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I am intrigued to get an idea of age group, the sex of people on this site and their motive for being on here...
Ah didn't realise you couldn't do multiple votes... ah well its the age group I am interested in...
rainbowhigh
01-21-2007, 01:53 PM
I am 30, female, and married. The reason I came to this site is not the same reason that I stay. I've only been here for 6 months - and it's funny how much life has changed for me in that time. This site has added a spark back into my marriage that wasn't there before... I'm thankful for all the friends I've made here. They've been there when I needed friends the most.
twoblues
01-21-2007, 01:58 PM
30, male, married.
My motive for being here? Hmm...Not sure really. I don't know, I just like reading the posts here. A lot of fun and also some well thought out threads to read as well.
majorfun
01-21-2007, 01:58 PM
I am 35 and I am happily unhappily married... I enjoy my children and I enjoy that the wife and I have the same common goal... To produce health kids... We do not argue in front of our children and we have a health relationship... Just no fire... Sometimes two ships passing in the night.. Enjoy alot of the people that I have met here and glad that it is more than just a hooking up site
wwwdodgeit
01-21-2007, 02:21 PM
married male 37 happly married , i am here bacause its nice to talk to someone different , let u know what u have at home , and after 14 years of steak its nice to have something different if u know what i mean
snowflake
01-21-2007, 05:22 PM
34, married female. We are happy in our marriage, but we both have jobs and we meet in the hall alot of the time. Found the site by accident and have been addicted ever since. Lonely at home alot and hoping to meet a lot of new friends. The threads are funny, heartwarming, and a breath of fresh air. I love the bantering back and forth, you can tell there is a familiar friendship with most. Thanks for a great read...
Keep it real..
Sandy
01-21-2007, 05:25 PM
i'm 42, married and hubby and i are both members here. we love to flirt and joke around. and now this is home to us.
49 happily married female here. My husband is 55 and here with me.
I thought I was unhappy a couple years ago....I was looking for something to help me put the spark back in our marriage...if I couldn't do that I needed to know that someone else would want me.
What I found here was a bunch of people kind of in the same boat...like rainbow...my reason for coming here is not why I stay. I can say I love the people here like family....some more than others ;) ;)
I can't imagine never coming back and hope I never have to leave.
northernvam
01-21-2007, 06:08 PM
I'm 43 and married ....
I'm don't think I'd say that I'm unhappy .. more unsatisfied with my sex life. I'd love it if my wife were on a site like this ... I would think it was fantastic that she was into firting and being sexual, but alas, that doesn't seem to be who she is.
yaser
01-21-2007, 06:09 PM
49 happily married female here. My husband is 55 and here with me.
I thought I was unhappy a couple years ago....I was looking for something to help me put the spark back in our marriage...if I couldn't do that I needed to know that someone else would want me.
What I found here was a bunch of people kind of in the same boat...like rainbow...my reason for coming here is not why I stay. I can say I love the people here like family....some more than others ;) ;)
I can't imagine never coming back and hope I never have to leave.
Mcat do you have any suspicion of being not wanted...?
Mcat do you have any suspicion of being not wanted...?
I used to be quite insecure Yaser.....I got over it. I am totally confident that my huband loves me. Its till death do us part for us... :knuddel:
37 year old married female- somedays unhappily married, all days sexually unfulfilled. I surfed in one night when I was horny and was looking for some excitement. Stayed because I enjoy the conversations.
I'm 34 years old/married/and wonderfully female! Found the site by accident one night and have been coming back ever since. I get lonely at home with my husband gone a lot. I just wanted to meet some new friends. Talk to other adults! I have made a lot of great friends, and a few really special ones. I appreciate being appreciated, and the flirting spices things up at home.
MIGHTY
01-21-2007, 10:11 PM
Almost 32 and married. Happily? Merely moments anymore. We are more room mates than anything at this point. It is sad, but to be expected with what we have been through. We continue in a struggle that neither of us are going to win. We both believe we are right in the way we feel, and we both are. This will be our downfall. It is hard to throw yourself into something when you do not know when it is going to end. You might say for me to enjoy the moment and relish in what I have now, considering he is willing to reciprocate, but I digress. The wall is up and stronger than ever. If there is anyone that has ever been able to knock it down, it would be him. I long for him to , at times. But, I cannot allow this considering he is the one who forced it up again.....
majorfun
01-21-2007, 10:32 PM
Best of luck Mighty
RedVixen
01-21-2007, 10:42 PM
I'm 35, female, married - definitely unhappy. Found this site doing a search and have met some really terrific people. I think it helps knowing that there are others who are in the same 'boat' and we're all kind of one big family. I love being here (lately not much, not because I haven't wanted to) and am grateful for being a member :)
I'm 41 and married. Hubby has some serious intimacy issues that he openly admits to, but that doesn't make me any less lonely. He's a good man and a devoted dad, but I ache for some passion, someone to remind me that I'm a sexual being, not just a housekeeper, cook and mommy.
cherokeered
01-21-2007, 11:01 PM
Well...am 44....married 20+ years....came here out of curiosity....wasnt planning on staying or even talking to anyone...wow, was I wrong...lol
My hubby and I are headed down the divorce road...we are like roommates...but not even nice ones all the time...we haven't slept in the same bed for around 7 or 8 months now....we havent had sex in a lot longer than that...which is fine with me
I have met a man here....an Aussie as everyone knows...and he is my future now...and am quite happy with that...:kk
...interesting observation, When I first joined this site over a year ago, most of the members were in their 40's and 50's. It seems the average age is much younger now.
...interesting observation, When I first joined this site over a year ago, most of the members were in their 40's and 50's. It seems the average age is much younger now.
Exactly my friend. :kk I put this poll up for that reason, I was curious to know the result... do you think its due to us having computers, mobiles etc? the ability to access such sites as this one (thank god I say!) chat on messenger and so on, actually encourages us to assess our own life's comparing them with others, enabling us to fulfil our fantasises, that, without such outlets would be just that a fantasy. After all in the 'old' days it was a matter of getting on with it...
yaser
01-22-2007, 09:02 AM
Almost 32 and married. Happily? Merely moments anymore. We are more room mates than anything at this point. It is sad, but to be expected with what we have been through. We continue in a struggle that neither of us are going to win. We both believe we are right in the way we feel, and we both are. This will be our downfall. It is hard to throw yourself into something when you do not know when it is going to end. You might say for me to enjoy the moment and relish in what I have now, considering he is willing to reciprocate, but I digress. The wall is up and stronger than ever. If there is anyone that has ever been able to knock it down, it would be him. I long for him to , at times. But, I cannot allow this considering he is the one who forced it up again.....
Mighty, it seems it is not that bad..We have you here..We like to be with you..
Absolutely, sister. But the atmosphere of the site has changed dramatically since its inception. It was much tamer then. No one posted risque photos except for Penny, and even hers were not as daring. And the topics of conversation, although flirty, were far less graphic. I like how open and honest everyone is on here, and that no topic is taboo; it's all fair game.
What surprises me thoough is how many younger people are unhappy in their marriages and have come here. As I mentioned, the majority of members used to be in their 40's and 50's and now so many of them are in their 30's, and even their 20's!
I'm curious - are there more people unhappy in their partnerships now than there used to be? Are our expectations of a spouse too unreasonable? Are we too impatient and want everything to be perfect in a marriage without wanting to do the work? Invest the time and energy? Because we all know marriage is work. Every day requires a conscious effort to keep the cogs and wheels running smoothly, and that involves more than just paying the bills and making sure the kids get to their soccer games on time.
Or have we seen more 20-somethings join because of accessibility, as you mentioned? Was everyone always this unhappy and just didn't have a site such as this available to them?
