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sweet~in~alabama
01-19-2006, 05:29 PM
this is not supposed to be about the size of anyone's penis this is about me needing a little cheering up!:cry:

Barkiss
01-19-2006, 05:37 PM
Why don't you tell us what you need to help cheer you up, and we'll see if we can help?

Jy
01-19-2006, 06:32 PM
You've come to a wonderful site Sweet, where everyone is supportive, generously thoughtful, and you'll most likely find someone going through the same thing as you. We all come from such diverse backgrounds and from all over the world. So many new friends to get to know and have a few laughs with. Whatever is hurting you, feel free to talk about it, either on here, in a chat room, or by Private Message. Plenty of shoulders to cry on here, and all of them warm and cozy.

And if you don't want to discuss it, sjtu stick around and get to know everyone. Glad to have met you, and look forward to seeing you around the site! :wa:

Sunfiresix
01-19-2006, 06:34 PM
sweet--after a while these folks will have you cheered up--the bickering is just fun and meant to give each other a smile. Just to let you knoe I for one abhore a man that treats a woman badly in any way. always have always will--I wish you the very best.

Lena
01-19-2006, 06:48 PM
this is not supposed to be about the size of anyone's penis this is about me needing a little cheering up!:cry:

Hello Sweet!!!
Nice to have you with us!:gs
They weren't really serious about the sizes of their penis', they were just messing about, just another way to be cheerful/ having fun!!
If you just join in, i am sure you will be cheered up!!
This place may just become another home to you where you can be whoever/whatever you want! You can choose to be or take things seriously or lightly and have fun with it!!
If you need any help with this place, then i am sure you will get it!!!!( help, i mean, you guys, before you say anything!!!!)
A shoulder to cry on then just do that!!
So please cheer up now!!! Lets see that smile you have!!!:)

MCat
01-19-2006, 07:12 PM
is it ok to flirt when your married?

Welcome Sweet,

Relax, have fun...

MCat
01-19-2006, 07:14 PM
:lmao I feel a new war started...;)

You did that on purpose you naughty boy :nu

Lena
01-19-2006, 07:17 PM
Naw...I'm an instigator....horrible personality flaw...


However...I got your back if it does...


You had to be, didn't you???

Penny
01-19-2006, 08:18 PM
Tell us what he did, That alone will make you feel better.

Waltert
01-19-2006, 08:23 PM
this is not supposed to be about the size of anyone's penis this is about me needing a little cheering up!:cry:

What do you think would help cheer you up?

Cotties
01-19-2006, 08:40 PM
Hi Sweet.

Have you wiped the tears away yet.

I think thats me being supportive

belfast
01-19-2006, 08:48 PM
Welcome Sweet this is a good site you will like it:wa:




this is not supposed to be about the size of anyone's penis this is about me needing a little cheering up!:cry:

Sandy
01-19-2006, 08:53 PM
hello sweet, i'm from alabama to. i don't know what hubby did, you can talk to us sometimes its easier to talk to people you know, but thats up to you. and its ok to flirt, nothing wrong with it, honey your married not dead. :wa:

surfnchat
01-19-2006, 08:53 PM
Hya sweet. Welcome to the greatest website on Earth! :wa:


There's nothing wrong with some safe and fun flirting in my book (granted, it's a comic book). :D

Feel free to post and get to know us. We're not as crazy as we appear. Well, maybe we are. I may have to re-think that position. :whee:

Post what you are comfortable with posting and let the threads take a life of their own. I know you'll like the company we can be. :kk

G...G
01-19-2006, 09:10 PM
This is a fun site and you will learn to love it. I am new too and have met a few great people!!

