Friends or Lovers?

[spare_change]

A recent issue of Readers Digest had a series of the 25 toughest questions. One of the was whether men and women can be just friends.

So, I put the question to you --- can a man and woman be just friends, never to think of moving the relationship ahead? Can it be truly platonic, or is a platonic relationship just one that hasn't moved to the next level? Are guys always looking to score? Are women always measuring each man as a potential mate?


Can men and women just be friends?

[spare_change]

I have lots of platonic women friends --- but only because they have signalled, either consciously or unconsciously, that they aren't interested in moving to more intimate matters. Each was queried, one way or another, and each signalled no.

Thank God it wasn't all of them !!!!

[Jy]

Great question Spare!!

I'll speak from my own experience, as I don't know what other women think, and I more I learn, the more I realize I do NOT think like other woman!
I think at some point during the relationship, the issue of sex always comes into play, but it's not necessarily discussed. There are some men who are out of bounds, like good friends's husbands, but even then, I find myself checking them out and wondering how they look naked, and what they're like in bed.
When it comes to the rest of the male population, the same thing goes, but when I was single, I really considered the possibility more, as the relationship could always become physical given the chemistry and if I decided to act on any attraction I might feel.
I have male friends who I haven't had sex with.(insert smartass comment here) I have discussed having sex with some of them and the reasons we should or shouldn't, and there are others who I wasn't sexually attracted to, so the topic didn't come up. I know there's been a couple who were drawn to me but never brought the topic up. But, like I said, some time or another, the sex thing comes up and one needs to deal with it, either coming to terms on their own, or talking about with the other person.

[tiger50]

subject way too complex for a simple ozzie...

soooo tossin a coin... heads ,answer =yes.:55

[Cotties]

Can it be truly platonic? Thats a big no for me. It sounds horrible but I have troubles with women who I'm not attracted to. I don't want to talk to them, eat lunch with them or let alone call them a friend.

I wish it wasn't like that but it is for me....

[tess]

Yes, I Think That Men And Women Can Be Just Friends....not Likely...but Possible

[Shiane]

Sure it's possible, but whats the fun in that?

[Norfolkdave]

Yes men and women can be friends for a brief moment in time.

[sex_kitten_4u]

yes man and women can just be friends , i have a few male friends and have never lloked at them as anything else

[Sandy]

yes men and woman can be friends, i have several man friends. sex has never been a issue with us.

[G...G]

I have guy friends and sex has never been an issue!!

[tiger50]

I have guy friends and sex has never been an issue!!

yeh but wat appens wen u stop givvin it to em..... jk.... :lmao

[Zifnab]

but if you ladies knew what was REALLY going through the minds of those men..... I can say with fairly high level of confidence that the idea of sex HAS come up....in their minds, and most likely in their pants as well....
It is possible for DEEP friendships on a plutonic level to exist... but there will be issues of sexual tension until the topic is discussed. Once it is out in the open things can proceed onward....
So for the record, I like to picture all of you women here naked, and me ravishing you....
that said, can we be friends now???

[tiger50]

but if you ladies knew what was REALLY going through the minds of those men..... I can say with fairly high level of confidence that the idea of sex HAS come up....in their minds, and most likely in their pants as well....
It is possible for DEEP friendships on a plutonic level to exist... but there will be issues of sexual tension until the topic is discussed. Once it is out in the open things can proceed onward....
So for the record, I like to picture all of you women here naked, and me ravishing you....
that said, can we be friends now???

umm go bak ta ya brekkie mate... :sc

[Zifnab]

umm go bak ta ya brekkie mate... :scI can't with that ......damn it man!!!! Cover that shite UP!!! For the love of GOD!!! :vs:

[Shiane]

but if you ladies knew what was REALLY going through the minds of those men..... I can say with fairly high level of confidence that the idea of sex HAS come up....in their minds, and most likely in their pants as well....
It is possible for DEEP friendships on a plutonic level to exist... but there will be issues of sexual tension until the topic is discussed. Once it is out in the open things can proceed onward....
So for the record, I like to picture all of you women here naked, and me ravishing you....
that said, can we be friends now???

Maybe those men weren't the only ones with sex on their mind.:sc

[tiger50]

I can't with that ......damn it man!!!! Cover that shite UP!!! For the love of GOD!!! :vs:

its ok man, cought it up.. now come over ere mate.... :lf

[Zifnab]

Maybe those men weren't the only ones with sex on their mind.:scHONESTY!!!! it is so nice to see! love the signature line by the way..... used to run one!(oh my!!!)

[Shiane]

HONESTY!!!! it is so nice to see! love the signature line by the way..... used to run one!(oh my!!!)