But this opens a whole new can of worms...Is the divorce rate up because it's easier to get a divorce now than in our parents' day? Or are we too lazy to bother salvaging our marriages when they go sour? Our parents usually didn't have a choice, and had to grit their teeth and make it work, one way or the other. They lived by the saying "You made your bed, now lie in it". Do we folow the same traditions, or just buy a new bedroom suite and defer the payments for two years?
I went down a long and winding bunny trail here, but as usual, you got me thinking...;) Exactly my friend. :kk I put this poll up for that reason, I was curious to know the result... do you think its due to us having computers, mobiles etc? the ability to access such sites as this one (thank god I say!) chat on messenger and so on, actually encourages us to assess our own life's comparing them with others, enabling us to fulfil our fantasises, that, without such outlets would be just that a fantasy. After all in the 'old' days it was a matter of getting on with it...
OICurready4me
01-22-2007, 09:55 PM
I'm a 41 year old man who enjoys life, and likes being married, most days, but am missing out on the intimate part of married life in a big way. Wife doesn't understand that it is part of the marriage contract to ensure partner is happy sexually so I sit here getting more false promises and excuses that you can shake a stick at. Have tried many things to no avail and am getting severely discouraged. I was looking around on the net for a place to talk to like minded people, in similar situations, and who were looking for friendship, a shoulder to lean on and advice. I found it here and am happy as hell I did. Best site on the internet, bar none. You all are the best.
You're pretty special yourself, hun. :kk We love having you here!I'm a 41 year old man who enjoys life, and likes being married, most days, but am missing out on the intimate part of married life in a big way. Wife doesn't understand that it is part of the marriage contract to ensure partner is happy sexually so I sit here getting more false promises and excuses that you can shake a stick at. Have tried many things to no avail and am getting severely discouraged. I was looking around on the net for a place to talk to like minded people, in similar situations, and who were looking for friendship, a shoulder to lean on and advice. I found it here and am happy as hell I did. Best site on the internet, bar none. You all are the best.
SaltyLime
01-22-2007, 10:02 PM
I'm 22/fem and married. I joined the site because it was active which meant more chances of making some friends. My motive is strictly friendship. My hubs is a hard-working provider we don't get many days together and we don't agree as much as we'd like to when we're together and ever since I moved overseas to be with him I haven't found many people I feel I can talk to freely. So where else to go then on this site where we all have a 'little something' in common to share. . .
Zpanther
01-22-2007, 10:02 PM
Well some of the original people on this site know me better than some new ones...... Haven't been on her as much as I used to be.
Lady P and I have had a unique 32 year marriage. Won't go into too much of that. But, like some other couples, we've spent several years apart while I was overseas. That's a struggle when you finally get back together and try to get used to each other. We've had some issues....... most of which we've dealt with at some time or other earlier in our marriage........ but unfortunately.... we may have finally reached a point where we need to go separate ways... Don't know for absolutely sure, but it looks that way. It's happened to most of my friends, so I'm not surprised..... but still a difficult thing to get through.
OICurready4me
01-22-2007, 10:05 PM
You're pretty special yourself, hun. :kk We love having you here!
Thanks, Jazzy. Feelings are mutual, special lady! :thankyou:
Aww, sweetie. Such sad news. I've been there myself. It's no picnic, whether or not it's for the best.
Whenever you need a hug, let me know. :kk Well some of the original people on this site know me better than some new ones...... Haven't been on her as much as I used to be.
Lady P and I have had a unique 32 year marriage. Won't go into too much of that. But, like some other couples, we've spent several years apart while I was overseas. That's a struggle when you finally get back together and try to get used to each other. We've had some issues....... most of which we've dealt with at some time or other earlier in our marriage........ but unfortunately.... we may have finally reached a point where we need to go separate ways... Don't know for absolutely sure, but it looks that way. It's happened to most of my friends, so I'm not surprised..... but still a difficult thing to get through.
:kk
Thanks, Jazzy. Feelings are mutual, special lady! :thankyou:
nsamale
01-23-2007, 12:27 AM
Mighty, it seems it is not that bad..We have you here..We like to be with you..
Yes Mighty we like u and like u being here with us...we will keep u at least sane
Well some of the original people on this site know me better than some new ones...... Haven't been on her as much as I used to be.
Lady P and I have had a unique 32 year marriage. Won't go into too much of that. But, like some other couples, we've spent several years apart while I was overseas. That's a struggle when you finally get back together and try to get used to each other. We've had some issues....... most of which we've dealt with at some time or other earlier in our marriage........ but unfortunately.... we may have finally reached a point where we need to go separate ways... Don't know for absolutely sure, but it looks that way. It's happened to most of my friends, so I'm not surprised..... but still a difficult thing to get through.
Sorry to hear that ZP....It will be hard on your kids and grandkids too. Best of Luck...:knuddel:
Corvid
01-23-2007, 07:37 AM
I'm 45 and happily married. It hasn't always been so, but marriage is a journey. Being new, I can only say that it's a fun and warm group, and, reading back, I can see that there's a lot of human experience here. There's also something akin to gambling in posting here (you can't deny!): there's a big fix when the response comes in.
I'm curious - are there more people unhappy in their partnerships now than there used to be? Are our expectations of a spouse too unreasonable? Are we too impatient and want everything to be perfect in a marriage without wanting to do the work? Invest the time and energy?
Our expectations our higher than our parents generations, I think. Materially, they were thrilled with a house and car and food on the table (mine being themselves children of the Drepression). One only has to watch an hour of television, programing and commercials, to see all the things we're suppose to expect now. It's hard to avoid entirely. Our sexual culture may be even more over blown. Sex-based marketing and pornography has really seeped into our every day life :blowjob: and changed our expections of what we want from our spouses. :di Keeping this in mind helps me to temper my unhappiness.
Just a quick note before I run off...I've been married 15 yrs to a wonderful wife...But life is wearing her down and that puts stress on her and our marriage. I do my best but it just doesnt seem good enough at times....So I come to find friendships and flirt with the ladies if they let me!....lol....and Fill up with some wanted fun and playfulness. I love you ladies here :knuddel: ...You really make my day...got to run...see you ppl later.. :wa: ;)
yaser
01-23-2007, 08:23 AM
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tiger50
01-23-2007, 08:59 AM
I have met a man here....an Aussie as everyone knows...and he is my future now...and am quite happy with that...:kk
yess baby, so am i... :D :kk
ok am an aussie. 54.. already on the 2nd marriage..... the 1st one died amicably... the second , about to do so, prob not so amicably.... have 8 kids.. 1 from 1st marriage, 6 inherited, one shared.. the shared one at 14 is the only one left at home....
guess i just got sick of so many years of bein used as financial support for what everyone else wanted.... but i dont have issues with the kids, get on fine with them...
found this site by accident... it looked like a fun place, and it is... i wasnt looking for anything, but a bit of banter.. well i found that, had great fun with a few of the guys here.. and the girls... but heyyy i didnt flirt, no way i'm admittin to that....
But something magical happened... had been here around 5 months and along comes this flighty green eyed redhead from NJ... well we dont know either what happened exactly, but it did... i found the love of my life and my future.... and we will be together.. soon..
Zifnab
01-23-2007, 09:49 AM
who am I....:sc
a very worthy question, and one I am not so certain any here truly wish to have answered. Let us leave it as I am who and what I am needed to be, by those choosing to need me, and hopefully when I am needed to be......;)
the rest of the time I am anything but myself, because that lacks the entertainment factor required for a diversion to qualify as an escape from reality.....:whee:
to know me is to ...... be damned lucky actually, cause I don't give that privilege away lightly, it must be earned...
so take what you see the way you want to take it, and maybe you are right, maybe not so much...but for you I am what you think I am, and that will probably change several times......:wa:
now stop wondering about me, and get on with enjoying being YOU!!
