Once A Cheater..Always A Cheater?

[blndgigles26]

Hi, I'm doing a little research on couples that have unfaithful partners and are unfaithful. I want to know the relationship that you have with your spouses and the commitment level you have. If you are interested in helping me get an A on my paper, please chat with me. I have just a few questions for you. I only want to compare couples and see the common denominator. I'm not going to judge you in any way. Thank you so much

[Penny]

Will you use this site as a point of reference on your paper :D

[Penny]

Is it cheating if your spouse was in the same room at the time watching? :(

[Unregistered]

I'll have to cite the name of the cite but not anonymous names that want to help me.

[blndgigles26]

I think cheating is only what you and your spouse "don't" agree to. If your husband is o'k with that then, no. If you feel like you can't tell him, then ya. But, that's only my opinion. Some think that "thoughts" of someone else is cheating. In my marriage it's things that are physical. I'm o'k if he looks at stuff online.

[Penny]

How are they going to help you by posting here or would you need more.

[Norfolkdave]

email me the question at scorpioman57@hotmail.com and i,ll answer in depth if you want, but this site will Im sure answer all your questions

[blndgigles26]

I just need some insite of both parties. The one cheating and the one being cheated on. Possibly even the mistresses side. I have my email open so you can email me also. I just know that there are a lot of different reasons for cheating; personalities, not enough attention, and maybe you had a great relationship and just not commited enough. I just need a "real" story, not just statistics. Real life stuff, you know...

[Lkng4thrdNwi]

Well I can tell you from the cheated on and mistress side... My first husband cheated on me with some ugly woman named Franky... He would tell me that he was going to work (I DROPPED HIM OFF AT WORK the cheating b*stard)... He'd go do her then come back to work 15 mins before I got there and he'd rub food on his apron to show me he'd worked... Well when he came home with crabs and blamed it on the toilet seat I was happy to shave him bald downstairs and watch him squirm for 2 weeks.... He didn't realize how baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad it would itch aside from having crabs.... I was just too fat for him... That was the problem... Then he called me years later to apologize and beg my forgiveness because he'd gotten his heart ripped apart by some gal he was porking... I'm no beauty queen but I'm BETTER looking than her....

As for the mistress part, my new hubby was married at the time we met and had told me he wasn't happy in his relationship... He'd told her that he was unhappy and this was before I'd met him... I was still called a homewrecking whore but 6 years later he's still with me... Even tho I'm a neurotic mess LOL... He called me today because he had to go save a friend that needed his help and was playing a song he likes to sing to me... (we love the simpsons, I'm marge and he's homer so he played a song they sing as a duet)....

[Lkng4thrdNwi]

I forgot to add that he called me when he played that song just to sing to me because he missed me... this saving his friend thing was an all morning thing lol... he was out of work at 8 and didnt get home till 2:30... Aww he wuvs me! lol

[blndgigles26]

I'm glad things worked out better for you Lkng4thrdNwi. I sent you an Email with a few more questions if you don't mind answering them. Thank you for your help!

[Lkng4thrdNwi]

No problem... I'm a great talker... LOL

[Penny]

Why not post your questions here I bet you will get more responses that way ;)



I'm glad things worked out better for you Lkng4thrdNwi. I sent you an Email with a few more questions if you don't mind answering them. Thank you for your help!

[blndgigles26]

I can do that if that's easier. I just didn't know how comfortable people were with that. You all can Email me the answers that way. I'm having a lot of fun doing this. I appreciate all the help I can get!

[blndgigles26]

O'k here it goes. I'll just number them that way it's more clear:
1. How many times have you been married?
2. How many times have you cheated/been cheated on/ or been the third party?
3. Have you ever been caught cheating, and if so how did it make you feel or your partner feel?
4. How strong was your relationship to begin with? (How would you feel if they left you over this)
5. How is your relationship with your spouse?
a. do you communicate?
b. do you fight a lot?
c. do you spend quality time together?
d. do you express your love daily?
6. What do you think could have prevented this from happening?
7. Would you do it again given the chance?
If you want to give me more details you can, it would be more helpful. Thank you all!:thankyou:

[Penny]

One question you should ask is If your wife gave you more sex would you have cheated? ;)

[Lkng4thrdNwi]

Hell Penny I don't know if that even would matter... If a man's gonna cheat..... He's gonna cheat... No matter the volume of sex at home.... I think it has to do with quality?
That's just my opinion cause I gave my ex sex whenever and wherever he wanted it... I never could understand why he would screw me but then left me cause of my weight... Made no sense.... OH well... LOL

[blndgigles26]

I don't know if this makes a difference or not to anyone but there are soooo many reasons people cheat. I've learned a lot from this forum and from some articles on the web. It's whatever they're missing at home: emotional needs, sexual needs, boredome, the need for excitement etc. Some people (women and men) just cheat because of the adrenilin rush they're addicted to.

[blndgigles26]

I have one more question to add though. If all of the people who replied to my questions could add one more thing I'd love it.
Where was the third person (mistress) found. (workplace, internet, neighbor, friend)

[Lkng4thrdNwi]

my ex found his at work.... Ryan's Restaurant.... I was found at a bar... LOL

[Penny]

People usually covet what they can see. A neighbor a co worker or a friends spouse :(

[Lkng4thrdNwi]

Yeah well he got his heart squashed a few years later so I harbor no more ill feelings... Only when I describe his retarded lazy ass.... :)

[Flirting Mom]

My husband got plenty of sex and it didnt stop him. I think he just wanted something different as many times as he could. He would come home smelling like sex and tell me he loved me. :(

[Lkng4thrdNwi]

That's horrible FM... He needs his ass whipped... and not in the good way....

[Cindy]

another woman would you get pissed? Want to watch? Or try to join in?
I'm thinking of suprising my husband this summer with another woman I met at the beach. We became pretty good friends and have already talked about having sex together kind of joking around but it will more than likely happen :) She caught me looking at her when we were changing in the bathroom. She smiled and returned the look at me. She is divorced and said she hasn't had sex in over a year. I may keep her to myself but I don't want to make my husband think I am greedy :D

[nlightenedrogue]

I wouldn't get pissed...I'd leave them alone the first time and then beg to be included in the future, if I found the woman attractive. If my wife decided she wanted to be with her alone - I'd continue to beg periodically, but would not have a problem with it...as long as she was still ready and willing to be with me!

[Norfolkdave]

Id try to join in, two women is my fantasy and Im sure after the two have pleased themselves Id certainly please them very very slowly

[Big O]

Well , I would hope that the reason that she brought this other woman home was to surprise me and I would be invited as soon as I arrived. If I wasn't invited and she kept this a secret then I might be a little tee'ed off that she hadn't talked to me about it first.
Cindy, is this girl a blonde or brunette?? I need to get a visual here!!
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[illmakeurtoeswiggle]

Well...that would explain a lot of things for me!!!!


I think at this point in time, I'd laugh turn around and go DIRECTLY to the hottie's (the one from the gym) apartment and fuck her brains out!
And fuck my brains out and just keep fucking till I couldn't do it any more!!!!:whee:

Get some sleep and do it again!!!!!!!

[player]

I would be all for it!!!!Watching her get pleased by another woman would the a fantasy cummmmm true.Let us me know how it goes for you Cindy!!!

[mrhappy1]

A very interesting scenario. Probably it would depend upon whom she was having sex with at the time. I wouldn't join in, at least not the first time but I might watch. I never enjoyed watching two women in prono films but I would enjoy seeing it unfold in front of my eyes. I would be surprised Cindy to find my wife with another woman, would your husband? :boobs:

[Seeker]

I think, once the EMT's, ambulance, and fire dept. finally left from my heart - attack (also read SHOCK). I think it could be a good thing. Esp. if I were invited to play! :D

[Zpanther]

I wouldn't mind at all. I would want to watch though, and I'm sure I'd want to join in if I was watching that. Like BigOrgan though, she'd have some explaining to do later as to why she hadn't mentioned it to me before. That's a sensitive subject around here. I'm probably more understanding than most, but I don't like it at all if there's something going on in secret.

