Has Anyone Ever Had Disappointing Sex?

[WandaRing]

:cry: Sadly, it has been awhile (a very long while) since I have had sex with anyone. I have been seeing a guy for the past couple of months; we finally decided to have intercourse and spent a few hours together in a hotel.

I do not know if I put too much hope or if my expectations were too high for my partner but I just feel empty, it was over before it started and I did not really enjoy it, it wast painful just no excitement I guess.:(

At 41 I have to wonder if it will ever get better and if the right guy is out there, have you ever been disappointed in you sex?

[danny115]

Yeah...my wedding night...:D

[Sensual Woman]

Every time I used to have sex with my husband. Kept telling myself that it didn't matter, that sex wasn't everything. But I realized that it does matter to me. But now that his desire for me is gone, we are not even having sex - haven't for a while.

[Penny]

Not every time has fireworks but that is normal

[RedVixen]

Unfortunately....yes. Seems to be the standard around here lately. :(

[PunkyBob]

Yep...we thought it was gonna be good, but I guess we left the zest, verve, inclination somewhere in the supermarket. Had disappointing sex a few times...more than a few. I think if you expect it too much, it usually won't live up to those expectations, needs, wants...then you have all the fun of being polite but avoid that person afterwards...

[Postman]

Is there really ever disappointing sex?
Yes I suppose if its too fast or too long.
But anything sometimes is better than nothing sometimes.
I think sometimes humans expect grandure and get less and are diisappointed in that fact.

[Micwar]

Personally I would welcome disappointing sex with a woman, instead of having a great time with my hand.....ok since not even getting any not qualified to answered...

[Cotties]

yes....quite often...but quite often its good too

[Sneaky]

LOL, I agree. Disapointing would still be something. I'll take it.

[MCat]

I've been disappointed that we didn't have sex ....but never disappointing sex.

[cherokeered]

Every time I used to have sex with my husband. Kept telling myself that it didn't matter, that sex wasn't everything. But I realized that it does matter to me. But now that his desire for me is gone, we are not even having sex - haven't for a while.


Yeh...I can relate to this....the problem was, I was never attracted to him....at first it was just to have sex...and that didn't last long....just no spark...so now there is none....

[Micwar]

LOL, I agree. Disapointing would still be something. I'll take it.

Ahhh we have something in common:sc

[Missy38]

I've had disappointing sex in the past but, with my bf now, sex is always great....

[UltimateNaneki]

Everyday since I meet my hubby!

[MIGHTY]

:cry: Sadly, it has been awhile (a very long while) since I have had sex with anyone. I have been seeing a guy for the past couple of months; we finally decided to have intercourse and spent a few hours together in a hotel.

I do not know if I put too much hope or if my expectations were too high for my partner but I just feel empty, it was over before it started and I did not really enjoy it, it wast painful just no excitement I guess.:(

At 41 I have to wonder if it will ever get better and if the right guy is out there, have you ever been disappointed in you sex?

First off, it does not sound like he was the right man to give yourself to again. I think your expectations were probably a bit higher than they should have been, especially for the first encounter with this man. With that being said.....

It should never be painful if the man is gentle. If it remains so, the he is either the wrong fit, so to speak, or he is not taking your needs into consideration. Take it from a woman who has been there. Either way, it doesn't sound pleasant.

There is a man out there just for you hon, and vice versa. Patience is the key.

As far as having disappointing sex? Oh, hell yes i've had it. But, unlike the concensus here, I would rather go without. I am here at home now.....been about 6 months or so.......

[OICurready4me]

Disappointing sex....what is that? ... lol. For me, any sex with the wife over the past 5+ years has been disappointing. She doesn't put alot of effort into it and there isn't anything special about it at all. So, rather than have uneventful, boring sex with her, I just say the hell with it and don't even bother asking for it since it's not worth the hassle.

[duanehofner]

At 54, unfortunately sometimes my body disappoints me even these last 2 months. Levitra helps. I have been a quickie guy most of our marriage but the last 2 months I've turned things upside down in the bedroom and her into a sex crazed fiend. The disappointment comes then when we Leave the bedroom, and I am magically turned back into the rotted pumpkin I have been since "I do".

[Wil]

yeah...I don't make as much in tips as I used to...:lmao

[OICurready4me]

I had disappointing sex just last night....my hand kept falling asleep...:lmao

[scoobertina]

Sorry to say that for most of my 21 year marriage I was disappointed..

[One Song Hero]

I had disappointing sex just last night....my hand kept falling asleep...:lmao
Tough luck, OIC.

I'm proud to say that I personally have never had disappointing sex! [Now, the wife, on the other hand...]

[1hotmommy]

There have been a few times that something wasn't right, but luckily those times have been few and far-between.

[razorsedge]

Would have to say that looking back my very first time was kind of a disappointment. Not very exciting. Otherwise no complaints.

[WandaRing]

I had disappointing sex just last night....my hand kept falling asleep...:lmao


LMAO :lmao I'll remember not to shake your hand... an old saying...
"Boy who go to bed with sex problem wake up with solution in hand".:di

[Sneaky]

I can't remember. I think I need to have some to find out.....

[FitMidwestGuy39]

I can't remember. I think I need to have some to find out.....

I think we're in the same boat!

[Sneaky]

I think we're in the same boat!
A lot of us here are. LOL.

