how to bring back the lost passion---->

[my02xcsp]

without spending a lot of money and while having children in the house? How do you do it?

[Kingronster]

In a word. BOOZE. Sad really isnt it. But it works.

[my02xcsp]

LOL. Neither my wife or i really drink but i may try it. LOL

[REDBUD74]

Then it wont take much lol

[Kingronster]

You know there is always the secret weapon. PORN. Watching porn leads to re-enacting porn.

Just to clarify, I don't think we ever watched hard core together but erotic movies with a basic story line and full sex scenes. You know.. films that dont open with people fucking but work up to it over the first 20 mins or so....

[REDBUD74]

i like to leave naughty messages on his phone all day long(pics too) then sometimes hes all fired up when he walks in the door and i just JUMP him

[pagirl]

I wish I had the answer but unfortunately I do not :(

[my02xcsp]

I wish i had the answer also. I have a very high sex drive and she doesnt anymore.

[Kingronster]

There is always your hand.... or you take on a lover - who will bring you a whole set of new problems!

[c50t]

I think sometimes there is no answer. At least I haven't been able to find it in 15 years. Just too far apart in what we each desire.

[Torin]

Passion starts outside the bedroom, IMO.

It starts with flirting, laughing, sexy looks, playful grabs and pinches, sexy whispers, and for women... lots of talking and compliments. Make a woman feel like she is sexy, and she will act sexy.

If you are expecting a normal, routineday with no extra work involved, then a sex kitten once you get in bed at night... I'd say dream on. ;)

But to me, the flirting and keeping him turned on all day is FUN... I love that part of it. If you have to force yourself to flirt and act sexy with your spouse, and put a little extra work into it... then I'd say the problem goes far deeper than the lack of passion, and needs be to addressed and taken care of first.

Lack of passion is usually a symptom of a problem in a marriage... rarely it is the actual problem.... its just the problem that men seem to notice.

Just my 2 cents!

[c50t]

that's more than 2 cents worth! and wise words Torin. I couldn't agree more.:sc

[JCDxn]

Passion starts outside the bedroom, IMO.

It starts with flirting, laughing, sexy looks, playful grabs and pinches, sexy whispers, and for women... lots of talking and compliments. Make a woman feel like she is sexy, and she will act sexy.

If you are expecting a normal, routineday with no extra work involved, then a sex kitten once you get in bed at night... I'd say dream on. ;)

But to me, the flirting and keeping him turned on all day is FUN... I love that part of it. If you have to force yourself to flirt and act sexy with your spouse, and put a little extra work into it... then I'd say the problem goes far deeper than the lack of passion, and needs be to addressed and taken care of first.

Lack of passion is usually a symptom of a problem in a marriage... rarely it is the actual problem.... its just the problem that men seem to notice.

Just my 2 cents!
Great 2 cents.....

[Torin]

Great 2 cents.....

:kk Thanks hon!

[Nicodemus2430]

i like to leave naughty messages on his phone all day long(pics too) then sometimes hes all fired up when he walks in the door and i just JUMP him

It would be nice to get all of this.

[wisconsin(m)]

I call it (actually my wife calls it) all day foreplay. Text pictures with naughty pictures attached. Little emails at work, flowers at work for no reason. Today I went home this morning and folded laundry, started another load, and put in a pork roast to slow cook all day, and picked up the kitchen, and drove the kids to school. WITHOUT BEING ASKED !!! Trust me she will be in the mood when I get home.

[Torin]

I call it (actually my wife calls it) all day foreplay. Text pictures with naughty pictures attached. Little emails at work, flowers at work for no reason. Today I went home this morning and folded laundry, started another load, and put in a pork roast to slow cook all day, and picked up the kitchen, and drove the kids to school. WITHOUT BEING ASKED !!! Trust me she will be in the mood when I get home.

THAT is awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Your wife is soooo lucky.... you actually get it! Kudos to you, man! :kk

[onceamarine]

so does this mean it is possible to bring back the passion? So there is hope after all!!

[Annie]

Passion starts outside the bedroom, IMO.

It starts with flirting, laughing, sexy looks, playful grabs and pinches, sexy whispers, and for women... lots of talking and compliments. Make a woman feel like she is sexy, and she will act sexy.

If you are expecting a normal, routineday with no extra work involved, then a sex kitten once you get in bed at night... I'd say dream on. ;)

But to me, the flirting and keeping him turned on all day is FUN... I love that part of it. If you have to force yourself to flirt and act sexy with your spouse, and put a little extra work into it... then I'd say the problem goes far deeper than the lack of passion, and needs be to addressed and taken care of first.

Lack of passion is usually a symptom of a problem in a marriage... rarely it is the actual problem.... its just the problem that men seem to notice.

Just my 2 cents! Very wise words! I couldn't have said it better!

[PunkyBob]

You have to still like and want your partner...there has to be something there to resurrect. If you don't...I think it's a lost battle...

[yaser]

Find another...Why do you invest in old relations.Newer the better..

[Sylar]

Passion starts outside the bedroom, IMO.

It starts with flirting, laughing, sexy looks, playful grabs and pinches, sexy whispers, and for women... lots of talking and compliments. Make a woman feel like she is sexy, and she will act sexy.

If you are expecting a normal, routineday with no extra work involved, then a sex kitten once you get in bed at night... I'd say dream on. ;)

But to me, the flirting and keeping him turned on all day is FUN... I love that part of it. If you have to force yourself to flirt and act sexy with your spouse, and put a little extra work into it... then I'd say the problem goes far deeper than the lack of passion, and needs be to addressed and taken care of first.

