Does revenge make you feel better?

[Sexylady06]

Just curious, a few questions.... Have your spouse ever cheated on you? If so, did you get some type of revenge? Does cheating on the person who cheated, makes it easier for you to let go and to move on with the marriage/relationship?

[Sandy]

no mark and i have never cheated on one another, and honey i really don't think you want to do that either, it won't make things better for you. it'll probsbly make them worse. if he won't go see a counsler with you, go by yourself, you need somebody to help you with your pain and anger.

[Sexylady06]

Alot of "people" are telling me to let it go and to move on, but no one is telling me how to do that. Yes, I am very bitter and upset and just want to find a way to make me feel better about myself. Because my husband blames me for his affair. Ain't that some:bs .



no mark and i have never cheated on one another, and honey i really don't think you want to do that either, it won't make things better for you. it'll probsbly make them worse. if he won't go see a counsler with you, go by yourself, you need somebody to help you with your pain and anger.

[sweet]

No, my husband and I have not cheated on each other before. Even though the thought has been there, it would be difficult for me to do that to him even though our marriage isn't the greatest. I do agree with Sandy on this one. Seeking revenge is not going to solve anything. It will just make things even more complicated. I would also suggest talking out your anger with either a counsler or someone else that you can trust. I know that it may seem that cheating on the one who cheated on you would make you feel better, but in the long run I think you'll regret doing it. This is just my thought on the subject. :wa:

[Sandy]

no honey its not your fault, but you do need some help, you can vent here all you want, but i really think a counsler is the way to go, cause until you deal with all your emotions you can't move on.












Alot of "people" are telling me to let it go and to move on, but no one is telling me how to do that. Yes, I am very bitter and upset and just want to find a way to make me feel better about myself. Because my husband blames me for his affair. Ain't that some:bs .

[sex_kitten_4u]

i have a very simple remedy if they cheat on me i get rid of them after all i deserve better than that , i have never cheated on anyone in my life and have no plans to start now

[bichik]

i have a very simple remedy if they cheat on me i get rid of them after all i deserve better than that , i have never cheated on anyone in my life and have no plans to start now

I'm with you baby

[G...G]

My first husband cheated on me and I went through PURE hell for over a year. Listening to the "I won't do it again" crap but he always did. I finallly came to the conclusion that I didn't want to live like that..... I met someone else... NEVER had sex with them but became very close to them and got hurt. I found that two wrongs do not make a right. I had so much anger built up in me because of him. I wanted revenge so bad so I divorced him. Now he has a miserable life so that is my revenge.

[spare_change]

Alot of "people" are telling me to let it go and to move on, but no one is telling me how to do that. Yes, I am very bitter and upset and just want to find a way to make me feel better about myself. Because my husband blames me for his affair. Ain't that some:bs .

Of course he blames you -- that way he doesn't have to take responsibility. That ain't hard to figure out.

I know this is going to sound stupid -- but, here goes. An affair for revenge isn't the answer -- you just feel dirty when it's over. Because you did it for all the wrong reasons -- and you know it, and you know you betrayed yourself more than him.

But, sometimes - -and for some people -- an affair is an excellent salve to your obviously crippled self confidence. Sometimes, we just have to confirm that we can be attractive to others, that we really aren't what they said we were. Sometimes, that affair is the life preserver we need to get thru a very difficult time.

[Zpanther]

Of course he blames you -- that way he doesn't have to take responsibility. That ain't hard to figure out.

I know this is going to sound stupid -- but, here goes. An affair for revenge isn't the answer -- you just feel dirty when it's over. Because you did it for all the wrong reasons -- and you know it, and you know you betrayed yourself more than him.

But, sometimes - -and for some people -- an affair is an excellent salve to your obviously crippled self confidence. Sometimes, we just have to confirm that we can be attractive to others, that we really aren't what they said we were. Sometimes, that affair is the life preserver we need to get thru a very difficult time.

Good points Spare....... and what about the partner you have the revenge affair with that you probably didn't care that much about? What are they gonna feel like if they didn't know why you wanted sex with them? Then you may have a new problem to go with the ones you already had.

[spare_change]

Good points Spare....... and what about the partner you have the revenge affair with that you probably didn't care that much about? What are they gonna feel like if they didn't know why you wanted sex with them? Then you may have a new problem to go with the ones you already had.

Absolutely -- as always, truth and honesty prevails. Your "partner" must know going in what's going on -- and why you are there.

[Shiane]

:spbx: Hmmmmmmmmm your fault ey? What..... did you take his dick out of his pants for him? Now thats a Bullshit excuse. He is a grown man for farks sake, stand up and take responsibility for your own actions.

[spare_change]

:spbx: Hmmmmmmmmm your fault ey? What..... did you take his dick out of his pants for him? Now thats a Bullshit excuse. He is a grown man for farks sake, stand up and take responsibility for your own actions.

You know, Shiane -- I get really tired of trying to figure out exactly how you feel about things. You just beat around the bush soooo much,I can't figure you out. I just wish you would take a stand for once!

Hmmmm -- around the bush? bush? hmmmmm -- oh yes, where was I?

[Shiane]

Is Revenge good. Revenge is sweet, but not always in this case. Besides cheating isn't going to make the hurt go away, now packing up his shit might help.

[Shiane]

You know, Shiane -- I get really tired of trying to figure out exactly how you feel about things. You just beat around the bush soooo much,I can't figure you out. I just wish you would take a stand for once!

Hmmmm -- around the bush? bush? hmmmmm -- oh yes, where was I?

I know Spare, maybe if ya read between the lines you can see where I stand.;)
I have a hard time saying exactly what I mean!:D

[Rainmaker]

Just curious, a few questions.... Have your spouse ever cheated on you? If so, did you get some type of revenge? Does cheating on the person who cheated, makes it easier for you to let go and to move on with the marriage/relationship?

my husband has cheated on me ...he was a virgin when we met .. he said he cheated to see if he was missing out....(we r past that) ..have i thought about doing the same to him...of course.. but with my faith if u do bad it comes back to u 3-fold....i have had sex with another man and another woman since we have been married(but we were seperated)-and it was not at the same time..do i regret -no..was it revenge . not at all.. it was pure pleasure...would i do again.. only if my husband was present and agreed to it..

[tess]

It depends on the situation

[Cotties]

I have cheated on my wife and yes it did make me feel better. I found the new more attractive woman gave me even more headaches. She did make my wife seem appealing again.
I have had no proof my wife was cheating, but when you know, you know.

[Thighmaster]

My wife cheated on me. Even though it's been a couple years now and we've "moved on", I've never truly been able to get over it. I've often wondered myself if having an affair of my own would help me move on.

[Penny]

I thighmaster I doubt it would help

[Cotties]

I doubt it will but it might be funMy wife cheated on me. Even though it's been a couple years now and we've "moved on", I've never truly been able to get over it. I've often wondered myself if having an affair of my own would help me move on.

[Frank_2525]

I find revenge dissatisfying. I prefer the old make love not war.

[cherokeered]

I try not to do it....I believe what goes around comes around....I just wanna be there to see it


I must confess that I did go after my former boss and probably was one of the reasons he got let go......

He should not have sat on e-bay all day while I worked my ass off......:lf