new forum?

[sassynsweet]

Any chance you'd consider adding a forum for us divorced folks? Would be great to have a section to discuss all the different stuff related to being divorced. thanks!!

[Jelly's Brandi]

that's a great idea Sassy!

[scoobertina]

Any chance you'd consider adding a forum for us divorced folks? Would be great to have a section to discuss all the different stuff related to being divorced. thanks!!


LOL.. Anniegeee and I were discussing this one night.. I think it would be great... no sorry.. we were talking about a whole new site for us divorced or seperated peeps... but I LOVE the idea... there is so much we could share... :hug:

[sassynsweet]

actually I asked for a whole new site with this format!! But would settle for a room ;)

[Lena]

How about, just for right now, someone start a thread in The Sanctuary or just the Gold Forum with Talk about divorce?

[TIGUY]

I think this is a super idea that everyone has come up with!!! I am married but love the idea of a personal outlet for those who are separated or divorced...and be sure you keep out the hijackers !

[Dsparate Hswife]

Any chance you'd consider adding a forum for us divorced folks? Would be great to have a section to discuss all the different stuff related to being divorced. thanks!!

I concur!!!

:ok

[jimmy_love_fl]

Great idea, that way we can all have a place to go to next.

Seriously though, I can totally understand why you would want that. Maybe one of you should see if Penny could help you start one. She seems to be very helpful.

[sassynsweet]

I have made a new thread in the Sanctuary, as requested by Lena, to discuss this. Could all of you who support the idea of having a Forum for Divorced/Separated folks please go post in there? thanks!!

[Lena]

We are trying to work on something, but might just take a little time though!

[sassynsweet]

thank you thank you thank you!!

[Lena]

Hopefully with a little patience we might be able to come through with it!

[fever]

I think this is a great idea...I hope you all find support in one another. Who knows which of us will end up there in the long run!

[AnnieGeee]

Any chance you'd consider adding a forum for us divorced folks? Would be great to have a section to discuss all the different stuff related to being divorced. thanks!!
Add separation to that too....

[Atrebla Rose]

Great idea, you have my support. I only hope friends are made here and respect build not by marital status but by whats inside someone. If my separated/divorced friends leave for another site, this will leave a great loss here. I am saddened to hear that some of you feel you don't find the support with us, who are still married. Because we are married doesn't mean some of are not living in a lonely place of despair as well. If that makes any sense at all.
Forums are great but I would sure miss you if you left for a whole other site!!! Good luck to you!!

[sassynsweet]

Great idea, you have my support. I only hope friends are made here and respect build not by marital status but by whats inside someone. If my separated/divorced friends leave for another site, this will leave a great loss here. I am saddened to hear that some of you feel you don't find the support with us, who are still married. Because we are married doesn't mean some of are not living in a lonely place of despair as well. If that makes any sense at all.
Forums are great but I would sure miss you if you left for a whole other site!!! Good luck to you!!

I don't see it as leaving one place for another - I personally would still be active in both! And I don't think we can't find support, but it would be easier sometimes knowing the audience of the posts were people who had shared our experiences. Kind of like posting about trouble with your spouse on a singles website - yes, you could get support from friends you had there, but you would have a lot less input simply because many could not relate. I would have been just as happy with a separate forum here, but realistically, I suspect this site is probably at least 95% or higher married folks.

[Brink]

Yep, great idea - a natural progression for some people to share their thoughts, feelings, support, advice, laughs, and experiences...much like the rest of the forum!

I scraped through a divorce in my early 20s. Enjoyed it so much, I did it again a few years later and got a much better certificate (and forever became the "Ross" of my friends).

So, I married again a few years later....was met with a chorus of "don't do it, you're making another mistake!", but, can happily report, I really do enjoy being married this time. At last, it works!!

Thus, I have a lot I could drone on about on a range of related topics, including offering hope to many not to give up...or rather - give it up - and you will survive.

[Brink]

Thinking about it, I should add I can see a few complexities arising....

I don't know anything about running forums, but one could envisage it possibly leading to even deeper matters arising, possibly between posters, which might require more moderation (and legal advice?).

Also, if a forum is added here, might need to change the site's name to Married* and Flirting.

* some might be separated, divorced or seeking to do so.

Could sway from the original format of the site, if it proves a popular area!

Potential issues aside - I would hope they aren't insoluble - a great idea.

I'm sure other forums exist centring around divorce, so it can't raise too many problems.

[catmom]

I don't see it as leaving one place for another - I personally would still be active in both! And I don't think we can't find support, but it would be easier sometimes knowing the audience of the posts were people who had shared our experiences. Kind of like posting about trouble with your spouse on a singles website - yes, you could get support from friends you had there, but you would have a lot less input simply because many could not relate. I would have been just as happy with a separate forum here, but realistically, I suspect this site is probably at least 95% or higher married folks.

In my opinion I think the audience here is smart enough to look at a thread and if they can't relate because they have not "shared..experiences" they don't participate. While the majority of the people here are married (which makes perfect sense since the site is designed for that), there are a lot of us that are on the brink or contemplating divorce that could use the support and willingness to share from those that have gone through it. Sorry to be a devils advocate - but reading this thread makes me feel discriminated against. I have a lot to offer as far as support for anyone that asks my help - regardless of marital status. It's a shame to think a special "group" is needed. Can't we all just co-exist as the amazing community we've built?

