How do you rate Cybersex

[massage mike]

agree, though for me it isn't about falling for someone, I get an itch that needs to be scratched!:lf i here ya how about a rub down:)

[almost40soccermom]

well my husband does like to watch sometimes, lol
sandy

[gussy422]

I couldn't agree more...
I agree. How much different is it than watching porn by yourself? Lots of people do that. Cybering just gives two people the same pleasure

[Corvid]

Somewhere in the past we promised someone we'd 'forsake all others.' That's not too specific, but I take it to mean that I'll have but one true and constant relationship with a woman until 'death do us part.' This certainly means I must not fall in love with someone, online, in person, or by braille; it means I'm not to be diddling anyone else, since I can't do that very will without falling it love, and, conventionally, marriage means sexual fidelity. Typing, in my mind, is not diddling, by the way. Forsake does not include flirting, making eyes, making suggestive comments, making friends, even close friends, or talking about sex. My vows, by the way, did not include a prohibition on the keeping of secrets. Otherwise, how would I hide the Christmas present! The limitation here is that it is impossible to keep a secret for long without telling lies and lies destroy the trust in our relationships of any kind, matrimonial, professional, or political.

This leaves us with the definition of diddling, a famously sticky issue (just ask Bill Clinton or Ms. Lewinski's dry cleaner.). This I know: If my wife discovered I'd just spend an evening watching "Ass Masters XVI" in the company of and beating off with Carol from the Internet, in person or online, she would not even begin to hear my protest that "I didn't touch her!". I'd just be out of the house.

[Curious15]

Hi PragmaticJen!

I've enjoyed reading your notes. You sound pretty hot... are you on?

[UltimateNaneki]

Here we come get what we really need and want, learn some new things, then return home where the one that you married will never change or notice that you are a little more satifyed and less demanding. So cheating I think not, enjoying what we need YES!

[yaser]

Here we come get what we really need and want, learn some new things, then return home where the one that you married will never change or notice that you are a little more satifyed and less demanding. So cheating I think not, enjoying what we need YES!
Cheating what?Or gaining what? you mean honey?

[UltimateNaneki]

Darling,don't be so confused. I am here!



Cheating what?Or gaining what? you mean honey?

[yaser]

Darling,don't be so confused. I am here!
That is so relaxing.

[pointofnoreturn]

I can't stop........Need to but can't

[yaser]

Josh, I can get addicted to certain gentlemen!:dd
A horny woman is enough for me..

[yaser]

I can't stop........Need to but can't
Any harm dear?

[massage mike]

frenchys dot for me especially a certain one

[yaser]

Cyber addiction is a wrong expression...It should be sex addiction....or addiction of connection..

[gussy422]

I have a hard time not thinking about the site all of the day, but I love it when I cum home and can talk to you all. Serious fix for me who gets hardly any attention here at home. Thank you...:wa:
You deserve attention Point. Cyber me baby.:sex

[northernvam]

Ah .. isn't attention what we are all craving? I mean flirting is just another way to give and receive attention to members of the opposite sex (well at least in my case). Isn't the whole goal of fliritng to show interest in the other person, and get them to respond in a similar way?

Or am I missing something here?

[cherokeered]

My addiction is to Tiger...this cyber stuff has me baffled...lol



Cherokee...and I wouldn't change a thing....:kk

[Sandman]

It has been easier to quit smoking, drinking, caffeine, and many other things than to keep my fingers off the keyboard. Online personalities being what they are, this place lets the alter ego run rampant...cuts back on many frustrations...still missing the skin contact though!

[massage mike]

i'm addicted to ultimate french kissing

[yaser]

i'm addicted to ultimate french kissing
When did she make such a show?

[pointofnoreturn]

I am addicted to all of you....Can't stop thinking...and wanting....

[gussy422]

I am addicted to all of you....Can't stop thinking...and wanting....
So, stop think, stop wanting, and DO something. It's the only way to be satisfied completely:sex

[yaser]

I am addicted to all of you....Can't stop thinking...and wanting....
How many of us can you cope with in a session hun?Only me?

[pointofnoreturn]

If I could I would make you all in stand in line and I'd do you one or two at a time until someone makes me melt...

[yaser]

If I could I would make you all in stand in line and I'd do you one or two at a time until someone makes me melt...
The one hundred and twenty fifith may melt you do you think?

[pointofnoreturn]

The first one may also.....WE shall try sometime to see???

[joshcamp69]

I volunteer to be first then.

[pointofnoreturn]

Josh, I love it when people volunteer for things....

[yaser]

[QUOTE=pointofnoreturn]The first one may also.....WE shall try sometime to see???[/QUOTE) Sooner the better?

[pointofnoreturn]

Very soon Yaser...

[hotguy89]

is there a line where i can join? its fun..done 4 times and loved it ...lol:di

[yaser]

Very soon Yaser...
In a vacation?

[pointofnoreturn]

Only in your dreams right now......VAcation much later...What is Turkey like in the spring March/April????

[hotguy89]

vacation start where u want to start...could be in iceland...hot springs...hmmmm!!!!!:55

[yaser]

Only in your dreams right now......VAcation much later...What is Turkey like in the spring March/April????
March is not good only we can stay in a warm bed but in April we can make love outside only if God permits from April rains hun.Or if you wish we can do whatever you wish under A :lf pril rains..

[pointofnoreturn]

Never made love in the rain...I will think about that one.

[yaser]

Never made love in the rain...I will think about that one.
:cry: You will try it without me?

[pointofnoreturn]

I will wait to do it with you....

[yaser]

I will wait to do it with you....
Another thing we have to wait is spring rains.Be patient please.Let the april comes,you also cum..

[p.J]

Jeeeeez! haven't you two done it yet??? :rolleyes:

[massage mike]

Jeeeeez! haven't you two done it yet??? :rolleyes:way to go jen lol:lmao

[pointofnoreturn]

Jeeeeez! haven't you two done it yet??? :rolleyes:Just finished. Very nice!!!!:D

[p.J]

Just finished. Very nice!!!!:D

'Very Nice' point?? :sc


:kk

[yaser]

'Very Nice' point?? :sc


:kk
Point.

[pointofnoreturn]

Very!!!

[yaser]

Very!!!
Noreturn...Bye

[hotguy89]

three somes are fun...:knuddel:

[pointofnoreturn]

I'm in...and out and in. no wait...you are in and out and in.Thankyou

[Dmy]

I will say Im more into it than I want to be....it does seem to me a big time eater of my day if I dont be careful...I do enjoy it and alot depends on other things. I quess it makes me realize some things arent as hot as they could be! So I find some of it there!...;)

[bonduk007]

Mind you we all could have a massdebate about the subject LOL

[nsamale]

I think that it may not be adultery but I am sure my wife does and I would say its not a good thing to do...but i would like to do it anyway...anyone interested?

[NYCMasterplumber]

People cheat it is just a matter of what they feel comfortable with and how they want to justify their actions like wild Bill did NOT have sex with that lady and I hope he has the same standards for his daughter.


I wonder what people consider flirting and when it seems to just get out of hand?