Momma
01-23-2007, 11:09 AM
I find it hard to answer this, but I will say one thing.....you have certainly touched on something here....the truth maybe?
Well said hun....:kk
who am I....:sc
a very worthy question, and one I am not so certain any here truly wish to have answered. Let us leave it as I am who and what I am needed to be, by those choosing to need me, and hopefully when I am needed to be......;)
the rest of the time I am anything but myself, because that lacks the entertainment factor required for a diversion to qualify as an escape from reality.....:whee:
to know me is to ...... be damned lucky actually, cause I don't give that privilege away lightly, it must be earned...
so take what you see the way you want to take it, and maybe you are right, maybe not so much...but for you I am what you think I am, and that will probably change several times......:wa:
now stop wondering about me, and get on with enjoying being YOU!!
divorced male 43
01-23-2007, 11:54 AM
iam 43 almost 44 in febuary i was happily married till a year ago when i found out my wife was cheating on me she told me that kissing outher men when her and her friend were going out to the bars wasent cheating but to me i think it is but that wasent the worst i found out she was also having sex with guys also so i wonder if she thinks thats not cheating also but i figuer it was time to move on and find other wemen even tho iam still looking iam not ready to be serious yet i just want some one night stands and stuff like that i just want to have sex and fun
Zifnab
01-23-2007, 11:57 AM
i figuer it was time to move on and find other wemen even tho iam still looking iam not ready to be serious yet i just want some one night stands and stuff like that i just want to have sex and funa rough awakening.... I wish you happy hunting, and may you find what you need and want what you find!
sweet
01-23-2007, 12:11 PM
Well some of the original people on this site know me better than some new ones...... Haven't been on her as much as I used to be.
Lady P and I have had a unique 32 year marriage. Won't go into too much of that. But, like some other couples, we've spent several years apart while I was overseas. That's a struggle when you finally get back together and try to get used to each other. We've had some issues....... most of which we've dealt with at some time or other earlier in our marriage........ but unfortunately.... we may have finally reached a point where we need to go separate ways... Don't know for absolutely sure, but it looks that way. It's happened to most of my friends, so I'm not surprised..... but still a difficult thing to get through.
I'm so sorry hun. I know this must be difficult for you, even if you both feel it's the right thing to do. You'll be in my thoughts. :kk
sweet
01-23-2007, 12:34 PM
Who am I...hmm..I think I'm still trying to figure that out myself!
But, here's the basics for those who don't know me well.
I'm 27, will be 28 soon, and have been married for 7 years. I'm a mother of two beautiful little girls who mean the world to me. I'm a college student (to become a nurse) and probably will be for at least the next few years of my life. lol When I'm not going to school, I'm taking care of my family.
My marriage started out alright but it seems like as soon as the kids came, life just got more hectic and stressful so ultimately our relationship with each other has suffered. I won't go into too much detail about that. That could take all day. The reason I am here on this site is to meet other people who are in the same boat as me. I needed and escape, a place to have fun and release some pent up flirtatious energy. lol
And you know, I'll admit it, like some women, I sometimes feel self conscience about the way I look, so being flirted with and recieving a compliment or too really helps me feel good about myself and lets me know I'm still appealing.
divorced male 43
01-23-2007, 01:37 PM
thanks for the replies
OICurready4me
01-23-2007, 01:47 PM
Who am I...hmm..I think I'm still trying to figure that out myself!
But, here's the basics for those who don't know me well.
I'm 27, will be 28 soon, and have been married for 7 years. I'm a mother of two beautiful little girls who mean the world to me. I'm a college student and probably will be for at least the next few years of my life. lol I'm trying to become a nurse, but I can only go part time because I have to take care of my family.
My marriage started out alright but it seems like as soon as the kids came, life just got more hectic and stressful so ultimately our relationship with each other has suffered. I won't go into too much detail about that. That could take all day. The reason I am here on this site is to meet other people who are in the same boat as me. I needed and escape, a place to have fun and release some pent up flirtatious energy. lol
And you know, I'll admit it, like some women, I sometimes feel self conscience about the way I look, so being flirted with and recieving a compliment or too really helps me feel good about myself and lets me know I'm still appealing.
Nice to get to know you better. Sorry to hear about things at home. I don't have any kids but life in general has wreaked some havoc on our relationship, so I hear you on that. As I've said before, you have beautiful eyes that really tell alot about you. Just the fact that you are here, allowing us into your life and being apart of ours, is appealing to me.
pixiegirl
01-23-2007, 03:15 PM
who am I....:sc
a very worthy question, and one I am not so certain any here truly wish to have answered. Let us leave it as I am who and what I am needed to be, by those choosing to need me, and hopefully when I am needed to be......;)
the rest of the time I am anything but myself, because that lacks the entertainment factor required for a diversion to qualify as an escape from reality.....:whee:
to know me is to ...... be damned lucky actually, cause I don't give that privilege away lightly, it must be earned...
so take what you see the way you want to take it, and maybe you are right, maybe not so much...but for you I am what you think I am, and that will probably change several times......:wa:
now stop wondering about me, and get on with enjoying being YOU!!
Wow...I am speechless!
Answering this very quickly...I don't ever think about who I am...I just am...if I thought about it I wouldn't be me...I would be trying to be what I wanted to be.
musicmer
01-23-2007, 03:23 PM
Who am I? Sound like an essay for school. Matter of fact this question is in one of my fav movies Breakfast club.
N e ways I am 27 about to be 28. I live in the high deserts of Nevada. I work at a casino as an entertainment director. Music is my life. I dont perform it but i am always in it. I have been married for almost 10 years now. I have 2 bad ass little boys who I wouldnt trade for anything in the world.......they are still to young to get anything good for them. lol j/k. I am a very straight cut person when it comes to people. I get along with pretty much everybody.
Zifnab
01-23-2007, 03:24 PM
Wow...I am speechless!
Answering this very quickly...I don't ever think about who I am...I just am...if I thought about it I wouldn't be me...I would be trying to be what I wanted to be.you?!?! SPEECHLESS?????? that I did not know could be done!
I am amazed at the reaction! and I guess I need to say ummm, thanks!
musicmer
01-23-2007, 03:59 PM
Zif I have to agree with you. It is quite an accomplishment to actually silence pixie. Date and Time recorded for the record books.you?!?! SPEECHLESS?????? that I did not know could be done!
I am amazed at the reaction! and I guess I need to say ummm, thanks!
Zifnab
01-23-2007, 04:01 PM
Zif I have to agree with you. It is quite an accomplishment to actually silence pixie. Date and Time recorded for the record books.Does this qualify me as a legend then?????:55
musicmer
01-23-2007, 04:03 PM
Maybe not legend but definitly up there on hero staus.Does this qualify me as a legend then?????:55
Zifnab
01-23-2007, 04:05 PM
Maybe not legend but definitly up there on hero staus.WOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOO!!!!! :smdance: :thankyou:
I am a HERO now!!!
Itshardon-theroad
01-23-2007, 04:21 PM
34, male, married
I love my wife, but often wondered what it was like to flirt like she does. That's primarily what brought me here. I have met several people who I would call friends and a couple of people who I care very deeply about on this site. I went away for a while because of some things at home, but I am working my way back now.
pixiegirl
01-23-2007, 05:54 PM
Zif I have to agree with you. It is quite an accomplishment to actually silence pixie. Date and Time recorded for the record books.
Bite me!!!
pixiegirl
01-23-2007, 05:56 PM
you?!?! SPEECHLESS?????? that I did not know could be done!