Wet Beaver
01-19-2006, 09:16 PM
You have never complained!!!! ;) must be jealous!


jealous of you....:lmao




i'll get back to ya when i stop laughing......:lmao

Wet Beaver
01-19-2006, 09:20 PM
Amazing how ALL these women will lie when they get hold of a good one, huh, Barks?? I know what you mean ........

who lieing...both of you said you were not real endowed where it counts.....:na

Wet Beaver
01-19-2006, 09:21 PM
this is not supposed to be about the size of anyone's penis this is about me needing a little cheering up!:cry:

sweet don't mind us...this goes on all the time honey...... Barkiss is always hijacking a thread ....... tell us what is wrong...and i am sure we will try to help ya.....:gs

Lena
01-19-2006, 10:03 PM
jealous of you....:lmao




i'll get back to ya when i stop laughing......:lmao

Stop WB, you will have a sore throat!!!
You have been going on for long time now!!!!

Cotties
01-19-2006, 10:04 PM
Hi there Georgiagirl..please to meet you. the first kiss you get is free :kk

I want to turn that few into a lot

This is a fun site and you will learn to love it. I am new too and have met a few great people!!

sweet~in~alabama
01-20-2006, 08:59 AM
he cheated on me before we got married, cheated on me while i was pregnant, and then here recently when he was out of town working. he took his wedding band off and put it in his pocket then asked her to go back to his room. nothing against age but she is 30 and my husband is 24!! i guess she had something that i didn't.

belfast
01-20-2006, 09:16 AM
Hey Sweet Barkiss and the other guys were just joking around..But they will be the first to give you real comfort and advice. We all have shared our problems here at one time or another.As for my self I have had some discussions and had some advice and comfort from these wonderfull people. Yea we banter and flirt back and forth with the jokes but that is just our therapy.
Anyone of these people will listen to you and give you the best advice they have to offer. Just give them a chance you wont regret it :wa: :knuddel:

P.S. Used Jazzy's soap box for this..Dont forget to bill me for the time ..this took about three hours.








this is not supposed to be about the size of anyone's penis this is about me needing a little cheering up!:cry:

belfast
01-20-2006, 09:22 AM
Jazzy now that you are off the soap box..Rented it to answer Sweet..look at it and tell me the final fee is dont be afraid to charge me full price...I want to be in your debt....because the payment method is great.....here is my deposit:knuddel: :kk





You've come to a wonderful site Sweet, where everyone is supportive, generously thoughtful, and you'll most likely find someone going through the same thing as you. We all come from such diverse backgrounds and from all over the world. So many new friends to get to know and have a few laughs with. Whatever is hurting you, feel free to talk about it, either on here, in a chat room, or by Private Message. Plenty of shoulders to cry on here, and all of them warm and cozy.

And if you don't want to discuss it, sjtu stick around and get to know everyone. Glad to have met you, and look forward to seeing you around the site! :wa:

sweetgapeach
01-20-2006, 09:37 AM
he cheated on me before we got married, cheated on me while i was pregnant, and then here recently when he was out of town working. he took his wedding band off and put it in his pocket then asked her to go back to his room. nothing against age but she is 30 and my husband is 24!! i guess she had something that i didn't.


Sweety it has nothing to with you not having something, she did . It has to with Him and His insecurities . I hate that you feel so bad , I know it hurts .

belfast
01-20-2006, 09:43 AM
OK Sweet have you discussed these times when he cheated. What was his answer. How did you feel about his answer. I think with his track record so far I it may happen again. Do you love him enough to let you hurt you this many times. I can't tell you what to do but you need to be happy, and most of all love yourself too, and I dont now if this situation will do that for you. Have you asked him to go to counselling with you to sort it out..that may be the first step..if he wont go then you have your answer. Go by yourself it will help trust me:knuddel:






he cheated on me before we got married, cheated on me while i was pregnant, and then here recently when he was out of town working. he took his wedding band off and put it in his pocket then asked her to go back to his room. nothing against age but she is 30 and my husband is 24!! i guess she had something that i didn't.

spare_change
01-20-2006, 10:05 AM
he cheated on me before we got married, cheated on me while i was pregnant, and then here recently when he was out of town working. he took his wedding band off and put it in his pocket then asked her to go back to his room. nothing against age but she is 30 and my husband is 24!! i guess she had something that i didn't.

