Mother-in-laws

[jesikarabit82]

man my mother in law has to be the hardest person to get along with. what macks it so bad is that my husband wants desperately for her to like me and aways says " well just don't say anything, I'll talk to her " she is constantly under-minding me especially when it comes to our kids. really she needs to realize that she is the grandmother and not the mother but it annoience me to no end when she does stuff like give my 3 month old twins oatmeal. there not even old enough to eat from a spoon so she puts it in there bottle and then didn't even tell me. what if they had been allergic i would have looked real dumb. but not just that she didn't ask or nothing. i am constantly reading books, magazines, and talking to health care professionals and everything i do with hem is for a reason and here she comes acting like I'm stupid and don't know how to raise my children. but that's not even the worst she has done. about a month ago i found out that she doesn't even think our first son is my husbands. "what" she didn't even say anything to me shes been telling everyone else like my neighbor -that's who told me- now first of all there is no way hes not his seeing as how we were together a year before he came along but second if my husband hasn't ever said any different then where the fuck does she get off saying it? man she just gets on my nerves so bad i don't even want to be around her. and now its to the point i don't want my kids around her ether. i don't want them around someone who is going to talk shit about me. does anyone else have problems with there monster in laws or did i get one that goes beyond the normal annoience?

[sex_kitten_4u]

i used to get on very well with my ex husbands mum and dad i used to go see them twice a week and lunch on a sat , they where great peolpe pity about there son ,

[Waltert]

Yes, I get along with my mother-in-law, even though she advised my wife not to get involved with me when we were dating!

She is a nice lady.

[Sunfiresix]

I have always had good luck with Moms- in-law, found out my ex's Mom liked me a lot we got along ok--even had holiday dinners with her in the last few tears of her life, with new wifeand they got along good. Present wifes Mom was a doll she treated me like a son.

[Norfolkdave]

Cant say I do, shes dead

[mometal77]

I almost got married had nothing but problems with my fiances mother and her sisters all but one i got along with and she was the one that married once and had two kids by the same man who is a black hawk heli pilot.. Old man i worked with came up to me and said he had nothing but problems when his wifes mom was alive loved her but it was good that she moved on.. Some times when dating you meet great parents and jerks for daughters you cant win lol.. its visa versa i think and its hard.. great post.. I just feel good luck my life was a living hell even though she was 1.3 hrs away.. it worked out my dad is a jerk too.. hehe..

[MCat]

"She is the grandmother and not the mother"
Well, being as young as you are she probably is trying to help the best way she knows how. Of course I don't know her, but its a nice thought.

"She does stuff like give my 3 month old twins oatmeal. she puts it in there bottle and then didn't even tell me"
Oatmeal or Rice cereal mixed loosely with formula or breast milk can actually help the baby feel more satisfied. I know its not what doctors tell you now, but it worked for my kids.

"She comes acting like I'm stupid and don't know how to raise my children."
I hope she doesn't think you are stupid, she just doesn't know the best way to communicate her concerns to you. If you are only 23 years old, then of course anyone my age would think you don't know what you are talking about. I was 23 when I had my first child, at that age we don't really know how to care for a baby...the older ones around us have been there and they know what worked for them, I am very thankful I had my mother and grandmother to offer advice - and whether you want to accept it or not, most of the advice you get from mothers and mother in laws is good advice.
I am now one of the old biddies that can't help but put our two cents in, even if you don't want it :knuddel:

My very first grandchild is on the way....we have two grandchildren from my husbands older children - they don't live near us. This new one coming is my son's baby...they live in town, I can be a real grandma.

"I don't want them around someone who is going to talk shit about me."
Whatever you do, do not say bad or hateful things about your mother in law to your husband or your children. She is your husband mother....he is part of her and so are your children. If you put her down you are saying the same about them, she is family. The relationship between children and grandparents is very important. Don't do anything to harm that. You must be the kind,thoughtful person in this relationship....kill her with kindness....tell her you appreciate her suggestions and that you will consider them and maybe even try what she suggests. Follow up and let her know how it worked out. It might calm her down and she will think you are the cats meow for listening to her. If you must say something harsh to her, do it away from your kids. Have lunch with her and calmly explain your feelings and ask her to be more considerate towards you.

"Does anyone else have problems with there monster in laws?"
My husband was married before me. For only a couple years but he had 2 kids. My mother in law seemed to favor the ex wife over me. It took me along time to realize she was acting that way so she could remain close to the grandchildren from the first marriage. She used to do things like:

She called me before we were married to tell me I shouldn't marry her son

She called me by the first wifes name frequently

She wrote my daughters middle name the same as the first grand-daughters
(which it wasn't the same)

She gave my 3 month old baby girl a bite of icecream, I was irrate....but you have to choose what to fight about. I asked her not to do it again, that was not the way I was choosing to nourish my child.and it didn't kill the baby.

My mother in law was a smoker and I did refuse to let her hold the baby while she was smoking, I was not taking a chance of hot ashes falling on my precious bundle. It wasn't worth the fight to worry about the smoke smell on the baby after we left their house. I just gave her a bath and changed her when we got home.

I am determined to be the nicest mother in law ever. I won't interfere unless my daughter in law or son in law are causing harm to my children or grandchildren. I will however kindly offer my advice, if they choose to listen, that is their choice. Hopefully they won't hate me, and yes....I do think I know more than my young daughter in law, but she has mother and lots of aunts that know more than she does too. Hopefully they have raised her well and she will do a fine job of loving and nurturing my grandchild and caring for my son. I hope she will ask me for help if she needs it.

My greatest fear is that something will happen and she won't let me see my grandchildren....it would kill me. Please try to mend ways with your mother in law, let your children be close to her, let her love them, let her help you a little when you need it, especially if you are not close to or with your own mother. I hope she is the kind of woman that will let you be close to her.

I wish you all the best....kiss those babys! :knuddel:

P.S. Dang it Jazzy, how did I get the box again:D

[romancer522000]

Great advice Marycat !! I have had a couple of motherinlaws in my life and we all have to remember one thing . Our kids need to know only love for their grandparents and when we allow that I believe the inlaws will soften . Great job of explaining and wow wouldnt want to be on a debate team with you and Jazzy !!!!

[MCat]

Great advice Marycat !! I have had a couple of motherinlaws in my life and we all have to remember one thing . Our kids need to know only love for their grandparents and when we allow that I believe the inlaws will soften . Great job of explaining and wow wouldnt want to be on a debate team with you and Jazzy !!!!

