i can't say ...:whee:

[sweet]

Sweetie i'm hoping i have will power...lol....but i can't say ...:whee:

lol Remember what they taught you in school....JUST SAY NO! :D

You better be good! :nu

[Traxster]

lol Remember what they taught you in school....JUST SAY NO! :D

You better be good! :nu

Hun i plan on it......to close to home....:D :knuddel:

[sweet]

Hun i plan on it......to close to home....:D :knuddel:

Good. That's the smart thing to do. :55

[Traxster]

Good. That's the smart thing to do. :55

wish there wasn't any drinking....:lmao nah i will be good....can ya come and keep me on the straight and narrow???? oops that might not work....lol...

[lbgchase]

Horny

[lbgchase]

Anyone Out There Tied Down And Bored?

[sweet]

wish there wasn't any drinking....:lmao nah i will be good....can ya come and keep me on the straight and narrow???? oops that might not work....lol...

lol now Trax you really don't want me to do that!
I can be pretty tough and might have to break out my whip if you get out of line :D

[tiger50]

Anyone Out There Tied Down And Bored?

gday babe, and welcome to the site....:kk

umm now if ya tied down, how can u be bored??? :whee:

[Traxster]

lol now Trax you really don't want me to do that!
I can be pretty tough and might have to break out my whip if you get out of line :D


Well only if ya do my nails while your whipping me....:lmao :D

[sweet]

Well only if ya do my nails while your whipping me....:lmao :D

Hmmm....it'll cost ya! ;)

[Traxster]

Hmmm....it'll cost ya! ;)

Hmmmmmmmm hitting me isn't enough??????:lf

[sweet]

Hmmmmmmmm hitting me isn't enough??????:lf

Nope....you gotta mow my lawn! I've heard you're good at that! :D
Wait, no, erase that. I don't really have a lawn to mow...guess I'll have to think of something else....:D

[Traxster]

Nope....you gotta mow my lawn! I've heard you're good at that! :D
Wait, no, erase that. I don't really have a lawn to mow...guess I'll have to think of something else....:D

Good thing you said something...i was hoping on my ridin lawnmower....lol..think hard hun!!!!:D

[sweet]

Good thing you said something...i was hoping on my ridin lawnmower....lol..think hard hun!!!!:D
Got you all excited there huh? Sorry to disappoint you :kk

[Traxster]

Got you all excited there huh? Sorry to disappoint you :kk

Lawnmowing is my life.......:knuddel:

[yaser]

Lawnmowing is my life.......:knuddel:In the gardens only I hope....

[Traxster]

In the gardens only I hope....

Gardens.....bushes....ranches...:whee:

[yaser]

Gardens.....bushes....ranches...:whee:I think you earn living that way and entertaining..

[Traxster]

I think you earn living that way and entertaining..

side job.............doesn't pay welll...Hmmmmmmmmm well maybe it does...:whee:

[yaser]

side job.............doesn't pay welll...Hmmmmmmmmm well maybe it does...:whee:Trax,I also intent to do but I am not sure..Do women want it?

[MCat]

Yesterday I ran into the first and only boyfriend I had before I met my husband. He is entering his second divorce. He asked me whatever happened between us...

I was 16, he was 19 ( we had "gone steady" since I was 14 )...he joined the army and took some other girl to germany with him. He didn't even tell me we were breaking up. Just up and got married and left. I was soooo totally devastated for months. I would have gone with him, I thought we would marry someday. Guess I was wrong.

Then of course I met my true love a year later, he swept me off my feet.:kk

I told him hubby and I had just celebrated 30 years together and we exchanged info about kids, grandkids etc.

But it was nice to hear him say... Damn, I made a mistake, what a fool I was, we would still be together...and he said I was good looking for an old lady - which was a compliment in his own way. It helped me walk a little straighter for the rest of the day.

[Cotties]

older women is what he said...


Yesterday I ran into the first and only boyfriend I had before I met my husband. He is entering his second divorce. He asked me whatever happened between us...

I was 16, he was 19 ( we had "gone steady" since I was 14 )...he joined the army and took some other girl to germany with him. He didn't even tell me we were breaking up. Just up and got married and left. I was soooo totally devastated for months. I would have gone with him, I thought we would marry someday. Guess I was wrong.