[Zpanther]

Well...that would explain a lot of things for me!!!!


I think at this point in time, I'd laugh turn around and go DIRECTLY to the hottie's (the one from the gym) apartment and fuck her brains out!
And fuck my brains out and just keep fucking till I couldn't do it any more!!!!:whee:

Get some sleep and do it again!!!!!!!

Yeah Wiggles. The way things are going, that would probably actaully almost be a welcome relief..... as far as things at home, and I'm sure the brunette would be more than happy to make your relief complete....

BUT the way things have been going for you, the other girl with your wife would turn out to be the brunette from the gym......... hahahahahahahhaha:D

[bgpoole]

This question is a little hard for me since my wife did have an affair with another woman that was actually more tham just physical, it still affects out marriage today..............but putting that aside I would definitely ask to watch he first time or two, and then bring up the possibilty of joining after that.

[biganbad]

I would watch and then beg to be part of the fun

[Unregistered]

my wife will put on a sexy pair of pantyhose tease me with them let me touch and feel and grope and rub on them and then and only then we can go out find a guy and she would make me hold his face on her pantyhosed pussy
and after a while he would just get down to it my wife can make anyone c-m anytime anywhere

[illmakeurtoeswiggle]

Yeah Wiggles. The way things are going, that would probably actaully almost be a welcome relief..... as far as things at home, and I'm sure the brunette would be more than happy to make your relief complete....

BUT the way things have been going for you, the other girl with your wife would turn out to be the brunette from the gym......... hahahahahahahhaha:D

Ya know what ZP, you're probably right...my luck works that way sometimes...hell, most of the time!:sg

But I have to tell you, I have a better one lined up that I'd go to (in a heartbeat) so, it would be a win-win situation for me right now!:D

Ain't gonna happen though!:mad:

[Wet Beaver]

my hubby would just turn around and walk out.. He knows i am Bi, and that i still see other women , with his permission, but he want notting to do with a 3 some.. I find it very strange at times, but i can not complane to much..


:sg :sg

[Cindy]

Who is unregistered?



my wife will put on a sexy pair of pantyhose tease me with them let me touch and feel and grope and rub on them and then and only then we can go out find a guy and she would make me hold his face on her pantyhosed pussy
and after a while he would just get down to it my wife can make anyone c-m anytime anywhere

[Unregistered]

It would make me hot I'd definetly dive right in

[I´m old now]

i´ll be in shock but then ask for join the party

[Wet Beaver]

Who is unregistered?

I'm with you, who is this guy.. and i thought i was odd......:rofl1:

[dallyfoster]

Sounds real hot Cindy, your husband is a lucky guy... as for what would i do? I would of course want to join in, but if they do not let me join in then I would be more than happy just watching

[roughneck]

I would love that but my wife says that is not going to happen i keep telling her that is a dream come true guess i have to keep dreaming. :cry:

[hank69]

Don't know how I would feel Kinda funny Sorry I never shared much

[hank69]

Maybe find out girls are better than guys and where wood i be then

[haoleholly]

leave your husband and just stick with her!

[hank69]

O'k here it goes. I'll just number them that way it's more clear:
1. How many times have you been married?2
2. How many times have you cheated/been cheated on/ or been the third party?1
3. Have you ever been caught cheating, and if so how did it make you feel or your partner feel?na
4. How strong was your relationship to begin with? (How would you feel if they left you over this)very bad though I was a loser
5. How is your relationship with your spouse?good
a. do you communicate?yes most of the time
b. do you fight a lot? some
c. do you spend quality time together? Try when u work 2 jobs not lot of time left in the day
d. do you express your love daily?sure try too
6. What do you think could have prevented this from happening?nothing
7. Would you do it again given the chance? no
If you want to give me more details you can, it would be more helpful. Thank you all!

[horny(m)]

she would never do that, but i would want to be right in the middle of it all

[Penny]

How is your paper going will you let us read it?

[Penny]

Thats my husbands fantasy lol He begs for it :D

[bigrig7]

i would be mad, cuz she should talk to me first. then i would walk out out.

[swabie16]

i'd watch for a while but i would have to jump incause it's not nice to stare

[Penny]

Welcome bigrig7 :kk Let me guess do you drive trucks :)



i would be mad, cuz she should talk to me first. then i would walk out out.

[MCat]

O'k here it goes. I'll just number them that way it's more clear:
1. How many times have you been married?2 ( I am number 2 );) 29 years this coming sunday
2. How many times have you cheated/been cheated on/ or been the third party?1 ( His first wife cheated on him ) :mad:
3. Have you ever been caught cheating, and if so how did it make you feel or your partner feel? na (He would never ) :kk
4. How strong was your relationship to begin with? (How would you feel if they left you over this)very bad though I was a loser
(she didn't love you,she was a party girl) (they were so very young)
5. How is your relationship with your spouse?good (better than good, very good) always room for improvement
a. do you communicate?yes most of the time
b. do you fight a lot? some
c. do you spend quality time together? Try when u work 2 jobs not lot of time left in the day
d. do you express your love daily?sure try too
( yes he does, in more ways than just words)
6. What do you think could have prevented this from happening?nothing
7. Would you do it again given the chance? no
If you want to give me more details you can, it would be more helpful. Thank you all!

I responded to some of Hanks answers...MaryCat :)

[Wet Beaver]

I responded to some of Hanks answers...MaryCat :)

i am so :confused: . who wrote that??

[Zpanther]

I responded to some of Hanks answers...MaryCat :)

heh heh........ You two seem to be havin' fun. Good for YOU!

[I´m old now]

one question for you girls, what will hapend if you catch your husband whith a handsome guy in your bathroom ....

[Penny]

If they were waiting for me no problem :lf if they were doing eachother I would kill them both :D

[mark2gmtrans]

O'k here it goes. I'll just number them that way it's more clear:
1. How many times have you been married?once and now divorced and dating, but very cautious.
2. How many times have you cheated/been cheated on/ or been the third party?My ex cheated on me, I never cheated on her.
3. Have you ever been caught cheating, and if so how did it make you feel or your partner feel?N/A
4. How strong was your relationship to begin with? (How would you feel if they left you over this)I left her, but it was not just about the cheating, she started drinking and doing drugs, and that combined with the cheating was too much.
5. How is your relationship with your spouse?My ex and I avoid each other( I avoid her because she is always bumming money and I do not give it to her)
a. do you communicate?nope
b. do you fight a lot?nope
c. do you spend quality time together?nope
d. do you express your love daily? ha
6. What do you think could have prevented this from happening?her not being a lieing cheating drunken dope fiend skank ass whore would probably have helped
7. Would you do it again given the chance?nope
If you want to give me more details you can, it would be more helpful. Thank you all!:thankyou: I just want to say that some people men or women are going to cheat no matter how well they are treated, my ex had a new cadillac every year and large home with a maid and all the spending money she could ever have wanted, I treated her kindly and with love and afection, our sex life was great, but she always wanted to have more than was allowed, never satisfied, and never able to say what it was that would help her to be happier, she is now semi homeless and all strung out on dope, the kids do not talk to her, and she is just staying with whomever will put up with her for a little while.
The woman I am seeing now thinks I am poor, maybe some day I will tell her that I am not exactly. For now it is nice to know that she cares for me and not my money.

[bobby6901]

HI Cindy, I wish my wife would have the ambition to even consider injecting a little fun into our sex life!

