What do men and women hate most in the bedroom...

[p.J]

Damn difficult to think of anything original these days... so no doubt this has been done before!!!

anyhows... we are talking sex of course! What are your sexual complaints in the bedroom, it may equate with your current situation or previous ones.

My hates are:

1) Mechanical sex... yea yea we have all experienced it! Sex without passion, I'd rather read a bloody good book!

2) When he says, want it in you now? ... what is that??? No fuck off wally!

3) Radio ga ga sex... tweak the nipple rub the clit... wooo hooo I am turned on NOT!!!

4) Drunken sex, while it can be totally wild, there are times when sweaty armpits, smelly breath and a farting arse is a definite no no... normally when I am sober!!

[pointofnoreturn]

Damn difficult to think of anything original these days... so no doubt this has been done before!!!

anyhows... we are talking sex of course! What are your sexual complaints in the bedroom, it may equate with your current situation or previous ones.

My hates are:

1) Mechanical sex... yea yea we have all experienced it! Sex without passion, I'd rather read a bloody good book!

2) When he says, want it in you now? ... what is that??? No fuck off wally!

3) Radio ga ga sex... tweak the nipple rub the clit... wooo hooo I am turned on NOT!!!

4) Drunken sex, while it can be totally wild, there are times when sweaty armpits, smelly breath and a farting arse is a definite no no... normally when I am sober!!Lol...I really do not like it when you go to bed...He comes in there. turns the tv on, and then wants to play. wht am I the commercial break??

[surfdude]

temperature disparity - i'm hot, she's cold. that's not a sexual metaphor, by the way, just a frustration about whether we are covered in blankets while i'm on top. if you want to be covered in blankets and/or warmer, YOU get on top :)

[vinnieborg]

a tv in the bedroom is a killer trow it out

[AffableOne]

hard for me to make love in the bedroom......if she has shown no affection outside of it......

[pointofnoreturn]

a tv in the bedroom is a killer trow it outTv is in sitting room where bedroom is next to. I will get in bed. He will say he is coming up, and then hit the couch with the TV........I got it out of bedroom, but still close enough to ruin things. Unless of course youwant to watch a porn.

[angelis]

selfishness,sex should be about give and receive,not take take take!!

[Sunfiresix]

any type of distraction.....

[Kissie]

That I am the only one in the bed.......

[unctarheel_32]

I agree with that angelis.selfishness,sex should be about give and receive,not take take take!!

[MCat]

I hate dogs in the bedroom...

[PlayfulMale69]

When she says she is too tired and stays up for 2 more hours reading a book.

[UltimateNaneki]

I'm just tired of being in bed with someone I don't love anymore!

[PlayfulMale69]

I'm just tired of being in bed with someone I don't love anymore!

I'm tired of being pushed away by someone I love and doesn't seem to want me anymore.

[living to Flirt]

I am tired of routine... which probably is becoming Mechanical Sex...

[Dsparate No More]

hard for me to make love in the bedroom......if she has shown no affection outside of it......

I agree completely...I still say the sexiest thing my husband can do for me is volunteer to do the dishes...better yet...bathe the children and put them to bed while I relax and unwind from the day. THAT, my friend, is sexy!

[unctarheel_32]

when u start to have hott sex and the damn phone rings,its a pain

[unctarheel_32]

or u have visitors come over,such as family members u know

[Milk]

climb into bed wanting some time together, to atleast cuddle. and he is instantly asleep and snoring.

[pointofnoreturn]

When the sun peeks thru the blinds, and youare not ready to get up yet...

[AffableOne]

I agree completely...I still say the sexiest thing my husband can do for me is volunteer to do the dishes...better yet...bathe the children and put them to bed while I relax and unwind from the day. THAT, my friend, is sexy!

let's see.......i can do the dishes, the laundry, and the bathrooms for ya.......

what else?

;)

[MIGHTY]

I hate it when they don't listen. When I tell you how and why.....just do what I request. It will make it a more pleasurable experience for the both of us, I promise. Because, when you don't, it is obvious that you are not going to be viewed as "the man" that you are portraying yourself to be........

[Pebbles]

He comes to bed drunk and does very loud snoring!!!

[Dsparate No More]

let's see.......i can do the dishes, the laundry, and the bathrooms for ya.......

what else?

