If you had a choice...

[Dsparate Hswife]

Would you marry your soulmate or best friend? Let's assume that they are not one in the same! Who would you choose to make your life partner?

[yaser]

Best friend..

[Kissie]

I think I would marry my soul mate....wait....matter a fact I did!!!

[peaches]

hands down my soul mate.....we all go through time looking and searching for our soul mate

[Cotties]

my best friend has too much stuble......now only if I could meet my real soul mate....everytime I see the perfect ass my wife drags me away from itWould you marry your soulmate or best friend? Let's assume that they are not one in the same! Who would you choose to make your life partner?

[OICurready4me]

Would you marry your soulmate or best friend? Let's assume that they are not one in the same! Who would you choose to make your life partner?

How do you determine who is your soul mate? Often, women here talk about their "soul mate"...what do you mean? What makes a person your soul mate?

[unctarheel_32]

Thats a good question oic what does make someone ure soul mate

[baby face]

I married my best friend........

[Frenchie]

my best friend has too much stuble......now only if I could meet my real soul mate....everytime I see the perfect ass my wife drags me away from it

lol

I'm with him ^^^ lol

I married my sould mate.

Best friends are to drink with

[IMaLady]

soul mate

[scoobertina]

This is what I was thinking? I know my best friend.. would I marry him? Well, He is great, but I would like to wait a little if you don't mind, my marriage does put a bit of a damper on it.... but a soul mate? That will have to be defined for me first..



How do you determine who is your soul mate? Often, women here talk about their "soul mate"...what do you mean? What makes a person your soul mate?

[confusedman]

This is what I was thinking? I know my best friend.. would I marry him? Well, He is great, but I would like to wait a little if you don't mind, my marriage does put a bit of a damper on it.... but a soul mate? That will have to be defined for me first..

I think to get to soul mate, the friendship has to build to the point where that special connection is made. The one that is felt even when it's not seen. And for that to be strong enough, it takes time...

Not really thinking about marrying anyone right now...just enjoying life and the way the river is travelling right now...

[BlueEyedBoy]

Soul mate

[Dsparate Hswife]

Those of you who found your soulmate and married him or her are lucky. I married my best friend, but my marriage is passionless. A soul mate is someone with whom you have a deep connection and understanding. The dictionary defines it as "a person with whom one has a strong affinity." Affinity is also the same as attraction. I think having a soul mate is far more than attraction. Not only is there a compatability factor with your soulmate, but there is a sense of respect and acceptance that can withstand (and demolish) everyday trials and complacency. Do I make sense?:sg

[GeekMaster]

Those of you who found your soulmate and married him or her are lucky. I married my best friend, but my marriage is passionless. A soul mate is someone with whom you have a deep connection and understanding. The dictionary defines it as "a person with whom one has a strong affinity." Affinity is also the same as attraction. I think having a soul mate is far more than attraction. Not only is there a compatability factor with your soulmate, but there is a sense of respect and acceptance that can withstand (and demolish) everyday trials and complacency. Do I make sense?:sg

I married both at the same time!!!

[PlayfulMale69]

Those of you who found your soulmate and married him or her are lucky. I married my best friend, but my marriage is passionless. A soul mate is someone with whom you have a deep connection and understanding. The dictionary defines it as "a person with whom one has a strong affinity." Affinity is also the same as attraction. I think having a soul mate is far more than attraction. Not only is there a compatability factor with your soulmate, but there is a sense of respect and acceptance that can withstand (and demolish) everyday trials and complacency. Do I make sense?:sg

Yes, you make sense. Of course I thought I had married both one and the same. We are still good friends and think alike in all things non-sexual. She is not a good lover but a very good friend which makes it hard.

[Dsparate Hswife]

I can relate to you 100% Playful. My situation is the same!:hug:

[PunkyBob]

Of course marrying your best friend may be the perfect way to destroy a good friendship...

On the NON-cynical side, however, I would 100 pct opt for soul mate. "Soul mate" to me means more than best friend; someone who connects with you on many levels, knows your feelings, understands YOU in a way no one else can.

[PlayfulMale69]

I can relate to you 100% Playful. My situation is the same!:hug:

Why thanks for that hug. Here is one right back at you. :hug:

It is interesting to see how unbalanced a lot of marriages are. One spouse wants passion and the other spouse is on to other things that interest them more. Wonder what causes this? I know that it is not a one-sided thing, but both drift away from each other in relationships.

[Dsparate Hswife]

I think it is so important to grow TOGETHER in a marriage. You have to have the same goals and plan for the future. If not...compromise. Unfortunately, my marriage has always been passionless. I just thought it would change at some point.