I do get carried away...and thanks for saying it was decent advice. :knuddel:

[romancer522000]

I do get carried away...and thanks for saying it was decent advice. :knuddel:

I dont think you get carried away just very passionate in your feelings . Something I think you and Jazzy have in common .

[Sandy]

good advice mc, i couldn't have sais it better, i'm blessed mt mother-in-law, is great, so is my father-in-law, they welcomed us with open arms.

[kissiemybuttie]

I stay as far away from my mother in law as humanly possible...the woman is so "bitchy" and then wonders why no one likes her...she took me to court once early in mine and hubbys relationship for breaking and entering....when it was he son that did it i just happened to be there with him cuz he was sooooooooooooo drunk i did not want him to get hurt on his way home....still to this day she said it was me...the hell with her i dont need her....

[Jy]

Because I snuck it under your feet when you opened your mouth! I know whatever you have to say is worth sharing with everyone here! You are the voice of reason sweetie!:kk




P.S. Dang it Jazzy, how did I get the box again:D [/color]

[Jy]

I like your way of phrasing it Romancer! Passionate in our feelings sure beats calling myself a motormouth! Thanks honey!:kk



I dont think you get carried away just very passionate in your feelings . Something I think you and Jazzy have in common .

[Penny]

Very well said Marycat

[jaina]

Only put up with me because I married her son.

[Cotties]

I think you ladies should speak better of your mother in laws. You can all learn so much about taking care of your husbands better. And that's whats important!
go mummy.. i

[Penny]

Welcome jania :)



Only put up with me because I married her son.

[jesikarabit82]

okay well thank you for the input mc but i fill i need to defend myself this is a fight that has been going on for about 2 years and i have tried talking to her but she just wort listen. for example about the cereal when we found out that she was giving it to them we asked her not to and the very next day she gave it to them anyway and then lied about it. my husband specifically asked her if she did and she said no then when we got home and i was unpacking the diaper bag i found Jayden's outfit with cereal on it. my husband saw it to and i told him gee i wonder how that got there. well he was mad about it to so he called her and asked again. then she said yes. this is what I'm dealing with. and the real thing that pissed me off was since they get that fill at her house from the cereal. then when i bring them home and breastfeed, they are not satisfied. so here I've been fighting with them for 3 weeks even thought about giving up on breast feeding so that was my frustration or that. why could she just tell me, she gave them something? if someone gave your child something shouldn't they at least tell you? i don't think I'm out of line for wanting the same respect i give her. and i don't fill that since she is older she knows better. I've lived in that house with her and I've seen how she treats her other grandchildren and actually shouldn't leave my kids there at all and the ONLY reason i let them stay there unattended is because my husband want let me take them anywhere else. not even daycare.

[spare_change]

jesika --- the people on this site are here for you. If you want our input, we will give it to you. If you want us to commiserate with you, we will (course, you probably still get or input.)

But, my dear, I must say, if you don't want our input, don't ask for it. Your last post clearly indicates that you have decided to not even consider the advice you were given. I have yet to see a war fought by only one side -- it takes two to tango. Frankly, as I read your posts, it is clear to me that you go out of your way to find things to bitch about your mother in law. You see this as a battle for superiority -- either she wins, or you do -- no middle ground. Having been there, I can't tell you strongly enough that you are doing irreparable harm to the relationships between you and your mother-in- law, your mother-in-law and your husband, your mother-in-law and your children, and between you and your husband.

And, whether you like to hear it or not, as the younger person, it is your responsbility to mold to her, not the other way around. As MC says, I suggest that, instead of looking for something wrong in everything she says, you listen and sort out the pearls of wisdom in them.

That's my opinion -- and you asked for it. (Though, I'm pretty sure you didn't really want it).

[Cotties]

mmmm food for thought... good luck Jesika

[Norfolkdave]

Here here spare 100% words of wisdom and very very true. I would take heed Jesika what our friend Spare has said as it rings true.

[stonejack]

I get along great with mine , actually better than they get along . Same in first marriage . I would imaging that she changed opinion of me though .

[jaina]

when it comes to mother in laws just go with the flow

[Norfolkdave]

Actually although my mother in law is dead, I got on really well with her, she was an old softee, and she would do anything for me. Yes she was a woman in a million, infact I got on better with here and I did my own mum, she wasnt stuck up, she was placid and didnt argue, she had a rough life, and yet we got on like a house on fire, yes a marvelous lady, and i think that rubs into chris.

[surfnchat]

I guess I'm pretty lucky. I get along 100% better with my mother-in-law than my own mother. Go figure.

As for advice. Here's my general advice. The hubby and wife need to be on the same page on this and completely firm. If not, it's a losing battle and one person in the marraige will suffer a great deal.

[Sandy]

thats so true surf, you might want to try sitting down with her and talking to her, see if that helps.

[Penny]

I learned along time ago its not nice to fool with mother in law :D

[firefly]

No I don't like my mother-in-law.....I have absolutely no respect for her and how she treated her kids, not physical abuse or anything but definately not mother of the year. She caused some serious emotional scars which I get to deal with daily.

Now that being said.....I am nice to her and don't say negative things to her or about her around my husband or daughter. Whatever she did, she is still his mother and will always be a part of his life. They have worked some stuff out in recent years and hubby is trying very hard to forge a healthly realtionship with her. It is definately not my place to sabotage that or to put him in the middle. She has been nothing but good to our daughter, and while I don't ask her to babysit I am not going to not let her be a part of her granddaughter's life.

I guess my point is, don't put your husband in a position where he feels that he has to take sides....she is his mother and always will be. No matter what, that is a strong bond.

Giving the soapbox back before I break it.

[MCat]

the ONLY reason i let them stay there unattended is because my husband want let me take them anywhere else. not even daycare.

Guess hubby shouldn't have the final say where they stay since he's not the one trying to breastfeed :D Good Luck.

[Shiane]

I should really try to claim royalties off that movie, I've been calling her my monster-in-law for years. I do have to agree that you should try to get along with your in-laws and dammit its hard sometimes to keep your mouth shut. My M-I-L, hell I dunno I really dont' think she ever liked me and well the feeling was mutual. She made a big difference between the grandkids, but she also made a difference between her own kids. I think my hubby and I had most of our early fights over her, eventually he admitted that I WAS RIGHT. She would say things to hurt me to my face but never when my hubby was there. Still though for the sake of keeping the peace I kept my mouth shut. Over the years I dont know if things got better or not. All I know is that I decided I wasn't going to change her so I said F**K it, and stopped letting shit bother me and I am a much happier person for it. She will never be the grandma my mother is but hey she still loves the kids and doesn't make a difference in them anymore. She may not be my best friend but I respect her for who and what she is.