I can't believe I am going to break the male code of silence.

Hun -- no matter what he says, it has nothing to do with you. Of course, he will say you aren't this, and you won't do that, but all that is pure unmitigated bullshit. It's a way of deflecting the blame off himself -- after all, if you are self analyzing and discussing it, then you can't be blaming him, right?

I understand him -- hell, I WAS him. Belfast hit it right on the button - it's about his own insecurities, about his own personality flaws, about his own lack of confidence. He's immature and irresponsible. As long as he can make you feel guilty, he doesn't have to deal with his own guilt, his own shortcomings.

Now for the hard part -- will he change? Why should he? You don't hold him responsible - you blame yourself. He doesn't hold himself responsible -- he deflected it to you. He is a no-lose situation -- until it is much, much too late. So, the real question is ---- are YOU going to make him responsible for his actions?

Good luck, hun -- it's tough, I know. If I can be of any help, let me know.

belfast
01-20-2006, 11:40 AM
Well done spare..could not have said it better my self. I hope she makes him responsible.. and I hope she knows we are here to help...
As for him.. my boss used to tell me of the bad workers "A lepoard will not change his spots" hope her hubby is not a lepoard



I can't believe I am going to break the male code of silence.

Hun -- no matter what he says, it has nothing to do with you. Of course, he will say you aren't this, and you won't do that, but all that is pure unmitigated bullshit. It's a way of deflecting the blame off himself -- after all, if you are self analyzing and discussing it, then you can't be blaming him, right?

I understand him -- hell, I WAS him. Belfast hit it right on the button - it's about his own insecurities, about his own personality flaws, about his own lack of confidence. He's immature and irresponsible. As long as he can make you feel guilty, he doesn't have to deal with his own guilt, his own shortcomings.

Now for the hard part -- will he change? Why should he? You don't hold him responsible - you blame yourself. He doesn't hold himself responsible -- he deflected it to you. He is a no-lose situation -- until it is much, much too late. So, the real question is ---- are YOU going to make him responsible for his actions?

Good luck, hun -- it's tough, I know. If I can be of any help, let me know.

Zifnab
01-20-2006, 12:35 PM
I can't believe I am going to break the male code of silence.

Hun -- no matter what he says, it has nothing to do with you. Of course, he will say you aren't this, and you won't do that, but all that is pure unmitigated bullshit. It's a way of deflecting the blame off himself -- after all, if you are self analyzing and discussing it, then you can't be blaming him, right?

I understand him -- hell, I WAS him. Belfast hit it right on the button - it's about his own insecurities, about his own personality flaws, about his own lack of confidence. He's immature and irresponsible. As long as he can make you feel guilty, he doesn't have to deal with his own guilt, his own shortcomings.

Now for the hard part -- will he change? Why should he? You don't hold him responsible - you blame yourself. He doesn't hold himself responsible -- he deflected it to you. He is a no-lose situation -- until it is much, much too late. So, the real question is ---- are YOU going to make him responsible for his actions?

Good luck, hun -- it's tough, I know. If I can be of any help, let me know.

In my opinion the code does not cover this area, so you are cleared, as well you should be. That was a good post and needed to be said. Any shortcomings he mentions are things he believes will result in guilt on your behalf, which will end the discussion and thus continue to keep any guilt off him. I just wonder if he went to Catholic School? My mother-in-law uses that same tactic on my wife as well as her husband.

Jy
01-20-2006, 12:41 PM
Spare is right, and as a woman who has been cheated on, I agree that it's not about you. It's about him. Naturally you're going to blame yourself and wonder what you could have done to prevent him from straying. I'll say it again, as it's worth repeating: It's not about you.
So, what's next? Is he worth giving a second chance? Do you still love him? Do you think he's learned his lesson?
All of these questions can be eliminated by one single question:

Are you better off with him or without him?