Is this like a little pregnant? :sex:sex:sex

[OICurready4me]

People cheat it is just a matter of what they feel comfortable with and how they want to justify their actions like wild Bill did NOT have sex with that lady and I hope he has the same standards for his daughter.


I wonder what people consider flirting and when it seems to just get out of hand?

Is this like a little pregnant? :sex:sex:sex



But you can't get pregnant from cyber but you can from "just sticking the head in"

[NYCMasterplumber]

But you can't get pregnant from cyber but you can from "just sticking the head in"


Which head your talking about

[showtime]

Definitly would be a type of cheating but isn't adultry yet, I can only hope it will lead to that for myself.

[pointofnoreturn]

I don't think it is cheating. We are all here helping each other get thru some bad times. I thank all of you in advance for your support and your cocks.oops I mean kindness..

[p.J]

Definitely fun and very inspiring at times! ;)

[yaser]

Definitely fun and very inspiring at times! ;)
And above all dear Jen it is healthy...Her we have been in group therapy..Real group therapy..We help here each other...

[christinalee]

noooo....
it's not cheating, in fact it could be good for a relationship! it could spice up your life a bit, nothing wrong with that!!!!!!

[Willy S]

I agree.

[Big O]

who wants to IM me?!?!?!?!?!?

[wwwdodgeit]

i dont think it is

[wwwdodgeit]

because i think cheating is when u meet then and do something

[wwwdodgeit]

i think its has help my marrage

[Inspector72]

For the one who knows...;)

Should inspiring and fun be added to the list?:sc

[flirtyblonde]

i dont know about this one, as cheating really isnt about penetration,(altho that is cheating too lol) its about what you actually are thinking and feeling and wanting to do. you can fall in love with someone without meeting them, then that is cheating isnt it?

[showtime]

Heck then I'm a cheater, I'm always fantasizing about other girls,,, the few times I actually get some at home it helps to think about good looking girls, because its not like she really tries to get me off.

[yaser]

i dont know about this one, as cheating really isnt about penetration,(altho that is cheating too lol) its about what you actually are thinking and feeling and wanting to do. you can fall in love with someone without meeting them, then that is cheating isnt it?
Flirty, we do what you saying anytime.Not only here but in our love bed.Bed is never filled with two..At least 3 or more..So it is not cheating..

[laur1209]

I think flirting is ok....But Sex is better. but sex is cheating

[Nyc_45]

So is flirting ok...? or is cheating worth the risk?.....We all need to make our own calls on that



I think flirting is ok....But Sex is better. but sex is cheating

[laur1209]

depend who it is with....sometime it could be just worthe the rush...

[tiger50]

hmm well have made my decisions on that one.....

[laur1209]

What is it?

[Nyc_45]

Tiger ...the new young lady wants to know what your decision is......:D

[fly]

the hubby would go crazy........but I don't consider it cheating....just innocent flirting that helps me spice up an otherwise boring sex life here at home......

[OICurready4me]

Flirty, we do what you saying anytime.Not only here but in our love bed.Bed is never filled with two..At least 3 or more..So it is not cheating..


It sounds like your inviting Flirty to have a threesome with you and me also. What do you think?

[Inspector72]

the hubby would go crazy........but I don't consider it cheating....just innocent flirting that helps me spice up an otherwise boring sex life here at home......

Yeah I would consider it just flirting too, if I lived where you do Avi! I never been there, don't ever want to go...to damn cold there for me! But if I lived there I would be flirting like hell! And that brings me to a question that just blows my mind!!!! Why or how are there so damn many females out there that are like between 28 and 45, married and have a boring ass sex life? Or just down right unhappy. Sorry, maybe it is just me, but it blows my mind of hearing this so much from women, yet they stay there and married, at least until a better offer comes around!

As for me when the fit hit the shan...mainly due "her" friends...I said, either we are going to make this work, have fun like we used to, or we are going to go our seperate ways. So why live unhappy???? I just don't get it? am I missing something here Avi????:sc

[spare_change]

Yeah I would consider it just flirting too, if I lived where you do Avi! I never been there, don't ever want to go...to damn cold there for me! But if I lived there I would be flirting like hell! And that bring me to a question that just blows my mind!!!! Why or how are there so damn many females out there that are like between 28 and 45, married and have a boring ass sex life? Sorry, may it is just me, but it blows my mind of hearing this so much from women, yet they stay there and married, at least until a better offer comes around!

As for me when the fit hit the shan...mainly due "her" friends...I said, either we are going to work this work, have fun, like we used to, or we are going to go our seperate ways. So why live unhappy???? I just don't get it? am I missing something here Avi????:sc


Well, I'm not Avi -- but allow me to respond.

Are you missing something?? Yeah, you're missing something - things like honor, commitment, children, security, responsibility. Sometimes, we need to be selfish -- and do what is right for ourselves, at all cost. Other times, we need to be selfless, because there is so much more involved.

[fly]

Thanks Spare...........well said.....

I would not allow my sexual fantasies, wants, needs or desires to mess up my children's lives....I would do anything for them. Isn't that what being a mother is all about? So I live with a some disappointment, but the rewards are unbelievable........

Well, I'm not Avi -- but allow me to respond.

Are you missing something?? Yeah, you're missing something - things like honor, commitment, children, security, responsibility. Sometimes, we need to be selfish -- and do what is right for ourselves, at all cost. Other times, we need to be selfless, because there is so much more involved.

[OICurready4me]

the hubby would go crazy........but I don't consider it cheating....just innocent flirting that helps me spice up an otherwise boring sex life here at home......


I agree, and I keep hoping that it will give me hope in my non-sex life at home. so far, that part hasn't worked out for me but I have met some terrific ladies, Avi being one of those sweethearts.

[pointofnoreturn]

I hae had more sex here than at home in the past year. And no, you cannot get pregnant on here..

[yaser]

I hae had more sex here than at home in the past year. And no, you cannot get pregnant on here..
Researchers are studying on internet where you can be pregnant..Wait..

[CJSinIL]

Is mutual masterbation considered cheating. I had a woman ask me that the other day.

[cherokeered]

Is mutual masterbation considered cheating. I had a woman ask me that the other day.


Well...it depends really....but a lot of spouses would see it as cheating I would think...if they weren't the mutual person involved....


Cherokee

[kjguy43]

Yes I would agree there.



Well...it depends really....but a lot of spouses would see it as cheating I would think...if they weren't the mutual person involved....


Cherokee

[p.J]

Yes I would agree there.

So what's your situation then Kj?

[kjguy43]

My spouse and I lead a very open lifestyle as we are active in the Swingers LS, I am agreeing to the fact that most spouse would see that as cheating. My spouse trust me 100%.

[aceofspades1114]

lol. somebody thought you can get pregnant online? thats pretty funny

[aceofspades1114]

its just flirting, but it's all up to the person and how they feel about.

[pinstriper23]

I don't think it's cheating, but it does depend on what your goals with it are. If it's just to have some fun that's one thing. If it's to find someone that you actually want to meet in person that's another thing.

[MCat]

It's loads of fun for me being here, occasionally wets my whistle and other things;) .....my husband and I both benefit.

[Rmb]

It's loads of fun for me being here, occasionally wets my whistle and other things;) .....my husband and I both benefit.

