While flirting, who do you think must approach first?

[skybird]

There is always this question whether the male must do the approaching, or is it the woman?

I tell you, in real life it is always a bit dangerous for a man to come over to the woman and tell her that he is interested in knowing her better. Take into consideration that with all the laws of pointing at the males, blaming them to be sex assaulants and all, it is today quite a risky thing. :lf

But I'm asking this as in "here". What do you think? Who should come over and say a personal hello first? Hmmm? :lf

[Jy]

Good question skybird.

I think either can make the first move. And it doesn't always have to be as forward as a hello. If both people are looking, smiling, communicating with body language, then hello is simply a natural progression.
Then I prefer to just make small talk, to see if the chemistry is right for getting to know one another better.
I'm usually a bit thrown if someone walks up to me and says he/she would like to get to know me better without any leadup. I wouldn't have the gumption myself. There needs to be some indication beforehand that the gesture is welcomed or expected.
That being said, I'm quite comfortable approaching people, and never mind if they approach me.

[Norfolkdave]

Hello Jugs .......heh heh heh, Can I know you more or have I to walk about chained waiting for you:ch christmas or not:lmao

[sweetgapeach]

I think it can go either way!! I do think women look for a little small talk and kinda feel out what kinda of person the man is.You can tell more by a person by their words I think !

[skybird]

I have no problem in approaching ( I mean apart from this forum, I haven't got to 50 posts yet :cry: ) but I think it very sweet and sexy for a woman to approach me. It turns me on. ;)

[SDS351]

Don’t women usually like to have the man make the first move? I don’t mean walking over to her and saying "so do you want to fuck' I mean introducing himself and chatting.

[skybird]

Yes that is the general trend but I can dream, can't I? ;)

[Norfolkdave]

I think its nice if both flirt together break the bond be different, laugh and joke about it, your be very surprised at how flirting together brings happiness.

[KIRA187]

While flirting, who do you think must approach first?


Hey Skybird, If all you are asking is who should make the first move…. I agree it does not matter who initiates the first flirtatious gesture. Now as far as how one goes about being flirtatious… In my humble opinion, there are times that I have not had any interaction with the other person but if I notice a female that peaks my interest I would feel comfortable in making the first gesture. This gesture could be as innocent as a hello. I would then try to start up a conversation to see if the two of us hit it off. At this point it is merely to have small talk and get to know the other person. If nothing else happens than we have at least exchanged pleasantries and we are on our way. Another innocent gesture would be asking her to dance if we are in a club. What is the worst thing that could happen? She says NO and off I go.

Now as Jugs mentions, if there is a mutual chemistry happening already before the hello, then half the battle or challenge has been overcome (I don’t mean challenge or battle in any negative connotation ladies). Some people are a bit too forward in their approach and I can see how that turns some women off and perhaps men as well. You just have to know how to diffuse that situation.

That being said, I think I will approach Jugs next time she is online and say hello!

[yaser]

Both can start..but in my culture if ladies generally start but later they try to get a proposal from men as if they have not started...

[yaser]

Both can start..but in my culture if ladies generally start but later they try to get a proposal from men as if they have not started...because later they blame for our proposing them to have sex or marriage.They don't like responsibiliy..

[Sandy]

me personally before i got married i would approach the guy. i'm not shy by any means lol :D

[Penny]

Depends where u are.

[Jy]

Honestly, I don't it's that important to women. At least it's not to me.



Don’t women usually like to have the man make the first move? I don’t mean walking over to her and saying "so do you want to fuck' I mean introducing himself and chatting.

[Waltert]

I think it is more important how it is done than who does it.

It must be done with tack, and grace.

Usually best if iniciated with some non-verbal interaction.

But there are others that like the more aggressive approach and that is the way it is we all have our preferences, and none of them are the ONLY way it can be done. That is what helps make life interesting.

[skybird]

Depends where u are.

Oh geez. :(

[yaser]

me personally before i got married i would approach the guy. i'm not shy by any means lol :DWeren't you afraid of that he may have said no...

[skybird]

Weren't you afraid of that he may have said no...

Yes there is always the "feeling of being insulted" when the opposite sex tells you he or she is not interested. :cry: :)

[Sandy]

thats true sky, but you never know till you try right?

:wa:

[skybird]

thats true sky, but you never know till you try right?

:wa:

Ya. It's like putting a tiger in your tank. Rrrrrrr.

Hi dear. :-)

[Jy]

Nothing ventured, nothing gained, I say.

Wayne Gretzsky said it best "You always miss every shot that you don't take."
If you don't risk, you don't full live.

