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cherokeered

09-19-2007, 08:50 PM

If while you were looking....your significant other found someone.....how would you feel if you found out???....and would you confront them???

what if they wanted an open relationship???

cherokeered

09-19-2007, 09:24 PM

I sometimes wish he would find someone....it would make things easier....but an open relationship is not what i want...so that would be NO...lol

PunkyBob

09-19-2007, 09:26 PM

I, too, sometimes wish she would find someone...

My_Secrets_Kept

09-19-2007, 09:50 PM

Yes I do wish he would find someone else, have even expressed that to him.

Though I don't think I'd want an open relationship, we barely have a relationship now as it is.

Heck if he finds someone else then I would do one last wifely duty and help pack his things and move him into her place!

RedVixen

09-19-2007, 09:57 PM

Heck if he finds someone else then I would do one last wifely duty and help pack his things and move him into her place!

Holy shit...I nearly spilled my drink LMAO with that comment :lmao

My_Secrets_Kept

09-19-2007, 09:59 PM

Holy shit...I nearly spilled my drink LMAO with that comment :lmao

:D

Seriously I would and probably would be friendly as hell with her too, thinking how lucky I am that she'd be taking him off my hands!

Dancemor(m)

09-19-2007, 10:00 PM

I guess I would be very shocked........I would have to think about it and way the pros and cons............Not sure if I would be in a win/lose situation.......she would get what she wanted,,not sure if I would be.... ...but if it were a situation where she would leave if I didnt accept her proposal.....I might do it.....

IMaLady

09-19-2007, 10:16 PM

Im going to have to say no on this. I wouldnt be happy if my other found someone else or wanted an open relationship. I want to be his only.

Dancemor(m)

09-19-2007, 10:19 PM

Im going to have to say no on this. I wouldnt be happy if my other found someone else or wanted an open relationship. I want to be his only.

I think that is a wise choice......IMa.........but I wouldnt want to lose mine....but maybe that would be inevitable.........hope that situation may not arise....

IMaLady

09-19-2007, 10:21 PM

I think that is a wise choice......IMa.........but I wouldnt want to lose mine....but maybe that would be inevitable.........hope that situation may not arise....

I hope that never happens either but if he would pick the other women over me than he doesnt deserve me.

RedVixen

09-19-2007, 10:26 PM

:D

Seriously I would and probably would be friendly as hell with her too, thinking how lucky I am that she'd be taking him off my hands!

Could you find someone for my spouse, so that I could help him pack his stuff to HER place? :D

cheerymissy_34

09-19-2007, 10:27 PM

I say "take him PLEASE"..ill even help him move

My_Secrets_Kept

09-19-2007, 10:38 PM

Could you find someone for my spouse, so that I could help him pack his stuff to HER place? :D

You got yourself a deal Red, of course only after I've packed mine up and off :D

noodlegurl

09-19-2007, 11:20 PM

I wouldn't want him to been thru to much - but if he did definitly no open relationship...

hoss

09-20-2007, 12:11 AM

If while you were looking....your significant other found someone.....how would you feel if you found out???....and would you confront them???

what if they wanted an open relationship???

wow ...your just making some great threads ..thanks babe ....

Momma and i have a open relationship ...we allow each other to love someone else ,sure theres jealousy and stuff ..but we talk about it alot and it keeps it to a minimum....talking for us is what has kept us together all these years ..we do more of that now then ever before ....

RedVixen

09-20-2007, 12:24 AM

You got yourself a deal Red, of course only after I've packed mine up and off :D

Oh thank you...thank you, thank you, thank you:kk

p.a

09-20-2007, 09:32 AM

At this point anything to get her juices flowing would be a plus:55

noodlegurl

09-20-2007, 10:02 AM

:wa: I think u got my juices flowing>>>

boomer3

09-20-2007, 10:27 AM

If she found someone else I would have to say I wouldn't have a problem. Her and I have been together long enough for that. As long as all was fair and we each had equal time expressing out open relationship. Also don't think I would want to hear the details. I would think an open relationship would strengthen ours.

p.a

09-20-2007, 03:28 PM

:wa: I think u got my juices flowing>>>

well well well!!!!!!:wa:

Big O

09-20-2007, 03:50 PM

Oh thank you...thank you, thank you, thank you:kk

Have you women ever heard of Big O movers?
Our motto is "You pack 'em we move 'em"
We are in the Yellow pages......
And we also provide value added services...

dartgirl

09-20-2007, 03:52 PM

I think it would be great if he found someone else, then he wouldn't be so dependent on me. He could even keep the house and everything else that means so dang much to him as long as when he dies or sells I get my half and not her. I put in to many years to be that nice.

dartgirl

09-20-2007, 03:54 PM

Have you women ever heard of Big O movers?
Our motto is "You pack 'em we move 'em"
We are in the Yellow pages......
And we also provide value added services...

Would it be possible to get a list of those services and your qualifications?;)

Big O

09-20-2007, 03:57 PM

Would it be possible to get a list of those services and your qualifications?;)

We're fully licensed in all states, We can be as gentle or as ruff as you like, and we have many fully satisfied customers...

cmt21lem

09-23-2007, 11:29 PM

i think i would talk

duanehofner

09-23-2007, 11:32 PM

If she found someone else I'd have an easier time getting out of this marriage.

