Deal Breakers?

[Sneaky]

Say you meet someone online. You exchange pics, some e-mails, talk on the phone and, if you live with in a reasonable distance you decide it's time to meet. You are attracted to them physically, they are attracted to you. Everythings great! What is something that would be a deal breaker for you? You would call the whole thing off because of it?

For me if someone was rude to a waiter or waitress, that would be a deal breaker. I truly believe you can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat the waiter or waitress. Another for me is bad table manners and talking with your mouth full.

What about you?

[tiger50]

Say you meet someone online. You exchange pics, some e-mails, talk on the phone and, if you live with in a reasonable distance you decide it's time to meet. You are attracted to them physically, they are attracted to you. Everythings great! What is something that would be a deal breaker for you? You would call the whole thing off because of it?

For me if someone was rude to a waiter or waitress, that would be a deal breaker. I truly believe you can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat the waiter or waitress. Another for me is bad table manners and talking with your mouth full.

What about you?


well if i found out she had a dick.....:sc

[ZoeZachary]

For me it would be even the slightest hint of a controlling personality.

[yaser]

For me it would be even the slightest hint of a controlling personality.
Don't worry..I love to be driven, :lf Zoe..

[ZoeZachary]

Don't worry..I love to be driven, :lf Zoe..

Yeah, except that when I'm doing the driving, it's to the point of "no return." Might be more than you can handle, Yaser.

[yaser]

Yeah, except that when I'm doing the driving, it's to the point of "no return." Might be more than you can handle, Yaser.
I am a workaholic hun.. :lf

[cherokeered]

If his boobs are bigger than mine....:D



actually....poor hygiene...bad manners....drinking too much....and bragging

[yaser]

If his boobs are bigger than mine....:D



actually....poor hygiene...bad manners....drinking too much....and bragging
I have heard Tiger is an alcoholic..Addicted to the drinks of ru blood..

[tiger50]

If his boobs are bigger than mine....:D



actually....poor hygiene...bad manners....drinking too much....and bragging

woohoo, i think i qualify.....:D

[surfnchat]

If her "ex" is about to get out of prison! :D

[Micwar]

The pic was 15 years old and 200 lbs lighter....

[Phlirt]

Lying... if they lied about anything, looks wise or personality wise.

[Operator Bob]

Sneaky - the way the person dressed and their appearance would be a sign for me, too. If I had set up a date with someone and they looked like they just got out of bed, then I would have second thoughts. Geez, it took a lot to get this far and I would have expected the same courtesy.

[surfnchat]

Lying... if they lied about anything, looks wise or personality wise.

How does the saying go... "Get laid before you lie?" :D

[whosdaflirt]

Bottom line...if I found out they lied to me...about anything for any reason...it's over. I need an open and honest relationship...too many marriages are missing that already...

[Annie]

Lying... if they lied about anything, looks wise or personality wise. I'm with you there... no matter how small it might seem. I do not tolerate any form of dishonesty!

I'm also with Zoe about a controlling personality. I was once married for a very sort time to one of those types. It got really ugly... fast!

[Suz]

Bottom line...if I found out they lied to me...about anything for any reason...it's over. I need an open and honest relationship...too many marriages are missing that already...

I used to say that very thing till I found out I had been lied to by someone I really cared about...sadly I let him talk his way out of it...never again, not worth the pain, or disrespect I felt after I took him back...not enough ass kissing, that part is for sure.

[Sweetdreams069]

Say you meet someone online. You exchange pics, some e-mails, talk on the phone and, if you live with in a reasonable distance you decide it's time to meet. You are attracted to them physically, they are attracted to you. Everythings great! What is something that would be a deal breaker for you? You would call the whole thing off because of it?

For me if someone was rude to a waiter or waitress, that would be a deal breaker. I truly believe you can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat the waiter or waitress. Another for me is bad table manners and talking with your mouth full.

What about you?

