How well do you take rejection?

[p.a]

If you were rejected by someone you've taken a liking to, how well would you handle it?

[p.J]

Oh! I can think of many cliches here..


I am a fairly emotional person, very quick to fire off the handle, though overtime my skin has grown thick quickly. Now, I feel like a query reptile with a nearly impenetrable scaley ass! You just have to learn how to deal with rejection, accept it, and move on...

[Domus]

I believe that everything happens for a reason ...:)

[WandaRing]

It comes down to who and why they are rejecting me. I’m not high on myself but I do believe that I am a decent person so if someone doesn’t like me tough titty for them. I go by my own values and believes, I don’t need the approval of others to feel good about myself.

[mer]

It comes down to who and why they are rejecting me. I’m not high on myself but I do believe that I am a decent person so if someone doesn’t like me tough titty for them. I go by my own values and believes, I don’t need the approval of others to feel good about myself.


couldn't have been better said!

[scoobertina]

I am a very emotional person... It would depend on how deep our friendship had gotten... How attached I had gotten... While I do not enter into friendships with the intention of anything other than flirting you can become closer than you originally intended to... I don't think I have been rejected by anyone, so I can't tell you.. although if they don't talk to me, I am fine with that... it just means I am not their cup of tea..

[Postman]

I don't. So anybody got a gun?

[Iwantutowantme]

Oh! I can think of many cliches here..


I am a fairly emotional person, very quick to fire off the handle, though overtime my skin has grown thick quickly. Now, I feel like a query reptile with a nearly impenetrable scaley ass! You just have to learn how to deal with rejection, accept it, and move on...

I am in total agreement with you Jenny.......and I am very much the same way as you. Rejection is a part of life. When I am rejected, I usually use the 'equal and opposite' reaction.....reject them. It works for a while anyway.

[Iwantutowantme]

It comes down to who and why they are rejecting me. I’m not high on myself but I do believe that I am a decent person so if someone doesn’t like me tough titty for them. I go by my own values and believes, I don’t need the approval of others to feel good about myself.

good answer AnnieGeeeee........ Rejection is a result of alot of things, and the main one is the judgement of one person upon another. Some people are very arogant or have a very big ego or are jealous. In any case they are the 'losers' .........:)

[RedVixen]

If you were rejected by someone you've taken a liking to, how well would you handle it?

Well, like any mature adult - go hide out in a corner and cry...

No seriously, if you get rejected by someone you like - it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. Not everyone will return your 'interest' in them. Get up, dust yourself off and move on. It's their loss, not yours.

[MCat]

I won't have to worry about it....

No one in their right mind would reject me....:D

[pointofnoreturn]

Been there done that. Get over it.......Who is next?????

[cherokeered]

If you were rejected by someone you've taken a liking to, how well would you handle it?


Publicly.....ok

Privately....well...not well........depends on my mood really and how into them I was....

[megan363]

Crushed...but have to move on. It's his loss. If you don't think that way you will go crazy.

[boomer3]

Crushed...but have to move on. It's his loss. If you don't think that way you will go crazy.

How about someones shoulder to fall on?

[Mustang65]

Unfortunately I have lacked the "guts" to get to this point - I will be probably happening soon though.

[ClassyBabe]

Deep inside, like anyone else who is being completely honest, I don't like rejection, but I like who I am enough that it doesn't hurt for long. I am not going to change who I am for anyone, so if someone doesn't click with me, then the relationship just wasn't meant to be.

[yaser]

Deep inside, like anyone else who is being completely honest, I don't like rejection, but I like who I am enough that it doesn't hurt for long. I am not going to change who I am for anyone, so if someone doesn't click with me, then the relationship just wasn't meant to be.
What about a rejection after a deep ocean digging?

[yaser]

Been there done that. Get over it.......Who is next?????
Waiting for you in the line for 6 months..

[l2hk]

It depends on the situation I suppose. But no one likes rejection.

[MCat]

5 years ago rejection would have sent me into depression...

At this time in my life I might be hurt for just a little bit...I'm now confident enough to know that I'm worth whatever time you waste on me. And if you don't want me for who I am now, what I like, what I want.... I can find someone who does.

This would cover my work and my personal life....

[MCat]

Son of a bitch....I feel taller having said that......

[Fat Bass]

horribly... i'm a cancer...very sensitive...

[l2hk]

Son of a bitch....I feel taller having said that......

You made me taller having said that!

[hank69]

5 years ago rejection would have sent me into depression...

At this time in my life I might be hurt for just a little bit...I'm now confident enough to know that I'm worth whatever time you waste on me. And if you don't want me for who I am now, what I like, what I want.... I can find someone who does.

This would cover my work and my personal life....



Ya......me too..........what you said.....

[nycblueyedman]

if you don't like my response to this post.........i'll just kill myself..........

[l2hk]

haha

[mrh50]

go figure

[SA007]

Cant say, never been rejected.... (should have put that in the "tell me a lie" topic_

[spare_change]

If rejection doesn't hurt, maybe you better check to see if you still have a pulse.

How you deal with it is a matter of self respect.

[lilolekimba67(f)]

it would really hurt but would have to move on no sence dwelling on it

[mrclark76]

I'm pretty comfortable with who I am at this point and have been rejected enough in my life to realize that it happens for many reasons (some of which you have no control over). No one likes to be rejected, but it's part of life. You may feel hurt or angry but you have to move on - you can't dwell on it.

[Sneaky]

If rejection doesn't hurt, maybe you better check to see if you still have a pulse.

How you deal with it is a matter of self respect.

Pefectly said!

[PlayfulMale69]

I love what Spare has said. Check your pulse if rejection doesn't hurt.