[PunkyBob]

Why thanks for that hug. Here is one right back at you. :hug:

It is interesting to see how unbalanced a lot of marriages are. One spouse wants passion and the other spouse is on to other things that interest them more. Wonder what causes this? I know that it is not a one-sided thing, but both drift away from each other in relationships.

Life, methinks. What started out as one thing changes over time. And who can predict it? My wife becomes more and more provincial over time, while I like to stay out and party once in a while. Views change, tastes, dreams, etc. Marriages should be on 5-year-option-for-renewal basis.

[Dsparate Hswife]

Life, methinks. What started out as one thing changes over time. And who can predict it? My wife becomes more and more provincial over time, while I like to stay out and party once in a while. Views change, tastes, dreams, etc. Marriages should be on 5-year-option-for-renewal basis.

I cannot agree with you more PunkyBob. How do you think we can make that a law?

[PunkyBob]

The usual way: buy a congressperson! Hey, it only seems common sensical to me...

"Hon?"
"Yeah, babe?"
"Wanna re-up?"
"I don't know...where's the oil...?"

[vinnieborg]

the sexy one i can talk to and who turns me on

[yaser]

A loving one to the one who wants sex only..

[PunkyBob]

A soul mate would say, "I know what you want, when you need it. Even if it isn't sex."

[Dsparate Hswife]

A soul mate would say, "I know what you want, when you need it. Even if it isn't sex."

I am still agreeing with you PunkyBob!! LOL re: the congressperson.:55

[PunkyBob]

We are of one mind, DH. That could be a start...

[surfdude]

soulmate - to me that implies a much deeper link than friendship can ever touch.

[PunkyBob]

That's cuz it starts on the inside, always was, always will be. It just IS.

[p.J]

How do you determine who is your soul mate? Often, women here talk about their "soul mate"...what do you mean? What makes a person your soul mate?


ok... heres my slant on it, for what its worth. A soul mate (as in Man and woman) is where both partners have realistic expectations from the relationship. That is, not expecting the other to make you feel complete, thus talking responsibility for who you are and what you want, and not expecting your partner to do this. Ah, bollocks give me a phone and I'll explain... :D

[Dsparate Hswife]

You should never depend on someone to make you feel complete!! That comes from within...

[Dsparate Hswife]

We are of one mind, DH. That could be a start...

You make me smile!!:hug:

[hank69]

soul mate 4 sure

[p.J]

You should never depend on someone to make you feel complete!! That comes from within...

:sc yes, of course that was my point...

but this kind of relationship has to be actively and consciously maintained.

[pointofnoreturn]

How do you determine who is your soul mate? Often, women here talk about their "soul mate"...what do you mean? What makes a person your soul mate?Well yougotta have ryhthm. I go with soul mate. Have notfound them yet..

[PunkyBob]

You make me smile!!:hug:

I'm so glad! :kk

And a warm :hug:back to you!

[Dsparate Hswife]

:sc yes, of course that was my point...

but this kind of relationship has to be actively and consciously maintained.

I agree Pragmatic!! I love your quote!!:D

[PunkyBob]

I agree Pragmatic!! I love your quote!!:D

Absolutely. Neglect something and you'll wonder where it's gone. Too bad I had to learn the hard way.

[Dsparate Hswife]

What did you learn the hard way PB?

[PunkyBob]

Never to neglect something you really don't want to lose. Sounds like a no-brainer, huh?

[Dsparate Hswife]

Never to neglect something you really don't want to lose. Sounds like a no-brainer, huh?

Life isn't that simple!! People take things for granted all the time. You're only human.

[surfdude]

i can't imagine the grief i'm going to get for this, but here is my idea of what a soulmate is:

it's the person who, when you meet them, you feel the vibration between the two of you, almost like a tuning fork. it's the moment of recognition that you've always known this person, and part of you cries in realizing you've been apart before now. it's an immediate, recognized sense of loss that the other half of you is over there.

i won't argue that intellectually, emotionally, whatever, it's a mistake to try and find someone to complete you. i will say that I believe when you meet your soulmate you recognize that you aren't complete.

and, i also think there's more than just one in the world.

man, i bummed myself out with that one, but there it is.

[Dsparate Hswife]

i can't imagine the grief i'm going to get for this, but here is my idea of what a soulmate is:

it's the person who, when you meet them, you feel the vibration between the two of you, almost like a tuning fork. it's the moment of recognition that you've always known this person, and part of you cries in realizing you've been apart before now. it's an immediate, recognized sense of loss that the other half of you is over there.

i won't argue that intellectually, emotionally, whatever, it's a mistake to try and find someone to complete you. i will say that I believe when you meet your soulmate you recognize that you aren't complete.

and, i also think there's more than just one in the world.

man, i bummed myself out with that one, but there it is.