Agree with you Sneaky. Also about the lying thing. I think I can get a good feel of what the person is like and whether there is a good vibe there and if we're compatable or not pretty quickly. Guess there could be alot of things that could be deal breakers though.

[Pink4You]

Bad breathe, smelly and rudiness

[snowflake]

Hmmmm..... do the vibrating kind fall in this category? lol........

well if i found out she had a dick.....:sc

[AffableOne]

Lying would kep me from meeting. Either lying to me, or when they talk about lying to other friends.

Once we met, dealbreakers as far as pursuing a closer relationship would include appearance, and overall chemistry. Do I feel attracted to her, and do I enjoy being with her? If I were to meet someone, I would want to know that we have more to share than just spit and sperm.

[scoobertina]

Lying would kep me from meeting. Either lying to me, or when they talk about lying to other friends.

Once we met, dealbreakers as far as pursuing a closer relationship would include appearance, and overall chemistry. Do I feel attracted to her, and do I enjoy being with her?

Damn, I just lost out on this guy too... just my luck.. okay Aff, I may not be HOT but you would enjoy me... ;)

[AffableOne]

Damn, I just lost out on this guy too... just my luck.. okay Aff, I may not be HOT but you would enjoy me... ;)

How did you lose out, silly?

I would enjoy you!

I just am not looking to meet anyone new....but you know good friends like you are always welcome to share a drink ;)

[ZoeZachary]

I am a workaholic hun.. :lf

All work and no play makes a man dull.

[pointofnoreturn]

If I asked him if he was amurderer, and he said no..Then when I met him I had seen his pic on the most wanted sign. Well yeah that might do it....

[oldsoul3426]

Say you meet someone online. You exchange pics, some e-mails, talk on the phone and, if you live with in a reasonable distance you decide it's time to meet. You are attracted to them physically, they are attracted to you. Everythings great! What is something that would be a deal breaker for you? You would call the whole thing off because of it?

For me if someone was rude to a waiter or waitress, that would be a deal breaker. I truly believe you can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat the waiter or waitress. Another for me is bad table manners and talking with your mouth full.

What about you?
I would have to agree with you completely. I look for all those same things. I would have to add I like to have someone that can care a conversation. I have to be mentally connected with them lto. Don't get me wrong look do have big part in it. But I love a smart women. Hey thats just me.

[Sneaky]

I would have to agree with you completely. I look for all those same things. I would have to add I like to have someone that can care a conversation. I have to be mentally connected with them lto. Don't get me wrong look do have big part in it. But I love a smart women. Hey thats just me.

Very good quality. I am with you on this. Sometimes you can meet someone very physically attractive in the comercial sense, but if they don't have much else going on, it's hard to have any lust or longing for them. I'm with you there-

[scoobertina]

How did you lose out, silly?

I would enjoy you!

I just am not looking to meet anyone new....but you know good friends like you are always welcome to share a drink ;)

Awww hon, it was all in jest.. I knew I couldn't have you, but maybe one day when yours are done with you... and mine are done with me.... ;)

Nawww.. that would ruin a great friendship!

[oldsoul3426]

If his boobs are bigger than mine....:D



actually....poor hygiene...bad manners....drinking too much....and bragging
I completely agree with you. Being clean a must for me to.

[oldsoul3426]

Very good quality. I am with you on this. Sometimes you can meet someone very physically attractive in the comercial sense, but if they don't have much else going on, it's hard to have any lust or longing for them. I'm with you there-
That turns me on more than a beautiful women and intellectual women and being beautiful makes it that much better.

[Sneaky]

That turns me on more than a beautiful women and intellectual women and being beautiful makes it that much better.

You have good taist

[oldsoul3426]

You have good taist
thank you. I am a picky one to please though.

[Sneaky]

thank you. I am a picky one to please though.

Me too. That's called being selective. :D

[oldsoul3426]

Me too. That's called being selective. :D
Yes it is. What are you like if you don't mind me asking

[onceamarine]

if at any time during our conversation she even hints around that she has cut a mans penis off because she was mad at him.