Oh you bad girl !! :) :D

[cherokeered]

It's in the context of the relationship............


If you come here and flirt a little with a lot of different people...then it's just titilating fun

If you come here and flirt one on one...then move on to other things....such as cam, cyber, talking, sending gifts.....then it's cheating...of which I know first hand about

The internet is a fun place....this place is fun...but sometimes innocent fun becomes something totally unexpected....and you realize your feelings for someone have become more than just innocent....
We are all adults....we know when the line is crossed...everyone has their own line though...and if a relationship is kept a secret from ur partner....then the line has been crossed.....
I also think that some people are led on by the flirting...they are vulnerable and looking for attention...so when they get it....they assume it means something....
I think sometimes it's good to remind people that flirting is just a game of fun....and not to be taken seriously or someone could become confused and it could cause trouble.......

[Outta]

It's in the context of the relationship............


If you come here and flirt a little with a lot of different people...then it's just titilating fun

If you come here and flirt one on one...then move on to other things....such as cam, cyber, talking, sending gifts.....then it's cheating...of which I know first hand about

The internet is a fun place....this place is fun...but sometimes innocent fun becomes something totally unexpected....and you realize your feelings for someone have become more than just innocent....
We are all adults....we know when the line is crossed...everyone has their own line though...and if a relationship is kept a secret from ur partner....then the line has been crossed.....
I also think that some people are led on by the flirting...they are vulnerable and looking for attention...so when they get it....they assume it means something....
I think sometimes it's good to remind people that flirting is just a game of fun....and not to be taken seriously or someone could become confused and it could cause trouble.......
Right on, Cher. I didn't ever expect to find relationships or love here. But you can get to know a person from the inside out, and it is not out of the realm of possibility for it to become a real live affair, or at least one that crosses the line into cheating. I have cautioned several people here not to spend too much time PM'ing or chatting if they don't want to cross that line, or if they can't handle rejection. It can be very dangerous, addictive, and can ruin someone's life.

[Rmb]

It's in the context of the relationship............


If you come here and flirt a little with a lot of different people...then it's just titilating fun

If you come here and flirt one on one...then move on to other things....such as cam, cyber, talking, sending gifts.....then it's cheating...of which I know first hand about

The internet is a fun place....this place is fun...but sometimes innocent fun becomes something totally unexpected....and you realize your feelings for someone have become more than just innocent....
We are all adults....we know when the line is crossed...everyone has their own line though...and if a relationship is kept a secret from ur partner....then the line has been crossed.....
I also think that some people are led on by the flirting...they are vulnerable and looking for attention...so when they get it....they assume it means something....
I think sometimes it's good to remind people that flirting is just a game of fun....and not to be taken seriously or someone could become confused and it could cause trouble.......

Sounds like you are covering up hon :) :lmao:lmao

[cherokeered]

Sounds like you are covering up hon :) :lmao:lmao


No...but I think there are all kinds of people out there...and someone could be led on...and hurt
There are also stalkers and crazies out there...looking to pounce on someone who perhaps is not street smart, lonely and wanders onto a site and meets the wrong person....
I think it's only responsible to point this out every once in a while...and you know me...always willing to make a comment or two....lol

[MCat]

I love the titilating fun this site offers. I have had a few erotic chats with a few fine fellows ;) . I hope I have not led them to believe that we will have anything other than this. I am very open about how much I love my husband. I feel safe because my husband is here with me....he's not on much but knows I'm here almost daily, sometimes twice a day.

I have to make myself be very careful....I'm gullible...I have a soft heart that I wear on my sleeve. If I was in a bad marriage I could see myself being very open to what some smooth talking, kind hearted gentleman might have to offer.

Everything I have done or plan to do here or online with someone will only enhance the relationship I have with my husband...because we are in it together. I'm not meeting anyone at a motel behind his back.

I don't want an online relationship with just one person...I need a little bit of this and a little bit of that from each one of you. You are a melting pot of information, unfullfilled desires, and you all have lots of love to give....some are just having a hard time finding the right one to give that love to.

Cher these are very good points you brought up....we all need reminding of what may happen when we least expect it. We all are in unique situations.

I am just here to have some erotic fun...talk about sex, think about sex, and maybe touch myself a little now and then.
I have been locked away too long....:dd

[cherokeered]

Thanks Cat.....I just notice a lot of people who come here and post personal info...thinking they are on a pick-up site....and have no clue what is really out there....they are bored or frustrated or seeking something....but does anyone really know what they are seeking?...no we don't....and so it's best to remind people that we are a friendly site....flirting is good and fun.....but I think people should know that not everyone is looking for an affair.....or a relationship at all....I think a lot of people are looking for friendship personally....just people who don't judge and know how to have fun....and actually listen and talk to each other....who have similar open minds....well, those that have minds...lol

[blueclaws2002]

just fun...

[blueclaws2002]

it's like having an invisible friend when you are trying to get yourself off.

[pinstriper23]

Thanks Cat.....I just notice a lot of people who come here and post personal info...thinking they are on a pick-up site....and have no clue what is really out there....they are bored or frustrated or seeking something....but does anyone really know what they are seeking?...no we don't....and so it's best to remind people that we are a friendly site....flirting is good and fun.....but I think people should know that not everyone is looking for an affair.....or a relationship at all....I think a lot of people are looking for friendship personally....just people who don't judge and know how to have fun....and actually listen and talk to each other....who have similar open minds....well, those that have minds...lol


And similarly dirty minds that they feel safe to express here.

[letterman01]

I only do it with the wife present, so... FUN!

[creativecouple]

Just for fun

[Butterfly_13]

I've been wondering myself...still trying to come up with an answer.

[steamy]

Need to collaborate??????



I've been wondering myself...still trying to come up with an answer.

[cherokeered]

And similarly dirty minds that they feel safe to express here.

No one is ever safe hun....and sometimes what you say can come back to haunt you in a forum such as this....I always think people should be careful about what they post...you never know who is on the internet...or where they are from...

[MB54]

IS reading a romance novel cheating???????/ Cyber sex is the same thing.

[p.J]

IS reading a romance novel cheating???????/ Cyber sex is the same thing.

:sc Erm, so are you saying that a cyber sex partner is fictitious?

[Rmb]

:sc Erm, so are you saying that a cyber sex partner is fictitious?

A few of them can be a figment of their imagination...and ours :)

[p.J]

A few of them can be a figment of their imagination...and ours :)

LOL! True! ;)

However, how can a romance novel be compared to cyber sex? A person indulging in cyber sex with another, has a sexual connection, shared sexual fantasies, even deep emotions... a romance novel is a temporary diversion, one that can has no lasting effect on everyday life. O fart I don't know! :whee:

[Rmb]

LOL! True! ;)

However, how can a romance novel be compared to cyber sex? A person indulging in cyber sex with another, has a sexual connection, shared sexual fantasies, even deep emotions... a romance novel is a temporary diversion, one that can has no lasting effect on everyday life. O fart I don't know! :whee:

Is it me or is there no difference? lol lol ;)

[zobman]

I sure hope it's just you!!!!!! Or boy am I in trouble!

[p.J]

I sure hope it's just you!!!!!! Or boy am I in trouble!

