Do you ever find that becoming "friends with everyone" at M&F....

[Actually]

..ends up preventing you from getting closer to anyone in particular?

From my experience, it can become difficult to get closer to a single person that exists in a "we are all friends" peer group.

I am not saying its impossible, but since I am a newbie here, I would like to know the thoughts of the veterans on this subject.

I can see it becoming awkward or cause jealousy among "friends".

Thoughts?

[Kissie]

not that I am trying to get "near" anyone here...but I have a couple really close friends that I can say anything too...but yet have alot of other people I can BS with at anytime!!!!
Does that help any??? Or am I just talking out my ass????

[FizProf]

You can get to know one or two people particularly well from late-night session s when few are online...just my experience

[gdgrlgnbd]

I could see it being difficult if you and the friends do not share the same expectations. One friend may think you want more while you do want more but from someone else. (are u confused yet) Honesty is best and make sure everyone is on the same page.

[private beaches]

Friendships here allow me to get to know people, to have fun with them and to share life experiences/sad times/ happy times/support them etc. I will always value that above all else, infatuations come and go. I enjoy general flirting with everyone and it makes my day when it is returned. Do I regret that it might close a door to a "possible connection"? No. Because if its in the cards then it'll happen anyway. JMHO

[RedVixen]

Becoming friends with many here doesn't hurt and if you choose to stay here awhile, you can make some really close friends :)

[Krystal]

I like being friends with everyone. Besides, "friends first" is a good way to get closer to that one person you want to.

[Sneaky]

..ends up preventing you from getting closer to anyone in particular?

From my experience, it can become difficult to get closer to a single person that exists in a "we are all friends" peer group.

I am not saying its impossible, but since I am a newbie here, I would like to know the thoughts of the veterans on this subject.

I can see it becoming awkward or cause jealousy among "friends".

Thoughts?
That's why you have to be very honest and be sure that everyone involved has the same expectations. If you chat with a few people, you should be honest about that. It's fine, a lot of people here do.

If a friendship evolves into something more it's important that the other person you are talking to doesn't have a different perception of what is going on.


On the flip side of that.....have some fun and talk to many people if you like. That's how you know the special ones when you meet them.

Most importantly, welcome!:)

[Shawn_N_Sandiego]

I think there are "levels" if you will... atleast for me.. their are people i just dont know... ones i know and keep at a far distance, a few i know and let them in a little... even fewer that are in the inner circle and only a handful that really know me. Having said that... none of these people would say.. you are not allowed to talk and make friends with anyone else...it really seems to be a "the more the merrier" Kinda group here

[Jules1]

You can get to know one or two people particularly well from late-night session s when few are online...just my experience

I completely agree. If you spend enough time becoming friends with the other members of the site you will eventually find someone that you really "click" with. For some it happens quickly and others it takes time.

[DaiOh]

sounds like fun....

[softrosepetal]

Being friends with all of the people here is very special in itself. There will always be some you are closer to than others.

[catmom]

From another Newbie...I like being friends with everyone - but I've already developed a couple of close relationships that I wouldn't change for anything! It's possible to have both.

[scoobertina]

being friends with many keeps me from getting too close to many... there are a few who have made it very close to me... but I have many acquaintances... I won't say friends... friends maybe on my friends list but in reality... my friends are the ones who PM, IM, Text, call me... they are the ones who are there for me when I am down in the dumps.. they are the ones who pick me up when I need it... they are the ones I turn to if I am having a bad day...

so no... I have many friends... but only a few close ones...

[Han Solo]

..ends up preventing you from getting closer to anyone in particular?

From my experience, it can become difficult to get closer to a single person that exists in a "we are all friends" peer group.

I am not saying its impossible, but since I am a newbie here, I would like to know the thoughts of the veterans on this subject.

I can see it becoming awkward or cause jealousy among "friends".

Thoughts?

:sc Sorry, I'd love to offer a comment here but I don't know that I'm the most credible source here....I only seem to attract the crazy, mentally unbalanced chicks!.........so just do the opposite of me and you'll be fine:ok

[Shawn_N_Sandiego]

:sc Sorry, I'd love to offer a comment here but I don't know that I'm the most credible source here....I only seem to attract the crazy, mentally unbalanced chicks!.........so just do the opposite of me and you'll be fine:ok


Can you direct me to any sane non-bi-polar women>?..not that i am in need of one... but just one of those things i have never seen

[Sneaky]

:sc Sorry, I'd love to offer a comment here but I don't know that I'm the most credible source here....I only seem to attract the crazy, mentally unbalanced chicks!.........so just do the opposite of me and you'll be fine:ok

:nuDon't try and hide from ME!!!!! I won't be IGNORED HAN SOLO!!!!:nu

[Torin]

I do see what you are saying, and I kind of agree. I have a lot of people on here that I just ADORE... they keep me laughing and thinking with their posts, or in chat, and I simply don't have enough time to develop the realtionship into a TRUE friendship. And I have found that there are some people on here that get very snippy if you don't pay enough attention to them. And that makes me sad... they take it so personally, when actually, it has nothing to do with them, but rather that my online time is kind of limited.