[Sandy]

hi skybird, i'm a firm believer of trying. :wa:

[LadyNGeorgia]

I truly agree with you, doesn't matter who makes the first move. Look at all the missed opportunities if you don't risk it. There is always a chance of being let down but I think that is part of life to. Chemistry is a tough one but it's respect of the other person and how you handle it that matters.



Honestly, I don't it's that important to women. At least it's not to me.

[sex_kitten_4u]

i preffer the man to make the first move but has been known for me to on a few occasions

[tiger50]

I must be a bit odd (i am an ozzie)..lol... its not really the flirting thing that grabs me here, just the general banter.
If someone wants to flirt with me then , cool, am up for it, but dont think i will ever initiate it......

[wheelhead69]

The woman should because there are not in my oppion that many woman out there that like to chit chat or cyber with a guy they never met ive tried am trying right now i throw myself out there like a worm on a hook and hope a woman bites. ;)

[sex_kitten_4u]

there are more women out there than you think that like to chit chat,,, there will even be some that like to cyber

[Jeep]

I don't know.. I think it starts with saying hello, and not being all desperate. Just relax. Whomever you're talking with, give them 100% of your attention. If nothing else, it will be a pleasant social interaction. If something else develops... Just relax and have fun.

-Frank

[sex_kitten_4u]

well said jeep

[Gentleman]

I usually make the move, but LOVE for the lady to initiate it.

[lewers smith]

to me it does not matter who makes the first move.if ur really horny and hot
u will definetlydo it.

[Krazi0469]

i always let the other person make the 1st move... which tonight i made him make the 1st move alot of times... hehe i giess u could say i'm playin hard to get

[kissiemybuttie]

I think when it comes to flirting that it is ok for a man to approach...but then it is ok for the woman to approach also...flirting is harmless unless it is taken to far by one of the persons...and i am not saying it is always the gentleman that takes it to far...us women are not always sweet and innocent as we tend to act....

[Sunfiresix]

I guess Kissie says it all, I have found women to start the flirting, unless it is my demeanor that causes them to respond.

[shorty51000]

i like for the woman to make the first move this way you don't have to worry about making them mad

[milf_hunter916]

There is always this question whether the male must do the approaching, or is it the woman?

I tell you, in real life it is always a bit dangerous for a man to come over to the woman and tell her that he is interested in knowing her better. Take into consideration that with all the laws of pointing at the males, blaming them to be sex assaulants and all, it is today quite a risky thing. :lf

But I'm asking this as in "here". What do you think? Who should come over and say a personal hello first? Hmmm? :lf

I think its ok for a male to intruduce himself as long as he is poite and respectful about it

[milf_hunter916]

i always let the other person make the 1st move... which tonight i made him make the 1st move alot of times... hehe i giess u could say i'm playin hard to get



well as sexy as you are im sure you can play ahrd to get :)

[milf_hunter916]

there are more women out there than you think that like to chit chat,,, there will even be some that like to cyber

Wel then I am in the right place to chat it up

[RedVixen]

I don't think it really matters who makes the first move. It's a heck of a lot easier in person if you have some initial eye contact and body language going on before 'going over'. On this site though, it's quite easy to start flirting as all you need to do is 'jump' in on whatever post suits you and let it run from there.

[Alonelyboy4u]

I don't think it really matters who makes the first move. It's a heck of a lot easier in person if you have some initial eye contact and body language going on before 'going over'. On this site though, it's quite easy to start flirting as all you need to do is 'jump' in on whatever post suits you and let it run from there.

Red I am trying to make eye contact. But I keep seeing the lovely behind instead. what time of day do you come on.

[IMaLady]

Normally Im pretty shy so for me the man has to approach.

[Alonelyboy4u]

Normally Im pretty shy so for me the man has to approach.


I am approaching slowly with a gleam in my eyes.

[IMaLady]

I am approaching slowly with a gleam in my eyes.



What color are those eyes?

[AffableOne]

if I am interested in someone here......I pass a note to one of the forum hosts......asaking them to pass it on to her.....

usually, there are three boxes, and she is asked to check one of them:

the first box: yes, I want to flirt with you

the second box: sorry, I am already spoken for

the third box: get lost!


it is scary to see how many third boxes get checked!!!!!

[mer]

i don't think it matters who talks to who first, if i'm intrested i do the approaching! why not right!

[FitMidwestGuy39]

i don't think it matters who talks to who first, if i'm intrested i do the approaching! why not right!

Precisely, getting to know someone new, someone fun, someone interesting is always worth a little embarassment if they would prefer not to talk

[GaMan]

I can flirt with the best of them. But I am probably going to leave it up to the woman to let me know how far she wants things to go. I don't want to take something the wrong way and look like an idiot!

[PlayfulMale69]

i don't think it matters who talks to who first, if i'm intrested i do the approaching! why not right!

