Being Happy

[cmt21lem]

How do you know when you are really happy, or is happiness over rated

[twoblues]

I think I'm only truly happy when I have no cares, no worries, and a beautiful girl on my arm.

Unfortunately, I'm missing all three at the moment ;)

So, what do I do? I find moments in each and every day to just smile and be happy that I'm healthy, not too far in debt, and have good friends. I know I'm happy when I have no problems sleeping at night and no fears about anything. I guess I'm happy when I have nothing to be sad about (separate from regrets) :)

[purring]

I think being happy is making the most of what you have, when you have it. Take life by the horns and go with it. Don't stop to overanalyze it. I spent way to long in a marriage that didn't make me happy. Lately I have found people, places, and things that make me happy and that is all that really matters to me any more.

[Andytyme]

Happiness is a state of mind.. As I have told a very dear friend my thoughts on this recently, only one person can control if you are happy, and that is you.. Really.. I know we all say "that person made me mad or sad or upset, or angry".. but they did not make you, you allowed yourself to get mad or sad or upset or angry in response to what they did to you.. If you want to be happy, then be happy.. Me? I choose to be happy.. I also choose to feel like shit when I want, mad when I want, sad when I want, loved when I want and all other emotions.. I choose, we all choose, how we want to feel.. If people would realize that other people can not control how you are feeling at any one moment, I feel there would be alot more happiness in the world.
My thoughts, for what they are worth, and I am thinking not much, but still, now you have them and I dont.. LOL

[Sunfiresix]

It is a state of mind--Since my heart surgery, I am not sure what it is but, I am the happiest I have ever been--and ironically i have so much adverse things happening--but nothing seems to phase me now--I am just happy--what changed my outlook, I will never know but I feel better because I am happy and it just enforces it all the way around.

[Andytyme]

It is a state of mind--Since my heart surgery, I am not sure what it is but, I am the happiest I have ever been--and ironically i have so much adverse things happening--but nothing seems to phase me now--I am just happy--what changed my outlook, I will never know but I feel better because I am happy and it just enforces it all the way around.

Agree completly. State of mind...

[p.a]

I think being happy is when you have that bouncy feeling. When nothing phases you. When your always optimistic and everything taste good. I've been there once along time ago. Happiness is waking up Christmas Morning and finding the Daisy Air Rifle over in the corner behind the Christmas Tree.:55

[cmt21lem]

I tend to agree with the state on mind comments. Sort of mind over matter, if you don't mind, it doesn't matter

[Andytyme]

I tend to agree with the state on mind comments. Sort of mind over matter, if you don't mind, it doesn't matter

I like that and will use it again.... Thanks.

[cheerymissy_34]

no such thing

[pointofnoreturn]

When the medication is working just right??????

[MCat]

You have the ability to make your own happiness....you can choose to wallow in what you think is a so called shit existence....or you can choose to concentrate on the bright spots in each day...the things that are really important.

[Cotties]

good to hear you are happy Sunfire:55 It is a state of mind--Since my heart surgery, I am not sure what it is but, I am the happiest I have ever been--and ironically i have so much adverse things happening--but nothing seems to phase me now--I am just happy--what changed my outlook, I will never know but I feel better because I am happy and it just enforces it all the way around.

[1hotmommy]

I wish I knew how it felt to be really happy. Unfortunately I haven't felt that way for a while now. It's depressing.

[One Song Hero]

I wish I knew how it felt to be really happy. Unfortunately I haven't felt that way for a while now. It's depressing.
ihot... oops, hey, I kind of like that, sort of like ihop...

1hot... stick around, flirt, make friends, and express yourself. Maybe some of the pieces of your happiness puzzle will be found here. However, let me say this, if you happen to be serious about staying true to your hubby... hold that conviction close to you at all times while here.

That being said, I was wondering... when do our 3 months start, hon?

[1hotmommy]

I have found a small bit of happiness while chatting here, thanks to a handful of people who have been extra nice to me. I haven't lost sight of my commitment with my husband, and hope that never changes. As far as our little fling, I'll have to get back to you on that.

[One Song Hero]

I have found a small bit of happiness while chatting here, thanks to a handful of people who have been extra nice to me. I haven't lost sight of my commitment with my husband, and hope that never changes. As far as our little fling, I'll have to get back to you on that.
Mmm... sounds promising!!:sc

Uh, ihot, you didn't say anything before that part about our little fling, did you? I could swear I saw your lips moving...

[wolfman]

I wish I knew how it felt to be really happy. Unfortunately I haven't felt that way for a while now. It's depressing.
A lot of people here have the same problem. You deserve that happiness. We all do:knuddel:

[Bama River Man]

Happiness is a condition of right living.