Also - did anyone do a search on divorced chat rooms? I googled it and it came up with - oh - over a million results. This kind of thing already exists.

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=divorced+chat+rooms&aq=1&oq=divorced+chat+ro

[ohreally?]

Seems to me there are certainly sites that focus on those that are divorced. Of course it is great for a place to go for support. But doesnt it come down to the people you would meet on a certain site? From an objective standpoint, I cant understand how divorced women could support an entire site. And my guess would be that divorced men would likely be out in the real world looking for a new wife, as opposed to chatting on line. So therefore it would mainly be a site for women.
What concerns me, over the past 18 months I have been here, is that this has become a support site for women contemplating divorce, and other divorcing or separating women encouraging them to leave their husbands. I came here for like minded married people that could flirt, and this place would be a supplement to their marriage, to help each other through tough times at home. It seems to be becoming a "leave your loser husband" site. I may have to leave if I see many more women with little children leave their husbands because they think they have met the love of their life here, and that guy has no intention of leaving his family. Watching these women that are sad at home get hurt here too is killing me.

[catmom]

Here's a good example of something that already exists:

www.yourlifead.com (http://www.yourlifead.com)

[stucknmarriage74(f)]

That would be REAL helpful to me since im recently separated and feeling soooo lost!!!!

[yaser]

That would be REAL helpful to me since im recently separated and feeling soooo lost!!!!

Stuck,why are we here for?

[scoobertina]

cat and oh.... the reason we want a forum for this is just so that we can still be here without our seperation or divorce issues.. we make the friends here and have the same friends in the other forum... THIS site is about being married and flirting... NOT about seperation/divorce issues...

I had to say that I have been very honest and open about my status and I have had alot of people come to me seeking advice... I am ok with that but I encourage people to try to make their marriages work first... I will NOT tell anyone that seperation or divorce is the way to go... THAT decision is theirs to make, not mine... but I worry that because things have gone the way they have for me others are encouraged by it...

That I do'nt want... I don't want to drag others down.. I don't want them to see what I did as the way to do things..

and I am not going to leave this site for another... I love to flirt still and i will continue to do so... whether I am on another forum or not... and thanks for the site info cat... but as I said in another thread... I like what I have here... I enjoy the type of people who frequent THIS site... I do not want another group of people... tried them... didn't feel right..

[Cotties]

yeah a thread sounds about right .... a complete forum..not sure about that...kind of swings away from the title of the site:scHow about, just for right now, someone start a thread in The Sanctuary or just the Gold Forum with Talk about divorce?

[catmom]

THIS site is about being married and flirting... NOT about seperation/divorce issues...

..

EXACTLY! Why not just a thread for now?

[Wet Beaver]

How about a rant thread.....Lock it out for replys,,,or not....call it the soapbox thread......

[PlayfulMale69]

How about a rant thread.....Lock it out for replys,,,or not....call it the soapbox thread......

Interesting concept Wet Beaver. Is that a no quote thread or a single post thread?

[tin_heart_gal]

Umm, just my 2 cents here,
Can't you make like a user created support group for this?
I'm not sure how it would work or how you would make sure people are really divorced to join.
But, just seemed like an idea to toss out there.

I am aware that the site is Married and flirting, but sometimes things happen
and people seprate and divorce, and they hang around cause this is an awsome site
and they have friends here.
No rules saying someone has to delete a membership just because they get divorced is there?
I hope not, cause I would hate to leave this site just because I am no longer married.

[MrHyde]

Just being selfish here...but I would hate to see people leave to another site cause they get seperated or divorced....knowing some of the situations in here it's no surprise that many end up seperated or divorced....but honestly I want to keep you all to myself.

[Wet Beaver]

Interesting concept Wet Beaver. Is that a no quote thread or a single post thread?

what ever works....

[scoobertina]

Umm, just my 2 cents here,
Can't you make like a user created support group for this?
I'm not sure how it would work or how you would make sure people are really divorced to join.
But, just seemed like an idea to toss out there.

I am aware that the site is Married and flirting, but sometimes things happen
and people seprate and divorce, and they hang around cause this is an awsome site
and they have friends here.
No rules saying someone has to delete a membership just because they get divorced is there?
I hope not, cause I would hate to leave this site just because I am no longer married.

I have already done so tin.. thanks... this wasn't supposed to be about anyone leaving the site... or being felt discriminated against I am sure... I liked the idea because there is so much more than you can fill in just one thread... I was not looking for another site, just a place here where I could help others and be helped...

but for those interested.... check out "another beginning" in the user groups...

and I apologize to everyone for getting my back up in this thread... someone said something and I took offense to it.. I am sorry... I guess I just didn't see an issue with a new forum... same site, a differenet forum... what is the harm in that?

[cherokeered]

bumping this up so people can see it......it's a great idea.....

[scoobertina]

bumping this up so people can see it......it's a great idea.....


thanks cher