But I would say only one or two people here are truly "close" to me. But there are SO many more that I really, really would like to be better friends with!

[Han Solo]

Can you direct me to any sane non-bi-polar women>?..not that i am in need of one... but just one of those things i have never seen
This request is just fraught with danger for me.....I'm bound to draw the ire of one group or another here so I better just lay low on this one for a bit...

[Han Solo]

:nuDon't try and hide from ME!!!!! I won't be IGNORED HAN SOLO!!!!:nu
The Prosecution RESTS!!:thankyou:

I'm thinking appearing in front of everyone swinging the baseball bats was not exactly your best defense.....just sayin:ok

[Torin]

Can you direct me to any sane non-bi-polar women>?..not that i am in need of one... but just one of those things i have never seen


Ummm... did you just call me Bi-polar?? :nu :sp:

[Shawn_N_Sandiego]

This request is just fraught with danger for me.....I'm bound to draw the ire of one group or another here so I better just lay low on this one for a bit...


LMAO... BAAAAAWWWWGGGAAAWWWCKKKKKKK:ok


I understand... i was just asked if i called someone "bi-polar" ... i was like NO..Yes...NO...YEs... that usually throws em off

[Sneaky]

The Prosecution RESTS!!:thankyou:

I'm thinking appearing in front of everyone swinging the baseball bats was not exactly your best defense.....just sayin:ok

:gsThat was my other personality.

[Shawn_N_Sandiego]

:gsThat was my other personality.

Yeah.... WAY off on the bi-polar thing... way off

[Torin]

LMAO... BAAAAAWWWWGGGAAAWWWCKKKKKKK:ok


I understand... i was just asked if i called someone "bi-polar" ... i was like NO..Yes...NO...YEs... that usually throws em off

HUmmmmm... I see. :sc



:pc

[Han Solo]

:gsThat was my other personality.
SWELL.......only need to meet the other four and then I can go to bed!!:ok

[Shawn_N_Sandiego]

HUmmmmm... I see. :sc



:pc

Why do i get the feeling i will pay, not today.. but at a later time for that one?

[Sneaky]

SWELL.......only need to meet the other four and then I can go to bed!!:ok

Don't exagerate. It's four total. And you SAID you like the slutty one.

[Han Solo]

Don't exagerate. It's four total. And you SAID you like the slutty one.
Nooooooo!!........I LOVE the slutty one........but the other three aggravate the crap out of me. By The Way....did you have to use one WHOLE personality on a Bad Speller??? That one is actually my least favorite!:pc

[Sneaky]

Nooooooo!!........I LOVE the slutty one........but the other three aggravate the crap out of me. By The Way....did you have to use one WHOLE personality on a Bad Speller??? That one is actually my least favorite!:pc

Well she dusn't think you are a genious eather.

[Han Solo]

Well she dusn't think you are a genious eather.

:sc Funny how you actually come closer to spelling them correct than usual when you are TRYING to misspell them.........weird huh??:D

[Sneaky]

:sc Funny how you actually come closer to spelling them correct than usual when you are TRYING to misspell them.........weird huh??:D

I tried to give your ass red points but it wouldn't let me.

[Han Solo]

I tried to give your ass red points but it wouldn't let me.
Is that really a war you want to get into with me??:sc

[Sneaky]

Is that really a war you want to get into with me??:sc

It's 3 to 2 right now. YOU are winning.

[Han Solo]

It's 3 to 2 right now. YOU are winning.
Ummmm........Yoo Hoo:wa: Yeah, you with the orange font.........yeah, the crazy, unabalanced one........I think you are actually trying to show the new guy here how to NOT be friends with anyone here......not exactly what he was going for I don't think..........just a thought:sg

[Maddi]

I love chatting and meeting new people. Most of the people here have been so friendly and I have met a lot of new friends here. Sadly, there always has to be a bad apple in the bunch.

[Checkmate]

I think there are "levels" if you will... atleast for me.. their are people i just dont know... ones i know and keep at a far distance, a few i know and let them in a little... even fewer that are in the inner circle and only a handful that really know me. Having said that... none of these people would say.. you are not allowed to talk and make friends with anyone else...it really seems to be a "the more the merrier" Kinda group here

well said Shawn, i agree totally... some you talk at, some you talk to, some you turn to, and then there are those select few that you need to talk to, and of course the one that you just simply need. it's not different from real life if you think about it. just a different forum of expressing yourself is all. pretty much, in the immortal words of Tupac, "F* the world if it can't adjust" talk to whom you want, let the cards fall as they may.

[OnceAKing]

..ends up preventing you from getting closer to anyone in particular?

From my experience, it can become difficult to get closer to a single person that exists in a "we are all friends" peer group.

I am not saying its impossible, but since I am a newbie here, I would like to know the thoughts of the veterans on this subject.

I can see it becoming awkward or cause jealousy among "friends".

Thoughts?

