preferent parenting

[gdg]

I have 3 children, 2 girls and a boy. And I love them all but I was wondering if I was doing my girls and injustice. For some reason, my heart just melts for my son. You know the old mommas boy or daddy's girl thing? Whenever my kids are sad, I am also sad, but for whatever reason for my son it seems deeper.
Does anyone share these feelings?

(OMG, I sure hope so)

[scoobertina]

I think you may be thinking things are different, the girls after all have each other.. but your son has noone... lol.. I used to want 3 kids.. 2 boys to look after each other and a girl to pamper...

I have 2 kids, one of each.. they were so different in nature that I often though I preferred my son over my daughter... but when I look back I realize that I treated them differently but equal.. my son is my baby, he will always be my baby... but my daughter is the root... she is strong.. so strong..

lol.. what was the question?

[RedVixen]

I have a girl and a boy. I'd like to think I treat them equal....maybe I should ask them and see what they have to say - you never know, they might have a different spin on things compared to dear ol' mom here :D

[gdg]

My kids do the normal "how come she/he blah, blah, blah" but this is a more internal feeling I have. Maybe it is bcoz girls are expected to be able to show they are happy/sad easier then boys so when u see it, it makes u feel something. I am not sure I can explain it right.

[Krystal]

I don't have kids of my own, but I think I understand what you're saying. Some people just gravitate more towards boys than girls, or vice versa.

I have 9 nieces and nephews....and I definitely favor my brother's kids over the kids of my in-laws. It's a totally different feeling knowing they're my blood. I love all of my brother's kids equally....but feel differently about them with respect to their personalities.

My parents treated my brother and I differently. I was older, so I got new stuff first....but he was the boy, so he got to do more at a younger age. Trust me, I kept track. "Hey, I wasn't allowed to hang out until 10 pm until I was 15....he's only 14!" Stuff like that. I think we were also more attached to the same gender parent as well....me to my mom, him to my dad.

[MarriedQt]

So far I only have my daughter....we are trying now for a boy......I feel sad when she is sad but I def don't baby her that much.....thats my hubby's department!

[Luna]

I have two boys, and I know exactly what you mean. I love them BOTH dearly but my youngest one.. he seems to feel things more deeply or something.

It's not just you... :)

[Alfa]

I love each of my kids deepl,y but not identically. I don't mean that I love one more than the others, it's just that they each connect with different parts of my heart and mind.

One shares my love of (and, more and more, taste in) music and sooo reminds me of my introspective side, another has the carefree love of life side that you can't help but want to be around, and the third shares my goofy sense of humor and depth of emotions. They are so different and that may be why I love and connect with each of them on such different levels.

[rj1002]

I think Fargo has hit the nail on the head. I have two kids - one of each - and I certainly love them equally but differently. As it's turned out, my daughter is probably a little closer to her mom and my son is a little closer to me. It may be because of gender-linked interests (my son and I & golf together, my daughter and her mom shop together), or it may just be the way things worked out.

You love all of your children. That doesn't mean that you treat them identically. You give of yourself to each one based on what that one seems to need from you (and, perhaps, what you need from him or her).

[tiger50]

hmm , well i have a daughter, a son, a stepson and 5 stepdaughters, treat them all equally?? ya try, but its really impossible... however, not really an issue anymore, the son is now 16, the youngest, the rest vary from 26 to 40...

[Luna]

yes.. children. you know, they are just like people!!! As a parent you REALLY DO love them the same, but they have personalities that are sometimes more or less compatible, more or less challenging.. as long as you understand that, I don't think anyone will as though they missed anything. :)

[Charmed]

I have two boys, they are completely different in every way.. But, no.... I love them both the same..

[Lacey]

I love my children more then life itself. I love them the same of course,but I have as others say,connect with each one differently,because they are different people. But I'm very close with them. My daughter and I are very close,we share a lot of the same interest. My son,he is my baby,and his softhearted and needs a little more from me,and I give it.And there are times she needs more .It's not that ones more important.It's just it's my job to make sure their needs are taken care of,and that's what I do,emotional and physically.

[Catman354]

I have 3 children, 2 girls and a boy. And I love them all but I was wondering if I was doing my girls and injustice. For some reason, my heart just melts for my son. You know the old mommas boy or daddy's girl thing? Whenever my kids are sad, I am also sad, but for whatever reason for my son it seems deeper.
Does anyone share these feelings?

(OMG, I sure hope so)

My oldest son is 18 and for a long time I favored him over the second son. I couldn't help it, my youngest son is so intraverted. But looking at it now, my youngest son is a lot more like me and the older one just looks like me. It balanced out though.