;)


Help with the children? Very sexy

[Sunfiresix]

wow there are a lot a things them women don't want....

[scoobertina]

I hate it when he does decide that we can make love but then finishes and rolls away.. without letting me finish

[Sunfiresix]

I hated it when all she wanted was just to have me in--no foreplay...

[Catfish]

When she wants me to stay awake afterwards? :lmao

[Missy38]

When he falls asleep, before we even get started but, it is fun to wake him up by kissing his neck and so on..............

[yaser]

When he falls asleep, before we even get started but, it is fun to wake him up by kissing his neck and so on..............
hahahaha I am sure you put sleeping pills into his water to kiss and make him wake up otherwise how can he sleep?

[luvlooking]

Her giving me sex just to humor me. I want her to want me.

[mrh50]

you want to know why after 50 they just don't want it anymore. and just do it to keep up from not leaving them for a younger women


Her giving me sex just to humor me. I want her to want me.

[dartgirl]

Just because he is in the mood I am supposed to accomadate him. I do it and hate myself for it later.

[BadenLink]

No willingness to try different things. If I try something I get shot down hard!

[Gray451]

When your partner cranes her neck around and looks back at u and says "are u sure this is normal?" If u have to ask then how could it be:D

[OICurready4me]

Her giving me sex just to humor me. I want her to want me.


Just to humor you? What is she, the emcee on Comedy Central?

[Tom4u2here]

I hate it when she is drunk and wants to.. It is such a turn off..... I'd rather roll over and fall asleep. Now when we are both drunk.. Look out.......... Have to be on the same playing field.

[Penny]

I hate when he needs a shower and he dont think so :(

[MCat]

you want to know why after 50 they just don't want it anymore. and just do it to keep up from not leaving them for a younger women

Remind her why she should want it...court her, flirt with her, woo her...

Sometimes its out of our control...I must remind you gentlemen that we older women have that damned hormone thing going on...:( sometimes we need new and different things or different ways to light our fire...sometimes we don't know what we need.

We hate it, we wish it wasn't happening to us, wish we could turn back the clock...but that aint happening...

Help us remember what it used to be like...when you loved us as we were.

[flourgirl]

I'm tired of rushing....

[spare_change]

finding her husband there

[freestyle99]

I'm tired of rushing....

No need to rush here...all the time in the world...

[flourgirl]

No need to rush here...all the time in the world...

mmm...sounds good to me!

[freestyle99]

mmm...sounds good to me!

Why not savor every moment?

[flourgirl]

oh I would...trust me...and I do when I'm by myself.

[freestyle99]

oh I would...trust me...and I do when I'm by myself.

That's the spirit I like!!

[Cotties]

The en-suite bathroom covered in hair and left like a pigsty because she thinks its her domain and hers alone

[My_Secrets_Kept]

When he finishes, jumps out of the bed to clean himself up, throws a towel at me, gets back in bed, tells me to move over, then when I press myself against his back to let him know that I'm not done yet he tells me to move over because he's hot, his snoring then begins & I finish myself off! So it's just much easier & less messy for me to just take care of myself!

[pointofnoreturn]

When he takes the pillow and puts it over my face?????Hey is that normal???

[Amaretto]

When he talks tooooo much. Some fantasies are better left in his head.

[Cotties]

if she's a screamer and I warn her to keep the friggin noise down....then thats a yesWhen he takes the pillow and puts it over my face?????Hey is that normal???

[1hotmommy]

I hate it when the foreplay takes so long that by the time we get to the good stuff I'm turned off

[p.a]

How about no one in your bed.........

[up4fun]

Her giving me sex just to humor me. I want her to want me.

So True, nothing worse then knowing she is having sex just to shut you up.....

[up4fun]

I hate it when the foreplay takes so long that by the time we get to the good stuff I'm turned off

Did not know that was possible...Too much Foreplay?????

[Sneaky]

I hate not getting any in the bedroom. That's the thing I hate the most.:spbx:

[1hotmommy]

Yeah it's possible up4fun. Usually I like a bit of foreplay, but sometimes my husband thinks I want more than I do, and that just drives me nuts.

[Huzyerdaddi]

Yeah it's possible up4fun. Usually I like a bit of foreplay, but sometimes my husband thinks I want more than I do, and that just drives me nuts.