The two woman fantasy is a hot one, that most guys like! To be fair though, mention it to him over a few beers beforehand, to get a feel for his response. Some guys consider it honest to goodness cheating, and it could end your marriage. The lawyers and judges are no fun from what I hear, nor are the financial arrangements after....

My personal honest opinion? If we were on holidays and she was half in the bag, I'd probably grab the camera and start enjoying myself, hoping, of course, to join in at some point....

Suggestions? Perhaps you could set it up as a massage gone out of control? Or a house keeper who got caught in your lingerie.... broken down vehicle on a rainy night, she comes in wet, needs a shower....

lots of ways this could be fun! Good Luck!

[KIRA187]

if she was having sex with another man.... I would watch, confront her later and see if the guy had a wife or female partner to make this more even.

if she was doing it with another female.... I would watch and then ask if I could join.

[blndgigles26]

You guys have been really honest and helpful. Thank you!:hug: I turned in the paper already and had it saved to my computer.....but....computer crashed!:shit: I'll let ya'all know how it turns out though. Again...........Thank You!!!

[I´m old now]

okey Penny !! doing echother but waiting for you,, will you be mad nwy ???

[dallyfoster]

I think that you should give in to the begging, Penny ;) Just so then you can tell us about it later, haha

[ross57412]

lol no idea most likly try to join in but knowing my luck she would have a pistol with her lol shes a better shot then i am

[Penny]

So your done with us :( Your not going to stick around and post? thats not nice :(

[Penny]

I need to find the right woman first :(



I think that you should give in to the begging, Penny ;) Just so then you can tell us about it later, haha

[MCat]

i am so :confused: . who wrote that??

Hank originally answered the questions...I added my explanations in color after his. We are married WB...:D

[Wet Beaver]

Hank originally answered the questions...I added my explanations in color after his. We are married WB...:D

I know your Married. It was a vaine attempt at houmor

[dallyfoster]

Im sure there are a couple more than willing women on here that I would love to hear you doing it with

[Zpanther]

Had a dream last night. In the dream I came home and found Lady P in bed with a sexy woman with orange hair.... then I woke up damnit.

[Kerri]

1. How many times have you been married?1 and still married
2. How many times have you cheated/been cheated on/ or been the third party? been cheated on many in the last 3 years...how many, I don't for sure know!
3. Have you ever been caught cheating, and if so how did it make you feel or your partner feel? he was never "caught"
4. How strong was your relationship to begin with? (How would you feel if they left you over this) our relationship was/is pretty strong...a few problems
5. How is your relationship with your spouse?good
a. do you communicate? that's our big problem.... I don't talk all that much... in serious conversations where a problem is stated I tend to get mute because I start thinking there's nothing I can say about his comments...
b. do you fight a lot? no
c. do you spend quality time together? not too often.... we have opposite schedules. We do catch up with each other on the weekends
d. do you express your love daily? no
6. What do you think could have prevented this from happening? me taking to heart what he was telling me years ago...respecting his feelings and acting on his concerns
7. Would you do it again given the chance? would I want him to cheat again??? of course not
If you want to give me more details you can, it would be more helpful. Thank you all!

[nlightenedrogue]

O'k here it goes. I'll just number them that way it's more clear:
1. How many times have you been married?
2. How many times have you cheated/been cheated on/ or been the third party
3. Have you ever been caught cheating, and if so how did it make you feel or your partner feel?
4. How strong was your relationship to begin with? (How would you feel if they left you over this)
5. How is your relationship with your spouse?
a. do you communicate?
b. do you fight a lot?
c. do you spend quality time together?
d. do you express your love daily?
6. What do you think could have prevented this from happening?
7. Would you do it again given the chance?
If you want to give me more details you can, it would be more helpful. Thank you all!:thankyou:

1. I've been married once.
2. My wife has had two "affairs" and several 'One night stands". I have never had an "affair", which I would define as seeing someone more than once for something besides sex, but I have had several "one night stands" - out of anger, bruised ego and hurt feelings. This all ended about 2 years ago. In my early and mid-20's, before I was married, I had several relationships with unhappily married women. My only interest was no strings sex, but it didn't always work out that way for them, which is why I stopped doing it.
3. I've caught her, inadvertently, actually after it had ended. She never caught me, but suspected and both of us eventually came clean and talked about everything.
4. Our relationship changed when our first child was born. My wife experienced very serious post-partum depression, although we didn't know it then. I was gone all the time - travelling with a new job - and she was alone in a new city with the kids and not much emotional support from me. Our relationship began to deteriorate from that point on over about 4 years. We separated for about a year, but saw each other all the time.
5. Today our relationship is great. I've learned to be more emotionally available and supportive and she has become less "needy". We talk - and I mean really talk - about things every day. At night, when the kids are asleep. We don't ever fight the way we did in the past and our relationship has never been stronger or more solid. What I would change about the past is how I was as a husband during the period when my wife really needed me to be there for her. I made the conditions possible for her to have an affair. I really believe I am equally to blame. After finding out, I was hurt and angry and engaged in a series of retaliatory sexual flings - to try and get even I guess, which didn't work. I would change that also.

[juli55]

Do you consider cyber sex cheating on your spouse???

[KIRA187]

I wont tell if you don't.

Do YOU?

[want2]

Not at all- it's not real and usually there's no emotional challenge to the relationship. But you do need to be careful!

[KIRA187]

I agree. you do have to be careful. I have had a few situations where females have wanted to start calling me and wanteding to meet. I am not at that point right now. But cyber sex is interesting and adds a little spice to my marriage at times. I have met some cool ppl both male and female in chat rooms as well

[Norfolkdave]

No I dont consider it cheating as no one is getting hurt. If your not getting it at home then by having cyber fun is the next best thing to reality.

[KIRA187]

hear hear dave.

[KIRA187]

Want2...............Are you contamplating some cyber sex?



If so, Allow me to provide you with a lasting experience of the most pleasurable kind.

[mesohorny]

Maybe, maybe not. It depends if your talking about having a genuine relationship with intentions of meeting face to face in the future for a good lay. If thats the case, your cheating the minute you start typing the words. On the other hand, if it's just chatting or web-camming for some good ol jerking off, it's not cheating. That's no different than watching porn and whacking off at home or thinking of someone else instead of your spouse while having sex.

[juli55]

....

[horny(m)]

i guess i dont either, but dont ask my wife

[nlightenedrogue]

I think it depends on my actions and on my motives. Its not an emotional relationship, its certainly not physical, but it depends on a person's motives. I'm not looking to meet anyone, so I have to say "no."

[Penny]

Hello Keri I hope you post more here this is a great place to talk about serious things or just have some fun :)

[blndgigles26]

So your done with us :( Your not going to stick around and post? thats not nice :(
I still come in here and read some of the comments, so i'm not leaving yet. You guys have a lot of interesting stories that are helpful in everyone's life. It's nice to know you're not alone.:)

[illmakeurtoeswiggle]

I guess the truth is " Lust in the heart is the same as lust in the loin!"...so they say.:sg

If you're looking for it and ya want it...it's basically the same as doin it!:D

Damn, I guess I'm REALLY in trouble then.....;)

[Seeker]

I hide mine. Wifey would ask too many questions.



Thanks everyone Igree with all of you.. Sorry Cuda... my husband took my cam away from me I was a baddddd girl.

[Zpanther]

Well I don't think it's at the same level as sharing your body with someone, but it can be dangerous to a relationship if it's not done openly as far as your spouse goes. Honesty is one of the key elements of a relationship or marriage. Dishonesty can take many forms and is usually a problem eventually.