I think that either party can approach. If she is interested I want to know!!!

[Alonelyboy4u]

What color are those eyes?
brown my sweet deep brown

[ZoeZachary]

A woman needs to let a man know she is interested, but he has to pursue.

It's a rule ;)

[AffableOne]

A woman needs to let a man know she is interested, but he has to pursue.

It's a rule ;)

you have the outdated instruction manual......

let me get you a newer version....

[ck]

you have the outdated instruction manual......

let me get you a newer version....

I agree, Affable...I usually just write my own instructions, lol:55

[ZoeZachary]

you have the outdated instruction manual......

let me get you a newer version....

I didn't say it was "THE rule," I said it was "A rule," that is...a rule of MINE! :D

[PunkyBob]

I didn't say it was "THE rule," I said it was "A rule," that is...a rule of MINE! :D

Rules are made to be broken once in a while...:sc

[massage mike]

tuche bob

[flirtyCoach]

Probably the male since I have not yet been approached in here. :lmao

[angelis]

depends how much you want to flirt with someone,on here I have no hesitation in PM'ing someone I want to know better!!;)

[PlayfulMale69]

depends how much you want to flirt with someone,on here I have no hesitation in PM'ing someone I want to know better!!;)

I for one don't mind the lady making contact. It flatters me.

[pointofnoreturn]

Probably the male since I have not yet been approached in here. :lmaoAnd what are you looking for Flirty???the first person to the intersection gets to go first...;)

[Amaretto]

I for one don't mind the lady making contact. It flatters me.

Hi playful! :kk

[Amaretto]

Anyone who knows me, knows that I meet new people everywhere I go. I am very much a "people person," and will talk to anyone. So, I do make the first contact in a lot of situations, including here.


But it's always nice for me to get a pm from someone new, just because they wanted to say hi.

[PlayfulMale69]

Hi playful! :kk

Hi amaretto! Great to see you today! :kk

[millenite]

In most cases, I have noticed that if a woman is receptive to flirtation from you, she will glance at you at least twice. If not, I leave her alone. In a chat room, I just take my chances.

[fly]

I'm guessing the horniest one usually does the approaching?:D

[pointofnoreturn]

In most cases, I have noticed that if a woman is receptive to flirtation from you, she will glance at you at least twice. If not, I leave her alone. In a chat room, I just take my chances.Hey come talk to me...

[millenite]

Where???

[millenite]

Pointofnoreturn.......please join me in chat room.

[PlayfulMale69]

I'm guessing the horniest one usually does the approaching?:D



hmmm, I guess you would be right. Soemtimes the initial contact is not for sex, but just to meet someone new. At least that is what others tell me. LOL :D

[ZoeZachary]

Rules are made to be broken once in a while...:sc

Sure they are, but Daddy had very clear ideas about this, so I defer to him on matters involving men. He hasn't been wrong yet.

[scouttrooper]

The man, start off with a smile, if it's returned, maybe some very casual, non-agressive remark, not to witty or trying to hard (don't comment on weather) most often something about location, store, thought you dropped something, notice something, need help finding something, ask opion about buying something - Trader Joe's is a good place, kinda of neutral, and winnows out the PWT, younger and nothing upstairs group.

[fly]

The man, start off with a smile, if it's returned, maybe some very casual, non-agressive remark, not to witty or trying to hard (don't comment on weather) most often something about location, store, thought you dropped something, notice something, need help finding something, ask opion about buying something - Trader Joe's is a good place, kinda of neutral, and winnows out the PWT, younger and nothing upstairs group.\\


You've REALLY thought this out haven't ya?

[baby face]

I don't think it really matters......I usually tend to be the one to start the flirting I think it depends on the person and how out going they are.

[PlayfulMale69]

I don't think it really matters......I usually tend to be the one to start the flirting I think it depends on the person and how out going they are.

Why don't you cum over and start something?

[flirtyCoach]

Did I get to the intersection first? Dang! Another missed opportunity!

[scouttrooper]

\\





You've REALLY thought this out haven't ya?

Ya, you betcha.

What's the point of fumbling around, get to the point, throw at the bait and see if you get any nibbles!

[Cotties]

If the question is who I think should...It should be the women..

but they are a stubborn bunch

[scoobertina]

It doesn't matter.... I love being the first to flirt, but I adore having a man come up to me first also....

[Zifnab]

I don't flirt so I have no idea... would not know if I was being flirted with....

[scoobertina]

I don't flirt so I have no idea... would not know if I was being flirted with....

Oh I think you know, you just choose to ignore it...

