Guilt

[florida1]

Does anyone every feel guilty about visiting this even though motives are for friendship.

[FeIsTy FaV]

No way....... I love this joint.......

[cherokeered]

no...I feel guilty about lots of other things though...this site is not one of them

[siv7]

No, I would never feel giulty doing something that makes me happy and is so much fun..Why do you feel guilty???

[sexytiger]

SexyTiger here... not Guilty Tiger.... This is a fun place.. .expecially to let off the steam

[pagirl]

Nope.. no guilt here... lots of fun...

[Midwest girl]

I dont do anything here to feel guilty about...here for friends...

[stellabelle]

No guilt! You only live once, might as well enjoy it!

[FeIsTy FaV]

Does this mean we are all going to hell?

[Singeon]

Does this mean we are all going to hell?

What a great idea for a roadtrip!...and not a trace of guilt either

[FeIsTy FaV]

What a great idea for a roadtrip!...and not a trace of guilt either

Ha! I like your style :)

[Sensual Woman]

Nope...considering what a bad marriage I have, it is my refuge

[sudsy552000]

nope agree with sensual it is a refuge

[fever]

No guilt on my part...

[biker-69s]

None here....and I'm not really sure what my motives are ...:satan:

[stellabelle]

Does this mean we are all going to hell?

I'm good with that!

[fever]

I'm good with that!

At least we'll be in the very best of company!

[FeIsTy FaV]

You think they will have a MnF room?

[Eagleton]

No Guilt no Glory...everyone here loves this special place

[fever]

You think they will have a MnF room?


Oooooo...now THAT could be fun!!

[FeIsTy FaV]

can you imagine :)

[Loves2Flirt]

None

[fever]

Yes!!! Think hell is all being together with no flirting allowed??

[florida1]

thanks, don't know what to think

[TIGUY]

You are new here Fl...give it some time and then re-read your thread...it'll make you smile. Welcome aboard!!

Does anyone every feel guilty about visiting this even though motives are for friendship.

[Cotties]

maybe you're not doing it right:scNo guilt!

[desertbear7]

no. can't feel guilty for wanting to make new friends and share ideas , thoughts, and experiences.

[PEBBLIEPOO]

nope i cant becouse all i have done is make new friends and having a good time

[dixiechiknga]

Nope not at all

[Brink]

Well, yes, at first! I wandered in here not knowing what to think or feel; I didn’t have any clue why I was drawn here, didn’t want to find anything as such...and felt guilty that I was even socialising without my wife - I’ve been accused of sheltering behind my wife before! Indeed, I recall saying that this was the boldest thing I’d ever done before! It wasn’t just guilt I had, I felt a weakness, and I felt like I stuck out here like a sore thumb. However, as time went on, I found this was mostly in my head. Being here raised more questions than it solved. It was a battle being honest with others and myself; it both lowered and raised my self-esteem at the same time, but I feel fine now if I overexpose myself.

So, while others find this easy and natural, I continue to drag myself through it - to a degree! That’s just the person I am...but I'm sure I was much more uptight when I joined! It was my wife who actually made me feel better, she reassured me that she really wasn’t that threatened, I could talk about it with her, and she thought it would be a good chance for time apart - a break from listening to me! She has her own forums and interests and has never felt awkward if they don’t involve me. We have rules about Internet usage, and we still ensure we get quality time together...so, no, guilt doesn’t even come into it now!

Welcome to the forum...and don't worry if you have your own feelings!

[Midwest girl]

I talk with my husband about a lot of my friends here. It helps me because there is so much more to this site than just the flirting. Things discussed here are great conversation starters for here at home, and who said communication in a marriage is a bad thing???

[Ally]

My husband just doesn't understand. He thinks this site is full of pervs that just want one thing. He can't understand why I would want to share anything with a bunch of strangers. He doesn't understand that I can come here and NOT flirt at all. Sometimes I just read.....and read....and read. I have tried staying away from the site to make him happy....but I miss my friends too much. He doesn't think they are true friends. I disagree.

So do I feel guilty? Yes because I know I am doing something he really doesn't like. But I don't feel guilty because of any of my actions. It's all very innocent and my heart is with him. I'm not in love with anyone here....I just have some good friends here that I like to have fun with.