[FitMidwestGuy39]

is there a support group for this sort of thing?

[cheerymissy_34]

i think everyone at one time or another has had really disappointing sex...believe me i will get my hopes up that its gonna be soooo good and then when its ove its like"is that all"...i could have done better than that by myself..lol

[My_Secrets_Kept]

Yeah have had more than my share with the hub!

[Sneaky]

i think everyone at one time or another has had really disappointing sex...believe me i will get my hopes up that its gonna be soooo good and then when its ove its like"is that all"...i could have done better than that by myself..lol

Oh. I see what you are saying. That has been a rarity for me. Bossiness can have it's perks sometimes. I'm just sayin. LOL.

[cheerymissy_34]

Oh. I see what you are saying. That has been a rarity for me. Bossiness can have it's perks sometimes. I'm just sayin. LOL.

:lmao
maybe u should teach me this "bossiness"

[WandaRing]

is there a support group for this sort of thing?

Yes>>> Married & Flirting <<<:lmao

[Sneaky]

:lmao
maybe u should teach me this "bossiness"

I'd be happy to! However, be prepared for one of two reactions. They MAY listen to you....or they may get mad and leave.

Not that it ever happend to me or anything.....but I'm just saying that I have heard stuff about the male ego and when you start to evaluate and offer performance improvement.....well, it can go wrong. LOL.

[Dsparate Hswife]

I recently attempted to have sex with someone who is 18 years my senior (no punn). Let me make a disclaimer by saying that I am not ugly or unattractive. Actually, this man told me I am "damn fine." Well, the attempted sex wasn't fine because he could not get an erection...he told me he left his Viagra at home...true story...

[cheerymissy_34]

I'd be happy to! However, be prepared for one of two reactions. They MAY listen to you....or they may get mad and leave.

Not that it ever happend to me or anything.....but I'm just saying that I have heard stuff about the male ego and when you start to evaluate and offer performance improvement.....well, it can go wrong. LOL.

lol...yea they do have some delicate egos...so ive been told:lmao :lmao :lmao

[Sneaky]

I recently attempted to have sex with someone who is 18 years my senior (no punn). Let me make a disclaimer by saying that I am not ugly or unattractive. Actually, this man told me I am "damn fine." Well, the attempted sex wasn't fine because he could not get an erection...he told me he left his Viagra at home...true story...

You go girl with your "Damn Fine" self! ;)

[WandaRing]

You go girl with your "Damn Fine" self! ;)


I guess I'm boring myself....:lmao

[Sneaky]

I guess I'm boring myself....:lmao

Oh no! You're damn fine too, girl! ;)
:kk

[Huzyerdaddi]

Damn fine!!!!


(just had an urge to say it)

[hank69]

I've been disappointed that we didn't have sex ....but never disappointing sex.


Mmmmmmmmmmmmme too.......I was there ..but you weren't......when you were there I wasn't......But now were here & there together.....:whee: ...now I'm comfused....:sc

[a_hungm_houston]

when having sex with a new lover you can not have too many expectations due the fact that you have no history, I usually wait until a few meeting to see if its the same or gets better, both are usually tense or nervous and may not be relaxed enough to perform. I was with one lady and in the middle of sex she broke down crying, overwhelmed with guilt! so its a broad spectrum

[guitarman26]

yes i need some lovin now, if in north ga we'll make it happen...lol

[WandaRing]

Oh no! You're damn fine too, girl! ;)
:kk

thank you, :kk now i just need to remember it...:D

[WandaRing]

when having sex with a new lover you can not have too many expectations due the fact that you have no history, I usually wait until a few meeting to see if its the same or gets better, both are usually tense or nervous and may not be relaxed enough to perform. I was with one lady and in the middle of sex she broke down crying, overwhelmed with guilt! so its a broad spectrum


thank you a_hungm_houston, that does make sense but :sc how many times do you keep going back until you know its not a good fit?

[a_hungm_houston]

Hmmmm well Annie if it were you in the situation with me, you would have to
kick me out! I look for personality first, everything else is third fourth and so on
If in the end I can not sit down with my potential lover and have just conversation, then right off it will not work, there has to be some common ground outside of sex. and remember sex is all in your head, that is where it starts, if I can not seduce your mind first sex is nothing but a physical act.
:55 :)

[UltimateNaneki]

when having sex with a new lover you can not have too many expectations due the fact that you have no history, I usually wait until a few meeting to see if its the same or gets better, both are usually tense or nervous and may not be relaxed enough to perform. I was with one lady and in the middle of sex she broke down crying, overwhelmed with guilt! so its a broad spectrum

Was it guilt that you were far better then she expected??:lmao or guilt that she forgot to tell you that hubby was waiting for you outside??

[a_hungm_houston]

hubby was part of it, he wanted to see how his wife felt to be truly pleased

[guitarman26]

lol huston again

[almost40soccermom]

Yes, usually when he cums too soon and rolls over

[a_hungm_houston]

wow one shot wonder huh, that is not good, women should cum first and last

[a_hungm_houston]

so selfish

[a_hungm_houston]

hey soccermom where are you from?