I tend to retreat and not try again. I don't want to deal with it again. Perhaps I shouldn't worry about rejection and ask her again and again if she wants to make love? .......... Nah,

[toowildtotame]

Rejection is a part of life. To be rejected by the person who supposedly loves us?? Well that is another matter. IF that person is withholding sex or you find yourself having to beg for sex from a person YOU Think, Loves YOU,, think again.

Divorce Him or her and get on with life as it should be- happy and full of love.

[peaches]

I don't think anyone takes rejection well, but it depends on how you act upon it....I'm no phyco and it hurts for awhile, but I survive...get even mad alittle....try to figure what went wrong...they figured it's there loose not mine and they must be a very vain and shallow person.....but it takes a long while to get over it, but you do...

[angelis]

I handle it well, I sulk for weeks and weeks,throw some plates,oh yeah,handle it very maturely!!!;)

[scoobertina]

I don't handle it well.. not well at all!

[unctarheel_32]

i handle rejection farely well I think.

[OICurready4me]

I look at it as the other persons loss and put it behind me as quickly. By dwelling on it, it will only bring me down. I do get a bit of a smile on my face though when the rejecter then has problems with their choice over me. A little retribution can warm the cockles of your heart in that case, very well.

[learman3]

I don't handle rejection very well at all. I think that is why I don't put myself in that type of situation. I tend to stay in my comfort zone so I'll be safe from any sort of rejection.

[c50t]

If you were rejected by someone you've taken a liking to, how well would you handle it?

Why do you ask? Are you trying to tell me something? Did someone put you up to this? Should I be worried?

[Postman]

Part of life sometimes.
You have to take it and move on.

[up4fun]

When i get rejected I like to pout....

[spare_change]

I take rejection well -- doesn't bother me at all -- don't get excited one way or other.

After all, if that stupid sonofabitch hasn't got the brains of a dead fucking ant, and can't see the wisdom in my way, why should I waste the energy getting upset at the little cocksucker? Why would I want to rip off his head and piss down his neck? Huh? Huh?

[AL(m)]

No one likes rejection.... doesnt do for the olde.. self esteem... and all that stuff.... but when it does happen.. I tend to go quiet.. and then think to myself why I was rejected and then avoid the situation....
you also cant please all of the people.... ...
Just would love to please one or two.....lol....

[Penny]

I dont take it well and it really bothers me :(

[Cotties]

I've gotten good at it over the years

[Sensual Woman]

I almost always blame myself.

[cheerymissy_34]

i guess im always thinking i will be rejected so i guess i do alot of blaming of myself

[PlayfulMale69]

I guess I take it hard and blame myself.

[Huzyerdaddi]

Depends on the level of my expectations up front. I accept rejection better if I take the risk knowing there is a chance of being denied. If my expectations are high and it doesn't work out, I have to deal with the disappointment.

[My_Secrets_Kept]

I don't deal with rejection well at all! But you have to put one foot in front of the other and work your way through it. And even though that may be a long difficult road to travel, you can learn to be a stronger person because of it.

[Huzyerdaddi]

I don't deal with rejection well at all! But you have to put one foot in front of the other and work your way through it. And even though that may be a long difficult road to travel, you can learn to be a stronger person because of it.

it helps to lean on others too. Friends can help

[My_Secrets_Kept]

it helps to lean on others too. Friends can help

Yes it does help to lean on your friends. And sometimes when the chips are down you may find you have much stronger friendships that you may have realized before!

[laidback]

For me it really depends on the situation. I generally just deal with it and try to learn from the experience.

[wolfman]

Not well. Insecure I guess

[wolfman]

I am in total agreement with you Jenny.......and I am very much the same way as you. Rejection is a part of life. When I am rejected, I usually use the 'equal and opposite' reaction.....reject them. It works for a while anyway.
Me too. I think it's kind of natural.....but painful too

[pointofnoreturn]

NOt thrilled with rejection...But heywho is??????Just remember you have probably rejected someone at sometime as well........Part of Life...Just be nice to me when you dump me please.....But me a drinkor something...

[Iwantutowantme]

I usually give that person the same as he or she gave me........ (sometimes double)....... One cold shoulder deserves **two cold shoulders. My personal feelings on this is that I am no better than anyone else and visa versa...

[MCat]

This week....can't deal with it this week....

[yaser]

This week....can't deal with it this week....
who can reject you Mcat?The one who rejetcs you hates himself..

[spare_change]

How do I handle rejection?


Fuck em.

[fly]

I don't. So anybody got a gun?

I hear Jamie's got a gun..........

[almost40soccermom]

Not very well

[wolfman]

Rejection SUCKS, let's face it

[GentleBen]

I'm not sure I really know. I'm trying to remember the last time I was rejected since I'm too shy to ever approach any women. I think you actually have to make some sort of move to get rejected, so I guess rejection would something quite new to me. I suppose I've come to accept who I am and am content not having to face either risk or rejection. Since I have a very laid back personality, though, I think I'd take it ok. There's not much you can do but move on. Life's too short to dwell on those sorts of things.

Ben

[Sneaky]

Not real well. Notice the weapon? Reject me. I dare you. LOL.

[UltimateNaneki]

I take it just fine....but the guy that rejected me :lmao: he don't take me killing him so well!

[Huzyerdaddi]

Not real well. Notice the weapon? Reject me. I dare you. LOL.

Take your best shot.

[toowildtotame]

As long as it comes after sex :lmao - I am with Spare-- fuck em--

[IMaLady]

I can take rejection better if Im told straight up by the person rather than just being ignored. Yes I might get a little down for a day or two but then Im all better and on to the next great thing.

[1hotmommy]

"I guess I take it hard and blame myself."

I'm exactly the same way. I take it personally and think about how I could have done something different.

