Hello from a lonely male in Alberta, Canada

[boogyspy]

Hi Everyone!

Although I suspect that there is a male majority here, I’m hoping to find a unique female for friendship… someone who is caged and lonely like me.

I have been married for almost 18 years. I know convicts who receive parole way sooner for good behavior. It’s not like I don’t love my wife. The truth is “I miss myself”. I used to be someone much different. Is there anyone else out there who has had to change their personality to make their spouses happy? (“happy” means she stops complaining). Maybe I don’t even know who I am anymore.

I’m good to my wife. I have provided her (and her now grown daughter) all the necessities required over the years. And, she in return has provided me what she feels she has to. The problem is… I don’t always like what I get (the same thing over and over again is really not appealing). I also suspect she is slowly morphing into her parents and I hate her parents.

I only knew my wife for 2 weeks before we got married. Not a very exciting story but we ended up eloping for a few stupid reasons. Over the years we have decided that it was probably the best way we could have done it. I have a personal suspicion that she went along with my stupid idea because at the time, she was 24 and had more mileage in her bedroom than most part time prostitutes, and a “white wedding” was probably not appropriate. I suspect that if I would have found that out prior to “the event”, it might not have happened. I’ve had to live with that knowledge for a long time gnawing at me.

I in turn did not have many bed partners prior to getter married at the age of 28. I did however make the same mistake 3 times before my wife. That mistake was getting involved with women who not only were older than me; they also needed psychiatric assessment more than they needed another relationship. These relationships did nothing for my psyche. I somehow feel that I missed my youth because of this. It’s strange... I was a lonely child, I was a lonely teenager, and now I’m a lonely adult. How pathetic.

One thing I know for sure is that the world does not treat men and women equally. For example, the fattest and ugliest woman in the world can put on some makeup and go out and get “picked up” on a Saturday night. Men don’t seem to have the same opportunity to be appreciated. The average male doesn’t get the same results. Add 30 lbs extra to most men and their chances of getting any action are zero to none. The lotto would probably give better odds. What I wouldn’t give to be “picked up”, “used” and “discarded” in the morning. I’m sure I’d get over “feeling like a tramp” by 11 AM. It might take a little longer to get the smile off my face though.

I have not had sex with my wife for a few months. Before that, it was over a year (and probably a year before that). This is by MY choice, not hers. I have my reasons. My wife is 40 now and she is still very attractive. She gets “flirted up” by guys all the time. I’m quite proud of that. Years ago I told her that she could have sex with someone else but I get to watch (that topic went over like Hitler’s birthday). However, don’t let any woman ever get close to me or I’ll be tortured, killed and my parts spread in the river. I’m definitely hers and hers alone to belittle, humiliate, and criticize. A pervert like me isn’t safe to let out of the house. I might smile at another woman or even worse (I might talk to one). That would be a horrible crime. Instead, my sex life sucks. It is so freakin’ boring that I don’t want it any more. I asked my wife to dress up in lingerie once. She refused, citing that one of my previous 3 girlfriends did that for me so she won’t do it. I just shut up and pay the bills. You can’t argue with someone who is always right. 18 years is a long time to go without scratching my fetish itch. If a silk stocking was ever to fall out of the sky and land on my head I’d probably explode in a cloud of semen dust and that would be the end of me.

So here I am joining a lonely hearts club on the net that is probably populated mostly by males (some as pathetic as me). I’ll just stand in the back of the crowd like I do in real life and wonder why nobody ever notices me.

Are you out there? Are you the woman I’m seeking? I am seeking someone as trapped as me but needs some excitement. It doesn’t even have to be sexual (did I just say that?). I would like a female partner to role play a game with me. Let me explain…

Have you ever seen the James Bond movie “The Spy Who Loved Me”? Roger Moore and Barbara Bach are secret agents that belong to rival spy agencies. Would you like to exchange coded messages with me? Meet in the back seat of a car for 15 minutes to kiss and hug without being caught? Exchange email with each other and share feelings that you cannot share with your spouse? Image that we both go out for the evening with our spouses to a dinner and show in some place crowded with people. You and your spouse are seated 3 tables away from me and mine. We spend the evening exchanging glances that cause our insides to tingle. We both excuse ourselves to go “freshen up” and secretly meet outside for 5 minutes (as discrete as possible). We could pretend we are spies that work for rival factions and the penalty for being caught is death (or divorce, which ever comes first).

