Watching partner?

[swifty]

Hi everyone. I have had a fantasy about watching my wife. Watching her flirt, dance, get a massage and even .......

It seems to bring up a little jealousy but huge excitement as well.

I have watched her flirt, dance and she had a sports massage while on vacation but I have not seen her doing any real sexual acts apart from kissing another man before we were married.

So the question is, does this kind of thing turn you on as well?
I won't ask is this normal as that is a dumb question but more appropriately is this ok for the relationship or is it playing with fire?

My wife gets turned on by this as well and we talk about it openly although she is much more reluctant to actually do something in real life. That does not mean she is against it totally. It really seems to be a murky area but I think we are mature enough to discuss it.

One of my greatest beliefs is to keep up communication in a relationship, it is the only way.

[yaser]

Swifty, watching your wife may be fun at the beginning, but it seems it is risky as well.It may turn to sex ..Try to learn why she want to flirt..She may feel exctied..Will you accept it?

[swifty]

Well its not so much that she likes to flirt. She likes sex and flirting is related to that, although not necessarily linked.

It does really turn me on. The jealousy or things that I would not like, is deceit, or fear of losing her.

Hard to say. I think this kind of thing is as complicated as our personalities, therefore no easy answer.

Hearing other people's experience though could at least give us a hint.

[My_Secrets_Kept]

Well I don't have experience in this realm, but will offer my opinion anyway...

This has gone through my mind as well, my husband and I have even gone as far to discuss it. I asked him if he could deal with replaying the picture in his mind of another man fucking his wife without jealousy entering the picture. He said he can deal with it, but I know better - I know he wouldn't be able to deal with it & we'd both suffer from the backlash. So in my marriage, it wouldn't be worth the turmoil it would cause, buy hey it never hurts to fantasize!!

It is a complicated topic & it would depend on a miriad of things. The strenght of your marriage, the openness between the two of you, trust, jealousy, an open conversation with the other parties that may be involved... I'm sure others on here will give you more things to consider as well.

[yaser]

Well its not so much that she likes to flirt. She likes sex and flirting is related to that, although not necessarily linked.

It does really turn me on. The jealousy or things that I would not like, is deceit, or fear of losing her.

Hard to say. I think this kind of thing is as complicated as our personalities, therefore no easy answer.

Hearing other people's experience though could at least give us a hint.
No, I haven not such a hobby..If she wants to flirt,I don't want to see it..It must be secret..I love secrets....

[My_Secrets_Kept]

No, I haven not such a hobby..If she wants to flirt,I don't want to see it..It must be secret..I love secrets....

ah Yaser I never would have guessed (sorry couldn't help myself lol) :D
Ok, now I am saying good night yet again & meaning it this time :wa:

[yaser]

Well I don't have experience in this realm, but will offer my opinion anyway...

This has gone through my mind as well, my husband and I have even gone as far to discuss it. I asked him if he could deal with replaying the picture in his mind of another man fucking his wife without jealousy entering the picture. He said he can deal with it, but I know better - I know he wouldn't be able to deal with it & we'd both suffer from the backlash. So in my marriage, it wouldn't be worth the turmoil it would cause, buy hey it never hurts to fantasize!!

It is a complicated topic & it would depend on a miriad of things. The strenght of your marriage, the openness between the two of you, trust, jealousy, an open conversation with the other parties that may be involved... I'm sure others on here will give you more things to consider as well.
I love wisdom in a woman,Secrets..

[yaser]

ah Yaser I never would have guessed (sorry couldn't help myself lol) :D
Ok, now I am saying good night yet again & meaning it this time :wa:
Good night hun..This is my good night kiss to you.. :knuddel:

[UltimateNaneki]

Well I don't think I would like to watch my man getting hot with another woman....I would rather experiment different position with my man then share him with another!

[milf_hunter916]

Swifty, watching your wife may be fun at the beginning, but it seems it is risky as well.It may turn to sex ..Try to learn why she want to flirt..She may feel exctied..Will you accept it?

I agree and think there is a name for that I think its called SWINGING!!!

[milf_hunter916]

Well its not so much that she likes to flirt. She likes sex and flirting is related to that, although not necessarily linked.

It does really turn me on. The jealousy or things that I would not like, is deceit, or fear of losing her.

Hard to say. I think this kind of thing is as complicated as our personalities, therefore no easy answer.

Hearing other people's experience though could at least give us a hint.

I agree that could give us a hint

[milf_hunter916]

Well I don't have experience in this realm, but will offer my opinion anyway...