[Dmy]

I take it usually quite personal. I will feel bad about it and what I could have done ..but will try to atleast attempt to leave it on a good note. Which isnt always the case...some times you just have to swallow it.

[wolfman]

I take it usually quite personal. I will feel bad about it and what I could have done ..but will try to atleast attempt to leave it on a good note. Which isnt always the case...some times you just have to swallow it.
Well said Dreamy. Frankly, to me rejection just plain sucks. I always blame myself. I always crawl into a shell and stay there. And I always keep fighting until I'm convinced that it's useless. Then I can finally move on

[Bama River Man]

If?

When it has happened I try not to take it too personally. . . different strokes for different folks. . .I like my strokes slow and steady.

[Psynge]

I know I don't deal with it very well

[txcountryboy38]

I take rejection extremely poorly. I have had self-image issues all my life, and I wish I didn't take things so personally, but I do. :(

[Krystal]

I live with it daily.....starting to find other ways to cope, lol

[txcountryboy38]

I live with it daily.....starting to find other ways to cope, lol

I'm with you, Krystal... You would think that I'd get better at handling it. :)

[MrHyde]

Not well...who does?

[OICurready4me]

At the moment I may take it pretty well, but I dwell on it for a while and think of what I could have done better so it won't happen again.

[1sxymama]

I try to hide my feelings and get on with things

[TIGUY]

I'm still learning and this is a great place to learn from. What seems real usually does not last and I have learned to do a lot of looking at myself and stop blaming others.

Rejection, after a wonderful connection, hits me hard because I put so much of myself into it...and I am sensing...that is the cause of my rejections.

I almost have this thing figured out...I figure by this time next year I should be good with it all.

[learman3]

I do not tend to handle rejection very well at all. I think that is why I tend not to put myself out there. If you don't get noticed there is no chance anyone could reject you. I also have these self perceived notions after I've started chatting with someone and we don't talk for a while that they don't like me or I've done something wrong to hurt them. This makes me get even quieter and the longer we don't speak the more awkward things become and I usually just end up disappearing. It's easier for me to run away then it is to face any sort of conflict or hurt. I guess I let my fear of not being liked over run my whole social life. Granted my social skills are lacking which doesn't help much. It causes me to say stupid things or look like an idiot. Geeesh I hope I haven't done that with anyone here. Okay, so I took this a bit further than just how I felt about rejection, I apologize.

[TIGUY]

Looks just fine in my book Lear...get it out there..this is a very supportive place to do so!

[jmsmith12345]

I just go and talk to the next hottest chick in the bar

[Atrebla Rose]

I take it personally,,,,I withdraw from the people around me, and I find ones that need me and pour everything I have into being a friend,,,,,sometimes you are just better off only being a friend and not wishing for anything more.

Then things settle and I know to be happy you have to reach out again. Each rejection make the heart bigger when healed, that is why they hurt more each time.

[manda1]

I hate it....It hurts and it is hard to recover:(

[scoobertina]

I take it pretty bad at first, but then I move on.... depending on how serious the relationship was.....

if we were just getting to know each other, ce la vie...... not a big issue...

if we were hot and heavy.... it would take several very vocal comments on what a prick that man is...

if I was in love..... I would be in severe pain... it never goes away.. it always becomes a dull ache...

[OnceAKing]

Rejection?... What's that?... I've found that if I'm always an ass and dislike everyone first then I'm never expecting to be liked so it's never a disappointment when I'm rejected. But seriously, I think it's something we all have to deal with in one form or another. I'm very thin skinned and very sensitive to other's reactions so it's something that's always there just ready and waiting to pop it's ugly head up.

Few here know that I had Polio when I was a little over 2 yrs old and as a result I was left with a residual paralysis of a muscle in my face. I've had to deal with so called rejection issues all my life as far back as I can remember. I'm still my worst critic though. I hate looking at myself in the mirror or having my picture taken, as a matter of fact, a picture of me is a rare thing. Other than for my drivers license or an ID, there's only one time that I've agreed to my picture being taken in the last many, many years and that was within this past week. But like I said I'm the worst offender of the reject me thing...and I think that may be true for so many of us, we are so expecting to be rejected that we set ourselves up for it and then do it to ourselves...first. I can't quit without first saying that finally, after many years of having to live with it daily, I can finally see it as a blessing rather than something to fear rejection for.

My daily prayer is still for God to allow me to see myself as others see me...so, so many times that's way better than what we see in ourselves.

[Hands_solo]

Stage1 - Stalking , if that don't work then its directly to stage2(pouting),then I always get what I want .

Seriously , would depend on the situation , there have been times,being a guy and all , I totally misread the signs , then its just funny , but a few times when I felt I have been treated unfairly ,or intentional mislead(THIS thing has a SPELLCHECKER whoo hoo!!!) , I just move on , dwelling on shit is bad , and karma will sort it out in the end

[scoobertina]

spell check? I never get my spelling checked.... *pouting* I feel rejected!

[yaser]

The matter is not rejection but preferring someone else which makes me angry.

[private beaches]

Rejection?... What's that?... I've found that if I'm always an ass and dislike everyone first then I'm never expecting to be liked so it's never a disappointment when I'm rejected. But seriously, I think it's something we all have to deal with in one form or another. I'm very thin skinned and very sensitive to other's reactions so it's something that's always there just ready and waiting to pop it's ugly head up.

