erotic emails: question for the ladies

[needsparks]

Need some help from the gals here.

I've written erotica before, but it was for a girl I was already seeing. I'd write her hot little emails, and she loved it (and she'd go into detail about how much on the phone or via email, hehe). Point is, I can write, but that's easy for a girl you already know, as you know her likes/dislikes.

I recently joined a site similar to ashley madison, and have a fairly detailed profile.Obviously my approach isn't working 'cause I'm not hearing anything back when I message ppl. Typically I write something like:

Hi. I've just finished reading your profile; you sound really interesting.[I]. Let's get to know each other! Check out my profile, and hit me back and we'll chat. Talk to you soon ;)

I'm sure its sucky, but I'm no good at writing "hi' emails and such.

How can I include something more erotic in my 'hellos' without scaring a woman off that might help me get some replies? There's a fine line I don't want to cross. Any tips would be appreciated!!

[rj1002]

What a great question. I'm anxious to read the responses.

[trausersnake]

I would start out telling them how big your penis is. This for me, typically gets "a" response, some good, most bad. After that door opener, I like to let them know a little something about myself such as, I like to pound you anally all night long. See, now the interest level is there and they think of me not as just another dude looking to score, but a real pain in the ass. Yea, they will never forget you after that. Hope it helps buddy.

[MCat]

I would start out telling them how big your penis is. This for me, typically gets "a" response, some good, most bad. After that door opener, I like to let them know a little something about myself such as, I like to pound you anally all night long. See, now the interest level is there and they think of me not as just another dude looking to score, but a real pain in the ass. Yea, they will never forget you after that. Hope it helps buddy.

Oh Boy....this would have me replying right away for sure....:sp:

[scoobertina]

what usually works for me is something along the lines of...

I have been reading some of your posts.. you intrigue me.. I would really like to get to know you better..

A little about me... I like to laugh, I like to make other people laugh, I can still be serious if the need arises... or some such thing like this....

DO NOT tell a woman anything about your penis.. We don't care up front.. (maybe later).... Just post a little something nice about yourself... don't get nasty right away.. feel your way.. every woman is different.. honestly.. you should read what she has to say in posts before you attempt to make contact..

[SunnyD]

I agree with Scoob. Just because a woman likes to flirt or be playful and chooses to join a website such as this she doesn't want to be talked to like a street walker! Graffic detail about you or what you are physically thinking about her really can be an instant turnoff. Expressing an interest in her posts or even view point on something is much more attractive. I can't speak for all the women but I enjoy a man as much for his mind, wit, and charm as any of his physcial attributes.

[needsparks]

I would start out telling them how big your penis is.

:lmao "Me have gargantum penis". Thanks for the lols, and for the replies all.

[Sunfiresix]

people that brag about what they got are usually just dreamin......

[Jules1]

what usually works for me is something along the lines of...

I have been reading some of your posts.. you intrigue me.. I would really like to get to know you better..

A little about me... I like to laugh, I like to make other people laugh, I can still be serious if the need arises... or some such thing like this....

DO NOT tell a woman anything about your penis.. We don't care up front.. (maybe later).... Just post a little something nice about yourself... don't get nasty right away.. feel your way.. every woman is different.. honestly.. you should read what she has to say in posts before you attempt to make contact..
Every woman is different but i totally agree with this. For me its totally true that the foreplay starts with conversation....figure out who she is through her posts and her profile and ask specific questions about it. Especially if you have a connection with something....like if she loves baseball ask her which team....if she has pets or has a specific hobby ask her about it. You'll probably get further if you take a specific interest in HER.

[Sneaky]

Need some help from the gals here.

I've written erotica before, but it was for a girl I was already seeing. I'd write her hot little emails, and she loved it (and she'd go into detail about how much on the phone or via email, hehe). Point is, I can write, but that's easy for a girl you already know, as you know her likes/dislikes.