[scouttrooper]

Women always want to be noticed, hence makeup, perfume and nice clothes, it's only the PWT that doesn't wear the bait. If the women are married, it's just catch and release, ever see a cat play with a bird or mouse? They toy with it until it's exausted, maimed, mostly dead or dead, then the cat isn't interested in it anymore! WHOA!

[Zifnab]

Oh I think you know, you just choose to ignore it... ignore is the main part of IGNORance....

[scoobertina]

Women always want to be noticed, hence makeup, perfume and nice clothes, it's only the PWT that doesn't wear the bait. If the women are married, it's just catch and release, ever see a cat play with a bird or mouse? They toy with it until it's exausted, maimed, mostly dead or dead, then the cat isn't interested in it anymore! WHOA!

PWT? hmmm I don't like the sound of that... I don't wear most of the "bait" except on rare occasions, I want people to see the real me... yes, it is nice to be noticed but sometimes the attention can be more nerveracking than it is worth.... And as for "cat and mouse" hmmmm.. I would have to say that you have been burned, by a not so nice woman.. I think you should get to know others before you judge...

[fly]

Ya, you betcha.

What's the point of fumbling around, get to the point, throw at the bait and see if you get any nibbles!


Let me guess.............do you also fancy yourself to be a fisherman????:D

[scouttrooper]

No fishing here.

Regarding the comment, if the man ISN'T what the woman is looking to attract, woe to that poor bastard. I speak from experience.

Haven't you heard the old cliche of the woman dropping the handkerchief?

Woman only want to be noticed and flirted with the type of men that THEY WANT to be noticed and flirted with by. Whew, does that make any sense?

[pointofnoreturn]

No fishing here.

Regarding the comment, if the man ISN'T what the woman is looking to attract, woe to that poor bastard. I speak from experience.

Haven't you heard the old cliche of the woman dropping the handkerchief?

Woman only want to be noticed and flirted with the type of men that THEY WANT to be noticed and flirted with by. Whew, does that make any sense?I do not discriminate against "certain"types of flirters. I do how ever draw the line when I have to take off my clothes at the eye doctor?????/:D

[yaser]

I do not discriminate against "certain"types of flirters. I do how ever draw the line when I have to take off my clothes at the eye doctor?????/:D
Point I want to know when you will take your clotes off...Please discriminate me..

[scouttrooper]

I do not discriminate against "certain"types of flirters. I do how ever draw the line when I have to take off my clothes at the eye doctor?????/:D

The oldest game of all, playing Doctor.

What kind of Doctor should I be and when will we begin the exam? Please remove all of your clothes.

[OICurready4me]

I'm guessing the horniest one usually does the approaching?:D




You talk from experience? ;)

[Calypso]

I think it should go by flirting experience not gender or age.

I think the senior members should coach...I mean approach...the newbies :D

[tiger50]

I think it should go by flirting experience not gender or age.

I think the senior members should coach...I mean approach...the newbies :D

lol have no experience... i dont flirt..... :D

[Zifnab]

me neither... never learned how, never asked how, never bothered to try... no flirting here no siree bob! not one bit!

[MIGHTY]

No fishing here.

Regarding the comment, if the man ISN'T what the woman is looking to attract, woe to that poor bastard. I speak from experience.

Haven't you heard the old cliche of the woman dropping the handkerchief?

Woman only want to be noticed and flirted with the type of men that THEY WANT to be noticed and flirted with by. Whew, does that make any sense?

That is what is so wonderful about this site. Most of us are married here and flirting on the sly. Hell, if all of us were flirted with by our "types" then we would get a comment once a week or so. Who cares who is our type and who isn't? I agree with Point in the fact that I do not discriminate either. You get to know the person through the flirting. They become ideal to you through the strengthening of friendship and the ability to sympathize. If you come here looking for your type then you have the wrong goals here. If you leave yourself open to possibilities, then you will see that "types" really do not matter. We are all human. I have a type but I would not be here if my type was that ideal, would I? Just kick back and relax and enjoy the members here. I think all of the men here are my type......

[Shadows]

Hello Mightymrs trying to pM you but your full

[MIGHTY]

Hello Mightymrs trying to pM you but your full

A bit less full now......go ahead.....:55

[thickitalian]

Now let's see....


First we have a man

Then we have a woman

Man likes what he sees and flirts with the woman. There are many ways to flirt just as the flirters here at M&F prove out...some are blatant, some are teasingly, some are close mouthed but allow you to know in other ways...on and on..

Woman likes what she sees in a certain man. Again, there are many ways to flirt.....

Why the protocol? Whoever likes who first needs to flirt, whether it be here or in person. I draw the line when that person is with their spouse or if I'm with mine...but otherwise, human nature takes over.