[a_hungm_houston]

soccermom email me would like to talk

[lilolekimba67(f)]

I have had disappointing sex thought maybe it was me and sometimes wonder

[WandaRing]

I have had disappointing sex thought maybe it was me and sometimes wonder

why do we blame ourselves?>>>> sometimes its them:di :D

[AL(m)]

Hey most times its us.......ehehehehe but some of us do try......and try until we get it right......
Would like to go back in time to the girls I maked love to when just starting out... am sure that was disappointing to them and would love to make it up ......mmm yes.... :D



why do we blame ourselves?>>>> sometimes its them:di :D

[yaser]

I have had disappointing sex thought maybe it was me and sometimes wonder
Good point,Lilolekimba...becasue marriage is team game..

[Papa Chubby]

For me, no.
For her, all the time.

[Code]

Yes, but it was disappointment in myself Not her.

[jmuma62]

:cry: Sadly, it has been awhile (a very long while) since I have had sex with anyone. I have been seeing a guy for the past couple of months; we finally decided to have intercourse and spent a few hours together in a hotel.

I do not know if I put too much hope or if my expectations were too high for my partner but I just feel empty, it was over before it started and I did not really enjoy it, it wast painful just no excitement I guess.:(

At 41 I have to wonder if it will ever get better and if the right guy is out there, have you ever been disappointed in you sex?

Any you just have to find someone who would like to make love to you, not just fuck.. if you find somene who would care about making you feel wanted...

[jmuma62]

Yes, usually when he cums too soon and rolls over

I would never roll over until you come a few times :)

[tanya]

Last night my hubby decided to come to bed after not being there for months, just to have sex, we never because I flat out told him that our sex is disappointing.

[cherokeered]

My whole marriage has been dissapointing sex...so now there is none....:(

[Code]

I had disappointing sex last night.

I wanted Sex

I did not get any.

I was disappointed.

[FRMale]

I too am having disappointed sex... None on Thanksgiving... wife fell asleep first... No foreplay, no touching, nothing...
Maybe better luck later today

[Code]

Sounds like a theme here. Disappointed Sex Club

[noodlegurl]

Dissappointed yes, no sex here in entirely to long...............

[Code]

Dissappointed yes, no sex here in entirely to long...............


That IS disappointing. Welcome to the Disappointing Sex Club Noodles.

[noodlegurl]

That IS disappointing. Welcome to the Disappointing Sex Club Noodles.

Yes.............. I am a member......................

[something_more]

i cant say that ive had disapointing sex just disapointing relationships

[FRMale]

i cant say that ive had disapointing sex just disapointing relationships

can a disappointing relationship have good sexual encounters?

[tom33]

yes i have been there many times. ihave thought many times there has to be more.

[OICurready4me]

I have disappointing sex all the time....my damn hand lets me down all the time by falling asleep on me

[miblonde]

not since I got new batteries!

[Boredmarriedlover]

Thanks for the tip!! I bought the batteries already!! Where should I fit them in?

And the funny thing is, all this time, I thought my wife was just dead, never realized she run on batteries.

So hopefully, no more disappointing sex for me. Yeah!!

[hank69]

Yep......But it was me ....in my head

[something_more]

no wait I take back me previous post. The first time i had sex was a huge disappointment. She was a few years older(I was a freshman she was a junior), we had had a few drinks and walked down to the beach, went skinny dipping...I had all the elements to make it a fantastic experiance...until she made me put on two condoms, it was like having sex after a doctor injected my little man with novacain!

[My_Secrets_Kept]

Yep......But it was me ....in my head

you are having the wrong fantasies if you're having disapointing sex in them!

[yaser]

not since I got new batteries!
Blonde do you need to recharge them? :lf Or refill?

[p.a]

LOL, I agree. Disapointing would still be something. I'll take it.

Having no sex is more dissapointing than dissapointing sex for me.
I never thought there would be a time when I would feel this desperate for almost any affection.

[orlandodv]

Different levels of being dissapointed - but yes after many years of marriage I think everyone has had dissapointing sex - if not your probably lying to yourself.

[p.a]

not since I got new batteries!

Not fair! I have nothing I can use that takes batteries.:cry:

[PlayfulMale69]

If I get sex, it is not dissappointing as far as the orgasm goes. Now the dissappointment is when I am not desired and wanted like I would like to be.

[MagicalBeing]

Unfortunately....yes. Seems to be the standard around here lately. :(

I don't know why this happens so often... what can be done?

[SEXAHOLIC]

sex is a two way thing...if you and your lover put the passion in to the experience it can be great...but if one of you lacks that passion, then it can be disasterous.
...Ive been there.

[simplygrace]

oh HELL yes i have had bad sex, but i fixed the problem....DIVORCE. works every time!!

[RevivingOphelia]

More often than not......sad

[ksue7274]

Yes I have. Fortunately it wasn't with my husband, happened when I was still single.

[dave42]

Even though sometimes it's pretty bad, It's still pretty good!

[Badbill]

Q: How is pizza like sex?
A: When it good, its good, when its bad, its still pretty good.

[MIGHTY]

I certainly disappoint myself sometimes........life happens though......

[OICurready4me]

Not at all in the past 3+ months....

[tanya]

Our sex is so dissapointing we don't even bother any more!

[WandaRing]

Not at all in the past 3+ months....


Wow, I think your avatar speaks for itself OICurready,:D

[tiger50]

yeh, once wen i tried me left hand, just didnt turn me on..:sc

[spare_change]

yeh, once wen i tried me left hand, just didnt turn me on..:sc

Dang -- your left hand worked pretty well for me.