This is an interesting point that, to me, illustrates a common problem in relationships. In some cases, I suspect it's a problem that results in grand consequences...in other cases, just an annoyance.

You two are describing something of a 'mismatch' in sexual preference. Neither is wrong or right. One other post here earlier said something about 'him being done to quickly' while another complained about 'her just wanting me in her, nothing else'.

So what I struggle with and the question i put on the table for comment: What do you do when you have umpteen years invested in a marriage and kids to boot and for some reason, somewhere along the way, preferences changed and you're seemingly not compatible?

[IMaLady]

This is an interesting point that, to me, illustrates a common problem in relationships. In some cases, I suspect it's a problem that results in grand consequences...in other cases, just an annoyance.

You two are describing something of a 'mismatch' in sexual preference. Neither is wrong or right. One other post here earlier said something about 'him being done to quickly' while another complained about 'her just wanting me in her, nothing else'.

So what I struggle with and the question i put on the table for comment: What do you do when you have umpteen years invested in a marriage and kids to boot and for some reason, somewhere along the way, preferences changed and you're seemingly not compatible?


Thats when you have to learn to comprimise.

[Huzyerdaddi]

Thats when you have to learn to comprimise.

yes but...well, maybe. I dunno. Comprimise doesn't seem to be an option. Which, when I'm honest with myself, tells me there are bigger issues to deal with than sexual incompatibility.

[IMaLady]

yes but...well, maybe. I dunno. Comprimise doesn't seem to be an option. Which, when I'm honest with myself, tells me there are bigger issues to deal with than sexual incompatibility.


I can understand that.

[Huzyerdaddi]

I can understand that.

I appreciate your understanding....

[Carlfy]

Damn difficult to think of anything original these days... so no doubt this has been done before!!!

anyhows... we are talking sex of course! What are your sexual complaints in the bedroom, it may equate with your current situation or previous ones.

My hates are:

1) Mechanical sex... yea yea we have all experienced it! Sex without passion, I'd rather read a bloody good book!

2) When he says, want it in you now? ... what is that??? No fuck off wally!

3) Radio ga ga sex... tweak the nipple rub the clit... wooo hooo I am turned on NOT!!!

4) Drunken sex, while it can be totally wild, there are times when sweaty armpits, smelly breath and a farting arse is a definite no no... normally when I am sober!!
Can agree on most of them but the last one, wild drunken sex can be great fun.

[Carlfy]

I hate not getting any in the bedroom. That's the thing I hate the most.:spbx:
I'm in the same boat as you, anything would be a plus. It's been that long that I've forgotten what I dislike.

[Carlfy]

When he finishes, jumps out of the bed to clean himself up, throws a towel at me, gets back in bed, tells me to move over, then when I press myself against his back to let him know that I'm not done yet he tells me to move over because he's hot, his snoring then begins & I finish myself off! So it's just much easier & less messy for me to just take care of myself!
You're married to a selfish man, you, deserve better.

[p.a]

interruptions

[up4fun]

The kids comming in.....

[unctarheel_32]

interruptions

[fun2bewith1972]

:knuddel: Routine. Something different is nice once in a while.

[ksue7274]

interruptions

I have to agree.

[Sunfiresix]

clothed females

[private beaches]

Monotony

[OICurready4me]

a woman who lies there like a corpse....hell, I'm not into necrophilia, if I were, I would become a mortician

[gspotlover]

What do men and women hate most in the bedroom...

Their in-laws...

[dicksr4chicks]

The guy next door how many light bulbs blow out in a week

[mrbill1977]

Wanting to make love but she won't stop reading or playing an electronic game even when I cuddle or softly touch her skin. Talk about a cold shower without getting wet.

[TC]

Mechanical, which is becoming the way it is around here.....
When you try to make it something worth while and he is too busy.....

[yaser]

Mechanical, which is becoming the way it is around here.....
When you try to make it something worth while and he is too busy.....
Try to discover what he has got in mind..And help him throw out..

[mrbill1977]

Mechanical, which is becoming the way it is around here.....
When you try to make it something worth while and he is too busy.....

when a marriage/relationship is stuck in the 'mechanical,' the eyes begin to roam looking for another who is seeking the same thing. does this mean trouble in the near future or a little fun if discreet? :sc

[Wil]

crickets...