[p.a]

Happiness is a Daisy Air Rifle for Christmas to a 10 year old. December 25th 1960

I haven't been that happy since.

[unctarheel_32]

Having my gf and family and friends is my happiness

[scoobertina]

As a very good friend of mine once told me...

I have tried to find that place where I can be happy. I had found it once and was completely content. Jealous at times because I was so sure I wasn't worty of someone's love.

Now I find that once again. Only you can make yourself happy. If you choose to be sad or frustrated it will happen.. I am choosing happiness. I have chosen to look forward and to stop looking back. I don't regret anything that has happened to me. I cherish the memories. I hope that someday I can finally put some things to rest but that won't happen until I know some things.

Don't get me wrong, I will have my days. Last night I sat and listened to some sad songs with a good friend. But I was okay with it. Not tearful, just remembering some really great days..

So here I am looking ahead.. enjoy your summer everyone.. think of me once in a while.. kisses..

[Constance]

As a very good friend of mine once told me...

I have tried to find that place where I can be happy. I had found it once and was completely content. Jealous at times because I was so sure I wasn't worty of someone's love.

Now I find that once again. Only you can make yourself happy. If you choose to be sad or frustrated it will happen.. I am choosing happiness. I have chosen to look forward and to stop looking back. I don't regret anything that has happened to me. I cherish the memories. I hope that someday I can finally put some things to rest but that won't happen until I know some things.

Don't get me wrong, I will have my days. Last night I sat and listened to some sad songs with a good friend. But I was okay with it. Not tearful, just remembering some really great days..

So here I am looking ahead.. enjoy your summer everyone.. think of me once in a while.. kisses..

That was beautifully said. It is always hard to put away our demons. I have learned though, that things are not always what they seem to be. I put to much in to something and find out later, that it was really nothing at all. I am sometimes my worst enemy. Thinking that something is there and it is really something totally different. Hope you have fun on your trip.

[softrosepetal]

There are so many things in life that make me truely happy. I just have to learn to deal with the thing that doesn't, learn to confront my problems and I could be happy all of the time. (well most of it)

[Fwd40s]

Being happy here is just as simple as looking at the hot lady who posted before you.

[clifton54]

I have found a small bit of happiness while chatting here, thanks to a handful of people who have been extra nice to me. I haven't lost sight of my commitment with my husband, and hope that never changes. As far as our little fling, I'll have to get back to you on that.



I totally agree that it's a state of mind. I'm most happy when I'm with my 2 y/o son, and that's even when he's having a temper tantrum....:nu

[Shawn_N_Sandiego]

I believe.... that EVERY morning, the power to happiness resides inside of you... you choose to be happy, then it is upto you to make certain the things throughout that day do not alter your decision... somedays its just not possible... but whne little things affect you and make you unhappy, its time to redevote yourself to making you happy... do not rely on others for such a task.. thats the easy way out... happiness is a do it yourself kinda job.....just my honest opinion.

[myfirstcar]

Right now, the thought of being really, truly happy, means leaving my wife and playing the field, maybe I did not do that enough when I was younger. Most of the time I feel depressed because I am staying around for the kids :(

I feel like I am having a freakin mid-life crisis, and Im only 33 :(

[stellabelle]

As a long ago friend once taught me, misery is optional. The words I live by.

[MrHyde]

I totally believe in happiness. As many others have already stated: you are the only factor in happiness that you have any control over. You may have horrible circumstances that weren't through any fault of your own....but you are the only person that is responsible for turning them into learning experiences and getting out and experiencing life. Happiness is a biological process that occurs when certain neurotransmitters are triggered and released in our brain. You can train yourself to influence this process with your behavior and your thoughts. So, I like anybody, have my highs and lows, but the lows are good so that you can truly appreciate the highs.

[icylady125]

HAPPY ............wow i could go on and on with that subject.........just make sure u communicate with your spouse.......without that .......there is nothing...........as in my case!

[FizProf]

I may sound like a broken record. But my old philosophy prof was a closet Aristotelian.

Here is a site with a translation of the "Nicomachean Ethics"

http://www.constitution.org/ari/ethic_00.htm

[UltimateNaneki]

My mom puts it best...she is happy every morning she wakes up. The day can be cloudy,rainny, snowing, or sunny...it makes no difference, just waking in the morning for her is the best thing. She gets to see her kids for another 24hrs.

What's better then that?
(I love you mom)

[Dragon_lady]

I've been waiting to be happy all my life, you know that BIG HUGE HAPPYNESS. But i've found out that happyness, to me, resides in small moments in a day: my daughter's kiss in the morning; that great laugh i have with my husband; the rainbow i catched during my walk; a connection with someone on here... the list is long, thus i can say i'm happy, got all the opportunities to be!