You like reading romantic novels zob?

[pointofnoreturn]

How about if you read a romance novel to your cyber sex partner???

[MB54]

Erm, so are you saying that a cyber sex partner is fictitious?[QUOTE]

I you never meet, they might as well be.

[PlayfulMale69]

Thanks Cat.....I just notice a lot of people who come here and post personal info...thinking they are on a pick-up site....and have no clue what is really out there....they are bored or frustrated or seeking something....but does anyone really know what they are seeking?...no we don't....and so it's best to remind people that we are a friendly site....flirting is good and fun.....but I think people should know that not everyone is looking for an affair.....or a relationship at all....I think a lot of people are looking for friendship personally....just people who don't judge and know how to have fun....and actually listen and talk to each other....who have similar open minds....well, those that have minds...lol



Cher, I guess you can say that we all have reasons for being here. I flirting with other ladies and learning that I am not alone with the lack of passion (we still have sex every couple of weeks, but passion has not happened in a looong time).

The bottom line that really keeps me coming back are the "connections" I make here. Call it friendships if you like. It is so nice to be accepted for who I am.

Thanks Cher, as you are one of those friends that really welcomed me when I first joined. Have a great week! :kk

[majorfun]

I know that a majority of us are here because we are trying to fill a void in our relationship with our significant other. We joke, we argue and we laugh together. I enjoy coming here. But sometimes it gets a little more serious and we enter the world of a cyber relationship. Why? Please tell of cyber relationships that worked or failed and Why? What do we get from them?

[tiger50]

cyber.. ?? wats that????

[Milk]

I had a steady diet of cyber sex for about 2 years. But it has lost it's appeal now. It mostly leaves me frustrated since what I need is actual flesh to flesh contact.

[yaser]

I had a steady diet of cyber sex for about 2 years. But it has lost it's appeal now. It mostly leaves me frustrated since what I need is actual flesh to flesh contact.
If I want you and if it impossible to reach to flesh to flesh, shall be deprived of you?

[lovessexx]

yes, unfortunately...and i cant stop :()

[midwestcouple]

We like the internet. It is a way to relax from a hard day of work. so in that way we would have to say yes

[spare_change]

I need a fix!! I need a fix!!!

[PlayfulMale69]

I so enjoy the connection you get when you make love/cyber with someone who enjoys the same things.

[yaser]

I ma addicted to the ladies here not cyber.

[PlayfulMale69]

I ma addicted to the ladies here not cyber.

Yes, very well put!!

[yaser]

Yes, very well put!!
Playful who can resist Flirtywife?Can you?

[wylum]

addicted? you bet

[wylum]

I have had times in my life when cyber has led to some r/t connections. It has not happened in a couple of years, but there is always hope.

[pointofnoreturn]

Never had any before coming here. Actually my sis got divorced becasue her hubby was having internet affairs. It surprised me, but after coming to this site. It is addicting. People want and need attention. And A lot of us are not getting it at home....

[p.J]

The internet is a great way of coming across someone you'd never expect to run into any other way, though I suspect our hormones take control and we can easily be persuaded that we've got masses in common with someone when, in all honesty, we're not really that compatible and as a result the chemistry we feel online does not necessarily overflow into reality, after all a picture and a few words could make you think someone's very attractive, but how on earth do you know if you could be compatible with them? As a result the reality maybe very disappointing! :)

[divorced male 43]

i love cyber sex and phone sex and cam to cam sex there all great just need to find the right partner by that i mean a woman

[massage mike]

The internet is a great way of coming across someone you'd never expect to run into any other way, though I suspect our hormones take control and we can easily be persuaded that we've got masses in common with someone when, in all honesty, we're not really that compatible and as a result the chemistry we feel online does not necessarily overflow into reality, after all a picture and a few words could make you think someone's very attractive, but how on earth do you know if you could be compatible with them? As a result the reality maybe very disappointing! :):lf you're killing me:) :whee: :lf

[lovessexx]

A++++++

[tallasian74]

I have never had one but would like to try one. It seems to be a safe way to vent certain marriage frustrations without actually doing the deed. Perhaps there is a danger of developing feelings that are too deep to contain on the net, but perhaps older folks like me who are still used to face to face contact can keep enough of a distance and utilize cyber relationships as a sort of "simulation cheat?"

[G...G]

It's very easy to get to know someone online. You spend most days and nights talking with this person on IM and it soon leads to talking to them everyday on the phone and it's very easy to fall in love with that person. My sister was recently married and met her new husband online and he is a super guy. My advice is to be very careful. People are not always who and what they say they are... I have met some great people online and consider a few of these people my best friends. But I have also gotten hurt by someone who I considered my best friend and would have probably done just about anything for this person. But in the end.. not only me but alot of people got hurt. Therefore, I question everything that anyone online tells me. It completely ruined my trust!!

[lovessexx]

i say its just fun and games....

[p.J]

. Therefore, I question everything that anyone online tells me.

hear hear to that... :55

[MB54]

It's very easy to get to know someone online. You spend most days and nights talking with this person on IM and it soon leads to talking to them everyday on the phone and it's very easy to fall in love with that person. My sister was recently married and met her new husband online and he is a super guy. My advice is to be very careful. People are not always who and what they say they are... I have met some great people online and consider a few of these people my best friends. But I have also gotten hurt by someone who I considered my best friend and would have probably done just about anything. But in the end.. not only me but alot of people got hurt. Therefore, I question everything that anyone online tells me. It completely ruined my trust!!

That is not just good online advice but advice to live your life by.

[spare_change]

I have never had one but would like to try one. It seems to be a safe way to vent certain marriage frustrations without actually doing the deed. Perhaps there is a danger of developing feelings that are too deep to contain on the net, but perhaps older folks like me who are still used to face to face contact can keep enough of a distance and utilize cyber relationships as a sort of "simulation cheat?"


Do not be misled, though -- it isn't a free ride. The pain of a breakdown, or breakup, of a cyber relationship hurts every bit as much, and probably more, than a real relationship. And, you don't even have anyone to share it with - you have to ride that horse alone.

Tread with care.

[tallasian74]

People are not always who and what they say they are... I have met some great people online and consider a few of these people my best friends. But I have also gotten hurt by someone who I considered my best friend and would have probably done just about anything for this person. But in the end.. not only me but alot of people got hurt. Therefore, I question everything that anyone online tells me. It completely ruined my trust!!

But does it matter if someone is who they say they are? It seems to me that the idea of a proxy relationship is that it is a chance for someone to try on a different hat (or gender and age in some cases) As long as the relationship stays on an online basis, does it really matter as longas both parties ar getting what they want out of it? I guess it gets thornier once it crosses over from net to reality....

[tallasian74]

Do not be misled, though -- it isn't a free ride. The pain of a breakdown, or breakup, of a cyber relationship hurts every bit as much, and probably more, than a real relationship. And, you don't even have anyone to share it with - you have to ride that horse alone.

Tread with care.

Hmmmm.... I can see that. Even simulated feelings are feelings, I guess. I will have to keep reading this thread and see what some people's actual experiences are in regards to this.