Bear

10-26-2007, 12:43 PM

I would have to listen

wolfman

11-04-2007, 04:04 PM

Could you find someone for my spouse, so that I could help him pack his stuff to HER place? :D
I'll see what I can find

wolfman

11-04-2007, 04:06 PM

I say "take him PLEASE"..ill even help him move
I don't want him, but if I can be of any other assistance, just give a hollar

wolfman

11-04-2007, 04:07 PM

:wa: I think u got my juices flowing>>>
Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

wolfman

11-04-2007, 04:08 PM

MIGHTY

11-05-2007, 10:26 PM

If while you were looking....your significant other found someone.....how would you feel if you found out???....and would you confront them???

what if they wanted an open relationship???

When I started having gut feelings about him, I did confront him only for him to make up lame ass excuses about his behaviors. I was not looking at the time and was not looking when I met the one that I love today. Today we pretty much have an open relationship because I've told him to do what he wants to do......Don't ask/Don't tell I think suits us best at this point.

OICurready4me

11-05-2007, 10:31 PM

If while you were looking....your significant other found someone.....how would you feel if you found out???....and would you confront them???

what if they wanted an open relationship???

Hell, I'd be happy as hell if she found someone else. I'd welcome it. How could I be pissed if I were looking myself? That wouldn't be right. I may even look to meet the guy so I could wish him luck.

GentleBen

11-05-2007, 10:46 PM

I honestly don't know how I'd react. I'd probably have lots of different emotions. Some jealousy. I'd be lieing if I didn't admit that. But, on the other hand, I just might be ok with it. Most important to me is that our kids are taken care of properly and are not hurt by either of our actions.

Ben

Sneaky

11-05-2007, 10:50 PM

I say "take him PLEASE"..ill even help him move

LOL. Er.....thanks for the offer Missy, but I think I'll pass......

BigMike303

11-06-2007, 04:57 PM

Hell, I'd be happy as hell if she found someone else. I'd welcome it. How could I be pissed if I were looking myself? That wouldn't be right. I may even look to meet the guy so I could wish him luck.

My feelings exactly.........

toowildtotame

11-06-2007, 05:04 PM

Originally Posted by cherokeered
If while you were looking....your significant other found someone.....how would you feel if you found out???....and would you confront them???

what if they wanted an open relationship???
It happens all the time-- the feeling would probably be one of "Relief"-- if both are looking for a change I would think both then would be unhappy-- being Happy in life is the most important things one can do for him/herself.

BigMike303

11-06-2007, 05:16 PM

yeppers

wolfman

11-06-2007, 09:14 PM

:wa: I think u got my juices flowing>>>
Tasty. MMmmmm

BigMike303

11-06-2007, 09:16 PM

sadeyes9

11-08-2007, 10:03 PM

I use to tell my husband if he is going to do it IT BETTER BE WORTH IT he was with a OLDER coworker that makes me sick she has no looks no anything and I KNOW deep down I WILL MAKE IT WORTH IT

BigMike303

11-09-2007, 12:43 AM

I would make it worth it....lol

unctarheel_32

11-09-2007, 08:26 AM

yes I would confront her but an open relationship wouldnt work I dont think.

OICurready4me

11-09-2007, 09:29 AM

I"d be happy as a clam....it would ease the pain she will be going through when we part ways if she already had someone she could be with

BigMike303

11-09-2007, 11:19 AM

I guess I would have to have my replacement first to even make this a viable situation........should have traded up before separating I guess.......lol

wolfman

11-09-2007, 08:55 PM

Could you find someone for my spouse, so that I could help him pack his stuff to HER place? :D
Let him find his own. You can just run off with me and smile for the rest of your life. Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm:sex

getyousome

11-10-2007, 09:31 PM

I wish she would find someone, even though I feel that we should try to hang on until the kids are a little older. We don't fight are anything like that, there is just nothing there.

danny115

11-12-2007, 08:48 PM

I'd say go for it.....if I can do the same.

Postman

11-12-2007, 08:51 PM

With what I may have going?...........I would have to say........................YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!! There is a god.

a_hungm_houston

11-20-2007, 10:09 AM

tried getting wife to consider open relationship she blew a gasket

BigMike303

11-20-2007, 11:00 AM

OUCH!....lol

wolfman

11-20-2007, 07:54 PM

I use to tell my husband if he is going to do it IT BETTER BE WORTH IT he was with a OLDER coworker that makes me sick she has no looks no anything and I KNOW deep down I WILL MAKE IT WORTH IT
He must be crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

simplygrace

12-29-2007, 02:57 PM

We discuss everything, so there's no surprises. But if i did catch him i would be very hurt.:kk

Mr.Big

12-29-2007, 05:51 PM

We discuss everything, so there's no surprises. But if i did catch him i would be very hurt.:kkdont worry...it will never happen,I could never hurt you!

ksue7274

01-03-2008, 11:26 PM

If I caught him looking for someone else I would be very hurt. Then I would kick his ass out.

yaser

01-03-2008, 11:32 PM

If I caught him looking for someone else I would be very hurt. Then I would kick his ass out.
Sue isn't it so bad?Just looking at a beauty...And the punishment is so high.. :kk

kaycee727(m)

03-17-2008, 03:20 AM

I wish so many times my other half would find a nother man . I would give her my blessing and help her pack....Quickly.

woodsman8

03-17-2008, 05:23 AM

I wish so many times my other half would find a nother man . I would give her my blessing and help her pack....Quickly.