Laffs I didn't think anyone would get it! :kk

[Zifnab]

Laffs I didn't think anyone would get it! :kk11 years worth of experience out there....Yeah, I GOT it!!!!:D

[tiger50]

11 years worth of experience out there....Yeah, I GOT it!!!!:D

oh yeh so did i, ope u shave babe.... :whee:

[Shiane]

oh yeh so did i, ope u shave babe.... :whee:

Uhhhhhhh huh!;)

[Zifnab]

oh yeh so did i, ope u shave babe.... :whee:isn't it time for your treaments again??? your medications seem to be wearing off!:nu

[sweet]

Alright, back to the orignal topic of this thread!


I do think that a man and woman can be platonic friends. I have several male friends that I could never think of in any other way. Now, that's not to say I have never been attracted to some friends and some of them have never been attracted to me. But, if I were to ever act on that attraction, I would be afraid of loosing a great friend. I don't think that I would persue it unless it was something I just couldn't deny and the feeling was mutual between the two of us.

[Zifnab]

Alright, back to the orignal topic of this thread!

there was one???? why would we want to go back to that??? I don't like having my ego crushed by finding out that some women are not lusting after me!!:wa:


you are still so darn cute!!

[tiger50]

isn't it time for your treaments again??? your medications seem to be wearing off!:nu

aww bugga we nearly hi-jakked it... :lmao

[Barkiss]

Excellent subject Spare...and one I have thought about for a long time, because I have always been curious if I would find that one girl to be just friends with...

From a man's perspective, I do not believe men and women can be "just friends". I think men and women can act as friends, and never participate in sexual activities, but the sexual undertones are always present. Maybe they don't want to lose the friendship, or maybe neither has the guts to make the first move, or maybe (god forbid) they have a conscious; but regardless one or both of them have thought about having sex with the other.

[Annie]

Sure it's possible, but only if one of them is gay.

[Barkiss]

Sure it's possible, but only if one of them is gay.

Oh yeah...forgot about that scenario...;)

But don't let WB fool ya...she does want me! ;)

[sweet]

Sure it's possible, but only if one of them is gay.

LOL Funny you should mention this because most of the male friends I have that are "just friends" to me are in fact gay. Guess I didn't stop to think about that one! :lmao

[sweetgapeach]

Sure it's possible, but only if one of them is gay.



I had a Gay guy as my Friend during school , and what a waste , but at the sametime , dont think he didnt bring the subject up .

[Zifnab]

Sure it's possible, but only if one of them is gay.only if it is the guy!! cause a straight guy will still think about being there for a threesome!

[Annie]

LOL Funny you should mention this because most of the male friends I have that are "just friends" to me are in fact gay. Guess I didn't stop to think about that one! :lmao

Yeah me too, ever since I went to cosmetology school! I don't think I'll ever go to a strait hairdresser again!

[Annie]

But don't let WB fool ya...she does want me! ;)



don't we all?

[Barkiss]

don't we all?

I can always hope...;)

[Zifnab]

I can always hope...;)ok ok so the secret is out!!! its those puppy dog eyes!!:kk

[Barkiss]

ok ok so the secret is out!!! its those puppy dog eyes!!:kk

Damn!! Thought it was the length of my tongue!

[Sandy]

its the eyes that catch our attention, its the tongue that keeps us cumming back. :lmao














Damn!! Thought it was the length of my tongue!

[G...G]

Good one Sandy........

[sweet]

its the eyes that catch our attention, its the tongue that keeps us cumming back. :lmao

:D :55

[Barkiss]

its the eyes that catch our attention, its the tongue that keeps us cumming back. :lmao

Which proves my point that men and women can't be friends ;)...or that dog is "woman's" best friend?"

[sweetgapeach]

Which proves my point that men and women can't be friends ;)...or that dog is "woman's" best friend?"



That Dog's My bestfriend !! :D

[Traxster]

Hmmmmmmmmm good question for thought....I really think most guys and Ladies have full intension of being friends but just by the nature of the beast the more you get to know each other and start to think about each other more often at least some feelings have to arise. You may never act on them or you may.....But its hard not to think about it.....:D

[sweetgapeach]

Hmmmmmmmmm good question for thought....I really think most guys and Ladies have full intension of being friends but just by the nature of the beast the more you get to know each other and start to think about each other more often at least some feelings have to arise. You may never act on them or you may.....But its hard not to think about it.....:D


Thats true

[Traxster]

Thats true

I'm glad you agree alot of people think thats crazy.....:D

[sweetgapeach]

I'm glad you agree alot of people think thats crazy.....:D


I really believe its Human nature

[sweet]

I really believe its Human nature

That's true. It's something that can be very difficult to fight.