BTW, I would also like to know how people met their cyber relationships. I tried chat rooms for a while but mostly end up chatting with teenagers (no thank you!) I have been on forums and it seems rare for people who just post messages and opinions to get to start talking one on one...

[pointofnoreturn]

Do not be misled, though -- it isn't a free ride. The pain of a breakdown, or breakup, of a cyber relationship hurts every bit as much, and probably more, than a real relationship. And, you don't even have anyone to share it with - you have to ride that horse alone.

Tread with care.that I do believe is veary true. Sometimes you just want to share your passion of who you talk with to someone else. Can't . And it does hurt when they just blow you off. Especially since you cannot speak to them eye to eye.

[G...G]

Of course, it matters. When you are constantly lied to over and over again and eventually find out the truth.. trust me.. it hurts!!! And I agree with Spare.. online relationships are much harder than "real" ones. You have to go on about your life as if nothing is wrong and you have noone to share your problems with and it can take a toll on you!!



But does it matter if someone is who they say they are? It seems to me that the idea of a proxy relationship is that it is a chance for someone to try on a different hat (or gender and age in some cases) As long as the relationship stays on an online basis, does it really matter as longas both parties ar getting what they want out of it? I guess it gets thornier once it crosses over from net to reality....

[nsamale]

Ive dont it a couple of times...once it was on cam and the other in a chat room...i liked the cam better...havent done it in a long time...havent had real sex in a long time either...coineikidink??? oh by the way...anyone want to cyber...:D

[Annie]

Do not be misled, though -- it isn't a free ride. The pain of a breakdown, or breakup, of a cyber relationship hurts every bit as much, and probably more, than a real relationship. And, you don't even have anyone to share it with - you have to ride that horse alone.

Tread with care.I couldn't agree more!

[Barkiss]

Damn it...I need a drink now.

[pointofnoreturn]

Damn it...I need a drink now.I'm buying...What'll you have???:wa:

[Barkiss]

I'm buying...What'll you have???:wa:

Whiskey...straight up....need to drown my sorrows now ;)

[pointofnoreturn]

Whiskey...straight up....need to drown my sorrows now ;)One whiskey coming right up.. Crown Royal OK???

[Barkiss]

One whiskey coming right up.. Crown Royal OK???

Perfect!!! Now let's find a quiet corner ;)

[Annie]

Damn it...I need a drink now.and why is that, sweet pooch?

[Barkiss]

and why is that, sweet pooch?

Tooooooo many horrible memories...;) But you just sorta made everything much better...

[G...G]

Awwww... Come mere!! :kk

Tooooooo many horrible memories...;) But you just sorta made everything much better...

[Barkiss]

Awwww... Come mere!! :kk

Yes...it worked!!! ;)

[bstear]

Hi everyone.. I haven't been around for quite a while.. I have a way to get on more now so hopefully will find some good people to chat with on here :)

[MCat]

I am an emotional person....I have to be careful not to get too close to anyone. Even though I am married, and happily....I can understand how things could get out of hand in online relationships if you are not careful.

[FitMidwestGuy39]

I've often wondered if its possible to want to stay married and still have something cyber or more, i suppose that's not something most married women would want though... hmmm

[cherokeered]

I've often wondered if its possible to want to stay married and still have something cyber or more, i suppose that's not something most married women would want though... hmmm

Welcome to the site....hope u have fun....:wa:

[SaltyLime]

welcome to the site fitmidwestguy! :wa:

[FitMidwestGuy39]

thanks salty!

[MCat]

I've often wondered if its possible to want to stay married and still have something cyber or more, i suppose that's not something most married women would want though... hmmm

I think there are married women who want cyber relationships and more. They don't want to leave their spouses...they just want a little nookie on the side :55

[FitMidwestGuy39]

i suppose i find that encouraging!

[peaches]

Online relationships can be very touchy. We all laugh, cry and have cyber sex with each other.I think if you are true to yourself and careful you can have a healthy one, and some can lead to other things. But always keep a wall up, there are some not so nice people out there, and with our world these days, unforturnatly there out there. Just be careful and yes question there motives. Better to be safe than sorry.

[nsamale]

so i am true to myself...wana get together peaches...will take to the highest highs...:kk

[fly]

I've often wondered if its possible to want to stay married and still have something cyber or more, i suppose that's not something most married women would want though... hmmm

Stick around here a while midwestguy........I think you've got some learning to do about women!!!!

[majorfun]

I am in the early stages of an online fling... Don't really know where it is headed but I truly enjoy the ride. I wait with baited anticipation daily to talk to her and see what the day is going to bring. I check my e-mail five times a minute to see if she has responded to my last e-mail. I never think about whether she is telling a lie or the truth, I take everything that she says at face value. I enjoy the relationship and I accept the fact that we may never get to see or hold each other. What l like about the relationship is the goosebumps that I get everytime that I see her name or her hot avatar. I believe and assume that the relationship is pure...Until proven different I will continue to trust and believe that I am want she wants at this time.



The internet is a great way of coming across someone you'd never expect to run into any other way, though I suspect our hormones take control and we can easily be persuaded that we've got masses in common with someone when, in all honesty, we're not really that compatible and as a result the chemistry we feel online does not necessarily overflow into reality, after all a picture and a few words could make you think someone's very attractive, but how on earth do you know if you could be compatible with them? As a result the reality maybe very disappointing! :)

[w9kw]

fun and serious cuz ive got a penpal whom i sleep with now when i pass thru

[MIGHTY]

I am in the early stages of an online fling... Don't really know where it is headed but I truly enjoy the ride. I wait with baited anticipation daily to talk to her and see what the day is going to bring. I check my e-mail five times a minute to see if she has responded to my last e-mail. I never think about whether she is telling a lie or the truth, I take everything that she says at face value. I enjoy the relationship and I accept the fact that we may never get to see or hold each other. What l like about the relationship is the goosebumps that I get everytime that I see her name or her hot avatar. I believe and assume that the relationship is pure...Until proven different I will continue to trust and believe that I am want she wants at this time.

I know how you feel Major. It can be thrilling yet difficult all at the same time epecially when you are missing soo much of those emotions at home. It is a journey......I have never been a traveler in this sense. I never understood how people could care soo much in this manner....until now. When you find someone special enough to understand you......the real you and not just the cyber version, it can be a wonderfully exciting and fullfilling cyber trip. I find myself letting go which is scary. I try not to think about what will happen next, but merely enjoy the moments.......

[OICurready4me]

When I came onto this site, I had no idea what to expect and have met some wonderful people. In doing so, I have developed some very special relationships with some of the women here and have a lady friend that is one very wonderful lady. What started as just a friendship slowly blossomed and became something more, with each of us looking to one another to help the other get through the tough times. We have helped each other out with the stressful parts of our days, since our partners have been no help in supporting us or pleasing us in the bedroom. Will we ever meet, who's to say...only time will tell but at the current time, we are meeting one another's emotional needs and have a bond that is tighter than we ever would have imagined.

[cherokeered]

cyber.. ?? wats that????


have no idea.......perhaps we can buy a book or sumfin?