Lack of passion is usually a symptom of a problem in a marriage... rarely it is the actual problem.... its just the problem that men seem to notice.

Just my 2 cents!


Heeeeyyyyy....some of us are in tune with our inner woman...lol...

Wonderful post, sweetie! :kk

[yaser]

I wish I had the answer but unfortunately I do not :(
Pagirl, you know but have no couage to tell.

[Penny]

Just talking about it works. Talk about what you would like to do :)

without spending a lot of money and while having children in the house? How do you do it?

[nolefaninal]

start by leaving notes around the house where she will find them(the bathroom mirror, on the computer keyboard, her dresser, etc. Nothing sexual, just little thinking of you notes(remember that your kids may find these). Later you can send e-mils or text messages that are more risque(my wife and I occasionally even send each other nude pics).

[MCat]

I call it (actually my wife calls it) all day foreplay. Text pictures with naughty pictures attached. Little emails at work, flowers at work for no reason. Today I went home this morning and folded laundry, started another load, and put in a pork roast to slow cook all day, and picked up the kitchen, and drove the kids to school. WITHOUT BEING ASKED !!! Trust me she will be in the mood when I get home.

This may sound like hoopla to some...but this would do it for me.....

I'm lucky my husband is like this too...

[WandaRing]

without spending a lot of money and while having children in the house? How do you do it?
send the children to spend the night at a friends place - -trade weekend nights with parents so that you both get a break...go to a cheap hotel for the night, or you could rent a movie and cuddle, or turn down the lights and slow dance, make dinner together...you dont have to spend money---just make the time and stick to it, be together and turn off the world and turn each other on...:whee:

[WandaRing]

Passion starts outside the bedroom, IMO.

It starts with flirting, laughing, sexy looks, playful grabs and pinches, sexy whispers, and for women... lots of talking and compliments. Make a woman feel like she is sexy, and she will act sexy.

If you are expecting a normal, routineday with no extra work involved, then a sex kitten once you get in bed at night... I'd say dream on. ;)

But to me, the flirting and keeping him turned on all day is FUN... I love that part of it. If you have to force yourself to flirt and act sexy with your spouse, and put a little extra work into it... then I'd say the problem goes far deeper than the lack of passion, and needs be to addressed and taken care of first.

Lack of passion is usually a symptom of a problem in a marriage... rarely it is the actual problem.... its just the problem that men seem to notice.

Just my 2 cents!

when do your classes start? :whee:

[Torin]

when do your classes start? :whee:

Tonight at midnight.... you comin??? :D

[Sylar]

Tonight at midnight.... you comin??? :D

awww crap. Does this mean I have to wear an apron and make little finger sandwiches AGAIN?? *sigh*:D

[RedVixen]

Wait until the kids are in bed - pop in the movie 9 & 1/2 weeks and see if that might ignite a spark between the two of you :)

[Sylar]

Wait until the kids are in bed - pop in the movie 9 & 1/2 weeks and see if that might ignite a spark between the two of you :)

Oh man...that is one hot movie...;)

[Torin]

Oh man...that is one hot movie...;)

Have you been holding out on me?? I've never seen it... :cry:

[scoobertina]

Oh man...that is one hot movie...;)


you are not kidding Yasha... good god... love that movie... and boy did my nipples just harden thinking about that?

[Sylar]

Have you been holding out on me?? I've never seen it... :cry:

Don't EVEN...I've suggested that movied about a dozen times over the last few years...lol...but we usually end up with a chic flick...

No complaints, though...lol...:kk

[Torin]

Don't EVEN...I've suggested that movied about a dozen times over the last few years...lol...but we usually end up with a chic flick...

No complaints, though...lol...:kk

LOL.... well, maybe if you had told me it was about SEX, we would have watched it. :D

[Sylar]

LOL.... well, maybe if you had told me it was about SEX, we would have watched it. :D

Ok...you're right...I guess when I showed you the case in Blockbuster of two people gettin' it on on the cover :sex ...yeah, I could see how you thought it was about something else...:D

[TIGUY]

Speaking from my point of view and my experiences, I don't believe that any woman's passion is ever lost...even those who think they have never had passion. It is hidden, latent...just waiting to come out at the right time and that right time is when she meets that right man who can let her feel secure and comfy and just be herself.

[onceamarine]

I have a pretty good idea how to bring back my lost passion. All it would take is a long drive to Atlanta and BAM, instant passion.

[inquisitive]

still working on that myself.

[Postman]

Hire a hooker?
NO?
Ok ok how about find someone on this site?

[Chrissy]

It would be nice to get all of this.

with that avatar you might inspire :lf

[scoobertina]

well.... I have no clue... nothing here seems to be helping me...

[nolefaninal]

well.... I have no clue... nothing here seems to be helping me...



I'm here to help you Scoob

[RedVixen]

Speaking from my point of view and my experiences, I don't believe that any woman's passion is ever lost...even those who think they have never had passion. It is hidden, latent...just waiting to come out at the right time and that right time is when she meets that right man who can let her feel secure and comfy and just be herself.

I think you may be right Thick - we never lose it, but some women have their passion buried so deep that they lose sight of it :(

[Iwantutowantme]

Just go back to the basics of being together....listen to one another.... spend REAL time together doing something you both like to do. Dancing is one thing that keeps up together.

[TIGUY]

I think you may be right Thick - we never lose it, but some women have their passion buried so deep that they lose sight of it :(

Yes, that's true..I have seen that and it's not so simple to keep it out either. I truly think that this site has allowed many to see their passion surface...men and women...