[Wet Beaver]

Well I don't think it's at the same level as sharing your body with someone, but it can be dangerous to a relationship if it's not done openly as far as your spouse goes. Honesty is one of the key elements of a relationship or marriage. Dishonesty can take many forms and is usually a problem eventually.


wow, i don't believe that i am agreeing with you!!!!!! J/K

Your right secerts can destory the strongest marriage. it destorys the trust you have with each other.

[Penny]

Ok but we require a post every now and then atleast :)

[Penny]

I basically answered this in another thread but here goes again.

When we were experimenting with our first webcam my husband and i would video chat with other cpls and sometimes we would have sex while watching and being watched and it was such a turn on we were doing it 3 or 4 times a week.
Then my husband wanted to watch me play alone with other men on the camera. Sometimes even talking to them on the phone. I must say that it was a total turn on talking dirty to a total stranger watching him masturbate while he watched me masturbate. I was having orgasms all day long lol. Sometimes I found myself doing it while my husband wasnt home. I always called and told him I did it and it actually turned him on but I could see it becoming a problem so we stopped and havent done it in a long time. Now my house is just to busy I couldnt do it if I wanted to :(

[dallyfoster]

I basically answered this in another thread but here goes again.

When we were experimenting with our first webcam my husband and i would video chat with other cpls and sometimes we would have sex while watching and being watched and it was such a turn on we were doing it 3 or 4 times a week.
Then my husband wanted to watch me play alone with other men on the camera. Sometimes even talking to them on the phone. I must say that it was a total turn on talking dirty to a total stranger watching him masturbate while he watched me masturbate. I was having orgasms all day long lol. Sometimes I found myself doing it while my husband wasnt home. I always called and told him I did it and it actually turned him on but I could see it becoming a problem so we stopped and havent done it in a long time. Now my house is just to busy I couldnt do it if I wanted to :(

Aww man! and here all of us guys were hoping that we would get to see something like that ;) Dont worry, we still love you just as much :boobs:

[bobby6901]

wouldn't want to get caught... it's fun though...Cheating? no contact means no cheating..

[roughneck]

I don't think it is but my wife does. :cry:

[SDhot61]

You are not sharing your body. I think that is key. Cyber is almost like writing erotica together. When too much is involved it can get sticky in more ways than one.

[dallyfoster]

Yeah, it isnt like she is touching you or anything, so it isnt cheating.

[dallyfoster]

Ahh damn, I bet you were really wishing it was true, werent you, Panther?

[Annie]

To me cheating is anything that takes away from a marriage. Porn can even be cheating, if you use porn to avoid contact with your spouse. Maybe if hubby didn't wack off with porn so much back then he may have come to me? In the long run we were both cheated. I made hubby get rid of his porn many years ago.

Things have changed for us since then. Now we have fun with all the new stuff TOGETHER. Huge difference to me anyway...

[Penny]

I dont mind porn infact I kind of like it so long as we do it together

[dallyfoster]

Porn, if watched by both can a lot of times bring that extra little addition to the sexual life, making it spice it up.

[player]

Hey there Penny,I doubt very much you would have a problem finding the right girl.You got everything working for you.I say go for it and let us know how you liked it!!

[geshem]

I would join in, but what about if the reverse was true, your wife is found having sex with man? Or your husband is having sex with man?

[Heaterman]

I would take out the camera and video it so I could watch it again after I woke up from passing out

[dallyfoster]

Haha, sweet... thats a smart idea, Heaterman :)

[KIRA187]

my wife and I have watched porn together and i has really turned us on and tried a few different things together. from soft porn to real hard stuff. She prefers the soft porn. Cyber sex is much like writing erotica. I enjoy creating a sexual scenario where my cyber mate can feel comfortable and relaxed to share a sexual experience and make her feel good.

[Penny]

We watched an old one last night that actually had a story line :D It was about a cpl that wanted to try swinging. It was pretty good but ofcourse we never saw the end ;)

[Cindy]

Well I was a naughty girl this week too. :rofl1: My new friend and I came back to my house from the beach today. We were all hot, sweaty and full of sand. I asked her if she wanted to take a shower to clean up and she said only if I would join her:boobs: Well it didn't take me to long to say sure I would. This isn't the first time I took a shower with another girl but I think she's taken more than me. I thought I would be the agressor but she took control of the situation and I have to say it was awesome. I haven't told my husband yet, I don't think he will mind so long as I tell him all the juicey details:gs

[player]

Well I was a naughty girl this week too. :rofl1: My new friend and I came back to my house from the beach today. We were all hot, sweaty and full of sand. I asked her if she wanted to take a shower to clean up and she said only if I would join her:boobs: Well it didn't take me to long to say sure I would. This isn't the first time I took a shower with another girl but I think she's taken more than me. I thought I would be the agressor but she took control of the situation and I have to say it was awesome. I haven't told my husband yet, I don't think he will mind so long as I tell him all the juicey details:gs Cindy,you have to give us some good details.If your husband don`t want to hear about it,I most certainly do.In full detail.Thanks for the thoughts and pictures going through my mind.YUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMY!!!!!!!!!:lf

[player]

Would give anything to be the bar of soap or body lotion!!!

[Penny]

details woman details :lf

[player]

Whats up Penny!!!

[Zpanther]

alRIGHT! Cindy disappears for a few days and cums back with this bombshell. Good for you girl! Sounds like it was a good experience. I'm sure things will work out fine with your hubby.

[juli55]

If you caught your spouse cheating, could you truly forgive him or her?

[juli55]

Ok I cheated, and im still paying for it 20 yrs. later

[KIRA187]

It is a situation that could really tear at the fibre of a marriage. Trust is a fragile, delicate concept. It takes a great deal of time to build trust and only a split second to destroy it. Having personal experience with this topic it was difficult at first to trust her. I was always questioning her or not believing her when she was going out. We decided to work things out and over the years that trust has come back. Not 100% but it has come back.

[Annie]

After I ripped his nuts off...yes he would be forgiven if he was truly begging for it.

Forgiveness would have to be for a first time offence. A long term affair NEVER or a second time cheating NEVER!

[nlightenedrogue]

I was able to forgive after I got past the damage to my ego. For me, it was important to look at my part in the situation. It wasn't that my wife having an affair was my fault, but I did play a pretty big part in creating the conditions that made it more attractive for my wife to want to have an affair. The truth is, she was looking for something (an emotional connection) that she would have preferred to have with me, but at that time, I was not providing. I was a workaholic. We've always had a great sex life, but I haven't been the greatest husband as far as meeting my wife's emotional needs. I got over the infidelity by looking hard to find the role I played and once I did, I made efforts to change. When I first found out, I behaved immaturely by engaging in a series of purely sexual "flings", because my ego was damaged and I was angry. We separated for awhile, and finally were able to talk things through. In our case, it has made our relationship better than it has ever been.

[Big O]

Tough call, I havn't had to go through that yet

[mrhappy1]

Wow, Juli that's a long time to be paying for a mistake but obviously you're still together.


That's a tough call and I don't feel something that can be expalined in one short paragraph. I'm sure that I could forgive and hopefully be forgiven for a faux paux of that nature. I believe you have to examine the reasons why it occurred and see if there is anything that will correct the situation. People are only human and sometimes spouses don't fulfill the other's emmotional needs.

After getting over the initial shock, anger and hurt then sitting down and rationally thinking it through with a clearer mind would prevail. Nothing is irrepairable.:)
Ok I cheated, and im still paying for it 20 yrs. later

[Penny]

Not sure it would always be in my mind :(

[Zpanther]

Been there...... done that. It's no fun and takes a long time and a lotta work to build back the relationship. Forgiveness is necessary and possible. Forgetting is just not realistic. But yesterday is gone... can't relive the past. The key seems to be bulding trust for what might occur in the future.