Then of course I met my true love a year later, he swept me off my feet.:kk

I told him hubby and I had just celebrated 30 years together and we exchanged info about kids, grandkids etc.

But it was nice to hear him say... Damn, I made a mistake, what a fool I was, we would still be together...and he said I was good looking for an old lady - which was a compliment in his own way. It helped me walk a little straighter for the rest of the day.I bet you held your head high:55 ...silly boy he was

[yaser]

Yesterday I ran into the first and only boyfriend I had before I met my husband. He is entering his second divorce. He asked me whatever happened between us...

I was 16, he was 19 ( we had "gone steady" since I was 14 )...he joined the army and took some other girl to germany with him. He didn't even tell me we were breaking up. Just up and got married and left. I was soooo totally devastated for months. I would have gone with him, I thought we would marry someday. Guess I was wrong.

Then of course I met my true love a year later, he swept me off my feet.:kk

I told him hubby and I had just celebrated 30 years together and we exchanged info about kids, grandkids etc.

But it was nice to hear him say... Damn, I made a mistake, what a fool I was, we would still be together...and he said I was good looking for an old lady - which was a compliment in his own way. It helped me walk a little straighter for the rest of the day.And what is the result of this story?What is your advice,MaCat?I wish or no problem?

[russellnfwtx]

Don't need to run into an old flames here......I mis em too much still...:cry:

or maybe I just had too many old flames.....oh, well.lol

[cherokeered]

Great story hun...and yes...he was foolish but thankfully so...you got your soul mate...and he got...well a lesson in life..lol



Yesterday I ran into the first and only boyfriend I had before I met my husband. He is entering his second divorce. He asked me whatever happened between us...

I was 16, he was 19 ( we had "gone steady" since I was 14 )...he joined the army and took some other girl to germany with him. He didn't even tell me we were breaking up. Just up and got married and left. I was soooo totally devastated for months. I would have gone with him, I thought we would marry someday. Guess I was wrong.

Then of course I met my true love a year later, he swept me off my feet.:kk

I told him hubby and I had just celebrated 30 years together and we exchanged info about kids, grandkids etc.

But it was nice to hear him say... Damn, I made a mistake, what a fool I was, we would still be together...and he said I was good looking for an old lady - which was a compliment in his own way. It helped me walk a little straighter for the rest of the day.

[Sunfiresix]

None of the past lovers could compare with my present one, when she was in her prime. They were unique in and of themselves though.

[Cotties]

lucky man...I hope your talking about your wife and not your secretary:sc None of the past lovers could compare with my present one, when she was in her prime. They were unique in and of themselves though.

[Sunfiresix]

Awww man--don't spoil it, others think I am a straight arrow...

[MCat]

And what is the result of this story?What is your advice,MaCat?I wish or no problem?

I am with the person I was meant to be with....wouldn't change a thing.

[eros_alchemist]

No I have not keeped in contact with ether of them.

[SensualAngel]

I have one past lover that I still talk to via email/msgr and phone at times....very regularly. He changed me, the way I am, the way I make love, the way I kiss....I will always view him as the man who helped me realize my full potential...of course, that full potential can only come out with the right partner and the right emotions. Due to circumstances at the time, I had to let him go and it was hard....very hard. However, we've managed to have a friendship beyond anything else...for that I am humbled. He knows all about what I think of him and I know how he thinks of me...but it would never work out between us....he is going through a hardtime in his life right now and I am doing my best to be there for him. We see each other very irregularly and always in a place that is neutral...we both know what would happen if we were alone and due to us both being in other relationships, we don't allow that to happen.



I guess you could say that I have never recaptured that with anyone else...and I never will. I honestly feel that there's somethings that only happen once in a lifetime and if you find that you are extremely lucky. I have experienced intense, true, sensuality with this man....I cannot think of another way to explain it. And for that, he will always hold a piece of my soul, my heart that I will never get back.



And....



I wouldn't want too.

