Vasectomy - Yes or No?

[TBoyBob]

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Ok, so after my wife and I are done having kids, the plan is for me to get a vasectomy. I was reading the "Condoms?" thread earlier and the big "V" seemed to come up several times.

I'm curious what all the men have to say about this. I'm sure some have already gone through this process. Did anything change afterwords (other than the lack of sperm of course)? Are your orgasms the same? Does the feeling change? Do you last longer, shorter, no change? Do you feel emasculated? Does it make you feel like you can go out an have an affair and not worry (come on, we've all thought it, right)???? Any of your thoughts are welcome and appreciated!

Women, do you notice any changes in your husbands sex life?? Sex drive decrease/increase? Taste different? Anything you can think of?

[gdgrlgnbd]

You should read Barkiss's little story on vasectomies, it was a riot. I will try to find it.

[gdgrlgnbd]

http://www.marriedandflirtingchat.com/forums/showthread.php?t=13067
hope this works

[Jelly]

I've heard from several people that the men end up with ED after a "V" .. I have not looked at the stats. Although there is a fairly new procedure that women can go through called Cervical Ablasion. It's something to consider ... plus the bonus is that she will no longer have periods! :yks

[blu]

ive never had it done, i practice abstinace

[TBoyBob]

http://www.marriedandflirtingchat.com/forums/showthread.php?t=13067
hope this works


Thanks Bdgrl.....This might be in a over 500 thread, doesn't want to give me permission!! :mad:

[gdgrlgnbd]

Awww, that sucks. Keep the link and read it later. It was his personal acct of the whole thing.

[Shawn_N_Sandiego]

Awww, that sucks. Keep the link and read it later. It was his personal acct of the whole thing.

Yeah that is in my top 5 posts of All Time

[rascal2121]

Yep. Had the big V about 15 years ago. It was hilarious! The Doctor's assistant was a gorgeous blonde I had "known" before I was married and she held my "parts" out of the way and needless to say she didn't have to hold long. It stood at attention for the entire procedure.

[GeekMaster]

December 1987. The nurse that assisted was the mom of one of my co-workers that I had known for years. She asked if I wanted another nurse, and I replied, "If you aren't embarrased, neither am I. Some lady nurse is going to see and hold me, so what difference does it make?" She was a total professional the whole time.

Three day recovery, (wear a tight jock strap till it doesn't feel like things are pulling when you take it off), back to work, (follow your doctor's advice on this. I had a desk job.) and absolutely NO CHANGE OTHERWISE, other than total freedom for sex. Same feelings, same orgasms, same ejaculation, etc.

Be sure to use protection for about 4 weeks to make sure all the soldiers have evacuated the barracks, and get that 6 week test to verify!

I have a 1/2 inch scar that has become almost invisible.

Stories of ED are probably mostly urban myths, or the man had ED problems before. The mechanisms for erection aren't in the area the doctor works in.

Man up and do it! Ablation for her is a tough process, worse than a D&C. The freedom from worry is worth the small inconvenience.

[fever]

Took my husband 3 years to consent...including a very dry year by the end! Yeah, it was uncomfortable, but you might recall she withstood some discomfort delivering those kid(s) of yours. He had two days of frozen peas AND TLC from me! And no changes whatsoever in the long run. Just do it!

[Nick182]

I'm seriously ready to do it!
My wife... not so much... it's been in conversation now for 6 months.

[Denny422]

You REALLY don't want to read Barkiss' story before you make this decision (or have the surgery for that matter)! And from the responses in the thread, it sounds like a lot of guys have some trouble with discomfort afterwards. A lot of the guys I talked to at the time said they had also.

I, on the other hand, did not. I opted for general anesthesia (no freakin' WAY was I gonna be AWAKE while somebody wielded a knife THERE!!!!), so I don't know if that made a difference (can't see how it would), but I didn't really have any problems at all with it. In fact, I stood and sang in a 1 1/2 hour concert the next day. I was a bit sore, of course, but nothing more than the usual from a deep cut I'd say. I don't remember using any ice packs (or peas) or anything. Most of my friends I've talked to since have pretty much indicated their experience more similar to mine than Barkiss'.