You need to think long and hard about this and then take some steps toward taking care of yourself.
I hope you stick around here and get to know all of us. I think I speak for all of us here when I say this site has done wonders for me. I've made so many friends here and feel like I can always find someone to talk to, a friendly chat, an open ear, and a few pearls of wisdom.
I hope you find it as warm and welcoming as I have.

belfast
01-20-2006, 12:52 PM
Ok Jazzy get off the box and give me a turn ..i will pay rent:knuddel:



Spare is right, and as a woman who has been cheated on, I agree that it's not about you. It's about him. Naturally you're going to blame yourself and wonder what you could have done to prevent him from straying. I'll say it again, as it's worth repeating: It's not about you.
So, what's next? Is he worth giving a second chance? Do you still love him? Do you think he's learned his lesson?
All of these questions can be eliminated by one single question:

Are you better off with him or without him?

You need to think long and hard about this and then take some steps toward taking care of yourself.
I hope you stick around here and get to know all of us. I think I speak for all of us here when I say this site has done wonders for me. I've made so many friends here and feel like I can always find someone to talk to, a friendly chat, an open ear, and a few pearls of wisdom.
I hope you find it as warm and welcoming as I have.

belfast
01-20-2006, 12:59 PM
See Sweet we all care about you. I have never cheated but cant say that for my better half..It hurt real bad and I blamed myself because I was working a lot ..then I looked back and relaized that was not the problem..I was still home a lot and my family always came first.. So think about what Jazzy said ..is it better to be with him or not..Your happiness must come first..Personally I dont think he will change until you tell him to stop thinking with the little head for a while and use the other one.:knuddel:

Shiane
01-20-2006, 01:07 PM
he cheated on me before we got married, cheated on me while i was pregnant, and then here recently when he was out of town working. he took his wedding band off and put it in his pocket then asked her to go back to his room. nothing against age but she is 30 and my husband is 24!! i guess she had something that i didn't.

I'm very sorry for your situation, unfortunately this sort of thing happens. I don't have the answer for you, because you have to find that answer for yourself. One suggestion I do have is to go to the "Once a cheater, always a cheater?" thread. Lots of people have posted their opinions there, you might find a little comfort, a little insight, and a little advice in their words. Best of luck to you hun, and if all else fails cut his dick off and feed it to him ass first.;) j/k i don't want to be an accessory to a mis-da-weiner!

Norfolkdave
01-20-2006, 01:07 PM
Ok Jazzy get off the box and give me a turn ..i will pay rent:knuddel:

I hoped Jazzy would had sent it the same way as Titanic, she tells me you made her another:nu :lmao

Jy
01-20-2006, 01:17 PM
You know you don't have to pay rent honey. You know that! You made it so you get unlimited use of it!




But you're still welcome to pay me! heehee!:knuddel:


Ok Jazzy get off the box and give me a turn ..i will pay rent:knuddel:

sweetgapeach
01-20-2006, 01:18 PM
I'm very sorry for your situation, unfortunately this sort of thing happens. I don't have the answer for you, because you have to find that answer for yourself. One suggestion I do have is to go to the "Once a cheater, always a cheater?" thread. Lots of people have posted their opinions there, you might find a little comfort, a little insight, and a little advice in their words. Best of luck to you hun, and if all else fails cut his dick off and feed it to him ass first.;) j/k i don't want to be an accessory to a mis-da-weiner!



:lmao :lmao

belfast
01-20-2006, 02:21 PM
My point is Jazzy is that I want to pay you..you demand stiff fees and lots of interest..which i am will to pay to you:knuddel: :kk


You know you don't have to pay rent honey. You know that! You made it so you get unlimited use of it!




But you're still welcome to pay me! heehee!:knuddel:

Jy
01-20-2006, 02:32 PM
Well, if it's stiff fees you'll be paying, with plenty of interest, then maybe I should be charging you double!

