Whats wrong with having a sex buddy on the side???

[Tex55]

i 'll be your buddy lol

[bostonbizbiz]

Or a "John" or a "Date". Not a buddy.

sooooooooo then

[tess806]

If I could get over the moral aspect of it, I think one of the things that worries me is that I might accidentally get attached to my sex buddy. We could go into with every intention of not getting attached, but you just can't always control or predict how those things are going to go...

[Tex55]

I agree completely with vixen, at first it can be great fun and excitement but you have to be careful that feelings start creeping in and it becomes a completely different situation

[JackofTrades103]

Theres nothing wrong with a sex buddy as long as both of you can keep the feelings out of it and your careful.

[bencanada46]

If your both looking for the same things then nothing is wrong wth it. As long as your discrete and hurt no one then why not.

[FizProf]

Absolutely nothing...as long as I am that buddy!
:)

[stevelooking]

Not for me

[teblusc]

There isn't anything wrong with having a sex buddy on the side if you and your husband both agree to it. My wife has had several sex buddies and in fact I've told her that she's free to have sex with anyone she wants, and she's taken advantage of that several times and has really enjoyed the freedom to meet with others for no strings sex.
I think its important that you and your husband are very open with one another and have talked about it taking your marriage in that direction a lot before actually doing it. And you should make clear to your buddy that you are in a loving marriage and won't change that no matter what.

[robert11231]

Bravo!!

[Tex55]

very well put

[wisconsin(m)]

I wonder if the idea is more appealing than how it ends up??

[Bored-in-Cali]

It works for some people. If you are going into this looking for something new and you are going to get attached then don't do it, it's just sex. I truly believe some people cannot be with just one person, it's just animal nature. But if you just want to fuck with no strings then why not?

[HvenSent]

This is a complicated topic not as easy for me like others. I believe that in marriage you have to keep reinventing things to keep them spicy. A long marriage is hard work after the honeymoon stage is over.

In everyone's ideal fantasy world we could have multiple sex partners and no ones feelings would get hurt. I feel its human nature after that type of connection to start building feelings and things just get more complicated after that.

If I ever decided to cheat in that way it would have to be knowing that I might be risking giving up my marriage. I think communication is key and I would appreciate if my hubby let me know that he wasn't that into me anymore let it go and have him move on.

[tag539]

Human beings are meant to reproduce, plain and simple. It's hard to get around that and resist the natural urges.

[tag539]

:)

[Missygirl]

If you keep it on the straight and narrow, all feelings aside stickley for pleasure then your golden

[Gilliganstranded]

A slightly different focus on this thread, when you are alone, where does one go to get laid today?

[Musicbaby]

I think if both parties are in agreement over it. Why not. But definately talk about it first so if it does blow up in your face..your spouse is totally aware.

[Gilliganstranded]

Well, one would have to have a spouse to talk about that.

[TallDark&Handsome]

I would just be happy with the sex part..... LOL

[TallDark&Handsome]

Seriously, if it were someone I could really "be" with, it would be great for me. Friends and some great stress-relieving sex..... sounds like a winner to me

[cr@sh]

I don't see anything wrong with fucking friends. I think it is only natural. As long as both people agree on the depth of it.

[Cadence]

I think the tough thing would be that if they're not smart, funny, sexy as hell...then what's the point? And if they are, how do you not fall for them if you're getting that endorphin rush already?

[Tex55]

i could not agree with you more

[dcowboy09]

nothing as long as it's on his or hers good side.....

[Tex55]

nothing just ask tiger woods LOL

[(guest)]

The guilt. Ruining your life. Ruining someone elses life. Breaking someones heart. Your heart breaking. I could go on and on.

[Fwd40s]

Skip on the side. It's better to have her in front of you for that.

[Gilliganstranded]

Easier said than done so the topic is for the most part a mute point.

[scoobertina]

well you have to be involved with someone before you can have someone on the side... although lately I am all for having a sex buddy... wish I could find someone close to me

[trp225]

well you have to be involved with someone before you can have someone on the side... although lately I am all for having a sex buddy... wish I could find someone close to me


Let's see,you have your toy's:di,and you have happy:dd,and we let you have your blankie all to your self:sex !!! And we got you chocolate,cheetos,and orange crush!!! Now you want a F**k buddy too!!!

:dtok open the damm door!!!

[scoobertina]

Let's see,you have your toy's:di,and you have happy:dd,and we let you have your blankie all to your self:sex !!! And we got you chocolate,cheetos,and orange crush!!! Now you want a F**k buddy too!!!

:dtok open the damm door!!!

well, when you put it that way... I do ask for a lot....

ok.. ok... forget the damn chocolate...

[MJfakey]

well, when you put it that way... I do ask for a lot....

ok.. ok... forget the damn chocolate...

Sad thing is...most women would give up the lover first and not the chocolate.:ok

[exbroker1791]

I think that I need something on the side. My wife doesn't want sex at all. I am extremely excited at the prospect of someone on the side; completely casual and for nothing but intense pleasure. I also dread the way I am going to fell afterwards. Don't know if that dread will make any difference.:sc

[Tex55]

hell scoobie tell me where u live and i will move there LOL

[november]

The guilt. Ruining your life. Ruining someone elses life. Breaking someones heart. Your heart breaking. I could go on and on.

and it happens, believe me. the guilt and the heartbreak are the most likely outcomes if you don't get caught..someone always gets emotionally involved, despite the best intentions on both parts.
for me, it wasn't worth it.

[fixitman]

Sex buddy, wow, I'd be happy if I could find someone to just talk dirty to me. and not charge by the minute...

[november]

Skip on the side. It's better to have her in front of you for that.


i love love love your avatar...rofl!!!

[Bncntr70]

Since we had our second little girl, my wife sex drive shut off. I have been looking, she knows it and sooner or later something is going to happen. I do not want guilt, or to hurt my children. But something has to change, this part of my life is just not enjoyable. I personally think it is too late to save the marrage, but time will tell.

[Forster2]

Nothing, but don't shout about it , analyse it to death or tell your mates about it - if you feel guilty about it , ask yourself who made up the rules to make you feel guilty? Its only the protestant northern hemisphere makes such a big deal about sex. Sex is not the main ingredient in a successful marriage, there a lot more to living in someones pocket for twenty years than a quick thrill. so go find a quick thrill without feeling guilty and preserve the other 95% of your marriage

[Singeon]

Whats wrong with having a sex buddy on the side???

nothing whatsoever...they just work better on top in front or underneath...:-)