Men and women are so horny lately, it's incredible...and I do not count myself out of this mix. I was stopped at a red light going home from work last week and a gal was smiling at me in the car on my right....and as I smiled back I see a man in the front seat with her....and if he wasn't her spouse I would have been surprised....the light changed and she was in my rear view mirror shortly thereafter.

The point being...sometimes it matters not if they are with their spouse or date...so why should there be a certain procedure as to who flirts first?

I definitely draw the line in the presence of my spouse or another flirters spouse...and I look away.

Thick's Thoughts....

[pointofnoreturn]

Now let's see....


First we have a man

Then we have a woman

Man likes what he sees and flirts with the woman. There are many ways to flirt just as the flirters here at M&F prove out...some are blatant, some are teasingly, some are close mouthed but allow you to know in other ways...on and on..

Woman likes what she sees in a certain man. Again, there are many ways to flirt.....

Why the protocol? Whoever likes who first needs to flirt, whether it be here or in person. I draw the line when that person is with their spouse or if I'm with mine...but otherwise, human nature takes over.

Men and women are so horny lately, it's incredible...and I do not count myself out of this mix. I was stopped at a red light going home from work last week and a gal was smiling at me in the car on my right....and as I smiled back I see a man in the front seat with her....and if he wasn't her spouse I would have been surprised....the light changed and she was in my rear view mirror shortly thereafter.

The point being...sometimes it matters not if they are with their spouse or date...so why should there be a certain procedure as to who flirts first?

I definitely draw the line in the presence of my spouse or another flirters spouse...and I look away.

Thick's Thoughts....hiya thick..how are you:kk that would be me flirting first...

[PunkyBob]

Oh hell, somebody do it!! You...over there...yes, with the...yes, you! I don't know a thing about you except you're hot as hell and you have a mischievous look on your face that I can't take my eyes off of. Can I have your life story? Your likes and dislikes? Your phone number? No...no, I'm not in the clergy...what?....

[pointofnoreturn]

Oh hell, somebody do it!! You...over there...yes, with the...yes, you! I don't know a thing about you except you're hot as hell and you have a mischievous look on your face that I can't take my eyes off of. Can I have your life story? Your likes and dislikes? Your phone number? No...no, I'm not in the clergy...what?....I have been flirting with you for days...:kk

[PunkyBob]

I have been flirting with you for days...:kk

And guess what? I have been noticing for days! :wa::wa:

[pointofnoreturn]

And guess what? I have been noticing for days! :wa::wa:yeah my secret flirting is working...:lf

[PunkyBob]

yeah my secret flirting is working...:lf

No fear, Point. Gotcha square on the radar...watching you home in...

[simplygrace]

I would say the guy but thats only we have talked awhile

[Torin]

I would rather the guy start the flirting... I am willing to flirt first, of course.. but I always like it when the man makes the first move, and still manages to remain a gentleman.

[ksue7274]

If you want to talk to that person just ask. Doesn't matter who approaches who. The worst they could say is get lost.

[Vampireskiss]

l think it should be mutual...the kinda shoulder to shoulder thing...kinda circling around each other sniffing the wind trying to figure the other out...then give her the chance to make the first move...then like a good chess game you counter and show her where you'd like thing's to go...:wyThere is always this question whether the male must do the approaching, or is it the woman?

I tell you, in real life it is always a bit dangerous for a man to come over to the woman and tell her that he is interested in knowing her better. Take into consideration that with all the laws of pointing at the males, blaming them to be sex assaulants and all, it is today quite a risky thing. :lf

But I'm asking this as in "here". What do you think? Who should come over and say a personal hello first? Hmmm? :lf

[FeIsTy FaV]

Hi Vampy, I'm Fav...... Nice to meet you :)

[Luna]

I would rather the guy start the flirting... I am willing to flirt first, of course.. but I always like it when the man makes the first move, and still manages to remain a gentleman.

This is how I feel as well. I don't like being attacked or approached aggressively, i prefer to be wooed!

:sng

[bryan3636]

Oh moongirl....wooooooohoo


This is how I feel as well. I don't like being attacked or approached aggressively, i prefer to be wooed!

:sng

[Luna]

LOL.. not that kind of woooooo

:)

[Loves2Flirt]

When flirting, I don't mind who approaches who. It'd be nice for him to approach me first, but if I'm into someone, I'll strike up a convo somehow. When it comes to the important things, (ie-asking for a date, first kiss, etc) I let him make the move. I've been burned one too many times!

[SunnyD]

I think as long as you are respectful in your approach and don't come off as pushy it doesn't matter who starts the conversation. I do think checking for indication someone is even remotely interested would save a lot of frustration. Say hello. If the person gives you a response as well as a question to keep the conversation going it is a positive sign!

