If I PM you and she PM's me, and he Pm's her, and you PM him...

[bighands]

If I PM you and she PM's me, and he PM's her, and you PM him...help!!!!

In normal life, a friends comes into a room and you welcome them, and then they join the conversation and all is well.

In the chat room? HAVOCK!!! Sometimes I am PMing so that I don't even perceive a person coming in, other times I will find myself PMing with someone and then someone else enters the room that you are dying to talk to..and that make me feel rude, and confused, cause in real life, you are not talking to three people at the same time. Doesn't happen.

So what do you prefer? Being told about it, getting the brb, the sloooow chat, or just punching guys like me in the face?

And by the way, whoever chats with me knows its all friendly chat, and I still feel the need to say: sorry, new to this, trying to adapt and do what's right. If anyone ever felt I was insensitive, let me have it, here's a bat...:nu

[UltimateNaneki]

Well that has happened to me more then once both ways. I have chatted with one and then felt totally ignored. :( Its not fun! But if there is someone in the chatroom that comes in and your are dying to chat with...be kind to the other and explain. We are all adults and we could chat anytime with each other.
We can all tell when we are not just PMing with just one,unless u tell your PMer that you are doing something but your really want to be PMing with them.
My view....:wa:

[catmom]

Huh?

lol - I'd rather be told I'm interrupting that tryo to guess.

[AL(m)]

ahh the joys of chat.......yes its very easy to be ignored...and take it personally....sometimes its just better to walk back out of the chat room that way you dont interupt the ones PMing.... just my thoughts :sc

[scoobertina]

I usually go into chat to chat with many and not just one... I am not a big fan of the PM.. I will chat via PM as long as the men don't start asking to cyber... but if I want to chat one on one I invite people to yahoo and then I don't enter chat...

If I am PM'ng with you I do NOT like the brb.... then find out that you are chatting with someone else.. If I am taking the time to PM you it means I am interested in getting to know you...

I want to know that someone has come in that you want to chat with.. if that happens I am fine with knowing that you are chatting with someone else.. I rather know it then to find out another way...

So slow then is good, or no chat is good.. just don't lie to me...

[Shawn]

I dont think anyone would like to be shared.... I keep my pms down to a complete minimum as I can not type fast & I am often interupted both at work and at home so I could never give the time that they deserve. As far as talking to someone then seeing someone else you are dying to talk to.... maybe thats your problem right there.... if you are just waiting for that person you are never really into a conversation with someone else..so my advice for you since you are so torn... just keep your conversations in the main room........OR stop typing with your toes

[Icarus]

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[Kissie]

Ok now my sites on this...if you are talking with one in PM's...and another comes in that you are "just dying to talk with" gracfully tell the one that you are talking with..no need for the BS brb thing!!!! I rather be told...he look I was looking to talk with so and so...and they just came into the lobby...loved our chat...and you be on your way....
There are times when I get frustrated with PM's.....and I tend to make an excuse and totally leave the chatroom...I am done with it then....LOL ok ok ok not the best way to handle it but it works for me!!!!

[Kissie]

If I'm PM'ing someone, not on this site obviously (need... more... posts), and I receive a notice from someone else, no matter who it is, I let them know that I'm already conversing with someone and continue with that person.

I think the best way to have group conversations is IRC. It's old school, but I use it to talk with people about programming. It would be best to start a server exclusively for M&F, but probably we could start a room on an existing server.



you can PM in the chatroom....I think thta is what he is talking about...but like your style!!!!

[Torin]

It honestly does not bother me at all, for anyone to talk to other people. It's a chat room, with lots of people. Sometimes, I get 3 windows popping up as I log in to chat, within a minute. And its fine, I really love to talk, especially to my favorite buddies. I DON'T like the invites to cyber, either.

It wouldn't hurt my feelings to know that anyone was talking to someone else, I simply assume they are. I also keep in mind that this is a site very sexually natured. If the pauses get to slow, I kinda grin, and give that person privacy. I don't want to ****block my friends, ya know?

[ksue7274]

It honestly does not bother me at all, for anyone to talk to other people. It's a chat room, with lots of people. Sometimes, I get 3 windows popping up as I log in to chat, within a minute. And its fine, I really love to talk, especially to my favorite buddies. I DON'T like the invites to cyber, either.