I am amazed at the reaction! and I guess I need to say ummm, thanks!
As for you....:nu well I'm gonna get my dictionary out...yes you heard right...my dictionary...gonna throw some long hard words at ya...just may need a while to find them...:whee:
Zifnab
01-23-2007, 05:58 PM
As for you....:nu well I'm gonna get my dictionary out...yes you heard right...my dictionary...gonna throw some long hard words at ya...just may need a while to find them...:whee:and some help with the spelling too huh?
pixiegirl
01-23-2007, 06:04 PM
and some help with the spelling too huh?
I don't have a spelling problem, I can spell just fine thank you very much Mr Zifnab...and my fingers can fit on the keys just perfectly so no fatfinger syndrome...
Momma
01-23-2007, 06:14 PM
What is this.....pick on the Pixie day?....sheesh !!....lol....:kk
pixiegirl
01-23-2007, 06:23 PM
What is this.....pick on the Pixie day?....sheesh !!....lol....:kk
Thank you Momma :kk at least somebody out there likes me :wa:
You make the big bad men go away??
Momma
01-23-2007, 06:28 PM
Your welcome hun...lol...I did my best...;) :D
Thank you Momma :kk at least somebody out there likes me :wa:
You make the big bad men go away??
RedHotPisces
01-23-2007, 10:04 PM
:wa: nice to see ya around roadie :kk
34, male, married
I love my wife, but often wondered what it was like to flirt like she does. That's primarily what brought me here. I have met several people who I would call friends and a couple of people who I care very deeply about on this site. I went away for a while because of some things at home, but I am working my way back now.
Zifnab
01-23-2007, 11:03 PM
What is this.....pick on the Pixie day?....sheesh !!....lol....:kk no..... its pick on pixie decade... didn't you get the memo?
kiwimongo
01-24-2007, 12:44 AM
l am 23 female...l am very luck l am not married
yaser
01-24-2007, 12:47 AM
Thank you Momma :kk at least somebody out there likes me :wa:
You make the big bad men go away??
Pixie it seems you want him back?Momma may not want him come back becasue he has got many lovers here..
UltimateNaneki
01-24-2007, 09:37 PM
Who am I? I am an intelligent person with a mind that works very well. I will makes mistakes but I always learn from them. I am women, here me out!!
yaser
01-25-2007, 12:05 AM
I am an assertive one...never violate the rights of others willing to die for my rights...
UltimateNaneki
01-25-2007, 12:12 AM
Not too sure?
I am an assertive one...never violate the rights of others willing to die for my rights...
yaser
01-25-2007, 12:18 AM
Not too sure?
My master says'' know thyself''..
showtime
01-30-2007, 02:35 AM
46 years old now I have been thinking the last 22 years being married has been a waste of time, the yelling about everything, the lack of recognition for what I do,the lack of interest in sex ( she never had an interest ) and just all the bs I need some kind of change in my life....
tiger50
01-30-2007, 02:42 AM
46 years old now I have been thinking the last 22 years being married has been a waste of time, the yelling about everything, the lack of recognition for what I do,the lack of interest in sex ( she never had an interest ) and just all the bs I need some kind of change in my life....
sounds familiar mate.... can sympathise with ya.... :D
pointofnoreturn
01-30-2007, 04:48 PM
I am 44, and most of the time happily married. My hubby and I get along great, except in the sex department. He is not interested. Does not want to discuss, and says there is nothing wrong with once every other full moon in july. I on the other hand would like everyother full moon in july and august....All of you are great for peoples egos and attitudes towards themselves. People need people.(Is that a song?)
Kissie
01-30-2007, 04:55 PM
43, female...militarty wife.....3 adult kids.....happily married but not in a happy situation....alone all the time....and in just a few weeks SGT will be headed back to the great big sandbox in the Middle East....with open ended orders for 12 to 18 months!!!!
aceofspades1114
01-30-2007, 09:30 PM
26, Male, Single, No kids
Found the site a couple years ago, nothing looking for anything in particular
longnhard32
02-02-2007, 11:18 AM
i was told i was 1 of that dirt old men :lmao
massage mike
02-02-2007, 11:35 AM
soon to be 52 year old male having loads of fun here
Butterfly_13
02-02-2007, 11:39 AM
I am intrigued to get an idea of age group, the sex of people on this site and their motive for being on here...
I am a 32 year old female. Married. Two teenage step-sons. No children of my own (maybe some day).
My motives for being here... something more. Curosity. Self exploration. My love life is lacking "spark". FUN!
yaser
02-02-2007, 11:42 AM
I am a 32 year old female.
My motives... something more. Curosity. Self exploration. FUN!
Bodily or mind explorations?
dave42
02-02-2007, 12:58 PM
I am 43 and married, I found this site by accident. I was looking for an avenue to meet more people and hopefully meet some one special in my city. I haven't met anyone in AZ. but I have met some really great people and a few new best friends. Too bad they live on opposite sides of the planet! I really enjoy this site.It has opened a few new doors. and it is much different than I expected. It has been a very positive experience. I hope that others will want to take the time to get to know me better.
My marriage has pretty much gone south. as far as I am concerned. She is perfectly happy though. I feel like we are more room mates than soulmates. We get along very well but the flame is gone for me. It is one thing to love some one. But to be in love with someone is something I miss. I heard a quote from someone here that said "Women are really good at faking orgasams. Men are really good at faking relationships" The reasons I stay are for my son. and maybe the fact that it will probably get really ugly before it gets better. How will it turn out? who knows. only time will tell. One thing I do know is that if I survive this I will never ever get married again. There is no benefit to it and the financial mental, and legal implications are enormous. But I guess in the meantime I am going to get my son raised, Pay off my debts and if I meet some one along the way then so be it.
Butterfly_13
02-02-2007, 07:37 PM
Bodily or mind explorations?
Both.
Inspector72
02-03-2007, 05:03 AM
I am intrigued to get an idea of age group, the sex of people on this site and their motive for being on here...
"I am who I am"....As God said. My movtive for being here? Well found the site by shear accident and like Cherokee, I wasn't planning chating, talking, posting or even staying. I am single 35 and lost my 6 year son and his mother in car accident, back in 1999. Plus during that time I lost 4 others, all within 5 months. Due to this, especially having to bury my son, it changes your life entirely. Now I take no prisoners and I am happy as hell being single,chasing and living my dreams. I am a small business owner of two businesses and soon to be three. I love challenge, actually thrive on it. I also love adventure and taking risks. I am very understanding, having been through all I have, and I'm flexible, always keeping my options open I am not really looking for anything but if the right woman catches my attention, I might think about an encounter, a serious relationship or getting married. I would love to have another son or duaghter, but if worst comes to worst, I'll foster or adopt. I can't help but noticed just how many married people are here and are unhappily married. It really intrigues me and blows my mind. And it leaves me asking...why are you here? What are you looking for? Or what do you get out of the site?
In the short time I have been here I have met a few totally amazing people. It is ironic at just how much we have in common. I am very pricky at the people I do call friends, and for those that know my story, my motives I think it is safe to say that you have found me t be very interesting to say the least, creative, fun, and down to earth at minimum. I thank you for your support and allowing me to get to know you;) :kk .
tiger50
02-03-2007, 06:03 AM
"I am who I am"....As God said. My movtive for being here? Well found the site by shear accident and like Cherokee, I wasn't planning chating, talking, posting or even staying. I am single 35 and lost my 6 year son and his mother in car accident, back in 1999. Plus during that time I lost 4 others, all within 5 months. Due to this, especially having to bury my son, it changes your life entirely. Now I take no prisoners and I am happy as hell being single,chasing and living my dreams. I am a small business owner of two businesses and soon to be three. I love challenge, actually thrive on it. I also love adventure and taking risks. I am very understanding, having been through all I have, and I'm flexible, always keeping my options open I am not really looking for anything but if the right woman catches my attention, I might think about an encounter, a serious relationship or getting married. I would love to have another son or duaghter, but if worst comes to worst, I'll foster or adopt. I can't help but noticed just how many married people are here and are unhappily married. It really intrigues me and blows my mind. And it leaves me asking...why are you here? What are you looking for? Or what do you get out of the site?