I recently joined a site similar to ashley madison, and have a fairly detailed profile.Obviously my approach isn't working 'cause I'm not hearing anything back when I message ppl. Typically I write something like:

Hi. I've just finished reading your profile; you sound really interesting.[I]. Let's get to know each other! Check out my profile, and hit me back and we'll chat. Talk to you soon ;)

I'm sure its sucky, but I'm no good at writing "hi' emails and such.

How can I include something more erotic in my 'hellos' without scaring a woman off that might help me get some replies? There's a fine line I don't want to cross. Any tips would be appreciated!!

Start posting back & forth with people. That is something really cool about this site. You can get to know people a little bit before you even start to PM. There are a zillion threads to go through...see who you gell with. It's normal to feel shy at first, but you'll find everyone here to be very welcoming, since we were all newbies ourselves once.

I agree with Scoob and Sunny. The ladies here have sexy avatars and are hella sexy...but have have brains and substance too. Sometimes if you see a post they made, you can PM them about that.

Good luck & welcome. Hope you have fun here!

[trausersnake]

Holy Cow!
I am laughing so hard thinking that anyone took this reply seriously. And yes for all you hot young ladies, its more than you can handle. LOL for sure. Take it easy out there, sometimes i am not as clear as I should be, but sheeeeesh. Love you all, and goodnight!
what usually works for me is something along the lines of...

I have been reading some of your posts.. you intrigue me.. I would really like to get to know you better..

A little about me... I like to laugh, I like to make other people laugh, I can still be serious if the need arises... or some such thing like this....

DO NOT tell a woman anything about your penis.. We don't care up front.. (maybe later).... Just post a little something nice about yourself... don't get nasty right away.. feel your way.. every woman is different.. honestly.. you should read what she has to say in posts before you attempt to make contact..

[SunnyD]

Seriously Snake spend one day as a female especially one that posts or has a sexy avatar and you will meet half a dozen men that PM you with that and more! There are many beautiful, sexy women on this site but I can assure you if it weren't for their minds anyones enjoyment would once again be left in his one hands!

Holy Cow!
I am laughing so hard thinking that anyone took this reply seriously. And yes for all you hot young ladies, its more than you can handle. LOL for sure. Take it easy out there, sometimes i am not as clear as I should be, but sheeeeesh. Love you all, and goodnight!

[fever]

I'm with Scoob...and I think whatever you can do to make the first email show that you've actually paid attention to her as an individual it what would make you stand out. Reference a particular post or idea to lat her know you're interested in HER.

[fever]

Seriously Snake spend one day as a female especially one that posts or has a sexy avatar and you will meet half a dozen men that PM you with that and more! There are many beautiful, sexy women on this site but I can assure you if it weren't for their minds anyones enjoyment would once again be left in his one hands!

Absolutely true...can't go into chat w/out a PM from a stranger...most of them pretty strange! And if I bother to look, they invariably have no posts in the forum. Each and every one mentions his penis size....

[fly]

I would start out telling them how big your penis is. This for me, typically gets "a" response, some good, most bad. After that door opener, I like to let them know a little something about myself such as, I like to pound you anally all night long. See, now the interest level is there and they think of me not as just another dude looking to score, but a real pain in the ass. Yea, they will never forget you after that. Hope it helps buddy.


:lmao:lmao:lmaoOk THAT was funny...........

[redcat]

An interesting subject line tag is good...something more than "hi", if it's initial contact. Get her attention from the get-go.

[trausersnake]

I am soooo sorry for my prior posts on this thread. The last thing I would want to do is make light of an obviously serious problem for the ladies of this wonderful site. Honestly, I did not know and am embarrased at my stupidity. I did have the imagination or insight that there was a heard of small brained individuals thinking they can impress you all with the actual mention of their obviously small penis girth. What a bunch of private messaging ass farts for thinking they can log on with 0 posts and score a whore with their tiny intellect. Shame on all you little Jabronies, and if I hear of it again I swear I will lay the most of unholiest of smackdowns on all your candy asses!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[trausersnake]

Twas sarcasm Mcat, surely you jest at you assspanking on me??


Oh Boy....this would have me replying right away for sure....:sp:

[Jabbuk]

I would start out telling them how big your penis is. This for me, typically gets "a" response, some good, most bad. After that door opener, I like to let them know a little something about myself such as, I like to pound you anally all night long. See, now the interest level is there and they think of me not as just another dude looking to score, but a real pain in the ass. Yea, they will never forget you after that. Hope it helps buddy.


Don't worry Trauser, I thought it was funnier than hell. Thanks for the laugh.

[Dir]

I think beyond genre we are human beings and a basic principle is treat others the way you would like to be treated ...The started point in any type of approach in between two human beings is respect after that let spontaneous the relation ship develops....it will go as far as both of you feel comfortable with ...

[scoobertina]

Trauser... I did not take your response as serious.. a newbie asked a question and I tried to answer it.. yes I used what you said as an example... but that is part of the problem... while some of us here knew better than to believe you the newbies don't... he asked a serious question and I was giving him a serious answer...

I can occasionally be serious you know..

[spare_change]

I think beyond genre we are human beings and a basic principle is treat others the way you would like to be treated ...The started point in any type of approach in between two human beings is respect after that let spontaneous the relation ship develops....it will go as far as both of you feel comfortable with ...


From the mouths of babes ..... and Dirgni is DEFINITELY a babe!!:hitit::kk

[RedVixen]

Like the other fine ladies who have responded - your first PM should be light and friendly. Just because we are flirty on the site does not mean that we are looking to *score*. Get to know us first, start off slow and then go from there.

The best advice I can give is: think before you PM - you might be horny, but if you don't respect us, you won't get very far.

[Jules1]

Like the other fine ladies who have responded - your first PM should be light and friendly. Just because we are flirty on the site does not mean that we are looking to *score*. Get to know us first, start off slow and then go from there.

The best advice I can give is: think before you PM - you might be horny, but if you don't respect us, you won't get very far.

WELL SAID! Thank you!!!

[RedVixen]

WELL SAID! Thank you!!!

My pleasure :) Welcome to the site Jules :wa:

[Jay_dad01]

Absolutely true...can't go into chat w/out a PM from a stranger...most of them pretty strange! And if I bother to look, they invariably have no posts in the forum. Each and every one mentions his penis size....

guys can be so crude - what the heck is wrong with them anyway. oh - define strange

[private beaches]

:)I agree w/ the ladies here. Take your time, exchange respectful, friendly posts, get to know him/her and things will progress naturally, for the both of you, if there is something there. Otherwise, be very thankful for the friend youve made.

[Zarret]

I would start out telling them how big your penis is. This for me, typically gets "a" response, some good, most bad. After that door opener, I like to let them know a little something about myself such as, I like to pound you anally all night long. See, now the interest level is there and they think of me not as just another dude looking to score, but a real pain in the ass. Yea, they will never forget you after that. Hope it helps buddy.

Seriously, I did not take you seriously. :lmao

[Sunfiresix]

:)I agree w/ the ladies here. Take your time, exchange respectful, friendly posts, get to know him/her and things will progress naturally, for the both of you, if there is something there. Otherwise, be very thankful for the friend youve made.

Ya know beaches, I am decent and above board when posting, even when I meet someone and we chat and e-mail--but it ends soon--I think because I am too boring being like that-:sc

[RedVixen]

Ya know beaches, I am decent and above board when posting, even when I meet someone and we chat and e-mail--but it ends soon--I think because I am too boring being like that-:sc

You're never boring Sunfire :kk

[Sunfiresix]

You're never boring Sunfire :kk

Thanks sweetheart--I needed that this morning:kk

[OICurready4me]

Need some help from the gals here.

I've written erotica before, but it was for a girl I was already seeing. I'd write her hot little emails, and she loved it (and she'd go into detail about how much on the phone or via email, hehe). Point is, I can write, but that's easy for a girl you already know, as you know her likes/dislikes.

