How much have you changed?

[musicmer]

How much as a person have you changed?

For me over the last year or so, I have changed my point of views on certian things alot, I have changed the way i view life. I used to think that friends and and partying was important. Now all I think about is my family. My boys are all I work for. I want my boys to grow up with that loving family kissy kissy loving way. I never got it and always wanted it. I have changed my work ethnic.... now dont get me wrong I have always have had a great work ethinic but I also did stuff even if it was wrong and not care if someone else was doing wrong. After I got promoted it all changed.

Its weird catching yourself doing some thing that you thought you never would. I will stop babbling and see what else has been going on in your lives.

[Cotties]

I think I've changed probably more than I really have....

its probably the people around me who have changed

[IMaLady]

I know I have change in so many ways. I have spent so much of the last 6 trying to be the perfect mom and wife. Over the past year I have start being a little more selfish and started trying feel my needs a little. I still put my family first but Im not negleting myself anymore.

[snowflake]

I love those shoes, don't change those...;)



I think I've changed probably more than I really have....

its probably the people around me who have changed

[musicmer]

Good for you. Everybody needs to be a little selfish. You can never be truely happy unless you are happy.

I know I have change in so many ways. I have spent so much of the last 6 trying to be the perfect mom and wife. Over the past year I have start being a little more selfish and started trying feel my needs a little. I still put my family first but Im not negleting myself anymore.

[IMaLady]

Good for you. Everybody needs to be a little selfish. You can never be truely happy unless you are happy.



Thanks...It took me a long time to realize but I think I got it now.

[musicmer]

Good for you. Once you get it down you let me know I will take lessons from youThanks...It took me a long time to realize but I think I got it now.

[Sneaky]

I don't feel even close to the person I was ten years ago. In almost every way.

Professionally, I have grown and discovered an ambition I didn't realize was there, worked hard to grow in my career, and now I kind of look around and think: why? Does anything I do here affect the world in any way? All these emergencies that take years off my life, and they don't even matter next week. Does anyone care if I loose sleep or this crisis or that? Does anyone care that I work a 60 hour work week? Is it worth the other sacrifices?

Emotionally I have become stronger. I am able to stand strong and not back down. Now I just need to learn to pick my battles a little better. I also don't want to become too strong that I loose the caring side of myself. I really want to guard against that.

[cherokeered]

I have changed......I am still a work in progress though...

[musicmer]

Well one thing that I have found out is that it doesnt matter what other people think. If you are happy with what you do then it is all worth it. The world is a big place and nobody one person can effect the world. You are the one that matter in your life. You need to find satisfaction in your life and career. I did, I was always trying to make everybody happy and work on making myself seem important. When I transfered out of my last job, it was a demotion but I was happier.



I don't feel even close to the person I was ten years ago. In almost every way.

Professionally, I have grown and discovered an ambition I didn't realize was there, worked hard to grow in my career, and now I kind of look around and think: why? Does anything I do here affect the world in any way? All these emergencies that take years off my life, and they don't even matter next week. Does anyone care if I loose sleep or this crisis or that? Does anyone care that I work a 60 hour work week? Is it worth the other sacrifices?

Emotionally I have become stronger. I am able to stand strong and not back down. Now I just need to learn to pick my battles a little better. I also don't want to become too strong that I loose the caring side of myself. I really want to guard against that.

[musicmer]

Cher you are perfect jus tthe way you are. But I guess you can try and redefine the definition of the wordI have changed......I am still a work in progress though...

[hoss]

....it took the death of my best friend to make me realize life is fragile ,its too be lived with love ,compassion and understanding ...ive grown closer to Momma and my kids and have layed the anger i had from growing up to rest ...it s been a long hard road ,but the outcome was worth it ....

so i guess by me changing ,the people have changes around me as well ....for the better .....

[Sneaky]

Well one thing that I have found out is that it doesnt matter what other people think. If you are happy with what you do then it is all worth it. The world is a big place and nobody one person can effect the world. You are the one that matter in your life. You need to find satisfaction in your life and career. I did, I was always trying to make everybody happy and work on making myself seem important. When I transfered out of my last job, it was a demotion but I was happier.

Your right. Everyone needs to do what is best for themselves. Good for you for making the decision that was right for you.

:55

[musicmer]

One thing is life that I have learned that I never did experience was jealousy. I never thought of being jealous or did it. But in the last year I have found my self getting more jealous the more I love something. I guess that is just a part of it

[cherokeered]

Cher you are perfect jus tthe way you are. But I guess you can try and redefine the definition of the word


:kk Thanks hun....

[musicmer]

Thank you. Although I must admit it was alittle more money. lolYour right. Everyone needs to do what is best for themselves. Good for you for making the decision that was right for you.

:55

[Sneaky]

Thank you. Although I must admit it was alittle more money. lol

That's the kind of "demotion" I want. LOL:sc

[musicmer]

Well I was doing a job for way to cheap. So when I changed departments I found out how cheap I really was doing it for. That wont happen againThat's the kind of "demotion" I want. LOL:sc

[mrdiscreet]

I've changed since finding M&F by becoming much happier. This is an outlet for me that has spilled over into my daily life. I do look at women differently, wondering which ones might enjoy a little flirt thrown into their day.