[pointofnoreturn]

If his feet are smaller than mine....

[cherokeered]

Bringing a friend along or a spouse.....doing drugs or smoking.....being obnoxious

[oldsoul3426]

Bringing a friend along or a spouse.....doing drugs or smoking.....being obnoxious
That would be a deal break I would have to agree.

[Phlirt]

:( I smoke

[Guymisseswife]

:( I smoke

yeah well lets go outside and have one then

[wall-flower]

if at any time during our conversation she even hints around that she has cut a mans penis off because she was mad at him.

What if the lady just idolizes the Bobbit lady?

[TheTurtle]

From one guy's perspective:


Overly made up (or is it poorly made up?) Maybe it's a form of lying. When I see a woman who looks like her face cake might crack if she changes expression, or is one color to the neck, but her plunging neckline is a totally different color, then I get seriously put off. Don't get me wrong; I love a good make up job. It should show me more of who you are, highlighting what you think are your best points. But I want to see you as you are. :wa:

Sloppy (as opposed to slovenly) doesn't turn me off much; but being overly concerned with hygeine (believe it or not) can be a deal breaker. I went out once with a girl who went to the bathroom to brush her teeth after dinner and before the movie; after finishing her DOTs during the movie; and before leaving the bar after the movie. She had a very nice smile, and her mouth tasted fresh, but I think once would have been good enough... :na

[TheTurtle]

If his boobs are bigger than mine....:D





Question: What if he had boobs because he lost 250 pounds? But had a great personality, was physically fit now (and could prove it :D ) and a good looking face?

Women always talk about being relationally oriented; are looks (as in body shape) a deal breaker?

[Pebbles]

If his feet are smaller than mine....

Have to agree with that one!

[onceamarine]

What if the lady just idolizes the Bobbit lady?

Any mention of Bobbit is an absolute deal breaker.

[TheTurtle]

Any mention of Bobbit is an absolute deal breaker.

It makes me shudder at the hips to even think of her <shudder>!

[pointofnoreturn]

An ace up his sleeve????

[MIGHTY]

For me it would have to be respect. I'm not talking the pull out all of the stops kind. I'm talking simple human nature. You must have respect for not only myself but those around us.......

[cherokeered]

Question: What if he had boobs because he lost 250 pounds? But had a great personality, was physically fit now (and could prove it :D ) and a good looking face?

Women always talk about being relationally oriented; are looks (as in body shape) a deal breaker?


Hun...I have DD boobs...if they are bigger than mine...we got issues....lol

I also dont like when the conversation is all about them...and if ya say something...they turn it back to them again....

[TheTurtle]

Hun...I have DD boobs...if they are bigger than mine...we got issues....lol



OK! You got me there! :lmao I aint never seen a guys that large!


I also dont like when the conversation is all about them...and if ya say something...they turn it back to them again....

But with such... "vast tracts of land", :dd surely you can allow your average guy to dwell upon them fullsomely? :whee: You know one way to shut him up would be to take him out on the dance floor and simply crush him against you... I bet he would be quiet about them then... :D

[OICurready4me]

If I reached up her skirt and found something like what I have between my legs....I'm getting the fuck out of there in a hurry!

[Pink4You]

Too much hair on a man's body. Trim, wax, do something.

[a_hungm_houston]

she turned out to be a relative !! co worker, or my boss haha

[MIGHTY]

Lying has to be it for me....I hate it when he underestimates my intelligence......

[a_hungm_houston]

good one mighty its a covert activity no need for someone you can not trust

[MIGHTY]

good one mighty its a covert activity no need for someone you can not trust

Thank you houston and welcome to the site.......:wa:

[Wil]

Sneaky made a very good point right off...how they treat others...waiters and such and not listening to their non-stop life story...

[flake68]

Despite being attracted to them (which is important).....

If there was no conversation, communication, and common interest, I would eventually lose interest in her. I need someone who I can relate to, laugh with.

