Are You Happy?

[yaser]

Mmmmmwwwwaaaaaaa!! All better?
Now ok..teasing hun..

[Inspector72]

Yeah but tired at the moment

[OICurready4me]

It all depends on your definition of happy...

[MIGHTY]

I don't know what the problem is....I'm freaking ecstatic!!!!!

[yaser]

I don't know what the problem is....I'm freaking ecstatic!!!!!
Love it..hun. :lf

[OICurready4me]

I don't know what the problem is....I'm freaking ecstatic!!!!!



All revved up with no place to go?

[MIGHTY]

All revved up with no place to go?

What on Earth would make you think that?;)

[edrobo67]

no

[MIGHTY]

no

Welcome edrobo!!:wa: And here's a :hug: if it helps.....

[zobman]

Define happy?

[cherokeered]

no


Welcome to the site.....:wa:

[christinalee]

I'm alright with it... I could use some extra money, but who couldn't?

[likesbuttons]

Ok, so to answer the original question that started this thread. Why is it that things can be ok for a while then all a guy can think about is other women....like all the hot, sensitive, beautiful women here?

[christinalee]

Ok, so to answer the original question that started this thread. Why is it that things can be ok for a while then all a guy can think about is other women....like all the hot, sensitive, beautiful women here?

Because you can love someone and at the same time want to have sex with someone else. We're all just raised to believe thats a terrable thing.

[Kissie]

Fuck no!!!!!!!!

[Annie]

Fuck no!!!!!!!!

:knuddel:

[majorfun]

I am happy... I processed over half a million in loans today...

[Inspector72]

I may make an exception for you... who knows! ;) and I am so worth it!

Are you? Soon I shall see for myself...are ya getting nervous yet??? LOL

[likesbuttons]

Christinalee

thank you.....that makes me feel better, especially coming from a woman......

how far are you from Colorado?.....lol....

[polarbear02000]

I'm has happy as can be. all thanks to wify:blowjob:

[p.J]

Are you? Soon I shall see for myself...are ya getting nervous yet??? LOL

Nervous??? don't flatter yourself!

[tiger50]

NOOO not fukkin happy.... :(

[Inspector72]

Nervous??? don't flatter yourself!

Well, very good morning to you my little challenging love goddess! You certainly do keep things interesting. Flatter myself? Nope, never...that would be boasting and that my dear is a sin! However last week you did state when I asked you that I may be disappointed. That is why I asked if you were getting nervous as I am drawing ever closer to 150 and 500! Don't worry I won't let you get bored yet, as you are still holding my attention rather nicely. ;) I wanna make sure that landing strip is long enough and wide enough though and I ahve been working hard to get there to see the view. And as a home inspector, it is my job make sure there is no problems with a "prime piece of real estate" ;) , before it is rented, leased or sold! You do pose a good challenge Jen but I see though your tough outter shell. Remember...I am looking for a trait a quality...nothing more, nothing less...but you have to have it...so show me, and we can end this challenge before it gets to difficult....for you. Come on Jen really, when I first started here last week, you are super fun, adventurous, sexy and open in your posts. Now you have this tough front...I am not buying it!!! You gotta do better than this. Trust me, I have been paying close attention and there a sweet, fun, adorable, sexy, compassionate woman on the inside of you. Just never had a guy challenge you like before huh? But kudos to you still!;) :kk

[Cotties]

damn you take yourself serious Inspectorrr

[p.J]

Well, very good morning to you my little challenging love goddess! You certainly do keep things interesting. Flatter myself? Nope, never...that would be boasting and that my dear is a sin! However last week you did state when I asked you that I may be disappointed. That is why I asked if you were getting nervous as I am drawing ever closer to 150 and 500! Don't worry I won't let you get bored yet, as you are still holding my attention rather nicely. ;) I wanna make sure that landing strip is long enough and wide enough though and I ahve been working hard to get there to see the view. And as a home inspector, it is my job make sure there is no problems with a "prime piece of real estate" ;) , before it is rented, leased or sold! You do pose a good challenge Jen but I see though your tough outter shell. Remember...I am looking for a trait a quality...nothing more, nothing less...but you have to have it...so show me, and we can end this challenge before it gets to difficult....for you. Come on Jen really, when I first started here last week, you are super fun, adventurous, sexy and open in your posts. Now you have this tough front...I am not buying it!!! You gotta do better than this. Trust me, I have been paying close attention and there a sweet, fun, adorable, sexy, compassionate woman on the inside of you. Just never had a guy challenge you like before huh? But kudos to you still!;) :kk

Has it ever occurred to you Inspector that though you may have piqued my interest; the cynic in me questions your intention(s)? Is it to boost your huge ego, or are you as genuine as you infer? I hope it is the latter!
This 'tough exterior' which you seem to have concluded from a rare gift of extra-sensory perception - yes, i say that with my tongue firmly in my cheek - is not from a change of tactics or from venerability but from experience, I don't suffer fools gladly.(pardon the cliche!) So perhaps my dear friend, it is perhaps you that needs to do better ... :kk

Sorry Guys for monopolising the thread...

[Rmb]

Has it ever occurred to you Inspector that though you may have piqued my interest; the cynic in me questions your intention(s)? Is it to boost your huge ego, or are you as genuine as you infer? I hope it is the latter!
This 'tough exterior' which you seem to have concluded from a rare gift of extra-sensory perception - yes, i say that with my tongue firmly in my cheek - is not from a change of tactics or from venerability but from experience, I don't suffer fools gladly.(pardon the cliche!) So perhaps my dear friend, it is perhaps you that needs to do better ... :kk

Sorry Guys for monopolising the thread...

Er...so is that a maybe?? :lmao

[Cotties]

thats o.k....I now see you encourage the Inspector to take himself so seriously;) Has it ever occurred to you Inspector that though you may have piqued my interest; the cynic in me questions your intention(s)? Is it to boost your huge ego, or are you as genuine as you infer? I hope it is the latter!
This 'tough exterior' which you seem to have concluded from a rare gift of extra-sensory perception - yes, i say that with my tongue firmly in my cheek - is not from a change of tactics or from venerability but from experience, I don't suffer fools gladly.(pardon the cliche!) So perhaps my dear friend, it is perhaps you that needs to do better ... :kk

Sorry Guys for monopolising the thread...

[UltimateNaneki]

Now, yes I'm very HAPPY!!!

[p.J]

Er...so is that a maybe?? :lmao

:lmao :lmao um! it might be!!

...anyway, I am damn happy! went for a run this morning; the sun was shining, Red Hot Chilli pepper's blaring in my ear-holes, eyes streaming from the cold, but god it felt bloody good! ooooooooooo yesssssssssssssssh!

[Rmb]

:lmao :lmao um! it might be!!

...anyway, I am damn happy! went for a run this morning; the sun was shining, Red Hot Chilli pepper's blaring in my ear-holes, eyes streaming from the cold, but god it felt bloody good! ooooooooooo yesssssssssssssssh!


I love that group :) :)

[OICurready4me]

Because you can love someone and at the same time want to have sex with someone else. We're all just raised to believe thats a terrable thing.


I have been saying that for a long time, Christina, but usually it is a guy who says it, never a woman. It is refeshing to hear a woman understand that there are people who can have sex without love and have no impact on their love situation.

[pointofnoreturn]

amI happy right now????No.