The strange thing is that I've noticed about the guys posts is that they like their moms-in-law. Hell my mom and dad treat my hubby better than his parents do, and he will tell you that. He will also tell you if he needed anything he would ask them before he asked his own parents. DAMMIT why do the guys get all the good mother in laws?

If you have a fantastic mother in law, be thankful, and if you don't well suck it up and live with it. When you married him/her, she was part of the package.

[hank69]

[QUOTE=Shiane]
The strange thing is that I've noticed about the guys posts is that they like their moms-in-law. Hell my mom and dad treat my hubby better than his parents do, and he will tell you that. He will also tell you if he needed anything he would ask them before he asked his own parents. DAMMIT why do the guys get all the good mother in laws?



Mine has been very good to me and the kids........father-in-law has been a good friend for many years...

[Shiane]

Mine has been very good to me and the kids........father-in-law has been a good friend for many years...

You are very lucky, I hope you know just how lucky you really are too:55

[spare_change]

The strange thing is that I've noticed about the guys posts is that they like their moms-in-law. Hell my mom and dad treat my hubby better than his parents do, and he will tell you that. He will also tell you if he needed anything he would ask them before he asked his own parents. DAMMIT why do the guys get all the good mother in laws?

The answer is easy -- we aren't in a contest for superiority. Most newly married women are --- and so is the monster-in-law. Once you figure out who's in charge where, it all settles down.
(It usually works out to "my house, my rules ---- your house, your rules") Guys, on the other hand, couldn't care less --- give us a beer and a picture of a naked woman and we don't care who the hell is calling the shots.

[Shiane]

The answer is easy -- we aren't in a contest for superiority. Most newly married women are --- and so is the monster-in-law. Once you figure out who's in charge where, it all settles down.
(It usually works out to "my house, my rules ---- your house, your rules") Guys, on the other hand, couldn't care less --- give us a beer and a picture of a naked woman and we don't care who the hell is calling the shots.

Jesus you sound like Jerry Springer and Montel rolled up in one!:na

[Trev]

I use to have a hard time with my mother-in-law and father-in-law. Now I get along great. I use to work where her father did and he would send me out on late night jobs and tell her that I was out partying with other women.

[spare_change]

Jesus you sound like Jerry Springer and Montel rolled up in one!:na

Sure -- but I look like Burt Reynolds!

[tinalee]

HUGE issues with MIL #1 !!! Turns out it was a cultural thing - she expected me to be someone I was not based on her son only telling her one of my 3 ethnic backgrounds. Unfortunately it was the background I was LEAST familiar with. His family was incredibly bizarre!! Not just because they hated me (they even TOLD me that) - although anybody who hates me MUST be at the very least abnormal....LOL.- but because they were so 2 faced and so sly about it. When with (former) DH they were all gooey gooey we love her kind of thing, but as SOON as he left the house they completely ignored me - like literally would give me a dirty look and turn away from me if I asked them a question. .....3 guesses as to why there is a DH # 2!!!!! From their perspective I suppose it was totally unheard of that their son would even consider dating (nevermind marrying) someone outside their family...er....ethnic circle (that was NOT a mistake)! The part that became the main issue was when DH admitted during a civil discussion about what went wrong, he said I expected too much to expect them (his family) to accept me as family since I didn't give them grand babies. I told him I would not give him grand-babies JUST to get them to like me. Next thing I know - I'm divorced!

Troubleshot that one well for number 2 though - current DH doesnt HAVE a mother!!! (er....LIVING mother). Good thing probably - because he's the baby boy of the family. NO CHANCE of getting in THAT door!

Now, MY mother is so looney she doesn't even know I HAVE a hubby....but thats another story....!

[tiger50]

mmmm here we have mil's, fil's, dil's and sil's and they are all bloody wankers..... good thing i'm not... a wanker that is, eh weeeellllllll bugger.... :lmao

[Cotties]

Well put Spare..I might tattoo that last sentence on my forehead just below the show us your tits love! The answer is easy -- we aren't in a contest for superiority. Most newly married women are --- and so is the monster-in-law. Once you figure out who's in charge where, it all settles down.
(It usually works out to "my house, my rules ---- your house, your rules") Guys, on the other hand, couldn't care less --- give us a beer and a picture of a naked woman and we don't care who the hell is calling the shots.

[tinalee]

If you have a fantastic mother in law, be thankful, and if you don't well suck it up and live with it. When you married him/her, she was part of the package.[/QUOTE]

I think they need to include THAT in the premari....what ever the he*$ you call it....courses!! I wonder how many (especially young) married-to-be's would actuallly go through with it if they KNEW it was a FACT that it was part of the package and they had to just DEAL with it.:sc

I agree with ya by the way!

Had I not been so young (and had known getting rid of her would NOT be an option) it would have seriously altered my decision.

Noting especially though - that this is my FORMER mil. :thankyou:

[tinalee]

okay that quote thing didn't work. what the heck am I doin wrong?!

[Penny]

Dont type inside or remove the little ] marks ;)

[Wet Beaver]

actually i wish i got a chance to meet my mother in law...

[Zpanther]

I've always got along well with my Mother-in-law. Got along well with my Father-in-law too ever since I got over him scaring the shit outta me with that shotgun years ago when I got his dear daughter pregnant.

[Rainmaker]

ok.. being 100 percent honest here.. if i knew that a hex on her wouldnt come back to me threefold.. she would have been a nasty toad yrs ago -LOL.. she cant stand to see us happy,,,always says i am too close to my kids(first of all WTF does that mean)oo i spend time with them....i want a refund on my inlaw.. imalways baking and doing stuff for them and cutting their grass and blah blah blah.. why cant they show me some respect.....grrrrrrrrr.. ok done venting

[Feelgoode]

I love my mother in law. She was always there when we needed her, and now I am there for her and my father in law. Couldn't be happier.