My surgery was in 1992 and I've never had any ED problems or other "side affect" issues. I didn't feel any different, respond any differently, take a longer or shorter time to get hard, orgasm, or anything else. Absolutely no change other than the sperm count, which was, of course, immaterial and transparent to me.

I was also in the military at the time and had gotten so used to the "assembly line" type of medicine and never seeing the same nurses or doctor that the embarassment factor was pretty much nil. After you've been naked and poked and prodded by enough strange women in a room full of other people enough times you kinda get used to it.

Short answer: Do it! TOTALLY worth it. No more worries, no more condoms, just sex. And the big one: she doesn't take the risks associated with serious abdominal surgery! You get a couple of stitches as an outpatient and are "normal" in hours, or at worst, days.

[TBoyBob]

Thanks to all for the responses and stories and reassurance.....Will definitely make it easier when my time comes next yr. to have heard from others who've gone thru it. I'm nervous to read the Barkiss' story!! yikes! Maybe I will wait to read it, Denny....prob. not bad advice.

[leggy4]

My husband refused to do it.. He is a wus!!! EVen though I went through agony with my son in delivery to get him here!!!

[Rex]

I really have to get it done. It's Time.

[TBoyBob]

I really have to get it done. It's Time.


I'm only 31 and I have to do it!! How'd you get outa that???!!!!

[discreet2u4u]

Had mine in 1983. Afterward propped my feet on the couch with a bag of ice or peas or something and a bottle of Jack Daniels. Literally stayed numb all over for three days, back to normal activity in a week, six weeks later began a worry free sex life. No performance issues at all. BTW - just a word of caution: there a quite a few cases of "Post vasectomy" kids, cause he didn't get the follow up test and DNA proved it was in fact his....get the picture?

[redcat]

My FIL used to joke that he had 2 kids after his V. Not sure if it's true or not, but that follow-up test is probably a good thing. Hubby has steadfastly refused to do it...grrrrrrr.

[MiSt09]

My husband refused to do it.. He is a wus!!! EVen though I went through agony with my son in delivery to get him here!!!

Same here.... my hubby has been refusing for 5 years now... even though I've given birth to 3 children. Who am I to ask him to go through the least bit of discomfort, right?!! GRRR!!

[papabear48]

All done

[Barkiss]

Thanks to all for the responses and stories and reassurance.....Will definitely make it easier when my time comes next yr. to have heard from others who've gone thru it. I'm nervous to read the Barkiss' story!! yikes! Maybe I will wait to read it, Denny....prob. not bad advice.

Ah...it's not all that bad...specifically considering what you gain afterwards...freedom!! :)

I modified where my story was located so that anyone can read it. Enjoy if you have the patience.

[joekrafty]

Easy procedure...back to good in a week.

[joekrafty]

The dry months led me to do it.

[CJSinIL]

Hell No!!!! If the wife doesn't want babies anymore, she can take the trip to the dr. I would still like to have the option of having kids when I decide to get the big D. I'll make a deal with her. If we could do the horizontal mambo twice-three times a week, I'd consider it. That would be 11 more times per month. (Based on a standard four week month)

[3pmac]

Hubby just had his V this past Monday. He was awake (although the nurses said many men opt for the twilight sedation--wimps lol) and didnt feel a thing other than pressure. He isnt swollen and has 4 stitches. Overall he should have had it done 6 years ago when we started talking about it. The paperwork home says no sex for 1 week but he is restless now. He goes back in 1 week for postop followup then 3 months (30-40 ejaculations) for the test to see if he is shooting blanks.

[CJSinIL]

30-40 ejaculations are supposed to take 3 months? Wow, I better slow down.

[stellabelle]

ive never had it done, i practice abstinace

Yeah, but is that willingly? :D

[stellabelle]

My husband keeps saying no. His reasoning, "just in case." Well, it won't be me, so he must mean his second wife!

[sweet]

Same here.... my hubby has been refusing for 5 years now... even though I've given birth to 3 children. Who am I to ask him to go through the least bit of discomfort, right?!! GRRR!!