KIRA187
01-20-2006, 02:38 PM
Hello Sweet!!!
Nice to have you with us!:gs
They weren't really serious about the sizes of their penis', they were just messing about, just another way to be cheerful/ having fun!!
If you just join in, i am sure you will be cheered up!!
This place may just become another home to you where you can be whoever/whatever you want! You can choose to be or take things seriously or lightly and have fun with it!!
If you need any help with this place, then i am sure you will get it!!!!( help, i mean, you guys, before you say anything!!!!)
A shoulder to cry on then just do that!!
So please cheer up now!!! Lets see that smile you have!!!:)

very nice Lee! :)

KIRA187
01-20-2006, 02:45 PM
In my opinion the code does not cover this area, so you are cleared, as well you should be. That was a good post and needed to be said. Any shortcomings he mentions are things he believes will result in guilt on your behalf, which will end the discussion and thus continue to keep any guilt off him. I just wonder if he went to Catholic School? My mother-in-law uses that same tactic on my wife as well as her husband.

Hey Hey Hey now..... dont get the catlics involved in this one Ziffy!! :( We can do enough damage on our own..

KIRA187
01-20-2006, 02:47 PM
I'm very sorry for your situation, unfortunately this sort of thing happens. I don't have the answer for you, because you have to find that answer for yourself. One suggestion I do have is to go to the "Once a cheater, always a cheater?" thread. Lots of people have posted their opinions there, you might find a little comfort, a little insight, and a little advice in their words. Best of luck to you hun, and if all else fails cut his dick off and feed it to him ass first.;) j/k i don't want to be an accessory to a mis-da-weiner!


:( :D Aand he surely would miss da weiner!!!!

Sunfiresix
01-20-2006, 03:09 PM
Sweet, I doubt she had something you don't, just the opportunity to seduce something that wasn't hers, I really hope all works out good for you. You are young enough to make a good life for you and your child, if it comes down to that.

KIRA187
01-20-2006, 03:31 PM
i am new here and i was just hoping that someone could make me feel a little bit better about myself. i have never done this kind of thing before but my husband has hurt me so bad he has left me with no other choice.

is it ok to flirt when your married?

he cheated on me before we got married, cheated on me while i was pregnant, and then here recently when he was out of town working. he took his wedding band off and put it in his pocket then asked her to go back to his room. nothing against age but she is 30 and my husband is 24!! i guess she had something that i didn't.


Hey Bama! I already gave you a hey but let's start over. I know that I speak for all of the people here on the site when I say.. Welcome!! :wa:
This site is not for everyone. Your reservations are normal and understandable. YOU go at your own pace and dont let anyone push you into anything. This is a very nice site to visit, read the posts, and to add your own personal touches. Without a doubt, I am sure you can add your own wonderful flavor to an already spicy concoction brewing here. There will be times when you will laugh, times when you will cry, and posts that will make you just scratch your head and think.

The people here are good down to earth people and I feel care for each other in their own special way.

I cannot say that I have been in your shoes but can only imagine that you are feeling so many things right now -- one being that you do not feel good about yourself.

The main thing that you need to remember BAMA is that you are truly special, that you are important and that you are loved! Ultimately you are the one who can control how you feel about yourself and DO NOT allow others to allow you to feel otherwise.

Barkiss
01-20-2006, 03:33 PM
Nicely put...

KIRA187
01-20-2006, 03:34 PM
Nicely put...

Thanks man! :55

belfast
01-20-2006, 03:55 PM
Well if i take a long time with these stiff fee will i have to pay for a long time.. And you can charge me triple lets start here :knuddel: :kk ..then then work our way up or down or both. Its your call



Well, if it's stiff fees you'll be paying, with plenty of interest, then maybe I should be charging you double!

Penny
01-20-2006, 04:15 PM
If he has done all that you can punish him in the worst way. His wallet, child support last a long time. See how he likes seeing you with another man and happy.

belfast
01-20-2006, 04:21 PM
Now there is a thought..You go girl :gs


If he has done all that you can punish him in the worst way. His wallet, child support last a long time. See how he likes seeing you with another man and happy.