[Rainmaker]

I love my mother in law. She was always there when we needed her, and now I am there for her and my father in law. Couldn't be happier.

see why couldnt i have been blessed with that.. i never had my parents. i was hoping for a second chance with my inlaws :(

[Feelgoode]

see why couldnt i have been blessed with that.. i never had my parents. i was hoping for a second chance with my inlaws :(

Well, it has been a blessing to me, and hope yours turns around for you someday :kk

[Rainmaker]

Well, it has been a blessing to me, and hope yours turns around for you someday :kk

its horrible to say but if satan exist.. she is next door.. we can be having alovely day outside .. in the pool or doing whatever and she just has to walk over and give her 2 cents about our suits.. us being 2 loud and crazy.. i use to think it was because she wanted to join us.. so my oldest son and i started asking here,,,,,,omg.. she was not raised to act the way we do and blah blah blah.. so i just leave it alone now

[italian_princess0420]

yeah im not married to ryan yet..but we will be..and i have to say his mother is the BEST mother-in-law and girl can ask for. I love her to death..shes sooo cool. I have never seen her before and we had to go to ohio for christmas and i was goin to meet ryans mom and all of his other family.."oh joy" i thought..."these people are goin to HATE me!!!" well we drove up there w/ryan, me and our 2 chihuahuas and its a LONG drive, well we are almost there a few or more hours, and ryan calls her, hes driving and its night, so he hands me the phone and i talk to her for the 1st time. She was soo sweet to me, then she said she was goin to wait up for us, cause she didnt wanna go to bed, cause she knew we were comming. Ryan and i also were sick from the sudden change of weather, and she had gone out at 12 in the morning and bought ryan and i different kinds of medicine. Just remember she has never seen me befor, and she already buying me medicine. Well later on when we got there, she was totally ok w/ryan and i sleepin together, and i coud actually be mysef around her w/ryan. Unlike my grandma...she bitched ryan out for commin in the room at her house to say g-night to me. I couldnt act myself around ryan when im near my grandma...maybe cause shes italian:( . Anyways, later on while we were up there in ohio, ryans mom and i were at the table talkin for god knows how long...and she mentioned that she knew i was nice from the moment she heard my voice on the cell phone. I thought that was soo cool. I dont think ryans mom's mom liked me...she kinda acted like my grandma...whata meany:( . Ryans mom cryed and hugged me and ryan when we left to go back home. I usually dont hug people, but ryan, but i hugged her back..and she told me she loved me...i feel loved:D .

[snuggles]

jesika you have been offered some excelent advice here, dont sweat the small stuff, and dont try to turn your husband against his mom.i wont repeat all thats been said here,but please think about these two things that i've mentioned

[snuggles]

by the way, i dont like or really get along with my m.i.l. either

[Jy]

My first mother-in-law was an absolute gem, and after her son and I got divorced, I still kept in touch with her and attended her funeral last summer. She thought the sun rose and set on me, and we would shop together, bake and cook together, sew and knit together; all the things I never got to do with my own mom. I was blessed to have a woman like her in my life.
My current mother-in-law is a hard woman to get close to. She is judgemental, outspoken, critical and brisk. Not only that, she is extremely hard of hearing and refuses to wear her hearing aids; expects people to accomodate her by repeating everything or yelling at the top of their lungs. She's the polar opposite of my first mother-in-law.
So why do I even bother with her? Because she's my husband's mother, because she's had a difficult and trying life of 87 years, because she's my son's grandmother and I want them to have a relationship, and because life is too short to cut people out of one's life.

[yaser]

by the way, i dont like or really get along with my m.i.l. eitherI like the saying about mother in laws.!A good mother in law is ilke a potatoe who is under the ground.'

[cherokeered]

before my mother-in-law passed away a few years ago from alzheimers...she once told me she felt comfortable around me and could talk to me about anything...I am one of four daughters-in-law and she had a daughter but she felt I was her friend...yes, I loved that woman and miss her everyday...



:cry:

[yaser]

before my mother-in-law passed away a few years ago from alzheimers...she once told me she felt comfortable around me and could talk to me about anything...I am one of four daughters-in-law and she had a daughter but she felt I was her friend...yes, I loved that woman and miss her everyday...



:cry:That means you a good daughter in law and she is a good mother in law.

[Suzy_Q]

Does anyone actually like their mother in law? Now thats a loaded question..


My mother-n-law can be a bitch!!! When my husband and I had our first son ( her first grandson) she was always telling me how to raise him and I mean telling me not giving advise. but I was young and thought at the time it was advise. and she did after each one of my boys was born. She was alwyas telling me how she would do this or that or how to do this or that like she was their mother instead of me. it was so damn aggravating. and she still does to this day, but I have learned over the years to tell her to butt out when it none of her business. Here lately I have notice some things she does that if I had done I would get chewed out by her but its ok if she does, to her she is always right and doesn't do anything wrong,what really bad is she still treats my oldest boy who turned 14 in february this year like he is still baby. she always tells me I need to start treating him like an adult. but she don't, and she is constantly buying him things she knows my husband and I can't afford and we ask her "what about our other boys, did you buy anything for them?" she says no and then they feel left out and are dissappointed and think she loves their older brother better than them. so I make it a point to tell her if she buys for one she has to buy for all. And what really erks me is the only time she is easy to get along with is when everything is going her way. and when its not TAKE cover and stay as far away as possible cuz she takes out her anger on everyone. which is so very wrong. There was once she almost caused my husband and I to get a divorce and that was simply cuz she didn't think I should have any friends other than hers..she would tell my hubby that the friend I had was a guy and that he should keep tabs on me. but that one backfired on her cuz my hubby new about my friends and told her to butt out. it was about 3 months before he finally convinced her my friends were ok.. I shouldn't have to have her approval on who my friends are. I think her problem was that I was making friends and actually keeping them. don't get me wrong she knows how to make friends but her problem is when she thinks she finds a fault in them she will talk about them behind her back. I told my husband she is a 2 faced back stabber, and he agreed. But yea I get along with her some of the time so I am just going to go with the flow and hoping that someday she will see the error of her ways.

[Frank_2525]

I liked my Mother-in-law. We talked and laughted and she would let me play with her video games (she was addicted so bad that she got carpels tunnels). She welcomed me into her family and I never heard a negative word or felt like I was not wanted. She will always be a great lady in my mind.

[cherokeered]

take heart....it could be worse...I think

lol


:)

[Thighmaster]

I don't like my mother-in-law

She is an evil, controlling bitch who tried to rule every aspect of my wife's life up until the moment we got married... and she has tried to come between us on more than a few occasions.

[sweetgapeach]

My Mother in Law doesnt like me , but she doesnt like anybody , so , It doesnt bother me. In fact the meaner she is I try to kill her with kindness , I will do things for her without being asked and so forth, she never says Thank you , but thats expected, but I will not be mean to her just because she is to me, I have only said something once when she was talking bad about her Son, and she never did it again !