[yaser]

amI happy right now????No.
Why not?

[Inspector72]

Has it ever occurred to you Inspector that though you may have piqued my interest; the cynic in me questions your intention(s)? Is it to boost your huge ego, or are you as genuine as you infer? I hope it is the latter!
This 'tough exterior' which you seem to have concluded from a rare gift of extra-sensory perception - yes, i say that with my tongue firmly in my cheek - is not from a change of tactics or from venerability but from experience, I don't suffer fools gladly.(pardon the cliche!) So perhaps my dear friend, it is perhaps you that needs to do better ... :kk

Sorry Guys for monopolising the thread...

Yes, it is apparent that I peaked you interest, and I do appreciate your attention. However I am not sure about this ego trip thing you keep refering to. I don't claim to be the best, don't need anyone to masturbate my mind either. I am like you it comes from experience. I know my strengths and weaknesses, and I know exactly where I am going, and exact what I am looking for. Lets not get off on the wrong foot here, we caught each others attention, which is great. Slow down, ease up and get to know me, and you will see for yourself that I am indeed that genuine guy who peaked your curiosity. At this stage it is natural for a woman to start questioning herself about someone she likes.;) It is natural. But careful my dear friend, the mind is a powerful tool and you talk yourself right out of a good thing! Then no extra-marital coffee with lots of cream for you, Perhaps then my dear you "should" change gears a bit. I'll help you out one this one. That ego thing you keep talking about, is like a log on fire in the ocean; soon it will burn out with no added fuel. You're still sweet, funny and awesome regardless!...:kk

And Yes Everyone So Sorry For Straying Off The Topic

[Inspector72]

Er...so is that a maybe?? :lmao

Yeah Rhumba, she likes me and she just won't admit it! And despite her thinking I am on some ego trip. I just think she a bit nervous on the inside, and trying to hold my attention, which she is good at! I don't care what she says here, I'll paid close attention and on the inside of her there is a awesome woman full of love, care, fun, & passion. She is very talented in her writing, creative in her thoughts like me. Yet I am not afraid to say that Jen has caught my attention. Sorry Jen! It is hard to be a little devil when the wanton angelic love goddees shine through!

So Rhumba...yeah that is a maybe...which for a woman, that is a yes! Just come out with it!:wa:

[Inspector72]

thats o.k....I now see you encourage the Inspector to take himself so seriously;)

I never take myself seriourly!! Life is to short!:lmao :lmao :whee: :lmao

[Inspector72]

:lmao :lmao um! it might be!!

...anyway, I am damn happy! went for a run this morning; the sun was shining, Red Hot Chilli pepper's blaring in my ear-holes, eyes streaming from the cold, but god it felt bloody good! ooooooooooo yesssssssssssssssh!

See, I told you guys! I see through her. Awe you are so sweet!!!:lmao :lmao :kk

[mack27]

what makes you unhappy? I feel that same way. Somtimes I think I'd be happier if I wern't with my husband.

[Kristina28]

Yes I am happy right only for the moment.

[nsamale]

sorry to hear that point...im sure someone (me) could make u happy...Hi mack and kristina welcome to earth...

[just want to have some fu]

are you there

[MCat]

Yes....I'm happy

[SirFox]

Could be happier. It is relative.

[peaches]

Happiness: what is it....at the moment or certain things in my life...generaly I'm a happy person, just somethngs upset me. At the moment I'm happy, with life I'm not...so the thing to do is change things....I am working on it....HURRAY FOR ME!!!!!!!!!!!

[yaser]

Happiness: what is it....at the moment or certain things in my life...generaly I'm a happy person, just somethngs upset me. At the moment I'm happy, with life I'm not...so the thing to do is change things....I am working on it....HURRAY FOR ME!!!!!!!!!!!
To chnagne your ideas or someone's first
That is the question
Peaches..

[Polo38]

Every day is a little better then the day before.....the road is long and filled with many detours that I must avoid but i can see happiness in the distance

[nsamale]

today, right at this instant i am hppy, alone watching the boobtube, watching my floor getting done, playing on my computer...is there anymore...

[BlueEyedBoy]

Today I am

[mack27]

Today I am

What makes today so special? What part of texas are you from?
Maybe I'm so unhappy because of my location. If I were at the beach would I be happier? HUMMMM

[cherokeered]

Today....not particularly....but the day isn't over yet

[SirFox]

Every day is a little better then the day before.....the road is long and filled with many detours that I must avoid but i can see happiness in the distance

You see the end of the long and winding tunnel do you POLO? Muy bien.

[Kristina28]

today i am for now.

[steamy]

Today is ok...........I am pretty much happy. Always looking for the light at the end of the tunnel.

[Jy]

What a loaded question! Define happy. What does it mean? Is it a permanent state of the heart? A state of mind? A goal finally realized? A new car?

At the risk of sounding too "new age" (which I am not) or just annoying, I think happiness is a choice. Yes, we all have those times in our lives when challenges seem to pile up and we get overwhelmed. We all suffer setbacks, heartache, loss, grief, and some major pitfalls. For one to expect to be happy all the time is unrealistic. One can't truly appreciate the good in life without some bad thrown in once in a while.
So, what does happy mean? Is it the big house in the country? The promotion at work? A stock that goes through the roof?
I truly believe that happiness is found in the everyday, the little things (hence the thread I started). If you can see life's little blessings every day, the beauty of a sunset, the joy in a child's eyes, the miracle parking space at the mall on a Saturday afternoon, then you are happy. If you stop for a moment and really count your blessings every day, I guarantee you're going to lose count before you name them all.
Happiness doesn't guarantee a smooth trip. It doesn't mean you've achieved all your life's goals (geez! that would be called boredom!!) It means that shit happens, but life is good anyway. Every day is a gift. Cherish it.

[Crawfish]

Right now? Yes.

[p.J]

Me too, just eaten... :55

[massage mike]

Me too, just eaten... :55:lf anyone i know lol:)

[showtime]

we always think we need something more to be happy ( the grass is always greener ) for the last several months I haven't been very happily married, so my neighbors grass looks pretty damn green right about now.

[pointofnoreturn]

No

[steamy]

Give a chance................damn:D No

[G...G]

I'm so happy, I could just......
nevermind!

[pixiegirl]

Right now...superficially yes I am happy.



When I start to think about it I have worries and concerns and fears and house work and work work....oh you see shouldn't have thought about it!!!


I am healthy, I have those I love and I have friends to talk to...I'm happy.

[steamy]

Good.................I dont want to have to worry about you:kk Right now...superficially yes I am happy.



When I start to think about it I have worries and concerns and fears and house work and work work....oh you see shouldn't have thought about it!!!


I am healthy, I have those I love and I have friends to talk to...I'm happy.

[p.J]

:lf anyone i know lol:)

flip, e-bay is so addictive.. um um... um a Chinese, not of a human variety I hasten to add... :D

[bambamaua]

yes positive i am very happy i cannot think my live without my wife and 2 kids they are the truly reason after god and my mother to live for

[cherokeered]

Sometimes

[pointofnoreturn]

Not yet, but hopefully soon.....

[Butterfly_13]

Not today, but I am working on it.

[Newenglandman]

It all depends on the day, the hour, the minute, the second.........

[cherokeered]

It all depends on the day, the hour, the minute, the second.........

Oh yeh....that is for sure....and whom I'm with....

