What's Your Beef?

[Zpanther]

Yeah I know you girls all got a hotbutton. That wasn't what I was thinking about though. Is there something your spouse does that can make you see 'red?'

I 'spose there are several, but one of mine is when Lady P criticizes my driving. This has been going on for the entire 31 years of our marriage, and it never changes.... and I really AM a good and safe driver too. We had a 2 hour drive to visit her relatives last weekend. She started in with just a comment or two. I ignored her for an hour and finally blew up. We had a class 1 screaming match and weren't speaking by the time we arrived for dinner. I guess we've been married too long though. As soon as we arrived, we switched it off and had a good time the rest of the weekend. I let her drive home. Wasn't worth another fight.

[Penny]

I don't take critisism(speeling) very well :(

[swabie16]

my wife tells me i always make mistakes what ever i do but they're not mistakes i'm merly confused

[Penny]

Sounds like my husband :D

[swabie16]

confused is better than wrong right

[Zpanther]

Couple of Lady P's are pulling the shower curtain closed to let it dry out.... and the ol' put the toilet seat down....... heh heh After she fell in a few times in the middle of the night (she never turns a light on when she gets up), I decided I better pay more attention to that one.

[MCat]

Is there something your spouse does that can make you see 'red?'

Quite often he answers a different question than the one I asked....I don't understand how one has anything to do with the other and then I go ballistic...Sorry Hank, don't mean too...I just don't have a lot of patience left....I'm off my medication and worn out.:whee:

[roughneck]

my wife gets on my nerves to when i am driving and she is the one that can't drive.

[Seeker]

I feel your pain!


I'm a professional driver, yet my wife is always telling me I'm driving too fast, or too slow, too close, ....... etc., etc. :sg Oh, well! Gotta love 'em.
my wife gets on my nerves to when i am driving and she is the one that can't drive.

[Wet Beaver]

poker nights.......

[Zpanther]

poker nights.......

Uh....... what's wrong with that? You just miss him? ..... or is he losing too much money?

[Seeker]

oh, yeah .... directions ..... I decided to let my wife give me directions to a place I hadn't been before. After a few 'turn here's and turn there's, followed by turn left up there, and turn righ over there. She was SO totally lost!


Fortunately I had her write down the address.... I found the place in less than 5 minutes ( in her defense I will say she got us close)

Morale of the story: Follow directions exactly! That way, when things go wrong, you know who to blame! :rofl1:

[Wet Beaver]

Uh....... what's wrong with that? You just miss him? ..... or is he losing too much money?

Most of the time he comes home about even, but he stinks of cigar smoke and has had way to much to drink.One night he couldn't even climb up the stairs to bed.

[Zpanther]

I feel your pain!


I'm a professional driver, yet my wife is always telling me I'm driving too fast, or too slow, too close, ....... etc., etc. :sg Oh, well! Gotta love 'em.

heh heh...... ya can't please 'em. I asked Lady P if I was driving too fast..... 'no.' Was I driving erratic? ...... 'no.' I asked her then "well just what is it that you're so upset about?" She said, "I don't like you looking all around when you're driving. Keep you're eyes on the road." ....... whew! Go figure.

[hank69]

Quite often he answers a different question than the one I asked....I don't understand how one has anything to do with the other and then I go ballistic...Sorry Hank, don't mean too...I just don't have a lot of patience left....I'm off my medication and worn out.:whee:Sorry 20+ years of factory and airplane noise,I dont always here you correctly

[Onehttmama]

Quite often he answers a different question than the one I asked....I don't understand how one has anything to do with the other and then I go ballistic...Sorry Hank, don't mean too...I just don't have a lot of patience left....I'm off my medication and worn out.:whee:



:rofl1: OMG! I do that to my husband! He will ask a question and I will answer his next question before he asks it so hes such a smart ass he will ask the question to what I said first and I will answer the first question then. It absolutely drives him nuts the kids crack up. Its like I anticipate the question, but his first one was unnescessary. Sorry Marycat, its like arunning joke around here. He gets soo worked up over the silliest things that dont amount to anything! It was like that on vacation last week. I mean to tell you that was one long 12 hour car ride home!!!

[Onehttmama]

oh, yeah .... directions ..... I decided to let my wife give me directions to a place I hadn't been before. After a few 'turn here's and turn there's, followed by turn left up there, and turn righ over there. She was SO totally lost!


Fortunately I had her write down the address.... I found the place in less than 5 minutes ( in her defense I will say she got us close)

Morale of the story: Follow directions exactly! That way, when things go wrong, you know who to blame! :rofl1:

I have learned over the years that if we are going someplace we havent been, and have directions, THAT I need to be driving NOT him. He cant listen to directions for nothing. On the way home on I95 he tells me to look for the exit, I tell him 2 miles, i tell him 1 mile , next exit, what is he doing looking left above the trees at a billboard sign and drives right past the exit. THEN wont admitt he did wrong, THATS my biggest pet peive. so I would rather drive and have him sit and be quite. I get us there despite his , you turned on the wrong road, you were supposed to go north, etc etc. I just drive and get us there and he still wont admitt I am right and it been almost 25 years!!!

MY 11 year old son told us on the to FL that when we arrived we would have to go to separate rooms and think about the way we acted towards each other! NOW what does that say!! The almost 16 girl tells me on the way home that we need counseling after he says I need a psychiatrist. He's loosing it and they know it! OK now that I have vented I feel better.:thankyou:

[Norfolkdave]

Yes my wife critisies my driving, Im wrong if I drive to close ( ie over here 30ft between cars) wrong for overtaking to fast and if I dont meet her ontime, too long on the computer, yet if I have nothing to do around the home she says " you might as well go on your computer!