Ok, maybe a stupid fantasy but that’s all I have left to keep me floating above the level of depression in this weird world. Something is missing and I don’t want to be missing it any longer. I would prefer someone who is geographically close to me for obvious reasons but a long distance relationship would be OK too (and probably a lot safer in the long run because I can’t travel too far out of my cage). You don’t have to look like Marilyn Monroe. Attitude is way more important than looks. Friendship is the ultimate prize. To be honest, with my limited experience, I suspect that the better looking the woman is on the outside, the uglier she is on the inside.

So there! I’ve introduce myself to y’all. Thank God for the Internet and the opportunity to spill one’s guts out anonymously in front of the whole world. With my luck, it won’t make a difference anyway because according to the Mayan Calendar, the world will end on December 21, 2012.

Until then, keep on flirting!

Yours Truly,

Lonely me

Ps. I really like music, cats and action movies.

[cherokeered]

Welcome to the site....:wa:

[FeIsTy FaV]

Welcome aboard. I think you will fit in just fine :)

[redcat]

Hi spy. WOW!! That is a great introduction and I must admit, my mind was reeling with all sorts of responses as I read it. Sounds as if you have a lot to get off your chest and a good sense of humor to share those thoughts.

Take a deep breath, sit well back and enjoy the ride. It can be a great one!! I hope you enjoy yourself here and find someone to share your thoughts and feelings, and dreams with.

[niceones]

Welcome to M&F. You better buckle up your seat belt...it's going to be a wild ride. There are many wonderful ladies here to bring a breath of fresh air into your sails. Have fun!

OHHHHH CANADA!!!

[Dragon_lady]

Welcome and Enjoy. You'll find something here, never sure what though lol

[Sensual Woman]

Welcome to the site!

[Curiousoneonly]

Hello, boogyspy. Welcome to M & F. I hope you find what it is your looking for. :)

[fly]

Hi Everyone!

Although I suspect that there is a male majority here, I’m hoping to find a unique female for friendship… someone who is caged and lonely like me.

I have been married for almost 18 years. I know convicts who receive parole way sooner for good behavior. It’s not like I don’t love my wife. The truth is “I miss myself”. I used to be someone much different. Is there anyone else out there who has had to change their personality to make their spouses happy? (“happy” means she stops complaining). Maybe I don’t even know who I am anymore.

I’m good to my wife. I have provided her (and her now grown daughter) all the necessities required over the years. And, she in return has provided me what she feels she has to. The problem is… I don’t always like what I get (the same thing over and over again is really not appealing). I also suspect she is slowly morphing into her parents and I hate her parents.

I only knew my wife for 2 weeks before we got married. Not a very exciting story but we ended up eloping for a few stupid reasons. Over the years we have decided that it was probably the best way we could have done it. I have a personal suspicion that she went along with my stupid idea because at the time, she was 24 and had more mileage in her bedroom than most part time prostitutes, and a “white wedding” was probably not appropriate. I suspect that if I would have found that out prior to “the event”, it might not have happened. I’ve had to live with that knowledge for a long time gnawing at me.

I in turn did not have many bed partners prior to getter married at the age of 28. I did however make the same mistake 3 times before my wife. That mistake was getting involved with women who not only were older than me; they also needed psychiatric assessment more than they needed another relationship. These relationships did nothing for my psyche. I somehow feel that I missed my youth because of this. It’s strange... I was a lonely child, I was a lonely teenager, and now I’m a lonely adult. How pathetic.

One thing I know for sure is that the world does not treat men and women equally. For example, the fattest and ugliest woman in the world can put on some makeup and go out and get “picked up” on a Saturday night. Men don’t seem to have the same opportunity to be appreciated. The average male doesn’t get the same results. Add 30 lbs extra to most men and their chances of getting any action are zero to none. The lotto would probably give better odds. What I wouldn’t give to be “picked up”, “used” and “discarded” in the morning. I’m sure I’d get over “feeling like a tramp” by 11 AM. It might take a little longer to get the smile off my face though.