[Newenglandman]

Oh yeh....that is for sure....and whom I'm with....

HOW true!!!!!! And sometimes, it is even less than THAT!!!!! :D

[dave42]

Me too, just eaten... :55Lucky Jen, I missed out. guess I'll go hungry tonight!:cry:

[pointofnoreturn]

I am trying...

[letterman01]

Very!

[pointofnoreturn]

Good for you...

[w9kw]

Yelp im a happy have GOOD LIFE KINDA TIRED OF TRUCKING AFTER 29 YRS BUT ITS the only thing i know. Have a good wife who llets me get away with stuff. Besides life is what u make of it.

[w9kw]

Me too, just eaten... :55 lucky girl

[pointofnoreturn]

eh????

[w9kw]

eh????What you eh at girl huh huh nice blue shorts u got on by the way:wa:

[cherokeered]

I am right now....whenever I am with my aussie...yes I am


Without him...not so much....sigh

[tiger50]

I am right now....whenever I am with my aussie...yes I am


Without him...not so much....sigh

mm ..me too baby....:knuddel: :kk

[pointofnoreturn]

Sometimes...

[Newenglandman]

Sometimes...

I agree... depends on the month, the day, the hour, the minute!!!! :rolleyes:

[MIGHTY]

Here and there and here and there.....

[pointofnoreturn]

there and here and there and here

[Butterfly_13]

Not today. "Friend's" gone; I miss my buddy. No happy hour. Time for a long hot shower...

[pointofnoreturn]

Not today. "Friend's" gone; I miss my buddy. No happy hour. Time for a long hot shower...No happy hour???Alwasy have happy hour at my house. Come on over...

[Suz]

I try to be happy everyday...some days I feel like I'm in a pool and someone keeps pulling me under, like I just can't keep my head above water. Frustrates me to no end cause I like to find the positive in all things and live a happy life. Not doing a good job of it these days.:(

[hotstuff]

Dear Suzy, you're such a wonderful person. You totally desere to be happy. The funny thing about happiness is that you have to keep chasing it. Sometimes you catch it and enjoy it for a while, and then it escapes, and you're off on the chase again. I am sure that you will catch it again, soon. Feel free to keep in touch with me. Best always.

[OICurready4me]

I try to be happy everyday...some days I feel like I'm in a pool and someone keeps pulling me under, like I just can't keep my head above water. Frustrates me to no end cause I like to find the positive in all things and live a happy life. Not doing a good job of it these days.:(


You are a breath of fresh air on a very cloudy day for me. You are a very good friends sweetie.

[w9kw]

Happiness is easier to live with then sadness. I find myself trying to be happy even when im down. So it wks for me and seems like i stay up . Yall have a good weekend

[Cotties]

I'm happy when I see Suz

[Suz]

You are a breath of fresh air on a very cloudy day for me. You are a very good friends sweetie.

Thanks doll, and I can't imagine a day without you...yes, you are a very good friend to me. Who else would put up with listening to me bitch about everything and never have anything smart to say back :kk

[Suz]

I'm happy when I see Suz

Not happier than when I see you :kk couldn't be

[fly]

Not today.........:(

[OICurready4me]

Absolutely friggin miserable....

[w9kw]

Not happier than when I see you :kk couldn't beHell im happy just to see her picture

[OICurready4me]

Nope, nada, zip, zero...

[RedHotPisces]

...zelch?

Nope, nada, zip, zero...

[OICurready4me]

...zelch? Forgot that one...thanks again... not feeling that playful tonite, very sad actually...

[SaltyLime]

i am today

[SirFox]

I am HAPPY today with the decisions that I made.

[peaches]

At this moment yes, hubby's gone woke up better than yesterday and my 15 month grandson is sitting on my lap.. It mayne raining outside today but in here the sun is shining.

[Annie]

I might be.. yeah... I think the meds are finally kickin in...

[w9kw]

At the moment no looks like im going to have to switch trucking companies. Oh well just part of the job.

[UltimateNaneki]

Today? Happy? NO!
Last night cried until 4am, but I did find out something! I do have friends here that care. I didn't know, and it feels good to know that there are people here that worry about how I feel! Thanks a whole bunch!:wa: :55

[longnhard32]

we all care . wish i had more time to talk but work calls must run talk later:wa:

[OICurready4me]

Yes I am....thanks to a special someone....:kk

[Butterfly_13]

At this point in my life, no.
Actually, that is not entirely true; there are brief moments throughout the day when I am happy and can smile...

[OICurready4me]

At this point in my life, no.
Actually, that is not entirely true; there are brief moments throughout the day when I am happy and can smile...

Good sexy...you are too nice a lady and have such a good heart to be so sad. I know the reason by your sadness but I wish I could spread some cheer down to you in LA. Hang in there sweetie, good things happen to those who wait. :kk

[Butterfly_13]

Thanks for the encouragement - some of you all at M&F are some of the reasons for my smiles throughout the day - thanks!
And, I am trying to be patient and am waiting and waiting and waiting...;)


Good sexy...you are too nice a lady and have such a good heart to be so sad. I know the reason by your sadness but I wish I could spread some cheer down to you in LA. Hang in there sweetie, good things happen to those who wait. :kk

[w9kw]

Well Utimate hang in there and i hope all is better today

[rm]

nope

[Muffin87]

Overall -yes! Got great friends, awesome job, spring is coming soon, lots of good in the world. Now if things on the marital front would only improve.........

[p.J]

Happy? Happy? I am ecstatic!! Though bugger knows why! :sc

[zerosumgain]

Some parts are good. I have learned that there is a tendency to take for granted the good things we have. I make sure and keep in mind and remain thankful for the unbelieveably valuable treasures I have. I try and soak up every minute of the good stuff. The big void in my life is no female relationship. No, I should say, there is a relationship but it SUCKS! For now the Miller Brewing Company helps me keep my mind off of that little problem.

[ahria]

Happy? Happy? I am ecstatic!! Though bugger knows why! :sc

Geesh Jen, do you think you could cheer up just a bit! Hate to see you so down! :D

[spare_change]

Some parts are good. I have learned that there is a tendency to take for granted the good things we have. I make sure and keep in mind and remain thankful for the unbelieveably valuable treasures I have. I try and soak up every minute of the good stuff. The big void in my life is no female relationship. No, I should say, there is a relationship but it SUCKS! For now the Miller Brewing Company helps me keep my mind off of that little problem.


Funny how that works, huh?

Often, the Miller Brewing Company is responsible for some of the relationships we start. Then, the Miller Brewing Company becomes the only reason we can stay in the relationship that they started. Finally, if we are able to break loose from that Miller Brewing Company fueled relationship, we turn to the Miller Brewing Company to console us during our time of loss.

I'm beginning to think this marriage thing is all a marketing ploy by the Miller Brewing Company!!

[Dmy]

At this point in my life, no.
Actually, that is not entirely true; there are brief moments throughout the day when I am happy and can smile...

Keep it up hun..Im sure that smile will bright those you run across and make their day too. When you feel too lonely...you come back here! We'll cheer you up! You do for us! ;) :kk

[Charley]

I hate my job, but my teaching business is starting to sprout.At home,i'd have to say kinda.The wife finally got a job and is out the house which gives me quiet time for myself.as far as sex, whats sex. mabe once every 2 weeks or so but i'm use to it by now ,So all and all, IT's All Good.