[tiger50]

Dang -- your left hand worked pretty well for me.

yeh fark, ya left it crippled....not so fast man...:sc

[spare_change]

yeh fark, ya left it crippled....not so fast man...:sc


Probably wasn't used to anything that big !

[zobman]

Sex is what ou make of it! You have to make it exciting, if your partner will let you! I know I always end up wanting more! Not just intercourse, but more exciting things. But wife wouldn't even try anything new. I am on top, same old, same old!

[tanya]

sex is a two way thing...if you and your lover put the passion in to the experience it can be great...but if one of you lacks that passion, then it can be disasterous.
...Ive been there.

that's about it right there!!

[zobman]

I am here because of disappointing sex!!!!

[jetter20002000]

:cry: Sadly, it has been awhile (a very long while) since I have had sex with anyone. I have been seeing a guy for the past couple of months; we finally decided to have intercourse and spent a few hours together in a hotel.

I do not know if I put too much hope or if my expectations were too high for my partner but I just feel empty, it was over before it started and I did not really enjoy it, it wast painful just no excitement I guess.:(

At 41 I have to wonder if it will ever get better and if the right guy is out there, have you ever been disappointed in you sex?

I would not be here if I had good sex.

[kjguy43]

I have, I belive it parts of life

[cheerymissy_34]

All the time...:cry:

[kjguy43]

That is a shame....what makes it that way?



All the time...:cry:

[cheerymissy_34]

That is a shame....what makes it that way?

hubby...lol

[kjguy43]

what does he do or not do?



hubby...lol

[cheerymissy_34]

what does he do or not do?

its the "not do" thats the problem....hes one of these guys if he "gets off" everything is good....its never about me

[kjguy43]

oh and he is prolly a 2 second man as well right?



its the "not do" thats the problem....hes one of these guys if he "gets off" everything is good....its never about me

[cheerymissy_34]

oh and he is prolly a 2 second man as well right?

how did u know???...lol

[kjguy43]

Becuz men that think and act like that are...I get off on watching a woman cum...so before we even have sex..I make her cum multiple times if possible



how did u know???...lol

[cheerymissy_34]

Becuz men that think and act like that are...I get off on watching a woman cum...so before we even have sex..I make her cum multiple times if possible

omg...i might need u too show me that trick..like 1,2 maybe 4 times..lol

[kjguy43]

There really is no trick to it...it what is called respect!



omg...i might need u too show me that trick..like 1,2 maybe 4 times..lol

[cheerymissy_34]

There really is no trick to it...it what is called respect!

well then i guess most guys i know have no respect

[kjguy43]

I know of one who does



well then i guess most guys i know have no respect

[cheerymissy_34]

I know of one who does

well there needs to be more like u then

[kjguy43]

LOL....I have been known to make house calls...just depends on how bad the situation is!



well there needs to be more like u then

[cheerymissy_34]

LOL....I have been known to make house calls...just depends on how bad the situation is!

ohhh the situation is in dire need....u most cum right away

[kjguy43]

well if I did that..you be in the same boat as now...id rather see u cum right away



ohhh the situation is in dire need....u most cum right away

[cheerymissy_34]

well if I did that..you be in the same boat as now...id rather see u cum right away

ohhh well yes that can be arranged

[kjguy43]

Yes, that will be arranged....May I pm you a question?



ohhh well yes that can be arranged

[cheerymissy_34]

Yes, that will be arranged....May I pm you a question?

sure

[p.J]

Yep! when I couldn't remember it! :(

[exspy]

At 41, you aren't even getting started yet. It's one of those deals where he just might not have been the right one. Did he appear impatient or egotistical when you first started seeing each other. That's a sure fire indicator. Really look at the guy's personality.

[WaGuy]

EVERYONE's had disappointing sex :)

[WaGuy]

its the "not do" thats the problem....hes one of these guys if he "gets off" everything is good....its never about me
That's how it is with my wife :P
I mean, she cares if I get off, but not if I get really horny...

[Kavla2008]

Yep!

[Huzyerdaddi]

Well there was that time when I had a broken wrist.....

[stucknmarriage74(f)]

yes all the time..the only time its not disappointing is when its by myself:(

[sexntexx]

I wish that I could say no, but that's just not the case. I was in a very serious relationship with a very beautiful woman many years ago and I got to thinking about it recently and I can't remember any stand out sex with her. She was gorgeous to look at but she had no passion during sex. Now the time we did it at the fire station was hot bit that was because of the local and danger of getting caught.

[chopper]

who hasnt?

[MWMandBored]

There is no such thing as bad sex. Any sex is better than no sex, BUT there is such thing as better sex.

[My_Secrets_Kept]

hell yeah, disapointed ever day.. pretty bad thought that the disapointment is by my own hands.... :D

[chasezee]

God yes, once when I was much younger, much singler, and wild. Got quite drunk and picked up what seemed to me a pretty hot lady, we went back to her place, started doing shots and one thing led to..... I woke up the next morning to her roommate shooing me out the door never sure what another was?

[realmacoy]

yes, all the time, lol...