[Traxster]

I really believe its Human nature

Totally...........When the heart is in play anything is possible....:D

[Annie]

Hmmmmmmmmm good question for thought....I really think most guys and Ladies have full intension of being friends but just by the nature of the beast the more you get to know each other and start to think about each other more often at least some feelings have to arise. You may never act on them or you may.....But its hard not to think about it.....:D

That fits right in there with the saying... "I didn't mean to fall in love, it just happened" or "I didn't mean to have sex with him, it was just one of those things." When it comes to affairs of the heart you might as well just throw out the rule book and any expectations you might have, it's never going to go along as planned! And by the way Trax... it's a lot more than just feelings that will "arise"!

[sweet]

That fits right in there with the saying... "I didn't mean to fall in love, it just happened" or "I didn't mean to have sex with him, it was just one of those things." When it comes to affairs of the heart you might as well just throw out the rule book and any expectations you might have, it's never going to go along as planned! And by the way Trax... it's a lot more than just feelings that will "arise"!

Couldn't have said it better myself girl! :55

[Zpanther]

Yeah this is an interesting one. Considering most men think about sex at least once or twice a minute, I think it's fairly safe to assume that sex with an attractive female friend just might occur at some point during their time spent with each other. Being totally honest here, I'm sort of like Cotties that way though. If I don't find the female attractive, those thoughts don't occur near as frequently, although thinking about it, they probably do occur at some point.

Can a man and a woman be friends without ever engaging in sex? Well I've had sex with several women I didn't live with and lived with 2 different women for several months that I didn't have sex with, so it can definitely happen..... and one of 'em was very attractive and a very good friend. I don't know though. If a man and a woman spend enough time together they'll probably eventually get around to it, even if there isn't a strong mutual attraction.

It's not unusual for a group of guys to be sitting together and have one make a comment something to the affect, '"Damn she's hot. I wonder if she fucks?" Well of course she does, but she might not be interested in him and that's what he really meant. If you put a man and a woman alone together on a tropical island with no idea when they might be able to be rescued I think it's safe to assume that they would eventually get around to sex with each other. It's just a matter of competition, opportunity and timing.

[Cotties]

There are exceptions.........I have a very close friend coming to see me next week. The exception to the rule is if it is a close friends wife or longtime partner. I would never hurt a friends love life. It also helps if she doesn't go flashing her breasts at me in a tight shirt.Can it be truly platonic? Thats a big no for me. It sounds horrible but I have troubles with women who I'm not attracted to. I don't want to talk to them, eat lunch with them or let alone call them a friend.

I wish it wasn't like that but it is for me....

[Sunder61]

It's really a matter of what you mean by friend. Get too close and the same things that attract friendship can attract sex in the opposit sex. You have to control the situations that you put yourself in and actually decide what you are really after. Screw being honest with him/her be honest with yourself first.

A lot simpler that way.

[Zifnab]

There are several women in my aquaintance that I would NEVER attempt to sleep with.....The thought is rather revolting, but I know that because the thought has been there. I did NOT fantasize about them, I did not nor do now, feel any form of affection along those lines. Yes the two can be friends WITHOUT sex as a part of the relationship, but the thought has ALWAYS crossed my mind. Usually immediately rejected, but it was there.

[spjimbo]

There are several women in my aquaintance that I would NEVER attempt to sleep with.....The thought is rather revolting, but I know that because the thought has been there. I did NOT fantasize about them, I did not nor do now, feel any form of affection along those lines. Yes the two can be friends WITHOUT sex as a part of the relationship, but the thought has ALWAYS crossed my mind. Usually immediately rejected, but it was there.

I agree with Zif, the thought always crosses my mind. I had several very close female friends before I got married(2 I almost did the nasty with), but after getting married I don't seem to have as many.

[sex_kitten_4u]

I agree with Zif, the thought always crosses my mind. I had several very close female friends before I got married(2 I almost did the nasty with), but after getting married I don't seem to have as many.



i had just as many male friends if not more after i got married and we are all still friends

[WandaRing]

Yes, I can be just friends with a guy and no I don’t judge each guy as “husband material” or a sex buddy. I am able to see a friend (male or female) not what lies between their legs.

[cheerymissy_34]

yea i dont understand this..my husband and most of the guys i know dont think men and woman can be just friends

but i have alot of guy friends..no i dont think about having sex with them..they r people to hang out with,tell r troubles too...just friends

[AffableOne]

I have many female friends that I enjoy solely as friends.......never thought of having more than that with them.