I can honestly say that gave me goosebumps. Did you make that up yourself? It was very good.

[Amaretto]

i can't imagine the grief i'm going to get for this, but here is my idea of what a soulmate is:

it's the person who, when you meet them, you feel the vibration between the two of you, almost like a tuning fork. it's the moment of recognition that you've always known this person, and part of you cries in realizing you've been apart before now. it's an immediate, recognized sense of loss that the other half of you is over there.



wow surfdude, underneath that sexy exterior is a very deep, poignant philosopher. I absolutely love and agree with your definition that i quoted above! it perfectly lines up with my life's experience.

thank you for a truly beautiful post.

[surfdude]

I can honestly say that gave me goosebumps. Did you make that up yourself? It was very good.

uhm - yeah, i've had it happen a couple times, i was just describing how i felt at the time.

thanks :)

[Dsparate Hswife]

I have yet to meet my soulmate. You are truly lucky to have that experience.

[surfdude]

I have yet to meet my soulmate. You are truly lucky to have that experience.

well, thank you, but (and there's always a but) as great as it is to find that person, knowing the two of you can't be together can really gut you out like you would not believe.

remember being dumped in junior high? worse than that, and I don't think ANYONE feels things harder than a kid in junior high

cheer up, maybe your time is coming :).

[Dsparate Hswife]

Why can't you be together?.. Junior high was rough. I'm glad my mom finally let me go on this website. Just Kidding. Gotta go.. I have cheerleading practice. Kidding..Again!

[surfdude]

Why can't you be together?.. Junior high was rough. I'm glad my mom finally let me go on this website. Just Kidding. Gotta go.. I have cheerleading practice. Kidding..Again!

she was with someone at the time, and didn't want to give that up.

if you're interested in wearing a cheerleader outfit, i'm good with that.

[Dsparate Hswife]

she was with someone at the time, and didn't want to give that up.

if you're interested in wearing a cheerleader outfit, i'm good with that.


Since I'm in health care, I prefer to be a naughty nurse.;)

[surfdude]

Since I'm in health care, I prefer to be a naughty nurse.;)

oh, now you're talking :).

i have a thermometer i'd like to put in your mouth ...

[Dsparate Hswife]

How big is it?

[surfdude]

How big is it?

i also use it for tonsillectomies and (deep) throat cultures

and cervical exams, rectal probe, pretty much whatever the situation calls for

[Dsparate Hswife]

i also use it for tonsillectomies and (deep) throat cultures

and cervical exams, rectal probe, pretty much whatever the situation calls for


:sex

[surfdude]

:sex

i do believe you're coming on to me, young lady?

i'm sorry, could you be a bit more direct? i'm pretty dense.

[Dsparate Hswife]

i do believe you're coming on to me, young lady?

i'm sorry, could you be a bit more direct? i'm pretty dense.


Is it hot in here or is it just me?

[surfdude]

Is it hot in here or is it just me?

i'd say you're pretty hot

[Dsparate Hswife]

i'd say you're pretty hot


I'd say give me a time and place!!:kk

[Dsparate Hswife]

Better yet, surfdude, why don't I help you meet your deadline by being your secretary. OK, honey!!

[surfdude]

Better yet, surfdude, why don't I help you meet your deadline by being your secretary. OK, honey!!

Do you take dicktation? Have skilled hands? Excellent oral abilities? I try not to hire just anyone, you know :)

Deadlines are funny things - sometimes they are long and hard, sometimes fast and furious. sometimes they alternate between the two, and the tension results in a tremendous climax that leaves you exhausted afterward

you still interested in the position? if so, i have an oral exam for you to take first :)

[Dsparate Hswife]

Do you take dicktation? Have skilled hands? Excellent oral abilities? I try not to hire just anyone, you know :)

Deadlines are funny things - sometimes they are long and hard, sometimes fast and furious. sometimes they alternate between the two, and the tension results in a tremendous climax that leaves you exhausted afterward

you still interested in the position? if so, i have an oral exam for you to take first :)

I've been told I am very good at oral exams.:blowjob:

[surfdude]

I've been told I am very good at oral exams.:blowjob:

The job is yours ;).

[scoobertina]

After much consideration on this subject I have decided that a soul mate is what I would prefer... A best friend is fine, but a soul mate (from my understanding) would understand you before you understand yourself, they would know what you need before you needed it...

[confusedman]

After much consideration on this subject I have decided that a soul mate is what I would prefer... A best friend is fine, but a soul mate (from my understanding) would understand you before you understand yourself, they would know what you need before you needed it...

What if...theoretically...both were possible? :kk

[scoobertina]

What if...theoretically...both were possible? :kk


Oh now, that will really confuse me then... I just accepted the possibility of a soul mate..