[Norfolkdave]

Yes I have been naughty and cheated that was in the early stages of marriage, I was then forgiven, now she is celibate and has been for 6 years Im struggling to put love back into our marriage as Im happy flirting, perhaps wrong I dont know but hell 6 years!

[player]

I kkep reading about Cindy and her friend and can`t help but get a little turned on.Need more details to read.Like what she looks like and how she pleased you.

[Zpanther]

another woman would you get pissed? Want to watch? Or try to join in?
I'm thinking of suprising my husband this summer with another woman I met at the beach. We became pretty good friends and have already talked about having sex together kind of joking around but it will more than likely happen :) She caught me looking at her when we were changing in the bathroom. She smiled and returned the look at me. She is divorced and said she hasn't had sex in over a year. I may keep her to myself but I don't want to make my husband think I am greedy :D

So..... are ya going to keep her for yourself or share with your husband....... :D

[MCat]

No

[illmakeurtoeswiggle]

Been there...... done that. It's no fun and takes a long time and a lotta work to build back the relationship. Forgiveness is necessary and possible. Forgetting is just not realistic. But yesterday is gone... can't relive the past. The key seems to be bulding trust for what might occur in the future.

I couldn't have said it better myself.......

[Flirting Mom]

Never never never



If you caught your spouse cheating, could you truly forgive him or her?

[nlightenedrogue]

If I hadn't forgiven my wife - and she me - we would have missed the best years of our marriage.

[Penny]

Thats kind of sweet :gs

[Polo38]

not everything is black and white....the key is always communication

[avitron69]

yes. It is not worth destroying what we have over sex.

[nlightenedrogue]

I've come to believe that relationships go through growth stages just like people do. Some times are wonderful and others can be very difficult. I'm just so glad we hung in there through the difficult times. We both have more confidence now that we can weather whatever storms are yet to come.

[Aegis]

If most of your comments are true
Then what in God's name are you doing here?

[nlightenedrogue]

If most of your comments are true
Then what in God's name are you doing here?
I come here for a harmless, pleasurable diversion. I enjoy flirting and this atmosphere is certainly more harmless than flirting in a club somewhere. I enjoy the vicarious pleasure in having this safe, harmless contact with others - particularly the women. If I were REALLY LOOKING for someone, I would spend my time at clubs or other places that people gather. My flirting takes place during office hours, when I'm away from home anyway. It doesn't involve any physical contact, doesn't cost anything and I don't have to worry about disease or being caught coming out of a hotel. My flirting here takes absolutely nothing away from my wife or family and when I'm home, they have all of my time and attention. In fact, some days I go home so turned on because of something posted (or seen) on this site, that my wife benefits tremendously! As far as I'm concerned, my conduct here has no adverse effect on my marriage at all. Some guys spend a lot of money at strip clubs, or flirt with co-workers or clients. I do all of mine here and save the real thing for my wife. So, what in god's name are YOU doing here?

[Big O]

Nlightened, great post bud.
Big O

[ross57412]

sorry i have to agree with flirting mom on this one my ex cheated on me took her back the first time even though she had a child by the other man but the second time i didnt walk away from the situation i ran as fas as my little feet could carry me

[MCat]

I come here for a harmless, pleasurable diversion.save the real thing for my wife.

Good response Mr. Rogue:kk

[Zpanther]

Good response Mr. Rogue:kk

WHOA! Loooooooooooove your new avatar MaryCat! :lf

[nlightenedrogue]

Good response Mr. Rogue:kk
:thankyou:

Thanks, Marycat and BigO!

[Penny]

:kk Nlightened great post

[Zpanther]

I come here for a harmless, pleasurable diversion. I enjoy flirting and this atmosphere is certainly more harmless than flirting in a club somewhere. I enjoy the vicarious pleasure in having this safe, harmless contact with others - particularly the women. If I were REALLY LOOKING for someone, I would spend my time at clubs or other places that people gather. My flirting takes place during office hours, when I'm away from home anyway. It doesn't involve any physical contact, doesn't cost anything and I don't have to worry about disease or being caught coming out of a hotel. My flirting here takes absolutely nothing away from my wife or family and when I'm home, they have all of my time and attention. In fact, some days I go home so turned on because of something posted (or seen) on this site, that my wife benefits tremendously! As far as I'm concerned, my conduct here has no adverse effect on my marriage at all. Some guys spend a lot of money at strip clubs, or flirt with co-workers or clients. I do all of mine here and save the real thing for my wife. So, what in god's name are YOU doing here?

I just liked this post so much, I thought it ought to be on this page too. :)

[sunsetgirl3]

What if, after 26 years of a truly happy marriage, your husband cheats on you for 2 years and can't explain why---stating there is and was absolutely nothing wrong with his marriage or his wife? Nine months after getting back together, signs of his "shadiness" still reveal themselves when he least expects it -- like hints being dropped in public.

[rickt67]

If you caught your spouse cheating, could you truly forgive him or her?

Lets just say I would be in jail.

If you consider this site as a means of someone (your spouse) cheating on you , then why are you even here.

[Seeker]

Wow sunset! Sounds like he's more into the 'chase' :( While it does seem to happen in this stage of life, I hope he would remember what you are to him! What if, after 26 years of a truly happy marriage, your husband cheats on you for 2 years and can't explain why---stating there is and was absolutely nothing wrong with his marriage or his wife? Nine months after getting back together, signs of his "shadiness" still reveal themselves when he least expects it -- like hints being dropped in public.

[spare_change]

I would suggest there is no such thing as forgiveness. There is only suppression - suppression of the hurt for a perceived greater good.

As in all things, as time passes, the pain seems a little less. But, in truth, it never goes away. There is always that fear it will happen again -- that niggling distrust.

Forgive? No! Forget? Never. Learn to live with it? Sure

[KIRA187]

I would suggest there is no such thing as forgiveness. There is only suppression - suppression of the hurt for a perceived greater good.

As in all things, as time passes, the pain seems a little less. But, in truth, it never goes away. There is always that fear it will happen again -- that niggling distrust.

Forgive? No! Forget? Never. Learn to live with it? Sure

A lot of truth to what you say SP.

[juli55]

I wont tell if you don't.

Do YOU? no! not me never..to chicken:)

[spare_change]

Ok but we require a post every now and then atleast :)

Heavy lies the mantle of responsibility.

[Norfolkdave]

We watched an old one last night that actually had a story line :D It was about a cpl that wanted to try swinging. It was pretty good but ofcourse we never saw the end ;)

May I as a gentleman ask why?:lmao

[MCat]

[QUOTE=hank69] 2. How many times have you cheated/been cheated on/ or been the third party?1


He forgot to mention that it was his first wife that did the cheating on him....not his wonderful loving 2nd wife of 29 years. :D

[Polo38]

Mary,
You are a testament of loving wife and soulful partner. You wheel the tools of communication and sexiness with ease, making other women crave to be you and other husband fantasize to be Hank. Your marriage together is hallmark of why people don’t need to cheat if both individuals care more of the other then about themselves.

[MCat]

Mary,
You are a testament of loving wife and soulful partner. You wheel the tools of communication and sexiness with ease, making other women crave to be you and other husband fantasize to be Hank. Your marriage together is hallmark of why people don’t need to cheat if both individuals care more of the other then about themselves.

Oh my gosh....you are so kind....I can only hope that my love for Hank and our life together lives up to your wonderful description... This is a great big ahhhh moment for me. Thank you so much. :kk

[Polo38]

YW..I only write what i see and feel..and i can feel your love for Hank. Besides in one of my last lives i was cupid...i'll always be a hopeless romantic.

[spare_change]

YW..I only write what i see and feel..and i can feel your love for Hank. Besides in one of my last lives i was cupid...i'll always be a hopeless romantic.

And he was EVER so cute in that diaper and wings!