[Han Solo]

yea i dont understand this..my husband and most of the guys i know dont think men and woman can be just friends

but i have alot of guy friends..no i dont think about having sex with them..they r people to hang out with,tell r troubles too...just friends
present company excluded I'm sure! LOL

[Domus]

Very interesting question :) and tricky situation :)
It depends, on emotions involved.
Friendship often ends in love; but love in friendship - never.

[cheerymissy_34]

present company excluded I'm sure! LOL

ohhh yea u dont count ..i just want to have some wild crazy sex with u..:sex

[wall-flower]

I always preferred hanging with guys. It was always kept platonic. After a few beers we might get a bit flirty, but nothing ever happened. There was never any lingering sexual tension. From my side I can say I never saw them as more then friends.

[spare_change]

I always preferred hanging with guys. It was always kept platonic. After a few beers we might get a bit flirty, but nothing ever happened. There was never any lingering sexual tension. From my side I can say I never saw them as more then friends.


.... but they, on the other hand, in the tradition of males everywhere, were absolutely convinced that you wanted them, and went home immediately and masturbated furiously at the very thought of you.

[MCat]

I refuse to answer on the grounds it may incriminate me....

[spare_change]

I refuse to answer on the grounds it may incriminate me....



Awwww, c'mon--- be incriminated. We won't tell !!!

[wall-flower]

.... but they, on the other hand, in the tradition of males everywhere, were absolutely convinced that you wanted them, and went home immediately and masturbated furiously at the very thought of you.

Ah well good friends are suppose to help you in a time of need. ;)

[scoobertina]

I have many female friends that I enjoy solely as friends.......never thought of having more than that with them.

So that is why I can't make you scream my name? hmmm friends only darn it...

[Sneaky]

I have many female friends that I enjoy solely as friends.......never thought of having more than that with them.

Yeah, fine. Whatever.

[paris]

I have many female friends that I enjoy solely as friends.......never thought of having more than that with them.
:lmao You're losing us one by one here, Aff...

[scoobertina]

:lmao You're losing us one by one here, Aff...

LOL.... he is isn't he.... :lmao

[paris]

LOL.... he is isn't he.... :lmao

yup! and now we're wise to him~but he's too sweet to get angry with now isn't he?

[Sneaky]

[/QUOTE] You're losing us one by one here, Aff...

[QUOTE=scoobertina]LOL.... he is isn't he.... :lmao

Yeah. :gs Such hot friends and you never even thought about it?

[scoobertina]

yup! and now we're wise to him~but he's too sweet to get angry with now isn't he?

Gotta love this one.. and I can't stay mad at him.. he is way to sweet...

[longing for passion]

Absolutely, I think men and women can be just friends.

Most of my very best friends are women. I truely believe for one to be a well centered male, and to maintain a healthy sensitivity to a woman's needs, one must have a well-rounded group of female friends.

At the same time, caution must be exercised when those female friends are unbelievably sexy....because hot friends can quickly turn into wonderful lovers...er, uh...so I'm told.:D

[scoobertina]

You're losing us one by one here, Aff...



Yeah. :gs Such hot friends and you never even thought about it?

I bet he thought about it Sneaky, I am pretty sure at one time he did...;)

[AffableOne]

I guess I better clarify....

While I do have many female friends that I have never thought about in a more intimate way, I also have many female friends that are fun, witty, and attractive....
and we are just friends.

[Sneaky]

I guess I better clarify....

While I do have many female friends that I have never thought about in a more intimate way, I also have many female friends that are fun, witty, and attractive....
and we are just friends.

Excellent save! :55

[MCat]

I guess I better clarify....

While I do have many female friends that I have never thought about in a more intimate way, I also have many female friends that are fun, witty, and attractive....
and we are just friends.

That's what the guys in high school said about me....fun, witty and attractive...they said I was the girl you married, not the one you screwed.
I so wanted to be screwed....:D

[AffableOne]

That's what the guys in high school said about me....fun, witty and attractive...they said I was the girl you married, not the one you screwed.
I so wanted to be screwed....:D

I was a guy with many girls who were friends, but not really girlfriends......

they all told me how sweet I was...

I wanted to be "hot"...

[MCat]

I was a guy with many girls who were friends, but not really girlfriends......

they all told me how sweet I was...

I wanted to be "hot"...

We were un-hot together....:D

[AffableOne]

We were un-hot together....:D

Well, better late then ........

;)

[PlayfulMale69]

That's what the guys in high school said about me....fun, witty and attractive...they said I was the girl you married, not the one you screwed.
I so wanted to be screwed....:D

I thought I sat behind you in English class and I so wanted to screw you. :kk

[duanehofner]

Sure they can

[deercrow]

I say they can be just friends...had plenty of male friends in my life time..lok at most of them as a brother, and I wouldnt sleep with my brother, so I can honestly say yes males and females can be friends.....