I recently joined a site similar to ashley madison, and have a fairly detailed profile.Obviously my approach isn't working 'cause I'm not hearing anything back when I message ppl. Typically I write something like:

Hi. I've just finished reading your profile; you sound really interesting.[I]. Let's get to know each other! Check out my profile, and hit me back and we'll chat. Talk to you soon ;)

I'm sure its sucky, but I'm no good at writing "hi' emails and such.

How can I include something more erotic in my 'hellos' without scaring a woman off that might help me get some replies? There's a fine line I don't want to cross. Any tips would be appreciated!!

First and foremost....don't be a jerk and be too personal, whether about yourself or asking questions of her, right off that bat. If you are interested in chatting with the woman, then you have to generate the interest so she will reply. Number one, you have nothing to go on as to why you want to talk to them other than an interest in what they wrote, either that or you are on the prowl for just anyone. I don't know what you really are after. If you are just on the prowl, then you are probably on the wrong site. If you are looking to chat with some fantastic people, get to know them and make some very good friends, then you are in the right place.
Site something about her posts that you enjoyed, maybe quote a few of them in replies to create a dialogue, some playful banter and then PM her (once you have the 500 posts necessary). In the PM, be respectful, first and foremost. The women here don't like to be treated like a streetwalker. There are a great number of beautiful women on this site but until you treat them like a woman, most of them won't give you the time of day. Don't BS them. Be a good guy. Once you get to know them and you develop a rapport with them, then you will find out who likes chatting in a sexual manner but let it build on a solid foundation first. Good Luck.

[MCat]

Twas sarcasm Mcat, surely you jest at you assspanking on me??


It was taken as sarcasm dear trauser...you have never been an asshole towards me. And you certainly have never told me the size of your penis.

:sc hmmm, I do recall you telling me you liked spankings though....lol

[Zarret]

Ya know beaches, I am decent and above board when posting, even when I meet someone and we chat and e-mail--but it ends soon--I think because I am too boring being like that-:sc

Now cut that out.....you are not boring. That I am sure of. :hug:

[Dir]

From the mouths of babes ..... and Dirgni is DEFINITELY a babe!!:hitit::kk I like this not only for what it says but for whom it comes from ....

[Cotties]

I don't think I want to know how you know how big his penis is...or who waxed ya chest:scI would start out telling them how big your penis is. This for me, typically gets "a" response, some good, most bad. After that door opener, I like to let them know a little something about myself such as, I like to pound you anally all night long. See, now the interest level is there and they think of me not as just another dude looking to score, but a real pain in the ass. Yea, they will never forget you after that. Hope it helps buddy.

[Constance]

You can send me one and I will tell you what I think!

[TheRockofLA]

Like the other fine ladies who have responded - your first PM should be light and friendly. Just because we are flirty on the site does not mean that we are looking to *score*. Get to know us first, start off slow and then go from there.

The best advice I can give is: think before you PM - you might be horny, but if you don't respect us, you won't get very far.

Well said...and for the record, that advice applies to those of us with a penis that are worth getting to know.

[cherokeered]

if I don't know you....and you send me something sleazy....my response will depend on my mood...lately, I would be wary....but I am never rude

If you send me a message and it is just a friendly hello...I will always respond at some point....it depends on if i am busy or not....and will always be polite back

I see no reason to be rude or act rude....even if someone else is...and really, I don't act offended or suddenly puritanical about them either....c'mon....I am an adult, this is an adult site.....it's gonna happen...and both ways....

My other thought here is....the sexy talk and sexy avatars will lead most people on and perhaps give them the wrong impression.....you put it out there...expect a reaction

[RedVixen]

Well said...and for the record, that advice applies to those of us with a penis that are worth getting to know.

I'll be sure to keep that in mind :ok

[afoxtx6767]

I also am a newbie, I agree that I need to know to talk to women instead of just trying to score, but everytime that i start with hello and how are you I still don't get any response am I missing something ladies any hint of anything else that can say??