[MCat]

YW..I only write what i see and feel..and i can feel your love for Hank. Besides in one of my last lives i was cupid...i'll always be a hopeless romantic.

Mr. Xenote...romance is wonderful, your wife, other half, significant other, or partner is very fortunate indeed. :kk

[Ehnonymous]

See my responses below

O'k here it goes. I'll just number them that way it's more clear:
1. How many times have you been married? Once
2. How many times have you cheated/been cheated on/ or been the third party? 4 times
3. Have you ever been caught cheating, and if so how did it make you feel or your partner feel? Never been caught
4. How strong was your relationship to begin with? (How would you feel if they left you over this) It has been pretty strong until about 4 years ago
5. How is your relationship with your spouse?
a. do you communicate? - yes we do. a lot, but not as much lately.
b. do you fight a lot? more lately. but often about stupid things
c. do you spend quality time together? yes. including showers together at least once a day
d. do you express your love daily? every day.
6. What do you think could have prevented this from happening? Dunno if I could have. I've always had a roving eye, although seldom capitalised on opportunity. I guess I never sowed enough oats in college and graduate school.
7. Would you do it again given the chance? probably yes.. still desireous of a discreet relationship...
If you want to give me more details you can, it would be more helpful. Thank you all!:thankyou:

When I was younger, I had no idea that I was attractive to women and was pretty insecure. I was 29 when I met my wife (we were engaged after 4 weeks of dating) and figured out that I was actually someone women would consider a "catch." My 3 early affairs were just being weak and experimenting - always out of town and "just" kissing, heavy foreplay and oral.
As kids get older and my wife enters peri-menopause, I see her changing. We've had a great sex life and still communicate plenty, but she's tired, cranky, and generally just not nice to me or the kids. She tells me "to get over it" but that is just not working. Recently, I had a quick NSA that wasn't very fulfilling, but made me want something more. I' not about to get divorced, but I know now that there are others out there like me, perhaps even near me, and I will find some modicum of comfort and happiness while this situation resolves itself one way or another. :wa:

[Penny]

I hope things work out for you

[Norfolkdave]

So your done with us :( Your not going to stick around and post? thats not nice :(

Weve been had next time they,ll have to sign up properly so we can follow it up idf we have to

[Sandy]

have thought about going to see a doctor together. it might help you both

[Norfolkdave]

have thought about going to see a doctor together. it might help you both

Im ok I dont need a doctor just yet thankyou:lmao

[Polo38]

I basically answered this in another thread but here goes again.

When we were experimenting with our first webcam my husband and i would video chat with other cpls and sometimes we would have sex while watching and being watched and it was such a turn on we were doing it 3 or 4 times a week.
Then my husband wanted to watch me play alone with other men on the camera. Sometimes even talking to them on the phone. I must say that it was a total turn on talking dirty to a total stranger watching him masturbate while he watched me masturbate. I was having orgasms all day long lol. Sometimes I found myself doing it while my husband wasnt home. I always called and told him I did it and it actually turned him on but I could see it becoming a problem so we stopped and havent done it in a long time. Now my house is just to busy I couldnt do it if I wanted to :(



But a lot of great memories
if you ever get the camera back up you should tell us

[TheSaint69]

I dont think it is cheateing, although it could lead to it.......

[spare_change]

I have avoided this thread, cuz I wasn't ready to face it.

Cyber for the purposes of mutual masturbation isn't cheating. It is merely a stimulant, like porn.

However, cyber which involves an emotional relationship IS cheating. You are taking something from your primary relationship -- and investing it in another.

Or, at least, that's how i see it. Got to admit, though, I don't much like facing it.

[Ehnonymous]

wouldn't want to get caught... it's fun though...Cheating? no contact means no cheating..

Have to agree here. I don't consider it cheating, but I think my wife would.

[Wet Beaver]

I have avoided this thread, cuz I wasn't ready to face it.

Cyber for the purposes of mutual masturbation isn't cheating. It is merely a stimulant, like porn.

However, cyber which involves an emotional relationship IS cheating. You are taking something from your primary relationship -- and investing it in another.

Or, at least, that's how i see it. Got to admit, though, I don't much like facing it.

i think you sumed it real well...

[Penny]

Well put

[firefly]

I can see both side actually. My hubby has quite a few cyber friends and I know he does the cyber sex thing. He thinks that I don't have a clue about it and the fact that he hides it bothers me alot. I don't think I would think it was cheating if he was honest or if our sex life was better. Most times I feel that he likes cybering more then the real thing and that is what leads to trouble in a marriage.

[Polo38]

I can see both side actually. My hubby has quite a few cyber friends and I know he does the cyber sex thing. He thinks that I don't have a clue about it and the fact that he hides it bothers me alot. I don't think I would think it was cheating if he was honest or if our sex life was better. Most times I feel that he likes cybering more then the real thing and that is what leads to trouble in a marriage.


I'm sorry to hear that firefly, have you thought of approaching him with the truth and tell him you want to lay the cards on the table? that through open communication both of you could enjoy the benefits of cyber friends either together or separately, but with full blessing of each other's love.

[firefly]

I'm sorry to hear that firefly, have you thought of approaching him with the truth and tell him you want to lay the cards on the table? that through open communication both of you could enjoy the benefits of cyber friends either together or separately, but with full blessing of each other's love.


Yeah, several times in fact, but everytime that I do he denies then stays off of the computer for awhile. I don't know why he won't just be honest. I don't rant or rave or anything and I'm not bitching him out for it I'm just more curious than anything about what it's about and how it is done but he just blows it off.

[Polo38]

Yeah, several times in fact, but everytime that I do he denies then stays off of the computer for awhile. I don't know why he won't just be honest. I don't rant or rave or anything and I'm not bitching him out for it I'm just more curious than anything about what it's about and how it is done but he just blows it off.

sounds more like guilt, you know it's funny, some of us would to rather deny our spouse the same opportunity we enjoy, feeling that we could handle things and keep everything into prespective farther then our spouse or perhaps a bigger fear of potentially losing them to someone else. so instead you close the door behind us, and try to keep quite about it.

help him break those chains of silences and guilt...you are obviously a very understanding and caring person.

[Sandy]

i don't keep anything from my husband, i don't think cyber-sex is cheating as long as your spouse knows actually whats going on. but secrets will kill any relastions. so you guys beware. secrets are what kills what you have.

[Cindy]

Does he know you are here? If not let him find out ;)



I can see both side actually. My hubby has quite a few cyber friends and I know he does the cyber sex thing. He thinks that I don't have a clue about it and the fact that he hides it bothers me alot. I don't think I would think it was cheating if he was honest or if our sex life was better. Most times I feel that he likes cybering more then the real thing and that is what leads to trouble in a marriage.

[jennrocks]

I went to a sex club with a couple-friend of ours without telling my husband about a year ago. Not that he would care, but it is a secret (i guess till now). Didn't have sex with any strangers but watched and masturbated.

[firefly]

Does he know you are here? If not let him find out ;)

I've thought about it actually, but he acts funny when I flirt or am just what I consider friendly to other guys. I think it is because he has a guilty conscience. I really like it here and I kinda don't want him to ruin it for me. Sounds stupid I know. We've been married for 10 years and sometimes I still don't know what goes through his head.

[spare_change]

We've been married for 10 years and sometimes I still don't know what goes through his head.

No surprise there. Most of us don't know what is going on ALL the time.

[Norfolkdave]

I went to a sex club with a couple-friend of ours without telling my husband about a year ago. Not that he would care, but it is a secret (i guess till now). Didn't have sex with any strangers but watched and masturbated.

And how turned on were you:lmao

[Penny]

Tkae me next time :gs



I went to a sex club with a couple-friend of ours without telling my husband about a year ago. Not that he would care, but it is a secret (i guess till now). Didn't have sex with any strangers but watched and masturbated.

