Does a chatter matter in a relationship?

[MIGHTY]

My husband and I have been fighting all afternoon....this was one of the arguments. If your spouse was chatting with someone of the opposite sex for an extended period of time (year or more) and you never knew until that person calls them six months later and asks if they can be friends, would that matter?

1. Absloutley!
2. Nah, it's harmless!
3. Depends on the situation.

[luvplayluvlick]

1. Absolutley!

If your spouse is chatting with someone of the opposite sex for an extended period of time and you don't know...something is wrong.

I always think of it this way, would they be upset if they saw what I was chatting about....what do you think?

[OICurready4me]

That's a tough one. I look at it this way... What is the difference between chatting with someone online and talking with someone of the opposite sex at work about the same things? I say they are basically the same issue and unless something becomes of it and becomes a sexual relationship, I would take it as a friendship unless proven otherwise. I don't know of everyone my wife talks to and she doesn't know all the people I talk to either. She has male friends and I have female friends and neither one of us is jealous of the other so I personally don't think it is a big deal, so I guess I would say #2.

[hotguy89]

yes it does!!! i have been fighting for 8 months with my wife..she has been chatting with ex boyfriend and been talking very explicitedly...very! they have been catching up not on old friends but what they have been doiing with their partners in the bed room...i hit the roof...i think its not on...so...i am with u mighty :spbx:

[OICurready4me]

yes it does!!! i have been fighting for 8 months with my wife..she has been chatting with ex boyfriend and been talking very explicitedly...very! they have been catching up not on old friends but what they have been doiing with their partners in the bed room...i hit the roof...i think its not on...so...i am with u mighty :spbx:


Your situation is a little different and definitely think that is a problem. Not all chatting is like that but I can agree you should be pissed. Good luck with that one. I sense alot of blood shed.

[hotguy89]

true...its the next step...this might be where things go to if u dont discuss and compromise now...no more blood left...:whee:

[pointofnoreturn]

1. Absolutley!

If your spouse is chatting with someone of the opposite sex for an extended period of time and you don't know...something is wrong.

I always think of it this way, would they be upset if they saw what I was chatting about....what do you think?I think that if your spoouse cnnot accomodate you, then go for it...:wa:

[hotguy89]

right...well..how far would u go? i am game ...:knuddel:

[pointofnoreturn]

right...well..how far would u go? i am game ...:knuddel:as far as it takes to make me happy....:knuddel:

[yaser]

My husband and I have been fighting all afternoon....this was one of the arguments. If your spouse was chatting with someone of the opposite sex for an extended period of time (year or more) and you never knew until that person calls them six months later and asks if they can be friends, would that matter?

1. Absloutley!
2. Nah, it's harmless!
3. Depends on the situation.
Absolutely..
Better be friends with you honey and chatt..

[pointofnoreturn]

Friends can be lovers as well. Lovers can be friends. Anything is possible if you want it bad enough.

[majorfun]

I think that it is a sign that something is wrong at home....

[Spooky13]

I think silence is Golden...

[XMONKEYLOVINSX]

1111111 yes it matters!!!!! the only question i raise is if it was nothing why didnt you know???My husband and I have been fighting all afternoon....this was one of the arguments. If your spouse was chatting with someone of the opposite sex for an extended period of time (year or more) and you never knew until that person calls them six months later and asks if they can be friends, would that matter?

1. Absloutley!
2. Nah, it's harmless!
3. Depends on the situation.

[spare_change]

It only matters if you think it matters. Otherwise, it doesn't mean anything at all.

[Penny]

Very true



It only matters if you think it matters. Otherwise, it doesn't mean anything at all.

[hotguy89]

still...depending on your relationship...could be signs of smoke...

:whee:

[paris]

It only matters if you think it matters. Otherwise, it doesn't mean anything at all.
I agree with you. Well said.