Lena
01-20-2006, 08:17 PM
very nice Lee! :)

Thank you Kira!!!

Dre
01-20-2006, 08:30 PM
Hey lena !

Lena
01-20-2006, 08:49 PM
Hello Chdrake!!!
Nice to see you again!!

eroticjoy
01-28-2006, 12:17 AM
If you are in an 'open relationship'... is having sex with others still considered cheating?

tiger50
01-28-2006, 12:29 AM
Geez, sorry, not goin there....lol.... :D

sex_kitten_4u
01-28-2006, 04:56 AM
to some it is to others it is not it really depends on the people and how open the relationship is

Norfolkdave
01-28-2006, 05:01 AM
Personally it is I think a form of cheating, I,ll proberly be wrong.

tiger50
01-28-2006, 05:15 AM
as i said, ave a zipped lip here...

MCat
01-28-2006, 10:14 AM
To me open means open for anything or anyone. If you think its cheating then you shouldn't have an open relationship. We don't have an open relationship...wouldn't work for us.

sweetgapeach
01-28-2006, 10:19 AM
If you are in an 'open relationship'... is having sex with others still considered cheating?

If you have Sex with someone else , wether be open or not it is Cheating .

MCat
01-28-2006, 10:26 AM
If you have Sex with someone else , wether be open or not it is Cheating .

For those of you in open relationships.....I'm curious...do you only have sex with others when in the company of your significant other? You never do it with someone else alone? Just curious...:sg

sweetgapeach
01-28-2006, 10:28 AM
For those of you in open relationships.....I'm curious...do you only have sex with others when in the company of your significant other? You never do it with someone else alone? Just curious...:sg


I'm not in a open relationship , just stating that I believe when you have sex with someone other than your mate , you are cheating !

Dre
01-28-2006, 10:46 AM
I think if your in a open relationship and you sig other knows about it it does not constitute cheating, and if they encourage it then I believe its ok.



I'm not in a open relationship , just stating that I believe when you have sex with someone other than your mate , you are cheating !

sweetgapeach
01-28-2006, 10:49 AM
I think if your in a open relationship and you sig other knows about it it does not constitute cheating, and if they encourage it then I believe its ok.


To each his own !

Dre
01-28-2006, 10:52 AM
I know it depends on the couple, and how stable they are with their relationship!



To each his own !

Penny
01-28-2006, 11:38 AM
I dont think there is such a thing.

Sunfiresix
01-28-2006, 12:11 PM
i guess I am from the old school too, if you have sex with another than the one you are with, It would be cheating, unless the other wanted a threesome or swap with all patries in same place.

MCat
01-28-2006, 12:15 PM
i guess I am from the old school too, if you have sex with another than the one you are with, It would be cheating, unless the other wanted a threesome or swap with all patries in same place.

I agree here...its not for us. But I do like to imagine sometimes ;)

Dre
01-28-2006, 12:18 PM
We have never done it yet, but she wants to go to a sex club to see what its all about? Anyone been to one?



I agree here...its not for us. But I do like to imagine sometimes ;)

surfnchat
01-28-2006, 01:58 PM
If you are in an 'open relationship'... is having sex with others still considered cheating?

Sounds like the term "open relationship" is one of those oxymorons like "jumbo shrimp" and "military intelligence." :D

On a serious note, how can it be cheating is there's no commitment to the relationship? An "open relationship" sounds like nothing more than a long-term date to me. :sc

Sinjin Kane
02-03-2006, 10:15 PM
I think cheating starts from not talking to one another, Cheating is a terrible thing that hurt the heart so I really dislike cheaters.
Some times another girl in the mix has been fun for us but we set rules and have a great time living a really great sex life.

goodgirl12
02-04-2006, 03:47 AM
aw call me chicken on this one, i'll flirt w/him there and w/out him but that as far as it will go for this girl

surfnchat
02-04-2006, 11:55 AM
aw call me chicken on this one, i'll flirt w/him there and w/out him but that as far as it will go for this girl