[Waltert]

I know what you mean



I have one past lover that I still talk to via email/msgr and phone at times....very regularly. He changed me, the way I am, the way I make love, the way I kiss....I will always view him as the man who helped me realize my full potential...of course, that full potential can only come out with the right partner and the right emotions. Due to circumstances at the time, I had to let him go and it was hard....very hard. However, we've managed to have a friendship beyond anything else...for that I am humbled. He knows all about what I think of him and I know how he thinks of me...but it would never work out between us....he is going through a hardtime in his life right now and I am doing my best to be there for him. We see each other very irregularly and always in a place that is neutral...we both know what would happen if we were alone and due to us both being in other relationships, we don't allow that to happen.



I guess you could say that I have never recaptured that with anyone else...and I never will. I honestly feel that there's somethings that only happen once in a lifetime and if you find that you are extremely lucky. I have experienced intense, true, sensuality with this man....I cannot think of another way to explain it. And for that, he will always hold a piece of my soul, my heart that I will never get back.



And....



I wouldn't want too.

[NativeBreed]

I have one past lover that I still talk to via email/msgr and phone at times....very regularly. He changed me, the way I am, the way I make love, the way I kiss....I will always view him as the man who helped me realize my full potential...of course, that full potential can only come out with the right partner and the right emotions. Due to circumstances at the time, I had to let him go and it was hard....very hard. However, we've managed to have a friendship beyond anything else...for that I am humbled. He knows all about what I think of him and I know how he thinks of me...but it would never work out between us....he is going through a hardtime in his life right now and I am doing my best to be there for him. We see each other very irregularly and always in a place that is neutral...we both know what would happen if we were alone and due to us both being in other relationships, we don't allow that to happen.



I guess you could say that I have never recaptured that with anyone else...and I never will. I honestly feel that there's somethings that only happen once in a lifetime and if you find that you are extremely lucky. I have experienced intense, true, sensuality with this man....I cannot think of another way to explain it. And for that, he will always hold a piece of my soul, my heart that I will never get back.



And....



I wouldn't want too.


Wow......You're very fortunate to even have had that experience SensualAngel......I hope he, and yourself, find happiness wherever the roads ya both follow leads. Only the very lucky find someone like that in their lives. But do not despair, once in a long while, miracles happen.

[Itshardon-theroad]

Do you ever talk about them with your partner? Do you ever see any of them and wonder what it would be like if you stayed together?

Not very much. There was a 7 year drought between the girl I dated in high school and the woman who became my wife. The two of them have never met. I do wonder what it would have been like had we stayed together. We very nearly married right out of school, but her going away to college and my immaturity pretty much killed that. She now has twins and is married to a grocery store manager. Quite a change from her life plans.

[MIGHTY]

Do you ever talk about them with your partner? Do you ever see any of them and wonder what it would be like if you stayed together?

I have mentioned a few to my partner, due to the traumatic circumstances surrounding the relationships. I mention them so he can have a better understanding of how I was molded by the men in my life, where my fears stem from, and why I may have the reservations that I do at times.

There is one that I do wonder about on occasion.....my first true love. I know that everything happens for a reason though and that there was a reason we did not make it. Now I have a beautiful son who is the love of my life and would not go back and redo the past. I believe I would have continued to be loved by that man, that boy.......but, like anything else in life, I would not be able to predict the outcome of such relationships. I am happy to have had all of the relationships (good and bad) that I have had and am a better and wiser person for having learned the lessons that I did as a result.

[rizz]

hmmm...email one and we are still friends. But never talk about them with wife.

[Torin]

I am still friends with all of my past lovers. All 5 of them, lol. And as such, they are talked about quite frequently in my home. It's only caused a problem once, but it was quickly resolved when I pointed out that if I still wanted to be with my ex, I would be. How can you argue with that?? :D

[Asperror]

This topic sends chills down my spine. I had my high school sweet heart....who left me to go to Greece....comes back 14 years later and knocks on my door....out of the blue. My wife answered the door.....let her in...and called me from the other room so I can say hello to a visitor. Let's just say it was a very odd moment. I was in shock and looked as if I saw a ghost. She was in shock to see how much my life changed. My wife looked at this thing as one big experiment....she loved every moment.