Few here know that I had Polio when I was a little over 2 yrs old and as a result I was left with a residual paralysis of a muscle in my face. I've had to deal with so called rejection issues all my life as far back as I can remember. I'm still my worst critic though. I hate looking at myself in the mirror or having my picture taken, as a matter of fact, a picture of me is a rare thing. Other than for my drivers license or an ID, there's only one time that I've agreed to my picture being taken in the last many, many years and that was within this past week. But like I said I'm the worst offender of the reject me thing...and I think that may be true for so many of us, we are so expecting to be rejected that we set ourselves up for it and then do it to ourselves...first. I can't quit without first saying that finally, after many years of having to live with it daily, I can finally see it as a blessing rather than something to fear rejection for.

My daily prayer is still for God to allow me to see myself as others see me...so, so many times that's way better than what we see in ourselves.

There are so many things youve said that I can identify with and struggle with daily. Thank you for your post OAK

[poof-fairy]

I don't like being rejected either. I usualy don't even make a move because of the fear of rejection. I missed out on a lot of things because of this. I am working on it....I am here and this is the start

[stellabelle]

This is why I've recently implemented the two week rule...two weeks keeping everything light. If it's still going on after that, then the no BS rule. The only time that really doesn't work is when they dump you for someone else!

[TIGUY]

Hey King....you're a man's man for sure and pretty damned determined if you ask me....and you have a great partner right now! Different is beautiful to many in this day and age..years ago it was archaic and wrong the way we sometimes looked at facts of life that couldn't be changed

:ok:ok

Rejection?... What's that?... I've found that if I'm always an ass and dislike everyone first then I'm never expecting to be liked so it's never a disappointment when I'm rejected. But seriously, I think it's something we all have to deal with in one form or another. I'm very thin skinned and very sensitive to other's reactions so it's something that's always there just ready and waiting to pop it's ugly head up.

Few here know that I had Polio when I was a little over 2 yrs old and as a result I was left with a residual paralysis of a muscle in my face. I've had to deal with so called rejection issues all my life as far back as I can remember. I'm still my worst critic though. I hate looking at myself in the mirror or having my picture taken, as a matter of fact, a picture of me is a rare thing. Other than for my drivers license or an ID, there's only one time that I've agreed to my picture being taken in the last many, many years and that was within this past week. But like I said I'm the worst offender of the reject me thing...and I think that may be true for so many of us, we are so expecting to be rejected that we set ourselves up for it and then do it to ourselves...first. I can't quit without first saying that finally, after many years of having to live with it daily, I can finally see it as a blessing rather than something to fear rejection for.

My daily prayer is still for God to allow me to see myself as others see me...so, so many times that's way better than what we see in ourselves.

[Bandit]

This is why I've recently implemented the two week rule...two weeks keeping everything light. If it's still going on after that, then the no BS rule. The only time that really doesn't work is when they dump you for someone else!

:lmao

Yeah, that getting dumped thing really messes up a good plan :)

[cherokeered]

I doubt anyone likes it...some people take it harder than others....I know i don't take it well....but, I do eventually get past it...but some hurts never go away

[Charmed]

It sucks!

[Humpty Dumpty]

To me, it depends on the situation for the rejection.

If it's some one I meet in a social or business setting, I just assume it's because of some personality differences and there's nothing to be done about it. We all do it subconsciously with people we meet in everyday situations. I tend to want to give the other person the benefit of the doubt until they've proven they're an a$$.

In a romantic situation, I have a tough time getting over it. Usually, I'll withdraw until the pain lessens to the point where the inner me feels comfortable to venture forth for another slap.

[coug511]

To steal a phase from another, put on your big boy shorts and get over it!!!

[coug511]

No one can be special to everyone, but everyone can be special to someone

[FizProf]

I am very good at it...I've had LOTS of practice...

[michigan_lady]

It sucks!

Sure does.

[mer]

i'll let you know if it ever happens....lmvo..i'm kidding...it actually doesn't bother me to much cuz it just means it wouldn't have worked out anyway!! but it does suck for a second!!

[SunnyD]

Well I agree with Meredith that if it is only one sided it does suck, but it the long run it was just the push you need to get you back on track to what makes you happy.

[Luna]

I agree with the above ladies.. rejection is a blessing in disguise.

But it does hurt. :(

[jmsmith12345]

It only bothers me when they tell me I am "too tall for this ride." I hate heightism.

[WandaRing]

:sc If these quotes are true:

“Love sees sharply, hatred sees even more sharp, but Jealousy sees the sharpest for it is love and hate at the same time”


“Jealousy is nothing more than a fear of abandonment”


“Jealousy is that pain which a man feels from the apprehension that he is not equally beloved by the person whom he entirely loves”


http://thinkexist.com/quotations/jealousy/


then jealously must be a strong form of love that we feel for a person or thing, physically, emotionally, mentally and throughout us. Love that we are afraid of losing or having taken from us, or/and the fear of being alone in our feelings, or not having our love returned.

I think we all get afraid sometimes, the world is a big scary place....

[angelis]

I don't take rejection well, in any way, shape or form. I always look at it as a failing on my part, maybe if I had just done something a little bit better, been a little smarter, funnier etc. I love the attitude of some of the posters and would love to be able to shake it off, chalk it down to experience and just see it as something that wasn't meant to be.

[Torin]

I take it as a personal challenge. It does hurt, but almost always, something good comes from it.

[Lacey]

It hurts....I think even if you get over it real quick, it still hurts and bothers you for a bit. But as everything else, you've got to get up and move on!

[Barkiss]

Water on a duck's back.....





**wonder if they bought it**

[yaser]

I never look back....

[Lena]

Water on a duck's back.....





**wonder if they bought it**
No!! Don't even try to fool me!!!
I know better!! ;)

[fbty]

Mama always said you gotta stick with what you know best!

It sucks, but what choice do you have but to move on?