I have not had sex with my wife for a few months. Before that, it was over a year (and probably a year before that). This is by MY choice, not hers. I have my reasons. My wife is 40 now and she is still very attractive. She gets “flirted up” by guys all the time. I’m quite proud of that. Years ago I told her that she could have sex with someone else but I get to watch (that topic went over like Hitler’s birthday). However, don’t let any woman ever get close to me or I’ll be tortured, killed and my parts spread in the river. I’m definitely hers and hers alone to belittle, humiliate, and criticize. A pervert like me isn’t safe to let out of the house. I might smile at another woman or even worse (I might talk to one). That would be a horrible crime. Instead, my sex life sucks. It is so freakin’ boring that I don’t want it any more. I asked my wife to dress up in lingerie once. She refused, citing that one of my previous 3 girlfriends did that for me so she won’t do it. I just shut up and pay the bills. You can’t argue with someone who is always right. 18 years is a long time to go without scratching my fetish itch. If a silk stocking was ever to fall out of the sky and land on my head I’d probably explode in a cloud of semen dust and that would be the end of me.

So here I am joining a lonely hearts club on the net that is probably populated mostly by males (some as pathetic as me). I’ll just stand in the back of the crowd like I do in real life and wonder why nobody ever notices me.

Are you out there? Are you the woman I’m seeking? I am seeking someone as trapped as me but needs some excitement. It doesn’t even have to be sexual (did I just say that?). I would like a female partner to role play a game with me. Let me explain…

Have you ever seen the James Bond movie “The Spy Who Loved Me”? Roger Moore and Barbara Bach are secret agents that belong to rival spy agencies. Would you like to exchange coded messages with me? Meet in the back seat of a car for 15 minutes to kiss and hug without being caught? Exchange email with each other and share feelings that you cannot share with your spouse? Image that we both go out for the evening with our spouses to a dinner and show in some place crowded with people. You and your spouse are seated 3 tables away from me and mine. We spend the evening exchanging glances that cause our insides to tingle. We both excuse ourselves to go “freshen up” and secretly meet outside for 5 minutes (as discrete as possible). We could pretend we are spies that work for rival factions and the penalty for being caught is death (or divorce, which ever comes first).

Ok, maybe a stupid fantasy but that’s all I have left to keep me floating above the level of depression in this weird world. Something is missing and I don’t want to be missing it any longer. I would prefer someone who is geographically close to me for obvious reasons but a long distance relationship would be OK too (and probably a lot safer in the long run because I can’t travel too far out of my cage). You don’t have to look like Marilyn Monroe. Attitude is way more important than looks. Friendship is the ultimate prize. To be honest, with my limited experience, I suspect that the better looking the woman is on the outside, the uglier she is on the inside.

So there! I’ve introduce myself to y’all. Thank God for the Internet and the opportunity to spill one’s guts out anonymously in front of the whole world. With my luck, it won’t make a difference anyway because according to the Mayan Calendar, the world will end on December 21, 2012.

Until then, keep on flirting!

Yours Truly,

Lonely me

Ps. I really like music, cats and action movies.

First of all WELCOME......
i think you stumbled into the right place and I have NO doubt that you will find what you are looking for here.
but after reading that I just have to ask...........
if she makes you feel like that. WHY DO YOU STAY?
I mean a lot of people stay for the kids.....
or becuase they truly love their spouse.
or because it's "comortable"
but....honestly?
I can't figure out why you would stay with someone
you obviously can't stand
and who obviously treats you very badly.
why not just leave and
find someone you CAN truly love and who
will return that love?

[MarriedQt]

Welcome fellow Albertan!!!! Very touching introduction!! I hope to get to know you more.

[boogyspy]

if she makes you feel like that. WHY DO YOU STAY?


Well… there are many ways to answer that. My initial thought was “I don’t know”. But after thinking about it for some time I suppose I stay for a few reasons. One of them is that when we eloped, “everyone” said that it wouldn’t last. I like proving people wrong. I also stay to show my integrity. I realize that may sound weird because I’m seeking a mistress but my needs are (finally) starting to manifest within me. If I can fill her needs as well as mine, did I not succeed on both fronts? There are other reasons but I won’t share them yet. I’m still embarrassed about spilling my guts in public on the net.

Life is short.

I’m bored.

For a long time I've really wondered if there is someone out there like me (but female).

Thanks for asking, I enjoy answering questions.

[angelis]

Wow, that's quite an introduction!!
I hope this site helps you find what you are looking for, or at least provide a sounding board and a few friends to share your troubles with!!
Good luck!! :ok

[fly]

Well… there are many ways to answer that. My initial thought was “I don’t know”. But after thinking about it for some time I suppose I stay for a few reasons. One of them is that when we eloped, “everyone” said that it wouldn’t last. I like proving people wrong. I also stay to show my integrity. I realize that may sound weird because I’m seeking a mistress but my needs are (finally) starting to manifest within me. If I can fill her needs as well as mine, did I not succeed on both fronts? There are other reasons but I won’t share them yet. I’m still embarrassed about spilling my guts in public on the net.