[oneqt]

Sure disapppointing. When there is no spark out of the bedroom there is little hope for "good sex" and therefore it is disappointing. May as well take the solution in hand route. Get the job done without the reminder that things are so distant. It takes so much more than the mechanics of it to make it good.

[BlondBobBMe]

Is there any other kind ?

[mithidraes]

only the first time

[househub]

i want to meet whoever started this thread, she must know something i dont, if she has great sex all the time

[Sweetdreams069]

No not really. I don't even think disappointing and sex deserve to be in the same sentence.

[WandaRing]

i want to meet whoever started this thread, she must know something i dont, if she has great sex all the time

:wa: :wa: :wa: Ummmm, Hello! That would be me...and I don’t have great sex all the time... :( What I was saying is; its been over ten years since I have had sex and when I met a guy and began a relationship with him I was expecting “fire works” but because I was shy and it had been so long, it wasn’t as great as I was hoping for…no one's fault or his lack of trying, for me its going to take time to learn to relax and to be open....:D

[Sylar]

I know this is going to make me sound like an egotistical asshole...but at the risk of coming off like that, here is my response.

I try very hard in bed. I totally dig my partner's response above my own...

That being said, I'm always in bed with Torin...and you can't have disappointing ANYTHING with Torin. A bad day of sex with her is still like winning the lottery.

Before her, however, was a veritable STRING of disappointing sex. She made me realize what sex, and love, were truly about.

...of course, then she introduced the whips...getting used to it, tho.

[PlayfulMale69]

Yeah I have and will have dissappointing sex. It seems to be tied to how selfish I am sometimes. If I am interested in my own pleasure I am more likely to be dissappointed. If I am trying to please her (not force her to be pleased if you know what I mean) .

I am not saying it couldn't be better. I am always willing to learn what turns her on and what I can do for her. What I am saying is that my focus on her or me has a definite effect on the pleasure.

[BlondBobBMe]

:wa: :wa: :wa: Ummmm, Hello! That would be me...and I don’t have great sex all the time. :( What I was saying is; its been over ten years since I have had sex and when I met a guy and began a relationship with him I was expecting “fire works” but because I was shy and it had been so long, it wasn’t as great as I was hoping for…no one's fault for me its going to take time to learn to relax and to be open....:D WOW... and I thought I've had a miserable spell. I know what you mean about the shy part, that's what I feel now. I think you have to "want" to be with that someone. The physical act is just that, believe me, i know. I want to be with the "person" , not the "body" .

[WandaRing]

I know this is going to make me sound like an egotistical asshole...but at the risk of coming off like that, here is my response.

I try very hard in bed. I totally dig my partner's response above my own...

That being said, I'm always in bed with Torin...and you can't have disappointing ANYTHING with Torin. A bad day of sex with her is still like winning the lottery.

Before her, however, was a veritable STRING of disappointing sex. She made me realize what sex, and love, were truly about.

...of course, then she introduced the whips...getting used to it, tho.

You and Torin are very fortunate to have found each other…I’m sure a lot of us envy your relationship and also appreciate both of you for your openness with us, I know I do…thank you both:knuddel: :kk

[Sylar]

You and Torin are very fortunate to have found each other…I’m sure a lot of us envy your relationship and also appreciate both of you for your openness with us, I know I do…thank you both:knuddel: :kk

You're very sweet, Annie. Thank you for that. You guys already mean so much to us. We're honored to have you all as friends.

[Beau]

I would have to say that sex with a "less than eager" partner usually will be dissapointing for both. When you feel like you pressured your spouse into participating in something that should be a vital part of any healthy marriage, any feelings of afterglow are immediately snuffed out by one glance at their smug look of disgust on their face as roll out of bed, let out a sigh, and go to clean up. Not to mention the total lack of participation during it all. That's what I would call dissapointing sex.
But then again, Who am I to say?

[househub]

does an orgasm or lack thereof mean it is dissapointing,

[FRMale]

does an orgasm or lack thereof mean it is dissapointing,

Yes... And it's no fun for either partner... HER OR ME

[TD63]

Its always disappointing when it is considered a chore. I hear that all the time. I suppose though, by now, I've dumbed my self down to a level that I'd need intensive tutoring to get it right again

[TwoTone23]

yes a few times....but all in all don't complain

[code20]

lol

[stucknmarriage74(f)]

yes, every time i get in bed with hubby..its become more of a routine chore i do for him and im left to fend 4 myself...Oh well at least I NEVER disappoint MYSELF lol

[subtlehands]

yes, every time i get in bed with hubby..its become more of a routine chore i do for him and im left to fend 4 myself...Oh well at least I NEVER disappoint MYSELF lol

The worst feeling must be when your partner leaves you feeling like it's a chore. For some sex is an important aspect of marriage. For it to become a mechanical exercise can only have negative consequences on other facets of married life.

[Code]

Not really sure which is worse. The routine or having NO passion in your marriage. Thinks one is as bad as the other.

[pointofnoreturn]

how can it be dissappointing if you never have it?????

[mithidraes]

When we have sex it is awesome.. its just it is few and far between

[MIGHTY]

...not within the last 3 months or so......

[Sylar]

Not in a very long time.

[UltimateNaneki]

well I have not had sex in a very long time....so if I was disappointed I probably wouldn't say anything. Better then not having any....right ! :lmao

[Cmplsvlovr]

My wife has had a few surgeries in her nether regions, sometimes sex causes her pain. When that happens, I don't enjoy it at all. So I just finish fast and go to sleep lol!