I have to admit....i was thinking....threesome...then I woke up. lol

[c50t]

The past is the past . . . or at least I have always beleived it is . . . was . . . whatever. The other night I had a very disturbing dream about my most significant ex. I woke up , and really couldn't get back to sleep. Haven't told anyone. My wife doesn't know she even exists. Come to think of it, I don't know if she still exists. Haven't seen her in 15 years.
Still, I have these thoughts wandering through the back of my brain.
Gotta shake 'em loose.

[niceones]

i agree...let the past stay there. I did however have a recent occurence where out of the blue, an ex i was with for 8 years through high school and college contacted me. He was a pretty boy...goodie goodie...we had our whole lives planned but I decided I wanted more excitement in my life and broke it off. He was devastated but I knew it was for the best. After not speaking for several years...he called me up at work the other day. The friendly soul that I am answered like I knew who I was talking to or at least the voice was familiar and when he said who it was...I almost croaked. Sure there are times I have wondered what could have been, but knowing I could get whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted it, just didn't seem to intrigue me at the time...I still feel it was the right thing and when he called me sweetie after not talking for so many years, knowing he is married with two kids...just turned me completely off...I am confident I made the right decision so many years ago.

[jimmy-love-fl]

I never talk about it! The girl I was with when I met my wife tried everything to get me back, so she is not very well liked by her. Now she is a Playboy Centerfold! I would never in a million years tell my wife that. I have to admit I have sneaked a peak now and then. Besides the fact that she was sycho, she was soooo beautiful!

[nolefaninal]

I am still friends with all of my past lovers. All 5 of them, lol. And as such, they are talked about quite frequently in my home. It's only caused a problem once, but it was quickly resolved when I pointed out that if I still wanted to be with my ex, I would be. How can you argue with that?? :D



That's a great attitude Torin. I know my wife's first, her last before me and a few in between. She knows my first, last and a few others as well. We've talked openly and honestly about it, and it just makes us that much more in tune to one another's wants and needs sexually.

[skinnyone]

I don't have many old lovers, just one. There are certain things about her that I miss
but then there are some that I do not! I would like to see her but she won't have anything to do with me.

[Kevin7284]

i miss her

[Sylar]

I am still friends with all of my past lovers. All 5 of them, lol. And as such, they are talked about quite frequently in my home. It's only caused a problem once, but it was quickly resolved when I pointed out that if I still wanted to be with my ex, I would be. How can you argue with that?? :D

You have to admit...that is infallible logic...;) I Love you...:kk

[RedVixen]

Past Lovers: Do you ever talk about them with your partner? Do you ever see any of them and wonder what it would be like if you stayed together?

The subject has come up now and then over the years. Funny, but I ran into one of my ex's while shopping - when he saw me, he did a double-take, looked over at his now wife and you could see he regretted the choice *he* made :D

[Fargo...really]

In the words of Bread: "How many came before it really doesn't matter just as long as you're the last"

[yaser]

I am still friends with all of my past lovers. All 5 of them, lol. And as such, they are talked about quite frequently in my home. It's only caused a problem once, but it was quickly resolved when I pointed out that if I still wanted to be with my ex, I would be. How can you argue with that?? :D
Still going on to increase the number,Torin? :lf

[yaser]

I am with the person I was meant to be with....wouldn't change a thing.
Woman of Rock...

[yaser]

I was a station and lovers were the trains...Who had come who had gone..Still coming and going..Who will come and who will go form the station of love..But friends never leave the station..that I need..

[chuck909909]

a

[private beaches]

We have talked briefly once or twice about past loves, but it didnt really accomplish anything. So, I dont really see the point in doing it. I still consider several past lovers (before married) to be friends, but just friends and wouldnt mind seeing them again.

[yaser]

We have talked briefly once or twice about past loves, but it didnt really accomplish anything. So, I dont really see the point in doing it. I still consider several past lovers (before married) to be friends, but just friends and wouldnt mind seeing them again.
Will you add more to the lsit or stopped it ;) Pivate Beaches?Add add... :lf

[JackofTrades103]

we have talked about our exs, but she doesn't know one of my exs looked me up and were talking. long distance for now thank god.

