Watching partner/spouse ? - Page 3

LL · 09-08-2007, 09:46 AM

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Originally Posted by papabear48

I would love to watch a woman pleasure herself. Wife is not in the least interested tho

dude heard that bro. mine (EX bi$%h) was all about herself never giving the eye candy like that, but I got a mind and play it my head (the one on top)

romanceforu · 09-10-2007, 02:14 PM

I'm IN on the threesome deal......

skysthelimit · 09-10-2007, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by swifty

Hi everyone. I have had a fantasy about watching my wife. Watching her flirt, dance, get a massage and even .......

It seems to bring up a little jealousy but huge excitement as well.

I have watched her flirt, dance and she had a sports massage while on vacation but I have not seen her doing any real sexual acts apart from kissing another man before we were married.

So the question is, does this kind of thing turn you on as well?
I won't ask is this normal as that is a dumb question but more appropriately is this ok for the relationship or is it playing with fire?

My wife gets turned on by this as well and we talk about it openly although she is much more reluctant to actually do something in real life. That does not mean she is against it totally. It really seems to be a murky area but I think we are mature enough to discuss it.

One of my greatest beliefs is to keep up communication in a relationship, it is the only way.

Great topic. Way to go.

musicman1181 · 09-11-2007, 02:24 AM

yeah, that is no mans land for me...No one else for my mrs. I guess I wonder if there are many women who would love a husband like that...one who allows them to do that? And vice versa of course...

p.a · 09-12-2007, 02:04 PM

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Originally Posted by swifty

Hi everyone. I have had a fantasy about watching my wife. Watching her flirt, dance, get a massage and even .......

It seems to bring up a little jealousy but huge excitement as well.

I have watched her flirt, dance and she had a sports massage while on vacation but I have not seen her doing any real sexual acts apart from kissing another man before we were married.

So the question is, does this kind of thing turn you on as well?
I won't ask is this normal as that is a dumb question but more appropriately is this ok for the relationship or is it playing with fire?

My wife gets turned on by this as well and we talk about it openly although she is much more reluctant to actually do something in real life. That does not mean she is against it totally. It really seems to be a murky area but I think we are mature enough to discuss it.

One of my greatest beliefs is to keep up communication in a relationship, it is the only way.

Been there done that and it was great! Wife and I use to swing. There was some jealousy at first because men tend to wonder if the other guy is better and or bigger. But once you get past that it is great. There are web sites you can go to to get an idea about swinging. The most important thing is to talk it out, set ground rules, be very selective, keep the playing field level and the most important rule is that NO means NO. It could be a great experience or a very bad one. Before my wife became menopausal we met a lot of nice people and had lots of great road trips.
It's not for everybody

p.a · 09-12-2007, 02:07 PM

http://www.avantfind.com/search.asp?...about+swinging
This may help

blues · 09-12-2007, 10:05 PM

I am totally arroused by the fantasy of watching my wife with another man. Not just going through the motions but an active and wanting participant. I have no idea why but it is my ultimate turn on. She gets really into it when we are in bed together but I dont think she would actually go through with it.
Thoughts?

PS - to make it even wierder its even better if its someone we know. We both lose it!

a_hungm_houston · 11-20-2007, 09:52 AM

would love to watch my wife be seduced by a man then taken

Psynge · 11-08-2008, 01:25 AM

I'd love to watch my wife...but I would be a little nervous that she'd like him better than me....

Hands_solo · 11-08-2008, 09:22 AM

would defiantly be a big turn on , I know we came close a cple times back when the ole hot-tub was holding water still, but she backed out - However , in her mind if she ever went thru with it , that give's me a free pass to fool around with another women , which she ain't down with - Gotta be a pretty secure relationship before u go down that road

blu · 07-21-2009, 01:23 AM

i dont think i could do that

Danso · 07-21-2009, 01:54 AM

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Originally Posted by UltimateNaneki

Well I don't think I would like to watch my man getting hot with another woman....I would rather experiment different position with my man then share him with another!

Well, once you have run out of positions, you might start thinking about other people.

Danso · 07-21-2009, 02:08 AM

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Originally Posted by papabear48

I would love to watch a woman pleasure herself. Wife is not in the least interested tho

I can offer a suggestion on this one. When she's reluctant to masturbate for you, you can try making it unbearable for her NOT to. Presumably you have several toys that you use on her. Take one of these, ideally not a super intense one and keep the touches very, very light. Tease her. If it looks like she's getting close to orgasm, back off and kiss her elsewhere (stomach, side, legs). Each time, when you come back, keep the touches very light and teasing. Eventually, she is going to really want to cum and something is going to have to give. It's entirely possible that she'll pull the toy out of your hand to use it on herself. The very least you should shoot for the first time is seeing her hand creep close to yours, indicating that she's considering it.

If she does help, even a little, let her know that you enjoyed that and that it turned you on. Don't make a huge deal out of it but make it clear that you're completely OK with her doing that. Do not do this each time you play, but do it on occasion, attempting to get her comfortable whit playing in front of you and gradually getting her to do a little more.