[Inapinch]

Don't know it's never happened ;)

Kidding, it sucks, but it is brief and nothing ventured, nothing gained

[Rocket Man]

depressing but I get over it quick I think

[bert_burt2000]

Been there, done that.... :( No fun but at least I tried. I feel worse for not trying. "No sadder words of tounge or pen then are these: 'What might have been?'" So you may get rejected... go ahead and give it a shot anyway. Who knows?

[bluejay24]

For me rejection is the worst. I feel so down that i dont have what it takes to make someone happy.

[ksue7274]

sucks...but they say there is always a reason things happen. Sometimes I just wish we could see why immediately and not have to wait.

[was4fun2003]

From my viewpoint rejection is never easy to deal with, that said, if it totally knocks you off your rocker, then you will simply settle for what life brings you.

If on the other hand you realize that for every No you get, that you are that much closer to the next Yes, then you might see it as the other persons loss and not yours.

The worst answer someone can give you is an answer that is neither Yes or No, but a Maybe. That leads you on and wastes your valuable time, at least if you get a No, move on toward you next YES.

This is not for everyone, but life is to short to play games.

[Constance]

I am ok with rejection, as long as someone is honest with me and tells me the truth and treats me with respect. I can understand that I am not for everyone and everyone is not for me. That does not mean that you can not treat someone like a human that has feeling and care about them.

[fondew2004]

If you were rejected by someone you've taken a liking to, how well would you handle it?
Poorly...very poorly.

I don't deal well with being punched!

I've found that the "rejector" often times does not have the courage to reject in an open and honest manner.
Instead it happens like an IED...blows up in your face when you least expect it. They will sneak, lie, obfuscate, spin, ignore... anything to "show" you it's over...but never be courageous or honest enough to come right out and tell you.

Nope: don't do well with that kind of rejection at all.

[NeilC]

doesnt bother me in the least little bit, it isnt the quantity of friends I have its the quality of the true friends I have that it the measure of my happiness

[gadzooks]

not at all

[SAPPHIRE]

Poorly...very poorly.

I don't deal well with being punched!

I've found that the "rejector" often times does not have the courage to reject in an open and honest manner.
Instead it happens like an IED...blows up in your face when you least expect it. They will sneak, lie, obfuscate, spin, ignore... anything to "show" you it's over...but never be courageous or honest enough to come right out and tell you.

Nope: don't do well with that kind of rejection at all.



Oh wow .... Fondew you pretty much just sumed up a friend of mine .... LOL .... And then he wondered why I told him to grow some balls .. LOL



....I can take rejection well if the person acts grown up about it ... If they act like an a$$ the way Fondew described above then I will ever so politely tell them what they can go do with themselves .. LOL

[scoobertina]

I didn't take it too well up to about a few months ago.. when I realized I will always be rejected.. then I decided that I will just play around and have some fun.. and not take anyone too seriously.. that way when someone funnier, prettier, sexier, or whatever comes along I am no longer hurt by them.. and the last time I was rejected it was actually ok.. still hurt a bit.. but I was okay..

[Singeon]

I've put up with it for 15 years..pretty bloody well i think.

[OnceAKing]

I think I handle it pretty well...it's the unprovoked, "Fuck Off, Shorty" that really makes me head south...so to speak.

[yaser]

Oh wow .... Fondew you pretty much just sumed up a friend of mine .... LOL .... And then he wondered why I told him to grow some balls .. LOL



....I can take rejection well if the person acts grown up about it ... If they act like an a$$ the way Fondew described above then I will ever so politely tell them what they can go do with themselves .. LOL

I have checked how you would tackle rejection,Maggie.You are so clever and grown.It was a dirty trick.:sngSorry.

[blu]

depends on who is rejecting me, usually not so well

[yaser]

I think I handle it pretty well...it's the unprovoked, "Fuck Off, Shorty" that really makes me head south...so to speak.

Once I was very bad..But now better.Glad you are good at it.

[Lass]

about as well as I take losing

[lockshock]

I dont like it, but after a while you start to get used to it.....

[Shawn]

It would probably devastate me if it ever happened

[Han Solo]

Well this is where the whole "I don't really like people" thing helps allot.....no need for any of those messy feelings that can be rejected :sg

[jmsmith12345]

Next!

[daisyduck]

it doesnt bother me to much, unless its my family and my closest friends.

[Tempest]

I guess it depends on who is doing the rejecting. Very few people have the power to truly hurt me that way.

[Sinster]

I guess it depends on who is doing the rejecting. Very few people have the power to truly hurt me that way.
Snap!!!

[yaser]

I guess it depends on who is doing the rejecting. Very few people have the power to truly hurt me that way.

Spanky, who are those few?

[Tempest]

Spanky, who are those few?

They know who they are. And I hope trusting them is not a mistake.

[yaser]

They know who they are. And I hope trusting them is not a mistake.

That means you donot want to talk...?

[glamourgirl]

I have friends that say "next"... (sometimes I wish I was like them!)
but I dont get close in general.... so when i let down my guard, and let someone in. Then the rejection hurts, for real.
I rollerblade with really loud music...miles and miles.
whine to CC (who says next!)
then I feel better!

[yaser]

I have friends that say "next"... (sometimes I wish I was like them!)
but I dont get close in general.... so when i let down my guard, and let someone in. Then the rejection hurts, for real.
I rollerblade with really loud music...miles and miles.
whine to CC (who says next!)
then I feel better!

How about feeling how great you are when you do great tasks,Glamour?I know and witnessed some.:sngYou are really great.:sng

[glamourgirl]

How about feeling how great you are when you do great tasks,Glamour?I know and witnessed some.:sngYou are really great.:sng

Thank you sweetie....
But, the question was how do we feel when rejected?
And that still hurts no matter who you are or what you accomplish...
That being said you my dear, are a great friend and always make me feel like i can do anything i desire... thats why i love ya my friend....you make my day!