[catmom]

No one is happy all the time and I think society puts too much emphasis on it. We all think there must be something wrong if we aren't happy all the time. But life is not always happy. The best you can hope for, imho, is to have those moments you remember as being at peace with yourself and your life - and reflect back on those when your life is in turmoil.

[stellabelle]

I am the eternal optimist...the glass is always half full.

I have to believe in something. Something that get's me out of bed each morning even during the most dire of times, during love and loss. Never take a day for granted. This is not to say that I don't have moments, but I have the option to be happy or not.

[NickOTime]

i think its simply being able to live in the moment...not being anxious about what has happened in your past or anxious about what your future holds.

[scoobertina]

I agree with the newbie... once I decided that I wasn't going to be happy unless I lived the moment and didn't worry about what has happened in the past or what has happened in my future I became happier... I am going to live the moment and know that I am a good person whether others believe it or not... and that I deserve to have good things happen to me..

I look forward to going home.. I look forward to seeing my son in October.. I look forward to meeting new friends.. and making the ones I currently have better and stronger..

[NickOTime]

I agree with the newbie... once I decided that I wasn't going to be happy unless I lived the moment and didn't worry about what has happened in the past or what has happened in my future I became happier... I am going to live the moment and know that I am a good person whether others believe it or not... and that I deserve to have good things happen to me..

I look forward to going home.. I look forward to seeing my son in October.. I look forward to meeting new friends.. and making the ones I currently have better and stronger..


exactly. though i dont take it as a free pass to do whatever i want...its not an eat, drink, be merry for tommorrow we may die. its just doing the best i can in the moment and trying to let the rest take care of itself and ill admit its still work getting into that mode...but when i can i am so much happier...and nicer to be around :)

[Domus]

cumming is happiness...:)

[Wil]

How do you know when you are really happy, or is happiness over rated

When I wake up in the morning,the sun is shining, kids are in there beds and there is enough coffee to make a full pot...just for me...:D

[scoobertina]

exactly. though i dont take it as a free pass to do whatever i want...its not an eat, drink, be merry for tommorrow we may die. its just doing the best i can in the moment and trying to let the rest take care of itself and ill admit its still work getting into that mode...but when i can i am so much happier...and nicer to be around :)


no I quite agree.. I thought at one time I should enjoy life to it's fullest before I die.. cuz that could happen tomorrow.. but it isn't that at all.. I had to be reminded again, that I do choose to feel other emotions.. I may live for the moment but occasionally that moment is remembering something that made me happy and crying of the loss of it.. or doing something that I really hate to do but getting it done just the same... not just surviving.. but living...

[SkillfulMeans]

Generally we aren’t happy because we WANT or DON’T WANT something.. So perhaps Happiness is contentment … Just don’t cling to it because nothing lasts forever.

[FeIsTy FaV]

Happiness for me is the love of my children.

[MarriedQt]

Happiness is dancing naked in the rain!

[Icarus]

I can't say it any better than my guru, Trausersnake.


If happiness is the holy grail that you seek, do not count on anyone going to find it for you. The lesson I have learned is that no one is going to make me happy but me. It a perspective thing that allows me to focus not on what she is not doing for me, but what in life that I truely enjoy. I am not willing to take the preverbial crap on my kids lives and comfort so I must center my thoughts on what is good and makes me laugh. I have lost much of the anger I once had and now feel more content with the way it is. I still wish she was warm and desired me, but that is not going to happen.


I'm thinking of starting a thread, "The Collected Wisdom of Trausersnake."

[knightrider72]

1.:dd 2.:shp:3.:sex 4.:knuddel:5.skip 2-an repeat 6.:rofl1:i go to sleep!!!!

[tallguy32]

I have a low tolerance for unhappieness. Life is just to short. If something is making me unhappy I do my best to deal with it as soon as possible. I find that if I take care of the big ones, the little ones melt away

[hootergirl]

i'm happy alot my son makes me laugh he makes me get through the days

[Constance]

I totally believe in happiness. As many others have already stated: you are the only factor in happiness that you have any control over. You may have horrible circumstances that weren't through any fault of your own....but you are the only person that is responsible for turning them into learning experiences and getting out and experiencing life. Happiness is a biological process that occurs when certain neurotransmitters are triggered and released in our brain. You can train yourself to influence this process with your behavior and your thoughts. So, I like anybody, have my highs and lows, but the lows are good so that you can truly appreciate the highs.

You are so right old wise one.