[FizProf]

The man is always expected to make the first move...and put his neck out to be chopped off, put his heart out to be stomped on by the stiletto heels the women wear, and put his entire sense of self-worth on the line only to be rediculed ...

:)

Who me... I sound bitter?.....Nahhhh....

[NotTooGirly]

I don't think it matters who makes what move first so long as there is a decent understanding that the moves are welcome...and that requires people to not play games. And if anyone knows a surefire way to tell when that's going on, please let me know. ;)

[upstr84u]

I don't think it matters who makes what move first so long as there is a decent understanding that the moves are welcome...and that requires people to not play games. And if anyone knows a surefire way to tell when that's going on, please let me know. ;)

:wy
dam you thought to much into the question
let her make the first move :sc
ahhh maybe him :sc
ahhhhhhhhhhhhh stop making me think so much girly -
it is hurting my head to think that much

[gdgrlgnbd]

I feel more comfortable if the male makes the first move to communicate. Unless something is done or said that stands out for me and I want to remark on it.

[yaser]

I feel more comfortable if the male makes the first move to communicate. Unless something is done or said that stands out for me and I want to remark on it.

Please move and make the first action to communicate once..It is not the end of the world, Gd..

[gdgrlgnbd]

Please move and make the first action to communicate once..It is not the end of the world, Gd..

Hi yaser! What if it is and everything stops bcoz I made the first move? Could happen, never know. LOL

[yaser]

Hi yaser! What if it is and everything stops bcoz I made the first move? Could happen, never know. LOL


Darling,living is risk taking..Feel guilty?:sng

[MarriedQt]

Doesn't matter if your a man or a woman......just test the waters before really going all out.

[NotTooGirly]

dam you thought to much into the question
let her make the first move
ahhh maybe him
ahhhhhhhhhhhhh stop making me think so much girly -
it is hurting my head to think that much

Yep, I'm a thinker and a flirt, what can I say? ;)

[PunkyBob]

I love being approached by a woman...

[helloscooter]

If you want to talk to that person just ask. Doesn't matter who approaches who. The worst they could say is get lost.


I agree....someone has to go first...so i fyou feel so inclined go for it....what's the worst that can happen...you were already lonely...that may remain the same...or you may meet a wonderful person

[kissme]

If I had enough confidence to approach a man, I would. So I usually wait for them to approach me first.

[bryan3636]

kinda like me chasing you until you catch me huh?

[kissme]

kinda like me chasing you until you catch me huh?

Exactly right!

[Brink]

Whoever's feeling gusty at the time. Some of us meeker types have to summon the courage first. 6.33-6.57am is when I'm at my boldest!

[Tiglet]

Whoever's feeling gusty at the time. Some of us meeker types have to summon the courage first. 6.33-6.57am is when I'm at my boldest!
Is that EST?

[Brink]

Is that EST?

Every Second for Tiglet?

Yes, it is...

[NotTooGirly]

Whoever's feeling gusty at the time.

Brink, I for one would never accuse you of being a blowhard. ;)

[Tiglet]

Every Second for Tiglet?

Yes, it is...

Aw shucks, don't you just say the sweetest things. :o

[scoobertina]

I have no problems being the first to approach... nope, none... and if the guy approaches first it just shows me he is willing to take a chance on the goofy..

[Brink]

Brink, I for one would never accuse you of being a blowhard. ;)

That’s the whoosh from the air when my head explodes from too much female attention!!!

[Brink]

Aw shucks, don't you just say the sweetest things. :o

Five minutes on each word!

I like to get the sincerity right!

[Brink]

I have no problems being the first to approach... nope, none... and if the guy approaches first it just shows me he is willing to take a chance on the goofy..

I can do the goofy - got qualifications in that!

[Krystal]

In my case, the guy.....I am quite flirtatious....but only if I sense that the other person will respond well to it. So, basically, he'd have to make some sort of gesture first. Then I can take it from there.

[Ottoman]

Since I'm basically pretty shy, it would either have to be her or their would have to be some kind of instant connection.
It's rare, yeah, but it happens.

[roadie4us]

I would say the guy should go first..........but what is lacking is the womans glance or smile that might give him some courage to make that first opening comment or contact. On the net its a little harder without seeing the look in her eyes. But will alsways be willing to keep trying.

[lilolekimba67(f)]

either way I think

[RB3350]

Online its hard because i believe i might be barging on on someone who does not want to be bothered. So im nervous to start a chst with someone.

[jmsmith12345]

the person who has gone the longest without sex should approach first...that is unless their desperation shines through like an f'ing flood light

[flagovertx]

I like being approached first.,having said that.,as a man I feel men should take the more active roll in making the first move.

[learman3]

I'm a bit, okay a lot shy, so I am not one to make the first contact with someone. Plus what about that rejection, I always fear that.