Life is short.

I’m bored.

For a long time I've really wondered if there is someone out there like me (but female).

Thanks for asking, I enjoy answering questions.


LMAO..........ok THAT is the STUPEDIST reason of ALL for staying.
I know.........that's ONE of the many reasons I am still married 16 years later. LOL
You need to do what's best for YOU.
what OTHER people think really doesn't matter in the long run.
When you're 99 and looking back on your life I hardly think you'll give a flip if Aunt Jemimma was proud of you for "sticking it out".

[lilolekimba67(f)]

hi & Welcome to the site

[stellabelle]

Welcome darlin! Nice to meet you!

[dixiechiknga]

Welcome to the site

[dashslow]

welcome bro. Hope you work it out. Good Luck

[Atrebla Rose]

Hi Everyone!

Although I suspect that there is a male majority here, I’m hoping to find a unique female for friendship… someone who is caged and lonely like me.

I have been married for almost 18 years. I know convicts who receive parole way sooner for good behavior. It’s not like I don’t love my wife. The truth is “I miss myself”. I used to be someone much different. Is there anyone else out there who has had to change their personality to make their spouses happy? (“happy” means she stops complaining). Maybe I don’t even know who I am anymore.

I’m good to my wife. I have provided her (and her now grown daughter) all the necessities required over the years. And, she in return has provided me what she feels she has to. The problem is… I don’t always like what I get (the same thing over and over again is really not appealing). I also suspect she is slowly morphing into her parents and I hate her parents.

I only knew my wife for 2 weeks before we got married. Not a very exciting story but we ended up eloping for a few stupid reasons. Over the years we have decided that it was probably the best way we could have done it. I have a personal suspicion that she went along with my stupid idea because at the time, she was 24 and had more mileage in her bedroom than most part time prostitutes, and a “white wedding” was probably not appropriate. I suspect that if I would have found that out prior to “the event”, it might not have happened. I’ve had to live with that knowledge for a long time gnawing at me.

I in turn did not have many bed partners prior to getter married at the age of 28. I did however make the same mistake 3 times before my wife. That mistake was getting involved with women who not only were older than me; they also needed psychiatric assessment more than they needed another relationship. These relationships did nothing for my psyche. I somehow feel that I missed my youth because of this. It’s strange... I was a lonely child, I was a lonely teenager, and now I’m a lonely adult. How pathetic.

One thing I know for sure is that the world does not treat men and women equally. For example, the fattest and ugliest woman in the world can put on some makeup and go out and get “picked up” on a Saturday night. Men don’t seem to have the same opportunity to be appreciated. The average male doesn’t get the same results. Add 30 lbs extra to most men and their chances of getting any action are zero to none. The lotto would probably give better odds. What I wouldn’t give to be “picked up”, “used” and “discarded” in the morning. I’m sure I’d get over “feeling like a tramp” by 11 AM. It might take a little longer to get the smile off my face though.

I have not had sex with my wife for a few months. Before that, it was over a year (and probably a year before that). This is by MY choice, not hers. I have my reasons. My wife is 40 now and she is still very attractive. She gets “flirted up” by guys all the time. I’m quite proud of that. Years ago I told her that she could have sex with someone else but I get to watch (that topic went over like Hitler’s birthday). However, don’t let any woman ever get close to me or I’ll be tortured, killed and my parts spread in the river. I’m definitely hers and hers alone to belittle, humiliate, and criticize. A pervert like me isn’t safe to let out of the house. I might smile at another woman or even worse (I might talk to one). That would be a horrible crime. Instead, my sex life sucks. It is so freakin’ boring that I don’t want it any more. I asked my wife to dress up in lingerie once. She refused, citing that one of my previous 3 girlfriends did that for me so she won’t do it. I just shut up and pay the bills. You can’t argue with someone who is always right. 18 years is a long time to go without scratching my fetish itch. If a silk stocking was ever to fall out of the sky and land on my head I’d probably explode in a cloud of semen dust and that would be the end of me.

So here I am joining a lonely hearts club on the net that is probably populated mostly by males (some as pathetic as me). I’ll just stand in the back of the crowd like I do in real life and wonder why nobody ever notices me.