[tiger50]

have no idea.......perhaps we can buy a book or sumfin?

hey yeh..wonder if there is a cyber for dummies book...:D

[cherokeered]

hey yeh..wonder if there is a cyber for dummies book...:D

sure, must be....lol

[tiger50]

sure, must be....lol

aparently not, just searched....OMG how we gunna lean this stuff???:sc

[cherokeered]

aparently not, just searched....OMG how we gunna lean this stuff???:sc

sigh...maybe we are destined to be cyber virgins.....

[tiger50]

sigh...maybe we are destined to be cyber virgins.....

maybee, but hell am willin ta give it a try if u wann be in it.....:D

[cherokeered]

maybee, but hell am willin ta give it a try if u wann be in it.....:D

Oh, ya think we would be any good at it...might need lots of practice...:whee:

[tiger50]

Oh, ya think we would be any good at it...might need lots of practice...:whee:

well dunno, lets give it a shake....ok have it in hand...take #1 cummin up....:whee:

[cherokeered]

well dunno, lets give it a shake....ok have it in hand...take #1 cummin up....:whee:

hey, you don't think we are like the last ones to do this do ya?...I notice there are times the place is croded but no one is posting...ya don't think they are?????OMG.....

[tiger50]

hey, you don't think we are like the last ones to do this do ya?...I notice there are times the place is croded but no one is posting...ya don't think they are?????OMG.....

shit yeh we probly are.....have noticed too so many peeple on site, no posting....they're surely gettin they're cyber jollies....:D

[Jy]

Cyber relationships can be exciting but at the end of the day, you still have to live in the real world, with your real spouse and job and kids.

[cherokeered]

shit yeh we probly are.....have noticed too so many peeple on site, no posting....they're surely gettin they're cyber jollies....:D


hmmmm, well ya wanna go and play cards or sumfin while we wait for people to return?....how long ya think it takes?...10 minutes?

[cherokeered]

Cyber relationships can be exciting but at the end of the day, you still have to live in the real world, with your real spouse and job and kids.

If u choose to....it's really a matter of choices...no different then any other affair...it's up to you how far it goes, when it changes, if it ends and if it progresses into something else....

[tiger50]

hmmmm, well ya wanna go and play cards or sumfin while we wait for people to return?....how long ya think it takes?...10 minutes?

OK.. dealin tha cards fa strip pokher.....
eekkin it shoodnt take any more than a min 45 secs....

[cherokeered]

OK.. dealin tha cards fa strip pokher.....
eekkin it shoodnt take any more than a min 45 secs....

45 seconds huh?...ok...hmmmm, cards are looking ok....lol

[spare_change]

If u choose to....it's really a matter of choices...no different then any other affair...it's up to you how far it goes, when it changes, if it ends and if it progresses into something else....



Well said!

[jeromemoreau]

One day, for my job I had to browse the net in seek of submarine pics. A link took me to an agency with stuff of a person whom name reminded me the one of an early teenage flirt. I sent a mail to her through her agency box et we started a "mail-pal" relationship for a while. Happened the day we met again after 20 years or more. That was great. We made out but something was broken in the charm of what we designed through words... That's not a sad story but it tells me that there's a gap between cyber and real even in the feel of situations and the way you fancy the other one. Does it mean that even when you chat with folks or lover on a forum you're still alone in front of your computer ?

[Milk]

it's not cheating, it's just play. a lot like reading erotic fiction.

[PlayfulMale69]

it's not cheating, it's just play. a lot like reading erotic fiction.

it is so fun to play online and explore those fantasies you can't or won't get to do.

[tiger50]

it's not cheating, it's just play. a lot like reading erotic fiction.

horses for courses perhaps....the thoughts.. its cheating and yeh am very guilty...i want my NJ redhead....sigh.......

[majorfun]

Does cyber monogamy exist.....

[cherokeered]

Does cyber monogamy exist.....


actually...yes it does

[Jy]

You're absolutely right, and of course, every situation is different. But many people think an affair -online or in real life- is going to solve their problems, when usually they just create more problems. It's a matter of keeping things in perspective. If you're having problems in your marriage, focus on trying to improve things or get out. Don't enter an affair hoping it will fix things. It won't. If u choose to....it's really a matter of choices...no different then any other affair...it's up to you how far it goes, when it changes, if it ends and if it progresses into something else....

[cherokeered]

You're absolutely right, and of course, every situation is different. But many people think an affair -online or in real life- is going to solve their problems, when usually they just create more problems. It's a matter of keeping things in perspective. If you're having problems in your marriage, focus on trying to improve things or get out. Don't enter an affair hoping it will fix things. It won't.


thats very true....a marriage cannot be fixed by an outside source....the only people who can are the two in the marriage....if there is still a marriage worth saving....
I always say....it takes two to make a marriage and two to break one....

[Jy]

Amen to that. Too often we look at our spouse as the cause, rather than our own contribution to the breakdown of our marriage. It takes two. thats very true....a marriage cannot be fixed by an outside source....the only people who can are the two in the marriage....if there is still a marriage worth saving....
I always say....it takes two to make a marriage and two to break one....

[MB54]

It takes two.........however, one can do more of the work!

[majorfun]

Cyber is fun but unless I have a connection with the person on the other end it is just typing and blue balls for me....

[confusedman]

I had not experienced cybersex until I joined the site a short while ago. So not alot of background to go on. But I have to say that so far I am finding it similar to in person sex...some great experiences, some OK. Like Major says, alot depends on the connection you have with the other person...

[Zifnab]

I usually rate it from 1 to 5......

not sure which is best though...have to figure that part out still....

[gseven1]

that's the truth with anything - I think the real question is if you get off better on playing into a fantasy or doing the real thing

It is really nice when you can combine the two, but failing the ability to obtain the real thing, I find that cyber is a nice substitute.

[p.J]

Great as long as the language is imaginative! :)

[massage mike]

Great as long as the language is imaginative! :):lf my language wouldn't be the only thing being imaginative if i had the oportunity to play with that:nu :lf

[p.J]

:lf my language wouldn't be the only thing being imaginative if i had the oportunity to play with that:nu :lf

I can think of a few words I'd like inserted in that sentence! ;)

[fire11614]

i think its a great way to keep in touch with yourself, lol

[p.J]

i think its a great way to keep in touch with yourself, lol

:D mmmm! double entendre!

[fire11614]

but of course, and don't forget the words to live by, "its my soap and my water and I will wash it as fast as I want"

[Pebbles]

For those of you who have had cybersex over a long period of time..doesn't it get old? How do you keep it exciting and fun? Talking dirty? Playing with sex toys? I am really new at this type having sex. :)

[SirFox]

For those of you who have had cybersex over a long period of time..doesn't it get old? How do you keep it exciting and fun? Talking dirty? Playing with sex toys? I am really new at this type having sex. :)

You do need some imagination....and that may be one of the reasons you change partners readily.

[OccassionalFun]

Frankly, its hard to do it in chat - typing at the same time.

It's a lot easier with CAM but funny enough most I have been with prefer to type "mmmm", "fuck I am cumming" etc. rather than use their mics. But the BEST I ever had was a woman who called me on my cell phone while CAMing for me and talked very warm and personal in my ear and it seemed somehow more personal and very real. The computer seems to make it more of a fantasy or porno film with no real person really there even when CAM is on. But I really enjoy watching an attractive women pleasure herself with close up shots while she is telling me she wants me in there with her. Its not a regular habit though.