Bawwwwk, Bawwwwk, Baaaaaaawwwwwwk! :D

goodgirl12
02-05-2006, 12:29 AM
I'll take it np

tiger50
02-05-2006, 01:12 AM
I agree here...its not for us. But I do like to imagine sometimes ;)
Nothing wrong with a little fantasy sometimes MC, very normal for most of us i think.... :D

flamengo130
02-05-2006, 02:30 AM
guess we're old school too. been approached by both couples and singles of both sexes, but declined. we feel we have an open relationship, in that we try not to keep any secrets, but haven't stopped enjoying each other enough yet

aceofspades1114
02-06-2006, 04:20 AM
I have to agree with you penny and gapeach.

I dont think there is such a thing, cheating is cheating.

"Open Relationships" are stupid, why be with that person if your going to sleep around? If that is the case just stay single

Penny
02-06-2006, 05:11 PM
nice to see you again Ace :kk

aceofspades1114
02-06-2006, 10:51 PM
nice to see you again Ace :kk

its nice to be back, I'll pop on from time to time, looks like there is more fresh faces here:kk

goodgirl12
02-07-2006, 02:21 AM
Had the hubby on Saturday nite,thanks to Penny hubby thinks your hot.
I just lost my only room in the house
cry cry

bigbusbee
02-07-2006, 05:49 AM
If you are in an 'open relationship'... is having sex with others still considered cheating? no

pastryman
02-07-2006, 08:53 AM
when you are in an open relationsip you set your guidelines from the start so that no one gets hurt no I don't think its cheating usually if you are swaping everyone is the room gets very erotic

goodgirl12
02-07-2006, 10:18 AM
never did not sure i ever will. at least with hubby... lol

shadow57
02-07-2006, 12:08 PM
By saying it is an 'open relationship', to me that means both people are aware of the situation and are ok with it. So if thats's the case I would not call it cheating.
The problem is once it starts, so will the questions.
My personal feeling is that it would be the beginning of the end.

Rainmaker
02-07-2006, 12:13 PM
By saying it is an 'open relationship', to me that means both people are aware of the situation and are ok with it. So if thats's the case I would not call it cheating.
The problem is once it starts, so will the questions.
My personal feeling is that it would be the beginning of the end.


I agree with part of that. I dont think its cheating if both are aware like u said. I think it can ruin a marriage but i think it can make some stronger also. U dont have top sneak around and lie. I think that you would have to set up rules and such though.

shadow57
02-07-2006, 12:24 PM
I think the one rule you need would be that neither one asks anything about the new people in the relationship.

Rainmaker
02-07-2006, 12:29 PM
I think the one rule you need would be that neither one asks anything about the new people in the relationship.



hmm i already posted about this and it didnt show up-must have hit wrong button so here i go again-----------But wouldnt that be the erotic part-telling what u did and such

Zpanther
02-07-2006, 12:31 PM
I think the one rule you need would be that neither one asks anything about the new people in the relationship.

Depends on what you're trying to achieve I suppose. That sounds like it would fit into what some refer to as 'polyamory.' I've known a few people who tried that and I have to say they are about as screwed up as anyone I've known. They go back and forth between which one they're most 'in love' with until they don't know if they're really 'in love' with anybody.

shadow57
02-07-2006, 12:37 PM
hmm i already posted about this and it didnt show up-must have hit wrong button so here i go again-----------But wouldnt that be the erotic part-telling what u did and such

I think it would set up a sorta competition, like she/he was great a this or that.
Then she/he would say, "Better than me ?"

