Do you tell people here more than people you see all the time?

[Heaterman]

Why do we tell people in places like this things about ourselves that we would never tell the people we work with or even our friends we see all the time? Is it a sense of security that we don't know you or you will never have to see us? Or is it a case of feeling comfortable with the people you chat with here and places like this. I know we could never say the stuff we say here to anyone we know in real life.

[Sunfiresix]

Yes I do. I can divulge my innermost feelings and know I will not be condemed or hopefully judged(too badly) We have a great group of experts here and I value thier opinions.

[Sandy]

well i have a big mouth, lol so i talk to people but only my real friends know alot more than most, but yes i do say things in here, i don;t tell the outside world.

[G...G]

I feel like the people on this site are my best "online" friends and I am alot more open with them about certain things....

[Zifnab]

to a certain extent the very purpose of the site is to talk to people you don't know, and get to know them while discussing topics that most of your casula aquaintances would never think to mention in a group.
part of the whole sharing is enhanced by the fact that even if you bear your soul, you don't have to look the person in the eye while you do it....
always makes it easier to talk and share things for me!:wa:

[G...G]

Well said Zif

[Zifnab]

Well said Zifthank you! is always nice to be appreciated!:wa:

[G...G]

Your very welcome honey!!

[Zifnab]

Your very welcome honey!!and to what may I be very welcome???:wa:

[flamengo130]

It is easy to open up to the people on this site. You are all great and we enjoy the threads and chat. It's a great venue to discuss things, people actually listen, and the advice is incredible. Guess the answer is...yes. we are more open here than with people we see all the time.

[spjimbo]

I haven't been here long but I think I am more open here because of the anonymity.

[Jy]

I have to agree with what everyone has said so far. I also want to add that many of the common topics on the site aren't ones that come up as much in everyday life. Maybe I'm speaking for myself here, but talk at the playground is more about kindergarten issues rather than oral sex!! On here, it's never inappropriate to discuss otherwise delicate topics; if you want to post on the threesomes thread at 6.30am, you can! And by the same token, if you want to post a new recipe when you've just come home from the bars, you can do that too! Anything goes!

I'm pretty outspoken in real life anyway -gee! what a surprise, eh?- but on here, there's always an appropriate venue for my thoughts. And I like the diversity of the members and vast life experiences that are shared. It's fascinating! Always informative, never a dull moment, and definitely thought-provoking!

[Dre]

I feel the same way, I have met some incredible people here and it has really helped me feel better about myself and life in general just because I can talk freely about things that bother me as well as being able to flirt and joke with people! I feel lucky to have met some people on this site and have met some of the most incredible women in the world!:kk



I feel like the people on this site are my best "online" friends and I am alot more open with them about certain things....

[sweet]

Yes, I do feel a little more open with some of the people I've met on the site. I have gotten to know some really great people and a majority of the time, I feel like I can talk to them about anything and not get judged or laughed at (unless I am actually trying to get a laugh out of them). I do have a couple of friends that I have known for awhile, outside of the site, that I talk to about very personal things. But, wether I have online friends or friends outside of this site that I am close to, the fact is I HAVE FRIENDS. And who doesn't like to have as many friends as they possibly can?

I know I am very thankful to count many of you as some of my dear, treasured friends, and I hope that the friendships I've made here will only continue to grow and become stronger. :) :kk

[cuddles]

I feel the same way, I have met some incredible people here and it has really helped me feel better about myself and life in general just because I can talk freely about things that bother me as well as being able to flirt and joke with people! I feel lucky to have met some people on this site and have met some of the most incredible women in the world!:kk very well said i could not have said it better myself:kk

[Zpanther]

Hmmmmm..... well, I don't think I say things here I wouldn't or don't in a group of people when the subject is appropriate. I enjoy coming here, because I know the general purpose and atmosphere is flirting and having fun. If I'm not in the mood to do that, I usually just don't sign in.

[Eric69]

these are the people i see every day. I have more conversation and contact with people here than any where else. I feel that I have friends here and hope that some feel that way about me too. so yes I open up more here than any where else.

[G...G]

I feel the same way Eric........