[p.J]

Geesh Jen, do you think you could cheer up just a bit! Hate to see you so down! :D

:D I have my moments believe me...

[SirFox]

I hate my job, but my teaching business is starting to sprout.At home,i'd have to say kinda.The wife finally got a job and is out the house which gives me quiet time for myself.as far as sex, whats sex. mabe once every 2 weeks or so but i'm use to it by now ,So all and all, IT's All Good.

How are things going on in the Parish?
Look at this way...your job could be worse...and you could be devoid of sex altogether...on the other hand..you could also have it more often...

BTW, Welcome to the Site, Gabriel. :wa: :D

[Flirtalicious]

Sometimes yes sometimes no depends on the day....

[steamy]

A basic fact of life babe............... Something like rock, paper, sizzors under a sheet:D It happens, theres an outcome, you can feel it, but damn if you can figure it out sometime:D Sometimes yes sometimes no depends on the day....

[MagicalMerlin]

Happier than sawing a woman in half, or making her disappear!:D

[fly]

Yes.......today......very happy!

[PlayfulMale69]

Yes.......today......very happy!



Cum share a little of that happiness please! I need it!

[UltimateNaneki]

happy when I'm with a playful guy!

[fly]

Cum share a little of that happiness please! I need it!

Here ya go Playful!!!!:kk
(careful!!! it's contagious!!!)

[peaches]

Only with my kids, grand kids, friends and my feathered friend (love ya)

[UltimateNaneki]

Sure! why not.. My life sucks and I can't buy friends let alone talk with them......Happy....was that the question! :sc

[confusedman]

not happy today. kids took all of what my wife could give...makes for a very lonely weekend :-(

[MIGHTY]

I am happy because I got to hear someone's voice who just so happens to be very close to my heart....

[OICurready4me]

As a matter of fact, prior to an hour ago, I was happy... since then, after talking to one very sweet and lovely lady...I am now extremely happy. :kk

[wylum]

sure i am always happy. why not?

[Flirtalicious]

I'm Always Happy When I'm here......

[snowflake]

Happy, as Happy can be.............:na

[MB54]

Happy, as Happy can be.............:na

Nice tongue action!!!!!:lf

[snowflake]

Nice tongue action!!!!!:lf

Just think of all that experience I am exhibiting...:D

[MB54]

Just think of all that experience I am exhibiting...:D

I am beleive me I AM!:whee:

[SirFox]

I'm Always Happy When I'm here......

I used to think the same. Then came along the discourse of politics...and then it was the same as usual as LIFE. Then some calmness came and today.well...it's fun! :D

[confusedman]

i am happy now. things still aren't much better between me and the mrs. but I got to sing some acappella harmony this morning (my release from the real world). We did an awesome rendition of "Down to the river to Pray", and tomorrow night I get to learn a barbershop arrangement of "What a Wonderful World" that I have been dying to sing for a while.

OK, so i guess that may be a bit lame by some standards around here, but I take what I can get.

[MCat]

i am happy now. things still aren't much better between me and the mrs. but I got to sing some acappella harmony this morning (my release from the real world). We did an awesome rendition of "Down to the river to Pray", and tomorrow night I get to learn a barbershop arrangement of "What a Wonderful World" that I have been dying to sing for a while.

OK, so i guess that may be a bit lame by some standards around here, but I take what I can get.

I bet it was lovely....a few years back I used to take some elderly ladies to concerts here in town. I enjoyed listening to the barbershop quartet as much as they did. I can just imagine what "Down to the River to Pray" sounds like acappella.

Singing is a great release from the real world. :55

[confusedman]

I'll sing for you anytime, MCat! Once I get the "Wonderful World" thing down, I would be happy to send a copy to you - a personal dedication to one of those sweet people who makes this such a Wonderful World!

[MCat]

I'll sing for you anytime, MCat! Once I get the "Wonderful World" thing down, I would be happy to send a copy to you - a personal dedication to one of those sweet people who makes this such a Wonderful World!

I would be glad to receive a copy.....:knuddel:

And thank you for the nice compliment.....

[w9kw]

I'll sing for you anytime, MCat! Once I get the "Wonderful World" thing down, I would be happy to send a copy to you - a personal dedication to one of those sweet people who makes this such a Wonderful World!well good for you wish i could sing but when i do damm coyotes take off running

[cherokeered]

at this moment not particularly....but could be worse I suppose....;)

[confusedman]

anything i could do to help, Cherokee?

[cherokeered]

anything i could do to help, Cherokee?

Thanks hun...but not anything anyone can do...just have to ride it out i guess...

[confusedman]

ok...i'll be here if you need anything.

[UltimateNaneki]

Happy sure, but can be happier if only .....confusedman...

[cherokeered]

ok...i'll be here if you need anything.


:kk

[Mr Shy]

penny,
i'm happy many ways......but in many ways i'm not

[confusedman]

happier now for my brief but ever so pleasing meeting with UltimateNaneki! Catch u tomorrow, love!

[Traxster]

:D I have to say things are going really well for me....I have no complaints.....But that can always change as time goes by!!!:D

[Newenglandman]

at this moment not particularly....but could be worse I suppose....;)

Always could be worse.... but it can change in a minute, an hour or a day!!! :D

[Mr Shy]

i'm always happy in this time in my life

[G...G]

I'm happy with my life. There are a few things that I would like to change if I could but I'm sure we all feel that way.

[confusedman]

any day I have made a new friend is a happy day!

[upstr84u]

i was happy yesterday up to about lap 260 -- then i was not happy anymore - until lets say lap 280 and a certain little boy was out ofthe race -- then i was happy again

[G...G]

Ha Ha Ha!! :nu



i was happy yesterday up to about lap 260 -- then i was not happy anymore - until lets say lap 280 and a certain little boy was out ofthe race -- then i was happy again

[MIGHTY]

I am getting there...:kk

[confusedman]

Anything I can do to speed up the process Mighty?

[MIGHTY]

Anything I can do to speed up the process Mighty?

Awww....come on over big guy......:hug:

[confusedman]

Thanks, Mighty! always knew I could count on you to make a Monday brighter!!!

[MIGHTY]

Thanks, Mighty! always knew I could count on you to make a Monday brighter!!!

I do what I can.....just wish I could brighten your everydays.....;)

[wylum]

yup, very happy. we are going to set a record for a new high temperature today so I know I am going to be outside for sure

[confusedman]

well Mighty, let's aim for bright everydays then! I'm game if you are!

[OICurready4me]

I am getting there...:kk

Good to hear, hun...I'll take care of you and put a smile on your face again! :kk

[MIGHTY]

Good to hear, hun...I'll take care of you and put a smile on your face again! :kk

You always do sweetie....:kk

[confusedman]

almost over the top of the "happy meter"! only about 25 posts to go, then maybe I can get some work done ;)

[OICurready4me]

You always do sweetie....:kk


I aim to please... and please you I will do.... let me put that Kool Aid smile back on your face! :lf

[MIGHTY]

I aim to please... and please you I will do.... let me put that Kool Aid smile back on your face! :lf

Only half of a smile to go now.....:lf

[romanceman71]

very happy but could be happier

[confusedman]

can I help put on the other half smile, Mighty?

[MIGHTY]

can I help put on the other half smile, Mighty?

Why sure you can! I can never get enough help with a really big smile!:)

[confusedman]

with the lovin you draw here, it should be a 100 watter soon!