[Jy]

Now THAT'S the way to do it, Peach! Kill 'em with kindness!! If you treat people nicely when they're being nasty, it has a much more profound effect than lashing back at them. Then they have nothing on you! They can't accuse you of being a bitch; in fact, it usually shames them and makes them look foolish! That old bag doesn't stand a chance when you turn on that sweet southern charm!My Mother in Law doesnt like me , but she doesnt like anybody , so , It doesnt bother me. In fact the meaner she is I try to kill her with kindness , I will do things for her without being asked and so forth, she never says Thank you , but thats expected, but I will not be mean to her just because she is to me, I have only said something once when she was talking bad about her Son, and she never did it again !

[Dsparate No More]

I have tons of problems with my mother-in-law. I could take up pages just telling stories of how she has undermined our marriage. What bothers me more than her behavior is that my husband allows it to happen. So, no...I do not like her...I do not like her at all...I like her so little...I hopes she gets mugged at the mall...desperate I am...

[peaches]

My mother-in-law passed away in December, and I can truely say she was a wonderful person. We could talk about anything. And every time she got sick I was the only she ever wanted with her and I took care of her, right to the end when she passed away from cancer. I even sat with her for over an 1 1/2 till I was ready ro let her go. She had 3 daughers that didn't take care of her like I did and I even held down a job doing it. But she was the best of the best and I miss her with all my heart.

[Wil]

i see more women in this thread than men...maybe its just early...my MIL and i didn't get along initially..she was a difficult read..early on when my wife and i were dating..id sleep on the couch if we got in real late (i lived 60 miles away) and my wife would sleep upstairs...one nite the MIL says ...hell ur sleeping together everywhere but here so u might as well just go a head on upstairs..i thought, shes not so bad after all. Edith and i never argued just kept our distance...when Jack died (FIL) she mellowed alot and was happy to see me at family gatherings... everything is fine between us and has been for the last 10 yrs or so.......Could be that fact that at 22 yso when we met, i was a snot nosed prick and she didn't want her little girls life screwed up by some loser. Maybe now it's just the fact that we grew on each other and my wife dosent complain to her about me...either way it'll be tough to see the old girl go...

[tiger50]

uhh no..... neither of em.... but funny.. both father in laws were great guys.. got on well with them.....

[baby face]

I've been married now 9 years this June 13th, and I would have to say it the beginning I could not stand my mother in law.....She was very demanding tried to tell me how to raise my son and was always trying to butt in on how much money we made and how much we were saving and if bills were getting paid....I would get so frustrated. Now that we have grown up a little she has relaxed. I have 4 kids now not just one and I no she doesn't want to raise four kids...lol. She has grown to be one of my best friends. She would do anything for us. She usually keeps all four kids at least every other weekend so that my husband and I can have some breath time......this past week my mother in law got the news that they found two spots on her breast that look maybe like cancer. She gets her biopsy on Thursday and it scares me so much.....Not only does my husband need his mom but my kids really need their Grandma and I really love her too!!!!

[Cotties]

thats a BIG NO...she is a lazy ungrateful bitch....but she does act like she likes me

[Milk]

My mother in law is a very loving caring person. However, she is very spontaneous and says things without thinking. She's got too much energy and it's tiring to be around her. BUT, she did buy me my first virbrator and for that i will be eternally grateful.

[Parkergrey]

I haven't seen my MIL in 10 years. When my first daughter was born, I was out at sea on an aircraft carrier. My MIL came to stay with my wife to help her out. She stole from us while she was there! My wife was mostly raised in foster homes, but had reconciled with her mother - she was one of those nasty women who have more kids to get more welfare and abused their children. After the episode with the robbery we have not seen her again. My wife can't stand my Mom either, though at times they have gotten along well - or pretended to. I made the mistake of having my Mom live with us for a few months - she has a bad knee and we had a one-story ranch, so it was convenient for her. My wife didn't want her helping around the house and my Mom wanted to do everything - didn't work well at all. I would have to say that more than half of the fights I've had with my wife in some way involve my mother - even though we have only minimal contact with her now. Who started this thread anyway - I didn't want to ramble on and on about bad blood. Sorry if you've read this and wasted your time.

[IMaLady]

My mil and I get along great. She is always up for helping us with anything and is great to our kids.

[Dsparate No More]

My mother-in-law passed away in December, and I can truely say she was a wonderful person. We could talk about anything. And every time she got sick I was the only she ever wanted with her and I took care of her, right to the end when she passed away from cancer. I even sat with her for over an 1 1/2 till I was ready ro let her go. She had 3 daughers that didn't take care of her like I did and I even held down a job doing it. But she was the best of the best and I miss her with all my heart.


You are lucky to have had that kind of relationship with her. I am not a jealous person, but I am jealous of that.

[jake8675]

My mother in law is so freaking rich, I love her to "death"

[Missy38]

I always got along with my mother-in-law, now his Dad was a different story!! I can hardly wait to marry unctarheel, his mom and I have been friends for along time now...she's going to be the best mother-in-law!

[jake8675]

You know missy he will end up just like his Dad at some point !

[dartgirl]

The first ten years of my marriage my MIL and I got along great. I liked her tons better than my own mother, but when my FIL died she changed into a totally different person. I haven't spoken to her in probably 10 years. She only calls her sons on there birthdays and she hasn't seen or talked to her only 2 grandsons in over 2 years. I hate that women with a passion.

[pointofnoreturn]

Mymotherinlaw is a wonderful lady. The first time I met her and her hubby, we went out of town for a weekend(with hubby) was boyfriend. I got drunk passed out and got the mom's bed. I was afraid of meeting them, so I guess I missed the meeting. Woke up in middle of night and mother in law was on couch watching movie. I apologized to her, and she said no problem sweetie we all get nervous once in a while. She now has Dementia, and hardly knows any of us. She was great.But it is sad..

[scoobertina]

No, I don't like her.. and she has never liked me.. so we are even

[Annie]

Platoon Leader Is Soldier's Mother-In-Law
Man Says War Will Be Family Affair
June 6, 2007

ALBANY, Ore. -- Private Duncan Schneider has more reason to behave himself in uniform than most other members of the military: His platoon sergeant is also his mother-in-law.

Schneider and Sgt. 1st Class Lisa Mesteth are members of an engineer company with the Oregon National Guard. They're training for a year-long deployment in Iraq.

Schneider said he feels very good about serving under sergeant mom. He said he doesn't mind, since he can serve his country with a family member who also has experience in the military. He said it will make the tour of duty in the war zone a family affair.