In the short time I have been here I have met a few totally amazing people. It is ironic at just how much we have in common. I am very pricky at the people I do call friends, and for those that know my story, my motives I think it is safe to say that you have found me t be very interesting to say the least, creative, fun, and down to earth at minimum. I thank you for your support and allowing me to get to know you;) :kk .
thanks for that mate, tells us a lot...
and hey so sorry about ur wife and son.. can only imagine how that wud feel... hope u find something special here mate, as i have... :wa:
Inspector72
02-03-2007, 06:29 AM
Thanks Tiger50! I sincerely appreciate that support!;) :wa: As for finding something or someone here...we'll see what happens. Good to hear your positive results though!:55
tiger50
02-03-2007, 06:48 AM
Thanks Tiger50! I sincerely appreciate that support!;) :wa: As for finding something or someone here...we'll see what happens. Good to hear your positive results though!:55
wel mate was just not expecting that, just happened... sometimes people just gel... and its so good....
but apart from that this place is good medicine for all of us a family of friends... :D
yaser
02-11-2007, 03:13 PM
34, married female. We are happy in our marriage, but we both have jobs and we meet in the hall alot of the time. Found the site by accident and have been addicted ever since. Lonely at home alot and hoping to meet a lot of new friends. The threads are funny, heartwarming, and a breath of fresh air. I love the bantering back and forth, you can tell there is a familiar friendship with most. Thanks for a great read...
Keep it real..
Hun why do you feel lonely?Happy to know you..
cherokeered
02-11-2007, 03:30 PM
I am 43 and married, I found this site by accident. I was looking for an avenue to meet more people and hopefully meet some one special in my city. I haven't met anyone in AZ. but I have met some really great people and a few new best friends. Too bad they live on opposite sides of the planet! I really enjoy this site.It has opened a few new doors. and it is much different than I expected. It has been a very positive experience. I hope that others will want to take the time to get to know me better.
My marriage has pretty much gone south. as far as I am concerned. She is perfectly happy though. I feel like we are more room mates than soulmates. We get along very well but the flame is gone for me. It is one thing to love some one. But to be in love with someone is something I miss. I heard a quote from someone here that said "Women are really good at faking orgasams. Men are really good at faking relationships" The reasons I stay are for my son. and maybe the fact that it will probably get really ugly before it gets better. How will it turn out? who knows. only time will tell. One thing I do know is that if I survive this I will never ever get married again. There is no benefit to it and the financial mental, and legal implications are enormous. But I guess in the meantime I am going to get my son raised, Pay off my debts and if I meet some one along the way then so be it.
Seems we are in the same boat from different sides.....lol
OICurready4me
02-15-2007, 11:00 AM
In the 5 months I've been on this site, I've met alot of great people with several I could call very good friends. I expected to meet some who would really touch my heart but didn't really know what to expect overall. I had gone to other similar sites and any time you wanted to meet others, there were all these hoops you had to jump through to do it. I knew there had to be an easier way. When I joined and began to just read the posts to get a feel of what this place was all about. I was intrigued by the honesty that came out, the heartfelt praise and genuine friendliness of this site. It made me feel like I really was part of a bigger place. It made it so much easier for me to open up and expose my feelings for all to see.
I've been married for 10+ years to a woman who has a tremendously good heart but doesn't have the desire that I so desperately need. We are more like two friends living together than lovers since she doesn't feel good enough about herself anymore due to her weight gain to want to have sex. She is very self conscious about her body so we just pretty much just go along about our business, every day, without passion or even a spark of romance left. I have tried time and time again and am worn out. There are only so many times a man can be told no before he justs starts to "mail it in", which I have been doing for a while now. I have found on the site, one very special lady that I have tremendous feelings for and have been told the feelings are mutual. She has fire, energy, honesty, a great mom and is very attractive. I think she is a tremendous lady and adore her more than any of you can imagine. There is a part of me that is envious of her because of the way she handles her life as it currently stands while keeping a cool head and her children on the correct path. Not being able to have children, I feel that is a part of my life that I have missed out on and would be willing to tackle that prospect.
I have a couple of other very good friends here, that I chat with, share my emotions with and generally just enjoy their company. We have fun and keep one another's egos on the straight and narrow. We all need a boost once in a while and they have been there for me. You know who you are and I think you are terrific friends.
Thank you to all you wonderful people, you add to my life on a daily basis and have helped me in ways that are immeasurable.
Wow! OIC, I am so impressed with your candid post... you are certainly a lovely man, so open and honest about your feelings! Your special friend is a very lucky lady indeed!
What a shame your wife, god bless her, doesn't have the opportunity to do the same... if she had a platform like this one, she too may find it a great help. In fact it begs the question whether any of our spouses would... :sc
OICurready4me
02-15-2007, 11:36 AM
Wow! OIC, I am so impressed with your candid post... you are certainly a lovely man, so open and honest about your feelings! Your special friend is a very lucky lady indeed!
What a shame your wife, god bless her, doesn't have the opportunity to do the same... if she had a platform like this one, she too may find it a great help. In fact it begs the question whether any of our spouses would... :sc
Thanks Jen, it gets me in trouble at times because I wear my heart on my sleeve but in the past, I used to keep it all in and it would tear up my guts and got sick from it. Once I learned to let it go, I have felt better emotionally and medically since my gastrointestinal disease has calmed down also. The response from my openness has been tremendous so why should I stop, right?
Thanks Jen, it gets me in trouble at times because I wear my heart on my sleeve but in the past, I used to keep it all in and it would tear up my guts and got sick from it. Once I learned to let it go, I have felt better emotionally and medically since my gastrointestinal disease has calmed down also. The response from my openness has been tremendous so why should I stop, right?
Never ever stop my friend, its gives me faith in mankind and it is so damn refreshing! :kk
Outta
02-15-2007, 11:42 AM
Thanks Jen, it gets me in trouble at times because I wear my heart on my sleeve but in the past, I used to keep it all in and it would tear up my guts and got sick from it. Once I learned to let it go, I have felt better emotionally and medically since my gastrointestinal disease has calmed down also. The response from my openness has been tremendous so why should I stop, right?
Damn, man. I could have written the exact same post. Thanks for sharing yours and MY story.
OICurready4me
02-15-2007, 12:12 PM
Damn, man. I could have written the exact same post. Thanks for sharing yours and MY story.
It wasn't like this all the time but my epiphany was 9/11 actually. I was home healing from surgery for Crohns disease and was in my car going to a followup doctors appt when the first plane and made it to the office in time to see the second plane. I was awestruck. Watching days upon days of coverage made me think more and more how many people went to work that day and didn't take the time to kiss their spouse good bye, give their kids a hug and a kiss as they left, or told their mom, dad, sisters and brothers how much they loved them recently. I came to realization how fleeting life can be and decided that from that point forward, I'm not holding back. If I love someone, I let them know when I feel the emotion. I hug friends more than I ever did, I kiss my nieces and tell them how proud of them I am when they excel in school, sports, just being the terrific kids they are. Call me sappy or what you want but the people in my life are going to know how much I care about them.
zerosumgain
02-15-2007, 01:46 PM
I’m 45, married (not necessarily unhappily), and have kids ranging from elementary school to college. The reasons I’m here are complicated but in general probably not unlike everyone else. I am bored and dying for friends, dying for something to break the monotony of my life. I work hard all week and weekends are full of the routine stuff. I struggle to keep the bills paid and our heads above water, but each day is like Groundhog Day the movie. The same thing over and over and over.