[Penny]

I will be talking to my husband for ten minutes and he looks like he is listening but ten mins later he will ask me what did you say? :(

[illmakeurtoeswiggle]

When my wife is watching TV she is absolutely oblivious to the world around her...that drives me nuts! I can talk directly to her...raise my voice and still not get her attention. I guess it might be selective hearing but, Man! I can't stand it!:mad: :mad: :tantrum:

[bgpoole]

When my wife asks me to do something, if I don't drop whatever I am doing and do it immediatly she gets all bent out of shape, and of course I get pretty PO'ed when she expects me to stop something I am in the middle of to do something she wants.

[SirPoet]

I know you weren't asking for advice but here is some anyway : )

Most of us who have been married awhile, fall into patterns - especially when it comes to arguments with our spouses. If you think about it, they say one thing - you say another and it's basically the same argument time and time again.

The next time - try responding differently. Say or don't say something they are expecting! You can break the pattern but it takes one of you to do it.

[bobby6901]

My wife sometimes comes home and sits down with the paper in the kitchen whileI cook supper... she's the better cook, but likes the service... if I got serviced after I wouldn't feel so taken advantage of! She'll climb in bed and go to sleep without a word! Like.. do I exist??? oh and as soon as I start to do something, anything at alll she'll suddenly be inspired to do all these other things completely unrelated to what I'm doing, but she'll expect me to stop what I'm doing and help her.... nasty nasty woman....like she's trying to distract me so I can't succeed..... and she wonders why I just sit on the couch staring off into space...

[Penny]

That dosen't sound like a good situation :(

[dallyfoster]

Yeah... no it doesnt

[nlightenedrogue]

Starting major projects without finishing them, hands down.

[dallyfoster]

It may not be a spouse, but I really hate when my father will start talking and then just stop and leave a subject in the air, not finishing his story, his attention span is very short.

[Penny]

comes with age :(

[dallyfoster]

I think my dad has always been like that though...

[Norfolkdave]

When we are tired do we get irritable over the sillest little thing!:cry:

[swabie16]

oh yes iam the worlds biggest grump

[dallyfoster]

You better believe it, man

[aceofspades1114]

Yes we all get to be a hard ass after everything gets to us

[dallyfoster]

Good, im glad I am not the only one that gets a little short-tempered when I am tired :)

[Norfolkdave]

We all have them what are yours, what aggrivates your partners.:D :nu

[Norfolkdave]

I get grumpy when tired as the tiredness is constant because of my disability problem

[illmakeurtoeswiggle]

Cussing, nagging, complaining, procrastinating and just being GRUMPY!:(


And then I wonder why she doesn't want to have sex.....;)

[Norfolkdave]

Cussing, nagging, complaining, procrastinating and just being GRUMPY!:(


And then I wonder why she doesn't want to have sex.....;)

Everyday life then man!:nu :D

[swabie16]

my biggest is grumpy then i eat too much , don't listen, think i'm better at everythingand all the rest

[KIRA187]

count me in... i get edgy and impatient.

[quax999]

Oh, yeah, i get really grumpy over stupid stuff.

[Zpanther]

I'm always a happy-go-lucky, eternally optimistic, kind and understanding gentleman....... (yeah right!)

[nlightenedrogue]

For me, it depends on what kind of tired. When I'm physically exhausted, from great sex, a workout, or just hard manual labor, I feel great - even though I may be tired. But when I'm emotionally drained, stressed, then I'm cranky!

[Wet Beaver]

tired, that me...just got home about a hour ago... thinking about going back to bed

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[Zpanther]

tired, that me...just got home about a hour ago... thinking about going back to bed

http://instagiber.net/smiliesdotcom/contrib/lilly/hmm3grin2orange.gif

hmmmmmmm an all nighter huh Beav? :drink:

[Wet Beaver]

yes, are ya jelouse??

[Zpanther]

Anytime I tell her to do something...... procrastination.

[Penny]

I dont have any I am perfect :D

[Penny]

I'm tired today myself it's been a long week :(

[dallyfoster]

Are you grumpy as well, Penny?

[dallyfoster]

I cuss quite a bit... yep

[dallyfoster]

I dont even realize I am sometimes.... I guess it can get bad.

[illmakeurtoeswiggle]

I dont have any I am perfect :D

Now Penny....let's get Heaterman on here and ask him about you!:D

[dallyfoster]

Penny is perfect, such a sweet little angel... :)

[Wet Beaver]

beside smokeing?? Flirting with ZP......

[illmakeurtoeswiggle]

Penny is perfect, such a sweet little angel... :)
Come on dally...you're just trying to score points, buddy!:D
She might look like an angel, but I have a feeling there's a devil inside.;)

[dallyfoster]

Not a devil inside... a goddess

[illmakeurtoeswiggle]

Not a devil inside... a goddess

Damn dally...you're gonna get to be a gold member over this!:D

[dallyfoster]

I have no idea what you are talking about! Penny is a sweet little goddess... bringing joy to each of our lives.

[Zpanther]

beside smokeing?? Flirting with ZP......

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA......... you're right there. I can become a 'bad habit.' (huh........I've been told that before.)

[Zpanther]

Penny is perfect, such a sweet little angel... :)

Excuse me? Penny? ....... okay, sweet is okay, but .. little Angel? :D ....... hardly!

But I kinda think she's pretty sexy just the way she is, Heaterman seems to be a pretty happy camper, and it also seems Penny sorta likes being a sweet girl that likes to be 'bad.'

[MCat]

I am moody:cry: :D ...I like clutter...never finish a project right away...late for work in the past few weeks(not like me at all), eat too much chocolate:smdance: I downed a whole bag of choc covered peanuts tonight.


The things that I think bother my partner right now are: my moodiness, I don't manage money well, not good at blow jobs :blowjob: :cry:

[nlightenedrogue]

I'm impatient...I don't like listening to long stories...I keep urging my wife and kids to get to the point. I can be a little anal sometimes, about my yard, etc. Those are probably the worst.