[yaser]

Why do we tell people in places like this things about ourselves that we would never tell the people we work with or even our friends we see all the time? Is it a sense of security that we don't know you or you will never have to see us? Or is it a case of feeling comfortable with the people you chat with here and places like this. I know we could never say the stuff we say here to anyone we know in real life.Heaterman,this is an internet cafe where ladies and getlemen come and sit and talk bot only flirt but share all of his or her problems.I have learned many things here and talked in the same way outside.I don't see meysef behaving differently her and outside, because here is also human society and has the same rules.There is anonimity but it doeos not matter for me.I behave as his or her name and I have a personilty in my mind for instance when I see Heaterman.This is a global and international but elite society,unique in itself.Some comes and go but uniqeness continues.I am happy with this side.Here I like to chat with some members but not some members.This is tghe same like in in normal society.New members come if like one them I choose and try to chat or go on with the old ones.I have very good friends here who I love and felt loved by.

[Cotties]

And how are you today Mr Yasar?

I hope all is well

Heaterman,this is an internet cafe where ladies and getlemen come and sit and talk bot only flirt but share all of his or her problems.I have learned many things here and talked in the same way outside.I don't see meysef behaving differently her and outside, because here is also human society and has the same rules.There is anonimity but it doeos not matter for me.I behave as his or her name and I have a personilty in my mind for instance when I see Heaterman.This is a global and international but elite society,unique in itself.Some comes and go but uniqeness continues.I am happy with this side.Here I like to chat with some members but not some members.This is tghe same like in in normal society.New members come if like one them I choose and try to chat or go on with the old ones.I have very good friends here who I love and felt loved by.

[Cotties]

If I spoke to people at work about things we discuss here I would be fired. Like my post yesterday in which I admitted I like to look between womens thighs when they don't close their legs. My close friends at home hear a lot worse things than I would say here. There is a time and a place for different things......

[tess]

Yes

[yaser]

And how are you today Mr Yasar?

I hope all is wellYes,Cotties,Thank you.You?I see you have become the first class flirter.Does you wife know it?

[Norfolkdave]

Im more open on here because I have more friends on here.

[Zifnab]

Im more open on here because I have more friends on here.it is about talking dave, not your pants being undone while you post!
just thought you should know!

[tiger50]

it is about talking dave, not your pants being undone while you post!
just thought you should know!
no no i disagree brother zifnab.. the pants position is in itself, umm revealing... :lmao :lmao

[Zifnab]

no no i disagree brother zifnab.. the pants position is in itself, umm revealing... :lmao :lmaoyes but the topic is meant to be discussing the textual interplay between members, rather than the spontaneous exposure of ones more private regions for all to witness.

[Norfolkdave]

it is about talking dave, not your pants being undone while you post!
just thought you should know!

I do know you plonka, I get along very well on here, talking as well:nu

[Zifnab]

I do know you plonka, I get along very well on here, talking as well:nuLOL
yeah ok, was concerned there for a moment tiger's influence may have started rubbing off on you!

[Norfolkdave]

LOL
yeah ok, was concerned there for a moment tiger's influence may have started rubbing off on you!

Influenced...No way, thanks for the concern, Seriously I havent many friends outside of the site, so I enjoy the company on here wether flirting, jokes, or pure!!!!!!!!! and I do speak more on here than usual:D

[spare_change]

We all tell more here than we would in person --- it is the anonymity of the site. We hide behind fake names and fake pictures. In the safety of that ruse, we can expose ourselves a little more -- dig a little deeper, because, after all, it isn't really us, it's someone else. Then, when we discover that others are flawed too, we relax and really become ourselves -- all hidden behind the Internet curtain, of course.

When we find out that we really ARENT the most fucked up person in God's creation, we feel better, we enjoy that mastery, and we become addicted to the site. It makes us feel good about ourselves.

[Norfolkdave]

Well man what can i say........"You hit the nail right on the head"

[hank69]

[QUOTE=Heaterman]Why do we tell people in places like this things about ourselves that we would never tell the people we work with or even our friends we see all the time?


:55............For sure.....fun to post and get replys....:lmao

[cherokeered]

Most definitely.....