Relationship wise there is no sex and no real intimacy. That is a very, very big part of why I’m here, to get some kind of provocative stimulus. Like I said it’s complicated.
At 45 I think I understand some things about sex that I didn’t when I was younger and I wish I could explore those things. While the urge to do it every 5 minutes isn't as strong (but definitely not gone), the urge to make it more fun is greater than ever. But this comes at a time when my wife is just not interested in sex, period. I almost wouldn’t mind if she had an affair just to know that she is capable any more. So I’m not looking for a physical relationship really, but just want someone to talk to about it. If any of that makes sense.
peaches
02-15-2007, 04:29 PM
I'm a 48 female and getting ready for a big adventure. I'm leaving my husband for 27 years and moving back to my home state. What the feedom I will be feeling and having fun exploring the new me....
zobman
02-15-2007, 04:34 PM
44 yr old male, I am married and want more in the bedroom. I love my wife, but she will not do things that I want. Been married for almost 24 yrs. Thats why I am here.
zobman
02-15-2007, 04:35 PM
Good luck peaches!!!
zerosumgain
02-15-2007, 04:37 PM
I'm a 48 female and getting ready for a big adventure. I'm leaving my husband for 27 years and moving back to my home state. What the feedom I will be feeling and having fun exploring the new me....
So what went wrong peaches? You sound really excited. It must have been bad.
BlueEyedBoy
02-15-2007, 04:50 PM
I am a married Blue Eyed Boy from Texas 42 years of age. I have already made new friends hear. That is what I have been looking for friends. I look forward to meting everyone.
NYCMasterplumber
02-15-2007, 06:16 PM
I got married right after I got out of the Navy I was just 21. During my enlistment I was all over Europe and had relations with over 87 women in three years and all but 3 of the women were married.
Then one day after I was married about 8 years I had my first affair ( a friends wife) and after that they just came one after another.
I think seeing how many folks ended up in nasty divorce and how people go out of their way to destroy each other over a little thing like an occasional fling as humans by an large do like a variety of diet and experiences .
I am married since 1968 never separated other then going to school out of state as my job required at that time.
Being a contractor in NYC there is so much opportunity to meet women who are not happy or just want to add a little spice to their life.
I wonder how many women even on this list seduced a tradesman or some guy when they were away from their home even if it was a one time thing?
Being married for over 381/2 years one learns not to ask to many questions you do not want the answer to.
EVERYONE cheats it is just a matter of degree what they consider cheating look at Wild Bill Clinton's idea of NOT HAVING SEX I wonder if he would feel the same if his daughter was doing the same as he did to Monica.
HELLery Clinton could careless what wild Bill does as long as she gets what she wants out of life.
NO WAY would the ice Queen Hellery leave Wild Bill as her ambitions are more important then the many,many affairs Bubba had over the years.
At least he did not pull a Ted Drive em one way Kennedy and kill the other woman
Life is to short to let an affair ruin a good friendship. Then to have a nasty divorce over something as trivial as sex is crazy, people go nuts finding out their spouses cheated because in their mind they know they are lousy lovers and they are lacking something their spouses needed.
It has nothing to do about love when folks stray they just like a change of scenery and a change of diet and meeting new people we learn new aspects of love making.
Momma
02-15-2007, 07:58 PM
Hi there hun....welcome to the site....I think you've stumbled across the right place here....this is a place where you can relax....post some comments on different subjects....Flirt, and just have fun.
I've been here for awhile now...and I have made alot of new friends here, I'm sure you will to....enjoy and have a great time with us....:kk
I’m 45, married (not necessarily unhappily), and have kids ranging from elementary school to college. The reasons I’m here are complicated but in general probably not unlike everyone else. I am bored and dying for friends, dying for something to break the monotony of my life. I work hard all week and weekends are full of the routine stuff. I struggle to keep the bills paid and our heads above water, but each day is like Groundhog Day the movie. The same thing over and over and over.
Relationship wise there is no sex and no real intimacy. That is a very, very big part of why I’m here, to get some kind of provocative stimulus. Like I said it’s complicated.
At 45 I think I understand some things about sex that I didn’t when I was younger and I wish I could explore those things. While the urge to do it every 5 minutes isn't as strong (but definitely not gone), the urge to make it more fun is greater than ever. But this comes at a time when my wife is just not interested in sex, period. I almost wouldn’t mind if she had an affair just to know that she is capable any more. So I’m not looking for a physical relationship really, but just want someone to talk to about it. If any of that makes sense.
It wasn't like this all the time but my epiphany was 9/11 actually. I was home healing from surgery for Crohns disease and was in my car going to a followup doctors appt when the first plane and made it to the office in time to see the second plane. I was awestruck. Watching days upon days of coverage made me think more and more how many people went to work that day and didn't take the time to kiss their spouse good bye, give their kids a hug and a kiss as they left, or told their mom, dad, sisters and brothers how much they loved them recently. I came to realization how fleeting life can be and decided that from that point forward, I'm not holding back. If I love someone, I let them know when I feel the emotion. I hug friends more than I ever did, I kiss my nieces and tell them how proud of them I am when they excel in school, sports, just being the terrific kids they are. Call me sappy or what you want but the people in my life are going to know how much I care about them.
I think you are a very sweet, thoughtful and caring man. Me and you have a lot in common. I know I wear my heart on my sleeve even though I pretend to be a bad ass at times. I also say how I feel when I feel it...which is sometimes a good thing and sometimes not, but I would rather know how a person feels than to guess. I don't think you're sappy at all, I want my man to have those qualities. Your wife is really missing out. You're special girl here is quite the lucky lady and a very cute one at that.:)
zerosumgain
02-15-2007, 08:47 PM
Hi there hun....welcome to the site....I think you've stumbled across the right place here....this is a place where you can relax....post some comments on different subjects....Flirt, and just have fun.
I've been here for awhile now...and I have made alot of new friends here, I'm sure you will to....enjoy and have a great time with us....:kk
Thanks Momma. I am having lots of fun already. Everything has been bottled up so it feels good to start getting some stuff out. I look forward to chatting and flirting with you more.
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Outta
02-15-2007, 09:03 PM
I'm a 48 female and getting ready for a big adventure. I'm leaving my husband for 27 years and moving back to my home state. What the feedom I will be feeling and having fun exploring the new me....
Best of luck Peaches. Change is tough. You have my thoughts and prayers.
PunkyBob
05-25-2007, 04:43 PM
I am 45, married. I'm here because there are elements in life that this marriage does not have: emotional freedom above all. My wife is truly exceptional in myriad ways, but as time goes on, we find ourselves diverging.
unctarheel_32
05-25-2007, 05:59 PM
im 35 yrs old and single i do have a gf though which is great and we both are very happy,and our sex life is f***ing awesome!:sex
pointofnoreturn
05-25-2007, 06:01 PM
im 35 yrs old and single i do have a gf though which is great and we both are very happy,and our sex life is f***ing awesome!:sex:wa: Well that sucks....:D
sawflyman
05-25-2007, 06:48 PM
47 male
I love to look at attractive ladies and to flirt. and to meet new people
surfdude
05-25-2007, 07:07 PM
may i please add "years young" to my answer?