Are you out there? Are you the woman I’m seeking? I am seeking someone as trapped as me but needs some excitement. It doesn’t even have to be sexual (did I just say that?). I would like a female partner to role play a game with me. Let me explain…

Have you ever seen the James Bond movie “The Spy Who Loved Me”? Roger Moore and Barbara Bach are secret agents that belong to rival spy agencies. Would you like to exchange coded messages with me? Meet in the back seat of a car for 15 minutes to kiss and hug without being caught? Exchange email with each other and share feelings that you cannot share with your spouse? Image that we both go out for the evening with our spouses to a dinner and show in some place crowded with people. You and your spouse are seated 3 tables away from me and mine. We spend the evening exchanging glances that cause our insides to tingle. We both excuse ourselves to go “freshen up” and secretly meet outside for 5 minutes (as discrete as possible). We could pretend we are spies that work for rival factions and the penalty for being caught is death (or divorce, which ever comes first).

Ok, maybe a stupid fantasy but that’s all I have left to keep me floating above the level of depression in this weird world. Something is missing and I don’t want to be missing it any longer. I would prefer someone who is geographically close to me for obvious reasons but a long distance relationship would be OK too (and probably a lot safer in the long run because I can’t travel too far out of my cage). You don’t have to look like Marilyn Monroe. Attitude is way more important than looks. Friendship is the ultimate prize. To be honest, with my limited experience, I suspect that the better looking the woman is on the outside, the uglier she is on the inside.

So there! I’ve introduce myself to y’all. Thank God for the Internet and the opportunity to spill one’s guts out anonymously in front of the whole world. With my luck, it won’t make a difference anyway because according to the Mayan Calendar, the world will end on December 21, 2012.

Until then, keep on flirting!

Yours Truly,

Lonely me

Ps. I really like music, cats and action movies.


Hey Lonely male from Alberta,,,,nice to see there are other lonely people in our great province!!! I think you will find this place a blast if you settle in and enjoy!!!! let me know if you need help navigating, always great to see a fellow Albertian here!!!

[JonJon62]

Nice to meet you. Not a female, but we always welcome intelligent and friendly people.
I came here for many of the same reasons you have listed. I've found many friends and a wonderful community here which I would be very sorry to lose. I have also regained a sense of myself.

So, kick back, relax, and have fun. Post to threads that interest you, and you will soon start experiencing what a wonderful place this is.

[Dsparate Hswife]

Welcome to the site!
:3welcome:

[leighm]

Welcome. You'd be surprised just how many have stories very similar to yours. I'm sure you will find something here!!

[boogyspy]

I would really like to thank everyone. I am overwhelmed with the welcomes and the feeling of team spirit on this site. You people are awesome!

It’s really difficult for me to log on here. I totally have to sneak around to venture into this realm. But, that’s part of the game I have to make it. Somebody has to make life fun for me and I am willing to take on that responsibility.

I have a little window of opportunity this morning. She’s “puking her guts out” this morning (bwahahaha) because she must have drank too much while dissin’ me last night. I delivered her a ginger-ale to her bedroom this morning (she moved into her own bedroom a few years ago) and snuck off to get some time on here. I don’t have much time even now because she will have to get up and feed the animals soon (horses, chickens, etc.). She wanted a hobby farm so I bought her one on the condition that she does most of the work while I struggle to keep up with all the bills. The arrangement works out really good most of the time.

This site really gives me a glimmer of hope. Maybe I don’t have to suffer in silence forever.

Thanks for understanding if suddenly one of my posts falls a little short. I’ve had to hit the “abort button” (logout real fast and clear my Internet cache) in order to avoid being caught with my mind in cyberspace.

This site is the most fun I’ve had in years (omG that sounds horrible!)

[GraphicsGuy]

Welcome

[Momofthree]

Wow...what a great post.

Somehow, I can totally relate. Although married for a lot less time, I too have put on the happy face, for far too long.

I love me kids, one of which is actually a product of my marriage, the other two were concieved in love before we were married, just wonder when that time was.

Twelve years ago, was a long time ago....we were not in a "commited" relationship until 6 years ago, and there were lots of crazy, hard, happy, and frustrating times.

I would NEVER do it again, I would have waited until the man that I have loved, within me, was available again, which he is now, and I now, am not....Lol. Funny how that works.

Glad to see your on this site...a fellow Albertan...just hope your not my "hockey rival"....lol

Chat soon, MOT

[whtwmnlvr]

Hi, welcome to the site, have some fun.

[Leyla]

Holy crap!! I hope I never feel that way about my dh, thats pretty sad.....


welcome to the board, maybe you will find what you are looking for here.....

[MiSt09]

Welcome! :smdance: