your love from one to that other

[iron]

it is when times are rough that a married couple, wife or husband, may look to another for love and affection and especially support. I think it is more like a bandage to help cover the wounds of a married person scorned. When your spouse turns on you as if you had no feelings, it is the tearing of your heart that turns your eyes and ears to another. The flirting with that other is the turning point in your thoughts and future, however it may turn out.

[Krystal]

Welcome to the site.

[Missy38]

Hiya and welcome to the site....

[redcat]

Hi iron...I'm not sure whether your post is merely an observation, or something you're experiencing. If it's something you're going through, maybe being here can help in some small way. There are many good people here - making friends, sharing laughs, and sharing their deeper thoughts and feelings, too. Maybe this site will provide whatever it is you may feel you want right now.

Welcome, and I hope you enjoy!!!!

[TIGUY]

It's all of that and let's not forget the sexual satisfaction we craved at one time....that has more to do with it than any other....the other reasons can be justification for some but I'll never use it in that manner....we are only human...nothing wrong with a natural need that may not be provided in our marriages any longer.

it is when times are rough that a married couple, wife or husband, may look to another for love and affection and especially support. I think it is more like a bandage to help cover the wounds of a married person scorned. When your spouse turns on you as if you had no feelings, it is the tearing of your heart that turns your eyes and ears to another. The flirting with that other is the turning point in your thoughts and future, however it may turn out.

[Atrebla Rose]

Hey Fort Mac,,,,,welcome from another Albertian!!! Enjoy and looking forward to chatting with ya!

[Heart]

Hi!!! this site can be very healing and helpful in many ways....i wish i'd found it sooner.....have fun!

[iron]

Hi iron...I'm not sure whether your post is merely an observation, or something you're experiencing. If it's something you're going through, maybe being here can help in some small way. There are many good people here - making friends, sharing laughs, and sharing their deeper thoughts and feelings, too. Maybe this site will provide whatever it is you may feel you want right now.

Welcome, and I hope you enjoy!!!!

Yes, this has been my experience ,and for this reason, I feel that need for a different direction in which to find whatever it is I feel I have been missing for so long. I really want to thank you for responding and I look forward to visiting this site, joining in and sharing my deeper thoughts with the friends I make here.

[SunnyD]

Welcome and enjoy the site!

[iron]

Hi there, your are right, it is that sexual desire that mekes up a big part of the empty feeling. Thanks for your comments.

IRON

[iron]

Thanks SunnyD, looking forward to this.

IRON

[WandaRing]

Hi iron and welcome to the site. I think it depends on each individual in what makes them look or not look for a "lover," an affair, porn or any other kind of fulfillment. There are folks going through a very bad relationship, a few that feel lonely in their loveless/sexless marriage, some that are just bored, those that don't give a shit and want more sex and of course those who are so addicted to sex they'll find it anywhere.

I think for the most part it's the loneliness, the continuous disappointments and lack of communication or care within the relationship that will eventually send a spouse to look for something else. Then you look around here in M&F and see that many folks in here have been working hard to keep their marriage together without cheating or finding other alternatives to feel better about themselves...I think the struggle is within yourself.

[Eagleton]

Hi iron and welcome to the site. I think it depends on each individual in what makes them look or not look for a "lover," an affair, porn or any other kind of fulfillment. There are folks going through a very bad relationship, a few that feel lonely in their loveless/sexless marriage, some that are just bored, those that don't give a shit and want more sex and of course those who are so addicted to sex they'll find it anywhere.

I think for the most part it's the loneliness, the continuous disappointments and lack of communication or care within the relationship that will eventually send a spouse to look for something else. Then you look around here in M&F and see that many folks in here have been working hard to keep their marriage together without cheating or finding other alternatives to feel better about themselves...I think the struggle is within yourself.


Well said my Canadian goddess. I think it also saying to someone here what you wish you could say to your spouse and getting a positive response here....that's why I love this place!

[Charmed]

Hey Ironman.. (what, thats a song, ha ha)........... Welcome and enjoy

[Eagleton]

Hey Ironman.. (what, thats a song, ha ha)........... Welcome and enjoy


and that's why she is one of my Fav...orites...ladies and gentlemen...let's hear it for the Fabulous Fav...:wy

[MarriedQt]

Welcome Iron.....how long have you been in fort mac?

[iron]

Hi Eagleton, this is a great site to, as you say, share your feelings without negative feedback. We all need this in our lives. Its wonderful.

[iron]

my wife and I arrived last June, 2007. She has since gone back to NS and I am living on my own, travelling home for xmas though.

[Shawn]

Welcome to the site

[Constance]

Hello, I hope you have a wonderful time.

[UltimateNaneki]

it is when times are rough that a married couple, wife or husband, may look to another for love and affection and especially support. I think it is more like a bandage to help cover the wounds of a married person scorned. When your spouse turns on you as if you had no feelings, it is the tearing of your heart that turns your eyes and ears to another. The flirting with that other is the turning point in your thoughts and future, however it may turn out.

When my marriage was falling apart, there was no other man or woman waiting in the wings and there still is no one. But he found someone quick enough.
When my relationship ended, finding someone was not the first thing on my mind. Getting out safe was, all I wanted was ME again.
I may not be in the norme but we all don't break up because there is someone else waiting for us.

[iron]

Hi UltimateNaneki, I do not know what happened in your relationship, but you mentioned getting out safe. Was it abuse? One thing that really had me troubled in my marriage is my wife hitting me when she was upset. I do not think of this as abuse, but it still hurts me so much!! Did you find yourself again? I feel it must have been tough for you, hope you found yourself!
IRON

[UltimateNaneki]

I was afraid he might fight me, he never touched me physically, but I was emotionally damaged. We were together for 8 yrs. (lived together for 5 yrs and married for 3yrs)
I was ignored for the last 2 yrs. It does not make a person feel good when you are ignored for that long. In my mind it was always a batter, why leave this...no one else will want me.
But I leaped and I am still standing. I got very little in the separation but I did retrieve myself and I'm priceless.

Iron...Don't let her hurt you. Hitting is abuse no matter who you are. If you hit her you would be in jail. No one deserves to be hit. Walk away. You are a good person and a great man. You deserve to be treated kindly. :kk

[iron]

Hi UltimateNaneki, Thanks so much for responding to me. My children as teenagers have told me to leave her. They said they would!! Problem is I love her and though I wanted to leave, she would cry and ask me to stay and I would. I am so confused with what I should do or should have done. I just want some compassion, someone who thinks my feet are worth rubbing, rather than discusting. Am I asking to much of my wife?? I crave to be touched and yet I feel timid about asking my wife of almost 30 years to scratch my back.

[UltimateNaneki]

Hi UltimateNaneki, Thanks so much for responding to me. My children as teenagers have told me to leave her. They said they would!! Problem is I love her and though I wanted to leave, she would cry and ask me to stay and I would. I am so confused with what I should do or should have done. I just want some compassion, someone who thinks my feet are worth rubbing, rather than discusting. Am I asking to much of my wife?? I crave to be touched and yet I feel timid about asking my wife of almost 30 years to scratch my back.

Well if you both want the same thing...I believe you both need a place where you could talk and be heard. Its not a bad thing to see a counsoler, they are there to listen and let the people that still love each other here what they are missing. And I would never tell you to throw in the towel if you want to make a go at your marriage. I will always be here to listen and if you want my 2cents I will give it to you. If not, I will always be here to listen. That is what friends are for...:hug:
Your friend,

Ulti....

[iron]

hello, did you get my reply to your message. This page indicated you did not.