[MIGHTY]

with the lovin you draw here, it should be a 100 watter soon!

Just another day in the imagination of Mighty.....:D

[confusedman]

That's where I want to live...in the Imagi Nation of Mighty!!!

[OICurready4me]

Only half of a smile to go now.....:lf


Looks like I have more work to do then.... sit, back, relax... think of &^&&%^&^&^ and also ##$$$#$^%$#..... hows that smile doing?

[MIGHTY]

That's where I want to live...in the Imagi Nation of Mighty!!!

Oh, sweetie, you have no idea what trouble you could get yourself into!:lf

[confusedman]

ah, but it's SOOOOOOO worth it :D

[confusedman]

Over the top happy now!!! Made it to Premium!

[MIGHTY]

ah, but it's SOOOOOOO worth it :D

I must agree now. My imagination is like one big horny playground. Full of tantalizing rides and lots of sweet things to sample.......:lf

[cherokeered]

Not at the moment.......:(

[hotguy89]

can i cheer u up? u seem to be dressed in knots..can i untangle u...?:55

[w9kw]

Cher it can always be worst i m piss right now but it will be better in a bit

[peaches]

At this moment...no...but things always look better after a few shots of blackberry brandy....ummmmmmmmmmm

[w9kw]

hmmm well ill just go to the bridge, or the water tower hell i get confused

[UltimateNaneki]

hmmm well ill just go to the bridge, or the water tower hell i get confused

As long as you are closer to me, I'm happy!:55

[cherokeered]

just did a little work out...so feeling a little better...except for the dang shoulder...sigh

I used the beginners bands for heavens sake and the thing still hurts...sigh
Am getting discouraged....:(

[peaches]

After three things are looking brighter......a few more and the spot light will be on

[romanceman71]

just did a little work out...so feeling a little better...except for the dang shoulder...sigh

I used the beginners bands for heavens sake and the thing still hurts...sigh
Am getting discouraged....:(

sounds like you need a personal massage after your workouts

[Flirtalicious]

Always Happy Life is Way to Short not to Stay Happy, I don't want to Waste a Moment with Negatism....And it gets you No Where and just brings the people down around you.....

[sweet]

For the most part, yes I am happy. I'm a positive person and know to count my blessings. Things could be much worse than they are.

[SaltyLime]

i'm happy the footy season is back in action! - go manly (do me beaver, do me)! go gold coast!

[confusedman]

I am VERY happy...and a special someone knows why ;)

[UltimateNaneki]

I am VERY happy...and a special someone knows why ;)


<<blush>> happy has returned to my area lately...

[confusedman]

...and plans to stay for a while ;)

[peaches]

Right at this moment I'm very happy.....I sure you all are also!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Flirtalicious]

Always happy....

[Newenglandman]

Depends on the DAY!!!!!!!!! :D

[Traxster]

Pretty much all the time!!!

[sexylady_sm]

Whoever is happy will make others happy too!
- Mark Twain

[OICurready4me]

Always Happy Life is Way to Short not to Stay Happy, I don't want to Waste a Moment with Negatism....And it gets you No Where and just brings the people down around you.....


I agree wholeheartedly...and as far as bringing people down, I wouldn't mind having you "down" there, having one very lickalicious day and putting a smile on my face.

[spare_change]

Abraham Lincoln said:

"You will be as happy as you want to be."

Aristotle said:

"Happiness belongs to the self-sufficient"

Helen Keller said:

"Happiness cannot come from without. It must come from within. It is not what we see and touch or that which others do for us which makes us happy; it is that which we think and feel and do, first for the other fellow and then for ourselves."

Is that true? Are we the ones who determine our happiness, or are we at the mercy of fate, or worse, other people? Are we victims, and some of us are better at being victims than others? Does victimhood give us a license to hurt others?

[confusedman]

Nice thread, spare. While I think that true happiness does only come from within each of us, I think that outside forces work to impact what we feel inside. For me, a number of factors have led to me maintaining a very low image of myself. Could I change that? Yes, I think I could. But habitual thinking has led me to fall back on considering myself to be something less...less attractive...less fun...less of a person at times.

While I would love to think I have the power to break that cycle, I have not mustered up enough willpower yet...

[hoss]

I think ...yes !! i do think now and then ..

I think i agree with Mr.Lincoln ,but i also think that fate and circumstances ,and people around us affect our mood ...In our house if I'm happy then my family is happy ,we feed off each others feelings ...I also think in this world we live in ,with all the violence and anger ,its hard to be happy ,the daily grind and worry over bills ,family,work etc ...it can wear us down ...

[Jy]

Some of you might be surprised to hear I have battled depression since my early 20's. I'm usually accused of being optimistic to the point of idealistic, but that wasn't always the case.

I still struggle sometimes to keep my head above water and have developed some habits to help me. That sounds like the beginning of some self-help nonsense, but it's not. It's what I do to survive.
What I've learned is, life does suck at times, no matter who you are, how much money you make or your marital status. I've learned that people really can be jerks who seem to enjoy hurting you, cutting you down, or bullying you. I've learned that things don't always go my way, regardless of the planning and safeguards I put in place. These are the hard truths in life. We let them get us down when we don't expect them, when we think everyone is going to be nice to us, that our marriages are going to be happily ever after, and that life will be smooth sailing if you do everything we can to ensure it.
What I do to rise above this is focus on the positive, and no, it's not as easy as it sounds, and it's not always simple either.
You'll notice some of the threads I've started: "It's the little things in life that mean so much" which encourages us to focus on those little moments of joy that are sprinkled through our everyday lives that bring a smile to our faces.
Or "Do they have any good points?" where I asked if members could think of some good points about their spouses since we seem to focus only on their shortcomings. These are the things I do, actively and consciously to stay positive. If I were to concentrate on my hubby's bad points, I'd probably never be able to look him in the face again. If I only remembered the bad things that happened today, I'd probably just stay in bed tomorrow.
It may sound like I have my head in the clouds, but it's just the opposite. Life is a heavy trip. You can lighten the load by keeping your eyes on the beauty in life, or you can weigh yourself down remembering every wrong done to you.
Happiness really is a choice.

[hoss]

Some of you might be surprised to hear I have battled depression since my early 20's. I'm usually accused of being optimistic to the point of idealistic, but that wasn't always the case.

I still struggle sometimes to keep my head above water and have developed some habits to help me. That sounds like the beginning of some self-help nonsense, but it's not. It's what I do to survive.
What I've learned is, life does suck at times, no matter who you are, how much money you make or your marital status. I've learned that people really can be jerks who seem to enjoy hurting you, cutting you down, or bullying you. I've learned that things don't always go my way, regardless of the planning and safeguards I put in place. These are the hard truths in life. We let them get us down when we don't expect them, when we think everyone is going to be nice to us, that our marriages are going to be happily ever after, and that life will be smooth sailing if you do everything we can to ensure it.
What I do to rise above this is focus on the positive, and no, it's not as easy as it sounds, and it's not always simple either.
You'll notice some of the threads I've started: "It's the little things in life that mean so much" which encourages us to focus on those little moments of joy that are sprinkled through our everyday lives that bring a smile to our faces.
Or "Do they have any good points?" where I asked if members could think of some good points about their spouses since we seem to focus only on their shortcomings. These are the things I do, actively and consciously to stay positive. If I were to concentrate on my hubby's bad points, I'd probably never be able to look him in the face again. If I only remembered the bad things that happened today, I'd probably just stay in bed tomorrow.
It may sound like I have my head in the clouds, but it's just the opposite. Life is a heavy trip. You can lighten the load by keeping your eyes on the beauty in life, or you can weigh yourself down remembering every wrong done to you.
Happiness really is a choice.