Minutes after a mobilization ceremony Sunday he married his longtime sweetheart, Delaina Aguilera. They have a 2-month-old daughter.

The 20-year-old said that will be the hardest thing -- "being away from them."

But he said his wife will have the hardest part, taking care of a new baby without her mother or husband for help.

While Aguilera will be without a mother or a husband for the infant's first year, she said she's not worried. She said she has a lot of people to help out.

[unctarheel_32]

well actually i dont have a mother n law just yet,but my gf's mom and i do get along nicely.

[snowflake]

I have awesome in-laws, most especially my mother in law... Couldn't do it without her, she always steps up to the plate and helps when we need her the most... I hear horror stories from my friends about their mother in law, I lucked out... Thank goodness!!!

[DoratheExplorer]

My MIL was fabulous (she passed away last December). It helped that she had a sense of humor about her son. I could not have asked for a better IL period.

[freestyle99]

they are a little too much...

[My_Secrets_Kept]

My inlaws are wonderful, have always gotten along with them, never had a cross word between us. However lately my mil has been driving me a little batty! Not sure if it's me or her though lol!

[hoss]

i like my mother in law ....in fact theres a few things i like about her ...

I like the fact she lives half an hour away ...

I like the fact ....OWWWWWWWWWWWWW......not nice to hit a crippled man with a fryin pan !!!!

[peaches]

i like my mother in law ....in fact theres a few things i like about her ...

I like the fact she lives half an hour away ...

I like the fact ....OWWWWWWWWWWWWW......not nice to hit a crippled man with a fryin pan !!!!
lol..how can anone not like you...lol...how are you doing?

[Gray451]

My motherinlaw is a JERK

[RedVixen]

i like my mother in law ....in fact theres a few things i like about her ...

I like the fact she lives half an hour away ...

I like the fact ....OWWWWWWWWWWWWW......not nice to hit a crippled man with a fryin pan !!!!

:lmao :lmao:lmao:lmao:lmao

[hoss]

lol..how can anone not like you...lol...how are you doing?



aww..your such a sweetie ...I'm doing ok ..right now im sitting in a hotel room waiting for my son to graduate in a few hours ..the drive was hard but i managed ...think we may stay another day as my arms are quite weak ...

thanks for asking :kk

[hoss]

:lmao :lmao:lmao:lmao:lmao

i like it when i laugh ...ok ..i like watching your ass when u laugh ...

humanahumanhumana ..........

[RedVixen]

i like it when i laugh ...ok ..i like watching your ass when u laugh ...

humanahumanhumana ..........

Well then you'd really be happy about seeing my ass right now. I'm still :lmao...it's so bad tears are running down my face and my sides are going to split!

[peaches]

aww..your such a sweetie ...I'm doing ok ..right now im sitting in a hotel room waiting for my son to graduate in a few hours ..the drive was hard but i managed ...think we may stay another day as my arms are quite weak ...

thanks for asking :kk
congratulations.......you must be so proud...glad to hear you could make it.....i bet he is, too.....have a great time......we here are so proud of him...:D :55 :55 :55

[hoss]

Well then you'd really be happy about seeing my ass right now. I'm still :lmao...it's so bad tears are running down my face and my sides are going to split!

hmmm...if your side split ,do all you clothes split too ?...

in the mean time ...can u do some jumping jacks for me ...

[hoss]

congratulations.......you must be so proud...glad to hear you could make it.....i bet he is, too.....have a great time......we here are so proud of him...:D :55 :55 :55

yeh i guess my ex wife must have done something right .....the trick now is to sit as far away from her as i can .....:D

[peaches]

yeh i guess my ex wife must have done something right .....the trick now is to sit as far away from her as i can .....:D
just remember we are right behind you....and we will be cheering also...you just enjoy it and forget about her...

[paris]

My Mother in Law is the best! I'm lucky to have her. We've always been close but when my own mother passed away 3 1/2 years ago, our bond strengthened.

[freestyle99]

My Mother in Law is the best! I'm lucky to have her. We've always been close but when my own mother passed away 3 1/2 years ago, our bond strengthened.

That's something to be thankful for...

[RedVixen]

hmmm...if your side split ,do all you clothes split too ?...

in the mean time ...can u do some jumping jacks for me ...

Yep...and isn't that a vision :D
Okay - one jumping jack, two jumping jacks - oh christ, my boobs keep hitting me in the face - help me out here Hoss!

[hoss]

Yep...and isn't that a vision :D
Okay - one jumping jack, two jumping jacks - oh christ, my boobs keep hitting me in the face - help me out here Hoss!

i cant move ....but dont slip on the puddle of drool on the floor ...

im having the same problem ...my dick keeps hitting me in the face too

[hoss]

just remember we are right behind you....and we will be cheering also...you just enjoy it and forget about her...

sorry about the hijacking here ....

as it turns out ..we went and were late because we didnt have change for parking ,so by the time we got in there was very little seating ,we sat far away and then a man came over and called us ..it was my ex wifes hubby ...turns out they saved us seats ....we sat with them and my son was right in front of us ,afterwards we all went out and took pics ...my ex didnt say a word to me ,but i could see her checking me out ...lmao .............

[slick69]

DAMNIT. My wife went to austin last week for her job and the motherinlaw went with her. Now the mother in laws sleeping on a spare bed in my room. I havent got laid in 2 weeks and I'm about to blow!!!!!!!!!! lol. I guess that would explain the excessive alcohol????? Shes leaving back home thursday, right about then my wifes period will start:cry: Damnit!:sc

[Zifnab]

DAMNIT. My wife went to austin last week for her job and the motherinlaw went with her. Now the mother in laws sleeping on a spare bed in my room. I havent got laid in 2 weeks and I'm about to blow!!!!!!!!!! lol. I guess that would explain the excessive alcohol????? Shes leaving back home thursday, right about then my wifes period will start:cry: Damnit!:scis amazing how the timing works isn't it???:sc

[slick69]

LOL!! yeah, you could say that. It's like all the moons lined up to give the guy a good hard fu?!ing.

[Zifnab]

LOL!! yeah, you could say that. It's like all the moons lined up to give the guy a good hard fu?!ing.pulling the tides against you on your voyage home... Ulysses sort of journey.... best of luck...:whee:

[JCcanU]

Dude time to earn your Red wings get her turned on the flow will stop.