[househub]

um .......yeaaaaaaaah what else is there

[TwoTone23]

Had sex one time with a old HS friend.....the whole time she kept talkin about how pissed my x would be if she knew...because my x hated her

[Shawn_N_Sandiego]

I remember once I was really drunk....me and this girl hook up and I had the good ole whiskey dick thing going, plus the condom on top of that and it felt like a soggy twinkie inside a ziploc bag...thank goodness I got a redemption chance with her, but yeah that night sucked!!

[TwoTone23]

I remember once I was really drunk....me and this girl hook up and I had the good ole whiskey dick thing going, plus the condom on top of that and it felt like a soggy twinkie inside a ziploc bag...thank goodness I got a redemption chance with her, but yeah that night sucked!!


Hate those kinda nights

[OICurready4me]

...not within the last 3 months or so......

I agree 100%.....it is the polar opposite of disappointing....say...exhilarating, fantastic, mind-blowing.....WOW!!!!!!:whee:

[mithidraes]

Well so far...no but i need to keep experimenting:sc

[toosarcastic]

Sad to say it is more often disappointing than not, when i do get the chance. Makes it kind of a toss up now if it is worth the effort of trying to have sex if it is only going to be so so.

The real question is how to make it better and that would be a long story and perhaps a whole thread unto itself.

[tiger50]

Sad to say it is more often disappointing than not, when i do get the chance. Makes it kind of a toss up now if it is worth the effort of trying to have sex if it is only going to be so so.

The real question is how to make it better and that would be a long story and perhaps a whole thread unto itself.

gday toosarcastic, and welcome mate..:wa:

[TwoTone23]

never look at the negitive...looks at the postive...u got some

[SkiBum980]

Yeah I've had disappointing sex before........it was one of those times where I was really getting into it and then she stopped it cause she had to get up early.......

[TwoTone23]

Yeah I've had disappointing sex before........it was one of those times where I was really getting into it and then she stopped it cause she had to get up early.......


not that would suck....:nu

[BlondBobBMe]

yes, every time i get in bed with hubby..its become more of a routine chore i do for him and im left to fend 4 myself...Oh well at least I NEVER disappoint MYSELF lol Wow, that's amazing, it's just the opposite with me. It's just a "quick-let's-get-it-over" routine for her... Whereas , I want to satisfy her any way possible, but shes doesn't want it !!

[Sylar]

Wow, that's amazing, it's just the opposite with me. It's just a "quick-let's-get-it-over" routine for her... Whereas , I want to satisfy her any way possible, but shes doesn't want it !!

I once had a girlfriend who's problem was hormonal...turns out she just needed some estrogen...

[medic]

everone does it takes the heart to make it great

[OICurready4me]

I guess you would call it disappointing when your hand falls asleep rubbing one out

[Sylar]

I guess you would call it disappointing when your hand falls asleep rubbing one out

Don't worry...there are among us those who would gladly fill in as a "relief rubber"...:lf

[simplygrace]

Yes i have.... When it's a quickie and i don't get off and he wants to sleep.:cry:

[dave42]

Yes i have.... When it's a quickie and i don't get off and he wants to sleep.:cry:It's just the opposite with me. I got to have quality and quanity. Compatability and chemistry go hand in hand.

[TNtiger]

i dont remember

[TNtiger]

kinda like giving a starving man a stale cracker......no mtter what thats the best cracker hes ever had

[dave42]

kinda like giving a starving man a stale cracker......no mtter what thats the best cracker hes ever hadI can agree with that. But the question is, Where are all those starving women out there? I got a whole box of fresh crackers to share. hehe!!

[scoobertina]

right about now I think I would take disappointing sex over this abstinance thing...

[Hotshotfireguy]

It's been disappointing for a while, but hey, at least it's sex :sc

[angelis]

It's been disappointing for a while, but hey, at least it's sex :sc

so bad sex is better than no sex?

[cherokeered]

so bad sex is better than no sex?


NO....take my word for it...

[OICurready4me]

so bad sex is better than no sex?


No....I would rather have no sex than bad sex. It's been this way for several years so I gave up. It actually is a relief and now when I have sex, with someone else, it is off the charts! The buildup is so much better.

[WandaRing]

No....I would rather have no sex than bad sex. It's been this way for several years so I gave up. It actually is a relief and now when I have sex, with someone else, it is off the charts! The buildup is so much better.

:sc how long do you have to wait till its off the charts?...I mean 10 yrs is a very long time and I havent had off the charts...yet! I know, I know connection, connection...:D

[Huzyerdaddi]

Sex is like pizza....even when it's bad, it's still pretty good.



so bad sex is better than no sex?

[Sylar]

Sex is like pizza....even when it's bad, it's still pretty good.

Unless, of course, the pizza has anchovies...then it's just fishy.

Nice signature, btw...lol

[WandaRing]

Sex is like pizza....even when it's bad, it's still pretty good.

yeah but some people like the cold left-over pizza from the night before...yuck

[Huzyerdaddi]

Agreed...not a big fan of cold leftovers.

I'm curious, though. Complete your analogy. What is the sexual equivelant of "cold pizza"?


yeah but some people like the cold left-over pizza from the night before...yuck

[WandaRing]

Agreed...not a big fan of cold leftovers.