Hey Dave, you aint doing badly for a newby...I'm still trying to finger out how close close is when you're a thousand friggin miles apart...To me close is like when we're spooning and i'm holding her breast in my hand while we're in my king size bed...now that's a close i can relate to!

[sassynsweet]

Hey Dave, you aint doing badly for a newby...I'm still trying to finger out how close close is when you're a thousand friggin miles apart...To me close is like when we're spooning and i'm holding her breast in my hand while we're in my king size bed...now that's a close i can relate to!

I can tell you a thousand miles is definately NOT close enough!! The spooning sounds MUCH closer... but I bet you could get just a little closer yet if ya just opens your eyes :)

[icylady125]

i have met alot of real nice people in here.........they bring u up when u r feeling down and listen to your problems......... glad i found this site!

[Psynge]

Well I hope I have the problem of needing to decide who i should be friends with....too many friends is a problem I'd like to have

[Constance-41]

I personally would love to be friends with everyone. I love to get to know people and find out what makes the who they are. People are so interesting and have so many thoughts on so many things. I find that I can learn from anyone. You can always have those friends that you connect with better and there are levels of friendship. But being friends with anyone and everyone is nice.

[siv7]

I think its fun to meet as many people as you can but I am pretty close to about 3 people. Not geographically though thats what sucks!! The more the merrier, everyone so far is awesome and I've never heard of the jealous thing you speak of.

[airborne soldier]

..ends up preventing you from getting closer to anyone in particular?

From my experience, it can become difficult to get closer to a single person that exists in a "we are all friends" peer group.

I am not saying its impossible, but since I am a newbie here, I would like to know the thoughts of the veterans on this subject.

I can see it becoming awkward or cause jealousy among "friends".

Thoughts?


I have not seen it... I am friends with everyone here and no one is going to tell me I can't be.

[1sxymama]

I hope i can make friends with a lot on here if they want to get closer than fine but i dont want to be told who i can and cannot chat with.

[wisconsin(m)]

There are truly an amazing amount of gorgeous women (inside and out) on this site, if you just take the time to get to know them. Friendship can be at different levels it seems, true there may be one that has REALLY captured my attention, but so many more that are fun to admire at the same time. So I say lets keep things light and enjoy the ride................

[michigan_lady]

Well I hope I have the problem of needing to decide who i should be friends with....too many friends is a problem I'd like to have

That's how I feel too.

[quietlylooking]

There are so many people to be friends with on here. I love getting to know everyone, but there is only one guy who has completely stolen my heart.

[AGent]

I want to be friendly with everyone but I cannot be friends with everyone.

[AnnieGeee]

Do you ever find that becoming "friends with everyone" at M&Fends up preventing you from getting closer to anyone in particular? I'm the type of person that does much better one-on-one, but I don't mind and kind of enjoy talking to people as a group in the chat room or in the threads...I think being "friends with everyone" allows you to feel involved with the going ons and understanding of where people are coming from. It may also help in preventing you from stepping on toes.

From my experience, it can become difficult to get closer to a single person that exists in a "we are all friends" peer group. I think it depends on the person and what they are looking for...maybe they are the type of person that feels securer in large groups or maybe they feel safer because they are not looking for anything other then friends.

I can see it becoming awkward or cause jealousy among "friends". You can bet your ass as long as there are a group of people hanging together there are going to be feelings of jealousy...just need to work around them and not purposely set out to harm another person...just like real life...treat people the same...because it's the net does not mean all hell can break lose...respect and care still goes a long way. :crs

[Catman354]

I believe that friendships online take a long time to mature, well over a month, because it takes so long to meet and chat.

[Big Sexy]

You can tell really quick on line if someone has a good personality.

[sudsy552000]

:sc Sorry, I'd love to offer a comment here but I don't know that I'm the most credible source here....I only seem to attract the crazy, mentally unbalanced chicks!.........so just do the opposite of me and you'll be fine:ok
Han be my teacher. I love crazy mentally imbalanced chicks.:wy:wy

[redcat]

..ends up preventing you from getting closer to anyone in particular?

From my experience, it can become difficult to get closer to a single person that exists in a "we are all friends" peer group.

I am not saying its impossible, but since I am a newbie here, I would like to know the thoughts of the veterans on this subject.

I can see it becoming awkward or cause jealousy among "friends".

Thoughts?

While there are more than a few "friends" on my friends list...most are people I say hello to from time to time....exchange a chat with. Here, as in my real life, there are few who are truly close friends.

I don't believe being part of a larger group prevents someone from becoming close with another. Jealousy? Yes, it can happen here as it can anywhere....as always, communication is key.

[sudsy552000]

chats come and go but friends stay at M&F till they die.

[Huzyerdaddi]

Yeah....I could see how that might happen. Then again, becoming friends with no one at M&F makes it even harder to get close to anyone.

[MyFavMistake^f]

Yeah....I could see how that might happen. Then again, becoming friends with no one at M&F makes it even harder to get close to anyone.

sounds like a plan.....