This has gone through my mind as well, my husband and I have even gone as far to discuss it. I asked him if he could deal with replaying the picture in his mind of another man fucking his wife without jealousy entering the picture. He said he can deal with it, but I know better - I know he wouldn't be able to deal with it & we'd both suffer from the backlash. So in my marriage, it wouldn't be worth the turmoil it would cause, buy hey it never hurts to fantasize!!

It is a complicated topic & it would depend on a miriad of things. The strenght of your marriage, the openness between the two of you, trust, jealousy, an open conversation with the other parties that may be involved... I'm sure others on here will give you more things to consider as well.

Wow that sounds very inteligent I agree with you

[milf_hunter916]

Well I don't think I would like to watch my man getting hot with another woman....I would rather experiment different position with my man then share him with another!

But you must have some thoughts about somethign or you would not be on this site so you must like the thought of being a little naughty

[UltimateNaneki]

But you must have some thoughts about somethign or you would not be on this site so you must like the thought of being a little naughty

Don't get me wrong...milf! Naughty is one thing that I'm good at, but watching my love have sex with someone else is totally out of the question!

[c50t]

Don't get me wrong...milf! Naughty is one thing that I'm good at, but watching my love have sex with someone else is totally out of the question!

I'm on the same page with this one.

[MCat]

I like the thought of my husband and I having sex together...but involving another man online...on the phone...whatever. I know it probably won't happen but its exciting to think about it.

As for sharing or watching in the same room, I couldn't do it. If he were interested in maybe swinging in the future but in separate rooms or maybe an open relationship...I can't rule it out...not with the way my mind is thinking these days.

I'm totally someone different than I used to be....

[yaser]

I like the thought of my husband and I having sex together...but involving another man online...on the phone...whatever. I know it probably won't happen but its exciting to think about it.

As for sharing or watching in the same room, I couldn't do it. If he were interested in maybe swinging in the future but in separate rooms or maybe an open relationship...I can't rule it out...not with the way my mind is thinking these days.

I'm totally someone different than I used to be....
Will you put a webcam, Mcat?It would be fun then..

[MCat]

Will you put a webcam, Mcat?It would be fun then..

Nah...webcams are not for me Yaser.

[yaser]

Nah...webcams are not for me Yaser.
Then how can attend a sex conference?

[MCat]

Then how can attend a sex conference?

I said it was exciting to think about. Don't think it will ever happen.

[yaser]

I said it was exciting to think about. Don't think it will ever happen.
Mcat I know you very well..I have withnessed you evolution since two years..One dAy you call me..

[MIGHTY]

My husband has wanted to see me with another man, in his presense. But, for him it was more of a threesome idea with another. He wanted to see me lose total control. He wanted it to be a joint effort in giving it to me to the point in which I could not take anymore. We had even talked with another man about it, but his jealousy began to peek with mere conversations, so.......

This is a huge decision. Maybe you two could start at an adult club first. Get the feel of watching others and the feel of them watching you. There is a lot of interaction there......it may give you a taste of exactly what you're getting yourself into.

[surfnchat]

I like the thought of my husband and I having sex together...but involving another man online...on the phone...whatever. I know it probably won't happen but its exciting to think about it.

As for sharing or watching in the same room, I couldn't do it. If he were interested in maybe swinging in the future but in separate rooms or maybe an open relationship...I can't rule it out...not with the way my mind is thinking these days.

I'm totally someone different than I used to be....

You can maybe can start with him watching you having cyber sex... I know a willing participant! ;)

[MCat]

You can maybe can start with him watching you having cyber sex... I know a willing participant! ;)

Whooo Hoooo.....thanks for the offer Surf...;)

[Shadows]

Sometimes we have a threesome and the other watches, and it can be very sexy and alluring, I suppose its the way we are.

[johnd]

I would like to watch you, ok?

[milf_hunter916]

Don't get me wrong...milf! Naughty is one thing that I'm good at, but watching my love have sex with someone else is totally out of the question!

Yeah I would not want to partake in that either but would like to have fun on my own with out my wife knowing.... oops am I thiniking outloud again

[RedVixen]

Swifty: I have to agree with Mighty on this one. Try an adult club and see how you both react. I'd suggest trying baby steps with this subject. Not everyone thinks things through and before you know it, one partner gets jealous and it escalates from there. I've seen it from friends of mine who were supposedly 'cool' with the idea and now all 3 couples are divorced :(

[swifty]

Hi Shadows. Do you have 2 men threesomes or two women threesomes. Both ideas are exciting. By the way I saw on another forum some guy saying that 2 men threesomes mean that you might have homosexual inclinations. However, this is not always the case. When I watch porn I only see the man in the sense of what he is doing with the woman. Now that I think back I can always remember what the women looked like but can't remember the men. I have nothing against homosexuals but I myself have never found men attractive not ugly, just not noticed them.

