would your marriage go on

[Bandit]

If you had that very special romantic encounter and then your spouse found out, what would happen?

[MSU]

Wow-----good question. I think it would go on.....and I would have absolutely no freedom whatsoever.

[UltimateNaneki]

If you had that very special romatic encounter and then your spouse found out, what would happen?

Well Bandit...I would not have a 'very special romantic encounter' while I was still married to my husband. I, while with a man in my life, have never had an encounter. So my spouse would never ever find out. I have had a special romantic encounter when I was separated from my husband, and when I returned from the event, he wanted to compare. The foul, thought I would take him back. I have to tell you, once I leave someone it is over.

[softrosepetal]

At this point I would say my marriage would go on and on and on..........nothing has ended it yet so why would that bother him?????

[cheerymissy_34]

no mine would end....probably with me in the grave somewhere

[Mojo]

I wouldn't want to test it

[Luna]

I believe mine would go on but it would cause pain. I would not want to test it.

Bandit, I would like to know your answer as well???

[FizProf]

I would make sure that she never finds out. The guilt (despite our best intentions there will be guilt) should be mine to bear, and letting her find out is the worst thing one can do.

[catmom]

I have no idea. Isn't that crazy? Married to this person for 27 years and I truly don't know what he'd say or do. I hope I'm able to keep it private though

[yaser]

I have no idea. Isn't that crazy? Married to this person for 27 years and I truly don't know what he'd say or do. I hope I'm able to keep it private though

Opener the better?

[gatorgal]

Cant say that it would end or he would leave.. I could only HOPE SOOOO!

[scoobertina]

If I had the affair but was in love with my spouse yes....

if I had the affair and was not in love... no, I would end it...

[learman3]

I'd have to say my life would be living hell.

I'd probably look into ending the marriage.

[cherri]

I can honestly say I have had that encounter. It lasted two years. No, it didn't end my marriage, but it was painful all around. It's difficult to be in a marriage, have kids, and find out that your heart belongs somewhere else. You try your best to keep your priorities straight and for the best intentions nothing works out well. Yes, there is guilt and you live with that and every time something goes wrong, it's throwed back in your face. Keep that in mind, even though you are forgiven, it is never really forgotten. There is no wiping the slate clean. Marriage goes on but at the threshold of hell. You are probably wondering, and I will tell. Yes, it was worth it. Because on some intimate level, it saved me. Because I was under-loved, under-kissed, under-touched, and the affair brought me out of that-it gave me hope.

[Mojo]

I believe mine would go on but it would cause pain. I would not want to test it.

Bandit, I would like to know your answer as well???

good answer- pretty much what i was thinking

[Wil]

...sure it would...one fucking sunny day after the next...

[NotTooGirly]

My marriage would end...maybe not right away, but at some point, and I am certain of this because I would be the one to end it.

[yaser]

My marriage would end...maybe not right away, but at some point, and I am certain of this because I would be the one to end it.

Hmmm I am not surprised...

[hrdbody]

I don't think it would, but I'm not sure I'd want to stay. The guilt trip I would be sent on would not make it worth it.

[Lacey]

If you had that very special romantic encounter and then your spouse found out, what would happen?



Ummm, I'm thinking he would be quite mad. I'm not sure he would leave or not. I've really never thought about it. For me, it would have to be someone quite "special" before I'd put my marriage on the line like that though.

[COWGIRL_LEO7]

It happened and changed everything, but I'd do it again in a heartbeat

[yaser]

At this point I would say my marriage would go on and on and on..........nothing has ended it yet so why would that bother him?????


What has bothered you?

[Bandit]

...sure it would...one fucking sunny day after the next...

:lmao

[pagirl]

this particular topic is hard for me... most of you know that my Oldest brother committed suicide in 2000 so suicide is a very touchy subject for me... Well the reason this is hard for me is that my hubby uses my brother's suicide against me. he told me in a casual conversation that if I ever left him or he ever caught me cheating on him he would kill himself. So with that being said I guess it would end my marriage but not through divorce.

[yaser]

this particular topic is hard for me... most of you know that my Oldest brother committed suicide in 2000 so suicide is a very touchy subject for me... Well the reason this is hard for me is that my hubby uses my brother's suicide against me. he told me in a casual conversation that if I ever left him or he ever caught me cheating on him he would kill himself. So with that being said I guess it would end my marriage but not through divorce.