Oh, and have sex with....................:whee:

[Djs1967]

C

[Djs1967]

Feet

[Torin]

Lying... that kills it for me.

No matter how unpleasant the truth may be.... I'd rather hear that than catch someone in a lie.

[Djs1967]

stinky feet

[Sensual Woman]

Lying... that kills it for me.

No matter how unpleasant the truth may be.... I'd rather hear that than catch someone in a lie.

Me too.

[Fargo...really]

If she suddenly mentioned that the reason she wanted to get together was to get back at her significant other by being with someone else. At this point, I would politely, end our time together and bid adieu, as there would otherwise be many problems ahead.

[stucknmarriage74(f)]

im with the majority on this one...lying would do it for me

[private beaches]

Lying, being selfish, inconsiderate, verbal abuse or drug dependency-that would do it for me.

[christinalee]

funky smelling feet!! sounds funny, but really it's not!! Other than that I'd say private beaches is right on target!!

[flake68]

funky smelling feet!! sounds funny, but really it's not!! Other than that I'd say private beaches is right on target!!

Gee, hope my feet don't smell.............;)

Nice avatar..................

[curiosity101]

AND if her dick was bigger than mine!! Forget about it!:nu well if i found out she had a dick.....:sc

[Sparklineyez]

lack of respect, rudeness, needs a bath and lying would be dealbreakers for me.

[pointofnoreturn]

If i went to meet him somewhere, and.........He brought his wife..........Deal breaker sorry!!

[Huzyerdaddi]

Don't be such a fuddy-duddy.



If i went to meet him somewhere, and.........He brought his wife..........Deal breaker sorry!!

[Shawn_N_Sandiego]

Yellow toenails...yeah that would suck

[pagirl]

Lying, being selfish, inconsiderate, verbal abuse or drug dependency-that would do it for me.

This says it all for me as well!

[Kevin7284]

a laugh

[Low Rider]

Inexperience (sexually), bad breath, toooo talkative, unintelligent, oh….and can’t bait her own hook!!!!! :lf

[Nick182]

for me... it would be if she started hinting towards future plans of her and I...

[Shawn_N_Sandiego]

Why does this strike me as impossible?:lmao

Inexperience (sexually), bad breath, toooo talkative, unintelligent, oh….and can’t bait her own hook!!!!! :lf

[OICurready4me]

an annoying voice....can't stand to listen to some women's voices that screech or sound like a cackle

[Torin]

oh….and can’t bait her own hook!!!!!

You would actually consider that a deal breaker??!?!

[PunkyBob]

Possessiveness...

[Atrebla Rose]

if he's mean to his mom,,,,,,,,,,,,kidding, sort of,,,,,rudeness, bad hygiene!!!

[fun2bewith1972]

I would call it off is she was a he or if they sent a fake pic then you know its trouble

[fun2bewith1972]

If more than one person showed up to meet, say she brought a friend. Is that a set up

[Sunfiresix]

overbearing---I like equality.

[private beaches]

I would call it off is she was a he or if they sent a fake pic then you know its trouble

Yeah, that WOULD be pretty bad! LOL

[Atrebla Rose]

that would suck big time

[Sylar]

If "she" turned out to be "he"...but I digress...lol

[private beaches]

If its all taking and no giving:(

[JCDxn]

If "she" turned out to be "he"...but I digress...lol
okay, if he turned out to be a she... oh, wait.. that wouldn't matter to me...lol

[niceones]

If they misrepresented themself, have bad shoes, personal hygeine.

[Huzyerdaddi]

Bad shoes huh? Care to expound? I'm fascinated with people's opinions of shoes.



If they misrepresented themself, have bad shoes, personal hygeine.