[Norfolkdave]

Tkae me next time :gs

I think it would be nice to be told the events come on mmmm:lmao

[Sandy]

why don't you invite your husband to join you on this site? I did and its really great for both of us.

[jennrocks]

my husband is really not into the computer, and does not find this forum as satisfying as I do. Since most of our swinging and sex life involves strangers, or people we keep at an emotional distance, I enjoy getting to share with people of like mind. It was pure accident I found this site.

i have commented here before that we have had sex with people we know on a personal level, so i don't want to confuse you guys with what we are about. But those have been rare and emotionally challenging.

all of our "sexcapades" have been awesome and enjoyable. if penny or anyone else is in tampa, fl or visits the area, I definitely would like to hit the town. my husband will come. but he is just not into cyber sex, email, or others avanues that I am.

he is simply into watching me get f--- to death on a regular basis. what could a girl want more?

[jennrocks]

hotdave,

i was very turned on. i get turned on telling you guys about my sexcapades. I am so driven by public sex and swing sex that I simply can't get enough. suffice it to say that when our couple-friends started having sex next to me on a red velvet couch, that was exciting. I was in a room with two girl-girl's getting it on; two couples, and a FFM threesome. My friends' husband was right next to me as he plowed his wife. It was great fun.

[HillBilly]

woot i would watch and join right in :hp:

[shopowner]

another woman would be fine...man might represent a threat...

[shopowner]

maybe that last statement shows my insecurity

[Norfolkdave]

hotdave,

i was very turned on. i get turned on telling you guys about my sexcapades. I am so driven by public sex and swing sex that I simply can't get enough. suffice it to say that when our couple-friends started having sex next to me on a red velvet couch, that was exciting. I was in a room with two girl-girl's getting it on; two couples, and a FFM threesome. My friends' husband was right next to me as he plowed his wife. It was great fun.

mmm wanna play cyber style hot and dare I say envigorating, as I havent had sex for 7 years my wife is celibate and as you can see Im just heavily into drilling holes in the shed.....LOL but seriously Im here;)

[Jy]

It's tough question. As someone mentioned, if you're chatting with the intention of eventually meeting for sex, then I would call that cheating. For me, this site is just harmless flirting. I couldn't bring myself to actually meet someone to have sex with them, but because my hubby doesn't know I'm bi, and he doesn't like porn, I chose to find an outlet that I consider safe. I protect my identity,and get to chat with lots of other horny (and some lonely) people. No one gets hurt. I still love my husband, and will never leave him, but like Dave said, some of us aren't getting any at home, and we need to find a way to deal with that.
A little cyber sex gives me a chance to let loose that I wouldn't otherwise have.

[Barkiss]

It's tough question. As someone mentioned, if you're chatting with the intention of eventually meeting for sex, then I would call that cheating. For me, this site is just harmless flirting. I couldn't bring myself to actually meet someone to have sex with them, but because my hubby doesn't know I'm bi, and he doesn't like porn, I chose to find an outlet that I consider safe. I protect my identity,and get to chat with lots of other horny (and some lonely) people. No one gets hurt. I still love my husband, and will never leave him, but like Dave said, some of us aren't getting any at home, and we need to find a way to deal with that.
A little cyber sex gives me a chance to let loose that I wouldn't otherwise have.

What? You mean we are not going to get together in Toronto? ;)

[Norfolkdave]

It's tough question. As someone mentioned, if you're chatting with the intention of eventually meeting for sex, then I would call that cheating. For me, this site is just harmless flirting. I couldn't bring myself to actually meet someone to have sex with them, but because my hubby doesn't know I'm bi, and he doesn't like porn, I chose to find an outlet that I consider safe. I protect my identity,and get to chat with lots of other horny (and some lonely) people. No one gets hurt. I still love my husband, and will never leave him, but like Dave said, some of us aren't getting any at home, and we need to find a way to deal with that.
A little cyber sex gives me a chance to let loose that I wouldn't otherwise have.

Cyber please and have fun but our problem is the time zone;)

[Jy]

I'd love to hear that sexy southern drawl. You know that, bark.



What? You mean we are not going to get together in Toronto? ;)

[Lena]

Oh Jugs, you are going to break Barkiss' heart!!!

[TheSaint69]

I wont get my wife to even think about looking at soft core porn, and she dosen't have a sence of adventure like me.She's too much of a conservative...I like to try new things but she wont!!. It suck's!!:cry:

[Jy]

Nah. Barks is a big boy. And he knows I'm married. And he's married too. He also knows i'm crazy about his accent, the naughty boy. That's why he teases me so relentlessly.



Oh Jugs, you are going to break Barkiss' heart!!!

[Barkiss]

Nah. Barks is a big boy. And he knows I'm married. And he's married too. He also knows i'm crazy about his accent, the naughty boy. That's why he teases me so relentlessly.

Buta I'da half to rite like th's fer ya'll to herda assent her

[Lena]

Is that a southern accent Barkiss???

[Barkiss]

Is that a southern accent Barkiss???

It writes fairly stupid..huh?

[Lena]

Well maybe not if i could understand it!!!! Sorry!

[Barkiss]

Well maybe not if i could understand it!!!! Sorry!

:lmao If you can imagine English (at least the American version) with long exagerated vowel sounds, and combination of words which are not normally accepted as going together...then you have the basics for a southern accent.

[Lena]

Right ok! Here goes............ i'm trying to imagine!!!!..........
And i am coming up with the accent from Gone with Wind!!!( is that the correct film tittle?)

[Barkiss]

Exactly...Gone with the Wind would be an excellent example of the way I talk :)

[Lena]

Yeah??!!!! Ok! now i know!!!

I also now know why jugs likes it !!!!!:gs

[Barkiss]

Why thank you ma'am. Maybe we should ask Penny to add voice chat...sounds like I could benefit. :)

[Lena]

Why thank you ma'am. Maybe we should ask Penny to add voice chat...sounds like I could benefit. :)
You're welcome :gs
Well if she did that you may not get the ladies posting but just drooling over your voice!!!

[Barkiss]

You're welcome :gs
Well if she did that you may not get the ladies posting but just drooling over your voice!!!

I like the idea of that...:D

[Lena]

Yes, i thought you might!!!!!
All the ladies just thinking about you!!!!!

[Annie]

You're welcome :gs
Well if she did that you may not get the ladies posting but just drooling over your voice!!!

Well if the line is forming... I'm right behind Lena!

[Barkiss]

Yes, i thought you might!!!!!
All the ladies just thinking about you!!!!!

Sad thing is I would probably turn into a bumbling idiot if I was actually speaking to all you beautiful women. :lf

[Lena]

Well if the line is forming... I'm right behind Lena!

Yes Annie the line is forming, yes get in line behind me !!!!!:gs

[Lena]

Sad thing is I would probably turn into a bumbling idiot if I was actually speaking to all you beautiful women. :lf

Awwwww bet you will be ok and a right little charmer!!!!
Look you have already a queue forming!!!!!:)

[Barkiss]

Yes Annie the line is forming, yes get in line behind me !!!!!:gs

:o making me blush...

[Lena]

:o making me blush...

Awwww how cute!!!!!!:)

Hey Annie, he is cute too, together with his voice.............
Think the queue is going to be real long!!!!

[Barkiss]

Awwww how cute!!!!!!:)

Hey Annie, he is cute too, together with his voice.............
Think the queue is going to be real long!!!!