Momma
05-25-2007, 10:42 PM
Hi there PunkyBob...welcome to the site hun...I sure hope you find what your looking for here...we do have a great bunch of people...Post often and have fun...:kk
I am 45, married. I'm here because there are elements in life that this marriage does not have: emotional freedom above all. My wife is truly exceptional in myriad ways, but as time goes on, we find ourselves diverging.
Momma
05-25-2007, 10:44 PM
Hi there Saw...welcome to the site hun....sounds like you'll fit in just fine hun....have fun....:kk
47 male
I love to look at attractive ladies and to flirt. and to meet new people
DeTazMan
07-14-2007, 12:54 PM
38 married, happily depends on the day. I think that after almost 18 years, some of the excitement leaves and it gets to a comfort level
Sweetdreams069
07-14-2007, 03:08 PM
Male, 44, unhappily married. My wife and I are pretty much like roommates. I don't hate her, but the love is gone and so's the attraction. We really are two different people and need to find partners that are more compatable. At this point I'm trying to hang on at least until my daughter gets into college which will be this fall. Then I don't know what will happen, just know that I probably need to get away from her.
Interesting how I ended up here.
About a year and a half ago I started looking on-line for some female companionship at various adult sites and I did meet with a few girls and the one girl that I met the sparks flew, we fell in love and had a hot, steamy affair for about six months. Then the heartbreak and reality set in that she was basically trapped in her relationship and there also was the geographical distance factor that led to us finally ending it. It was very heartbreaking for both of us.
So I tried again with the adult hook-up sites and finally got fed up with it and started concentrating on other things like my music. I came to the conclusion that at this point it will be much easier to date and meet someone if I was single, so I'm basically waiting it out until I can get out of this relationship.
I really think this site is great! It's perfect for everyone really. Funny how hard it is to even talk to the women on the pick-up sites but on here it seems so much more friendly, relaxed and easy.
scoobertina
07-14-2007, 04:23 PM
Never saw this one...
41, unhappily married for the past 20 years... but planning on making a change in the near future... I love this site and I have met some really great men and women here..
sawflyman
07-14-2007, 05:05 PM
damn I'm in the 45+ range I'm here to chat with people, make friends, and of course admire beautiful ladies
massage mike
07-14-2007, 05:33 PM
52 and still smiling
Sunfiresix
07-14-2007, 05:39 PM
58 male, last time I checked, I am here for the people, make friends and who knows....
phlex79
07-18-2007, 09:09 PM
Who am I...hmm..I think I'm still trying to figure that out myself!
But, here's the basics for those who don't know me well.
I'm 27, will be 28 soon, and have been married for 7 years. I'm a mother of two beautiful little girls who mean the world to me. I'm a college student (to become a nurse) and probably will be for at least the next few years of my life. lol When I'm not going to school, I'm taking care of my family.
My marriage started out alright but it seems like as soon as the kids came, life just got more hectic and stressful so ultimately our relationship with each other has suffered. I won't go into too much detail about that. That could take all day. The reason I am here on this site is to meet other people who are in the same boat as me. I needed and escape, a place to have fun and release some pent up flirtatious energy. lol
And you know, I'll admit it, like some women, I sometimes feel self conscience about the way I look, so being flirted with and recieving a compliment or too really helps me feel good about myself and lets me know I'm still appealing.
I'm in the same boat as you, I'm 27 I'll be 28 soon and my wife and I have been together just about my entire "adult" life. I had to go over seas on 2 seperate occations. We managed to work through that with minimal problems.
My wife is a wonderful woman and mother. But as you said having kids makes things very hectic. Between that, my wife and I both working and the fact that my wife isn't nearly as sexual as I am, our relationship suffers a bit. Don't get me wrong, with the exception of the physical aspect of our relationship, we have a great marriage.
I guess I was curious if there were other people in my situation and that's how I stumbled onto this site. I've only been on for a few days now, but so far I am enjoying it here.
Michelle6696
07-18-2007, 09:55 PM
I am 29 years old and been married for almost ten years. I married my high-school sweetheart and perhaps this is where I went wrong.. I have one daughter who is five and the love of my life.
I am a college graduate working in the finance world. I enjoy what I do but am looking for more spice in my life. I found this site....
OpBob
07-18-2007, 10:13 PM
I am 51 and married. My wife and I have been together for about 29 years now. Its funny how things work...when we were first married and having children I had the strongest desire of sex while my wife did not appear to need it as much. I can understand it now as it seemed she was busy with the kids and the house and working, etc. I "stepped out" of our marriage (code word for "had an affair") that was discovered. We struggled big time, but managed to work things out and our relationship was great for several years. Now, it seems that my wife's passion for sex has increased and mine has diminished. What kind of trick is God playing here! (Sorry, I know we are not supposed to people's real names.) Our relationship is not doing very well, as you would have guessed. It is not like my sex drive has diminished totally - it is like the passion for my wife has. Does that make sense to anyone?
So, I am here - to have some fun with the other people on the site. So far, it has been great. Wonderful, open, honest, and fun people.
Michelle6696
07-18-2007, 10:40 PM
It makes perfect sense to me...
OpBob
07-18-2007, 10:43 PM
Thanks Michelle :kk
I am glad you understand.
bryan3636
07-19-2007, 01:42 AM
I am 29 years old and been married for almost ten years. I married my high-school sweetheart and perhaps this is where I went wrong.. I have one daughter who is five and the love of my life.
I am a college graduate working in the finance world. I enjoy what I do but am looking for more spice in my life. I found this site....
Hi Michelle...you've come to the right place. Lots of support and something for everyone. Hope to run into you soon!
Momma
07-19-2007, 10:33 AM
Hi there Phlex....welcome to the site hun....as you've already found out, there are people here in the same, or similar situation as you....you'll find alot of support here, we have a great bunch of people....I hope you continue to come back, and get to know all of us... I'm sure you'll love it more and more each time.....:kk
I'm in the same boat as you, I'm 27 I'll be 28 soon and my wife and I have been together just about my entire "adult" life. I had to go over seas on 2 seperate occations. We managed to work through that with minimal problems.
My wife is a wonderful woman and mother. But as you said having kids makes things very hectic. Between that, my wife and I both working and the fact that my wife isn't nearly as sexual as I am, our relationship suffers a bit. Don't get me wrong, with the exception of the physical aspect of our relationship, we have a great marriage.
I guess I was curious if there were other people in my situation and that's how I stumbled onto this site. I've only been on for a few days now, but so far I am enjoying it here.
Zifnab
07-19-2007, 10:41 AM
I am my son's dad my wife's husband and my mother's youngest son ... anything else is secondary....
I'm in the same boat as you, I'm 27 I'll be 28 soon and my wife and I have been together just about my entire "adult" life. I had to go over seas on 2 seperate occations. We managed to work through that with minimal problems.
My wife is a wonderful woman and mother. But as you said having kids makes things very hectic. Between that, my wife and I both working and the fact that my wife isn't nearly as sexual as I am, our relationship suffers a bit. Don't get me wrong, with the exception of the physical aspect of our relationship, we have a great marriage.
I guess I was curious if there were other people in my situation and that's how I stumbled onto this site. I've only been on for a few days now, but so far I am enjoying it here.
It will come hopefully....right now she has young children around. Sex seems to take a back seat when you have young ones.
Damn...that makes me think....I liked having sex in the back seat :dd
I am 51 and married. My wife and I have been together for about 29 years now. Its funny how things work...when we were first married and having children I had the strongest desire of sex while my wife did not appear to need it as much. I can understand it now as it seemed she was busy with the kids and the house and working, etc. I "stepped out" of our marriage (code word for "had an affair") that was discovered. We struggled big time, but managed to work things out and our relationship was great for several years. Now, it seems that my wife's passion for sex has increased and mine has diminished. What kind of trick is God playing here! (Sorry, I know we are not supposed to people's real names.) Our relationship is not doing very well, as you would have guessed. It is not like my sex drive has diminished totally - it is like the passion for my wife has. Does that make sense to anyone?