[KindheartedWoman]

Absolutely. I feel guilty even when I have told hubby about what happens here. I think it's a character trait of mine that doesn't die easily.

[Curiousoneonly]

Hi, Florida1.

I can say that I do not feel guilty because I have done nothing to feel guilty about. I guess it would depend on one's motives if they would feel guilt or remorseful for that matter.

Anyhow, I hope you are able to find whatever it is you are looking for.

Take care.
C

[WandaRing]

When I was with my husband and came in here I never felt guilt for being here, but I did feel protective of my privacy and didn't not want him to know what I was doing or whom I was speaking with...I also did not want to get into a conflict about being here...so I never told him nor did I leave any evidence around...

[UltimateNaneki]

nope...if I did feel guilty, I would never of come here!

[OICurready4me]

My husband just doesn't understand. He thinks this site is full of pervs that just want one thing. He can't understand why I would want to share anything with a bunch of strangers. He doesn't understand that I can come here and NOT flirt at all. Sometimes I just read.....and read....and read. I have tried staying away from the site to make him happy....but I miss my friends too much. He doesn't think they are true friends. I disagree.

So do I feel guilty? Yes because I know I am doing something he really doesn't like. But I don't feel guilty because of any of my actions. It's all very innocent and my heart is with him. I'm not in love with anyone here....I just have some good friends here that I like to have fun with.
Based on the fact that he knows about this place, whether he understands it or not, plus the fact you are here for friendship, should unburden you from having any guilt. I'm sure there are websites that he probably visits or places he may go that you don't particularly like either and he still does them. It's all harmless fun. Enjoy yourself.

[jmsmith12345]

Nope. Guilt is a useless emotion. If you feel guilty, you probably shouldn't be doing whatever it is your doing. If you are happy and comfortable with whatever it is you are doing...then why would guilt ever be a consideration? So, to me the answer is simple. Do what makes you happy, and leave the guilt for someone else.

[Shawn_N_Sandiego]

I think first I would need a conscience and a soul to feel guilty... then again .. compared to everything else I have done this is really small time on the guilt-o-meter.

[jmsmith12345]

I think first I would need a conscience and a soul to feel guilty... then again .. compared to everything else I have done this is really small time on the guilt-o-meter.

Do we need to start a "confessions" thread for you to absolve your guilt-o-meter just a little?

[magscribe]

Not remotely guilty. I need human contact. It's crucial for me personally and to some extent, professionally.

When I have other emotional outlets, my primary relationships work better.

[OnceAKing]

Who?...me guilty?

[MCat]

I dont do anything here to feel guilty about...here for friends...

Dang...are you having any fun at all? Come on...do something naughty!

Does this mean we are all going to hell?


I'm not going to hell...but I'll make devils food cake for everyone to eat on the way.

[jmsmith12345]

I have already been to Hell. It is a tourist trap on the Cayman Islands...really not worth the walk.

As far as spiritual Hell, that is just some fictional place dreamed up by the religious oligarchies of years past in order to scare those who always feel guilty.

[SunnyD]

No, I don't feel guilty about the website. I really don't think it is so much different from any other social website no matter the name the journey is all what you make it.

[Atrebla Rose]

Yes, yes I feel some guilt,,,,,I am NO longer bangin my head against the wall trying to get something I know is never coming!!! Damn it feels good to finally stop!

[earthgirl]

Nope, no guilt here but i've had some fun nites that would have been otherwise boring and lonely without this group to chat with.

[JayDavis]

Not guilt per say, as much as wishing I was getting my needs met at home.

[redcat]

No guilt here. I think I've run through the gamut of all the other emotions, but no guilt. I think this site may be one of the best things that has happened to me.

[chubbybutcute]

whats there to feel guilty about?...doing something for oursleves that makes us feel good, make some friends, have some fun, maybe even flirt a bit.....definitely nothing to feel guilty about....enjoy!!!

[PABrewpubGuy]

Amen to that CBC! Enough other crap out there to throw down some guilt on us we don't really need, no way any should come from here!! No F-in way!! BEER ME now!!