[PlayfulMale69]

I say they can be just friends...had plenty of male friends in my life time..lok at most of them as a brother, and I wouldnt sleep with my brother, so I can honestly say yes males and females can be friends.....

I too have had a lot of lady friends, but I have never been intimate with them. I wonder if after flirting and telling each other intimate details how easy it would be to keep a distance.

[deercrow]

I too have had a lot of lady friends, but I have never been intimate with them. I wonder if after flirting and telling each other intimate details how easy it would be to keep a distance.
I think that would depend on the people involved....personally I have talked aout intamate things with male friends and have helped me,..after all "Isn't that what friends are for?"

[PlayfulMale69]

I think that would depend on the people involved....personally I have talked aout intamate things with male friends and have helped me,..after all "Isn't that what friends are for?"

That is true, as have I talked about intimate things. But dreaming of being with that person and pretending to do all sorts of things togegther has never been done with any of my friends in person.

I am just saying it would be interesting if there were any barriers removed because of online discourse.

[living to Flirt]

That's what the guys in high school said about me....fun, witty and attractive...they said I was the girl you married, not the one you screwed.
I so wanted to be screwed....:D

Why did I never find the girls that wanted to be screwed in school?

[PlayfulMale69]

Why did I never find the girls that wanted to be screwed in school?

I was thinking the same thing. Just think if you knew then what you know now about sex-a-peal and how to be confident around a sexy women. I believe we had our tongues hanging out of our mouth and making such a pest of ourselves they would never have wanted to screw us. Or me anyway. :D

[thickitalian]

Friends are so cool but I find that internet friends are quite different in many respects. We find out more about one another then our spouses know in many cases and also should we make friends at this site....how could you ever rule out intimacy? We are all here for intimacy in some way shape or form, even if we will not admit to to ourselves or others. You tell me that if any one of your good internet friends, asked to be intimate....would you say no? just like that?

Thick's thoughts


I guess I better clarify....

While I do have many female friends that I have never thought about in a more intimate way, I also have many female friends that are fun, witty, and attractive....
and we are just friends.

[dartgirl]

I was thinking the same thing. Just think if you knew then what you know now about sex-a-peal and how to be confident around a sexy women. I believe we had our tongues hanging out of our mouth and making such a pest of ourselves they would never have wanted to screw us. Or me anyway. :D

It was probably because the ones you had your tongue hanging out after were the built cheerleader types. The ones you should have been chasing were the shy girls in glasses that weren't as sure of themselves, a little bit of attention and you could of had the moon or something else.....;)

[whosdaflirt]

Lovers fulfill a moment. Friends fulfill for a lifetime. I've been reminded of that recently, and hope I never forget it again...

[IMaLady]

Men and women can be just friends. I have many male friends over the year that I have never thought of sexually.

[Phlirt]

Men and women can be just friends. I have many male friends over the year that I have never thought of sexually.

Not to sound sexist... but I wonder how many men can say the same...

Like on "When Harry Met Sally"... was Billy Crystal right when he said every man still thinks he'd like to bang her? Even though they might not act on it or mention it?

[IMaLady]

Thats a very good point. A few of the men I was really good friends have married my best girl friends.

[Sneaky]

I am great friends with gay guys. I know they don't want to get busy. LOL. Otherwise, no matter what, there is that sexual tension there. It may be thought of briefly and quickly dismissed for various reasons, but it's there for one- could be the woman or the man, usually....

[whosdaflirt]

Not to sound sexist... but I wonder how many men can say the same...

Like on "When Harry Met Sally"... was Billy Crystal right when he said every man still thinks he'd like to bang her? Even though they might not act on it or mention it?

But isn't that in and of itself saying something? That a man can find a woman attractive sexually, but respects her and her friendship enough that he would never think of pressing it further? There are women here I find very attractive but due to their own situations I would never ask more of them than a friendship.

To me, it's about respecting what she wants and needs from the relationship. And if all she needs is a friend, then that's all I will be.

[Phlirt]

But isn't that in and of itself saying something? That a man can find a woman attractive sexually, but respects her and her friendship enough that he would never think of pressing it further? There are women here I find very attractive but due to their own situations I would never ask more of them than a friendship.

To me, it's about respecting what she wants and needs from the relationship. And if all she needs is a friend, then that's all I will be.

Oh yes, I didn't mean anything negative about it, just that I think its a fact that most men think sexually of women they come into contact with. The difference between a good man and a bad man is knowing when its appropriate to act on it :whee:

[IMaLady]

But isn't that in and of itself saying something? That a man can find a woman attractive sexually, but respects her and her friendship enough that he would never think of pressing it further? There are women here I find very attractive but due to their own situations I would never ask more of them than a friendship.