Cherokee....:whee:

[haggisbasher]

Don't remember seeing this thread before ...

Anywayz, hell yeah ! The sh*t i come out with i would never tell some of my friends or work colleagues. This is site is the best thing that's happened to me since sliced bread !

[Cotties]

that good. I don't remember you answering this thread before....



but I reckon you tell people here less than you tell your mates McHaggis....:sc
Don't remember seeing this thread before ...

Anywayz, hell yeah ! The sh*t i come out with i would never tell some of my friends or work colleagues. This is site is the best thing that's happened to me since sliced bread !

[Rmb]

Don't you also find that you speak more openly with a lover than with a spouse? :)

[Cotties]

I had better get me a lover and find out:55 Don't you also find that you speak more openly with a lover than with a spouse? :)

[BillTheCat]

a definite yes. you can express things here without having to worry about fallout hours, days or weeks (years?) from now...

[jman]

Yes it is much easier here but I still have trouble sometimes.

[Rmb]

Yes it is much easier here but I still have trouble sometimes.

Why not let it all hang out and deal with the results? Can they all be bad?

[jman]

No not really. I just have to work on that.

[Michael77]

Why do we tell people in places like this things about ourselves that we would never tell the people we work with or even our friends we see all the time? Is it a sense of security that we don't know you or you will never have to see us? Or is it a case of feeling comfortable with the people you chat with here and places like this. I know we could never say the stuff we say here to anyone we know in real life.

Exactly!!..I talk about alot of things here that i wouldnt do in everyday life..this club is good medicine..

[FlirtyWife]

I say a lot more about how I'm feeling/ what I like sexually here than I do anywhere else. There's no fear of rejection here.

[cherokeered]

Yeh...to an extent....there are things I tell no one

[speed_raycer]

Yes. I do. I read an article about the phenomenon of online flirting. Seems to be pretty common to share more and say things we'd never say in "real life." There is something about the written word, and being anonymous that causes people to put their guard down, lose our inhibitions.

Hmmm. Sounds like something booze can do too. So, it's especially fun when I have a glass of wine when I'm here! Cheers!:D

I say a lot more about how I'm feeling/ what I like sexually here than I do anywhere else. There's no fear of rejection here.

[PlayfulMale69]

This is an interesting question. The thing with me is if I don't have a connection in real life I don't go there. I will just step around that topic. If I am rejected so many times I don't ask much anymore.

That is the same it is with me with online as well. If I am rejected or not connecting with the lady, then I don't go there either.

Now, it used to be much more about the anonymous getting away with it. Now it is much more a desire for the connection in real or cyber life that drives me.

[scoobertina]

I am painfully honest with everyone.. here and in real life.. But I have been more open with people here that I have been out in the real world... I am sure that there are some who kknow me more than my friends know me by now..

[shortnsexy]

:knuddel: Most definitely. People here are not only down to earth but mature, emotionally and sexually. One can't always say that about their partner no matter how much they love them. Attraction especially sexual doesn't involve thinking, "hey are they mature, do they really want this?" Things just happen. And there are times in love that the most mature person can be immature, yes even me.

This website is refreshing....I know I am not the only one that thinks about sex, but to have a place to actually talk openly about it and be understood is a blessing.

[confusedman]

I am painfully honest with everyone.. here and in real life.. But I have been more open with people here that I have been out in the real world... I am sure that there are some who kknow me more than my friends know me by now..

There is no other way to be but honest with each other. But there are some I provide more depth...more details...more insight into my inner soul and being. Those are the people I count among my greatest friends, and the fact that I met them here instead of in person does not matter in the least.

[pointofnoreturn]

People here seem to understand each other so much better. They listen to you. They have to to respond. I nperson you can talk to someone and they never hear a word you say. Here you read someposts and respond. I'm sorry was someone talking to me???

[peaches]

Yes I do...for starters they are going through the same thing I am. They give great advice, lend an ear or shoulder. Most importantly they don't judge you. Theat is the most important thing....we in this chatroom don't judge anyone else and always ready to listen and help each other. I think this is a great place!!!

[OICurready4me]

Yes. Like Peaches said, many of us are in similiar situations so we don't judge one another, we lend a helping hand, offer a shoulder to dry on, a forum to vent. Because of that, I think the friendships we develop here build a bit faster because of the openness, the sameness of the problems and the emotional attachment we get for those that are there for us. By being online, I think we are all less guarded with what we say so we feel we can share more and not get burned since the people you are talking to could be 1000 miles away. When you talk to your local, "real life" so to speak, friends, you sometimes have to worry about them telling their spouse or other friends and your secrets coming out. on here, we all have secrets that we share with others so the commonality is what keeps us coming back.

[Frenchie]

Count me in for a hell yeah!


I say allot more here then anyone I know but I think in general like most of you stated where in the same boat or somewhat dont have the output in are general friend line to ask some of what we talk about here.

I for one love this place, I like to have a place to have fun and be able to vent or get an idea if I'm completly out of my mind or if it's something that's common.

The best thing about these is you can get an idea or ask for help on a multitude of topics that you would usually never get to talk about. For men especially. Being naturally closed in feeling wise it's good for guys to be able to come out and maybe express themselfs in a way they usually wouldnt.

Everybody's different but I do think there's a serious positive to forums like this.

[JCcanU]

Only 2 of my Brothers Know what Im into what I do where I go . No one eles around me Needs to know , Im open on the fourm I dont think I will be meeting anyone or give them my home number , but if you lived around me you would under stand why you have to keep thingsto your self Rummers can realy start flying and its hard to find work in a Town that has more churchs then Bars.

[pointofnoreturn]

Only 2 of my Brothers Know what Im into what I do where I go . No one eles around me Needs to know , Im open on the fourm I dont think I will be meeting anyone or give them my home number , but if you lived around me you would under stand why you have to keep thingsto your self Rummers can realy start flying and its hard to find work in a Town that has more churchs then Bars.Is a rummer a type of drink????;)

[PunkyBob]

Absolutely. My circle of friends isn't the place to say the things I can only express here. Horniness, fantasies, dream sex, and being able, nay, I say enouraged, to flirt shamelessly. In a strange way, we are real here to each other that "real" life doesn't permit.

[Sabrina]

Absolutely. My circle of friends isn't the place to say the things I can only express here. Horniness, fantasies, dream sex, and being able, nay, I say enouraged, to flirt shamelessly. In a strange way, we are real here to each other that "real" life doesn't permit.

Totally agree with Punky! I call that place out there my real life, but sometimes I feel like this is the real me and I just have to keep it hidden from the rest of the world!:D

[Wil]

Totally agree with Punky! I call that place out there my real life, but sometimes I feel like this is the real me and I just have to keep it hidden from the rest of the world!:D

How else could I say to Sabrina that her avatar is the sexiest one I've seen in a while...:lf

[Sabrina]

How else could I say to Sabrina that her avatar is the sexiest one I've seen in a while...:lf

Why thank you, Wil! :knuddel: I like yours, too.....I love the beach!!

[DeTazMan]

Oh Yeah, Like others have said, probably wont meet too many of you outside of here. Wouldn't mind though

[RedVixen]

Definitely!!

[sawflyman]

yes here I can be free to be myself. outside not so much.

[JCcanU]

Is a rummer a type of drink????;)

:lmao Rumers But 151 would go good when I mis spell words

[cherokeered]

of course....it's very freeing here and non-judgemental....ya don't get the "ewww, ur sick" look...lol

[p.J]

Nope... though there are certain people on here I trust...

[UltimateNaneki]

Here I'm very honest and trusting. Some here, have called me too trusting. And in my day to day life think that I'm nuts for being here. But I have been here since Dec 2006 and you are all great people. You are my friends and I know that most of you care. So sure I tell you guys more, you listen and understand where I'm coming from! :)

[Sneaky]

Not more, I just share different things.


For instance here I share my masterbatory activities, sexual frustrations, and fantasies, and thoughts on monogomy and other activites.

I share everything else with people I see all the time.

We don't live in a world where we can speak of those things honestly and openly. At least I don't.

[cherokeered]

Not more, I just share different things.


For instance here I share my masterbatory activities, sexual frustrations, and fantasies, and thoughts on monogomy and other activites.