It wouldn't hurt my feelings to know that anyone was talking to someone else, I simply assume they are. I also keep in mind that this is a site very sexually natured. If the pauses get to slow, I kinda grin, and give that person privacy. I don't want to ****block my friends, ya know?


Couldn't have said it better myself. It would be nice if more people just smiled and gave you some privacy instead of saying "are you there" then maybe they wouldn't get the brb. ;)

[sassynsweet]

I think you have two choices. Either grow a pair and tell the person you're chatting with that you have another convo you'd like io tend to, or stay in the current one. Being ignored sucks and can be very hurtful, even if you think you are being kinder and sensitive and trying not to hurt feelings, it's way more insulting to not say anything at all than to just come out and say it.

[bighands]

I have a feeling next time I'm in the chat room, someone's gonna throw a blanket over me and the ladies are gonna clobber me to tears...

[softrosepetal]

I think since this is a chat room.....You should just admit to the one lady you want to chat with the other lady. Maybe you should set some ground rules with a discussion of "we are just friends". I personall have only been in the chat roon 3 times. I could not get used to having 7 or 8 windows pop up. Now I have 500 post and I don't go into chat. Just Private Message with folks or IM. Good luck

[sassynsweet]

I have a feeling next time I'm in the chat room, someone's gonna throw a blanket over me and the ladies are gonna clobber me to tears...

nah - you might like that!! Just be honest and communicate. Usually when we have to make up what you're thinking because you won't say it is way worse than what you're really thinking ;)

[Fwd40s]

I'm just happy to get one PM. I don't send many. I always think I'm bothering the other person.

[cherokeered]

I stay out of the chatroom.........

As for talking to more than one person...that happens on yahoo too....but would rather talk one on one....I find it distracting....

[Charmed]

If I PM you and she PM's me, and he PM's her, and you PM him...help!!!!

In normal life, a friends comes into a room and you welcome them, and then they join the conversation and all is well.

In the chat room? HAVOCK!!! Sometimes I am PMing so that I don't even perceive a person coming in, other times I will find myself PMing with someone and then someone else enters the room that you are dying to talk to..and that make me feel rude, and confused, cause in real life, you are not talking to three people at the same time. Doesn't happen.

So what do you prefer? Being told about it, getting the brb, the sloooow chat, or just punching guys like me in the face?

And by the way, whoever chats with me knows its all friendly chat, and I still feel the need to say: sorry, new to this, trying to adapt and do what's right. If anyone ever felt I was insensitive, let me have it, here's a bat...:nu

Just be honest and I will too :)

[majorfun]

Sometimes the multiple chats box at one time is fun...If I am engaging with someone and I see they are not returning my e-mails or they are slow returning them..I get the hint...I am not offended...I am a big boy...I either leave or talk to someone else..This site is for fun not work..If I wanted to work I would call my wife...

[SunnyD]

Honestly if you are just generic kind of chatting with someone and not getting personal or making it appear that you are "interested" in some way more than just ideal chitchat I can't imagine anyone not understanding you wanting to move on after the crowd increases. If you are working the room and ringing every womans bell that will answer BELIEVE me "we girls know" and communicate well! There is a lot to be said for chatting or posting with the larger group before you move to the PM's. People are not always as they appear in there avatars! Best of luck!

[ohreally?]

no matter how friendly I am with someone, I assume if they dont pm me to say hi when I come in, they are busy with someone else. I have to admit that sometimes it hurts, but I know there is nothing I can do about it.
But then it hurts twice as much when I am accused of being rude, and not pm ing them, when I was just being polite and not interfering.
I guess cybering always trumps friendship.

[Rays]

I hate talking to more than one person at once in there. I always make the mistake of getting hot and heavy with one girl and meeting another girl for the first time. Then I accidentally type in the wrong box and tell the new girl how bad I wanna spank her like the bad girl she is being. LMAO

[Me]

waaaaait! there is a chat room ? I had NO idea! :D

[sassynsweet]

waaaaait! there is a chat room ? I had NO idea! :D

it's where I learned to "Boobie Five!!" - you should try it!! ;)

[gdg]

I usually don't initiate PM with anyone unless I really want to talk to them. And I don't bother the ones that have BRB or AWAY. If I am chatting and I don't want to be disturbed I just put up the message I am busy and have no problems. I also, do not want to be rude and I feel uncomfortable when someone I don't know tries to chat and cyber. I just try to say I am busy maybe later.

