Your sexual life style

[Norfolkdave]

Well, what about us adults? Do we do it for love? Or, do all men have sex for pleasure and women for love? :wa: Like most human behaviors, there are a lot of complex reasons for having sex and different ideas about what sex means. ;)

[yaser]

my philosophy of sex is no sex if no love

[ksfirefighter]

I have had sex with someone I love. Have had sex because I love it. Have loved to have sex with someone I love.

I guess it depends on the people involved (notice I didnt say the two people). Sex just for the sake of being good sex is good and add love to that, you have a winner!

But I have had sex with women that I didnt love and as long as the feeling is mutual thats good too. One of the best partners I have ever had was just a good friend that had pretty much the same need as me. We both knew what it was and it was just good sex! As long as your honest about what is going on its all good!

I think I said it before, if it feels good do it. It it hurts then do it till it feels good!:D

[aceofspades1114]

Well if your with somebody who you truly care about then yes it would add love into it and make it better. Sex cant subsititute love tho it is very good. Mos people get pleasure and love mixed up when it comes to sex.

[ksfirefighter]

would agree totally some people cant seperate the two. As some on here have proven you can have love and no sex and the other way around. As long as everyone is on the same page makes it much easier.

[yaser]

Of course, I mentioned about a satistactory sex can be possible more with the one you love you know well.I agree with most of you.These two sex and love cannot be separated.Love prepares one for sex.

[wet36ddd]

i have sex with my husband because i love him.

if i weren't married, and had no personal restraints on myself, i could see me having sex with many men just for the fun of it.

i can be here because there is no love involved...just my own desires, explorations, fantasies to work out with no strings attached.

[yaser]

And there is another question her in sexual styles:who must be more focused?Ourselves or our partners.It seems eastern culture emphasizes on the partner.But what about the Western culture?Me ?or him?

[Norfolkdave]

i have sex with my husband because i love him.

if i weren't married, and had no personal restraints on myself, i could see me having sex with many men just for the fun of it.

i can be here because there is no love involved...just my own desires, explorations, fantasies to work out with no strings attached.

An honest answer and what I like in a woman no strings and honesty with it;)

[illmakeurtoeswiggle]

i have sex with my husband because i love him.

if i weren't married, and had no personal restraints on myself, i could see me having sex with many men just for the fun of it.

i can be here because there is no love involved...just my own desires, explorations, fantasies to work out with no strings attached.


Hmmmmm.......sounds like you have an inner struggle going on there Wet.
I suggest letting go of those restraints and haing fun...at least here and in your fantasy world.
Damn, I knew when I first saw you that you were going to be fun...;)

[wet36ddd]

so you like a girl who has some inner turmoil, huh?
all the more to play with my dear...

[Norfolkdave]

so you like a girl who has some inner turmoil, huh?
all the more to play with my dear...

I love a lot to play with it keeps me hot, passionate and dammed sexy;)

[sex_kitten_4u]

i once had a casual relationship if you could call it that we where both single and did not want to get involved but we met up for nothing but good sex and when one of us did meet someone we told the other and it ended but we have stayed friends

[Zpanther]

One perspective: sex is a physical exercise that just happens to be maybe the best way to express love for a partner. Like other physical exercises, it can be engaged in without love involved. In fact some people at least occasionally engage in recreational sex strictly for fun.

[Sandy]

i have had sex. and i've made love . i think its better to make love. with mark its like we're whole.

[MCat]

i have had sex. and i've made love . i think its better to make love. with mark its like we're whole.

I know what you mean....with marc I feel whole too, oh I mean Hank :D

[Zpanther]

I know what you mean....with marc I feel whole too, oh I mean Hank :D

:lmao :lmao :lmao Man MC! You're really gettin' good at this. :satan:

[Sunfiresix]

Sex & Love Just sex is good, but loveing that certain someone beats it all, then anything is fantastic.

[Sandy]

lol sh mc your not suppose to tell. :lmao

[spare_change]

I guess this is where i part ways with the majority --- again.

Love and sex have absolutely nothing to do with each other. Good sex is just that --- bad sex is just that. Loving somebody is loving somebody -- if you can love someone, and not have sex with them, then sex is not a part of the equation. If you can have sex with someone, and not love them, then love is not part of the equation. There is no correlation between the two.

Like most, I have had sex with love, and sex without love -- it's all good. Let me ask the real question --- if sex and love are so intertwined, and so many profess to truly love their significant other, why are they here playing patty cake? If love and sex are so intertwined, how can you love someone who doesn't even think enough of you to have sex with you, someone who considers you so insignificant that they don't want to sleep with you?