It can also be very exciting when the other person is doing it in a risky place on the PC. I had a young woman who was a legal secretary who would CAM with me 2-3 times per week from her office. She would have her feet up on the desk and legs spread wide and be doing herself while getting business phone calls and an occasional co worker or office mate knocked on the office door. She was caught in the act once by a female co-worker. That was a riot since the other woman waved and smiled for me on cam and was in hysterics and told me on the mic she'd like to join in too but had a meeting with the boss in a few minutes.

The other pragmatic negative is the computer seats get pre-cum all over them. Mine has a very noticeable and permanent stains down below near the edge actually. My wife gets a chuckle out of it. She knows what it is and tells me I don't get a new chair until I stain all her panties in the same way to catch her up and buy her all new replacement lingerie. :D

OF

[PlayfulMale69]

For those of you who have had cybersex over a long period of time..doesn't it get old? How do you keep it exciting and fun? Talking dirty? Playing with sex toys? I am really new at this type having sex. :)

I need a emotional connection with the other person. I want to feel wanted and desired. I have been enjoying the world of online fantasy for years. Sometimes it is only a couple of times with a person. There have been others who we have had cybersex over a period of 5 to 10 years.

Keeping it fresh is good. Much like a in person relationship you have to communicate.

So I can tell you that I truly enjoy long term cyber as long as there is desire and pleasure on both sides.

[p.J]

Originally Posted by Pebbles
For those of you who have had cybersex over a long period of time..doesn't it get old? How do you keep it exciting and fun? Talking dirty? Playing with sex toys? I am really new at this type having sex. :)


Posted by Fox

You do need some imagination....and that may be one of the reasons you change partners readily.

Ouch?

[SirFox]

Ouch?

That is not supposed to happen JENNY

[p.J]

That is not supposed to happen JENNY

:D O I don't know! :rolleyes:

[SirFox]

:D O I don't know! :rolleyes:

I wonder if it would still be as exciting as it used to be...Perhaps I should try it ....now the question is with whom... :whee:

[PlayfulMale69]

I think that cybersex is only pleasing when both partners are ready at the same time. Much like sex in real life, if I am raring to go and my partner is not, it wil not be very good for each other.

To me the cyber sex starts with a look and a smile and not ripping each other's clothes off. Of course I am more turned on by her desire than anything.

[SirFox]

I think that cybersex is only pleasing when both partners are ready at the same time. Much like sex in real life, if I am raring to go and my partner is not, it wil not be very good for each other.

To me the cyber sex starts with a look and a smile and not ripping each other's clothes off. Of course I am more turned on by her desire than anything.

do you prefer the telephone, the webcam?

[PlayfulMale69]

do you prefer the telephone, the webcam?

I rarely use the phone or webcam. The imagination with text chat is mostly what I like. That way you can get to know what pleases the other and taking slower and lasting longer can't hurt. *grin*

I do enjoy getting on the phone after I have already chatted with her a long while.

[MCat]

i think its a great way to keep in touch with yourself, lol

That's what I like about it:55

[MCat]

I wouldn't know how to rate it since I have never done it :sc

[Pebbles]

You do need some imagination....and that may be one of the reasons you change partners readily.
Ouch? Is right!! I do have a good imagination and I don't change partners readily. Besides how would you know? I have never done anything with you! I like having sex in a person to person relationship. This cybersex thing to me is something new.
Sounds like you get around and have had many partners yourself...readily! :D

[SirFox]

Ouch? Is right!! I do have a good imagination and I don't change partners readily. Besides how would you know? I have never done anything with you! I like having sex in a person to person relationship. This cybersex thing to me is something new.
Sounds like you get around and have had many partners yourself...readily! :D

I haven't cybered since 1990-

[MCat]

I haven't cybered since 1990-

Were there computers then :na

[Pebbles]

Were there computers then :na


I wondered the same thing..but then I thought of some thing else. The French and British do not like each other. We are always having words back and forth. If we didn't..everyone would wonder what is wrong with the two countries! :D :D Got to keep up appearances! :lmao

[SirFox]

I wondered the same thing..but then I thought of some thing else. The French and British do not like each other. We are having words back and forth. If we didn't..everyone would wonder what is wrong with the two countries! :D :D Got to keep up appearances! :lmao

We arer just "rude" like the Brits would say. Never did get that one...
Telephones were used before computers.... and Imagine a switchboard operator back in the 40s listening to a sex conversation... :lmao

[Pebbles]

We arer just "rude" like the Brits would say. Never did get that one...
Telephones were used before computers.... and Imagine a switchboard operator back in the 40s listening to a sex conversation... :lmao


I can imagine a switchboard operator in the States back in the 40s listening to a sex conversation. She would have been :spbx: :spbx: :whee: :whee:. ..especially in the mid-western states.
We have come along way ....bloke!! :D :D Can have a good imagination and some real fun!! :D

[PlayfulMale69]

I can imagine a switchboard operator in the States back in the 40s listening to a sex conversation. She would have been :spbx: :spbx: :whee: :whee:. ..especially in the mid-western states.
We have come along way ....bloke!! :D :D Can have a good imagination and some real fun!! :D

That operator would have been turned on and had to appear she wasn't listening or liking it. ;-)

[NYCMasterplumber]

I love cybersex as its all Im getting at the moment although the real thing is heaven, I dont mind as long as the women are not after my money if they are the camera is turned off straight away.


Norfork, that is hysterical I spewed my coffee on the new computer screen

"I dont mind as long as the women are not after my money"

Come on every man especially married guys know we all pay something in life, it is our job to spoil the female population, wifes, mother daughters girl friend and all over the above.

For many years when I had a go out on a plumbing service call I made it a point to give the lady of the house or even the maid or nanny in some cases one perfect red rose.

Reason being women need to know they are appreciated even when no sex is involved.

Nothing brights a womans face more then answering the door seeing the plumber standing there with a smile and a rose saying good morning dear lady you called my office.

Just like the accounts I go to that have a cup of coffee and an Entermans chocolate donut waiting for me...:wa::wa::wa:

[PlayfulMale69]

Norfork, that is hysterical I spewed my coffee on the new computer screen

"I dont mind as long as the women are not after my money"

Come on every man especially married guys know we all pay something in life, it is our job to spoil the female population, wifes, mother daughters girl friend and all over the above.

For many years when I had a go out on a plumbing service call I made it a point to give the lady of the house or even the maid or nanny in some cases one perfect red rose.

Reason being women need to know they are appreciated even when no sex is involved.

Nothing brights a womans face more then answering the door seeing the plumber standing there with a smile and a rose saying good morning dear lady you called my office.

Just like the accounts I go to that have a cup of coffee and an Entermans chocolate donut waiting for me...:wa::wa::wa:

Yes, I agree that women want to be appreciated in spite of sex. I would content that men want more than sex. Sex by itself is okay, but sex with a relationship or a connection is very very good.