I try...I'm going to write Penny now and request voice chat...I think I have found the way to compete with Xenote's butt. ;)

[Lena]

I try...I'm going to write Penny now and request voice chat...I think I have found the way to compete with Xenote's butt. ;)

Ohhh you are going to enter the competition of who has the best...........
Well we could do both!!!! Listen to your voice while looking at Xenote's butt!!!!!:gs

[Annie]

Oh my gosh! Have you seen a pic? Don't tell Marycat or WetBeaver, they might want to cut in on us!

[Barkiss]

Oh my gosh! Have you seen a pic? Don't tell Marycat or WetBeaver, they might want to cut in on us!

Maybe we can get video and audio feed...then Xenote could do some modeling, while I play the announcer...

[Lena]

Oh my gosh! Have you seen a pic? Don't tell Marycat or WetBeaver, they might want to cut in on us!

Hhmmmm good idea!!!! better keep it from them!!! There will be a fight!!!!

[Lena]

Maybe we can get video and audio feed...then Xenote could do some modeling, while I play the announcer...

Got to be some sexy modelling with the same type of announcing!!!!!
So that we can dream!!!!!:gs

[Annie]

Hhmmmm good idea!!!! better keep it from them!!! There will be a fight!!!!

Then I'm hanging on to the broom!

[Lena]

Then I'm hanging on to the broom!

Hope its not the same broom you are using on BigO!!!!!

[Annie]

Hope its not the same broom you are using on BigO!!!!!

No I took that one in for an oil change after Big O signed off. I had to use it to get through Memphis while hubby was gone.... you know the rules about driving there....

[Lena]

No I took that one in for an oil change after Big O signed off. I had to use it to get through Memphis while hubby was gone.... you know the rules about driving there....

Yes!!!! Don't remind me!!!! makes me laugh alittle when i think about it!!!!:gs

[Barkiss]

Yes!!!! Don't remind me!!!! makes me laugh alittle when i think about it!!!!:gs

It's crazy when you drive through there. Hard to tell which man belongs to which car, and if he is waving the flag to get your attention or begging for help.

[Lena]

It's crazy when you drive through there. Hard to tell which man belongs to which car, and if he is waving the flag to get your attention or begging for help.

Oh my goodness!! All i can do is imagine it! Together with what Annie said about the women 'accidently' running over their husbands !!! Well the imagination just goes funny!!!!!:gs

So you have driven through there then???

[Barkiss]

Oh my goodness!! All i can do is imagine it! Together with what Annie said about the women 'accidently' running over their husbands !!! Well the imagination just goes funny!!!!!:gs

So you have driven through there then???

I'm from Tennessee...so embarrassingly enough, yes...

[Annie]

:lmao Too Funny!

[Lena]

I'm from Tennessee...so embarrassingly enough, yes...

Ohh poor you!!!
Annie have pity on him!!! He has to look at those men running around with those flags!!!
But sorry it is funny!!!!!! oh ok Annie you can have a laughing fit!!!:lmao

[Barkiss]

Ohh poor you!!!
Annie have pity on him!!! He has to look at those men running around with those flags!!!
But sorry it is funny!!!!!! oh ok Annie you can have a laughing fit!!!:lmao

Why do you think I moved...my wife always wanted to drive.

[Lena]

Why do you think I moved...my wife always wanted to drive.

Oh no!!! Now you have given me the vision of you running around with a flag trying to avoid being run over!!!!:)

[Barkiss]

Oh no!!! Now you have given me the vision of you running around with a flag trying to avoid being run over!!!!:)

It was hell...but great training for marathons.

[Lena]

It was hell...but great training for marathons.

You mean you actually did it???:)

[Barkiss]

You mean you actually did it???:)

Of course...penalty was loss of driver's and marriage license...I would beg her to let me drive, but she is stubborn. ;)

[Jy]

I'm going to mail you a microphone immediately (well, perhaps I should send a webcam too) so I'm ready for voice chat. I'm also standing at the border right now, looking for your flag!
Tell me when your plane gets in. I'll be lying on the luggage turnstile with nothing on but a welcome sign and a smile!


Why thank you ma'am. Maybe we should ask Penny to add voice chat...sounds like I could benefit. :)

[Annie]

Ohh poor you!!!
Annie have pity on him!!! He has to look at those men running around with those flags!!!
But sorry it is funny!!!!!! oh ok Annie you can have a laughing fit!!!:lmao

Lena I can't help myself... just the vision of all those men runnin around scared shitless with a red flag in their hand... waving it like there's no tomorrow... well for some there may not be a tomorrow...

[Annie]

Of course...penalty was loss of driver's and marriage license...I would beg her to let me drive, but she is stubborn. ;)

Some say stubborn... others say smart?

[Lena]

Of course...penalty was loss of driver's and marriage license...I would beg her to let me drive, but she is stubborn. ;)

She just wanted to see you carry the flag while running!! And if you were in front of the car, she may have liked to watch your bum moving in front of her!!!! Or may have turned her on more trying t o run you over!!!!!!:)
Sorry! didn't mean it!!!

[Barkiss]

I'm going to mail you a microphone immediately (well, perhaps I should send a webcam too) so I'm ready for voice chat. I'm also standing at the border right now, looking for your flag!
Tell me when your plane gets in. I'll be lying on the luggage turnstile with nothing on but a welcome sign and a smile!

Be careful Jugs...I'll come in singing Dixie and take you right there...I'm not scared of a little public affection ;)

[Lena]

Lena I can't help myself... just the vision of all those men runnin around scared shitless with a red flag in their hand... waving it like there's no tomorrow... well for some there may not be a tomorrow...

:lmao You are too funny!!!!

I think i might just move there now!! Just think Annie! all i have to do is go to the front of my house or nearby anyway!!!! May be that i could just open my window!!!

[Barkiss]

She just wanted to see you carry the flag while running!! And if you were in front of the car, she may have liked to watch your bum moving in front of her!!!! Or may have turned her on more trying t o run you over!!!!!!:)
Sorry! didn't mean it!!!

I don't doubt it for all those reasons...and that was young into our marriage...I can't imagine now...I bet she wouldn't even know where the brake was located.

[Lena]

I don't doubt it for all those reasons...and that was young into our marriage...I can't imagine now...I bet she wouldn't even know where the brake was located.

Oh she stopped driving!!! Maybe she doesn't find it any fun anymore!!! Not without you wiggling your bum and trying to avoid not getting run over!!:gs

[Annie]

I don't doubt it for all those reasons...and that was young into our marriage...I can't imagine now...I bet she wouldn't even know where the brake was located.

Well that's what she'd say in court anyway.... they all say that!

[Barkiss]

Oh she stopped driving!!! Maybe she doesn't find it any fun anymore!!! Not without you wiggling your bum and trying to avoid not getting run over!!:gs

No she hasn't stopped driving, nor wanting me to run in front of the car, but we no longer live in Tennessee, so I'm not required. :)

[Lena]

Well that's what she'd say in court anyway.... they all say that!

Well that would have been a good reason!!!!!!

[Barkiss]

Well that's what she'd say in court anyway.... they all say that!

I'm never leaving the house again.

[Jy]

I am such an exhibitionist, I'd love the audience! I'd be singing God Bless America for bringing you to me!



Be careful Jugs...I'll come in singing Dixie and take you right there...I'm not scared of a little public affection ;)

[Lena]

No she hasn't stopped driving, nor wanting me to run in front of the car, but we no longer live in Tennessee, so I'm not required. :)

Bet you breathed a big sigh of relieve when you moved!!!!

[Lena]

I'm never leaving the house again.

No, you best not!!! much safer!!!!:)

[Annie]

Well that would have been a good reason!!!!!!

Like I said Lena... 27 women in the first month alone!

[Barkiss]

I am such an exhibitionist, I'd love the audience! I'd be singing God Bless America for bringing you to me!

Better start practicing the song, because I'll be there before the end of the month. ;) aaaAAAAaa