[Tiglet]

the person who has gone the longest without sex should approach first...that is unless their desperation shines through like an f'ing flood light
Note to self.....keep flood light OFF, lol

[1sxymama]

it is hard on line but i like to get to know someone first rather than them just send pm and say you wanna ****

[househub]

making an approach, and asking if you wanna xxxx are quite different, saying hello how are ya is a nice approach to get things started, unless the mood is already steamy......

[airborne soldier]

I think it is sexy when a women approaches a man first. But in here as long as the approach is not to rude I don't think it matters.

[fever]

Whoever's feeling gusty at the time. Some of us meeker types have to summon the courage first. 6.33-6.57am is when I'm at my boldest!

I am 3 hours off from that window...guess i'm gonna have to pull and all-nighter or bring the gutsy.

[coug511]

Come on ladies, take the pressure off us guys once in a while and just walk up and slap us on the ass!!!

[fever]

I think the whole thing is more subtle, even on line. There a point when chat moves to innuendo and the double entendres begin, and that's when you figure out if it's friendly flirting, or something more. Same is true in person, but you have eye contact and body language to work with as well. I have no problem making the first move...but it's even more fun when you each up the ante.

[Humpty Dumpty]

I've been accused, by a couple women actually, of being real good with the flirting. Problem is, I don't even know I do it so maybe it's not classified as flirting.

Conversely, these same two women, who are good friends that I know, not targets of my affections, say that I'm clueless when it comes to someone flirting with me. Goes right over my head. :sc

I'd prefer a woman give me some sign first. I really hate to be rude and jump right in when there's no, none whatsoever, initial spark. Then again, would I notice?

Damn this is difficult! :dt

[Xanadu7]

I believe in equality. I like a girl who goes out and gets what she wants

[siv7]

good to know!!!

[Xanadu7]

good to know!!!

I think if the lady's name begins with s, she should always make the first move.

Especially if she's HOT!

[notonly4her]

Depends where u are.



Very Good Point

[Guitar Strummer]

I might have this all wrong but if flirting starts with a smile....both should initiate.

[notonly4her]

i preffer the man to make the first move but has been known for me to on a few occasions


Just A Few?

[quietlylooking]

Online, I might make the initial move, although I usually wait until I am approached.

Otherwise, I prefer the guy to make the first move. Kinda old-school, I know, but I like it that way.

[countrygent07]

I never make the first move. The last thing I want is to be looked upon as a creep or stalker. Of course, this could be why I never get anywhere with the ladies!

[FizProf]

According to the doctrines of "Radical Masculinism", Men have been forced to stick their neck (dick?) out by making the first move since arranged marriages became out of fashion. Who am I to argue with such a compelling Creed?

[1sxymama]

i would rather the man made the first move but i will give indications in the posts if i am interested

[coug511]

Ah come on ladies, task a risk and just jump the guy of your choice. Stalk him, find him, and make him yours. I would absolutely love to be jumped.

[leighm]

This may come back to bite me in the bum but .......... Like Tiger50 I enjoy the banter. As for who should approach whom in 'here' possibly anything goes but I like the guy to approach me initially.

[leighm]

I believe in equality. I like a girl who goes out and gets what she wants


Is that right Xan, sure you don't want to rethink that theory??

[RB3350]

I like the woman to start. This way i know she is interested in me.

[sj59]

Speaking as a guy on the shy side, I would prefer to see the female initiate, as this would confirm her interest. But on the other hand if one is sure the other party is interested it should not matter.

[~freshly~]

It happens as a mutual thing....if the interest I display is reciprocated...well... I like to leap right in ~

[Singeon]

Eye contact...so nice to read the story in her eyes...however, to borrow a book, you must first enter the library...its old school I know....but old school taught me well....the opening gambit is a mans to take...can't die wondering, can we?

[~freshly~]

*flutters eyelashes* ummmm...got time for a novel or even just a collect of short stories? Okay...Okay....I will meet you in the library...bloody old school...LOL

[Singeon]

knock off the dust and find a diamond....

[~freshly~]

mmmm...you mean you like it a bit rough? Oh baby....uh huh...okay...just who approached who here?

[Singeon]

snuk up on ya, fresh...just a back hug gone very right....

[~freshly~]

Oh so that is NOT a broomstick in my back...whew...thought you wanted me to do the housework...now....about that back hug!

[Singeon]

don't turn around just yet....let me see you with my hands....

[~freshly~]

*leans back*....damn Singeon...*eyes snap wide open & looks around* ~ we in the wrong place...we should be in ummm "would you have sex?" okay...& for the record.....I approached YOU! LOL

[Singeon]

Yeah...I know!...always said be careful what you wish for....!
Up for it?...and I don't mean THOSE....