[RedVixen]

Hun, you're mother-in-law can't be around you both 24/7. Send her out for groceries or something...hell lock you and your wife in the bathroom and get it on in the shower :sex

[dpayen]

As a nicky newguy around here I should prolly keep my trap shut, but the only place a period should stop you is at the end of a sentence.

[Amaretto]

As a nicky newguy around here I should prolly keep my trap shut, but the only place a period should stop you is at the end of a sentence.

Hey welcome new guy! And I completely agree with you (just never heard it worded quite that way!) :D

[Zifnab]

you could always just go to it... iif she acts surprised just remind her that that is how your wife was made, so she must have at least done it ONCE!!!

[c50t]

:sexloud sex is the tactic I use to make my mother in law go home.
"yabba dabba dooooooo!"

[PlayfulMale69]

So how many have had sex in the same room as their parents or their spouses parents?

[wall-flower]

ohh you had to open the can of "mother-in-law". I can not stand mine!!!! She is a manipulative bitch!!!! Luckily the hubby agrees. She blames me for everything wrong in the relationship between her and my hubby. Their relationship was messed up long before I was in the picture. So yeah we try to keep visits with her on a once a year routine.

[snowflake]

I have a wonderful mother-in-law, she always pulls through for me when I am in a pinch.......... No complaints.............:)

[cheerymissy_34]

now when i first got married i HATED my mother in law...my husband was her youngest son and boy was he spoiled(hell what am i saying he is still spoiled)..but as years went on we became really really close and when she was diagnosed with lung cancer i was who she turned too...i was with her the day she died.

I came to love and respect her and all she had done and miss her everyday

[My_Secrets_Kept]

Don't think I could have asked for a better mother-in-law, treats me with respect and accepted me with open arms as if I were one of her own children. Although along with being treated as if I were one of her own comes the occasional advice that wasn't asked for and sometimes asking too personal of questions, but since we have a good relationship I take it in stride. Both her and my father-in-law are two of the most loving and understanding parents that I have ever met!

[1hotmommy]

I love my mother-in-law. She and I have always gotten along really well. She's a little old-fashioned sometimes for me, but all in all I love her.

[mrclark76]

I've been lucky as well here with my MIL. No complaints. She doesn't meddle, pick fights, over-indulge or any of that and she lives 3 doors down. Maybe that's because she spends 6 months out of the year (fall and winter) in Florida!

[p.a]

My mother in law is great. I think maybe I should have married her instead of my wife.:lmao

[cyclops]

Check out the legend below

[Papa Chubby]

My mom in law is a great lady.

She is almost 80 and a very calm lady.

If she lived with us, it would not bug me at all.

[Big O]

My outlaw sucked!
My present wife's mom is a sweetheart

[kjguy43]

We are now living with my mother in law, its not bad, but having to move back home really sucks!

[RedVixen]

I can't stand mine :(

[redcat]

I was blessed with really good in-laws. Dad is now gone; Mom's great.

[fire11614]

take em or leave em

[Domus]

my grandmother had a serious gas
problem.
we only saw her on Sunday.
she'd sit down to dinner
and she'd have gas.
she was very heavy,
80 years old.
wore this large glass brooch,
that's what you noticed most
in addition to the gas.
she'd let it go just as food was being served.
she'd let it go in bursts
spaced about a minute apart.
she'd let it go
4 or 5 times
as we reached for the potatoes
poured the gravy
cut into the meat.

nobody ever said anything,
especially me.
I was 6 years old.
only my grandmother spoke.
after 4 or 5 blasts
she would say in an offhand way,
"I'll bury you all!"

I didn't much like that:
first farting
then saying that.

it happened every Sunday.
she was my father's mother.

every Sunday it was death and gas
and mashed potatoes and gravy
and that big glass brooch.

those Sunday dinners would
always end with apple pie and
ice cream
and a big argument
about something or other,
my grandmother finally running out the door
and taking the red train back to
Pasadena
the place stinking for an hour
and my father walking about
fanning a newspaper in the air and
saying, "it's all that damned sauerkraut
she eats!"

by Charles Bukowski

[ksue7274]

Mother-in-laws will never change that is why you have to learn to be as aggressive as they are and don't let them shit on you. They don't worry about your feelings, why should you worry about theirs?

[lilolekimba67(f)]

do with or without

[jmuma62]

no coment

[Coderunner]

I guess I am fortunate. My mother-in-law is a wonderful woman. In many respectos more of a mom than mine was. I love her dearly and she lived in my home for close to 10 years. She is 87 today and to my sadness is in Hospice her end very near. I miss her and guess I have to say she is a positive part of this marriage I am in.

[redcat]

I guess I am fortunate. My mother-in-law is a wonderful woman. In many respectos more of a mom than mine was. I love her dearly and she lived in my home for close to 10 years. She is 87 today and to my sadness is in Hospice her end very near. I miss her and guess I have to say she is a positive part of this marriage I am in.


It's wonderful that you have a good relationship with her, Code. I'm sorry to hear of her situation though....thoughts with you and your family.

[redcat]

my grandmother had a serious gas
problem.
we only saw her on Sunday.
she'd sit down to dinner
and she'd have gas.
she was very heavy,
80 years old.
wore this large glass brooch,
that's what you noticed most
in addition to the gas.
she'd let it go just as food was being served.
she'd let it go in bursts
spaced about a minute apart.
she'd let it go
4 or 5 times
as we reached for the potatoes
poured the gravy
cut into the meat.

nobody ever said anything,
especially me.
I was 6 years old.
only my grandmother spoke.
after 4 or 5 blasts
she would say in an offhand way,
"I'll bury you all!"

I didn't much like that:
first farting
then saying that.

it happened every Sunday.
she was my father's mother.

every Sunday it was death and gas
and mashed potatoes and gravy
and that big glass brooch.

those Sunday dinners would
always end with apple pie and
ice cream
and a big argument
about something or other,
my grandmother finally running out the door
and taking the red train back to
Pasadena
the place stinking for an hour
and my father walking about
fanning a newspaper in the air and
saying, "it's all that damned sauerkraut
she eats!"

by Charles Bukowski

:lmao :lmao :lmao

[wall-flower]

I don't care for my mother-in-law. She is a manipulative bitch, and that is putting it nicely. I have a hard time holding my tongue, so I put her in her place quite often. Yes I am on her shit list as well. No biggie, my hubby isn't her biggest fan either.

[Alfa]

I must admit, I am very lucky in that my-inlaws are awesome!

They have extended their unconditional love for their children to their children's significant others (and grandkids).