[Norfolkdave]

I dont have any I am perfect :D



Whos kidding who here!:lmao

[Annie]

Smoking, clutter, I was born to bitch,:nu I'm trying to pick up the drinking habit :drink: but I fall asleep after one so that's kind of a bust... the family is so disappointed in my sobriety... ...it's not workin for me...:cry:

[Big O]

I tend to get lazy about doing things around the house.
I yell at stupid people who don't know how to drive a car!

[bobby6901]

I get depressed, and bring everybody down, working too much and sleeping too little, too anal about everything, never satisfied.... can't focus on any one thing for any length of time, leave mmost projects half finished for years sometimes.... focus too much on sex (or the lack of it...) There's a few of my worst....anyone want to fix me up?

[aceofspades1114]

Mine is being a pack-rat but I hold on to the stuff knowing the second I throw things away I will need it. I'm not a total slob where all my crap is lying around normally it is tuck in nice little hide-aways.

I cuss a bit but not like a sailor. I figure it is just words no harm done with it

[Penny]

:lmao So where you been dally? Are you tired of us already :nu



I have no idea what you are talking about! Penny is a sweet little goddess... bringing joy to each of our lives.

[MCat]

I get depressed, and bring everybody down, working too much and sleeping too little, too anal about everything, never satisfied.... can't focus on any one thing for any length of time, leave mmost projects half finished for years sometimes.... focus too much on sex (or the lack of it...) There's a few of my worst....anyone want to fix me up?

I think you must be me in disguise :sp:

[MCat]

I tend to get lazy about doing things around the house.
I yell at stupid people who don't know how to drive a car!


When I got out the car at the stop light to find out why the hell the cars weren't moving....I went on Zoloft. Was on it 4 years. Off now and doing well, I think....what do you think Hank? Am I doing ok?

[Norfolkdave]

beside smokeing?? Flirting with ZP......

You smoke too, God you must be hot!:D

[hank69]

yeaI am moody:cry: :D ...I like clutter...never finish a project right away...late for work in the past few weeks(not like me at all), eat too much chocolate:smdance: I downed a whole bag of choc covered peanuts tonight.


The things that I think bother my partner right now are: my moodiness, I don't manage money well, not good at blow jobs :blowjob: :cry:


I wanted some of them chocolate peanuts:nuwell maybe i can have a banna split this weekend w\ chocolate :sp:

[hank69]

O mine is not starting a project. If I start it- it does get completed.

[geshem]

Cookies in bed. More than 2 beers.

[Polo38]

nail biting....yeah right like i wish that was my only bad habit

[avitron69]

addicted to compluter gaming

[CSpringsFlyer]

I can have a wicked temper, and have yet to figure out how to adequately hide the fact that I am angry at people.

[Wet Beaver]

You smoke too, God you must be hot!:D


LOL.......... :na

[illmakeurtoeswiggle]

Spending too much time here!:D ;)

Drooling over wet beaver's and marycat's avatars!:dl

[KIRA187]

I dont have any bad habits but i am sure no one will believe that so I will just make some up:

being too impatient with slow drivers
typically not finishing things that I start (unless it is sexually related)

[Zpanther]

yes, are ya jelouse??

of course I am (I mean 'was')..... jelous (hey Penny! We need a spell check for the 'Beav')....... heh heh

[Zpanther]

Most of the time he comes home about even, but he stinks of cigar smoke and has had way to much to drink.One night he couldn't even climb up the stairs to bed.

uh huh.......... I always tell my wife I ended up 'about even' too........ heh heh

[Zpanther]

Do you like to argue? (Some people actually enjoy it. For others it's emotionally draining)

[Zpanther]

I'm one of those people who does like to argue. I don't mean I enjoy those conversations where it gets angry and mean. But I do enjoy talking with people who have opposing opinions from mine. I guess it's that I don't learn all that much talking with people who agree with my views. It's stimulating. Sometimes I've even taken a position I don't really believe just to see if the other person can articulate what they say they believe. I like it when someone questions my views and sometimes (although not very often) I even change my mind.

[Annie]

Interesting question...I have made some of my nearest and dearest friends through an argument. The best ones for me are through e-mail. It gives me time to mull over my response and keep my emotions in check. I had one that lasted a few weeks and it was the best because both of us were mature enough to really look at both sides and now that person is one of my best e-mail friends. I prefer the word debate for that though...now a real argument...that's what I do with hubby!

[Wet Beaver]

sometimes, i do..as long as it dosen't get to heated.

[Penny]

Actually the new version of this board has a spell check I am just afraid to update it :( Dont want to mess it up

[Penny]

I can be quick to say something to get myself into trouble

[illmakeurtoeswiggle]

I like good conversation...to listen and to speak. :D

I've found out that as soon as two people start to argue, one of them stops listening....and it's usually the one I'm arguing with!:eek: ;) :lmao

[Norfolkdave]

We argue Im afraid and its always to do with finances and sex.

[Norfolkdave]

Actually the new version of this board has a spell check I am just afraid to update it :( Dont want to mess it up

In my eyes you cant do anything wrong

[Wet Beaver]

of course I am (I mean 'was')..... jelous (hey Penny! We need a spell check for the 'Beav')....... heh heh

good grief, i drop an A and added an E, he turns into a spelling cop.. by the way i don't think i spell that bad. for someone who bearly made it out of high school, and never went to college.. now as for my grammer. that a different subject.. :whee:

[Zpanther]

hahahahahaahahahaha....... Well I see I didn't do too well either (mispelled jealous).

Oh, and barely isn't spelled bearly either...... ;) ..... (not that we care one way or the other). You're probably just excited about the Chicago Bears about to begin another season.

[Wet Beaver]

everyone Zp is the spelling cop on this board,,:lmao watch out




now for the real question... why would i think the chicago bears( i really did forget about them) would have a winning season.... when the Angles are doing so good in baseball again this year

[Zpanther]

I thought you went to bed.... Now I'm up...... at 3:30 in the morning..... couldn't sleep. (Actually I think it's just that you didn't want to go to bed stuck on 666 posts.... heh heh).