[Missy38]

I myself have changed alot since Unctarheel and I got together, it hasn't been easy but, what in life is easy.....being with unc has changed me for the better

[sweet]

I've deffinetly changed in many areas of my life.

I've grown as a person, mother, and wife.

I've learned that I don't have to feel like I need to do it all.
I can take time for myself and not feel guilty about it.
I can go after what I want and not feel like I'm being selfish.

Finally I feel totally happy with my life. :)

[hoss]

I've deffinetly changed in many areas of my life.


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Finally I feel totally happy with my life. :)

sweetie ...u would make any man very happy ....u have grown into a wondeful person ...your two gals have a great mom ...and im very glad we are friends ....:kk

[sweet]

sweetie ...u would make any man very happy ....u have grown into a wondeful person ...your two gals have a great mom ...and im very glad we are friends ....:kk

I am so glad we're friends also. You always know how to make me smile :kk

[yaser]

I've deffinetly changed in many areas of my life.

I've grown as a person, mother, and wife.

I've learned that I don't have to feel like I need to do it all.
I can take time for myself and not feel guilty about it.
I can go after what I want and not feel like I'm being selfish.

Finally I feel totally happy with my life. :)
Sweet I am very happy to hear that..

[musicmer]

I ahve changed the way I look at most things in life. I actually went from thinking about myself to thinking about everybody else all the time. Which isnt bad in my book but thats just me

[yaser]

I ahve changed the way I look at most things in life. I actually went from thinking about myself to thinking about everybody else all the time. Which isnt bad in my book but thats just me
That is good Musicmer.I am still trying to change to catck some more ladies here.

[OpBob]

I have become more comfortable talking with others since joining this site. For example, while waiting in a line at a grocery store, I will start talking with the person in front of me or behind me. Makes the wait much more fun. I typically don't ask them if they enjoy phone sex or if they had an affair, but just some small talk makes the time go by.

[RedVixen]

I've changed...and I think change is a good thing in my books.:)

[roadie4us]

Im old enough to realize Ive gone full circle. While a young man in college life was fun and exploration. Then marriage brings children, family and commitment. Now Im retired and traveling, exploring again and having a ball. I still love and enjoy the kids and grandkids..........but on visits.

[pointofnoreturn]

I actually have changeda ton since being here. I am more open thanI thought I woudl ever be. And I like it..and all the people here also. Love this...I needed this..

[OICurready4me]

I feel I change a little bit every day of my life, based on experiences we have, people we meet our environment. Being on this site has been a part of this change. I have grown as a person, allowed myself to open up more because of the way people share so openly on this site. We are like a big happy (or at times unhappy) family. We laugh, cry, hug, kiss and pat one another on the back and that helps everyone to build confidence and confidence builds character.

[cmt21lem]

i am a little wiser, take things a little slower and enjoy every thing better

[Wil]

Like everyone else, getting older...the mind seems to be the last to "get it"...it kicks in when I look up at Wil jr, 6-2 185 lbs...I used to wipe his ass...now it's very likely he could kick mine...(note to self...get a bigger stick...)

[mrdiscreet]

Still trying to figure that out ...

[Wil]

Still trying to figure that out ...

my apologies...mind working fingers not following...age..

[MCat]

I haven't changed at all...I'm still the stodgy, uptight, introverted person I was 2 years ago....:sc

[mrdiscreet]

my apologies...mind working fingers not following...age..

Not at all, I followed your drift.

I was just commenting for myself, deep thoughts :sg

[duanehofner]

I've quit telling her I love you. She claims she "Can't" tell me so why bother.

[MCat]

Like everyone else, getting older...the mind seems to be the last to "get it"...it kicks in when I look up at Wil jr, 6-2 185 lbs...I used to wipe his ass...now it's very likely he could kick mine...(note to self...get a bigger stick...)

Isn't it something how the kids grow up. Our son is 6' don't now how much he weighs, he's muscular and slim...he used to be a skinny, blonde little boy...
now he 22, has a wife and a baby girl. Where did the years go... :cry:

[hoss]

I haven't changed at all...I'm still the stodgy, uptight, introverted person I was 2 years ago....:sc

well i have to disagree with u there ...ive seen lots of change since i met u .........

[p.a]

I've become a cynic:spbx:

[MCat]

well i have to disagree with u there ...ive seen lots of change since i met u .........

You've seen my body parts :D

[Wil]

I haven't changed at all...I'm still the stodgy, uptight, introverted person I was 2 years ago....:sc

I haven't been around for two years but whom every said that is a fresh, vivacious, out going babe... :D :kk

[paris]

I think I've changed alot over the past year. I'm definitely wiser although I think I would probably make the same choices in the same situations going forward. I don't always put what I've learned into play.