My goodness, I used to think that too, but when I caught her in the sack with someone, it still hurt very much. Then I kicked her out

trausersnake

03-21-2008, 03:36 PM

In my own personal situation, which is my wife and I dont have much physical contact anymore, I would approve. She obviously cannot find desire in our relationship, so why not. We had our time, it was great and maybe she needs someone new to experience.

manofiron

03-21-2008, 07:43 PM

I would be pissed as hell but because she just didn't come out and say, "I think it's over". I look for the silver lining, it's an easy out when the divorce comes.

WandaRing

03-21-2008, 07:50 PM

:D I'm all for it especially if it means he'll leave me alone and get on with his own life

forfun1969

03-21-2008, 08:32 PM

If she found another I'd say yahoo, now I don't have to try and hide my efforts, makes it a lot easier. And I wouldn't be against an open relationship for a while for the kids sake vs. splitting up. Of coarse everything would still have to be hidden from the kids.

kaycee727(m)

03-22-2008, 02:07 AM

Kinda scary to read that most of us want our insignificant other to leave without a hassle. Maybe thats why we are all stuck because we are afraid of the hurt we will have to deal with.

bri_guy_mich

03-24-2008, 07:12 PM

You can't have an open relationship if you have secrets. My wife and I have worked on it, and it works for us. But, for us it isn't frequent, and we tell each other about it (not too many details). It's more the excitement of something different that it is looking for a new relationship. You can only have so many green M&M's before you would kill for a red one.

PowWhackIt

03-25-2008, 08:32 AM

Kinda scary to read that most of us want our insignificant other to leave without a hassle. Maybe thats why we are all stuck because we are afraid of the hurt we will have to deal with.

There is usually a hassle even if you think their won't be. Rather than have an open arrangement, it's better to just take your lumps and end it.

TilersCut

03-25-2008, 11:28 AM

Im going to have to say no on this. I wouldn't be happy if my other found someone else or wanted an open relationship. I want to be his only.

If anyone were to take a random poll of postings on these forums, I reckon that the issue of fidelity occupies at least a third of them. It seems that most of us are either:

- Worried about our spouses being faithful
- Wishing they would be unfaithful
- Desiring that we could be unfaithful
- Or hiding the fact that we are unfaithful

Of course, there are those who are perfectly contented in their marriages - emotionally, sexually, spiritually. But I honestly think they are in the minority.

Isn't there a happy medium? Is there a better way to keep monogamous relationships happier and more fulfilling? I think there is.

Barkiss

03-25-2008, 11:42 AM

If anyone were to take a random poll of postings on these forums, I reckon that the issue of fidelity occupies at least a third of them. It seems that most of us are either:

- Worried about our spouses being faithful
- Wishing they would be unfaithful
- Desiring that we could be unfaithful
- Or hiding the fact that we are unfaithful

Of course, there are those who are perfectly contented in their marriages - emotionally, sexually, spiritually. But I honestly think they are in the minority.

Isn't there a happy medium? Is there a better way to keep monogamous relationships happier and more fulfilling? I think there is.

Good post...now I would ask for you to enlighten us. :) What is the better way?

Also...could you add your b-day to your profile, including year? Since the site contains a lot of adult-themed material, we require that everyone displays their age. Thanks in advance. :)

TilersCut

03-25-2008, 11:47 AM

Thought my birthday was on there. I will modify before another post. Many thanks!

PowWhackIt

03-25-2008, 11:54 AM

Isn't there a happy medium? Is there a better way to keep monogamous relationships happier and more fulfilling? I think there is.[/quote]

Your thoughts resonate with mine. For some like myself I have accepted it as part of who we have become, that the "old days" of sex anytime, anywhere have changed, sometimes drastically. I have found that getting on this website has made me even more accepting because I realize I'm not alone in my frustration(s). Human nature? I don't know. I guess what I'm trying to say is that what the happy medium may be is nothing more than acceptance of the other person. And if you can't accept it, change it, but be aware of any consequences of your actions.......and be careful what you wish for.......you may get it!

trausersnake

03-25-2008, 01:53 PM

I am not looking to break up the family unit as it stands. My kids are young and fragile, far be it for me to make their futures more difficult or painful for my own personal gains. I would be open to an open marriage only because I really dont have much of one with my wife. That being said, if she found another i wouldn't stop her but would expect the same for myself. sad.
Kinda scary to read that most of us want our insignificant other to leave without a hassle. Maybe thats why we are all stuck because we are afraid of the hurt we will have to deal with.