I share everything else with people I see all the time.

We don't live in a world where we can speak of those things honestly and openly. At least I don't.

well, this is true....I guess I do too...the other side of me I don't show to anyone else....

[p.J]

I think it also depends on how much time you spend on here...

[Wil]

no...no one knows me that well...hell, I don't even what to know what I know about me...

[deercrow]

Yes, here we all or most of us hve the same insecurities and problems. With an added bonues everyone here helps you and not judges you. The best therapy and one can get in my opinion.

[onceamarine]

Perhaps if everyone I met face to face had a sign or something on their shirt that read "Married but flirting" or "I like to talk about sex a lot", perhaps then I would be as open with my discussions. Unfortunately I have no idea if my married friends and coworkers feel the same way that I do. Therefore, I don't tell them all the same things I will tell y'all.

[My_Secrets_Kept]

Do you tell people here more than people you see all the time?

I share different things here than with those I see face to face, and probably do share more of myself here, for many reasons it's easier to open up in this type of setting. But there are parts of myself that I share with no one!

[bryan3636]

For me several reasons. I've found the M & F family, for the most part, don't judge. Possibly many of us are here for similiar reasons in our real life can understand what we're experiencing and can relate to it in their lives as well. Another reason is that people here are more open to say and do things more boldly and share more about themselves than in the real world. Also, there's the anonymity we have here that allows us to shed the shyness or intraverted personality and let our alter-ego or perhaps our real personality come through. Whatever the reasons, not only is this a great place to meet friends and flirt, it's also free therapy!!!

[longing for passion]

For me several reasons. I've found the M & F family, for the most part, don't judge. Possibly many of us are here for similiar reasons in our real life can understand what we're experiencing and can relate to it in their lives as well. Another reason is that people here are more open to say and do things more boldly and share more about themselves than in the real world. Also, there's the anonymity we have here that allows us to shed the shyness or intraverted personality and let our alter-ego or perhaps our real personality come through. Whatever the reasons, not only is this a great place to meet friends and flirt, it's also free therapy!!!

Well said Bryan...well said indeed.:55

[PlayfulMale69]

Soem people hear my desires that I would not talk about if we were in person. I think it is a lot to do that I feel safe and since this is a married and flirting site, we are all here for varying levels of flirting.

In person there is more of a personal risk to let people know what I think and desire.

[pointofnoreturn]

Well let me see. I told you all about mr X. and I told you all about the dump. Neve told anyone else. So I would have to say....That is a yes Bob for 300.$

[OICurready4me]

definitely...there are only a couple people that know as much about me as some of my good friends do on this site. As Bryan wrote, this is a common ground for most of us, we feel comfortable here and no one is judged because we all have something to share that we may be uncomfortable with. Because of that, I think we can all commiserate with others and allow ourselves to open up without fear of reprisal.

[duanehofner]

The odds of someone here knowing me are next to none. I;m comfortable about saying secret things

[cherokeered]

I do say things...but I also hold back a lot....but then, I do that in the real world too

[MCat]

I'm changing....used to be I said more here than I did in my real life. Lately I find myself talking to the girls at work about sex, love, affairs, dildos...you name it...we talk about it. Just yesterday we got on the subject of suction cups for some reason...I piped up and said I have one with a suction cup. They just about died with laughter when they realized what I was talking about....it was a fun day. I think its bringing us closer...we realize that all of us think and wonder about the same stuff.

[yaser]

I'm changing....used to be I said more here than I did in my real life. Lately I find myself talking to the girls at work about sex, love, affairs, dildos...you name it...we talk about it. Just yesterday we got on the subject of suction cups for some reason...I piped up and said I have one with a suction cup. They just about died with laughter when they realized what I was talking about....it was a fun day. I think its bringing us closer...we realize that all of us think and wonder about the same stuff.
Mcat that means we opened your doors and windows...

[MCat]

Mcat that means we opened your doors and windows...

Ya got that right Yaser...the doors and windows to my inner being have been flung wide open. :dd

[yaser]

Ya got that right Yaser...the doors and windows to my inner being have been flung wide open. :dd
Hang on and go on to be with us..We may explore an unexplored place and we mayhelp you open it too Mcat.