[softrosepetal]

When his breathing sounds like a snore and I worry he will have a heart attack

[dixiechiknga]

A pat on the ass....that's all the foreplay I get..LOL

[yaser]

A pat on the ass....that's all the foreplay I get..LOL

Kissing,cunnilingus,biting the nipples,fingering the pussy,caressing the clit..:sng69,96

[MeanGuy]

chemical gas , very annoying in bed. trust me.. lol i know. its gross . but hey, its true! :Ppassing wind kills the atmosphere,probably can kill a person too ;P "shrugs" the silent ones are deadly.. beware!!

[DK44]

lack of passion... just being there... not willing to play around and have fun!

[scoobertina]

not really being concerned with me and my needs... doing the deed, finishing, then rolling away... at least cuddle dammit...

[Constance]

I hate when I am the one to initiate sex, he thinks that I should take care of him in that all special way. Surly if I want it, then I must really want to please just him. The boat rocks both ways. :nu

[Constance]

I hate when I am the one to initiate sex, he thinks that I should take care of him in that all special way. Surly if I want it, then I must really want to please just him. The boat rocks both ways. :nu

[OntheDownLow]

A woman who doesn't like cum.

[tator]

what i hate in the bedroom...
1. the same sex all the time(same length of time, the same positions, and the same time, and place)
2. how he acts like we didnt just have sex. (he goes about doing whatever he was doing before)
3. no foreplay.(he thinks one kiss turns me on)

[Dsparate No More]

I hate it when a man talks too much during the act or asks for permission...if you have me in a compromising position, it is because I want something in return...

[Heart]

My husband must seem that just the thought of sex is enough to get me wet as he forgoes any foreplay and goes straight to sex....unless HE wants foreplay.....

Monotony....he gets the blow jobs....I get the washcloth to clean him up....

What do I like? It has been over 7 years since I've had fun in the bedroom....I think I've forgotten...... :-(

[wyomingdude]

My wife never initiates sex, if I want to get some I have to put in a lot of foreplay yet I get almost nothing back. It seems like more work than its worth.

[Heart]

My wife never initiates sex, if I want to get some I have to put in a lot of foreplay yet I get almost nothing back. It seems like more work than its worth.



That is so sad to hear....because it is women like me who craves the foreplay for me just as much for him....my husband only lets me touch Mr. Winky (sorry i have children...habit)....and frankly my dear....I don't give a damn....men have nipples too dammit and they are for sucking on just as well!!!!

wow....didn't know i had it in me....whew!

[wyomingdude]

Heartbroken
I feel you. It sucks to do your best to give and not really get any effort back. Thanks for your sweet comments. My nipples thank you too.

[Trayclee]

I hate that he can be turned on just by me flashing a boob, when I need to be caressed and touched and romanced

[Heart]

Your nipples are soooo very welcome! :)

[Heart]

I hate that he can be turned on just by me flashing a boob, when I need to be caressed and touched and romanced



exactly....perhaps we need to petition that consumer science classes should allow a booby 101 class???

[justhoping]

urs would be even more welcome

[Heart]

urs would be even more welcome



:) perhaps...perhaps not....:)

[bighands]

That within i'm not passionate enough. That i'm not truely there, whether she senses it or not. That i am always in control. That i can be so heartless. That she won't notice, and that i know she will eventually feel hurt.

[UltimateNaneki]

there is really only 1 thing I hate in the bedroom and that's when a man cums all over my breasts or tummy or back or anywhere other then my holes...damn I love to swallow, don't waste!!

[Tiglet]

Oops!

[Tiglet]

Snoring! It really takes all the fun out of it, lol.

[househub]

when she sleeps through it, any suggestions?

[UltimateNaneki]

when she sleeps through it, any suggestions?

YES....play with the clit more...I can't sleep if your exciting me..:ok

[Heart]

That within i'm not passionate enough. That i'm not truely there, whether she senses it or not. That i am always in control. That i can be so heartless. That she won't notice, and that i know she will eventually feel hurt.



is this her talking or how you feel?

[Shawn]

I hate it when she refuses to call me Thor , or Big Daddy.... I mean if i am going through all the trouble to remember her name its the least she can do yanno?

[icylady125]

going to sleep without even a hug or kiss!

[JIM_looking]

hard for me to make love in the bedroom......if she has shown no affection outside of it......


Amen to that brother!