Just an interesting point.

[swifty]

Redvixen,

Yes I think your advice is very sound. To go to a club see what it is like and then baby steps if at all. I would probably be against any alcohol at the beginning as well as it could blind one's true feelings (only to find them the next day).

[swifty]

Someone here talked about watching or hearing about your partner having cybersex, maybe that is a "super safe sex" way of exploring the fantasy :)

[JCcanU]

swinging or 3 somes are not for everyone, dont meen you cant think about it and get turned on. if you do try it you cant be jelus about it after thats what couses truble in the relastion.

[w9kw]

can b fun threesomes and cpls just not for every one

[missgrace]

ohh my guy and i went out.. and we both flirted, danced, kissed others..even a lil groping..but it stopped there.. we were so worked up when we got home. whew.. i LOVED seeing the women attracted to him.. and what a turn on.. to see his reactions.. whew.. mmmm

[robs2112]

My wife and I have talked about having another man with us. We have had another women with us but sexual contact was limited to oral for me. Still enjoyed the experience very much. The thought of watching my wife please another man is a huge turn on. Matbe someday...

[unctarheel_32]

wou;d love to watch my gf and another woman,that would be so hott.

[sawflyman]

My husband has wanted to see me with another man, in his presense. But, for him it was more of a threesome idea with another. He wanted to see me lose total control. He wanted it to be a joint effort in giving it to me to the point in which I could not take anymore. We had even talked with another man about it, but his jealousy began to peek with mere conversations, so.......

This is a huge decision. Maybe you two could start at an adult club first. Get the feel of watching others and the feel of them watching you. There is a lot of interaction there......it may give you a taste of exactly what you're getting yourself into.


Wow mighty your post has got me excited.............mmmmmmmmmm

[PunkyBob]

It is a difficult thing to think about. Fantasy-wise, I don't even have the inkling of my wife with another man. OR woman. There's just no interest at all, and it's due to me not having much interest in sex with her at all. That said, the idea of another man fucking someone I was in love with just doesn't work. I suppose it's a quirk/failure/whatever in me that I can't have enough faith in the relationship to let it happen. Although in the past I've been present when a girlfriend made it with another woman, and I have swapped partners before, but these were with women I loved and considered friends...not with my wife.

Maybe with a different wife...hmmm...

[GaMan]

I personally do not think I could participate in a threesome unless I was unattached to the other parties. I just see too many bad possibilities coming from a threesome with love interest involved.

With that said, I would love to have a threesome with two females.

[onceamarine]

I would love for wife to even consider it. I may have a vew reservations if I was actually watching someone else with her, but I would be way too turned on to care by that point. However, I think I would just be turned on that she was doing anything new and exciting at all.

[waterboy]

I would deal well with that.

[TheTurtle]

I would love to see my wife get sexually out of control, period. I would prefer it with another woman while I was present; and I fantasize about a 3 some. We have even talked about it, since she is bi-curious... but I doubt it will ever happen. She is terrified of STD possibilities, and just so inhibited in general.

[UltimateNaneki]

Yeah I would not want to partake in that either but would like to have fun on my own with out my wife knowing.... oops am I thiniking outloud again

Now forget about the 3some thing and the watching your partner with another....how about just watching your partner masterbate. Now that is exciting to be watched, I get so excited I tend to cum more. I want my lover to watch me and get excited, that is a turn on!!:55

[One Song Hero]

Now forget about the 3some thing and the watching your partner with another....how about just watching your partner masterbate. Now that is exciting to be watched, I get so excited I tend to cum more. I want my lover to watch me and get excited, that is a turn on!!:55
I would be so turned on to watch you pleasure yourself, Ulti. The fact that my watching you might make you hotter would make it oh so much hotter for me. This all sounds to me like a veritable sexual feeding frenzy!!! :whee:

[UltimateNaneki]

I would be so turned on to watch you pleasure yourself, Ulti. The fact that my watching you might make you hotter would make it oh so much hotter for me. This all sounds to me like a veritable sexual feeding frenzy!!! :whee:

You know...I never thought I would love to watch a man cum, but I was so wrong. Watching is exciting, knowing that he came just for me...what more would you want in life. There is no greater pleasure, if only we watched eachother more instead of argueing. One day I would loved to be watched by you One Song Hero....:kk

[Pepper1963]

It's fun to fantasize about, but going too far and actually suggesting she do it with another guy can be harmful if she's against it.