[deercrow]

Yes, the security here is remarkable, no one to judge you or put you down, but to hear to wipe away the tears and make you smile. How can anyone ask for anything more than that.........

[yaser]

Yes, the security here is remarkable, no one to judge you or put you down, but to hear to wipe away the tears and make you smile. How can anyone ask for anything more than that.........
Can you put a zipper on everybody's mouth?Or is it necessary?Do you have to get approval of others?

[cheerymissy_34]

Yes i think so because soooo many people here r going through some of the same things im going through so its much easier to open up about things to people who know what u r going through

[MCat]

Can you put a zipper on everybody's mouth?Or is it necessary?Do you have to get approval of others?

Yaser...

She means she feels safe here...safe enough to post her thoughts and feelings without fear of being discovered. It doesn't mean she needs anyones approval.

[yaser]

Yaser...

She means she feels safe here...safe enough to post her thoughts and feelings without fear of being discovered. It doesn't mean she needs anyones approval.
But what about the real world Mcat? We rehearse here and apply in the real world..Do you fel the need for approval of others Mcat?Do you compare your body to other bodies?

[cheerymissy_34]

But what about the real world Mcat? We rehearse here and apply in the real world..Do you fel the need for approval of others Mcat?Do you compare your body to other bodies?

I know u didnt ask me..but dont we all to some point seek approval from others in our life and also to a point dont we somewhat compare our bodies to other people wether they r smaller or larger than us???

[yaser]

I know u didnt ask me..but dont we all to some point seek approval from others in our life and also to a point dont we somewhat compare our bodies to other people wether they r smaller or larger than us???
Why do we need approval of others and why do we need to compare ourselves to others hun? Can you tell me the reasons you can think of?

[cheerymissy_34]

I dont know maybe its just me but i know im always comparing my body to others...if someone is bigger than me i think "ohhh please i hope im never that big"..or if someone is smaller than me i think "if i could only"


and i think i seek approval from just about everyone im close to i guess not wanting them to be dissapointed in what i do

maybe its just that i need LOTS and LOTS of therapy..lol

[yaser]

I dont know maybe its just me but i know im always comparing my body to others...if someone is bigger than me i think "ohhh please i hope im never that big"..or if someone is smaller than me i think "if i could only"


and i think i seek approval from just about everyone im close to i guess not wanting them to be dissapointed in what i do

maybe its just that i need LOTS and LOTS of therapy..lol
Why don't you go to a psychologist?Especially a cognitive therapist?But we can talk here too.You are always welcome.

[deercrow]

Can you put a zipper on everybody's mouth?Or is it necessary?Do you have to get approval of others?
We all seek approval from others, that is human nature. And as the zipper part if I could I would...I have a few that popped in mind right away. But when I have a friend who id down I put my feelings aside to make sure the are okay and feeling better about themselves, I figured they came to me so I should give them my all, but it's that what a true friend is for?

[WandaRing]

Yes, I feel safe in here because I don’t know these people and they don’t know me. In real life there really isn’t anyone I can talk to about these feelings and stuff that I am going through so, in here it is like chatting to a bunch of good friends who wont squeal and they give great advice....I love it....ty everyone...:wa:

[TheTurtle]

Definitely more. There is no judgmentalism, and there is an understanding of some of the issues I am currently going through.

[Sweetdreams069]

Yes, sometimes I want to tell them too much though. I'm just glad I do have someone now that I can tell anything to. :kk

[OICurready4me]

Yup!

[musicman1181]

I dont think any person really wants to be vulnerable...but I am lucky enough to have a few people in my life that know almost everything about me. Believe it or not its actually a very liberating thing.

[mrdiscreet]

For sure. One of the best things about this site.

[redcat]

Totally agree with Punky! I call that place out there my real life, but sometimes I feel like this is the real me and I just have to keep it hidden from the rest of the world!:D

So very true.

[guy384]

It's a lot easier to talk to strangers about your problems knowing that if they do judge you it doesnt really matter than it is telling a friend.

[1hotmommy]

I think I tell people here about the same things I tell people at home or friends. But this place is great for when I want to talk about my husband lol