I'm curious, though. Complete your analogy. What is the sexual equivelant of "cold pizza"?

:sc :sc :sc a limp dick?

[Huzyerdaddi]

Hmmm....not familiar with that. Sorry. No cold pizza from me.



:sc :sc :sc a limp dick?

[WandaRing]

Hmmm....not familiar with that. Sorry. No cold pizza from me.
:sc I think, that's a good thing...:D

[Huzyerdaddi]

I'm inclined to agree....and I'll take your word for it.



:sc I think, that's a good thing...:D

[Kevin7284]

sex? it can be bad? i guess its been too long for me. altho sometimes when i self love i leave myself wanting more.

[Romantic Satyr]

Disappointing sex? About 9 out of 10 times with my wife. If it weren't for the defibrillator by the side of the bed, I'd swear she was dead. She simply does not move!

The entire experience is clinical. I really don't know what to think. I've talked to her about it and she says she's too much in her mind, and that it takes a lot for her to get into the mood.

I love to get her engine running by tonguing her honey pot. But the thing is, she doesn't reciprocate. Then, when we start getting into it, she closes her eyes, covers her breasts with her hands and checks out until she climaxes.

What I wouldn't give to experience really hot, passionate sex again...

[tiger50]

Disappointing sex? About 9 out of 10 times with my wife. If it weren't for the defibrillator by the side of the bed, I'd swear she was dead. She simply does not move!

The entire experience is clinical. I really don't know what to think. I've talked to her about it and she says she's too much in her mind, and that it takes a lot for her to get into the mood.

I love to get her engine running by tonguing her honey pot. But the thing is, she doesn't reciprocate. Then, when we start getting into it, she closes her eyes, covers her breasts with her hands and checks out until she climaxes.

What I wouldn't give to experience really hot, passionate sex again...

ok i wont give any advice here, i suck at it.... but hey lots of people have been helped out on this site.. we have some smart gals and guys here who have been there.... hang in mate.... :wa:

[iminpa924]

many times....ya know guys, its not just about you, LOL

[duanehofner]

many times....ya know guys, its not just about you, LOL

I know, some of the kids will never get it though my dear! Sorry you have to deal with them.

[OICurready4me]

Hell, I had been having it for at least 5 years, until I decided that it just isn't worth it anymore. Now I have found someone that enjoys what I do to her, I love what she does to me and we feel like we are definitely on the same plane sexually. There is nothing like it.

[TIGUY]

only sympathy sex which you actually get up for mentally and is not terrible at all.

[noodlegurl]

as I keep saying I most have sex first to know if it is disappointing or not......

[flake68]

Once every two months......:cry:

[TIGUY]

as I keep saying I most have sex first to know if it is disappointing or not......

Really noodlegurl...stop playing with our minds here

[noodlegurl]

Not playing TIGUY.... Unless you count my toys for the past year..... ;)




Really noodlegurl...stop playing with our minds here

[toowildtotame]

right about now I think I would take disappointing sex over this abstinance thing...

I think perhaps most disappointing sex comes from HE OR SHE that is expecting or fantasizing about having sex and then when it happens, it does not meet the fantacy --- talking lovemaking,touching, foreplay that lasts forever, passionate kissing, enjoying each others bodies until your reach that point when you both truly want each other. The only disappointing sex I have ever had was when I first started out at the age of ___? anyway it was way to young to even know what sex was truly about.

[JCDxn]

Well, it is disappointing for me most of the time. After 6 years of marriage he is only interested in himself... I have to be drinking for me to have any fun. I tell him what gets me going and he still doesn't do things for me. It is not even anything that takes a lot of energy.. That is why it is almost always disappointing.:lf

[stucknmarriage74(f)]

know what ur saying JC been there done that still doing that..wish i had the courage to have an affair...maybe someday if the right person asked me and i was sure i wouldn't get caught...

[JCDxn]

I have thought about an affair too! I just can't bring myself to do it. He wouldn't even notice anyway. He is to busy with his friends...

[Dir]

:lmaoI had disappointing sex just last night....my hand kept falling asleep...:lmao

[Dir]

Ufff reading most of this comments..Makes me fell better I though I was the only one that has disappointed sex …but wonder if is any ways it can be fixed …Has to be that way for ever ? Then for what marry is for ?

;):(

[Kevin7284]

when your hand falls asleep it feels like a stranger doing you......... just saying....

[Dir]

when your hand falls asleep it feels like a stranger doing you......... just saying.... then is not that bad !!!

[Kevin7284]

i highly reccommend it when self love is running a little dull. i also reccommend you have a fight with yourself on wednesday and schedule a make up session with yourself for friday night. nothing like make up sex with yourself to add a bit of spice.

[cherokeered]

well, lets see...been married 23 years...and what little sex we have had...has been disappointing...so yeh, a fair bit

[Dir]

:lmaoi highly reccommend it when self love is running a little dull. i also reccommend you have a fight with yourself on wednesday and schedule a make up session with yourself for friday night. nothing like make up sex with yourself to add a bit of spice.

[Iwantutowantme]

When making love for the first time with a new person ..... it can sometimes be a little underpar....but it gets better with practise, .......................