[~freshly~]

Oh hell...this ostrich & the cat ..they for you? *chick with long legs & a tight ummm name for cat that begins with p! * LMFAO...

Oh hell yes i am up for it...*glances down*mm..see you are too...my kinda man! c'mere.....

[TIGUY]

Sky...it's a different World out there than it was in the far past and the male approaching first thingy is gone by the wayside if you ask me. The other point is a good one the dangers of the male without a brain...but...when you think about the percentage of something happening, I'm sure it's small. I think more ppl are being careful and trying to know who they speak with either in person or online now. It's not easy to always pick out the preditors, losers and those who are someone they are not...but with intelligence, common sense and your gut feeling...you usually can. The proble is when we allow ourselves to get caught up in a sexual moment or sexual future anticipation....then...just like love...we become blind to that person even when the signs are biting us in the ass.

There is always this question whether the male must do the approaching, or is it the woman?

I tell you, in real life it is always a bit dangerous for a man to come over to the woman and tell her that he is interested in knowing her better. Take into consideration that with all the laws of pointing at the males, blaming them to be sex assaulants and all, it is today quite a risky thing. :lf

But I'm asking this as in "here". What do you think? Who should come over and say a personal hello first? Hmmm? :lf

[Singeon]

ok...but save a bit for the morning!...."The sun comes like a god into our room..."
INXS..which is my mantra as well....

[Singeon]

Freshly says...
"Oh hell...this ostrich & the cat ..they for you? *chick with long legs & a tight ummm name for cat that begins with p! * LMFAO...

Oh hell yes i am up for it...*glances down*mm..see you are too...my kinda man! c'mere....."
ok...but save a bit for the morning!...."The sun comes like a god into our room..."
INXS..which is my mantra as well....
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If clues were shoes...I'd be barefoot...:pc

[JonJon62]

Depends on whether the beer goggles are on .. :lmao

Seriously, I haven't a clue. Since I tend to be really innocent in these matters, it's hard to say sometimes. My background tends to be a lot more Elizabethan with trying to be a gentleman and having respect and honor for the 'fair sex'. I try to be honest with not play games, since this is really not all about me.

So my real answer would be ... I try to let someone get to know me a bit first, see if there is any 'spark' and then see if the fire ignites ....

[dcowboy09]

i guess i'm very simple, i would say the person that should go first is the one who feel a urge to say "hello"


I discovered very early asking her what her favorite sexual position was without saying "hello my name is ..." first didn't get me very far.

[liamm]

...guys love it when a gal starts it

[MrHyde]

All I know is if you want to start it...don't hold back. Of course you might not want to put yourself in a position for a sexual harrassment suit...so use common sense.

[TIGUY]

LOL! Liamm obviously loves it!

...guys love it when a gal starts it

[cherokeered]

I must be a bit odd (i am an ozzie)..lol... its not really the flirting thing that grabs me here, just the general banter.
If someone wants to flirt with me then , cool, am up for it, but dont think i will ever initiate it......


Really???......:sc............interesting.....:crs

[was4fun2003]

In this forum, I think either can initiate. We all have taken the first step by registering on this site. I think either can initiate. It is nice when someone hits on me, makes you feel special.

[Guitar Strummer]

Im told by a buddy of mine in Maine that there the woman hits the guy over the head with a club..That's flirting...then drags him off into the woods.

[Constance]

Depends on whether the beer goggles are on .. :lmao

Seriously, I haven't a clue. Since I tend to be really innocent in these matters, it's hard to say sometimes. My background tends to be a lot more Elizabethan with trying to be a gentleman and having respect and honor for the 'fair sex'. I try to be honest with not play games, since this is really not all about me.

So my real answer would be ... I try to let someone get to know me a bit first, see if there is any 'spark' and then see if the fire ignites ....


That is so sweet. I like the way you think, there are not allot of gentlemen left in the world, of course most of them are here. That is a wonderful way to treat a woman. You should have no problem with lady friends.

[Psynge]

The person who's interested should get up the courage and make the first move

[Asha]

I have no problems being the first to initiate. If I am interested in someone, I will say hi and see where it goes from there.

[Xanadu7]

It can be either. But a girl who's not capable of making a move, is not very appealing

[siv7]

mmm I agree ...

[MrHyde]

If you want it...go for it.

[crow_worc]

just say Hi and see how it goes from there.....watch the eye movement. It is not just the guys who look over a body...women do it just as much.

[Phlirt]

Whoever wants it more? lol

[Mistergrinch]

neither....flirting is for everyone

[hotandbothered(m)]

i think it depends on the situation and the feeling between tow people. But the male should make the first move. He probably initiated it anyway.