[Sylar]

okay, if he turned out to be a she... oh, wait.. that wouldn't matter to me...lol

Oh Mah Gawd. And just when I thought you couldn't possibly be any cooler. ;)
But if it makes you feel better, liking the ladies, and all...you can call me Shirley. :lmao :lmao

[JCDxn]

Oh Mah Gawd. And just when I thought you couldn't possibly be any cooler. ;)
But if it makes you feel better, liking the ladies, and all...you can call me Shirley. :lmao :lmao
Hey shirley.... LOL

[My_Secrets_Kept]

lying - i'd rather hear the truth no matter how painful it may be

making promises that you have no intention of even keeping, don't blow smoke up my ass by telling me what you "think" i want to hear and then do the complete opposite

all taking and no giving - self centered selfish behavior

complete lack of "showing" how you feel, actions do speak louder than words, you can tell me all day how much you care for me but unless you're willing to act on and show those emotions the words become meaningless

[rizz]

If they misrepresented themself, have bad shoes, personal hygeine.
ok-have to ask about the shoes-lol

[dave42]

missing teeth, Man hands, smoker, annoying voice,Voted for hillary.

[Sparklineyez]

rudeness

[sexytiger]

rudeness


Never rude...Treat all the ladies with the respect they deserve..

Unless they want to be frisky :D

[Sylar]

I would say a definite deal breaker is a 6000 point difference in a card game...I need a CHALLENGE!!!:lmao

[Torin]

I would say a definite deal breaker is a 6000 point difference in a card game...I need a CHALLENGE!!!:lmao

You really shouldn't brag like that.... its just tacky. :D

So, out of the 6 years we have been together, and probably a thousand games of cards, the total score is:

Yasha:3
Torin: 997

:lmao

[Sylar]

You really shouldn't brag like that.... its just tacky. :D

So, out of the 6 years we have been together, and probably a thousand games of cards, the total score is:

Yasha:3
Torin: 997

:lmao

I BEG your pardon, mistress....but I have 7, thank you very much. I know you weren't counting the four times I beat you because you were drunk...:lmao

[noodlegurl]

Someone who has misrepresented themself.....

[Torin]

I BEG your pardon, mistress....but I have 7, thank you very much. I know you weren't counting the four times I beat you because you were drunk...:lmao

Well, naturally they don't count if I don't remember them... :D

[Sylar]

Well, naturally they don't count if I don't remember them... :D

Oh, you remember...when you're drunk is the only time we 'bet'...:lmao

[dave42]

Bad shoes huh? Care to expound? I'm fascinated with people's opinions of shoes.Yeah, Me too. I have heard that women check out guys shoes. A bit bizzare untill I thought about it. What is the one thing that women love to shop for and buy?

[private beaches]

Not being able to communicate w/ each other once in a while

[nolefaninal]

bad hygiene

[laineycali]

I dont know if im in the right part of the meeting but to me if your hitting it off and they suddenly become intense or go into overdrive about ur relationship, meeting, or the dreaded cyber sex!!!... seems thats what i run into its a nice convo honest up front .flirtatious ..and suddenly they want to come over......the jump freaks me out and i shut it down!!!....

[private beaches]

Dealbreaker: If he's not a patriot fan today - IT was nice knowing ya baby:wa:

[dave42]

I would say a girl who is too clingy, some one passionate is nice, But some people need their space. If you are starting a new relationship, Especially after you have been married. ou are more likely to want to take things slow and get to know someone before pouncing on them. I have had relationships with women where we would hop in bed right away, Then after a month or two I got to know all their quirks and find out they are not for me. Then I have to figure out how to get rid of them without causing a major amount of trouble.

[bigrred30]

If her farts are louder than mine. LOL

[James1981]

I would say if the person lies. About anything, i mean whats the point. I met a girl in person once after meeting online and both of us were trying to evade a crappy relationship. I found out she lied to me about seeing someone else also. I honestly didn't give a crap but whats the point in lying, especially when you've got nothing to lose.

[dave42]

I would say if the person lies. About anything, i mean whats the point. I met a girl in person once after meeting online and both of us were trying to evade a crappy relationship. I found out she lied to me about seeing someone else also. I honestly didn't give a crap but whats the point in lying, especially when you've got nothing to lose.Sounds like she was a bit of a player.