On the rare times when we've visited other cities, she'd loose up and dance and flirt with other guys. I'd enjoy watching from a distance and she and another guy grind it out on the floor. But that's as far as it goes.

We've done the fantasy stuff in the bedroom....with her being the center of attention of several "guys" who take turns getting their cocks sucked by her. Later on, as the sex got more intense, I started dropping hints to her about actually doing it with other guys for real. You could tell it bothered her, and I went on quick damage control to say I didn't for it to come out that way.

If she's the least bit hesitant about being with another partner, don't push it. It will cause problems. As for me, I think we'll continue some roleplaying in the bedroom and even letting her have her fun at the nightclub, but that's it.






Hi everyone. I have had a fantasy about watching my wife. Watching her flirt, dance, get a massage and even .......

It seems to bring up a little jealousy but huge excitement as well.

I have watched her flirt, dance and she had a sports massage while on vacation but I have not seen her doing any real sexual acts apart from kissing another man before we were married.

So the question is, does this kind of thing turn you on as well?
I won't ask is this normal as that is a dumb question but more appropriately is this ok for the relationship or is it playing with fire?

My wife gets turned on by this as well and we talk about it openly although she is much more reluctant to actually do something in real life. That does not mean she is against it totally. It really seems to be a murky area but I think we are mature enough to discuss it.

One of my greatest beliefs is to keep up communication in a relationship, it is the only way.

[papabear48]

I would love to watch a woman pleasure herself. Wife is not in the least interested tho

[LL]

The idea sounds great. I say keep it in your head (the one on top) and have fun with that when you need you know after that third time:sex and you can't seem to pop.....


If it does happen I'm thinking SWWWIIINNNGGGGIIINNNGGG!!

[duanehofner]

This is a huge decision. Maybe you two could start at an adult club first. Get the feel of watching others and the feel of them watching you. There is a lot of interaction there......it may give you a taste of exactly what you're getting yourself into.


Good advice Ms

[OICurready4me]

My husband has wanted to see me with another man, in his presense. But, for him it was more of a threesome idea with another. He wanted to see me lose total control. He wanted it to be a joint effort in giving it to me to the point in which I could not take anymore. We had even talked with another man about it, but his jealousy began to peek with mere conversations, so.......

This is a huge decision. Maybe you two could start at an adult club first. Get the feel of watching others and the feel of them watching you. There is a lot of interaction there......it may give you a taste of exactly what you're getting yourself into.


Do you think we should send him a video then?

[LL]

I would love to watch a woman pleasure herself. Wife is not in the least interested tho

dude heard that bro. mine (EX bi$%h) was all about herself never giving the eye candy like that, but I got a mind and play it my head (the one on top)

[romanceforu]

I'm IN on the threesome deal......

[skysthelimit]

Hi everyone. I have had a fantasy about watching my wife. Watching her flirt, dance, get a massage and even .......

It seems to bring up a little jealousy but huge excitement as well.

I have watched her flirt, dance and she had a sports massage while on vacation but I have not seen her doing any real sexual acts apart from kissing another man before we were married.

So the question is, does this kind of thing turn you on as well?
I won't ask is this normal as that is a dumb question but more appropriately is this ok for the relationship or is it playing with fire?

My wife gets turned on by this as well and we talk about it openly although she is much more reluctant to actually do something in real life. That does not mean she is against it totally. It really seems to be a murky area but I think we are mature enough to discuss it.

One of my greatest beliefs is to keep up communication in a relationship, it is the only way.


Great topic Swifty, man, we have got to talk......

I've had the same sort of fantasies about my own wife. wow, there's an understatement.... I have more fantasies about her than I can keep track of, but all of the variety you're talking about.

I think a lot of men probably have the same sort of ideas about their own wives, so I'll consider it normal. After all, look around the forums here..... which among us is any more 'normal' than the other.

Communication would be key. I think that making those fantasies come true could certainly be done, and I'm sure it happens more than we think. But both spouses would have to really be on the same page about it. I think if helps if both partners are truly crazy about the other. That level of trust and security would have to be there. Otherwise, I don't see how it could work.

Great topic. Way to go.