So, I am here - to have some fun with the other people on the site. So far, it has been great. Wonderful, open, honest, and fun people.
Remember what attracted you to her in the first place...try romancing her, courting her. It may bring it back for you and give her a little extra zip along the way. Buy a new toy, try something new.....it worked for us...:55
I am my son's dad my wife's husband and my mother's youngest son ... anything else is secondary....
You put everything in the right order....:55
I am glad to be your secondary Friend Zif....:knuddel:
Zifnab
07-19-2007, 10:49 AM
You put everything in the right order....:55
I am glad to be your secondary Friend Zif....:knuddel:am sort of torn over an addition to the list... I think I need to add in my Maxxie's buddy... because the dog deserves the recongnition as well....
am sort of torn over an addition to the list... I think I need to add in my Maxxie's buddy... because the dog deserves the recongnition as well....
Fine then....I'll be third....dogs do deserve recognition :D
Zifnab
07-19-2007, 10:52 AM
new list:
I am my son's dad, my wife's husband, my mother's son and Maxie's best friend.... anything else is secondary
Fine then....I'll be third....dogs do deserve recognition :D so you can still be secondary....
new list:
I am my son's dad, my wife's husband, my mother's son and Maxie's best friend.... anything else is secondary
so you can still be secondary....
Whewww.....;)
Zifnab
07-19-2007, 10:56 AM
Whewww.....;)I know, counting to 3 is hard for you Michigan schooled people....:whee:
I know, counting to 3 is hard for you Michigan schooled people....:whee:
We only count to 2 because it equals me and you ;)
AL(m)
07-19-2007, 11:03 AM
Well married of course..for the last 29 years... and 55 years old... My wife has been wonderful and is a wonderful person love her dearly, Yes there is a but... and its in the sex dept like many males I imagine... my sex drive still tends to be high as hers has decreased specially after the kids.We are now in a very platonic relationship and the love for each other is still there....
As someone else meantioned the code word "stepped out" yes I have done that over the years...and still love to chat and flirt, think thats become part of who I am and am happy with who I am....
TO answer some of the other questions yes I have talked about our problems with my wife.. even asked her if she would want to know if I had an affair.... she said no... because then she would have to do something about it.....
So I do tend to keep things like my flirting and stepping out to my self... is it right or wrong... hmm both good questions..... but mine to struggle with.....
There are many sides to me too.. and tend to be a very open and non judgemental person....
So here I 'm looking to make new friends..... one can never have too many..... :wa: :wa:
Zifnab
07-19-2007, 11:05 AM
We only count to 2 because it equals me and you ;)what a tease.... :D
what a tease.... :D
Isn't that what we're here for? Want me to stop? :dd
Zifnab
07-19-2007, 11:09 AM
Isn't that what we're here for? Want me to stop? :ddstop??? I have been waiting for you to come over to visit and START!!!:lmao
stop??? I have been waiting for you to come over to visit and START!!!:lmao
Give me directions.....:na
Zifnab
07-19-2007, 11:28 AM
Give me directions.....:nahead east... when you reach the river stop and call me.... I can meet you there!
head east... when you reach the river stop and call me.... I can meet you there!
The Saginaw River? :D
Zifnab
07-19-2007, 11:37 AM
The Saginaw River? :Dno, you would drive across that thing...head east but stop before you reach Windsor...
AL(m)
07-19-2007, 11:39 AM
no, you would drive across that thing...head east but stop before you reach Windsor...
Hehehe well she could continue across to Windsor and a few more hours and I could take her for lunch..... :D :wa:
no, you would drive across that thing...head east but stop before you reach Windsor...
Ahhhh... The St Mary's River it is....one of these days, one of these days. ;)
Hehehe well she could continue across to Windsor and a few more hours and I could take her for lunch..... :D :wa:
Geez...I could kill two birds with one stone...
Or hug two men in the same day....what fun :knuddel:
Zifnab
07-19-2007, 11:46 AM
Ahhhh... The St Mary's River it is....one of these days, one of these days. ;)if you are goning to be that way about it cross at Sarnia and keep going east... SHHEEEEEESH... must be native....
AL(m)
07-19-2007, 12:59 PM
Geez...I could kill two birds with one stone...
Or hug two men in the same day....what fun :knuddel:
Well certainly would enjoy a hug from you too.....mmmyes.....
:knuddel:
JCcanU
07-23-2007, 07:57 PM
Im 45 on the + side I like to chat joke and have fun, I only go to Adult chats and stay away from IRC rooms like yahoo ICQ to many bots. Im layed back been there done that, I dont mind posting but Im more into live chats like geting to know others.
pixiegirl
07-23-2007, 08:02 PM
Who am I? I realised today that I find it simpler to be lots of parts of me and never try and be something I'm not...just not always all that I am.
Yeah that makes sense :whee:
who am i ??...I am a dirty old man looking for pussy ....
or am i ..the bad boy looking for the next thrill
or am i ..the stud looking for the next notch ...
or am i ...your creepy next door neighbour
or am i ..the perv u see eyeing your daughter ....
or am i ..a nice guy ,looking for friends ,...
the point is ....Never assume u know who i am ...or who the nice person that chats u up .....they may be a serial killer ( not saying i am ) ...i see too many people "hooking" up ....and it worries me ....
Im 45 on the + side I like to chat joke and have fun, I only go to Adult chats and stay away from IRC rooms like yahoo ICQ to many bots. Im layed back been there done that, I dont mind posting but Im more into live chats like geting to know others.
awww...come on ....i kinda like those ...Hey stud I'm just 18 and i just got my webcam working ,why dont u cum see me ....:lmao
who am i ??...I am a dirty old man looking for pussy ....
or am i ..the bad boy looking for the next thrill
or am i ..the stud looking for the next notch ...
or am i ...your creepy next door neighbour
or am i ..the perv u see eyeing your daughter ....
or am i ..a nice guy ,looking for friends ,...
the point is ....Never assume u know who i am ...or who the nice person that chats u up .....they may be a serial killer ( not saying i am ) ...i see too many people "hooking" up ....and it worries me ....
I think you are a cross between those 2 Hossie.....;)
I think you are a cross between those 2 Hossie.....;)
thank u maam ....:kk
actually today ...I'm just a sweet transvestite ...
48, married...think I have myself figured out at this point, trying to figure out what I need to do to put the spark back in our marriage...guess I sound like a few other fellas here...it was said earlier in this thread...there is no other place like this on the net and that's dead on...I'm just real happy to be able to stop by when I need some cheering up and on occasion, throw in my two cents...
AffableOne
07-23-2007, 11:09 PM
mirror, mirror, on the wall.............
mirror, mirror, on the wall.............
I say that to my mirror every morning....
The bitch always answers back " Your Sister " :D
1hotmommy
11-10-2007, 08:42 PM
I'm 32, married for about 8 years, have two kids. I'm here partly because there's something lacking in my marriage, and it makes me feel good to come here and feel like people want to talk and flirt with me.
Papa Chubby
11-14-2007, 03:23 PM
I am 39 years old. Married to my loving, horny wife of 12 years, and have 1 daughter who is 6.
I have very little taboos, I stop at animals, water sports and scat.
I love the moments with my wife when we are together, naked next to each other. Not just sex, but to talk, hold and kiss. We have had too many things between us, and now to be that way shows we do not have anything between us.
And I love my wife, more then I even knew myself.
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