[skipabeat13]

Guilty?...not in the slightest I have given in to others wants and needs my entire life and it is about time I start taking care of me...and if that means participating in a sight that allows me to meet some really hot and cool people that may or may not lead to deeper more intimate connections then so be it!

I feel better now!

[wondering1]

The moment I start feeling guilty about being on here is the moment I need to leave. I'm just a newbie and already my marriage is better for what I've learned from being here with you all.

[DAISY]

no guilt here sorry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i think im married to this computer now lol!!!!!

[theraven2112]

Um...not feeling it...maybe later, but having a blast here so far...great people I've met so far, and great welcome. Thanks, everyone!

[fourisit]

No..no guilt..my husband new from day one that I was here..nothing to feel guilty for.

[Sofia]

No guilt!

[surfnchat]

I'll only express guilt if I get caught here... :D

[Iowa84]

I did at first, but it's been getting better. I think I felt like I was doing something wrong. I am now guilt free!

[FeIsTy FaV]

Ya know I don't feel guilty because of hubby, but I do worry that it hurts lvr's feelings that I post when he isn't here.

[biker-69s]

I don't feel guilty about being here, after all she caused me to go looking..!
but now I feel guilty because I can't be with the one I want, and have to live apart from her....Does that make sense?

[yaser]

Feel guilty to cause pain to the loved ones sometimes.

[Bamboo]

not at all

[niceones]

Nope, he definately experiences some rewarding effects of my being on the site. He doesn't need to know what is going on in my head as he is experiencing them mind you.:ok

[will30143]

No, I never have felt guilt....must be missing that feeling...I love this place

[Leyla]

Nope, None, Nada...........

[stevelooking]

NOPE not at all.

[tampasince76]

so far no regrets

[dixiechiknga]

Oh hell no !!

[Dipstick51]

Never even thought about it, ummm no

[catmom]

Nope!

[ohiochris]

Nope, no guilt.

[Dragon_lady]

I'm catholic, i think by definition guilt is a way of life to me.

But I've discovered that the more i do something, the more at ease i become and the less guilt i have.

When I joined here, chat was no more something i felt guilty about.

[learman3]

No guilt and no regrets.

[bencanada46]

isnt guilt if you did something bad? what is bad here?

[Atrebla Rose]

isnt guilt if you did something bad? what is bad here?


she is bad, and he is bad, and OH he is really bad,,,and stay away from him and oh yes,,her,,,,,but who is pointing fingers...LOL

:ok

[OC_guy]

I don't feel guilty about being here, after all she caused me to go looking..!
but now I feel guilty because I can't be with the one I want, and have to live apart from her....Does that make sense?
Of course it does.. not an easy problem to solve

[gr8doods]

Yes...I feel guilt..trying to also understand what I feel guilty about..

[discreet2u4u]

You kidding?
Too much fun.
Met someone incredibly special and it is worth it all.
Guilt? Huh uh. Nope. Nix. Notta. Nay. Nein. Ie. Nahhhh. No Way. Hardly. Ain't happening.

[redcat]

she is bad, and he is bad, and OH he is really bad,,,and stay away from him and oh yes,,her,,,,,but who is pointing fingers...LOL

:ok

:lmao

[redcat]

Feel guilty for being HERE?? No way, no how!!!! I haven't done anything to be guilty about.

[pointofnoreturn]

no guilt here. He did not give me the attention I have been asking for . Had to find it somewhere or dissappear into a hole.

[Sneaky]

I wish I could be one of those people that says that I don't feel guilty..but I do.

I DVR'd Oprah today & she interveiwed Elizabeth Edwards, the wife of the former presidential candiate that got busted fooling around and it seems he fathered a child of the "other woman". Seeing another woman in pain...the other side of infidelity...I had pangs of guilt. The thought that my behavior could make another person feel that way...made me feel very guilty. At one point in the interveiw she said, "I think women need to have respect for other women". That's something I believe...that's something I've always said...

We can all jusitify our behavior, and I do..I'm guilty of it...but to see the pain in the face of another that it can cause....that makes me feel guilty.

At the same time, every situation is more complex than it is on the surface, and we are all responsible for our own choices.

[kaycee727(m)]

no reason to feel guilty. I only give if I receive. Looking is not a crime. Accepting more than what it is ..is !