[nlightenedrogue]

I enjoy arguing, in fact, its part of what I do for a living. I am selective about those things I'll argue about, though. Religion is a topic that is not really subject to logic, so I never venture there. Politics is another subject in which positions are usually staked out pretty firmly, but when the right topic presents itself, I can't seem to avoid jumping in to the fray. Arguing about sport, music, movies - anything related to entertainment is great fun for me. With my wife, most of our arguments are around schedules, kids and household repairs, none very serious anymore.

[MCat]

I don't like to argue, it makes me tired.

[DAVEANDNIC]

horny cpl here:hp:

[Seeker]

I Hate to argue! Seems as though it drains the life out of me! However, I do like to discuss things as long as I or the other doesn't loose their cool. But once sarcasm and the like enter the conversation, I tend to turn off.

[Norfolkdave]

I'm always a happy-go-lucky, eternally optimistic, kind and understanding gentleman....... (yeah right!)

And Im the queen of Sheba! Shall I send Guiness world beaters round for you!:lmao

[MCat]

good grief, i don't think i spell that bad. for someone who bearly ( barely )made it out of high school, and never went to college.. now as for my grammer. that a different subject.. :whee:

Me too beav....quita few weeks into my Jr year...went to night school though and finished 6 months before the rest of my class. No college here either, wish I would have gone just for the experience and maybe a better job.

But, whatever....it all worked out pretty good.

[Seeker]

Spelling is no biggie! As long as you're close, I can figure out what you're trying to say .... I do my share as well! between fumble fingers, and oops typing .... it happens.

[KIRA187]

We argue Im afraid and its always to do with finances and
sex.


problem solved dave..... let wife keep track of finances and you handle the sex.

[KIRA187]

discussion and debate are good for a relationship. Arguing does creep in though when one or both sides have strong convictions regarding an issue or do not listen to what is being said. Each person must feel comfortable about voicing their thoughts and feelings in a relationship.

[Big O]

My old girlfriend was very argumentive and I hated it.

[Big O]

Y jeh fkoemr skor lemrst or spelling?????????????
O

[Wet Beaver]

Me too beav....quita few weeks into my Jr year...went to night school though and finished 6 months before the rest of my class. No college here either, wish I would have gone just for the experience and maybe a better job.

But, whatever....it all worked out pretty good.

one of my promblems is i like to add a E or a R to words that don't need them..My hubby think i might be a little (ok a big word for me) deslyickic(sp) so bear with with me. I have even put words into spellcheck that i think are wrong, but are right., but they don't look right to me on the screen

[Wet Beaver]

Y jeh fkoemr skor lemrst or spelling?????????????
O

i think i failed that also.....

[Zpanther]

one of my promblems is i like to add a E or a R to words that don't need them..My hubby think i might be a little (ok a big word for me) deslyickic(sp) so bear with with me. I have even put words into spellcheck that i think are wrong, but are right., but they don't look right to me on the screen

Relax Beav........ I was just teasin' ya. (I could care less if you or anyone else misspells a word here or there... I do too). It was just something to gitcha.... and it did too didn't it? hahahahhaahaha ....... ;)

[Wet Beaver]

Relax Beav........ I was just teasin' ya. (I could care less if you or anyone else misspells a word here or there... I do too). It was just something to gitcha.... and it did too didn't it? hahahahhaahaha ....... ;)


i did not find it funny at all. in fact it hurt me .. i have been tease all my life for my poor spelling.....I have try for a long time to do my best when it comes to writing on message boards and chat room. but there is always someone who can not resisit to say something about it ............

[Zpanther]

i did not find it funny at all. in fact it hurt me .. i have been tease all my life for my poor spelling.....I have try for a long time to do my best when it comes to writing on message boards and chat room. but there is always someone who can not resisit to say something about it ............

I'm sorry..... I didn't realize. I feel bad that you were hurt. Try to just forget about it. Love to read your posts and I could care less if you spell everything right or not..... and I'm sure everyone else feels the same way. (Probably comes from years of correcting reports ..... but that's no excuse).

[Wet Beaver]

I'm sorry..... I didn't realize. I feel bad that you were hurt. Try to just forget about it. Love to read your posts and I could care less if you spell everything right or not..... and I'm sure everyone else feels the same way. (Probably comes from years of correcting reports ..... but that's no excuse).

typical male/ladeeda, it is not my falut............... you shoud be glad i like ya.....:nu

[MCat]

i did not find it funny at all.

Awww, come on sister....don't take it personally, we all love ya, spell check or not.

[Zpanther]

typical male/ladeeda, it is not my falut............... you shoud be glad i like ya.....:nu

Hey sugar..... read my post again (typical female..... ;) ). I'm saying it was my fault.... not yours. Just to make it real clear.... IT WAS MY FAULT! I shouldn't have mentioned it and I'm sorry I did. (I'm just happy you DO like me and didn't block me). :knuddel: :kk Truce?

[Wet Beaver]

truce.....

[Wet Beaver]

sorry if I over recated........:kk

[Zpanther]

Awww, come on sister....don't take it personally, we all love ya, spell check or not.

Wow MaryCat....... you're just gettin' hotter every day. Nice ass on the avatar.

[Zpanther]

sorry if I over recated........:kk

:sp:

[Norfolkdave]

We all have some so whats yours?:lf

[Annie]

right now, this site!

[spare_change]

right now, this site!


LOL


Amen !

[spare_change]

Procrastination.

[Norfolkdave]

Procrastination.

Decifer please dont see that in the english dicionary:lmao

[spare_change]

Decifer please dont see that in the english dicionary:lmao

I will tell you the definition of procrastination tomorrow. :lmao

[spare_change]

Decifer please dont see that in the english dicionary:lmao

Unless, of course, your question is serious -- Procrastination is defined as " To put off doing something, especially out of habitual carelessness or laziness."

[Norfolkdave]

Unless, of course, your question is serious -- Procrastination is defined as " To put off doing something, especially out of habitual carelessness or laziness."