For many years, I have had a tough relationship with my parents and, unfortunately, it has only been very recently where we have been able to begin repairing some bridges and I credit my in-laws for helping this to occur.

Although they probably don't realize it, they set a great example of how parents can interact with their adult children and their grandkids in a healthy, rewarding way.

Second, they helped me realize that my relationship to-date with my parents "is what it is" and will be what I choose to make of it (my words, not theirs). I know this sounds self-evident, but it hasn't seemed that way while living through everything that is behind these words.

Anyway, as I said at the top, I do realize I am lucky to have the in-laws that I do.

[Sparklineyez]

My mil is controlling and intrusive, other then that she is great lol

[stucknmarriage74(f)]

I love my mother-in-law...she is an awesome woman...although she is more like the grammma i never had.(I had a gramma but she was VERY mean and i hated her) In fact hubby and I r thinking of moving in to take care of her b/c she has early alzheimers.

[phantasm]

Unfortunately it is my mother that is the crazy one. She has this vision of what is right and wrong, how things should be done, etc.. When something goes other than how she sees fit, it results in tears, temper tantrums, verbal abuse of my father and anyone else who happens to be present. It is awful, especially around the holidays when we feel obligated to go see her. After the most recent trip, I think we just might have to disregard appearances and distance ourself from her. This really is a catch 22, because I love my dad and brothers and I truly enjoy going back home for all the memories and friends I run into. Anyway, I feel your pain, only in a slightly different way.

[fourisit]

okay well thank you for the input mc but i fill i need to defend myself this is a fight that has been going on for about 2 years and i have tried talking to her but she just wort listen. for example about the cereal when we found out that she was giving it to them we asked her not to and the very next day she gave it to them anyway and then lied about it. my husband specifically asked her if she did and she said no then when we got home and i was unpacking the diaper bag i found Jayden's outfit with cereal on it. my husband saw it to and i told him gee i wonder how that got there. well he was mad about it to so he called her and asked again. then she said yes. this is what I'm dealing with. and the real thing that pissed me off was since they get that fill at her house from the cereal. then when i bring them home and breastfeed, they are not satisfied. so here I've been fighting with them for 3 weeks even thought about giving up on breast feeding so that was my frustration or that. why could she just tell me, she gave them something? if someone gave your child something shouldn't they at least tell you? i don't think I'm out of line for wanting the same respect i give her. and i don't fill that since she is older she knows better. I've lived in that house with her and I've seen how she treats her other grandchildren and actually shouldn't leave my kids there at all and the ONLY reason i let them stay there unattended is because my husband want let me take them anywhere else. not even daycare.

I totally understand and dont agree totally with the "older" peoples imput. It is not your place to set the boundries between you and your in laws that is your husbands place. I love my mother in law but had a similar situation and my husband nip it in the bud early on. He told her that how we choose to raise our children is between us not her and if she has constructive things to say we will listen but he was not going to tollerate her interfence. She backed off because it came from him not me. I think parents have experience and can be very helpful. I dont know your mother in law she could be just be looking for a way to help or she may just be a person who likes to be right all the time. It is your husbands place to set the line she shouldnt cross and its his job to make sure its not crossed. When you marry you leave your Mommy to join with your wife and she needs to cut the apron strings. She needs to let you be the mom of your kids she already had her turn.

[spare_change]

I totally understand and dont agree totally with the "older" peoples imput. It is not your place to set the boundries between you and your in laws that is your husbands place. I love my mother in law but had a similar situation and my husband nip it in the bud early on. He told her that how we choose to raise our children is between us not her and if she has constructive things to say we will listen but he was not going to tollerate her interfence. She backed off because it came from him not me. I think parents have experience and can be very helpful. I dont know your mother in law she could be just be looking for a way to help or she may just be a person who likes to be right all the time. It is your husbands place to set the line she shouldnt cross and its his job to make sure its not crossed. When you marry you leave your Mommy to join with your wife and she needs to cut the apron strings. She needs to let you be the mom of your kids she already had her turn.


A wonderful job of putting your husband in a no win situation ... he has to choose between you or her. You win .... because the wife always does ... but at what cost?

If you had a problem with MIL, then you should have handled it. I'm curious how she could interfere without your complicity. She may be able to stand on the sidelines and carp, but that can be easily ignored. If, on the other hand, you use her as a free babysitter or nanny, then I would suggest that you have given her the right to have input. Like it or not, your child is related to her, as well, and she does have a right to have input, just like you have the right to choose not to do what she says. I presume you both have the child's best interest in mind. Who knows? She just might be right ... but you would let your power struggle interfere with what's best for your child.

Clearly, I don't know you or your mother in law, but I can guarantee I have seen the damage done to a family when two generations argue about who is in charge, and I've seen the damage done to children because family is alienated. It ain't about who's boss, it's about what's right.

By the way, you sound just like me when my kids were young. I fought my MIL for years and years ... I kept my children from them, even on holidays. I wouldn't allow her into my house. The damage done to my kids, and to the relationship with my spouse, far outweighed the ego boost I got, but, what the hell, I won --- that's the important thing.

They say "It takes a village to raise a child" .... which is true, unless, of course, it's your spouse's mother.

[Crawfish]

man my mother in law has to be the hardest person to get along with. what macks it so bad is that my husband wants desperately for her to like me and aways says " well just don't say anything, I'll talk to her " she is constantly under-minding me especially when it comes to our kids. really she needs to realize that she is the grandmother and not the mother but it annoience me to no end when she does stuff like give my 3 month old twins oatmeal. there not even old enough to eat from a spoon so she puts it in there bottle and then didn't even tell me. what if they had been allergic i would have looked real dumb. but not just that she didn't ask or nothing. i am constantly reading books, magazines, and talking to health care professionals and everything i do with hem is for a reason and here she comes acting like I'm stupid and don't know how to raise my children. but that's not even the worst she has done. about a month ago i found out that she doesn't even think our first son is my husbands. "what" she didn't even say anything to me shes been telling everyone else like my neighbor -that's who told me- now first of all there is no way hes not his seeing as how we were together a year before he came along but second if my husband hasn't ever said any different then where the fuck does she get off saying it? man she just gets on my nerves so bad i don't even want to be around her. and now its to the point i don't want my kids around her ether. i don't want them around someone who is going to talk shit about me. does anyone else have problems with there monster in laws or did i get one that goes beyond the normal annoience?


Sounds like you maried a moma's boy. I cut my mom out a long time ago! Your husband needs to be on your team.