[scoobertina]

I don't feel guilty for being here... I watched Oprah at work today.. and that was a very good show.. I can feel her pain.. maybe if I was still married I would feel guilty.. but I would have to be in another relationship first.. and jm is not falling in line for me just yet..

[kisses]

Guilty? No, maybe just a little.... but only because it feels like I'm hiding something & I'm normally 100% honest. Not because it feels wrong.

[spare_change]

Feel guilty for being HERE?? No way, no how!!!! I haven't done anything to be guilty about.

Want to?

I have an opening on Tuesday at 7 ....

[carnation]

No dont feel guilty nice to have friends i can talk to.

[jetsetter]

sometimes a bit but i shake it off

[PA Loverboy]

Guilt? No
A little paranoia about getting caught, perhaps.....

[tn0949]

nope, damm. I didn't know motives here were only for friendship.:sc

[gdgrlgnbd]

I wish I could be one of those people that says that I don't feel guilty..but I do.

I DVR'd Oprah today & she interveiwed Elizabeth Edwards, the wife of the former presidential candiate that got busted fooling around and it seems he fathered a child of the "other woman". Seeing another woman in pain...the other side of infidelity...I had pangs of guilt. The thought that my behavior could make another person feel that way...made me feel very guilty. At one point in the interveiw she said, "I think women need to have respect for other women". That's something I believe...that's something I've always said...

We can all jusitify our behavior, and I do..I'm guilty of it...but to see the pain in the face of another that it can cause....that makes me feel guilty.

At the same time, every situation is more complex than it is on the surface, and we are all responsible for our own choices.

Oh sure, I feel guilty. I know it would not be approved of, me being here. It is kind of a double edged sword, I would love to tell him about this place, if here were the understanding type. Uh uh, ain't happenin'. So, I come without his knowledge and it truly sucks. On the other hand, if he was a bit more open and understanding, I may have not had the need to come here at all.

Like Sneaky, I always consider the other people involved. I feel bad just talking to men, who seem to adore their wives, but feel unappreciated. I know if they were to get caught talking to other women, their marriage could become a shambles, innocent or not.

[tn0949]

nope, but wife might get upset if she found out!

[Tempest]

I start feeling guilty I just have some really good cyber-sex and the feeling tends to go away.

[jmsmith12345]

If I were ever to start feeling guilty, I would just roll her over and do her doggie style

[leggy4]

If I were ever to start feeling guilty, I would just roll her over and do her doggie style

:lmao:lmao:

[glamourgirl]

The person who tries to live alone will not succeed as a human being.
His heart withers if it does not answer another heart.
His mind shrinks away if he hears only the echoes of his own thoughts and finds no other inspiration.
We all need someone...Some of us the most distant from the one we should be closest to and he/she doesnt see that...
For self preservation we as humans seek out that which we need to survive; food, shelter, companionship.
While physically there may be another person across the table... intellectially/emotionally/sexually/physically, for some reason he/she does not fulfill every need we have. Should we place the responsibility to fulfill every need we have on them?
Some of us are here for conversation, some to feel needed, some for sex, some for a friends or a social life.
Why feel guilty for needing something they can't/are not/dont know how to provide?

[redcat]

Sure....why not? What's one more thing to feel guilty about?

[fever]

I don't really feel guilty about being here...tho there are times, as Sneaky referenced, when I've felt badly for her. My husband makes his choices with some measure of awareness...

[needsomething]

Guilt? No
A little paranoia about getting caught, perhaps.....

Exactly!

[virgochick]

I don't feel guilty at all. Love to come here to chat and meet new people. I love this site.

[FlowerGirl228]

At this point in time, I refuse to feel guilty for doing nothing wrong.

[happygirl101]

No...He doesn't feel guilty for bagging on our marriage so I don't feel the least bit guilty for coming here!!!

[jmsmith12345]

I only feel guilty for denying all the hot women here my man juice when I need to have some alone time

[sexycoco]

how can one feel guilty for wanting to smile a little, wanting to be visible again, for wanting some happiness.

[OGP]

I used to feel guilty about even looking at another woman. That all stopped after wifes 3rd affair. I feel no guilt at all about coming here and making wonderful friends... and meeting one special person in particular!