There is a hope?:sng

[Bandit]

I believe mine would go on but it would cause pain. I would not want to test it.

Bandit, I would like to know your answer as well???

It's not likely that my ever-lovin' sweetie pie would end our marriage over an affair. She comes from a culture that views affairs by men as fairly normal behavior. Not encouraged; but not a marriage ending event.

I'm such a slacker that I've not taken advantage of my get-out-of-jail-free opportunity. But I do enjoy the fantasy of imagining what it would be like.

[MarriedQt]

If I cheated my marriage would be over.....same thing if he cheated.....

[marriedwomanchaser]

Having seen this situation before, I can say yes the marriage would go on. It isn.t the same because most of the trust is gone. No matter what happens you can not get that trust back. If I had it to do all over again, I do not know what I would do, but the hurt and loss of a quiet lifestyle would sure play into the outcome. In other words, it was not worth it and I would not recommend anyone to engage in it. But marriages get boring and things happen, but the outcome is usually not worth it at all,

[vicarious]

Kaput, end, stop, that's it

[bigwazoo]

I can honestly say I have had that encounter. It lasted two years. No, it didn't end my marriage, but it was painful all around. It's difficult to be in a marriage, have kids, and find out that your heart belongs somewhere else. You try your best to keep your priorities straight and for the best intentions nothing works out well. Yes, there is guilt and you live with that and every time something goes wrong, it's throwed back in your face. Keep that in mind, even though you are forgiven, it is never really forgotten. There is no wiping the slate clean. Marriage goes on but at the threshold of hell. You are probably wondering, and I will tell. Yes, it was worth it. Because on some intimate level, it saved me. Because I was under-loved, under-kissed, under-touched, and the affair brought me out of that-it gave me hope.
And how, this sounds like my story.

[Hotliz]

i'm not sure how my husband would react. on one hand it could be a marriage ender. on the other hand, it may very well spice things up and be a welcomed event for us....

[danoesky]

I think my wife would drag us to counseling and try and get me / us fixed. I really don't think she wants to know. I have heard my wife tell her friends in simular situations to not tell their husbands.

[Bubblygirlie]

He would spank my bottom and say naughty girl dont do it again ;)

[danoesky]

He would spank my bottom and say naughty girl dont do it again ;)

Your such a luckygirlie bubblygirlie :)

[Icarus]

My spouse would want to stay married, but the loss of trust would drive us so far apart I doubt it could ever be repaired. Conversely, I would want to continue the marriage, but the loss of trust would probably make that impossible. For that reason, I'd rather exhaust all options and get a divorce than have an affair.

[Bandit]

He would spank my bottom and say naughty girl dont do it again ;)

That's considered foreplay at my house :)

[redcat]

No, it wouldn't end it...change it? Certainly. But it's all in the communication, and while it can take a long time to rebuild trust, it's possible.

[OnceAKing]

I'll letcha know when it happens..the romantic encounter I'm sayin...

[cherokeered]

not sure.....he buries his head in the sand a lot

[MarkmyWords]

Yes. If I had an affair 100% chance she would leave immediately. On the other hand, I wouldn't leave her if it was a sexual encounter. If it was more than that....having deep feelings for another guy...that would be the end for me.

[Constance]

I don't think that he would. He would be hurt, but he would want to work it out. I guess that is my whole problem with him. He does not need allot of attention, almost very little. He lets me do pretty much what I want and hardly asks any questions. I am very different, I like lots of attention and want to spend time together and have things we like to do together.

[fourisit]

I would remind him we had this conversation and he said he didnt want to know so I didnt tell him.

[MiSt09]

Yes, it would be the end for sure.

[Tiglet]

It would but I would have to put an end to it. Possibly out of guilt but more so out of honesty.

[Ally]

I think it would be over...not sure, but after all that we have gone through in the last couple months...that would be the final straw.

[farmer69]

No, it wouldn't end it...change it? Certainly. But it's all in the communication, and while it can take a long time to rebuild trust, it's possible.
not sure but will let you know one way or another, for me i would say no. And yes it is possible to rebuild