:knuddel: dont need to say anymore than that ...

[Jy]

Thanks, hun. I knew you'd understand...:kk :knuddel: dont need to say anymore than that ...

[peaches]

Nice thread, spare. While I think that true happiness does only come from within each of us, I think that outside forces work to impact what we feel inside. For me, a number of factors have led to me maintaining a very low image of myself. Could I change that? Yes, I think I could. But habitual thinking has led me to fall back on considering myself to be something less...less attractive...less fun...less of a person at times.

While I would love to think I have the power to break that cycle, I have not mustered up enough willpower yet...
Then you must say to yourself...
I deserve to be happy
I deserve to be free

Say that over and over everyday....that will help give you the willpower to do what you have to do.....it helped me. But you have to want to change, that is also a key factor. Good Luck Confusedman...I'm always there for you.

[peaches]

I waws just talking to my son lastnight and talking about the choices in life we have and how the best way to go down the right path. Well happiness is on the top as fasr as I am concered. I have two things I do and number one is I repeated to my self, "I deserve to be happy", "I deserve to be free". That has helped me make the choice of ending my marriage. Then the second is we all have choices in life and there are always a flip side (I call it) to everything we do. The one that is going to help you in life and the one that is short term and can hurt people in the long run. That is the two questions I ask myself when I make choices in life. Not all might not work out but the majority of the time they do. We all make them and some on the spur of the moment ones and one to thing obout. But we still have to make them.
As we get ourselves in the rut of life and the people around us work against us we have the tendence to stray off our path. It can be a bumpy one to get back on and stay forcused. But it took me a year of saying over and over in my head the two deserved sentences. And I began to believe them and helped me make my choice and the best path that is for me.
But listen to yourself...and be truthful and honest when making these deciding or the path will be a bumpy one.

You have your happiness in your hands and mind.....it is up to you where you want o to go with it.....GOOD LUCK!!!

[MCat]

Abraham Lincoln said:

"You will be as happy as you want to be."

Aristotle said:

"Happiness belongs to the self-sufficient"

Helen Keller said:

"Happiness cannot come from without. It must come from within. It is not what we see and touch or that which others do for us which makes us happy; it is that which we think and feel and do, first for the other fellow and then for ourselves."

Is that true? Are we the ones who determine our happiness, or are we at the mercy of fate, or worse, other people? Are we victims, and some of us are better at being victims than others? Does victimhood give us a license to hurt others?

I think we are the ones who determine our happiness. You can blame other people all you want...in the end it's you that has to make you happy.

I'm pretty much an optimistic person....I like to give happiness to others. But I've learned that I have to make happiness for myself also...I can't give happiness if I don't feel it on the inside.

Thank God I haven't had much in my life to make me feel like a victim...I know a lot of you have. But if possible I do think we should pick ourselves up and move on...don't keep hurting those who hurt you. Let it go...for your own peace of mind.

[peaches]

Mcat you are so right. I have been a victum in my younger years...but I feel it has made me more of a caring person. Oh I could of been a person who victuimzed right back, but where would it end? It wouldn't and it has to stop somewhere, so I made it stop with me. It is so much rewarding to care for others than to hurt them. I might be hurting on the inside but when someone else is hurting I put that off to the side and care for them first, I can always wait to sort out my own problems. I am trying to teach that to my children, but this generation,,,,Good Luck, but I keep on trying.

[Shiane]

Life can really suck a lot of the time and during those times it is hard to be happy. But, I think like Jazzy, happiness is a choice. I know life can wear you down and being sad or mad is much easier than being happy. It is more of an attitude then anything else. I guess what I'm trying to say is you have to choose joy! If you really think about it, we all have something that makes us happy. I think we take so much for granted that we don't really appreciate all that we have.

We make conditions on our happiness like when I get that promotion then I'll really be happy. When all my bills are paid of then I'll really be happy. When I lose 20 lbs then I'll really be happy. When my marriage is perfect then I'll be happy. When my kids clean their room then I'll be happy. When I don't have any health problems then I'll be happy. When my life is perfect then I'll be happy. We are setting ourselves up to be unhappy because face it when is life ever perfect? There will always be something that keeps us from being happy.

Why not choose to be happy in the here and now? People find it is much easier to whine about everything that is wrong in their lives instead of being happy about everything that is good. Trust me when I say that as bad as your life seems, it could always be worse. We are only guaranteed the pursuit of happiness. Finding happiness is up to you. If you look around I am certain that you will find many people less fortunate than you are.

You choose happiness, it doesn't choose you.

[Crawfish]

I think that we have the power to be happy but I also think that some people are just happy and some people are unhappy. Kinda like being an opptomist and a pessimist. I once new this guy and he was unbelievably unhappy. Everything about his life. He was always sad. Listen to this guy talk and you go home on top of the world, thinking "hey my life isn't so bad!" But it was his outlook that was wrong. I remember driving somewhere with him and instead of admiring the beautiful subdivision that we were driving through, He wondered why he wasn't "lucky" enough to end up like this. Lucky...Uh I would say luck has nothing to do with it. Most of these people went to college, got a good job, and worked for these houses. Needless to say I don't really talk to him at all anymore. Just a freakin crybaby!

[confusedman]

Then you must say to yourself...
I deserve to be happy
I deserve to be free

Say that over and over everyday....that will help give you the willpower to do what you have to do.....it helped me. But you have to want to change, that is also a key factor. Good Luck Confusedman...I'm always there for you.

Thanks, peaches. I'll work on it hun! :kk

[cherokeered]

Happiness depends on you and your expectations and your choices.....


Fate can only send you in the direction based on your choices...the rest is up to you...

I know myself...sometimes I start wanting something...and am sometimes disappointed when I get it...and other times...I don't get it, but what I do makes me happy....so it's your choice....

[Jy]

Well said, MC! Some people like to spend their lives blaming others for their misery, but the truth is, it sucks all over. You can let adversity bend you or break you; it's up to you.
Like Crawfish's friend, some people seem to thrive being miserable. Some do it out of fear - they justify not taking risks because "they had a difficult childhood" which gets them off the hook. Some do it for sympathy -which tends to run out eventually, so then they find a new audience or "create" new miseries. There's a million reasons to lay blame on others, stay in a rut or not try something new, and some people make a life of out doing just that.
Yes, some of us here have had a tough run of it. Some of you know about my childhood and some of you have had similar experiences, or equally challenging upbringings. Did you let it break you? They say what doesn't kill you will make you strong - are you strong? Do you stand on your own two feet or lie down and play the victim?
It's your choice.

I think we are the ones who determine our happiness. You can blame other people all you want...in the end it's you that has to make you happy.

I'm pretty much an optimistic person....I like to give happiness to others. But I've learned that I have to make happiness for myself also...I can't give happiness if I don't feel it on the inside.

Thank God I haven't had much in my life to make me feel like a victim...I know a lot of you have. But if possible I do think we should pick ourselves up and move on...don't keep hurting those who hurt you. Let it go...for your own peace of mind.