[OICurready4me]

It was taken as sarcasm dear trauser...you have never been an asshole towards me. And you certainly have never told me the size of your penis.

:sc hmmm, I do recall you telling me you liked spankings though....lol


Who doesn't? Got the paddle ready?

[SunnyD]

Well afox you emailed me as soon as you landed asking me what I taste like. Not an introduction no conversation so you got no response. I return pm's and emails until they are just so silly it isn't worth my time. I am a bright, intellegent woman that has self confidence and self respect so I take responsibility for no ones actions but my own regardless of what my avatar looks like.
I would say create communication on something with substance and you stand a better chance at a response.

I also am a newbie, I agree that I need to know to talk to women instead of just trying to score, but everytime that i start with hello and how are you I still don't get any response am I missing something ladies any hint of anything else that can say??

[afoxtx6767]

Sunny you are correct and I apologize for that, is that a newbie I was reading and try to fill in with the group without getting to know nobody, my honest mistake, I will take and ass chewingwhen deserve

[SunnyD]

Afox it would take more than that to get you anything more than ignored! Interact with the ladies and get to know them through their posts! This is truly a wonderful place to meet good people. No hard feelings from me I am just glad you got the idea that wasn't the right approach.

Sunny you are correct and I apologize for that, is that a newbie I was reading and try to fill in with the group without getting to know nobody, my honest mistake, I will take and ass chewingwhen deserve

[afoxtx6767]

Thanks Sunny- lesson learn hope you are enjoying your weekend, it's hot and humid here in Texas

[SunnyD]

Thanks Sunny- lesson learn hope you are enjoying your weekend, it's hot and humid here in Texas

Hopefully a good one though!

[gdgrlgnbd]

Holy Cow!
I am laughing so hard thinking that anyone took this reply seriously. And yes for all you hot young ladies, its more than you can handle. LOL for sure. Take it easy out there, sometimes i am not as clear as I should be, but sheeeeesh. Love you all, and goodnight!

I thought it was funny. I mean if you meant it, wow, what a jerk. (u were joking right. lol

I think everyone has had alot of cool things to say on this topic. No women don't want to know right off about your package, unless it is gift wrapped.

Erotic talk should come later. Compliments are nice and sincerity is a plus.

We want responses right away, that is normal. Gratification. Sometimes the best things in life are worth waiting for.

[afoxtx6767]

Hello Sunny D how are you doing,

[afoxtx6767]

As for me as a newbie I started wrong by asking them what they taste like, It is better to start a friendly conversation by saying Hello, and then getting to know them, I learn something new everyday, sorry ladies i am getting better

[scott2006]

people that brag about what they got are usually just dreamin......

usually but not always ;-)

[needsparks]

You can send me one and I will tell you what I think!
Aw, thanks Constance. If I could pm you with one, I would.
TY to everyone; this is a great place...I must visit more often. :inlve

[Penny]

Yes u should ;)

[OnceAKing]

How can I include something more erotic in my 'hellos' without scaring a woman off that might help me get some replies? There's a fine line I don't want to cross. Any tips would be appreciated!!

Maybe it's just a personal thing, but I've found that just being me works okay. Furthermore, if being lil ol me doesn't "generate" a so called interest then i'm not sure I want the bother. Regardless of the persona you try to put forward, sooner or later the real you WILL be discovered...I'd sure as hell to hate to fool around and fall in love only to discover that the who she fell in love with wasn't me.

Just my two,,or maybe three, cents worth.

OAK

[YourAssMyHand]

Me Tarzan, You Jane. I think that stopped working about 50 years ago.

[shywife]

being genuine is what would work for me. I don't want know the penis size until I get to know that you aren't just creepy. Tell them a tad bit more about you and what you like then see how they respond.