[private beaches]

Will you add more to the lsit or stopped it ;) Pivate Beaches?Add add... :lf


You know Yaser, I dont give my heart away to just anyone, even for just the sex- gonna have get to know ya a little better and we'll see. But I'll gladly share my hugs w/ you anytime.:knuddel:

[Lacey]

I'm still friends with my past lovers, don't have many but still see them around town.My number one lover is no longer with us,but if he were, it would be trouble, he was my weakness.

[Affect]

Past is the past and should stay with your inside voice - at least mine.

[mypoorbrain73]

I would never dream of talking about them with her, she is extremely attached to me, and I was a horrible boyfriend when I was dating my wife. If I even mentioned one it would crush her. It is an extremely hard process for me to get her to just accept some of my female friends because of this. Plus I don't think she actually knows how many people I have been with and wouldn't want to freak her out. Other than that I have only had 3 other lovers that I would be curious about what they are doing and the what if's. I do talk with one occasionally via email to this day. But no regrets, they all played their part in getting me to my dream girl.

[Wil]

I was in Palm Coast, Fla this past October on business...watching the news and there she was...hadn't laid eyes on her in 25 years...she was unmistakable...same eyes, hair, shape...god that took me back...I want to pick up the phone and talk to her...let it go instead...

[rizz]

still email one..but thats it..ex is usualy an ex for a reason

[Iwantutowantme]

the subject of ex.s comes up once in a while..........we have no problem with that because we both know that they will always be exes............. wouldnt mind finding another one though lol

[Sylar]

I've lost contact with all of my past lovers, except my ex-wife, and GOD do I wish I could lose contact with that bit.....

[PunkyBob]

Since she knows a couple of my exes...it gets a little dicey sometimes...thinks I might be re-attracted to them or something...which will not happen. They're exes for a reason. She seems to get defensive when the subject comes up...am I reading this right? We've talked about her past lovers (I have more by far) and it doesn't bother me at all...like I expected her to come to our bed as a virgin or whatever...

[ksue7274]

Hubby and I have talked about exes. I actually find alot of the stories funny. We wouldn't be who we are without being with other people. The past is the past and does not make me jealous at all. As the saying goes...they are exes for a reason.

[rizz]

wife way too jealous to talk about exes..flipped out when one called the house out of the blue

[almost40soccermom]

Well my husband always grills me on my past and wants all the details.

[Dmy]

as for lovers...never had many but ran into one the other day since about 18 years go last seeing her.......Oh the feelings that came back. Was weird at first ...but the more we talked, I think we both knew we had a good time in that one time fling!

[Mer-man]

Hubby and I have talked about exes. I actually find alot of the stories funny. We wouldn't be who we are without being with other people. The past is the past and does not make me jealous at all. As the saying goes...they are exes for a reason.
I kind of agree with this, but I find the concept of exes being exes easier in theory than practice. I love my wife and don't want to change her. But I do find I think about exes maybe more than I should. From the posts, it appears I'm not alone in having one particular "ex" that could raise more than an eyebrow if she appeared back on the scene.

Strangely my wife is more concerned about someone who nothing happened with but nearly did who has just got back in touch, after 10 years, via facebook.

We are who we are because of who we have known and exes are exes for a reason. Not always easy to remember when you bump into your partners "ex" in town and there is that kind of uneasiness that says there is unfinished business.

I reckon it's best to keep on flirting and quash that green eyed monster.:whee:

[Sunfiresix]

i have only had two previous lovers one was the ex(she turned out to be DIB) the other was a woman I met between marriages all she had going for her was her looks, body and great sex, then I met present wife who had actual qualities.

[chuck909909]

I kind of agree with this, but I find the concept of exes being exes easier in theory than practice. I love my wife and don't want to change her. But I do find I think about exes maybe more than I should. From the posts, it appears I'm not alone in having one particular "ex" that could raise more than an eyebrow if she appeared back on the scene.

Strangely my wife is more concerned about someone who nothing happened with but nearly did who has just got back in touch, after 10 years, via facebook.

We are who we are because of who we have known and exes are exes for a reason. Not always easy to remember when you bump into your partners "ex" in town and there is that kind of uneasiness that says there is unfinished business.