Just wanted to know only I couldnt find it in the pocket English dictionary but thanks;)

[dbleze]

We all have some so whats yours?:lf

This site and dreaming about sex and not doing anything right to get it.

[Wet Beaver]

We all have some so whats yours?:lf

didn't we do this thread once before??

[spare_change]

Unwillingness to admit I have ANY bad habits!

[MCat]

I scratch my arms, like they constantly itch....a nervous habit. I guess I better go back on my Zoloft.

[aceofspades1114]

chewing my nails

[illmakeurtoeswiggle]

Looking at...talking with...flirting with...and watching pretty women!:whee:


It has gotten me into more trouble than I want to think about...

[Sandy]

smoking to much

[Penny]

I have none :na

[Heaterman]

:lmao



I have none :na

[Penny]

You little prick :D

[quax999]

smoking way too much is my bad habit.

[hank69]

smoking and say what to my wife.(cuz i did not hear what she said)

[Norfolkdave]

LOL


Amen !

Your like me addicted:lmao

[Norfolkdave]

You little prick :D

Whose a little prick:lmao

[Seeker]

Smoking, and procrastination. .... I'll think of some others later! :lmao

[Wyvern75]

Well there was a time when I would sneak up behind or near a small child or dog and let out a silent fart.... But can't do that anymore. ;):D

My wife has been having some gas problems lately but won't take my advice for shifting blame...

Actually procrastination is probably my worst addiction, followed by the internet (which just adds to the procrastination).

[spare_change]

We all have one thing that upset our significant other, and THEY have 100s that upset us.

What is the ONE thing you do that upsets him/her the most?
If you know that, why do you continue to do it?
What is the ONE thing that he/she does that upsets you the most?

[spare_change]

I cannot leave an error go unaddressed. Even though it is of no significance, I still must correct.

Why? Because I have to -- it's in my genes. In truth, I suspect it is an opportunity to show superiority.

What upsets me? Over-reaction. Everything becomes a big crisis -- and, oh by the way, it's all my fault.

[Barkiss]

1. When I won't make a decision, such as where to go for dinner, what to do tonight, etc...

2. Because I make decisions all day long...I feel I am owed a break.

3. Agree with you spare...I hate over-reaction. I figure everything can either be fixed or avoided.

[Wet Beaver]

people who ask what gets me upset :na

[spare_change]

people who ask what gets me upset :na

people who get upset when they are asked what gets them upset:wa:

[Annie]

When something is very important to me and it seems insignificant to him I get upset. When that happens it makes it appear to him as if I am "over-reacting", and that's where the real fun begins!

[Penny]

ditto



When something is very important to me and it seems insignificant to him I get upset. When that happens it makes it appear to him as if I am "over-reacting", and that's where the real fun begins!

[Barkiss]

Forgot this one...when she brings me a problem, but yells at me when I try to fix it.

"You don't have to fix everything!!!!"

Then why bring it to me?

[spare_change]

When something is very important to me and it seems insignificant to him I get upset. When that happens it makes it appear to him as if I am "over-reacting", and that's where the real fun begins!

So, I must ask the question of both Annie and Penny -- how do you let him know it's very important to you? Before or after you get upset? What is the signal he is supposed to read, and so often misses? (I got to admit -- I must be blind, cuz I can never see it coming.)

Does this fall into the "Well, if you don't know, I'm not going to tell you" category?

[spare_change]

Forgot this one...when she brings me a problem, but yells at me when I try to fix it.

"You don't have to fix everything!!!!"

Then why bring it to me?

I should be so lucky -- since everything is my fault, I am the one who is supposed to fix it.

[Wet Beaver]

I should be so lucky -- since everything is my fault, I am the one who is supposed to fix it.

it is always the man fault... and they can fix it by just saying "yes dear"...

[spare_change]

it is always the man fault... and they can fix it by just saying "yes dear"...

Dang -- did I marry your sister?

[Annie]

Forgot this one...when she brings me a problem, but yells at me when I try to fix it.

"You don't have to fix everything!!!!"

Then why bring it to me?

Because sometimes women need to talk things out, men vent, women talk it out. It's the same thing they do with their friends. They talk to their friends and their friends go home... they don't always try to fix it. Once they talk things out it's usually over for that topic... leave it alone!




(and be grateful!!)

[Norfolkdave]

When a company cant deliver goods on time and you have stayed in all day waiting when you could have been out elswhere

[Wet Beaver]

Because sometimes women need to talk things out, men vent, women talk it out. It's the same thing they do with their friends. They talk to their friends and their friends go home... they don't always try to fix it. Once they talk things out it's usually over for that topic... leave it alone!




(and be grateful!!)

thats says it all......:gs

[spare_change]

OK -- let me see if I got this right ---

1) Men should know intuitively when something is important to you. There are no clues or signals -- we just oughtta know.

2) When something is wrong, we should know intuitively when we are to fix it, and when we are to leave it alone.

Is that about it?

[Wet Beaver]

OK -- let me see if I got this right ---

1) Men should know intuitively when something is important to you. There are no clues or signals -- we just oughtta know.

2) When something is wrong, we should know intuitively when we are to fix it, and when we are to leave it alone.

Is that about it?

yes,,after all it all your falut to begin with...

[spare_change]

yes,,after all it all your falut to begin with...

oh yeah --- I had forgotten about that.

[Annie]

OK -- let me see if I got this right ---

1) Men should know intuitively when something is important to you. There are no clues or signals -- we just oughtta know.

2) When something is wrong, we should know intuitively when we are to fix it, and when we are to leave it alone.

Is that about it?

Well Spare, I just asked my husband about #1. I wasn't aware that I would be giving him signals, let alone what they might be. He said it's the tone of my voice when I first approach him. The first words out of my mouth tell the whole story of my mood. But that just us.

As for #2. I think the best approach for this would be to say "Honey, is there anything I can do to help? I can tell this bothers you." and really meaning it.