[UltimateNaneki]

sleeping on a dildo....damn they are hard...

[Kissie]

Interruptions!!!!!

[bighands]

I hate it when she refuses to call me Thor , or Big Daddy.... I mean if i am going through all the trouble to remember her name its the least she can do yanno?

I feel for you shawn, poor guy.

I hate it when she goes YES!!! YES!!! while i'm brushing my teeth in the bathroom...

[plankmaker]

When she says, are you going to wear that?

[Orca08]

when she says can you cum real fast

[mr1980]

Apologizing during sex. If you elbow me in the face, i can take it. Why stop everything to make an issue out of it? Don't stop!

[cherokeered]

not enough foreplay.....no imagination....too short or taking too long.....

[ohreally?]

when he says "that was fantastic" and I am thinking to myself "did something just happen?"

[mr1980]

when he says "that was fantastic" and I am thinking to myself "did something just happen?"


Lmao. I wonder how many times I've done that!

[UltimateNaneki]

they hate a zombie has a mate.

[UltimateNaneki]

Most men hate the sight of blood, most women hate men that hate the sight of blood.

[wyomingdude]

After, just about to doze off...and she asks "what are you thinking about?"

[catmom]

I hate having to hold back because he's not comfortable with who I really am sexually.....sigh...

[redheadedchick2]

When there's a knock at the door

[majorfun]

Teeth

[Nick182]

selfishness,sex should be about give and receive,not take take take!!
I couldn't have said it better myself.

[Rays]

indifference

[Orca08]

After, just about to doze off...and she asks "what are you thinking about?"

tff dude

[PleasurePirate]

Spouses showing up unannounced.

[kaycee727(m)]

Anytime without the spouse !

[FizProf]

I am scared sh*tless of the cats in our bed when my penis is exposed...

[whtwmnlvr]

Being rushed, by knocks on the door.

[gspotlover]

I hate it when my right hand catches my left hand in bed with me..... The fighting and name calling can be frightning!! Once it was so bad that I had to send them to separate rooms for a while to cool off.:wk

[Heart]

I am scared sh*tless of the cats in our bed when my penis is exposed...



ROFLMFAO

[Heart]

DO NOT TURN THE LIGHTS ON WHEN I'M SLEEPING!

use the friggin lamp!

[bluegrass_74]

I hate it when she just lies there, which happens a lot.

[Frenchie_lady]

The "oops" part is certainly on the top of the list, as well as the laughing it off.

But him laughing at me when i suggest something different certainly pisses me off, kills the mood and makes me feel totally stupid, oh, and makes a number of my already fragile self esteem!

[justhoping]

my wife calling

[MarriedQt]

When I'm horny and get him going and he finishes before me and roles over and goes to sleep!

[Ottoman]

My wife interrupting me for sex while I'm trying to watch Deparate Housewives.
Ooops. I think I got that one backwards.

[stellabelle]

If he doesn't like it, we don't do it again.

[mer]

this actually just came up!!! i can't stand being ask over and over again...."do you like it like this baby" arrrrrrr i'm pretty sure if i like it you'll know!!

[UltimateNaneki]

crumbs...I had crumbs in my bed!!!

[Renaissanceman53]

In the bedroom as long as sex is involved. Will try anything once. NO GUYS

[MIGHTY]

...complacency.......

[COWGIRL_LEO7]

I'm just tired of being in bed with someone I don't love anymore!


I'm right with ya on this one Ultimate!

[COWGIRL_LEO7]

Spouses showing up unannounced.

:yksYep that is bad! :yks

[Rays]

this actually just came up!!! i can't stand being ask over and over again...."do you like it like this baby" arrrrrrr i'm pretty sure if i like it you'll know!!

Sorry about that

[LuckyJest]

crumbs...I had crumbs in my bed!!!

...this and any other child created distraction...

[MrHyde]

...this and any other child created distraction...


LOL..."Are you and mommy wrestling."

[SunnyD]

Interruptions of any kind from the kids fighting, dog farting to the phone ringing! Seems like there is always something.

[Holiday]

I dont like all of the lights off

[fever]

faking it...

[Nomad(m)]

The word NO

[Kinkawon]

hard for me to make love in the bedroom......if she has shown no affection outside of it......