[yaser]

Thank you sweetie....
But, the question was how do we feel when rejected?
And that still hurts no matter who you are or what you accomplish...
That being said you my dear, are a great friend and always make me feel like i can do anything i desire... thats why i love ya my friend....you make my day!

Mutual,Glamour.

[countrygent07]

I take rejection very personally. The usual questions pop into my head: what's so wrong with me? Did I say the wrong thing? Should I have left out that 'horse story'?

[stellabelle]

The longer I hang out here, the better I get at it! :thr

[SirFox]

One of my problems: I take it very personally and it can get really bad.

[scoobertina]

One of my problems: I take it very personally and it can get really bad.

yeah, I don't take it too well either... it hurts when someone is through with you.. when they don't write to you anymore.. when they forget you..

[gr8doods]

yeah, I don't take it too well either... it hurts when someone is through with you.. when they don't write to you anymore.. when they forget you..
here I thought I was the only one that felt this way..nice to know I have company..they say misery loves company..:)

[catmom]

I have a terrible time with it - so don't any of you reject me or I'll have to get ugly.....

[countrygent07]

I have a terrible Time with it - so don't any of you reject me or I'll have to get ugly.....

You'll get no rejections from me! :sng

[yaser]

I have a terrible time with it - so don't any of you reject me or I'll have to get ugly.....

Do you reject yourself,Catmom?

[Rolex24]

It depends on my mood at any given time

[Danso]

If you were rejected by someone you've taken a liking to, how well would you handle it?

Chalk it up to experience and move on. It's not like that person is the ONLY possible person you will ever be interested in. There are 6.7 billion people on this planet. About half of those are of the sex you are interested in. What makes more sense, pine after a demonstrated failure or try something new?

[ladynw8ing]

I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve, unfortunately for me, so after being rejected and going through the phase of trying to figure out the why's or how's.....I eventually get through it and maybe even learn a little something else about myself.

[SirFox]

I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve, unfortunately for me, so after being rejected and going through the phase of trying to figure out the why's or how's.....I eventually get through it and maybe even learn a little something else about myself.

The important part is to learn something from your experience. We, Humans, have a tendency to have to re-learn the why and the hows the wheel works each new generation..
It gets tiring...wish we could really learn from past generations.:sc

[scoobertina]

here I thought I was the only one that felt this way..nice to know I have company..they say misery loves company..:)

don't get me wrong, I am not miserable.. if I am not that important to someone then I don't want them in my life.. I am glad I find out that they are playing me before I get involved deeper...

[PunkyBob]

Not well at all.

[3pmac]

I suck at rejection. Hate it and hit hurts bad. Eventually I get past it and realize things happen for a reason.:sc

[CJSinIL]

Rejection is just part of life. I don't care if I get rejected, I just move on. I figure that if I'm rejected, did I really want to waste my time with someone with no taste anyway?

[blu]

apparently not as well as I thought I did. It is also something I dont care to practice, or get better at. its a damn shame everyone doesnt use the same defination of up front and honest. i think there would be less rejection.

[TBoyBob]

Horribly....I usually end up sitting outside their house all night....stalking....quietly....patiently....waiti ng................

Tboybob whispers.... "I know what you're wearing....shhhh"

[scorpi69]

Horribly....I usually end up sitting outside their house all night....stalking....quietly....patiently....waiti ng................

Tboybob whispers.... "I know what you're wearing....shhhh"

So that WAS u out there....lol

Seriously, I don't think anyone handles rejection well as it really sucks...But we have to learn from it and move on...

[daisyduck]

i move on. no since in wasting time on some loser who cant see past his noise!!

[TBoyBob]

So that WAS u out there....lol

Seriously, I don't think anyone handles rejection well as it really sucks...But we have to learn from it and move on...



what do you mean..."was????" :shp:

[scorpi69]

what do you mean..."was????" :shp:

LMAO...ok ok IS ....that better?

[rascal2121]

Not well enough to want to practice very often.

[TBoyBob]

LMAO...ok ok IS ....that better?



.....much....

[leggy4]

If you remember that you are married too, and don't get too involved except for good friends it should hurt that much... When the expectations are too high that is when it hurts the most... I think people here are quick to bounce back... It depends on what is going on in our lives at a given moment too....

[Xanadu7]

Ahhhh ... The women here just toy with us. It's hard on our tender hearts, but we men become stronger through it, and become better lovers.

[november]

I think that is happening to me. Things have changed since sex became part of the equation.
The hardest part for me is to keep talk limited to work, and not the flirty talk that started the whole thing.
It is the sex I will miss, not the person

[redcat]

I try to handle the emotions maturely...but just because I don't rant and rave doesn't mean I'm not deeply affected.

[jenn315ifer]

You can't make someone like you or talk to you. When it happens it sucks, but as one door closes another one is soon to open.

[brian10501]

I think it depends on the relationship.
I had met a woman online and we got along wonderfully. For me it was a perfect scenario. She was fun, amusing, intelligent and drop dead sexy. We talked often and eventually made plans to meet. This went on for about 4 months.
We did meet and although we didn't wind up in bed, we did have a nice time complete with some passionate kissing.

I went home with my head in the clouds.

A week later she gets distant and eventually breaks it off with me.
I still am confused as to why.

That rejection hurt like a son a bitch.

[leggy4]

If referring to rejection here: This is my opinion: It is a very private place and people are revealing things incognito. Emotions run high and then low. Some people are easier to connect with than others are, so when a connection is made and lost I attribute it to the online experience and quickly get over it. Also I protect my heart by keeping the whole thing online where it belongs... Being here is fun. I have taken breaks also but always find my way back for some reading and talking to great people!!!!!!!!!!