The real answer -- sex and love have nothing to do with each other. The premise that sex is better with love is mostly based on familiarity -- after some amount of time, even us guys learn what buttons to push, ergo, the sex is better. After some amount of time, the ladies feel more comfortable letting go and being themselves, ergo, the sex is better. But to say that the more love, the better the sex is fallacious. Frankly, there are some days we don't like each other at all, and still have sex. Why? Because sex has nothing to do with love.

[Zpanther]

I'll go along with most of what you're saying. Well, at least the basic premise that love and sex are 2 separate things. If I love someone I love them all the time... not just when they're attractive or when it's convenient. Sex is a great way to express love, but it's not the only way. I certainly don't ( and don't want to) have sex with everyone I love either.

[Lena]

I know what you mean....with marc I feel whole too, oh I mean Hank :D

Now the truth is out!!!

[Jy]

Sex and love don't have to go together. Some of the best sex I've had has been with people I don't love. If two people are sexually compatible, the sex will be good. In fact, my first husband and I had fantastic sex right up until -and including- our last night together.

As far as love goes, there are countless different kinds and degrees of love. Love for parents, spouses, children, friends, etc. You can't love your mom like you love your first crush, or like your best friend, or your child. I think that's how you can love a spouse and still come to a site like this and play patty cake (I like that analogy Spare!!)
Besides -and I'm sure I'll hear about this one- one person can't be everything to you; they can't fill all your needs. It's like having only one friend. It's impossible. You have your sports friends, bookish friends, musical friends, etc. It's the same for partners. That's how I can say I love my husband and still enjoy myself here.

[MCat]

I guess this is where i part ways with the majority --- again. ( You handsome cowboy rebel...;) )

Love and sex have absolutely nothing to do with each other. (For some people they have everything to do with each other, I had to know that Hank loved me before we had sex. I didn't want him to use me just for sex, he could have gotten just sex somewhere else and did before we were together. I was ready for marriage and wanted the person I married to love me for me, not because I had a very nice 17 year old body)

Good sex is just that --- bad sex is just that. (Whether you love them or not)

Loving somebody is loving somebody -- if you can love someone, and not have sex with them, then sex is not a part of the equation. ( I think this equation is very important, its because you love someone that you can stay with them without having sex, ya know in case of illness or just damn stubbornness in your partner when they hold out on you. But you stay because you love who they are, you love the person and can live without the sex.

If you can have sex with someone, and not love them, then love is not part of the equation. There is no correlation between the two.( In this situation love/sex are not connected...and this is possible for some to participate in.)

Like most, I have had sex with love, and sex without love -- it's all good.
(I have not had that experience)

Let me ask the real question --- if sex and love are so intertwined, and so many profess to truly love their significant other, why are they here playing patty cake?( I am not having sex with those I meet here...For Hank & I being here is not interferring with our love for each other - In fact it has strengthened it. We know not to take each other for granted....Being here has helped us be more open with each other. I think I was looking for acceptance from others....I wanted to know and I wanted Hank to know that someone else thought I was worthy.Guess it was a selfesteem thing, since I have been with nobody else...loved nobody else, screwed or made love with nobody else. I needed to know if Hank did not love or want me anymore that I - at my age could find someone else to love me and I them. Oh yeah....and I love playing Patty Cake )

If love and sex are so intertwined, how can you love someone who doesn't even think enough of you to have sex with you, someone who considers you so insignificant that they don't want to sleep with you?(Depends on the situation...some stay for the children, the security, the companionship. For some its worth living without sex to have the rest.)

The real answer -- sex and love have nothing to do with each other. The premise that sex is better with love is mostly based on familiarity -- after some amount of time, even us guys learn what buttons to push, ergo, the sex is better. After some amount of time, the ladies feel more comfortable letting go and being themselves, ergo, the sex is better. But to say that the more love, the better the sex is fallacious. Frankly, there are some days we don't like each other at all, and still have sex. Why? Because sex has nothing to do with love.( Love and Like are two different emotions, just because somedays I don't like Hank, does not mean I don't love him. I am sure there are many days he doesn't like me, but he still loves me enough to kiss me goodnight and give me a nice flying fuck the next morning)

These opinions are just my own, I totally respect everyone elses opinions, and just because I responded does not mean I think you are full of shit. It means I wanted to voice my opinion.......again.

Oh by the way, Jazzy.....here's your box back :D

[Zpanther]

I guess this is where i part ways with the majority --- again. ( You handsome cowboy rebel...;) )

Love and sex have absolutely nothing to do with each other. (For some people they have everything to do with each other, I had to know that Hank loved me before we had sex. I didn't want him to use me just for sex, he could have gotten just sex somewhere else and did before we were together. I was ready for marriage and wanted the person I married to love me for me, not because I had a very nice 17 year old body)

Good sex is just that --- bad sex is just that. (Whether you love them or not)

Loving somebody is loving somebody -- if you can love someone, and not have sex with them, then sex is not a part of the equation. ( I think this equation is very important, its because you love someone that you can stay with them without having sex, ya know in case of illness or just damn stubbornness in your partner when they hold out on you. But you stay because you love who they are, you love the person and can live without the sex.