I'm right there with you 100%

How can I feel attracted to you when you spend the entire day about how I don't do this and I don't do that? Worse I do help a lot. Even worse most of the complaints are things she has a problem with also.

:spbx:

Ok sorry for the bitch session

:nopity

[Kinkawon]

I asked her not to put a TV in the bedroom. she did anyway, "I promise to never watch it while your trying to sleep."

She just puts it on as I'm about to fall asleep.

[RedVixen]

Not changing things up enough....when I can predict his every move before he makes it....urghhhh - give me a break...*yawn*

[yaser]

Talking about her hubby..

[yaser]

Not changing things up enough....when I can predict his every move before he makes it....urghhhh - give me a break...*yawn*

I know you are a surprise loving one Redvixen...

[RedVixen]

I know you are a surprise loving one Redvixen...


How did you know? ;)

[anesdoc74]

When you go in all hot only to be rebuffed!

[stellabelle]

When he finishes and doesn't finish me! URRRR!!!!

[sexntexx]

interruptions or the word NO!

[PEBBLIEPOO]

interruptions or the word NO!
Same here

[john30]

i always help my women finish

[PEBBLIEPOO]

Some times he is done way befor me and i have to finish off my self.

[Tiglet]

A television! There's way better things to do than to watch the boob tube.

[partydude]

vanilla sex

[YourAssMyHand]

Being denied again and again.

[YourAssMyHand]

Some times he is done way befor me and i have to finish off my self.

A gentleman always finishes what he started.

[Krystal]

I have to say the lack of affection, sex, etc. No matter how many times I tell him that we have a problem, he refuses to acknowledge it.

[Shawn]

When she says not there..... and follows it with .. not there either

[WandaRing]

Changing the queens sized sheets...putting on a clean set...then washing them and folding them and putting them away again.

[nugnugwinkwink]

sleeping in the wet patch..............

[stellabelle]

A gentleman always finishes what he started.

Would you mind posting that in the guy handbook? Cause I know it can't be in there...

[MarkmyWords]

snoring

[jorgedog]

I hate dogs in the bedroom...
you would hate me then woof! woof!!:sry

[Ally]

sleeping in the wet patch..............

:lmao That's a good one. That sucks. I'll second that one.

[flagovertx]

the dogs watching.

[flagovertx]

.......are you done yet ! I was'nt but I am now. L ack of compassion for your partners
needs is a definite turn off!

[Catman354]

A broken air conditioner in the middle of August in the south. Very miserable

[private beaches]

Apathy

[pointofnoreturn]

a barking dog. Especially when we don't have one......??????????????

[vicarious]

I hate it when she waits for me to do everything. She just lays there & doesn't contribute.

[fly]

I have to say the lack of affection, sex, etc. No matter how many times I tell him that we have a problem, he refuses to acknowledge it.


Yeah......hard to fix it when they won't even TALK about it.:(

[Hello There]

I hate when she wants to rush through it. Its a journey not a destination.

[cheerymissy_34]

the same stuff over and over again....nothing new

[Heart]

I am absolutely sick and tired of rejection

[scoobertina]

an empty bed

[Huzyerdaddi]

crumbs in the bed....how many times do I have to tell the kids to not eat in my bed!

[cheerymissy_34]

crumbs in the bed....how many times do I have to tell the kids to not eat in my bed!


OMG this had me laughing.....everynight when i get home i have to litterly shake my sheets out because my daughter goes into my room and watches tv as she eats and gets food EVERYWHERE

[acidkill86]

They hate it when you wipe your dick on the curtains!!!!!! lol

[Huzyerdaddi]

dude :eek:

They hate it when you wipe your dick on the curtains!!!!!! lol

[fly]

They hate it when you wipe your dick on the curtains!!!!!! lol


uhhh............the user name is making more and MORE sense!!!
(are you dyslexic?)

[airborne soldier]

When my kids come and visit, the have to use my bathroom in the middle of the night when I have a lady friend sneeking in for some alone time.... They have there own bathroom, use it damn it... I know they are only 3 & 7 and are not used to my place. But damn, Dad does not always get some...

[notonly4her]

When It's Over And She Says......."get out before my husband gets home."

[Sweetie31]

When It's Over And She Says......."get out before my husband gets home."


lol is that what i told u:sngsorry baby

[john30]

the dogs between us

[Wil]

emergency personal...:D