[haggisbasher]

My husband and I have been fighting all afternoon....this was one of the arguments. If your spouse was chatting with someone of the opposite sex for an extended period of time (year or more) and you never knew until that person calls them six months later and asks if they can be friends, would that matter?

1. Absloutley!
2. Nah, it's harmless!
3. Depends on the situation.

a sheesh, it matters a great deal or nothing at all. i think it depends on where you and yer spouse are. if you are happy then what's to say. if one is looking for love, affection, attention, and or sympathy from somewhere else then i need to ask myself wtf is wrong, what am i playing at....

so, i guess, i go for option 3.

[rainbowhigh]

I'm with MonkeyLovin on this one... Absolutely! If it was completely platonic, why wouldn't he tell you about it? Just a thought....

[yaser]

Friends can be lovers as well. Lovers can be friends. Anything is possible if you want it bad enough.
When and where can we be better frien :sex ds?

[hotguy89]

I'm with MonkeyLovin on this one... Absolutely! If it was completely platonic, why wouldn't he tell you about it? Just a thought....
I would agree as well...should have come earlier...ask him what they talk about to get a real isea what is happening...:wa:

[fly]

That's a tough one. I look at it this way... What is the difference between chatting with someone online and talking with someone of the opposite sex at work about the same things? I say they are basically the same issue and unless something becomes of it and becomes a sexual relationship, I would take it as a friendship unless proven otherwise. I don't know of everyone my wife talks to and she doesn't know all the people I talk to either. She has male friends and I have female friends and neither one of us is jealous of the other so I personally don't think it is a big deal, so I guess I would say #2.

Looks like not too many agree with you on this one OIC! :kk

[tiger50]

Looks like not too many agree with you on this one OIC! :kk

lol yeh the web is a dangerous place for anyone who is lacking something in their marriage... :D

[fly]

lol yeh the web is a dangerous place for anyone who is lacking something in their marriage... :D

Yes............there are many things to be desired here.............

[kiwimongo]

it dosent matter

[speed_raycer]

My husband and I have been fighting all afternoon....this was one of the arguments. If your spouse was chatting with someone of the opposite sex for an extended period of time (year or more) and you never knew until that person calls them six months later and asks if they can be friends, would that matter?

1. Absloutley!
2. Nah, it's harmless!
3. Depends on the situation.

:sc Hmmm, Mighty. Must have been an interesting argument! Number 3, I'd say, because I think it depends on what they mean by being "friends." It also depends on what they were chatting about... intimate, sexual things?

[hotguy89]

agree with u speed..totally!:spbx:

[flamengo130]

Guess this can swing both ways (no pun intended). Seems simply harmless to me, as long as it is chatter. It's exciting, fulfilling, and entertaining. But I suppose there are spouses that feel they are threatened by cyber.

[OICurready4me]

Yes............there are many things to be desired here.............


Yes there is... and don't you know it, you little blond cutie!

[OICurready4me]

Looks like not too many agree with you on this one OIC! :kk

That's fine with me. No one agrees with me all the time. There are women who don't agree that a threesome is a great thing!

[hotguy89]

do u know yet what they talked about? only then can u decide...:di

[Sandy]

i went thru this not to long ago myself, he pointeds out you come on here and flirt, yes i do, but i've never hidden any of it, plus everybody on here knows all i do is flirt. i really let him have it, and i told him i lost alot of respect and trust for him also. he has to gain it back.

[running76]

I barely told my husband that I have been chatting just with people here. But if he was chatting with the another woman and not telling me for a whole year then I would think he or she is hidden something that he or she would not want me to know..Both of you have to be honest....

[pointofnoreturn]

I think that it is a sign that something is wrong at home....Of course that is a sign. If everything was Ok, youwould not need to chat with others likt this...:wa:

[nugnugwinkwink]

not really but yes,,depends on what you really want

[lilolekimba67(f)]

1. Absloutley!

[Kevinkc53]

My wifes a chatter