[UnknownOnPurpose]

A couple people have already said pretty much it....... No guilt... just don't want to get caught.

[Danso]

I used to feel guilty about even looking at another woman. That all stopped after wifes 3rd affair. I feel no guilt at all about coming here and making wonderful friends... and meeting one special person in particular!

Just a thought here. If she's had 3 affairs that you know of, maybe you two should sit down and talk about open marriage. It works for a lot of people but there need to be clear ground rules and both parties need to understand them.

[Sighman23]

I don't feel guilty. If something I did was going to make me feel guilty I probably wouldn't do it. If I do something by my choice, then there is no way I am going to feel guilty about it.

[Seeker1956]

guilt no, relief yes

[november]

I don't feel guilty at all, but I know my husband would not be happy, mostly because of the name

[OGP]

Just a thought here. If she's had 3 affairs that you know of, maybe you two should sit down and talk about open marriage. It works for a lot of people but there need to be clear ground rules and both parties need to understand them.


That's like closing the barn door after the cows are gone. If she had talked about it before hand that would be different, I wouldn't have agreed to it but it would be different.

[glamourgirl]

guilt?????
still no!!!!

but maybe I should get some things done besides waiting for that special guy to show up?????
I may need an intervention.......
Nah!!!!! this is to much fun!

[MSU]

Fun, indeed!!! :)

[mwsummer1]

every sinner has a future......the sinner that is a Christian....God bless you....

[navigater]

Does anyone every feel guilty about visiting this even though motives are for friendship.
Nope not at all

[wan2b]

No, I don't feel guilty. I have fun and enjoy reading the post. Much deep emotions, intellects and all sort of desires for living a life.

[Lookin4Fun1021]

Not at all. I'm new, and have actually read a lot of the postings on the website and I really enjoyed them. Its nice to have a place to go where people always seem happy to see you. Don't get that very much at home...

[3pmac]

Nope, no guilt. I havent done anything to be guilty for..:la

[Rex]

I feel no guilt.

[Singeon]

Guilt?.....pah....thats the individual"s concience battling societies' ingrained values...

never.

[Jada101]

I do feel a bit guilty, because it is secretive coming on here without him knowing. I also know I haven't done anything wrong, but it would still be hard to explain it all to him if he found out.

[hippostar]

i only feel guilty that i am keeping it a secret. I share everything with him, but I just don't know how he would take this.

[NYCSean]

Some things, like Internet diversions, aren't meant to be shared. I don't feel guilty. I haven't had sex with anyone else.

[titlicker]

only when it interferes with me cleaning the house or taking away from another responsibility

[fixitman]

Guilty no, just havin' fun..

[Hunting4fun09]

Only if I didnt come back to the site

[theGardener]

No guilt. I am happy to be here. Thank you all for helping to making this site happen!

[virgochick]

Of all the things to feel guilty about coming here is not one of them.

[The Duke]

Don't feel guilt about being here, still have to keep it secret though.

[katydid2]

Not guilt so much about the site, but the way it tends to take time away from my time with kids. I'm definitely working on balancing these things out.

[CAFlirtlady]

Nothing to feel guilty about as far as I can see. But if you asked my spouse? That's another thing all together. *wink*

[gadzooks]

motives are not only for friendship, though I dont mind if that happens.

[livin42day]

no not at all, i'm more frustrated that i'm not good at figuring out how to use the site or that i'm locked out of areas.

[TheLifeGuard(m)]

no not at all, i'm more frustrated that i'm not good at figuring out how to use the site or that i'm locked out of areas.

You just need to get to 150 posts patty! I'll race you there!

[livin42day]

You just need to get to 150 posts patty! I'll race you there!


and let the race begin...

[TheLifeGuard(m)]

OK you are on! Only 110 left to go ... phew

[FLPhil70]

I think it really depends on what your TRUE motives are and IF you're intentionally keeping your involvement here a secret from your spouse. Hiding something from a spouse often comes with a level of guilt.

[livin42day]

I think it really depends on what your TRUE motives are and IF you're intentionally keeping your involvement here a secret from your spouse. Hiding something from a spouse often comes with a level of guilt.


i totally agree with you

[Fwd40s]

No guilt here