[Torin]

I would say if the person lies. About anything, i mean whats the point. I met a girl in person once after meeting online and both of us were trying to evade a crappy relationship. I found out she lied to me about seeing someone else also. I honestly didn't give a crap but whats the point in lying, especially when you've got nothing to lose.

Yep... lying is really the ONLY deal breaker for me. I just don't see the point in it... you almost always get caught, and then things get ruined that could have otherwise been dealt with and moved past.

It all comes down to honesty for me.

[IsThisIt@50?]

Dishonesty (lying) really shuts a relationship down for me quickly. If you can't trust what they say to you, what do you have to build the relationship on? It is too easy to be straight and not play games. Am too old to play games... just not doing it.

[trucker200719]

Dishonesty (lying) really shuts a relationship down for me quickly. If you can't trust what they say to you, what do you have to build the relationship on? It is too easy to be straight and not play games. Am too old to play games... just not doing it.
is.... you are so right i am only 43 but i am so sick and tired of the games beening played

[laineycali]

lol trucker i love u said only 43.............yay.. im only 44... :D

[pointofnoreturn]

If he wants change for a twenty.....That is a deal breaker.....:D

[Sneaky]

Dishonesty (lying) really shuts a relationship down for me quickly. If you can't trust what they say to you, what do you have to build the relationship on? It is too easy to be straight and not play games. Am too old to play games... just not doing it.

Yup! Words are JUST words unless actions and honesty follow them. Don't tell me one thing and do another. I'm not blind.

False memory syndrom is another. Don't re-write history according to what you think it was, or WISH it was to make me look like the bad guy.

[Torin]

Yup! Words are JUST words unless actions and honesty follow them. Don't tell me one thing and do another. I'm not blind.

False memory syndrom is another. Don't re-write history according to what you think it was, or WISH it was to make me look like the bad guy.


Hell yeah... I totally agree Sneaky. Actions speak soooo much louder than words.

False memory syndrome... that's a good one. :D And one that pisses me OFF.

[Sneaky]

Hell yeah... I totally agree Sneaky. Actions speak soooo much louder than words.

False memory syndrome... that's a good one. :D And one that pisses me OFF.

Yeah!

"Don't pee on my leg and tell me it's raining".
-Judge Judy

LOL!;)

[merdock67]

I guess the only deal breaker would be if she stoped breathing

[Torin]

Yeah!

"Don't pee on my leg and tell me it's raining".
-Judge Judy

LOL!;)

:lmao I'll have to remember that one the next time someone claims to have forgotten something... :D

[sexytiger]

The false memory is a tough one. I might disagree with that because people remember things in different ways. I get in arguments all the time because my wife remembers things one way and I am different. But of course the lady is always correct. :(

[Sneaky]

The false memory is a tough one. I might disagree with that because people remember things in different ways. I get in arguments all the time because my wife remembers things one way and I am different. But of course the lady is always correct. :(

Yeah. That is an annoying thing in an IM relationship. You can't deny you said anything because they can copy and paiste it right back at you!:mad:

Not that it's happend before to ME. I just heard about it from a friend...:sg

[VeryBlueEyes]

hairy backs on women

[Shafe]

Say you meet someone online. You exchange pics, some e-mails, talk on the phone and, if you live with in a reasonable distance you decide it's time to meet. You are attracted to them physically, they are attracted to you. Everythings great! What is something that would be a deal breaker for you? You would call the whole thing off because of it?

For me if someone was rude to a waiter or waitress, that would be a deal breaker. I truly believe you can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat the waiter or waitress. Another for me is bad table manners and talking with your mouth full.

What about you?

Unless the person really REALLY deserves it, rude to just about anyone would do it for me. Also inconsistencies and things that just "aren't right". If I had doubts based on a gut feeling, I'd have to go with it, because I'm usually the type of person who doesn't have a whole lot of doubts :-)

[Karebear3003]

Dishonesty. I've had to much of it in my life.