[Fwd40s]

I reject the idea of rejection and care to think of it just as not interested.

[leggy4]

I reject the idea of rejection and care to think of it just as not interested.

Who would reject your sweetness???:D

[Fwd40s]

Who would reject your sweetness???:D

Everyone in the universe....but I like your thought better :sng

[leggy4]

:Everyone in the universe....but I like your thought better :sng


Back at ya friend:sng:sng:sng:sng

[gr8doods]

Not well...plus I always wonder why?...what did I do to be rejected?
Also, on some level ..to be rejected there must have been an earlier connection...maybe the pain of rejection comes from a total misunderstanding to begin with

[leggy4]

I wonder if rejection happens when there is an underlying misconception on the part of one of the people and hope that doesn't materialize. Unrealistic expectations maybe! Both people aren't on the same page perhaps. OR stuff happens!!!!!! Been on both sides of it

[icylady125]

rejection hurts and the only way to not get rejected is to stay open mined and just be friends and not get sexually involved!

[redcat]

I try to handle the emotions maturely...but just because I don't rant and rave doesn't mean I'm not deeply affected.


Expanding on previous post: I internalize my pain and hurt, which is why I don't lash out. I take the hurt inside and that's not a good thing...it is detrimental to physical and emotional health, but that seems to be the way I'm wired.

If the rejection is your "everyday" type of thing....my feelings get hurt easily, but I am generally over it fairly quickly. If it involves my heart....it has a much more lasting effect. I will probably never disclose just how badly I was hurt...I get quiet and find someplace private to cry. Some things you never truly get over..some times it just takes time for the wound to heal and scar up.

Since the question is "how well.....", I guess you'd say that I handle it ok, by appearances, anyway.

I often wonder if it is better to lash out; get those feelings out of the system somewhat. But, in doing that, you run the risk of saying/doing things that hurts the other person, also. :sc

[MiSt09]

I kind of handle the big stuff the same way Red does.... quietly keep it to myself... I never let on to the other person how much they have hurt me. As good as it would feel to lay into that person...I try to avoid it as much as possible. I know how vicious I could get if I get on a roll and it wouldn't be worth it for a few minutes of verbal satisfaction.

But when it comes to the small, everyday, bs stuff... I have no problem letting that other person know exactly how I feel. I guess that's because the small stuff really doesn't affect me...

[happygirl101]

Assuming the rejection comes on the heels of a relationship no matter how that is defined...I always explain why I am hurt. Calmly and rationally...and then I go to this place in my head of complete reason:

I tell him hey no biggie cuz lets face it it wasnt real anyways and it wasnt meant to be....

did I say calm - rational and reason - sorry I meant:

pain and degradation! No one handles rejection well its why it is so hard.

[MrHyde]

Not well...not even a little...it brings up my issues.

[happygirl101]

Not well...not even a little...it brings up my issues.


I have never known a person who could and it didn't bring up their issues.

rejection sucks and all that it encompasses

BTW if someone says they handle it well that is their defense mechanism!

Denial

[redcat]

I have never known a person who could and it didn't bring up their issues.

rejection sucks and all that it encompasses

BTW if someone says they handle it well that is their defense mechanism!

Denial


Not just a river in Egypt....sometimes it's what gets you through.

[OnceAKing]

The best defense is a good offense...in sports AND relationships

[mrdiscreet]

The best defense is a good offense...in sports AND relationships

I agree!

[PA Loverboy]

If you were rejected by someone you've taken a liking to, how well would you handle it?

I think it would depend on the situation...
If it was someone I had a history with? I think I would be a little miffed, and would probably try to figure what I said or did to cause the rejection. But sulking won't change anything, you can't force anyone to "like" or "want" you.

If it was someone I really didn't know? Just blow it off, their loss.:))):

[wan2b]

Tough to handle rejection in anything, sex, sports,business etc.. Just suck it up and go on.

[justadude]

I suck at rejection, but you would never know that. I don't throw a hissy fit or anything. I tend to laugh it off, because laughter really is the best medicine. Oh but I am crying on the inside.

[Down to Zero]

Meh ... I take it well I think. Nothing more than a black eye when she says no....

[jmsmith12345]

I cry like a baby until the next cum dumpster makes her way across the floor

[glamourgirl]

10 miles on my blades and an hour in the ring....does the trick.
truth is it cuts into my heart like a knife!
I think no matter how old I get....I will still cry like a schoolgirl the whole 10 miles.
After all I have accomplished...and as much as I deny it...I still want to look into the eyes af that special man and see that I am just a girl and that he adores me naked and vulnerable standing in front of him, with my heart safe in his hands.
that kind of rejection may take another 10 miles!

[scoobertina]

I am an expert at being rejected nowadays.. I handle it pretty good nowadays.. I just move on... to Roland.. he never rejects me... LOL.. he is my slave!

[UnknownOnPurpose]

I used to not take it well at all, but I think now, I handle things better. It would suck, but it wouldn't ruin my life. Just go look someplace else.

[Fwd40s]

10 miles on my blades and an hour in the ring....does the trick.
truth is it cuts into my heart like a knife!
I think no matter how old I get....I will still cry like a schoolgirl the whole 10 miles.
After all I have accomplished...and as much as I deny it...I still want to look into the eyes af that special man and see that I am just a girl and that he adores me naked and vulnerable standing in front of him, with my heart safe in his hands.
that kind of rejection may take another 10 miles!


Your heart is safe in my hands....as well as your other body parts. :sng

For me, I think I'm used to rejection so it doesn't bother me too much. If I'm not wanted then it's their loss. But I'll still play things over in my mind about 10 billion times trying to understand what happened.

