Are real life events important?

[yaser]

Are real life events such as death of a spouse or divorcing important for us?Can we change them? Or Can we choose our response to it?

[dartgirl]

I don't know if you can change them, but you can let them guide you into what you want to change in your life. While holding my father-in-laws hand when he died it made me realize that life is to short and you have to enjoy it while you are healthy enough to go it. When I had an affair last fall it made me realize what I had given up and I am doing several things to change my life to gain some of them back.

[sweetgapeach]

If we didnt have life events , I dont think we could learn , love or live , period !

[mbrown811]

We are the sum of our experiences.

[G...G]

I think coping with life events make us stronger!!!

[yaser]

The real life events are important, we cannot choose them but we can choose our resonses to them.Epictetus said thousand yeras ago: 'It was our interpretations of events, rather than the events themselves, that affected us.'

[Annie]

No, I find the unreal life events to be of far more importance than the real ones!

[lovemakenman]

Are real life events such as death of a spouse or divorcing important for us?Can we change them? Or Can we choose our response to it?

Respond I would think, can never change Death

[yaser]

Respond I would think, can never change Deathbut your respose can change your interpretation of the event because the interpretation is the determining factor,not the event...

[yaser]

No, I find the unreal life events to be of far more importance than the real ones!Because real events are more friendly than the imaginative ones..