[peaches]

Victimhood...is it real? I don't think so...it is something we choose to do and is taught. You have the choice to mean to people and to be victims. As some of know about being victims, I have been for years. And for me I take a stand and stop being a victim. I leave for Colorado tomorrow morning, (Wednesday).
So I take a path in my life to what I think will make me happy. I'm sure, but it is better than where I was. It took me a long time to decide this and right now I'm the happiest I ever been in so long I can't remember (now how sad is that?).
So the next time I come in the chat room or post I will be in Colorado.
See everyone there...:wa: :) :wa: :) :wa:

[snowflake]

:) As long as I wake up breathing, I am happy....... Life is a bowl of cherries, You will find some pits, but really you have to just dig in and eat.......(that's what my momma says)

[G...G]

You just wow'd me!!!! Thank you for that!! :55

Some of you might be surprised to hear I have battled depression since my early 20's. I'm usually accused of being optimistic to the point of idealistic, but that wasn't always the case.

I still struggle sometimes to keep my head above water and have developed some habits to help me. That sounds like the beginning of some self-help nonsense, but it's not. It's what I do to survive.
What I've learned is, life does suck at times, no matter who you are, how much money you make or your marital status. I've learned that people really can be jerks who seem to enjoy hurting you, cutting you down, or bullying you. I've learned that things don't always go my way, regardless of the planning and safeguards I put in place. These are the hard truths in life. We let them get us down when we don't expect them, when we think everyone is going to be nice to us, that our marriages are going to be happily ever after, and that life will be smooth sailing if you do everything we can to ensure it.
What I do to rise above this is focus on the positive, and no, it's not as easy as it sounds, and it's not always simple either.
You'll notice some of the threads I've started: "It's the little things in life that mean so much" which encourages us to focus on those little moments of joy that are sprinkled through our everyday lives that bring a smile to our faces.
Or "Do they have any good points?" where I asked if members could think of some good points about their spouses since we seem to focus only on their shortcomings. These are the things I do, actively and consciously to stay positive. If I were to concentrate on my hubby's bad points, I'd probably never be able to look him in the face again. If I only remembered the bad things that happened today, I'd probably just stay in bed tomorrow.
It may sound like I have my head in the clouds, but it's just the opposite. Life is a heavy trip. You can lighten the load by keeping your eyes on the beauty in life, or you can weigh yourself down remembering every wrong done to you.
Happiness really is a choice.

[Dmy]

Victimhood...is it real? I don't think so...it is something we choose to do and is taught. You have the choice to mean to people and to be victims. As some of know about being victims, I have been for years. And for me I take a stand and stop being a victim. I leave for Colorado tomorrow morning, (Wednesday).
So I take a path in my life to what I think will make me happy. I'm sure, but it is better than where I was. It took me a long time to decide this and right now I'm the happiest I ever been in so long I can't remember (now how sad is that?).
So the next time I come in the chat room or post I will be in Colorado.
See everyone there...:wa: :) :wa: :) :wa:

Hey, Soon you'll be by neighbor to the south of me! :55 Hope all goes well hun! ;) :kk

[confusedman]

Victimhood...is it real? I don't think so...it is something we choose to do and is taught. You have the choice to mean to people and to be victims. As some of know about being victims, I have been for years. And for me I take a stand and stop being a victim. I leave for Colorado tomorrow morning, (Wednesday).
So I take a path in my life to what I think will make me happy. I'm sure, but it is better than where I was. It took me a long time to decide this and right now I'm the happiest I ever been in so long I can't remember (now how sad is that?).
So the next time I come in the chat room or post I will be in Colorado.
See everyone there...:wa: :) :wa: :) :wa:

I am so proud of you, peaches! And hoping your travels today are uneventful....at least until you land in those beautiful mountains! :kk

[Dmy]

I have always believe you have to make the best out of things. I've known ppl who have had a life of hell and yet are the best ppl I've been around and I've seen the opposite.
I cant remember who said it... but life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you handle it. I truely believe we choose how we handle things...yes some are more difficult than others but some are just down right terrible. That doesnt mean we have to be happy in that, but to find things that do bring joy and happiness is up to us as some have already stated.
Im a pretty easy going guy for most part....when it came to farming and ranching...you had to take the good with the bad. I think that taught me alot for life and how to handle it.
Its nice to hear how some of you view this...good thread ! :55

[p.J]

Nice one Dreamy... :kk


Happiness does not come from things outside of you. It does not come from riches or fame; it does not come from recognition or glory. Happiness springs only from the inside, and from our own perceptions of things. It does not matter what you have or who you are in order to make your own self happy. True happiness only comes about through changing your own feelings, which, in turn, relies on changing how you look and think about things -- especially those things which trouble you. These feelings are our own responsibility, its our perceptions of those things which affected how you feel about those things. YOU determine how you feel -- not someone else. No one else can be responsible for your feelings, because you alone are the one generating them.

[Dmy]

Nice one Dreamy... :kk


Happiness does not come from things outside of you. It does not come from riches or fame; it does not come from recognition or glory. Happiness springs only from the inside, and from our own perceptions of things. It does not matter what you have or who you are in order to make your own self happy. True happiness only comes about through changing your own feelings, which, in turn, relies on changing how you look and think about things -- especially those things which trouble you. These feelings are our own responsibility, its our perceptions of those things which affected how you feel about those things. YOU determine how you feel -- not someone else. No one else can be responsible for your feelings, because you alone are the one generating them.



Very well put too Jen! :55 :kk

[flamengo130]

It's not the destination...it's the journey! Enjoy the journey as much as possible cuz we all have the same final destination.

[peaches]

It's not the destination...it's the journey! Enjoy the journey as much as possible cuz we all have the same final destination.
and what is that destination flamengo? hoping ikt's the same as mine...:knuddel:

[confusedman]

and what is that destination flamengo? hoping ikt's the same as mine...:knuddel:

This saying is on a plaque hanging on my bedroom wall...

"Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and proclaiming, "Wow, what a ride!!!".

Today, it toally fits me...guess you can create your own happiness after all!

[pointofnoreturn]

live love and laugh..........Live today like you were dying...Come and get it???

[confusedman]

It was there all along...and I've found it within me! Having some special friends on the quest has made it easier to find though...

[SexyCowgirl]

great thread!

I think life (thus happiness) is exactly what you make of it. You may not have been served the best, but it is your choice to look at what you have and be thankful and happy to have it. I also think that you make decisions everyday that either make you happy, or unhappy. And people happy with their lives attract others who are happy with theirs, thus supporting them. While people who go through life holding grudges, or finding reasons to be upset, attract people who will perpetuate those feelings, and make them true.

My best friend and I grew up together, and we weren't happy when we were younger, and we had a rough time of things. But when I was a sophomore, I decided that the onl person who could/would change things for the better was me. And I stepped up to the plate and am very happy with my life now (although the sex could use some work, but that is my own fault for refusing to burst my hubbys bubble;))

My friend,however, continued making decisions which have made her an unhappy person. She rushed into a marriage with a guy who is not right for her, she constantly sells herself short, she convinces herself of her own lack of worth. And she justifys what she is unhappy with by blaming god, instead of accepting personal resposibility for her own decisions. And when she looks at the same things as me, she finds something wrong, and refuses to see what is good or pretty.