To me, it's about respecting what she wants and needs from the relationship. And if all she needs is a friend, then that's all I will be.




And thats why you make such a good friend.:kk

[Sneaky]

But isn't that in and of itself saying something? That a man can find a woman attractive sexually, but respects her and her friendship enough that he would never think of pressing it further? There are women here I find very attractive but due to their own situations I would never ask more of them than a friendship.

To me, it's about respecting what she wants and needs from the relationship. And if all she needs is a friend, then that's all I will be.

I agree, but the thought is there and that is what makes it different. Not bad or good, just different.

[onceamarine]

Not to sound sexist... but I wonder how many men can say the same...

Like on "When Harry Met Sally"... was Billy Crystal right when he said every man still thinks he'd like to bang her? Even though they might not act on it or mention it?

At first I thought that I have a few female friends that I would not sleep with. However, now that I think about it I have at least thought about what it would be like with each one. As it is I don't really find myself attracted to my closest female friend, so it is easy to keep her in my mind as a friend. That being said I have on more than one occasion wondered what it would be like to have sex with her. I have also thought that she may be easier because she isn't really attractive. Granted I haven't gone as far as to masturbate to the thought of her, but I would be lying if I said it never crossed my mind. So, now I am confused. She is still a close friend, but I would never have sex with her, and it has never been an issue with us. I don't know the answer anymore. Heck, maybe I don't know the question after all.

[Phlirt]

At first I thought that I have a few female friends that I would not sleep with. However, now that I think about it I have at least thought about what it would be like with each one. As it is I don't really find myself attracted to my closest female friend, so it is easy to keep her in my mind as a friend. That being said I have on more than one occasion wondered what it would be like to have sex with her. I have also thought that she may be easier because she isn't really attractive. Granted I haven't gone as far as to masturbate to the thought of her, but I would be lying if I said it never crossed my mind. So, now I am confused. She is still a close friend, but I would never have sex with her, and it has never been an issue with us. I don't know the answer anymore. Heck, maybe I don't know the question after all.

You shouldn't be confused, you answered my question. At least one guy's point of view, so thank you. Just because you've had a sexual thought or two doesn't make her less of a friend... just makes you a guy :na

Now I'm not saying women don't do it too... I just think maybe on a less frequent basis... at least in my case, I rarely think of what it would be like with anyone I meet.

[AffableOne]

Friends are so cool but I find that internet friends are quite different in many respects. We find out more about one another then our spouses know in many cases and also should we make friends at this site....how could you ever rule out intimacy? We are all here for intimacy in some way shape or form, even if we will not admit to to ourselves or others. You tell me that if any one of your good internet friends, asked to be intimate....would you say no? just like that?

Thick's thoughts

yes.

I came here looking for friends that might also be intimate, but I found a relationship that makes all others pale by comparison...

[TheTurtle]

I agree with sneaky. In any meeting/relationship with opposite sexes (assuming you are hetero), the question/tension of sex will float over the relationship until it is clearly resolved. Note that doesn't necessarily mean sopken about; there are many nonverbal and societal cues that can come into play to help us make the decision.

[scoobertina]

I still want both rolled into one,...

[deercrow]

Friends are so cool but I find that internet friends are quite different in many respects. We find out more about one another then our spouses know in many cases and also should we make friends at this site....how could you ever rule out intimacy? We are all here for intimacy in some way shape or form, even if we will not admit to to ourselves or others. You tell me that if any one of your good internet friends, asked to be intimate....would you say no? just like that?

Thick's thoughts
intamacy is a touch subject when dealing with friends....but like you said with online friends and lovers, we seem to share more with them than our own spouses...I think that is due to we don't judge one other here like we do with the people we deal with everyday....we seem to have more understanding and patiences here..and open mindedness...,

[likesbuttons]

Ok, I'll see if I can spill my beans without being too honest....lol...

I've had many female friends, but I always realize that for me, I befriend women that I'm attracted to for the most part. I know it makes me seem shallow, but I really do enjoy being with women even though we're not getting it on. I've even had some of the best times with women I've never fooled around with........but I've always been willing if the ocasion was to present itself.........

Am I bad for being like this? .....

[PlayfulMale69]

Not to sound sexist... but I wonder how many men can say the same...

Like on "When Harry Met Sally"... was Billy Crystal right when he said every man still thinks he'd like to bang her? Even though they might not act on it or mention it?