Same here...although now I think he may be changing his views on the subject. He's recently told me that since I've had some health problems since the delivery of our third baby last month, he's seriously thinking about getting it done. This is a tremendous change from absolutely refusing it before. I am so glad that it's actually sinking in that I've been through so much in order to have the kids that we have. I can't tell you how happy it makes me that he's actually thinking about it.
Believe me TBoyBob, your wife will be extremely happy if you decide to have a vasectomy!

[Fwd40s]

I got it done years ago so no chance getting pregnant from me. Not thinking about having more kids is a very good thing.

[tag2420]

No, wife has tubes tied.

[MuchachitaSpice]

Hubby had it almost 13 yrs ago... it has been the best thing!!!

[OnceAKing]

I had mine done when I was about 30...my first Spanish teacher had missed her period...went in to the Dr's office after work hours and his nurses had left..The Dr and I had a drink...he washed up, he scrubbed the tatas...stuck about a 6 ga needle in the left side and I levitated off the friggen table....it felt like a mule had kicked me in the balls,,,he made his incision and when he pulled on the vas deferens it felt like it was attached to my tonsils ... he went ahead and did the left side and got that fucking needle out again and I said WTF? He asked if I wanted to wait and come back another day to have the right one done. I said hell no!...you better do whatever it is you're gonna do cuz I'm not going through this shit again...Right side was just as bad.... he sewed the boogers up and I left...with instructions to, "give it a break for a week or so"...okay he was a friend and was sorta laid back.

That night I had another Advanced Spanish lesson already scheduled and when I told her about the vasectomy she went ballistic...how was I to know that some of them have superstitions about what happens when you're knuts are not attached to the head of your cock anymore...anyway she insisted I prove to her that it was not forever damaged...which with pride I can say I did! But the ensuing ruckus tore the stitches out of the left side...I wasn't about to go back to that unsympathetic SOB Dr and have the stitches put back in...the resulting scar, to this day, bears testimony to that evenings test firing session...

[UnknownOnPurpose]

I've had it done about 6/7 years ago.... shooting blanks!

[PublicO]

Need to do it but 30-40 "shots"? That will take years!

[Hunting4fun09]

No thanks not for me Ive had surgery to my urinary ysystem and kidneys before and never again if I can help it.....

[Stew]

Snip Snip - all done

[KSRhino]

I got clipped about 8 years ago, no change in function or output. Funniest thing was my doc gave me an "navel orange" key chain on the follow-up..asked him why and he said because I was now "all juice and no seeds" it hurt a little to laugh :)

[fourher]

Had it done and haven't worried since!

[NurseDude66]

I had it done after my daughter was born. Like ligation, there is a minor occurrence of re-attachment. I had no side affects whatsoever. The Dr was a friend of mine and I did my own assist. I came in prepped and held the instrument tray on my belly.
I was single at the time, and it was a TOTAL relief to not have to worry about pregnancy. For your partner, you save her the hormonal risks of the pill. Even married people have stressors about conceiving and I have heard many wives say that they enjoy sex more without the pregnancy worry or the interruption of birth control.

[fixitman]

I had it done after my second son was born 32 years ago. I knew I would not give up sex but I couldnt afford more childern. best thing I ever did.
a vasectomy means never having to say your sorry.

[BlueEyedMale40]

I'm curious what all the men have to say about this. I'm sure some have already gone through this process. Did anything change afterwords (other than the lack of sperm of course)? Are your orgasms the same? Does the feeling change? Do you last longer, shorter, no change? Do you feel emasculated? Does it make you feel like you can go out an have an affair and not worry (come on, we've all thought it, right)???? Any of your thoughts are welcome and appreciated!

I had mine in 2002 at the age of 33. Nothing changed afterwards, nothing at all. (Well, except I did get an all too rare blow job from my wife as my first sexual act to test out the equipment a week later.)

It didn't make me feel like I could go out and have an affair BUT I have thought many times how it would have helped my grandfather who fathered a child in his late 50s (and not with grandma).

Of course, the procedure itself wasn't the most pleasant thing but it wasn't the worse thing either.

[redmondnsa]

had one, and no issues year after -- actually makes sex more fun! the worries are way less... and my doctor provides free fertility testing - check once a year for grins :sex