Rainmaker
02-07-2006, 12:41 PM
I think it would set up a sorta competition, like she/he was great a this or that.
Then she/he would say, "Better than me ?"

yes -i see what u r saying thats why u should be very secure in your relationship and your own body before stepping into this type of lifestyle

shadow57
02-07-2006, 01:11 PM
There should also be a difference for married couples and single couples.
If you are married, You each made a commitment to that one special person.
If you are single, you are still trying to find your perfect mate. So as long as both aggree, go for it. (at the risk of loosing what you have now)

goodgirl12
02-07-2006, 09:18 PM
SHADOW well said, best yet

Penny
02-07-2006, 09:31 PM
lol :D



Had the hubby on Saturday nite,thanks to Penny hubby thinks your hot.
I just lost my only room in the house
cry cry

shadow57
02-08-2006, 12:45 PM
goodgirl12, Thank you.:kk

goodgirl12
02-08-2006, 12:49 PM
anytime shadow

sex_kitten_4u
02-11-2006, 04:53 AM
very addicted to this site , first thing i do when i get to the comp and if i cant sleep at night i come on here as well, now see what kissie has done to me :D

tiger50
02-11-2006, 05:32 AM
nah, check out the porn sites, news, weather, all sortza shit, then cum ere to c if cotties has actually said anything useful.....

sex_kitten_4u
02-11-2006, 05:37 AM
nah, check out the porn sites, news, weather, all sortza shit, then cum ere to c if cotties has actually said anything useful.....

aw you are bad cotties is lovley take this :sp: :sp: :sp:

tiger50
02-11-2006, 05:39 AM
aw you are bad cotties is lovley take this :sp: :sp: :sp:

awww sobbb, bugger.... hey ang on, cotties is an aussie, its my birthright ta take the piss outa him... :D

Sandy
02-11-2006, 09:09 AM
i'm hooked no doubt about it, i never thought i would get that hooked till our old computer died. man mark and i both went nuts. lol. we really missed the site and all our friends here. :kk

Norfolkdave
02-11-2006, 09:16 AM
i'm hooked no doubt about it, i never thought i would get that hooked till our old computer died. man mark and i both went nuts. lol. we really missed the site and all our friends here. :kk

Yes it is catching, I wonder why this is, there is no other site on the entirity of the internet as this. All the others seem boring and droll, but here, we seem a big family where we can chat about everything.

Penny
02-11-2006, 03:20 PM
Thats to cool I am glad people like it. :kk

Sandy
02-11-2006, 03:51 PM
oh penny we more than like it. its great. :kk

Tucker69
02-11-2006, 03:54 PM
Just joined today. Great site!

mbrown811
02-11-2006, 03:57 PM
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Sandy
02-11-2006, 04:05 PM
hi tucker and welcome. :wa:

kissiemybuttie
02-11-2006, 08:04 PM
i'm hooked no doubt about it, i never thought i would get that hooked till our old computer died. man mark and i both went nuts. lol. we really missed the site and all our friends here. :kk



and we all missed you 2!!!!

G...G
02-12-2006, 08:11 AM
Yes, I am slowly getting addicted!!! Lots of nice people here that have alot in common with me and I can just be myself!! THANKS Penny

boxtree
02-12-2006, 08:42 AM
i've only been here a short time, but keep wanting to come back, georgia

Norfolkdave
02-12-2006, 01:14 PM
i've only been here a short time, but keep wanting to come back, georgia

Your adicted to.....................:D

surfnchat
02-12-2006, 03:38 PM
I wish I could post here more often. With all I have going on, the weekends are all I can spare. But it is quality time. :lf

Thanks for the great place to hang out Penny! :wa:

G...G
02-12-2006, 07:30 PM
Okay...........I am addicted!!! LOL Welcome Box

1hotmommy
11-13-2007, 02:13 PM
Yeah I'd say I'm addicted to this site. A little too addicted sometimes, but it's so much fun here it's hard to stay away.

Postman
11-13-2007, 02:15 PM
Woo I think I have Georgia on my mind. Wow what an avitorOkay...........I am addicted!!! LOL Welcome Box

simplygrace
01-05-2008, 11:52 AM
I think im more addicted to the friends i've met. There great when your happy or feeling down.:wa: