Are You Or Your Partner A Snoop?

[Penny]

Do you ever check to see what your partner is doing online? Read their emails or check computer history? Do you think they are checking on you?

[cherokeered]

Nope...wouldnt even know how to do it...if I did know how would I be tempted...well I might be...but I would never do it...I wouldn't want it done to me so no...wouldn't do it....
we have seperate computers....and no, don't think he has checked on me...
Now if someone left something open and up on the screen...do u look...absolutely....human nature to be curious


Cherokee....do unto others....;)

[Itshardon-theroad]

OK, I guess I will tackle this one first. Yes, I have checked to see what my wife is doing on line. I have had the feeling since just after we were married that she has slept with other men and still corresponds with them on occasion. Other than a whole bunch of suggestive emails, I've never found solid proof of it. I haven't bugged her car, put video cameras in my house or hired a PI. I just have a hunch which coupled with the emails and comments from different people give me the impression that she probably has seen other people (usually not while sober). I have stopped doing it now. I almost don't care if she is.

Does she check on me? No. She isn't very computer savvy which is why it was so easy to check on her. I am cautious because I don't want her to find some of the things I write. Even if she really tried, she wouldn't find much if anything.

[Norfolkdave]

My wife doesnt know anything about computers so its no problem either way.

[MCat]

I wouldn't know how to go about it if I wanted to. I don't want to...we both know what each other is doing here. If he chooses to look at other sites, pictures, videos etc...its ok. We are way past the hiding phase of marriage.

[tiger50]

hmm well i know mine does snoop on things sometimes....i leave one side cover of the pc off .. the drive snaps in, no screws.... so if i go away for a while , i pull the drive and take it with me....
do i spy on her... no... dont give a shit..... :D

[rainbowhigh]

I have never checked up on George. I know what he does online - and I'm not worried about him.

As for whether or not he has checked up on me - well, I'll let him talk about that if he wants to.

[hoss]

My wife doesnt know anything about computers so its no problem either way.

thats cause u dont do anything naughty...your too freaking old ...:lmao

the retirement home is calling.....

[Penny]

I am kind of a snoop, curiosity always gets the better of me :(

[CuriousGeorge]

I have never checked up on George. I know what he does online - and I'm not worried about him.

As for whether or not he has checked up on me - well, I'll let him talk about that if he wants to.

Don't really have to snoop. When you're up to no good, it's written all over your face. :D I usually look to see what you've posted lately. Or sometimes I walk up behind you and look over your shoulder. That's really the extent of my snooping - but I know sometimes even that little bit drives you crazy.:whee:

[funluvinga]

I don't snoop on my hubby....snooping would mean I care what he does and I don't. He would snoop on me if he thought I was doing anything. Luckily, I'm pretty good at hiding it.

[Sunfiresix]

Although my wife doesn't use the computer(she hates techno gizmos--she would if she did use one--she is snoopy, in a kinda nice way, but it still irratates me.

[rainbowhigh]

You can read me like a book, George. Now what am I going to do? Guess I'll have to pick one written in braille.....:lmao


Don't really have to snoop. When you're up to no good, it's written all over your face. :D I usually look to see what you've posted lately. Or sometimes I walk up behind you and look over your shoulder. That's really the extent of my snooping - but I know sometimes even that little bit drives you crazy.:whee:

[dartgirl]

I never use our computer at home, thats for hubby. I try never to read his email, don't check his cell phone or go through his stuff in his truck. I do now how he uses his credit card though because I pay all the bills. I do know that he has a PO box where he gets prescription pill online. Does he have anything else coming to that box or credit cards I don't know about, possible. But I don't want to know just like I'm not gonna tell about my PO Box or checking account that don't have his name on them.

[Annie]

I don't snoop in his stuff and I don't think he snoops in mine. However, in the past month, twice I have had someone from my past send me IMs while I was at work, saying that he loves me... sure hope the monitor was in screen saver mode when he and our son walked past my desk ... (which happens to be in my livingroom) when they got home!!!

[dave42]

I never check up on her. I do wonder if she would ever check up on me though. Maybe by using one of those spy programs to find out what I'm doing. Sometimes I am curious if she talks to anyone but I don't think she is the type. You just never know

[northernvam]

Honestly .. I don't care enough to snoop ... just too much time and effort. Man .. doesn't that sound apathetic?

[Barkiss]

Honestly .. I don't care enough to snoop ... just too much time and effort. Man .. doesn't that sound apathetic?

I know the feeling....

But I got tired of her snooping, so I bought her her own computer...and told her to leave mine alone. ;)

[OICurready4me]

My wife doesnt know anything about computers so its no problem either way.


Same thing here. She barely knows how to turn one on plus I could care less what she's doing and she feels the same. We go about our business without worrying about that other stuff. I have the utmost in trust of her and she has never given me any reason not to and don't thing I ever have to worry about that.

[massage mike]

i'm not she is

[p.J]

My wife doesnt know anything about computers so its no problem either way.

Thats what I tell my husband! ;)

[massage mike]

oh oh

[Frenchie]

Ignorance is bliss

[Caramel Temptation]

Yes i am a snoop but he drove me to it.But payback has came.So that is why im flirting.

[spare_change]

Yes i am a snoop but he drove me to it.But payback has came.So that is why im flirting.

First of all, welcome to the site !!! I hope you enjoy being here as much as we enjoy having you here.

I'm curious -- how did he drive you to it?

[Frenchie]

First of all, welcome to the site !!! I hope you enjoy being here as much as we enjoy having you here.

I'm curious -- how did he drive you to it?

I second this ^^^

[Caramel Temptation]

First of all, welcome to the site !!! I hope you enjoy being here as much as we enjoy having you here.

I'm curious -- how did he drive you to it?
My husband is an alcoholic.He has lied over and over about his drinking.So i started snooping around and found hidden bottles.Then i caught him on the internet with other woman.But he lied.So now im snooping even more. Payback is hell i say

[joshcamp69]

LOL, welcome and nice to see another from Texas

[Zifnab]

My husband is an alcoholic.He has lied over and over about his drinking.So i started snooping around and found hidden bottles.Then i caught him on the internet with other woman.But he lied.So now im snooping even more. Payback is hell i sayhappy hunting! welcome aboard! nice name by the way!

[twoblues]

My husband is an alcoholic.He has lied over and over about his drinking.So i started snooping around and found hidden bottles.Then i caught him on the internet with other woman.But he lied.So now im snooping even more. Payback is hell i say

Dang, if you lived closer to me, I'd let you snoop around my bedroom ;)

[Frenchie]

My husband is an alcoholic.He has lied over and over about his drinking.So i started snooping around and found hidden bottles.Then i caught him on the internet with other woman.But he lied.So now im snooping even more. Payback is hell i say

Get him some help. that's what I would do

[massage mike]

hi caramel we never met

[spare_change]

My husband is an alcoholic.He has lied over and over about his drinking.So i started snooping around and found hidden bottles.Then i caught him on the internet with other woman.But he lied.So now im snooping even more. Payback is hell i say

You can't save him from himself. Finding his hidden bottles does nothing, other than force him to find other hiding places. i grew up with an alcoholic -- so I understand how you feel.

You know he's an alcoholic; you know he's a philanderer. Spare yourself the pain -- don't snoop. You already know all the bad stuff --- the rest is just more pain on top of pain. You don't need to prove it to yourself over and over -- each time you find something, you feel new pain. Somehow, that makes you feel better-- like you deserve the pain because you can't make him stop drinking, or if you were a better wife, he wouldn't have his internet girlfriend.

None of that is true --- you can't save him from himself, and you can't take responsibility for all the wrongs in your world.

Good luck.

[OICurready4me]

hmm well i know mine does snoop on things sometimes....i leave one side cover of the pc off .. the drive snaps in, no screws.... so if i go away for a while , i pull the drive and take it with me....
do i spy on her... no... dont give a shit..... :D


There you go. I guess you don't have to worry about that if you rip the hard drive out of your computer when you go away.

[clueless32m]

No. I do not monitor what my wife is doing offline, much less online. She, on the other hand, has discovered some of the "stuff" I have been doing online by accident. I still do not know how I talked my way out of some of that stuff?

[UltimateNaneki]

I don't snoop and I bought my personal laptop so hubby don't snoop either! haha

[kiwimongo]

my ex boyfriend he knows all my pasword,doesn't matter me his problem

[MIGHTY]

I've snooped once or twice.....I've gotta get the truth somehow!

[yaser]

I've snooped once or twice.....I've gotta get the truth somehow!
Is truth painful?

[yaser]

I don't snoop and I bought my personal laptop so hubby don't snoop either! haha
You go to your way and let him go to his way..One day you may meet anyhow..

[altoids69]

My husband is the snoop. Heck, I should have known being married to a police officer that he would be. And he even snoops for Christmas presents. So far, the things he thinks he has 'found' have always turned out to be nothing but innocent.

[yaser]

My husband is the snoop. Heck, I should have known being married to a police officer that he would be. And he even snoops for Christmas presents. So far, the things he thinks he has 'found' have always turned out to be nothing but innocent.
Innocents are always traps prepared on purpose to prove that he is wrong..

[cherokeered]

My hubby is extremely nosy........I am not normally but if my spider sense is alerted.....I suppose I could be.....

[dave42]

My hubby is extremely nosy........I am not normally but if my spider sense is alerted.....I suppose I could be.....

Mine and yours must be related. She is always wanting to check up on me. She is afraid to lose me I think.

[nsamale]

no neither of us. She is computer illiterate and is never online to check up on me and she is never on line to check up on her...:D

[Crawfish]

no neither of us. She is computer illiterate and is never online to check up on me and she is never on line to check up on her...:D

Isn't it great?

[G...G]

My hubby is not a snoop. I don't hide hide this site from him. In fact, he is the one who found it. Of course, he don't know my passwords nor does he want them.

I snoop when it comes to his phone..lol

[pointofnoreturn]

I deleting history so he won't be upset, but checked one day to see if I deleted, and he had all these porno sites in the history. Maybe I should be checking. Not trying to hide this site, but not advertising it either....

[letterman01]

I'll admit it, I am. I've found every Christmas present in the past 12 years.

[lovtobelicked]

my hubby snoops all the time

[letterman01]

I'll vouch for Ann. She's even found Christmas gifts I've hidden at other peoples' houses!

[w9kw]

Yelp its funny i cant ck my wifes email but she can mine. Ask me the other day how my girlfriend was, and i told her fine. Just a penpal i have in Ill. But shes a snoop.

[fly]

You can't save him from himself. Finding his hidden bottles does nothing, other than force him to find other hiding places. i grew up with an alcoholic -- so I understand how you feel.

You know he's an alcoholic; you know he's a philanderer. Spare yourself the pain -- don't snoop. You already know all the bad stuff --- the rest is just more pain on top of pain. You don't need to prove it to yourself over and over -- each time you find something, you feel new pain. Somehow, that makes you feel better-- like you deserve the pain because you can't make him stop drinking, or if you were a better wife, he wouldn't have his internet girlfriend.

None of that is true --- you can't save him from himself, and you can't take responsibility for all the wrongs in your world.

Good luck.

This is excellent advice but I would add also that the LESS you care or take responsibility for "his" problem, the more it forces HIM too. Does that make sense?
He'll start to see that it is not "your" problem or "our" problem anymore. That you have a life too and it has no room for his alcohol. And possibly he'll understand that if he doesn't stop,
that you'll have no room for HIM.

[w9kw]

all i can say is until a person is ready to give up drinking there in nothing anyone can do. Ivwe been sober for 20 proud yrs, but it was i that chooseto quit the wife try but its a personnel choice

[cherokeered]

If I felt I needed to be...I can be a snoop...:55

[Sneaky]

He can be. But I am very sneaky and careful.


I'm like Char, I'm not usually a snoop, but I get that feeling about something I will snoop.

[Beth]

I erase all my browsing history, although he doesn't really look at my computer. I look at his phone alot! That is how I knew he was calling a cco-worker at 3 am and every Friday night. But they were "just friends". Yeah right!

[Missy38]

Nope!

[Papa Chubby]

I have,

and i think she has.

But no more. that was a different time

[scoobertina]

My husband is.. he has read my personal stuff, he became a member of the site, and he toyed with me...

I am not a snoop... well maybe you would call me one.. I am a people watcher...

[unctarheel_32]

no

[lilolekimba67(f)]

nope neither

[p.a]

We both have separate PC's. no problem with snooping here.

[hank69]

Do you ever check to see what your partner is doing online? Read their emails or check computer history? Do you think they are checking on you?


I have a little..... awhile back.....But not any more ....I'm not as
jealous as I used to be.......and She does'nt ....

[ksue7274]

Didn't used to but now I do.

[annonymousgirl]

I'm not sure how to not snoop. In my past relationships, at some point or another I've gotten a bad feeling from them and I admit, I snooped. I always found something and left every one of them. Now I'm with a new one and I'm getting that feeling again but trying to be more trustful. I've accidentaly found signs that he's been with another woman sometime since we first started seeing each other, but I'll never know if it was before or after we decided to be exclusive. It drives me crazy not knowing, but I'm trying to change because I know I wouldn't want him snooping on me, not that he would find anything. How do I stop?

[fishon]

not a snoop, really couldn't care less

[jmuma62]

do not check, but protect myself from being checked... use virtual pc

[Code]

all i can say is until a person is ready to give up drinking there in nothing anyone can do. Ivwe been sober for 20 proud yrs, but it was i that chooseto quit the wife try but its a personnel choice

First of all w9kw congrats! 20 years is something ot be proud of. My step dad was an alcoholic and until HE made the decision to quit. I will ad though, as I think you will agree, once the decision is made family support is also important. AA has great programs both for the alcoholic and the family with Alanon and AlaTeen.

My stepdad was 26 years solber when he passed and it allowed him to be the great person he really was.

[1hotmommy]

I'm afraid I'm a little bit of a snoop. It's something I'm working on.

[Torin]

I don't think hubby would snoop-- I almost left him once before because of it. I was not actually doing anything wrong, but he was so insecure and wouldn't believe me, so he logged into my accounts... and I caught him in the act. And proceeded to "prove" my trustworthiness by making him read every email, etc. And then I packed my stuff and was leaving... It was his worst fear and I think it scared him so bad he would never snoop again.

I don't spy on him, either-- what he does is his business. I have to trust that he is with me because he wants to be. If he is straying, or whatever, I don't really want to know.

[toosarcastic]

i am a snoop, but nothing exciting to look at....landsend.com whooo hoooo! now that's a thrill.....

[toosarcastic]

Glad she does not know enough about computers to snoop on me! although I don't let anyone have access to the computer I use, she and the kids have thier own.

[FRMale]

Nope...wouldnt even know how to do it...if I did know how would I be tempted...well I might be...but I would never do it...I wouldn't want it done to me so no...wouldn't do it....
we have seperate computers....and no, don't think he has checked on me...
Now if someone left something open and up on the screen...do u look...absolutely....human nature to be curious


Cherokee....do unto others....;)

I agree... I use honest with integrity in my marriage. We talk about things so that life doesn't get out of hand:wa:

[Sylar]

I don't think hubby would snoop-- I almost left him once before because of it. I was not actually doing anything wrong, but he was so insecure and wouldn't believe me, so he logged into my accounts... and I caught him in the act. And proceeded to "prove" my trustworthiness by making him read every email, etc. And then I packed my stuff and was leaving... It was his worst fear and I think it scared him so bad he would never snoop again.

I don't spy on him, either-- what he does is his business. I have to trust that he is with me because he wants to be. If he is straying, or whatever, I don't really want to know.

Different man, different time...lol...I would never stray, or snoop...to be honest, it took that day to give me a whole new look on relationships...I had never fully trusted anyone before...so I owe you a thanks for that! :)

[toosarcastic]

ok, so for the ones that did snoop...what did you find? and how did you feel about it?

[RedVixen]

I can be *if* I get a funny feeling in my gut...my partner: oh yeah, he's a definite snoop.