Interesting thought Phoenix. I can tell you that I am only horny and thinking of sex when I am breathing. :D

I have had female friends that I never thought of banging. Some of them are hot looking and some are just one of the guys if you know what I mean. I don't agree that men automatically think about banging every girl they meet. But if the girl flirts, gives a look and she is desireable, it sure does come to my mind. :kk

[spare_change]

Interesting thought Phoenix. I can tell you that I am only horny and thinking of sex when I am breathing. :D

I have had female friends that I never thought of banging. Some of them are hot looking and some are just one of the guys if you know what I mean. I don't agree that men automatically think about banging every girl they meet. But if the girl flirts, gives a look and she is desireable, it sure does come to my mind. :kk


Yes, they do.

It's a filter we run them thru.

[hank69]

Why did I never find the girls that wanted to be screwed in school?


I never did ether....:cry:....must have been a reason...:sc...beats me what it was...

[whosdaflirt]

I still want both rolled into one,...

You'll find him Scoob...it just takes patience, time, and maybe a little bit of luck.

[mrh50]

And thats why you make such a good friend.:kk


Wish I could catch up with you so we could chat

[simplygrace]

Yes diffently men and women can be friends.:wa:

[Nick182]

Yes for me. Most of my best friends are women. In fact, I have few male friends. I just don't relate to men too well (most men).

[Sensual Woman]

yes for me too. I get along much better with men - always have. I have always had male friends.

[househub]

male friends you can call names and make fun of and tell them to go blank themselves, female friends you must treat nicely and make them laugh, i wish i had more of both you cant have too many

[ksue7274]

I think the only way you can be friends is if there is no physical attraction between the two of you.

[Dir]

YES they can be friends ...and the best ones :knuddel:

[Torin]

I think it is very possible to JUST be friends with a member of the opposite sex. Most of my friends are guys, and I never even see them in a sexual way, and I am pretty sure they feel the same way about me.

[fourisit]

I think the only way you can be friends is if there is no physical attraction between the two of you.

I agree with you
I have a lot of guy friends and they are just that friends but i am not attracted to them in any way but I have a few guy friends that we flirt like crazy probably wont cross any lines but never say never right.

[motown9300]

I think you are all wrong giving the chance I think most guys would jump girls they are friends with. Determining what that chance is the tricky part.

[fourisit]

i was just commenting on what I would do but I agree most men will take any almost any willing women.

[Wil]

twenty-five years ago I would have said no...I have some very attractive young female friends at present...maybe it's the fatherly figure thing...:sc

[inquisitive]

I would think so. Don't see why not.

[drem]

i think so

[phantasm]

yes, of course. I wouldn't want to sleep with all my girl friends, it would probably end up ruining a quite a few friendships.

[salvatore_50]

Yes women and men can be friends! But as a man I very often find myself thinking about my women Fred's and what it be like to make love to them!

[salvatore_50]

The tough of having an affair with my friend, the wife of my best friend, drives me nuts! How sweet it be to do her... yeah I know I am nuts? Maybe
hehehehehehehhe

[pagirl]

Yes women and men can be friends! But as a man I very often find myself thinking about my women Fred's and what it be like to make love to them!

women FRED's hmmmmmm:sc

[stucknmarriage74(f)]

Yes i think so.....used to have a lot of male friends then i got married and hubby was jealous, so the only male friends i have now are here at M$F

[yaser]

Yes i think so.....used to have a lot of male friends then i got married and hubby was jealous, so the only male friends i have now are here at M$F
Am I one of them?

[private beaches]

Yes, I have friends who are men, but if there's any chemistry/attraction between the two of you then things can get a little challenging, not impossible, just a challenge to maintain that friendship if the physical relationship doesnt work.

[JackofTrades103]

yes we can be "just" friends i have some

[Lacey]

I think it's very possible.I have 2 brothers,I'm use to guys around and just see them as guys,not in any sexual way.I have a few that are my bestfriends.

[sexytiger]

Lovers or Friends that is the question;

The question here is the chemistry well you are together. For me it would be hard to be just friends if there are any sparks.

[pagirl]

Lovers or Friends that is the question;

The question here is the chemistry well you are together. For me it would be hard to be just friends if there are any sparks.


And tell me darling how often are there sparks??? :sc

[Charmed]

He is both.... I am a lucky woman :)

[biker-69s]

I have a lot of female friends.....but I do want some of them......

[miamiman]

I think men and women can just be friends. Maybe I am naive but I have women at work who I talk with and am friends with that I would never approach in any sexual way.

[KindheartedWoman]

Yes, men and women can be just friends. Being married helps tone down the fantasies of more than friends. That's why online is so apealing to me. The rules don't seem to apply here.

[manda1]

can't we be both???

[SydneyCarton]

can't we be both???

In a perfect situation they are. They should be.

But as to the basic premise, sure men and women can be friends. Why not?