[private beaches]

hairy backs on women

:lmao:lmao

[FLfire4u(m)]

Say you meet someone online. You exchange pics, some e-mails, talk on the phone and, if you live with in a reasonable distance you decide it's time to meet. You are attracted to them physically, they are attracted to you. Everythings great! What is something that would be a deal breaker for you? You would call the whole thing off because of it?

For me if someone was rude to a waiter or waitress, that would be a deal breaker. I truly believe you can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat the waiter or waitress. Another for me is bad table manners and talking with your mouth full.

What about you? WOW I think that there are so many issues that could break the deal. Rudeness of course, liars, chewing with your mouth open and losing your food,LOL. just to name a couple.

[VeryBlueEyes]

hairy arm pits

[FLfire4u(m)]

ewww yes that would do it too

[darlingcherry]

If they have lied about important things..

[Sunfiresix]

If they have lied about important things..

:55I agree truth in advertising, one of the most important things.

[dave42]

Having secrets is not a good thing. I had some one I really liked. She never lied, But at the same time did not disclose information about her past. I pretty much let her go because I felt that she had something to hide.

[kaycee727(m)]

Sneaky I feel the same way. I met someone a few years ago and when we met the pic she had sent me was from high school and she was obviously lying about alot more. She cursed me up and down when I told her so and it has been that long since I got up enough guts to get back on the internet

[TLChandler]

A deal breaker for me was if I found out she had no compassion for others. Not me but if we passed someone on the street in position of need and didnt look twice . that would be all.

[bri_guy_mich]

For me it is vanity. Yes, I want a woman who is clean, shaved where they should be, and generally well groomed. But if she starts talking about designer jeans, or how she can't live without makeup, I'll zone out and look for an exit. A woman who is willing to get dirty, and doesn't stress the petty stuff (at least petty to me) is almost always a keeper.

[trausersnake]

Ohyea, a dick would be such a deal breaker for me. I might even go as far as saying it is my #1 concern and scares the hell out of me.

well if i found out she had a dick.....:sc

[private beaches]

That dark side jimmy was talking about. . .definite deal breaker:D

[SA007]

Bringing pictures of her kids and husband......

[fondew2004]

Say you meet someone online. You exchange pics, some e-mails, talk on the phone and, if you live with in a reasonable distance you decide it's time to meet. You are attracted to them physically, they are attracted to you. Everythings great! What is something that would be a deal breaker for you? You would call the whole thing off because of it?

For me if someone was rude to a waiter or waitress, that would be a deal breaker. I truly believe you can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat the waiter or waitress. Another for me is bad table manners and talking with your mouth full.

What about you?
Well.....she and I decide to meet for dinner. Nice restaurant too. She shows up looking like gangbusters! We decide to have a cocktail or two in the bar before dinner...so it's off to the nicely appointed bar.
The cocktail waitress comes over, gives this lady the "eye" (yes, of course she's that good looking), then leaves with our drink order.
The gal looks at me with those "sloe gin" eyes, and says, "So, tell me about yourself!"
As I begin, she reclines back in her chair, and proceeds to light up a big fat ceeee-gar!
Definite turn off!

[Yankee]

I hope she has teeth.

Maybe even a full set.

I don't care if they're permanent or dentures ... but I definitely don't wanna see a Deliverance kinda grin . . . "You gotta pretty mouth boy."

[Dragon_lady]

I'm going with sneaky on this... don't think I could deal with someone rude and disrespectful to anyone. A man very into "himself" is a major mood killer and thus a deal breaker.

[FeIsTy FaV]

hmmmmm Interesting, I would have said no teeth is fine.

I hope she has teeth.

Maybe even a full set.

I don't care if they're permanent or dentures ... but I definitely don't wanna see a Deliverance kinda grin . . . "You gotta pretty mouth boy."