[musicman1181]

yeah, that is no mans land for me...No one else for my mrs. I guess I wonder if there are many women who would love a husband like that...one who allows them to do that? And vice versa of course...

[p.a]

Hi everyone. I have had a fantasy about watching my wife. Watching her flirt, dance, get a massage and even .......

It seems to bring up a little jealousy but huge excitement as well.

I have watched her flirt, dance and she had a sports massage while on vacation but I have not seen her doing any real sexual acts apart from kissing another man before we were married.

So the question is, does this kind of thing turn you on as well?
I won't ask is this normal as that is a dumb question but more appropriately is this ok for the relationship or is it playing with fire?

My wife gets turned on by this as well and we talk about it openly although she is much more reluctant to actually do something in real life. That does not mean she is against it totally. It really seems to be a murky area but I think we are mature enough to discuss it.

One of my greatest beliefs is to keep up communication in a relationship, it is the only way.

Been there done that and it was great! Wife and I use to swing. There was some jealousy at first because men tend to wonder if the other guy is better and or bigger. But once you get past that it is great. There are web sites you can go to to get an idea about swinging. The most important thing is to talk it out, set ground rules, be very selective, keep the playing field level and the most important rule is that NO means NO. It could be a great experience or a very bad one. Before my wife became menopausal we met a lot of nice people and had lots of great road trips.
It's not for everybody :whee:

[p.a]

http://www.avantfind.com/search.asp?keywords=facts+about+swinging
This may help

[blues]

I am totally arroused by the fantasy of watching my wife with another man. Not just going through the motions but an active and wanting participant. I have no idea why but it is my ultimate turn on. She gets really into it when we are in bed together but I dont think she would actually go through with it.
Thoughts?

PS - to make it even wierder its even better if its someone we know. We both lose it!

[a_hungm_houston]

would love to watch my wife be seduced by a man then taken

[Psynge]

I'd love to watch my wife...but I would be a little nervous that she'd like him better than me....

[Hands_solo]

would defiantly be a big turn on , I know we came close a cple times back when the ole hot-tub was holding water still, but she backed out - However , in her mind if she ever went thru with it , that give's me a free pass to fool around with another women , which she ain't down with - Gotta be a pretty secure relationship before u go down that road

[blu]

i dont think i could do that

[Danso]

Well I don't think I would like to watch my man getting hot with another woman....I would rather experiment different position with my man then share him with another!

Well, once you have run out of positions, you might start thinking about other people.

[Danso]

I would love to watch a woman pleasure herself. Wife is not in the least interested tho

I can offer a suggestion on this one. When she's reluctant to masturbate for you, you can try making it unbearable for her NOT to. Presumably you have several toys that you use on her. Take one of these, ideally not a super intense one and keep the touches very, very light. Tease her. If it looks like she's getting close to orgasm, back off and kiss her elsewhere (stomach, side, legs). Each time, when you come back, keep the touches very light and teasing. Eventually, she is going to really want to cum and something is going to have to give. It's entirely possible that she'll pull the toy out of your hand to use it on herself. The very least you should shoot for the first time is seeing her hand creep close to yours, indicating that she's considering it.

If she does help, even a little, let her know that you enjoyed that and that it turned you on. Don't make a huge deal out of it but make it clear that you're completely OK with her doing that. Do not do this each time you play, but do it on occasion, attempting to get her comfortable whit playing in front of you and gradually getting her to do a little more.

You might also make a point to talk about why she does not want to play for you. One good point to make is that it's really hard to know what she wants unless she shows you (every woman seems to like slightly different things).

It's a gradual process but the end result is worth it.

[calicple]

My wife and I have had our fair share of threesomes with other females. She is bisexual and loves the touch of another woman. she says she's not comfortable being with another man. Especially since she came out of the closet our so called (guy friends) have tried getting with her by asking her for pics or to hook up with their wife and giving them a threesome without me knowing. Not to jump off topic we have discussed the possibilty of another guy but she's not comfortable. She is open for a one time swap with another couple. but it would have to be same room. It would make her feel safer if im there and the fact that im with his wife turns her on!!! the couple we find interesting are old friends of mine and live in another state. the ladies have discussed it before but havent brought it up for a while now.

Watching her I know would be a turn on but also scary like other posts have said. so take it slow and talk it over with your wife go to adult clubs and adult conventions and see how far your sexual explorations want to go before jumping into something that you both might regret.

[goaway113]

I have fantasized about watching my wife with two other guys at the same time.

I often fantasize about my wife watching me with another woman...