[Loves2Flirt]

If someone doesn't want to be with me, then I'm not going to fight for them to like me. Why waste my time?!?! Someone better will come along and blow my mind. Sure, it sucks, but whaddya do??????? Move on and find someone that's going to appreciate YOU!

[Charmed]

Not so good

[november]

I have never taken it well. I don't make a scene, I try not to cry, but inside, it breaks me.

[Jada101]

cry myself to sleep:cry:

[hazeleyes5]

i do not let anything bother me!!!!....

[Zak1000]

In a way that could have benefited from a lengthy course of therapy

[SirFox]

10 miles on my blades and an hour in the ring....does the trick.
truth is it cuts into my heart like a knife!
I think no matter how old I get....I will still cry like a schoolgirl the whole 10 miles.
After all I have accomplished...and as much as I deny it...I still want to look into the eyes af that special man and see that I am just a girl and that he adores me naked and vulnerable standing in front of him, with my heart safe in his hands.
that kind of rejection may take another 10 miles!

I love the way you undress, GG. Will you do it for me several times in a row each day for 10 miles? :yks

[Curiousoneonly]

Hmm..how do I handle rejection. In all honesty, not very well. I handle it as best I can. I go thru the feelings of being hurt, to the ticked mode and then onto the "oh well" mode. I often wonder what I did wrong, what I might have said wrong or what didn't I do. I realize not everyone is going to like me but it is still bothersome.

[Rex]

Rejected all of my life.
It's old hat to me.

[tadpole]

awwwww...it hurts me too the core. I do try to be strong, but it's usually just an act. I will retreat into my shell and become a hermit, if i allow myself to be. I have great friends who take me out for margaritas, tho.....that helps.....well, helps me cry more!!!! lol

[rascal2121]

Certainly haven't taken it very well lately.

[gdg]

i do not let anything bother me!!!!....


haze u know I respect you, but how can it not bother you at all? I mean if you say it is like water off your back, then were you really all that involved to begin with?

[dixiechiknga]

I don't deal with it very well but what can you do?

[leggy4]

Know it well, I always expect the unexpected!:)

[FlowerGirl228]

Easily hurt .. so I try not to put myself in a position where I have to deal with it

[pointofnoreturn]

My old doc used to say I had abandonement issues. I guess I do not deal with it well????

[sdclubber]

It is what it is...I let it go pretty easily...when you smile at her and she doesn't smile back or try to talk and she blows you off...

but I also agree with a lot of the posters about how invested they were in the relationship...I guess at that point it would be like being "dumped".

[november]

I didn't take it well. Hope this feeling doesn't last long. Players only love when they're playing is my new mantra.

[blu]

not all that well, in spite of many years of practice

[yaser]

Very easily..I find someone else...Better than ever..

[disturbiagirl]

It used to hurt but I'm getting used to it. I generally tell myself that it sucks to be them, smile and know something better for me is out there.

[disturbiagirl]

Actually, although rejection is painful, don't you think it's necessary to experience so that we appreciate those who want, love and respect us for who we are???

[blu]

and not sucks in a good sucks kind of way either

[Seeker1956]

depends on how. Insane laughter is not a good confidence builder.

[glamourgirl]

maybe another 10 miles will help.....
the first 10 didnt even take the edge off!

[OGP]

Rejection is painful no matter how manly or tough you think you are. If it doesn't hurt, then you didn't really care.

[AlwaysLearning]

maybe another 10 miles will help.....
the first 10 didnt even take the edge off!

:sc:sc:sc

[ldon]

Rejection has driven me here and guess what?. I'm rejected here as well. Bummer. Maybe I should try a different colored thong?

[OnceAKing]

I still say the best defense is a good offense...

[happygirl101]

Rejection comes in all manner and in varying degrees!

I feel rejected right now and it hurts but I will get over it...I just don't know what I did to deserve the rejection of friendship

[MSU]

Rejection comes in all manner and in varying degrees!

I feel rejected right now and it hurts but I will get over it...I just don't know what I did to deserve the rejection of friendship

Boy, do I understand that! :(

[pointofnoreturn]

I have a very good friend. I have rejected him ....for now...I told him I needed space. It is not only for me....He needs to enjoy his life. We do not live near each other nor am I going anywhere. I just want my friend to be happy. It hurts alot. But it needs to be done....DOes any one know WTF I am saying???

[happygirl101]

Boy, do I understand that! :(

Yeah!!!

Well we are friends...LOL!!!!

[happygirl101]

I have a very good friend. I have rejected him ....for now...I told him I needed space. It is not only for me....He needs to enjoy his life. We do not live near each other nor am I going anywhere. I just want my friend to be happy. It hurts alot. But it needs to be done....DOes any one know WTF I am saying???

Reading you loud and clear!!!!! I am so sorry because what you are doing is hurting someone for their own good!! I did the same and it was brutal!!!
Good Luck and stay strong!! You are brave even if you feel terrible!

[MCat]

I have a very good friend. I have rejected him ....for now...I told him I needed space. It is not only for me....He needs to enjoy his life. We do not live near each other nor am I going anywhere. I just want my friend to be happy. It hurts alot. But it needs to be done....DOes any one know WTF I am saying???

Yes most definitely I understand what you're sayin....I tried my damnedest to remain just friends...I tried to reject him gently. We didn't live near each other and I didn't want to leave my life. He would have moved to Michigan in a heart beat just to be near me. I'm over 50, I only have 50 more years left...I couldn't risk never knowing what its like to have someone love me with the intensity that he loves me. So here I am...and I love him.
Its been a slightly difficult transition for me...but he is holding on to me...He's lovin me through it. He's quite the man....
I'm so glad I didn't break his heart.:inlve