[Yankee]

hmmmmm Interesting, I would have said no teeth is fine.

So . . . I can show up with no teeth?

[virgochick]

He lies about his age.

[Xanadu7]

Hmmmm ... I'm pretty flexible, but I guess it's all relative. As I read some of these things, I can't imagine being that picky. I mean, if she turns you on, and you really connect? WTF?

I don't know ... I guess if she turned out to be a biter. (OUCH!)

[txsportsfan2213]

I am in agreement about the whole attraction thing, if your attracted to them your attracted to them. But if I had something that would do it is bad bad b.o.

[Rex]

To me, a dealbreaker would be: changing the rules mid-stream.

[Xanadu7]

Anybody that can't follow my 3 simple rules => deal breaker

:rules:

[siv7]

Anybody that can't follow my 3 simple rules => deal breaker

:rules:

PLEASE Xan do tell us those rules...
:yks

[Xanadu7]

Rule #1

You must worship me

[siv7]

Rule #1

You must worship me

Ok...Pretty sure thats been taken care of....

NEXT??????

[jenn315ifer]

If the guy has horrible BO. Deal Breaker......

[Xanadu7]

Rule #2

Gotta kiss me at the top of a needle

[siv7]

Ok .....Thats possible

NUMBER 3??

[Xanadu7]

Rule #3

If Gonzaga plays Illinois, she's GOT to cheer for Illinois.

[siv7]

Rule #3

If Gonzaga plays Illinois, she's GOT to cheer for Illinois.

WOW...shoot...not gonna happen...Sorry...wow...I failed the deal breaker test...mmmm How about we watch the game together and make a bet..Winner gets a awesome prize??:ok

[Xanadu7]

WOW...shoot...not gonna happen...Sorry...wow...I failed the deal breaker test...mmmm How about we watch the game together and make a bet..Winner gets a awesome prize??:ok

Actually, it was a trick question. You should NEVER switch allegience for a GUY. WTF? I'd hit that

:hitit:

[NeilC]

Honesty is number one for me. The first sign that she isnt totaly up front and honest I am gone. Life is to short to have to be second guessing a relationship right from the start.

[siv7]

Dirty Elbows = Deal breaker

[countrygent07]

Smoking - she lights up, no deal!

[Brandon301]

Dishonesty of any kind would do it. I would be watching for that the whole time.

[ladynw8ing]

Gotta be odors....cigarette, b.o., bad breath, and those gaseous odors that seem to come out at the most inopportune times....(the latter, my hubby get a kick out of using those to torture me...poor me!) LOL

[SAPPHIRE]

A 46 year old man that gossips like a teenage drama queen ..... that would do it or shall I say, has done it for me

[daisyduck]

hated on other people and dishonesty.

[fondew2004]

Say you meet someone online. You exchange pics, some e-mails, talk on the phone and, if you live with in a reasonable distance you decide it's time to meet. You are attracted to them physically, they are attracted to you. Everythings great! What is something that would be a deal breaker for you? You would call the whole thing off because of it?

For me if someone was rude to a waiter or waitress, that would be a deal breaker. I truly believe you can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat the waiter or waitress. Another for me is bad table manners and talking with your mouth full.

What about you?
Deal breaker?? Unlikely you'd find the REAL deal breakers during this first meeting. But give it time....keep the communications links open. Eventually, what you really want in a relationship...what they really want in a relationship will surface.

Then...compare the two. If they don't match....and neither one will sacrifice what is they want and what they expect from the other, then there really is no relationship. There's your "deal breaker" staring you in the face.

Way better to find out early on tho....so....talk! Discuss! Exchange ideas! It's there. And imagine how impossibly fantastic it's going to be if you and the other discover that in fact you both want and are looking for basically the same things!!

WOW! That's as good as it's going to get.

[neil48]

A 46 year old man that gossips like a teenage drama queen ..... that would do it or shall I say, has done it for me
Would it be ok for a 49 year old guy to do this......just wondering.......:sc