[tiger50]

well i have changed both mentally and physically, lol, no hair anymore......and mentally, well.....had given all i had for so many years, now i am gettin selfish, living for me for a change.......:D

[1hotmommy]

I think I've changed a lot over the past few years, especially in regards to my attitude and my temper. I'm a lot more patient and understanding than I used to be, especially when it comes to being a parent.

[Postman]

If you don't change with age.......There is something drasticly wrong.

[p.a]

I have changed. In my youth I was very impatient and quick to challenge. Now I'm more laid back. I'm not offended as easily and I take my time got give the proper response. I've dealt with so much adverse situations involving people that I know when there earnest and when there full of crap. I've become a pessimist and since I started working retail , people really bug me. But I still like people in general and will go out of my way to help anybody. Even someone I don't particularly care for. I still got a lot of my mom in me. She was pretty much a saint who helped everybody one way or another. I've started to cuss like my dad of late. Wife says I even sound like him when I do. I find myself laughing a lot at the dumbest things. And sex is always on my mind 24/7. I've pretty much resigned myself to the fact that I'm probably never getting laid again. Oh well, so be it.

[unctarheel_32]

I have changed in the last couple of years since I got with my gf,I used to drink alot but now that i'm with her I barely drink at all now once in a while I will have a beer or two.

[OICurready4me]

I feel I've changed quite a bit. Up until my college days, I was pretty shy and drank alot. Wasn't very lucky with the ladies either. Had a few relationships but was treated badly so I was gun shy for a while. I have always been a marshmallow inside but on the exterior I would act like a tough guy. After a while, I felt that the tough guy act was growing old and settled in to the person I really am today and have become. At that point, my confidence actually began to grow and women became more attracted to me, for whatever reason. I have always been a patient person and I am even more patient now than ever.

Sexually, I have changed alot. I have grown immensely as my wants, needs and desires have grown. I have wanted to find someone to stretch those boundaries since I really didn't know if I just envisioned these desires or I actually would enjoy them. Now I know and the growth will continue as I explore further my sexual prowess with the one lady that is on the same plain.

[mower]

how have I changed??? Hmmm good topic are we talking only in the past yr or over a lifetime?

[TIGUY]

I don't feel even close to the person I was ten years ago. In almost every way.

Professionally, I have grown and discovered an ambition I didn't realize was there, worked hard to grow in my career, and now I kind of look around and think: why? Does anything I do here affect the world in any way? All these emergencies that take years off my life, and they don't even matter next week. Does anyone care if I loose sleep or this crisis or that? Does anyone care that I work a 60 hour work week? Is it worth the other sacrifices?

Emotionally I have become stronger. I am able to stand strong and not back down. Now I just need to learn to pick my battles a little better. I also don't want to become too strong that I loose the caring side of myself. I really want to guard against that.

great thoughts Sneaky :55

[Sneaky]

great thoughts Sneaky :55
:) Thanks Thick

[tiger50]

shitloads, hell i had innamacense before i came on here......:sc

[mower]

if we are talking about ovr the course of our lifetimes then I have changed so dramaticly that it's not funny to the point that the person I was b4 I met my wife dosen't exsist anymore

[Iwantutowantme]

If you are not 'changing' you are dieing. Changing is something we do,, somtimes slowly, sometimes quickly, even though it is usually hard to change a certain attitude or behavior. We learn by changing.


I have changed alot. So I am living, alot and open to keep on changing...

[Iwantutowantme]

Life's a dance you learn as you go....

Sometimes you lead and sometimes you follow......
Don't matter what you don't know,,,,Lifes a dance you learn as you go........

[cherokeered]

don't think i have changed....just let the naughty me out for some air.....:D

[jonnym422]

I have change by just letting me be me. I always tried to keep up a serious professional appearance at work and at home I was the head of the house. It just isn't me. I am a clown. I would rather be playing with the kids then trying to "keep them in line". I would rather be making fun of your "crisis" at work then actually helping you with it. Now my knees are dirty at home not at work and I am happier than ever.

[WandaRing]

I have changed a lot in 41 years and even more so in the last year. I used to put everyone’s needs first and always tried to keep the peace. Along the way, I lost the person I could have been and missed out on several opportunities. I have finally regained consciousness and realized I needed to make some major changes in my life or the next 40 years will be very depressing. I am also working on some childhood issues and getting out of a controlling and manipulated marriage so I am changing everyday, for the better.

I also changed the way I view people and the world, I am not so trusting but remain open minded and compassionate about the needs of others and doing my best to help, be supportive and considerate toward other people and their concerns.

[rizz]

hate to admit it but really the same person as i was 15 years ago-everyone else grows up and changes and i just seem to get older-lol

[private beaches]

I think I am more open minded now than 10years ago. And not as naive/gullible- well maybe I am. I entertain other people opinions more - not necessarily to replace my own but to challenge my views a little. I have more confidence in myself now - and believe that if I set my mind to it I overcome anything. And. I dont have to be a yes person all the time.

[phantasm]

I really felt a change when I turned 30, it was the first time I really felt older. It seems exponential at 31.