Friends who cheat on their spouses

[hrdbody]

Here is an interesting query. Many times we become friends with the friend's significant other or spouse. This can cause us problems when we find out that the friend is cheating on his spouse or significant other. This can be further complicated when it is one of your husband's/wife's friends and you become friends with the Wife/husband.

If you found out that one of your friends was cheating on his or her spouse would you tell the spouse?

If you found out that one of your husband's/wife's friends was cheating on their spouse with whom you had become friends with, would you tell the spouse?

Would you be angry at the friend?

Would you want to avoid the spouse or significant other just because you know their spouse or other is cheating on them and you can't tell them?

[SunnyD]

I wouldn't discuss it with my spouse or theirs. She who lives in a glass house shouldn't launch the first stone!

Here is an interesting query. Many times we become friends with the friend's significant other or spouse. This can cause us problems when we find out that the friend is cheating on his spouse or significant other. This can be further complicated when it is one of your husband's/wife's friends and you become friends with the Wife/husband.

If you found out that one of your friends was cheating on his or her spouse would you tell the spouse?

If you found out that one of your husband's/wife's friends was cheating on their spouse with whom you had become friends with, would you tell the spouse?

Would you be angry at the friend?

Would you want to avoid the spouse or significant other just because you know their spouse or other is cheating on them and you can't tell them?

[MarriedQt]

If you found out that one of your friends was cheating on his or her spouse would you tell the spouse? Its really none of my buisness...but I have been in that situation before and ended the friendship very quickly.

If you found out that one of your husband's/wife's friends was cheating on their spouse with whom you had become friends with, would you tell the spouse? Once again prolly not....I'd discuss it with my husband and tell him if he felt comfortable to confront his friend.

Would you be angry at the friend? Yes and it would ruin our friendship

Would you want to avoid the spouse or significant other just because you know their spouse or other is cheating on them and you can't tell them? I may......depends on how well my poker face holds out...I can never lie!

[hrdbody]

I wouldn't discuss it with my spouse or theirs. She who lives in a glass house shouldn't launch the first stone!

A sensible approach, but I wonder how popular amongst the masses?

[hrdbody]

If you found out that one of your friends was cheating on his or her spouse would you tell the spouse? Its really none of my buisness...but I have been in that situation before and ended the friendship very quickly.

If you found out that one of your husband's/wife's friends was cheating on their spouse with whom you had become friends with, would you tell the spouse? Once again prolly not....I'd discuss it with my husband and tell him if he felt comfortable to confront his friend.

Would you be angry at the friend? Yes and it would ruin our friendship

Would you want to avoid the spouse or significant other just because you know their spouse or other is cheating on them and you can't tell them? I may......depends on how well my poker face holds out...I can never lie!

What would be your thought if you later found out that they were separated, and you didn't know it. Would you be friends with the person again?

[Lacey]

I probably wouldn't say anything. I'm not going to tell on my friend.

[hrdbody]

I probably wouldn't say anything. I'm not going to tell on my friend.

But what about the situation where it is your husband's friend who is cheating and you are friends with his wife as well?

[cherokeered]

Well, let me just say....a few pople in my life know about Tiger50....and no one has told hubby or broken our friendship or booted me out of the family for that matter.....
It might be uncomfortable....but I would keep my mouth shut

[Lacey]

But what about the situation where it is your husband's friend who is cheating and you are friends with his wife as well?



I wouldn't say anything. I don't care what his friends do and she would have to be a close friend before I would say anything. If it was my best
friend I would tell her, if it wasn't ,it's none of my business.

[MrHyde]

I would stay out of it. Like Sunny said..glass houses.

[FizProf]

(1) One should avoid at all cost to put oneself in a position where such discoveries may be made

(2) If one should come upon such information, one should act as if completely ignorant of the facts involved. For one thing, one probably is MOSTLY ignorant of most of the facts unless you violated rule #1 and actively sought the details

(3) In the extreme case where you think you know pretty much all the details, and if (and only if) the cheatee is a dear friend, should you do anything about this. But make no mistake about it, you will be drawn completely into this, so you might as well commit yourself. Be prepared that quite likely will lose all parties concerned as friend(s)...

Here is an interesting query. Many times we become friends with the friend's significant other or spouse. This can cause us problems when we find out that the friend is cheating on his spouse or significant other. This can be further complicated when it is one of your husband's/wife's friends and you become friends with the Wife/husband.

If you found out that one of your friends was cheating on his or her spouse would you tell the spouse?

If you found out that one of your husband's/wife's friends was cheating on their spouse with whom you had become friends with, would you tell the spouse?

Would you be angry at the friend?

Would you want to avoid the spouse or significant other just because you know their spouse or other is cheating on them and you can't tell them?

[NotTooGirly]

If you found out that one of your friends was cheating on his or her spouse would you tell the spouse?

Absolutely not. None of my business and certainly not my place, regardless of what I might be doing in my own life.

If you found out that one of your husband's/wife's friends was cheating on their spouse with whom you had become friends with, would you tell the spouse?

See above answer. :))):

Would you be angry at the friend?

No...what good would that do?

Would you want to avoid the spouse or significant other just because you know their spouse or other is cheating on them and you can't tell them?

Would I want to avoid them? No. Might I do so anyhow, at least unconsciously, to avoid an uncomfortable situation? Maybe.

[RedVixen]

It's not my place to *out* the person, plain & simple.

[gatorgal]

I wouldnt say a word!!

[softrosepetal]

I would always have my best friends back and she mine. Anyone else I will stay out of their marriages and hope they stay out of mine. If you are not really close to someone and tell them news like that they wouldn't believe you anyway.

[Krystal]

Like Fiz said.....if you tell, be prepared to be dragged through the mud for being a tattletale. In this one instance in life.....people DO shoot the messenger. If you are incorrect, both parties will hate you even more and you'll look like a nosy ass.

I agree with the glass house theory.....don't judge anyone else if you don't want to be judged. Keep that shit to yourself....because one day, you may be on the other end of it. You wouldn't want said "best friend" telling on you, just because they are friends with your spouse also. Noone except the parties involved know the WHOLE story.

[Shawn]

Actually happened to me, seen him "in action" in vegas as we were both at a Bachelors party.... 3-4 months later the friend found out he had a girlfriend out there... the wife tells me then I told her I kinda knew... she was upset that I did not tell her.. but then I told her what would have probably happened puts us in a bad position... they are still together....its their buisness... not ours.

[Charmed]

friends keep secrets

[rj1002]

I would never violate a confidence, but I would be unhappy with my friend for putting me in that position, especially if I were also a friend of his/her spouse and I would let him/her know that. I would also ask that I be not be put in the middle of things - that he/she be discreet and not put me in a position of having to openly lie to his/her spouse.

[fondew2004]

Here is an interesting query. Many times we become friends with the friend's significant other or spouse. This can cause us problems when we find out that the friend is cheating on his spouse or significant other. This can be further complicated when it is one of your husband's/wife's friends and you become friends with the Wife/husband.

If you found out that one of your friends was cheating on his or her spouse would you tell the spouse?

If you found out that one of your husband's/wife's friends was cheating on their spouse with whom you had become friends with, would you tell the spouse?

Would you be angry at the friend?

Would you want to avoid the spouse or significant other just because you know their spouse or other is cheating on them and you can't tell them?
I would keep my nose out of their business.

Who am I <or are any of us> to judge??