It is all a frame of mind, fix how you think about things, and you will find happiness!

[peaches]

It was there all along...and I've found it within me! Having some special friends on the quest has made it easier to find though...
I agree confusedman...we have to make our own happiness and the help from friends sure makes it sweeter. I am finding happiness and has been a long road but my friends and the people I care about most have made it a little less bumpy. Still have a was to go but making sure I stay on the right path...may fall backwards from time to time but other people help to get me going...as I truly try to do for others.

[OICurready4me]

I agree confusedman...we have to make our own happiness and the help from friends sure makes it sweeter. I am finding happiness and has been a long road but my friends and the people I care about most have made it a little less bumpy. Still have a was to go but making sure I stay on the right path...may fall backwards from time to time but other people help to get me going...as I truly try to do for others.


Peaches, you have helped me with your sayings and I thank you. I still don't remember to say them every day but it's a start and that is what counts. Thanks hun!!!

[peaches]

Peaches, you have helped me with your sayings and I thank you. I still don't remember to say them every day but it's a start and that is what counts. Thanks hun!!!
Helloi OIC, How are you hon? It is so good, and you know anytime i am willing to help out a friend...but you really must say them for them to work. That is where you start with being happy..,.,from within and helping others...

[Crawfish]

great thread!

I think life (thus happiness) is exactly what you make of it. You may not have been served the best, but it is your choice to look at what you have and be thankful and happy to have it. I also think that you make decisions everyday that either make you happy, or unhappy. And people happy with their lives attract others who are happy with theirs, thus supporting them. While people who go through life holding grudges, or finding reasons to be upset, attract people who will perpetuate those feelings, and make them true.

My best friend and I grew up together, and we weren't happy when we were younger, and we had a rough time of things. But when I was a sophomore, I decided that the onl person who could/would change things for the better was me. And I stepped up to the plate and am very happy with my life now (although the sex could use some work, but that is my own fault for refusing to burst my hubbys bubble;))

My friend,however, continued making decisions which have made her an unhappy person. She rushed into a marriage with a guy who is not right for her, she constantly sells herself short, she convinces herself of her own lack of worth. And she justifys what she is unhappy with by blaming god, instead of accepting personal resposibility for her own decisions. And when she looks at the same things as me, she finds something wrong, and refuses to see what is good or pretty.

It is all a frame of mind, fix how you think about things, and you will find happiness!
My "friend" was like that too. One thing that I loved to do is when he metioned something that was wrong with his life like not being rich like his brother. I could pinpoint the decision that he made that got him where he is today. For instance. I told him the reason he didn't have as much money as his brother is because he didn't go to college. Don't get me wrong I do belive that sometimes bad things just happen, but alot of things happen for a reason.

[SexyCowgirl]

My "friend" was like that too. One thing that I loved to do is when he metioned something that was wrong with his life like not being rich like his brother. I could pinpoint the decision that he made that got him where he is today. For instance. I told him the reason he didn't have as much money as his brother is because he didn't go to college. Don't get me wrong I do belive that sometimes bad things just happen, but alot of things happen for a reason.

Yeah, I am always talking with her, and she comes up with things that "life" has done to throw her under the bus, and when I look back, she had every opportunity to be happy and sucessful. She was so much smarter then me, and college bound, and her family had the money to help her do whatever she wanted to do in life. And she had support, for whatever she chose to do. She still has people supporting her decisions, bad though they may be!

But I wasn't given the chances she was, yet I still am happier then her. Such a shame. Opportunity is wasted on some!

[Michael77]

Im so happy i could just s***...next question please..:lmao

[UltimateNaneki]

Im so happy i could just s***...next question please..:lmao


Babe your so close....I will be happy with you!:na

[Amaretto]

Extremely happy!! Life is better than it has ever been. My husband and I are very happy with each other, and feel completely secure in our marriage. But we understand the natural desire to flirt and to want new experiences, so for the past several months, we have allowed each other the freedom to explore a bit. Anything goes, as long as we tell each other about it. It's quite fun!! :D

[Jy]

Some people like to spend their lives blaming others for their misery, but the truth is, it sucks all over. You can let adversity bend you or break you; it's up to you.
Like Crawfish's friend, some people seem to thrive being miserable. Some do it out of fear - they justify not taking risks because "they had a difficult childhood" which gets them off the hook. Some do it for sympathy -which tends to run out eventually, so then they find a new audience or "create" new miseries. There's a million reasons to lay blame on others, stay in a rut or not try something new, and some people make a life of out doing just that.
Yes, some of us here have had a tough run of it. Some of you know about my childhood and some of you have had similar experiences, or equally challenging upbringings. Did you let it break you? They say what doesn't kill you will make you strong - are you strong? Do you stand on your own two feet or lie down and play the victim?
It's your choice.

[OICurready4me]

Happiness, to me, is a frame of mind. You can choose to be happy or you can choose to be unhappy and only you can make those decisions that will alter how you feel about yourself, your life and your future. Your either a half full or half empty person. Just think about it?

When you talk, do you use the words not, never, won't, can't alot? If so, you are a pessimist and thus, going to be very unhappy until you change the way you think. You have to change the way you think, turn those words around to think about what you will and can do. It makes a world of difference. I am an upbeat person almost all the time and it breeds upon itself. Negativity is like cancer, it spreads so easily but being Positive, is like the rays of sunshine, they shine everywhere and warm everyone up. Try it, you'll like it! (just like Mikey and his Life cereal)

[speed_raycer]

Hi OIC! Nice post. Very true. Sometimes I get into the half-empty mode... worry too much.



Happiness, to me, is a frame of mind. You can choose to be happy or you can choose to be unhappy and only you can make those decisions that will alter how you feel about yourself, your life and your future. Your either a half full or half empty person. Just think about it?

When you talk, do you use the words not, never, won't, can't alot? If so, you are a pessimist and thus, going to be very unhappy until you change the way you think. You have to change the way you think, turn those words around to think about what you will and can do. It makes a world of difference. I am an upbeat person almost all the time and it breeds upon itself. Negativity is like cancer, it spreads so easily but being Positive, is like the rays of sunshine, they shine everywhere and warm everyone up. Try it, you'll like it! (just like Mikey and his Life cereal)

[MysteryLaidee]

Happiness, to me, is a frame of mind. You can choose to be happy or you can choose to be unhappy and only you can make those decisions that will alter how you feel about yourself, your life and your future. Your either a half full or half empty person. Just think about it?

When you talk, do you use the words not, never, won't, can't alot? If so, you are a pessimist and thus, going to be very unhappy until you change the way you think. You have to change the way you think, turn those words around to think about what you will and can do. It makes a world of difference. I am an upbeat person almost all the time and it breeds upon itself. Negativity is like cancer, it spreads so easily but being Positive, is like the rays of sunshine, they shine everywhere and warm everyone up. Try it, you'll like it! (just like Mikey and his Life cereal)

Very well said...I'll remember this each time I catch myself going down negative road! :55

[confusedman]

Thanks to a very special woman, I am happier than I can remember being in a long time. And I can only hope she is as happy at this moment...

[pointofnoreturn]

Happy sometimes. Content????Not at all..

[Big O]

I am always happy untill someone pisses me off!!!

[confusedman]

When my best friend needed help, I was the one she called. How can I not be happy, knowing I can provide a place to catch her when she falls? I am happier now than I ever have been!