If you can have sex with someone, and not love them, then love is not part of the equation. There is no correlation between the two.( In this situation love/sex are not connected...and this is possible for some to participate in.)

Like most, I have had sex with love, and sex without love -- it's all good.
(I have not had that experience)

Let me ask the real question --- if sex and love are so intertwined, and so many profess to truly love their significant other, why are they here playing patty cake?( I am not having sex with those I meet here...For Hank & I being here is not interferring with our love for each other - In fact it has strengthened it. We know not to take each other for granted....Being here has helped us be more open with each other. I think I was looking for acceptance from others....I wanted to know and I wanted Hank to know that someone else thought I was worthy.Guess it was a selfesteem thing, since I have been with nobody else...loved nobody else, screwed or made love with nobody else. I needed to know if Hank did not love or want me anymore that I - at my age could find someone else to love me and I them. Oh yeah....and I love playing Patty Cake )

If love and sex are so intertwined, how can you love someone who doesn't even think enough of you to have sex with you, someone who considers you so insignificant that they don't want to sleep with you?(Depends on the situation...some stay for the children, the security, the companionship. For some its worth living without sex to have the rest.)

The real answer -- sex and love have nothing to do with each other. The premise that sex is better with love is mostly based on familiarity -- after some amount of time, even us guys learn what buttons to push, ergo, the sex is better. After some amount of time, the ladies feel more comfortable letting go and being themselves, ergo, the sex is better. But to say that the more love, the better the sex is fallacious. Frankly, there are some days we don't like each other at all, and still have sex. Why? Because sex has nothing to do with love.( Love and Like are two different emotions, just because somedays I don't like Hank, does not mean I don't love him. I am sure there are many days he doesn't like me, but he still loves me enough to kiss me goodnight and give me a nice flying fuck the next morning)

These opinions are just my own, I totally respect everyone elses opinions, and just because I responded does not mean I think you are full of shit. It means I wanted to voice my opinion.......again.

Oh by the way, Jazzy.....here's your box back :D

You go girl! You handle that soapbox pretty well. One of the things I like about this forum is more and more people are willing to express different opinions and explanations of experiences that have affected their outlook on serious subjects. We don't all agree. But then it would be pretty damn boring if we all thought the same way wouldn't it?

[MCat]

[QUOTE=marycat]

But then it would be pretty damn boring if we all thought the same way wouldn't it?

I love that we can do this....If I said half this stuff to my so called friends or my family someone would deck me :D

[Jy]

You're absolutely right! It's the diversity of this group that makes it so interesting! If we all agreed all the time, there would be nothing to say!

[Norfolkdave]

[QUOTE=Zpanther]

I love that we can do this....If I said half this stuff to my so called friends or my family someone would deck me :D

I,ll pick you up, give you a good screw, and sand you down. your be as good as new:D

[sex_kitten_4u]

[QUOTE=marycat]

I,ll pick you up, give you a good screw, and sand you down. your be as good as new:D


you not had enough screwing for today dave :lmao

[Lena]

Yes Zp it would be a very boring world if we all agreed on everything !!!!!

[Norfolkdave]

[QUOTE=Norfolkdave]


you not had enough screwing for today dave :lmao

LOL No Im in the screwing mode today must be all that heavy wrist action, its reaching the one eyed monster, the mode has slipped.:D

[Dyed]

Yes!!!!

[MCat]

[QUOTE=marycat]

I,ll pick you up, give you a good screw, and sand you down. your be as good as new:D

Wow Davy......:boobs:

[belfast]

When Dave is done maybe I can fill in..Oops did I say that:knuddel:


[QUOTE=Norfolkdave]

Wow Davy......:boobs:

[cherokeered]

Sex for me requires some sort of feelings for the person....or it won't work...


I do not have casual, meaningless sex....and have never had sex with a stranger or a one night stand....

It may be fine for some people...I know some favor the all purpose fuck buddy....or swinging...which is fine for them..but for me, it would never work....I get attached...I need to feel something back...some sort of connection....

Cherokee...;)

[Norfolkdave]

[QUOTE=Norfolkdave]

Wow Davy......:boobs:

Blast mme belt sanders broke:lmao

[sex_kitten_4u]

is that all the is broke ?

[Norfolkdave]

is that all the is broke ?

Hell girl let me come to your neck of the woods and I,llshow ya me pliers:lmao

[sex_kitten_4u]

its not your pliers i would be wanting to see , but have lost t the magnifying glass lol

[Norfolkdave]

its not your pliers i would be wanting to see , but have lost t the magnifying glass lol

Dam girl, and they were the best pair too:lmao