[pointofnoreturn]

Yes, I agree that women want to be appreciated in spite of sex. I would content that men want more than sex. Sex by itself is okay, but sex with a relationship or a connection is very very good.Connect to my computer, and we will see how good it is.......:wa:

[MagicalMerlin]

Oh my that is just too funny! A real risk taker that legal secretary was. I bet her face was beat red when her co-worked magically popped through the once thought locked door. Now I know the real secret of your wealth and what you have truly been investing in!:whee:

I'll also steer clear of any office chairs whenever we are over your way.:D

Wow, I got a good laugh out of this one! Thanks!

Merlin


Frankly, its hard to do it in chat - typing at the same time.

It's a lot easier with CAM but funny enough most I have been with prefer to type "mmmm", "fuck I am cumming" etc. rather than use their mics. But the BEST I ever had was a woman who called me on my cell phone while CAMing for me and talked very warm and personal in my ear and it seemed somehow more personal and very real. The computer seems to make it more of a fantasy or porno film with no real person really there even when CAM is on. But I really enjoy watching an attractive women pleasure herself with close up shots while she is telling me she wants me in there with her. Its not a regular habit though.

It can also be very exciting when the other person is doing it in a risky place on the PC. I had a young woman who was a legal secretary who would CAM with me 2-3 times per week from her office. She would have her feet up on the desk and legs spread wide and be doing herself while getting business phone calls and an occasional co worker or office mate knocked on the office door. She was caught in the act once by a female co-worker. That was a riot since the other woman waved and smiled for me on cam and was in hysterics and told me on the mic she'd like to join in too but had a meeting with the boss in a few minutes.

The other pragmatic negative is the computer seats get pre-cum all over them. Mine has a very noticeable and permanent stains down below near the edge actually. My wife gets a chuckle out of it. She knows what it is and tells me I don't get a new chair until I stain all her panties in the same way to catch her up and buy her all new replacement lingerie. :D

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[Dmy]

I have to say its been quite a nice little surprise of excitement........!

[SaugusSlipknot]

I give it a big thumbs up cybersex.

[Suz]

Well I thought it was ok till I discovered phone sex....O M G...now that is hot! ;) Nothing compares to that for me...

[SaugusSlipknot]

Suz you one upped my, I agree

[Wet Beaver]

Well I thought it was ok till I discovered phone sex....O M G...now that is hot! ;) Nothing compares to that for me...

not even real sex??

[Suz]

not even real sex??

If I gotta have fake sex...I would rather it be phone sex. I'll take real sex everyday of the freakin' week....man I miss sex...good times, good times;)

[Wet Beaver]

If I gotta have fake sex...I would rather it be phone sex. I'll take real sex everyday of the freakin' week....man I miss sex...good times, good times;)

i really don't like either........ i love the touching....

[Cotties]

why didn't you say so......I thought you were just playing hard to geti really don't like either........ i love the touching....

[romanceman71]

Phone sex or voice chat online with cam only done it 2 or 3 times but was great

[thickitalian]

Online relationships can be very touchy. We all laugh, cry and have cyber sex with each other.I think if you are true to yourself and careful you can have a healthy one, and some can lead to other things. But always keep a wall up, there are some not so nice people out there, and with our world these days, unforturnatly there out there. Just be careful and yes question there motives. Better to be safe than sorry.

Peaches...excellent advice! :55

[Rmb]

Amen to that. Too often we look at our spouse as the cause, rather than our own contribution to the breakdown of our marriage. It takes two.

Most broken marriages have their beginning in "I love you".

And yes, I agree Jazzy, it takes two to tango...In seeking causes of lots of marriage breakups we should remember, when we reflect on our spouses, that the home also has mirrors.
Some marriages are unfixable true...but how many lives would be better lived with compromise than dissolution?

[MagicalMerlin]

Amen to that. Too often we look at our spouse as the cause, rather than our own contribution to the breakdown of our marriage. It takes two.

Agree there 100% Jazzy! Yes too often it is easier to place the blame than it is to be accountable and resposible for our own actions. To try and avoid such matters, Merlin and I make list and update them often (every few months) of the the things we like and dislike about each other. We keep them in plain view as a reminder. We then try to do more of the things that the other likes and avoid the things we don't like. At first the negatives were a little more than the positives. Now each of us only has a few bad one on our list. It also serves as a reminder of how we can each improve, yet it also shows a list of why we love each other so much, especially we he have bad days. Disputes, if needed, we walk away. That was hard for me at first I have to admit. Yet we have a rule that the issue MUST BE resolved with 24 hours. When we talk about it we are more apt to be calm and clear headed. We look at what was each of our contibutions that cause the dispute in the first place. Finally we take responsiblity and remain accountable for our actions instead of placing blame and look for a resolve. It sounds silly, but it really works for us and rarely do we have a dispute.

Nina

[jeromemoreau]

The point is :
are we able to do the crossover from Cyber to Real ? What happens when first met on the net, then having sex on the real world after months penpaling and you fail the real relationship ? Great probabilities you lost your penpal too...

[LdyPiscean]

Hi I'm new here and I to:dd like flirting, it's harmless. I agree We are all here to fulfill some kind of void in our lives. Good healthy adult conversation, as some would say 'Cyber flirting' is a safe way of venting frustrations without crossing the line. It's only harmful when we lose ourselves in a relationship that is not real and would probably never happen. At what cost are you really willing to do that? :55

[northernvam]

Hi I'm new here and I to:dd like flirting, it's harmless. I agree We are all here to fulfill some kind of void in our lives. Good healthy adult conversation, as some would say 'Cyber flirting' is a safe way of venting frustrations without crossing the line. It's only harmful when we lose ourselves in a relationship that is not real and would probably never happen. At what cost are you really willing to do that? :55

When you talk about a line .. is that the dashed white line, the solid white line, or is it the double solid yellow lines?

[cherokeered]

Hi I'm new here and I to:dd like flirting, it's harmless. I agree We are all here to fulfill some kind of void in our lives. Good healthy adult conversation, as some would say 'Cyber flirting' is a safe way of venting frustrations without crossing the line. It's only harmful when we lose ourselves in a relationship that is not real and would probably never happen. At what cost are you really willing to do that? :55

welcome to the site hun....happy flirting.....:wa:

[scoobertina]

Hi I'm new here and I to:dd like flirting, it's harmless. I agree We are all here to fulfill some kind of void in our lives. Good healthy adult conversation, as some would say 'Cyber flirting' is a safe way of venting frustrations without crossing the line. It's only harmful when we lose ourselves in a relationship that is not real and would probably never happen. At what cost are you really willing to do that? :55


Hmmm... :scyou want to make me think? I won't be losing myself in any unreal relationship. That is why I am here. ENjoy the site.:)

[majorfun]

She HAS NEVER HAD A CYBER RELATIONSHIP

[dan1961]

i have...and it can be lots of fun and at other times..very frustrating...

[scoobertina]

She HAS NEVER HAD A CYBER RELATIONSHIP
Major, I know you aren't talking about me.... Oh wait, that wasn't you was it... :D. I meant that I may lose myself while cyber relating, but I wouldn't dream of losing the reality..... Again, wait, maybe I have already lost reality.... Hmmm.. I better go have another drink... Rum and Coke anyone? ;)