[gatorgal]

How do you know when you are really happy, or is happiness over rated


I know what contentment feels like.. but being "truly" happy...I dont have a clue as to what that feels like

[Bandit]

1.:dd 2.:shp:3.:sex 4.:knuddel:5.skip 2-an repeat 6.:rofl1:i go to sleep!!!!

Great use of smileys! :)

[lovely2]

Being happy here is just as simple as looking at the hot lady who posted before you.

... or hot guy... and yes, it is that simple here. life is what it is. sometimes we just need to live in the moment and enjoy a little... very nice sentiment!

[fourisit]

Thats so true lovely

[vicarious]

Thats so true lovely
Happiness is in small doses...like fourisit's avatar.

[Domus]

Learning equals happiness...:)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FoZmtoV-ubo&feature=related

[hrdbody]

It's been so long I really couldn't say. I just don't remember feeling happy.

[TammyE]

Unfortunately, I've never been truly blissful my whole life. The last time I remember being remotely happy was a year ago when we were on vacation. Right after we came home, I found out some things about my husband and our marriage has been downhill ever since.

[Icarus]

Unfortunately, I've never been truly blissful my whole life. The last time I remember being remotely happy was a year ago when we were on vacation. Right after we came home, I found out some things about my husband and our marriage has been downhill ever since.

:sry

At least you were able to enjoy your vacation.

[Hotshotfireguy]

I am actually happier than I have been in an long time. And I didn't think that was going to be possible.

[TIGUY]

Unfortunately, I've never been truly blissful my whole life. The last time I remember being remotely happy was a year ago when we were on vacation. Right after we came home, I found out some things about my husband and our marriage has been downhill ever since.


Stay with us Tammy...this site will hopefully make your days happier ....be patient and it'll happen.

[Atrebla Rose]

I am actually happier than I have been in an long time. And I didn't think that was going to be possible.


Awesome to see that sexy smile again Hotshot!!!! welcome back! :kk

[Hotshotfireguy]

Awesome to see that sexy smile again Hotshot!!!! welcome back! :kk

Thank you ma'm.......:hug:

[NotTooGirly]

I used to think I could be "made" happy, but I've learned that happiness is whatever I want it to be, and I control it. The past 24 hours have been pretty hard on me (oh, get your minds out of the gutters, all of you, you're crowding me!!!) but I've made the choice to take away the good things and be happy. So happiness for me is just a choice that I make many times throughout the day...and sometimes it's big choices that have to be made, but it's only ever up to me. And then I can come in here and spew my happiness all over...okay, that totally didn't sound right...

;) :p

[TammyE]

Stay with us Tammy...this site will hopefully make your days happier ....be patient and it'll happen.

Thanks!

[TammyE]

:sry

At least you were able to enjoy your vacation.

Thanks, Icarus! Yeah, the vacation last year was good, but the one we just went on last week was terrible. Things are definitely not good with hubby.

[Bubblygirlie]

I am REALLY happy when i am eating salted popcorn. Yummy :) ;) :)

[Icarus]

I'm not happy 'til you're not happy.:satan:

[TyGy11]

I make the best salty popcorn in the world!

[fondew2004]

How do you know when you are really happy, or is happiness over rated
Happiness is "oceanic" in that it has both high and low "tides" but is never still. And I like Ayn Rand's philosophy here: "man as a heroic being, with his own happiness as the moral purpose of his life, with productive achievement as his noblest activity, and reason as his only absolute."

[jmsmith12345]

How do you know when you are really happy, or is happiness over rated

Happiness is like every other emotion. You either feel it or you don't...and to answer part two of your question, it is highly under-valued, and not at all overrated.

[daisyduck]

Happyness is feeling of no worries, and have a margarita.

[Sinster]

Happiness for me is living without regret and never being afraid to do new things (within moral reasoning) If you can look at your face in a mirror your happier then 15% of the worlds population, if you sleep well at night your better off then 30% of Europe.

Peace of mind is priceless.....Unless your like me...http://www.picpiggy.com/smile/evilgrin/evilgrin0039.gif (http://www.picpiggy.com)

[oscarlaveester]

BEING HAPPY MEANS MASTERBATING EVERYDAY!:ok

[Rex]

happiness to me is , peace and quiet without drama
sex without hang-ups

[Lacey]

Happiness is seeing humor and beauty in all things.....makes life a bit easier!

[yaser]

To be healthy makes me happy..If people around me arse aslo happy, what can ask for?

[tannim78]

being happy is keeping life interesting...

[NeilC]

happiness for me is when I am doing the things I love. And no its not over rated by any stretch

[blu]

happiness means diff things to diff people. i also think happiness is elusive for some people

for me, knowing my kids are well, and happy, makes me happy

[countrygent07]

When life knocks you down face-first in the mud, you pick yourself up, laugh and say "rematch!".