[GraphicsGuy]

Sure they can be just friends...

[AmazingGrace]

i have male friends aswell as female

i used to have a f*ckbuddy (we were friends and sometiimes had sex just for the hell of it) but i was a lot younger then

[catmom]

i agree - have had some good guy friends....

[Charmed]

I want both...... oh wait, I have that......

[whtwmnlvr]

I want both...... oh wait, I have that......

Do you? R they the same person?

[Singeon]

Of course...

[Charmed]

Do you? R they the same person?

LOL! Yep, the same person. You crack me up!
You KNOW I was talking about you!

[lilolekimba67(f)]

I have guy friends that are just that just friends grew up around guys so can get along better with them

[midnightlover]

both would be perfect!! but i got to say i think being friends is most important.. nothing like being in love with someone who u are really friends with..

[MikeyLikesIt]

I believe they can be just friends. but there will alwways be someone within the 2 of them that either thinks about, or wants to be more or has at least sometime thought about it.

[Gubby]

can be just friends. takes a lot will power.

[pointofnoreturn]

I have this guy friend at work......God I would love to get him naked....:D

[MiSt09]

I think it's definitely possible for men and women to be just friends. I know several men that I am only friends with...and I would never even consider pushing for more with them. Sometimes when I just want to get a guys perspective on something, I can have the best conversations with those guys because there is no sexual attraction to get in the way.

[Cuticle Cutie]

I have a guy friend .....His wife hates me......she should......

[yaser]

It is not possible for me to be friends with some ladies here.

[marriedw2]

Yes, I think it's possible. I have few male friends and I don't want to get with them. I think it depends on your situation. If your not happy at home, friends may start to look pretty good after awhile. JMO

[Charmed]

True friends are priceless....

[martianman1]

it depends on the person. i've been in a couple situations where i thought it was about being friends, only 2 find later my "friend" was waiting for me to make a move.

you women are worse then us men because u can be so disarming. usually we can't pull of that kind of slickness.

i've been called oblivious a couple times, and i've grown to appreciate it...otherwise i'd be in all types of trouble!

[redcat]

A recent issue of Readers Digest had a series of the 25 toughest questions. One of the was whether men and women can be just friends.

So, I put the question to you --- can a man and woman be just friends, never to think of moving the relationship ahead? Can it be truly platonic, or is a platonic relationship just one that hasn't moved to the next level? Are guys always looking to score? Are women always measuring each man as a potential mate?


Can men and women just be friends?

Absolutely!! I have male friends that are platonic. That doesn't mean I don't flirt and tease with them...but we know it's just that.

[redcat]

it depends on the person. i've been in a couple situations where i thought it was about being friends, only 2 find later my "friend" was waiting for me to make a move.

you women are worse then us men because u can be so disarming. usually we can't pull of that kind of slickness.

i've been called oblivious a couple times, and i've grown to appreciate it...otherwise i'd be in all types of trouble!


Are you saying I need to just speak plainly? :D

[martianman1]

Are you saying I need to just speak plainly? :D
red, u can tell me whatever,whenever,however and as many times as u need to,darlin':sc

[redcat]

red, u can tell me whatever,whenever,however and as many times as u need to,darlin':sc

mmmm....let me figure out just what and how I want to say things. But, Venusian to Martian...let's hope I don't have to say it more than once. ;)

[bighands]

men and women can definetely be just friends!!!

(as long as one of them is gay)

[kisses]

We can be friends, but in my experience there will always be one person in the friendship wishing there was more.

[scoobertina]

let's be friends first.. then if it feels right we can go from there..

[glamourgirl]

The area of medicine I chose is a mans world.... so I have alot of guy friends.....Yes, definately, it is possible.

Plus growing up with brothers, I am more comfortable around guys....sexual attraction?....never seems to be an issue....or I'm clueless

hmmmmm......

[Fwd40s]

Nothing wrong with friends and lovers. I'm just short on the lovers piece.

[scorpi69]

Yes men and women can be friends, in fact most of my friends are men. Sometimes feelings creep up on you when you least expect it and you wonder what if? but I think this is normal and if you are both adult about it you can move on past this temporary feeling and continue the friendship. Then there are others that you know for a fact you would never even think of in a romantic way. Don't get me wrong I still flirt with all of them but that just makes the friendship more fun... ;)

[redcat]

Friendly lovers...

Loving friends...

[carnation]

I have male friends but no way to i find them remotely attractive.

[Sofia]

Sure it's possible

[mrdiscreet]

It depends on the person for me. I definitely have some women friends what are purely that. But if there is a physical attraction, I may repress it for professional reasons or social reasons, but, yeah, moth to flame :wub