[spare_change]

Well Spare, I just asked my husband about #1. I wasn't aware that I would be giving him signals, let alone what they might be. He said it's the tone of my voice when I first approach him. The first words out of my mouth tell the whole story of my mood. But that just us.

As for #2. I think the best approach for this would be to say "Honey, is there anything I can do to help? I can tell this bothers you." and really meaning it.

Annie --

First, I am glad you asked your husband. Nice to know that we might have fostered communications.

It is good that your husband had picked up signals you didn't even know you were giving. Of course, it's kind of tough for me to pick them up when i am hiding behind the couch!

I will try no.2 --- let you know 1) that it worked, or 2) where to send the get well cards.

[spare_change]

Back to the original questions ---

What is the ONE thing you do that upsets him/her the most?
If you know that, why do you continue to do it?
What is the ONE thing that he/she does that upsets you the most?

Annie/WB -- What is the one thing YOU do that upsets him, and why do you continue to do it?

[Sandy]

when he doesn't talk about whats bothering him. am i mind reader all of a sudden? i'll say when something bothers me. but with him its like pulling wisdom teeth without novicane. can anybody relate?

[illmakeurtoeswiggle]

What is the ONE thing you do that upsets him/her the most? Not communicating with her!

If you know that, why do you continue to do it? I get angry and can't communicate when I'm angry.
What is the ONE thing that he/she does that upsets you the most? Not listening to what I DO say when I say it!

[Annie]

Back to the original questions ---

What is the ONE thing you do that upsets him/her the most?
If you know that, why do you continue to do it?
What is the ONE thing that he/she does that upsets you the most?

Annie/WB -- What is the one thing YOU do that upsets him, and why do you continue to do it?

I over re-act when I think he isn't prioritizing according to MY priorities. I get crabby and that puts him in a bad mood. There are several things I do that piss him off. I don't mean to, but I'm only human.

I think the thing that got to him the most though was that six year stretch. How he put up with that I'll never know, but he did and I'm forever grateful for it. And now he knows that.

[sex_kitten_4u]

we have not upset each other yet so will get back to you on that one :)

[sex_kitten_4u]

to many to mention lol

[sex_kitten_4u]

When we are tired do we get irritable over the sillest little thing!:cry:

nope takes a lot to make me irritable;)

[sex_kitten_4u]

hate to argue would rather make love :kk

[tiger50]

hate to argue would rather make love :kk

me too, find it very draining and avoid it at all costs... it can take me ages to get over it:cry: :knuddel:

[tiger50]

Actually the new version of this board has a spell check I am just afraid to update it :( Dont want to mess it up

Geez dont do that penny, as an aussie , no one would understand jackshit about what i said
mmmmm perhaps it mite be a good thing.... :lmao

[tiger50]

everyone Zp is the spelling cop on this board,,:lmao watch out




now for the real question... why would i think the chicago bears( i really did forget about them) would have a winning season.... when the Angles are doing so good in baseball again this year
eh what is this bears thing and baseball???? is it some sort of game...kkk i'll play... :wa:

[clitlicker111]

Not just no but HELL NO!!!!!!!!:nu

[clitlicker111]

No! ;)

[KIRA187]

Typically I am an easy going guy and I dont intentionally argue but I have been know to exhange a few arguments.

[tiger50]

we have a super u beut baseball thingy about 3 blocks from here, built by pollies in the name of political correctness, have never actually seen anyone use it.... think they all went ta tha footy..

[KIRA187]

Hey tiger, I dont think I caught the vibe on what you were saying but if I read you right.... you have a beautiful baseball diamond built by the politicians but no one uses it cause they are all playing football. Did I catc h that right man?:wa:



we have a super u beut baseball thingy about 3 blocks from here, built by pollies in the name of political correctness, have never actually seen anyone use it.... think they all went ta tha footy..

[Sunfiresix]

I was terrible when I was younger but I have noticed in the past few years--I jump out of bed ready to go and seem to be happy and in a great mood--specially now --We gots us some SNOW!!!!:)

[Norfolkdave]

Im always tired, I have to have a cat knap in the afternoon I suppose its the disabilty not helping, I cant do the pyscial things much now...........need a good woman to buck me up, a massage and a naughty night of unbridled passion.

[Shiane]

[QUOTE=wet beaver]everyone Zp is the spelling cop on this board,,:lmao watch out


No worries about the typos.... I do and I'm sure everyone else reads "TYPONESE" well. ;) lol I've never claimed to be a sexretary!

[Shiane]

I work 3 nights a week 12.5 hour shifts, trying to go back and forth sleeping nights then sleeping days I'm often screwed up, tired and yes cranky sometimes! Hubby says I'm like a baby doll, lay me down and my eyes close.

[sweetgapeach]

What is the ONE thing you do that upsets him/her the most? Don't do as He ask

If you know that, why do you continue to do it? Because he isnt right all the time like he thinks
What is the ONE thing that he/she does that upsets you the most?Over reacts to everything !! Smartass comments , and acts like everything is just asking way to much of him !!

[sweetgapeach]

Besides the Drinking and Drugs .:lmao

Being on the computer every chance I get, cause problems sometimes!! And putting things off!

[Norfolkdave]

On here 24/7 is one, and always walking in from the garden with mud on my shoes.

[yaser]

Being on the computer every chance I get, cause problems sometimes!! And putting things off Sweetg,procrastination has become my character....I put the important and difficult tasks off and jump into the married and flirting chat..

[Sunfiresix]

Aside from being on here a lot(this site don't help, I am addicted to the posts) also when I want something done I want it done an hour ago.

[Sunfiresix]

I can't stand having an appointment and having to wait twenty minutes for them to see me, Also drives me nuts if I am late.

[Waltert]

YES, Dear anything you say,


Is there anything else dear!

it is always the man fault... and they can fix it by just saying "yes dear"...

[Norfolkdave]

I can't stand having an appointment and having to wait twenty minutes for them to see me, Also drives me nuts if I am late.