[Me]

it's where I learned to "Boobie Five!!" - you should try it!! ;)

hmmmm what is this thing you call a boobie five? sounds interesting. :ok

[fourisit]

I hate having to ignore someone new who PMs me but I dont like to have more then one converstation at a time its to hard to keep up. I will just let them know that I am busy and hope to chat with them another time. I have no problem ignoring the rude and crude ones though.

And Jelly come on over hon and I will give you private instruction on the art of Boobie high fives!!!

[Frenchie_lady]

I hate talking to more than one person at once in there. I always make the mistake of getting hot and heavy with one girl and meeting another girl for the first time. Then I accidentally type in the wrong box and tell the new girl how bad I wanna spank her like the bad girl she is being. LMAO


Jimmy, this is the perfect exemple of men trying to multitask!

Here is my thoughts Bighands... there are many levels of chats you can get into. Some permit multi tasking, some don't. I'm sure you're intelligent enough to make the difference.

Personally, i prefer being told when a guy want's to talk to someone alone. I can't take everything personally, even if i try! I will be sick and will hate this place fast.

Work makes my chatting time complicated more than multi pm's. But I tell people i'm at work and if i get busy, i don't like being accused of something else. There, i've said it! lol

[Rays]

Work makes my chatting time complicated more than multi pm's. But I tell people i'm at work and if i get busy, i don't like being accused of something else. There, i've said it! lol

Good point Dragon. I hate when people are like, "Who else are you chatting with? Why aren't you getting my undivided attention?" I am usually on at work and people walk into my office or call me so it's hard to always be talking to someone. Just comes with the territory I guess.

[Penny]

I tend to stay out of there, to confusing for me :(

[Kissie]

I have a feeling next time I'm in the chat room, someone's gonna throw a blanket over me and the ladies are gonna clobber me to tears...



Not at all....

[toosarcastic]

I don't take offense if someone does not want to chat or does not want to chat any more. As been said, just let me know what is going on, I do assume that anyone in the chat room is more likely than not, talking to a number of people other than me at any time. Often they (and me) are talking in the main room and PM at the same time.
-TS

[RedVixen]

I can count on one hand how many times I've been in the chat room. Last time I was there, I got to find out just how fast JellyB can type.....those are some serious lightening speed typing skills you've got going there girl :D

[Sweetdreams069]

I usually avoid the chatroom. Every time I go in there I get PM's from mostly guys. So it gets kind of ridiculous. I guess they don't even take the time to check your profile to see if you are male or female. I think next time I'll just pretend I'm a chick and see what happens :dd

[MCat]

I have a feeling next time I'm in the chat room, someone's gonna throw a blanket over me and the ladies are gonna clobber me to tears...

Hey Big....just stay close to me and you'll be alright.....:ok

[MCat]

I usually avoid the chatroom. Every time I go in there I get PM's from mostly guys. So it gets kind of ridiculous. I guess they don't even take the time to check your profile to see if you are male or female. I think next time I'll just pretend I'm a chick and see what happens :dd

Most newbies don't have enough posts to check your profile so they have no clue if you're male or female. Go with it.....lol....maybe next time they'll ask before they start talking crap to ya....

[sexytiger]

I keep having that thought MCat... I even have the male sympbol on my name list;; last guy just came up and ask if I was horny.... hmmm well usually I am; but with a guy? NOT... what to do what to do.....

[gadzooks]

just be honest. too many people here to think your the only one someone wants to talk to

[Ally]

I love your honesty here Big. I have the same problem sometimes too. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but I am now pretty honest. If I am PMing with someone and someone else tries to PM me, I just simply say that I'm chatting with someone else and that maybe we can catch up with each other later (I'm a terrible multitasker). Sometimes I'm in the lounge and don't feel like PMing at all so I say that too...in a polite way. I have learned to be very upfront when it comes to PMs. If it's starting to go down a road I am not comfortable with, I am honest with them. Sometimes my honesty is respected and sometimes I get ditched...and I don't care one bit if I get ditched because that tells me exactly what kind of person they are!!!!

So Big, I agree with everyone here, be honest and just tell them the truth. I wouldn't be hurt if you told me that someone you want to chat with came in the lounge and you were leaving me. Sure, I would cry, throw a tantrum and pound my fists on the floor for a few minutes...but no biggie, right? LOL

[stellabelle]

I have much more respect for those who are honest than those who play the stupid games. I mean sheesh....we're not 14 here!