[SweetDreams362]

I would start out telling them how big your penis is. This for me, typically gets "a" response, some good, most bad. After that door opener, I like to let them know a little something about myself such as, I like to pound you anally all night long. See, now the interest level is there and they think of me not as just another dude looking to score, but a real pain in the ass. Yea, they will never forget you after that. Hope it helps buddy.


now you got to respect a honest aproach...lol..:sp:

[MRsarcastic]

talk about resurrecting a dead post......from the looks of it i think he got scared off and went back to a more sexually active site......:sc

[Brandon301]

talk about resurrecting a dead post......from the looks of it i think he got scared off and went back to a more sexually active site......:sc

This isn't a sexually active site???:yks

[SweetDreams362]

Luv now look what you've done to poor Brandon...plum bursted his bubble..:lmao

[wisconsin(m)]

being genuine is what would work for me. I don't want know the penis size until I get to know that you aren't just creepy. Tell them a tad bit more about you and what you like then see how they respond.


Are you sure this is not just a prespective from a shy wife? Teasin ya, great to have you in our midst, I enjoyed meeting you the other day, great time ahead, You'll see ......... :dt

[Psynge]

Sending an "I'd like to get to know you" PM reminds me of calling up a girl in HS and asking her to a dance. Man that was nerve wracking.

[siv7]

being genuine is what would work for me. I don't want know the penis size until I get to know that you aren't just creepy. Tell them a tad bit more about you and what you like then see how they respond.

I agree, good advice

[Sensual Woman]

erotic emails and texts from someone who cares about me are a real turn on...but not from someone I barely know

[redcat]

Need some help from the gals here.

I've written erotica before, but it was for a girl I was already seeing. I'd write her hot little emails, and she loved it (and she'd go into detail about how much on the phone or via email, hehe). Point is, I can write, but that's easy for a girl you already know, as you know her likes/dislikes.

I recently joined a site similar to ashley madison, and have a fairly detailed profile.Obviously my approach isn't working 'cause I'm not hearing anything back when I message ppl. Typically I write something like:

Hi. I've just finished reading your profile; you sound really interesting.[I]. Let's get to know each other! Check out my profile, and hit me back and we'll chat. Talk to you soon ;)

I'm sure its sucky, but I'm no good at writing "hi' emails and such.

How can I include something more erotic in my 'hellos' without scaring a woman off that might help me get some replies? There's a fine line I don't want to cross. Any tips would be appreciated!!


If you're sending a message to someone from reading their profile, alone, rather than saying " I've just finished reading your profile; you sound really interesting" ~ be a bit more specific. Pick someting in particular that intrigues you and comment on it, especially if you have a personal story to relate also.

On a site like this....the comments already posted are good - post back to someone, etc.

[OnceAKing]

I think mine are more like erratic rather than erotic. Damn I wish I had stayed in school.

[quietlylooking]

Erotic texts or emails from somebody that I'm really interested in are a turn on. However, erotic ones from someone I just met can be a slight turn off.

[Sir John]

I totally understand that quietlylooking.

[Leyla]

DON'T say anything about your penis, for frig sakes thats a no no.............

good luck

[yaser]

DON'T say anything about your penis, for frig sakes thats a no no.............

good luck

Welcome Leyla.Hope you will have fun here.Like emails?

[Dipstick51]

I am thinkin you are being a little HARD on yourself.

[Divot]

I know it wounds simply, but that one usually works. Think of them as real not just a computer. Write what you feel.

[theanimallady]

I agree, I wouldnt want to hear the nasty talk first. It would turn me right off. I think it is svery disrespectful. That doesnt mean once I really know who someone is then talking dirty could be another story if its all in fun. which brings me to a question. Can someone explain to me what dominant and submissives really is? Im thinking of it in different ways.

[gr8doods]

erotic emails and texts from someone who cares about me are a real turn on...but not from someone I barely know
The trick is getting to know you better...hhmm...I will keep trying...:D

[leggy4]

Instead why dont ya tell her to lay on her back while you get ready????? maybe she'd like that!!!!!!:lmao On second thought just be yourself and go slow ask what she is interested in ... slow..... slowwwwwwwwwwwww