You made an appointment in our village doctors surgery for say 9.am, you arrived at 8.45am early and no one was in there, but you the doctor didnt buzz you say till 9,30am, how would you feel!!!! me, Words fail me:lmao

[sweetgapeach]

I love sleeping!!

[yaser]

When I feel rejected by my love , it seems the sky will collapse on me..

[sweetgapeach]

I hate to argue and to many Bad things are said , words never go away!!

[Sunfiresix]

I am not fond of arguing, but I do like to egg someone on that is with small remarks and see how hot they will get.

[yaser]

I never liked to argue with my wife..... she utters the words to be told at the end..I avoid beacuse telling something which will give harm to our long term relations may be bad because her behavior cherishes a grudge in my mind...

[tiger50]

Hey tiger, I dont think I caught the vibe on what you were saying but if I read you right.... you have a beautiful baseball diamond built by the politicians but no one uses it cause they are all playing football. Did I catc h that right man?:wa:

yep u got it mate, there is actually a main stadium with grandstands etc. and 4 other diamond fields, but its unused, just not a popular sport here.
yeh either playing or watching with footy i mean aussie rules.

[bonzzz4292]

i don't care how people spell as long as i can get the meaning of what they say. i like to try to learn oher languages so i can chat in thier tongue instead of mine. of course now there is programs to put the correct text for the country you are in so there goes my lessons.lol


yes i get very upset when i am tired or hurting at everything.

[spare_change]

I love to "argue" - discuss an issue, try to convince the other -- a debate, if you will.

I hate to "argue"- an emotion filled confrontation that accomplishes nothing other than to wound - bickering, if you will.

[spare_change]

When I feel rejected by my love , it seems the sky will collapse on me..


If i let that bother me, I would have to wear a damn hard hat all the time!

[Norfolkdave]

If i let that bother me, I would have to wear a damn hard hat all the time!

What did you do with my one:lmao

[sex_kitten_4u]

If i let that bother me, I would have to wear a damn hard hat all the time!

awwww spare how could she reject you :kk

[Waltert]

when he doesn't talk about whats bothering him. am i mind reader all of a sudden? i'll say when something bothers me. but with him its like pulling wisdom teeth without novicane. can anybody relate?

Are not all women mind reader?!!

At least they think they are, they think they know what were thinking and what we need to do. :D

[Sandy]

no walter we're not mind readers, and neither are you guys. the one thing thay really makes me mad is i put mark and the kids first always. once in awhile i would like to be put first. the second thing is i would like him to listen. i mean he hears me, but i want him to listen :wa:

[sex_kitten_4u]

well said mywifemark

yes they hear you but they never actually listen

[spare_change]

well said mywifemark

yes they hear you but they never actually listen


Maybe I can refer you to the forum that says you want men to listen, but not do anything -- sometimes--- or maybe handle it for you ----- sometimes --- or just commiserate with you ---- sometimes.

[Waltert]

no walter we're not mind readers, and neither are you guys. the one thing thay really makes me mad is i put mark and the kids first always. once in awhile i would like to be put first. the second thing is i would like him to listen. i mean he hears me, but i want him to listen :wa:

HEY Mark, Did you hear something!

I am not sure but I thought I head some kind of noise in the background! Do you know what it was? :D

[Sandy]

:D ok waltert your now on the bad bad boy list.

[Norfolkdave]

no walter we're not mind readers, and neither are you guys. the one thing thay really makes me mad is i put mark and the kids first always. once in awhile i would like to be put first. the second thing is i would like him to listen. i mean he hears me, but i want him to listen :wa:

Im here 24/7 and prepared to listen:wa:

[Waltert]

And now what now that I am on your Bad Boy list too! :sp:

I was on santa's bad boy list, instead of just a lump of coal I got enought to keep me warm all winter!


:D ok waltert your now on the bad bad boy list.

[zapher60]

And now what now that I am on your Bad Boy list too! :sp:

I was on santa's bad boy list, instead of just a lump of coal I got enought to keep me warm all winter!

You to ..would you like my lump of coal..I still have some left over from last year.

[Norfolkdave]

You to ..would you like my lump of coal..I still have some left over from last year.

Havent had a bad winter yet then....LOL:lmao :lmao :lmao

[zapher60]

Havent had a bad winter yet then....LOL:lmao :lmao :lmao

sure i have something better then coal to keep me warm.no matter how bad the winter is. so let it snow let it snow let it snow:D

[Norfolkdave]

sure i have something better then coal to keep me warm.no matter how bad the winter is. so let it snow let it snow let it snow:D

That big old fleece blanket you have I know:lmao

[sex_kitten_4u]

my worst habit is this site lol

[romancer522000]

smoking , coffee , beer ,

[juli55]

I can't limit it to just one I have so many..and enjoy every one of them:D :wa:

[romancer522000]

I can't limit it to just one I have so many..and enjoy every one of them:D :wa:

Obviously this woman knows how to enjoy life !!!!

[sex_kitten_4u]

i have to many to list as well but the only 1 i will admit to here is this site lol

[juli55]

Obviously this woman knows how to enjoy life !!!!

:D :kk

[Norfolkdave]

my worst habit is this site lol

LOL:lmao

[Norfolkdave]

My habit would be telling

[juli55]

My habit would be telling

Now that's a bad habit:nu ;) :kk

[Norfolkdave]

Now that's a bad habit:nu ;) :kk

It Is,then I,ll keep it to myself:lf

[Jy]

When I'm nervous or uncomfortable, I'll crack a joke, and sometimes it's just not appropriate. I have lots of others, but that was the first one that came to mind.

[Zpanther]

Most of the time he comes home about even, but he stinks of cigar smoke and has had way to much to drink.One night he couldn't even climb up the stairs to bed.

Huh! Sorta sounds like someone I know coming home from girls night out... but I don't think she smokes cigars.... well, maybe she does.

[sweetgapeach]

The things that makes me most mad, we have a conversation about something .And down the road something comes up about it , and He swears I never said anything about it !!