[Kevin7284]

well, lets see...been married 23 years...and what little sex we have had...has been disappointing...so yeh, a fair bit

nothing like being frustrated .....................:(

[Sabrina]

Nah...........it's all good.......

[Kevin7284]

i was good once.....

[kaycee727(m)]

Good sex, Hasn't been with my wife . I've had some great sex dreams but only to wake up wirh tool in hand and disappointed in the other

[UltimateNaneki]

disappointing sex was everyday at my home with hubby...his quickness and throwing of the tissue my game is on attitude,left me unwanted.:(

[Barkiss]

Question should be..."Has anyone NOT had disappointing sex?"

[Sensual Woman]

Question should be..."Has anyone NOT had disappointing sex?"

So true...you must know my husband

[stevelooking]

is there any other kind?

[Sensual Woman]

is there any other kind?

Oh, yeah....:whee: :whee: :whee: :whee:

[1hotrod]

Well, it is disappointing for me most of the time. After 6 years of marriage he is only interested in himself... I have to be drinking for me to have any fun. I tell him what gets me going and he still doesn't do things for me. It is not even anything that takes a lot of energy.. That is why it is almost always disappointing.:lf
[QUOTE=stucknmarriage74]know what ur saying JC been there done that still doing that..wish i had the courage to have an affair...maybe someday if the right person asked me and i was sure i wouldn't get caught...

Well ladies.......I love to follow instructions if I can be any help....you know where to find me....:lf

[dave42]

disappointing sex was everyday at my home with hubby...his quickness and throwing of the tissue my game is on attitude,left me unwanted.:(Hi Ulti, Hopefully things are better now for you.:wa:

[dave42]

Sex is like pizza, Even if it's bad, It's still pretty good!

[dave42]

I have thought about an affair too! I just can't bring myself to do it. He wouldn't even notice anyway. He is to busy with his friends...Having an affair can be a tricky situation, It was for me. I actually ended up liking the new person I was with. I was getting things from them emotionally and physically that I wasn't getting at home. Things like passion and respect. But in the long run she was not the right girl for me. I have not heard from her for awhile. I would love to be friends, But I really feel that she was looking for a husband.

[mnbvcxz]

:cry: trying to remember back that far, oh well still have hands:D

[WandaRing]

:( I am still not there or we are still not there, it really does not help when you both are shy and he is terrified of freaking me out. Maybe it's just me.:(

[stucknmarriage74(f)]

for the last 6 years of my marriage...he could do it between commercial breaks..and not even worry about me lol

[themarathonman]

Agreed. I'd rather count the times we've had surprisingly good sex (on one hand for the past five years).

[Zarret]

He has sex, I'm just there. And yes it can be done in less that the time it takes for a commercial break

[themarathonman]

That's really sad. I can understand why you're here. At least we take care to give each other proper orgasms, but it remains very technical.

[Sensual Woman]

He has sex, I'm just there. And yes it can be done in less that the time it takes for a commercial break

Hey, do we have the same husband?...that is, the month we have it

[Zarret]

Hey, do we have the same husband?

They must be brothers!! :lmao

[Sensual Woman]

They must be brothers!! :lmao

Nah, I hear his brother can go longer...:lmao

[TLChandler]

I have had GREAT sex and blah sex . I apologise for the fact that men always come to orgasm but that is just ( for most cases ) just the case. But in most cases I have found that if both parties have equal enthusiasm it helps the man last till long after the woman has climaxed. But most of the women I talked ta afterwards said that they had ta work at it for themselves. Use their own imagination and encourage the men (through moaning, slapping, etc whatever he's into) and if made their climax come when otherwise ( just layin there) wouldnt. I didnt mean this as insulting just tryin ta add my opinion

[Kissie]

Personally I think everyone has had disappointing sex once in there life...I know the 1st time I had sex it wasnt all that it was cracked up to be...I mean really...I didnt enjoy it at all...I am married to the man that I had sex with the 1st time and sex is great now...and there is times where I still would nto have sex with him cuz I just know he wouldnt be able to give me what I need...been there done that!!!! So yeah I have had disappointing sex!!!!

[TLChandler]

I just mean it takes 2 to make sex or relationship or etc

[Zarret]

I just mean it takes 2 to make sex or relationship or etc

I think you're right. It takes two to make sex, friendship or any relationship work.....

Too many of us, however, are a party of one.

[trausersnake]

My history with this problem is like this. Yea, the first few times were awkward and not earth shattering, its normal sometimes. Then as you find each and how to make it all work together it gets better. After that, you should be in the hot zone. Communication is a must in this situation. Relax, enjoy the ride and make some sweet juicy love. As far as the quickness goes, maybe he should invest more time into foreplay. If you know your about to unload the vitamin J, start with some messaging and licking. Talk to him, if you like him, continue to develope the relationship.

[drem]

yes everyone has bad days now and then , how you deal with it defines you , dont let the little things bother you, enjoy life for things you can and laugh at the dissapoinments if you can , cause god knows we have enough other big things hat we have to deal with that we dont want to :)

[trausersnake]

Annie, you are going into this with great intensions, but way too overthinking it. Sounds like he is too. Myself, I have no expectations about sex or what I would do or share with you. If you want to test me out, I am here. :kk
:( I am still not there or we are still not there, it really does not help when you both are shy and he is terrified of freaking me out. Maybe it's just me.:(