[confusedman]

Oh now, that will really confuse me then... I just accepted the possibility of a soul mate..

I'd rather not confuse you hon. Then I might lose my identity...and then would be confused...thus regaining my identity...what was I saying? :D

Stick with soul mate babe...I think it's a good choice...

[Penny]

If your lucky they are one in the same

[peaches]

I would pick my soul mate...but we would have to get married...he would already know I was is for eternity

[OICurready4me]

ok... heres my slant on it, for what its worth. A soul mate (as in Man and woman) is where both partners have realistic expectations from the relationship. That is, not expecting the other to make you feel complete, thus talking responsibility for who you are and what you want, and not expecting your partner to do this. Ah, bollocks give me a phone and I'll explain... :D


Thanks for you explanation PJ but I think I'm even more confused now.....I might have to change my name to confusedman2 now...

[Jy]

I married my best friend, and I would do it again if I had it to do all over. At the end of the day, we still have so much to talk about, so many common interests, so much we enjoy doing together.

[AffableOne]

Would you marry your soulmate or best friend? Let's assume that they are not one in the same! Who would you choose to make your life partner?

never met a soulmate until recently..............

easy choice for me..........

the soulmate and best friend are one and the same.......

in a different time, and place.......I'd have moved heaven and earth to be with her for eternity

now.......we will always be soulmates

and that is better than I could have hoped for not too long ago

[yaser]

I married my best friend, and I would do it again if I had it to do all over. At the end of the day, we still have so much to talk about, so many common interests, so much we enjoy doing together.
Hmmmmmm there are some downs and ups I suppose..But life goes on in any way Jazzy..

[whosdaflirt]

Definately a soul mate, if only I knew where she was...

[unctarheel_32]

my best friend,because she really knows me and the things i like and dont like

[Wil]

After much consideration on this subject I have decided that a soul mate is what I would prefer... A best friend is fine, but a soul mate (from my understanding) would understand you before you understand yourself, they would know what you need before you needed it...

scoob..thats terrific...

[scoobertina]

scoob..thats terrific...

yeah terrific, now to find said soulmate..:sc

[whosdaflirt]

yeah terrific, now to find said soulmate..:sc

Based on what I have experienced, you don't find your soulmate. They just "happen" for you...

[UltimateNaneki]

I would marry my soul mate, but before I did that, we would be great friends first. So then I would get the best of both worlds. Now you got me dreaming :sc ....boy I hope he comes along soon, cause I sure do miss him right now!:wa:

[rickingeorgia]

You'd imagine they'd be one in the same, at least at some point in the relationship.

[Amaretto]

You'd imagine they'd be one in the same, at least at some point in the relationship.

i agree that they are one and the same. if you are lucky enough to find your soulmate, s/he will instantly be your best friend. however, a best friend is not necessarily a soulmate, but could be just the closest thing you've found so far.

now, if you asked "would you rather marry your soulmate, or someone with less emotional connection but by far the best sex you ever had?" i would pick soulmate.

[majorfun]

I would pick great sex....




i agree that they are one and the same. if you are lucky enough to find your soulmate, s/he will instantly be your best friend. however, a best friend is not necessarily a soulmate, but could be just the closest thing you've found so far.

now, if you asked "would you rather marry your soulmate, or someone with less emotional connection but by far the best sex you ever had?" i would pick soulmate.

[missgrace]

soulmate definitely...

[rickingeorgia]

I'm going to have to go with soulmate as well, sex is just so much better when there's more than a physical attraction. But then again, you can have great sex when the two people doing it hate each other also... funny how that fuels things.

[Amaretto]

I'm going to have to go with soulmate as well, sex is just so much better when there's more than a physical attraction. But then again, you can have great sex when the two people doing it hate each other also... funny how that fuels things.

do you frequently have sex with someone you hate?? :sc

[Dmy]

I have to say I married my best friend...I can see where a soul mate would benefit a marriage as well though...maybe even a little more!

[rickingeorgia]

do you frequently have sex with someone you hate?? :sc

Not at the present time no! But there have been a few times where groups of friends in the past all got together drinking, and one girl and I didn't care for each other very much, we wound up in my bedroom and wound up having a pretty good time together. It was definately strange to say the least.

[Gray451]

Friends can become soulmates...and there is always bigamy

[UltimateNaneki]

Friends can become soulmates...and there is always bigamy

Gray....be my friendly soulmate!:kk

[RedVixen]

soulmate

[msbnee]

soulmate

[1hotmommy]

Probably best friend

[p.a]

Soul mate. Best friends change when they become intimate. A soul mate is a life partner.

[Papa Chubby]

A soul mate.

I had to let her go, so I have my best friend.