I reckon it's best to keep on flirting and quash that green eyed monster.:whee:I like what you said

[Atrebla Rose]

a lady never tells, just relives the wonderful memories!

[Mer-man]

a lady never tells, just relives the wonderful memories!
My wife relives the wonderful memories BY telling :sex

[Atrebla Rose]

My wife relives the wonderful memories BY telling :sex

they are your memories I hope????

[Mer-man]

they are your memories I hope????
That my dear is the problem :)

[Atrebla Rose]

awwww, that just isnt fair,,,,you need a lady for sure!

[Mer-man]

awwww, that just isnt fair,,,,you need a lady for sure!

I do believe you're right. Time for change ;)

[Atrebla Rose]

a:hug: for you

[oneqt]

NO! we do not talk about them....wow we are trying to avoid WW3!


I do however, think about them and wonder. That has got to be a natural thing to do. No regrets thu, a decision made is done and in the past. Also, if the timing was not right then it was not ment to be.

mmmmmm, wait a minute.... what if the timing is right NOW!

Where is the phone book!

[Mer-man]

a:hug: for you
Thank you Rose, you made my day :knuddel:

[Sneaky]

Better to live in the moment and enjoy each other.

[bigrred30]

well there is one ex I think about, but only recently because we started talking on the net. I don't dare talk about her with the wife. I am going to run into the ex in a month when I go home to see my family without the wife.

[Big O]

I just got an email yesterday from my old girlfriend that I dated after my ex and divorced. She told me that it was fifteen years ago that we had our first date. Boy do I feel old.......

[inquisitive]

never had a past love serious enough to talk about with my spouse. So, nope to all your q's.

[flake68]

I think there is always "one person" we all think about; about all the possibilities.

For me, there is a girl who I dated for sometime before my other girlfriend at the time (AKA, now my wife) informed me I was going to be a DAD. I find myself thinking of her often, wondering what she is doing now and how her life turned out (that the time we were very close, especially sexually).

[niceones]

We don't talk about it. I definately think about that one that I just can't forget, he contacted me a few weeks ago out of the blue...makes you wonder but definately wouldn't go there...

[Vampireskiss]

l've never seen any of mine again...but l'd like to just to ask them what if...and to see how they have changed over time.

[Hotliz]

we both talk about past boyfriends and girlfriends. occasionally we will see somebody from the past. i like knowing what went on in the past life.

[jmsmith12345]

Do you ever talk about them with your partner?

The subject only came up once in our marriage, and a very good friend of mine advised her to not probe too deeply into my sexual history. Being the intelligent woman she is, she listened.

Do you ever see any of them and wonder what it would be like if you stayed together?

I have seen a few of them from time to time, but I only really wonder about one, but since that was/is/and will never be an option, that thought is just fleeting.

[Krystal]

My husband was my first.....therefore I can't tell him about any I've had since. :ok

[midnightcallerman]

I often wonder about my ex-fiance a lot. Our sex life was exceptionally hot and there were a lot more roads to be traveled with her than my wife. I only bring up my ex with my wife if the situation warrants and that is very rarely. She never had anyone, well of any substance, before me so it something I don't really consider for her.

[Luna]

I do not discuss any boyfriends with my hubby, even if they were from grade school. Maybe he wouldn't be as bad now but he used to have a jealous nature. I have kept in touch with one old b.f. we still email and have met for lunch. Totally platonic.. REALLY.

I would keep in touch with more of them if it was easier. I do wonder how some of them are, I can be a bit melancholy by nature and I love to reminisce.

[onceamarine]

I actually found one on facebook this morning. Just seeing her picture brought back a flood of memories. I had to send her a message, but no reply yet.

[gatorgal]

Do you ever talk about them with your partner? Do you ever see any of them and wonder what it would be like if you stayed together?


as a matter of fact... I saw one last night... I dont wonder what it would be like.. because.. Im glad it didnt work out.. I wouldnt have the great guy that I have now!!.. Just proved to myself how much I do love em!!

[gina99]

Some things are better left unsaid and that might be one of them.

[pointofnoreturn]

Do not play the should a could a would a game....

[countrygent07]

Nope - I leave them in the past

[yaser]

Thye were all nice people...But our roads separated because it must have been so..I direct my attention the new lovers..But remember them with good memories only..

