For those of you who do not know me I have been married 21 yrs. A long time. In this amount of time I have found that I have come accustomed to feelings of guilt.
My husband is not the most secure person. I was naive and young when we married and was not the strong person I am today. I let him dictate to me. I allowed him to belittle me and tell me how stupid my interests were. Friends were never good enough, etc...
It is strange how you begin to second guess your every move and allow this garbage you have been fed to eat it's way into your brain like a worm in an apple.
U know the things you enjoy and the goals you have are normal but yet you ask yourself, "am I being unfair?"
I suppose it is like a disease. I can't believe I allowed it and to this day allow it, to a degree. I hate confrontation and hate the way it affects a family.
Family, I look at my son and pray he never treats women that way. I will personally kick his ass! And my daughters, they better not allow this to happen to them. I see my oldest with boyfriends and I don't think she will.
It is easy to say I am weak and I should leave. Maybe I am. I guess that is for me to determine and to work out myself and I have a feeling I will in due time.
What really intrigues me is how a person can be so oblivious to what they are doing. My husband thinks he loves tremendously and sees no faults.
Maybe someone will read this and know they are not alone, or maybe they will read it and think, that I am crazy!
My husband is not the most secure person. I was naive and young when we married and was not the strong person I am today. I let him dictate to me. I allowed him to belittle me and tell me how stupid my interests were. Friends were never good enough, etc...
It is strange how you begin to second guess your every move and allow this garbage you have been fed to eat it's way into your brain like a worm in an apple.
U know the things you enjoy and the goals you have are normal but yet you ask yourself, "am I being unfair?"
I suppose it is like a disease. I can't believe I allowed it and to this day allow it, to a degree. I hate confrontation and hate the way it affects a family.
Family, I look at my son and pray he never treats women that way. I will personally kick his ass! And my daughters, they better not allow this to happen to them. I see my oldest with boyfriends and I don't think she will.
It is easy to say I am weak and I should leave. Maybe I am. I guess that is for me to determine and to work out myself and I have a feeling I will in due time.
What really intrigues me is how a person can be so oblivious to what they are doing. My husband thinks he loves tremendously and sees no faults.
Maybe someone will read this and know they are not alone, or maybe they will read it and think, that I am crazy!
Cream Corn
Posted 11-05-2009 at 02:50 PM by gdgrlgnbd
What could possibly be significant about cream corn? It is not an exceptionally wonderful delicacy. Why is it I have 2 unopened cans on my desk?
The last time I ever saw my father was just after his birthday. I had been trying to get him to go out to lunch with me, he was such a tight ass, he never wanted me to spend the money on him. So instead one day he offers to bring me lunch at the office.
It was the most hilarious thing you ever saw. He brought heated up frozen burritos, a couple of sandwiches, some heated up frozen pizza and if I remember correctly, some hot dogs AND 2 cans of cream corn. Along with his handy dandy, manual can opener.
I obviously declined on the cream corn and we ate this smorgasbord of exquisite tasting varieties.
I had thought it so cute at the time. He was a truly one of a kind person. Had I known it would be the last time I would see him, well I am not sure I would have changed a thing. I am just happy to have my 2 cans of cream corn to remind me every day!
The last time I ever saw my father was just after his birthday. I had been trying to get him to go out to lunch with me, he was such a tight ass, he never wanted me to spend the money on him. So instead one day he offers to bring me lunch at the office.
It was the most hilarious thing you ever saw. He brought heated up frozen burritos, a couple of sandwiches, some heated up frozen pizza and if I remember correctly, some hot dogs AND 2 cans of cream corn. Along with his handy dandy, manual can opener.
I obviously declined on the cream corn and we ate this smorgasbord of exquisite tasting varieties.
I had thought it so cute at the time. He was a truly one of a kind person. Had I known it would be the last time I would see him, well I am not sure I would have changed a thing. I am just happy to have my 2 cans of cream corn to remind me every day!
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hmmm... what a great memory.. sometimes that is all we have left.. I dont' know how you look at that creamed corn and not cry.. I think I would..
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Posted 11-05-2009 at 04:29 PM by scoobertina
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Creamed corn goes great with "salt of the earth"! Cherish it always.
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Posted 11-05-2009 at 07:29 PM by MomentOfPassion
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OMG! I think that may have been the sweetest thing I've read here on M&F. Thanks for sharing.
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Posted 11-08-2009 at 09:46 PM by BlueEyedMale40
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