[Sunfiresix]

Oh Man Peach the same thing gets me so mad, she will swear I didn't tell her someting and I know I did, sometimes feel like taping our conversations.

[Shiane]

I can get pretty pissed if I ask him to do something and several days, several weeks, and yes several months later it still isn't done. Hell I figured out it doesn't do me anygood to get pissed about it because he'll do it when he gets good and ready, or I just end up doing it myself.

[Annie]

I can get pretty pissed if I ask him to do something and several days, several weeks, and yes several months later it still isn't done. Hell I figured out it doesn't do me anygood to get pissed about it because he'll do it when he gets good and ready, or I just end up doing it myself.

Whoa sister! Don't get me started! I've been waiting 10 years for him....



...naw... don't whant to go there today!

[KIRA187]

WHOA..... WB what an avatar first thing in the morning! An eye opener that is for sure!! very nice.

[KIRA187]

this must be the venting thread!

[sweetgaltn]

I will be talking to my husband for ten minutes and he looks like he is listening but ten mins later he will ask me what did you say? :(

That's what makes me see red :D then if he senses that I'm on to his act of not listening he will say "no really I'm listening now what did you say" :sp:

[Trev]

That's what makes me see red :D then if he senses that I'm on to his act of not listening he will say "no really I'm listening now what did you say" :sp:

You need to wait untill the commercials are on.

[spare_change]

I can get pretty pissed if I ask him to do something and several days, several weeks, and yes several months later it still isn't done. Hell I figured out it doesn't do me anygood to get pissed about it because he'll do it when he gets good and ready, or I just end up doing it myself.

Could it be that just isn't as important to him as it is to you? We both know that "ask" turned to "tell" months ago!

[spare_change]

You know -- I really got to tell you -- I absolutely admire you ladies. I can't imagine what it is like to live with someone so detestable as you have made men sound in the last couple days. Dirty slobs who never listen --- won't do what you tell them ---- intentionally ignore your requests ---- won't lift a finger to help -- never recognize your contributions -- force themselves on you so that you have to give it up just so they stop whining --- get you pregnant and then run off fishing with the boys -- force you to leave your children, and go out into the work force.

It must really be Hell -- you are all saints. You'd probably be better off without them.

[Annie]

You know Spare, I find it interesting that you have taken so many complaints from so many different women and rolled them all into each and every one of our husbands, and then actually gone as far as to take it personally. Hmmm if the shoe fits?

[spare_change]

You know Spare, I find it interesting that you have taken so many complaints from so many different women and rolled them all into each and every one of our husbands, and then actually gone as far as to take it personally. Hmmm if the shoe fits?

Nahhhh -- just summarizing what I read --

Take it personally? Nope -- just remarking on the uneven playing field. Had men done that kind of hatchet job on women, the police would be here tomorrow!!

Shoe fit?? Probably some of them, absolutely on others - but I got to tell ya -- I don't care, and neither do my women. It's a shame some can't say that.

But then, when you can't refute the message, attack the messenger.

[Waltert]

NOPE the shoe does not fit me!


:D

You know Spare, I find it interesting that you have taken so many complaints from so many different women and rolled them all into each and every one of our husbands, and then actually gone as far as to take it personally. Hmmm if the shoe fits?

[Norfolkdave]

Nahhhh -- just summarizing what I read --

Take it personally? Nope -- just remarking on the uneven playing field. Had men done that kind of hatchet job on women, the police would be here tomorrow!!

Shoe fit?? Probably some of them, absolutely on others - but I got to tell ya -- I don't care, and neither do my women. It's a shame some can't say that.

But then, when you can't refute the message, attack the messenger.

I agree whole heartedly here with you, we men seem to be always wrong, cant do a thing right, wrong if we make a point, wrong if we yell, wrong if we breathe, yet we ware wanted for lifting objects around the home, building homes, laying roads, building automobiles, all heavy work, Ah yes, we are wanted then! No as Spare says, " when you cant refute the message, attack the messenger"

[tiger50]

I agree whole heartedly here with you, we men seem to be always wrong, cant do a thing right, wrong if we make a point, wrong if we yell, wrong if we breathe, yet we ware wanted for lifting objects around the home, building homes, laying roads, building automobiles, all heavy work, Ah yes, we are wanted then! No as Spare says, " when you cant refute the message, attack the messenger"

Yess to Dave and Spare... we are what we are... if u dont like it.. go Lez..... its cool, we have 2 hands...

[Trev]

It all comes back to one question, How do you make a women happy?

It's NOT possible.

[sex_kitten_4u]

It all comes back to one question, How do you make a women happy?

It's NOT possible.


yes it is possible to make a woman happy;)

[GeekMaster]

If a man is out in the woods, where no one can hear him, and says something, is he still wrong??

:)

[Barkiss]

If a man is out in the woods, where no one can hear him, and says something, is he still wrong??



:)

:lmao Good to see you! Where have you been?

[GeekMaster]

:lmao Good to see you! Where have you been?

Had to be covert for a while. I was here a few times over the last few weeks, but in disguise. I should be around some more now. Tax season is cranking up, so in a couple of weeks things will get very busy.

I've got lots of posts to catch up on in the mean time.

[gitfiddlejones]

People who chew with their mouths open and make noises while they are eating. I just can't take it, and have broken up with some really nice girls in my day because they couldn't eat with proper table manners. That's my thing.


GFJ

[Norfolkdave]

It all comes back to one question, How do you make a women happy?

It's NOT possible.

Very very true, our needs are only required when the heavyness is wanted or something electrical wants repairing.

[sex_kitten_4u]

Very very true, our needs are only required when the heavyness is wanted or something electrical wants repairing.

i beg to differ dave it is possible to make some women happy:D i am reasonably easy to please :lmao :na

[Barkiss]

Arrogant people drive me nuts...not confidence, but downright arrogance...

Don't tell me how great you are, show me...