[stellabelle]

My husband knows about all my former loves. I even told him about the summer I sewed my oats. I was 33. It was the summer before we met. His response? "Good for you!"

I also keep in contact with one of my first boyfriends from high school. We've actually met on more than one occassion with our spouses. They are great friends.

[Guitar Strummer]

Yup. done it. nothing good ever cam of it. she refers to most of my past loves in terms I dare not use. I am not nearly as judgmental. Live and let live.

[fever]

I've never kept them secret, and if asked I will share...but it's not my priority to share.

[yaser]

I've never kept them secret, and if asked I will share...but it's not my priority to share.

What about being shared,Fever?:sng

[NotTooGirly]

Still in touch with one, he is a good friend...hubby knows about him but wouldn't be happy to know the whole story. Hell, he doesn't like the fact that I was married before. :sg

[92115guy]

I've moved around too much and too far away too have kept up with any old flames. I'm pretty much a "the past is the past and the present is the present" kind of guy and all my old lovers are my past.

james

[FizProf]

My wife is convinced that every one of my ex's is a lesbian...to which there is actual anecdotal evidence...but the generalization is a bit far-fetched. I never see any of them...They all live far away...

[tallguy32]

My past lovers are percieved as huge threats to my wife. If she even knows of them she attacks them verbally in our conversations. Tries to break them down in my head as ugly or undesireable. She only makes herself look bad.

[Sparklineyez]

He know about mine, I know about his. We don't normally talk about them, but if the subject comes up, neither one of us is threatened. They are a LONG time ago. I do not wonder about anything. They are in the past, where they belong.

[Catman354]

She knows about all of my past flames, once one of them called my house out of the blue from the other side of the country, how insane is that!!! I told the girl to get a life, I know it was mean, but marriage is a difficult enough proposal.

[MIGHTY]

He knows about most of my past relationships. I usually use them as examples as to why I don't like, or like to do, certain things now. Just so happens most of them were jackasses.

[Daisymay75]

I have recently been in contact with the lover ( boyfriend ) I had before I met my husband - the spark is very much there and I find myself thinking about him far more than I should. He wasn't the right man for me then and isn't now so why do I have this almost obsession with him. We have met up a few times and the result is I feel really guilty but want to see him again at the same time. My husband knows him and thinks we have only been in contact by phone. This guy is really not worth perhaps ruining my marriage over....why do I act this way?

[Hal_1]

I used to like hearing about ex flames. It was like foreplay and a bit of a turn on, but lately in the situation my marriage is in I can't stand the thought of others with her.
Daisymay75, I have kept in touch with an old gf and the more we talk the more the spark is there. I don't know why I would do this either, perhaps I think the grass is greener or wonder about the what could have happened.
That should bring a double standard remark!

[PunkyBob]

NO. God no! Please! Why do you think I walk around with the groucho nose and glasses????

[MrHyde]

Most of my relationships are real passionate...so usually don't end on great terms..thin line between love and hate...I probably bring them up too much...working on that.

[lilolekimba67(f)]

I think about a few and wonder what if all the time

[Domus]

Come on Back...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4LWV_2DV-ss&feature=related

[hrdbody]

talked about them....Big mistake. Won't do that again.

[Ally]

I don't have a problem talking about them with hubby. We haven't talked about them in a long time though. Early on in our relationship we talked about them. Although it may be hard to hear, I like to listen because it's a way to learn about the person you are dating.

[softrosepetal]

We never discussed things like that. I find myself thinking of a few these days and wishing I had just one more night with them. lol Not going to happen though

[flagovertx]

We do not talk about past lovers. Not out to compare them with the past.

[Nick182]

We use to talk about them... but we've exhausted that conversation.

[OnceAKing]

I have shared about them before and experience has told me that it often comes back to bite me in the ass somewhere some time. So generally speaking, I just can't remember. lol

[vicarious]

I don't talk about them with my wife, but I fantasize what my life would be like now if I made different choices. Where I'd be if I'm not in the misery I'm in now. Would I be miserable with X girlfriend? Maybe, but X is hotter and the sex was better...shit like that.