You might also make a point to talk about why she does not want to play for you. One good point to make is that it's really hard to know what she wants unless she shows you (every woman seems to like slightly different things).

It's a gradual process but the end result is worth it.

calicple · 10-06-2009, 07:15 PM

My wife and I have had our fair share of threesomes with other females. She is bisexual and loves the touch of another woman. she says she's not comfortable being with another man. Especially since she came out of the closet our so called (guy friends) have tried getting with her by asking her for pics or to hook up with their wife and giving them a threesome without me knowing. Not to jump off topic we have discussed the possibilty of another guy but she's not comfortable. She is open for a one time swap with another couple. but it would have to be same room. It would make her feel safer if im there and the fact that im with his wife turns her on!!! the couple we find interesting are old friends of mine and live in another state. the ladies have discussed it before but havent brought it up for a while now.

Watching her I know would be a turn on but also scary like other posts have said. so take it slow and talk it over with your wife go to adult clubs and adult conventions and see how far your sexual explorations want to go before jumping into something that you both might regret.

goaway113 · 10-08-2009, 12:02 AM

I have fantasized about watching my wife with two other guys at the same time.

I often fantasize about my wife watching me with another woman...

hotlady702 · 03-18-2010, 07:40 AM

this may sound bad ....but i'm a big flirt and love to perform for my husband ...but i get really jealous when he does it lol...but that's ok he likes to watch rather than partake

sexychitchat(m) · 03-18-2010, 08:28 AM

Swifty
very dangerous as if u watch here and she enjoys it more than when she is with you I think u might not be so happy to watch. If she enjoyed it so much she might want to do it again but this time let herself fully go without you seeing how much she really did enjoy it. If you went to swingers party and bodies verywhere it might be different. Me I could never sit and watch anyone have sex as I would want to join in

MikeyLikesIt · 03-28-2010, 08:37 AM

Has anyone ever watched a friend or lover be with someone else?

I have a friend that I have fooled around with in the past. And she tells me two things.

She wants to be with another woman...and also a black man..and wants me to watch.

anyone ever experienced anything like this?

Tempest · 03-28-2010, 08:42 AM

I haven't. But would enjoy being watched. Kind of like a threesome, but my man wouldn't participate. Just enjoy the view of me being taken by someone else. Not sure why that appeals to me, but it does.

MikeyLikesIt · 03-28-2010, 08:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Tempest

I haven't. But would enjoy being watched. Kind of like a threesome, but my man wouldn't participate. Just enjoy the view of me being taken by someone else. Not sure why that appeals to me, but it does.

yea, something about it is hot. almost taboo.

Han Solo · 03-28-2010, 08:45 AM

Never even crossed my mind as something even remotely interesting to me

neil48 · 03-28-2010, 08:55 AM

Nah, not my cup of tea.

Han Solo · 03-28-2010, 09:00 AM

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Originally Posted by neil48

Nah, not my cup of tea.

Now Neil on the other hand...............well I'd PAY to watch him ravaged

(nice av btw)

But for me, if I got to the point of wanting to watch her with someone else.........for me that would mean I no longer wanted her or respected "us", so I can't imagine ever getting to that point.....

~freshly~ · 03-28-2010, 09:09 AM

nope ~ strangers on a screen is good enough for a little visual stimulation, couldn't watch or be watched by some one I had feelings for.

neil48 · 03-28-2010, 09:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Han Solo

Now Neil on the other hand...............well I'd PAY to watch him ravaged

(nice av btw)

But for me, if I got to the point of wanting to watch her with someone else.........for me that would mean I no longer wanted her or respected "us", so I can't imagine ever getting to that point.....

Well Hans your the reason I longer enjoy it, all those barking commands you made from that one time........pffft......

09-12-2007, 10:05 PM	#57
blues I Like Flirting Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Long Island Age: 53 Posts: 1 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	My 2 cents I am totally arroused by the fantasy of watching my wife with another man. Not just going through the motions but an active and wanting participant. I have no idea why but it is my ultimate turn on. She gets really into it when we are in bed together but I dont think she would actually go through with it. Thoughts? PS - to make it even wierder its even better if its someone we know. We both lose it!

03-18-2010, 08:28 AM	#67
sexychitchat(m) HW&S with TINK Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: UK Age: 58 Posts: 9,338 Thanks: 35 Thanked 421 Times in 397 Posts Blog Entries: 3	Swifty very dangerous as if u watch here and she enjoys it more than when she is with you I think u might not be so happy to watch. If she enjoyed it so much she might want to do it again but this time let herself fully go without you seeing how much she really did enjoy it. If you went to swingers party and bodies verywhere it might be different. Me I could never sit and watch anyone have sex as I would want to join in __________________

03-28-2010, 08:37 AM	#68
MikeyLikesIt Super Flirt Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: NJ Age: 36 Posts: 120 Thanks: 3 Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts	Watching others... Has anyone ever watched a friend or lover be with someone else? I have a friend that I have fooled around with in the past. And she tells me two things. She wants to be with another woman...and also a black man..and wants me to watch. anyone ever experienced anything like this?

03-28-2010, 08:45 AM	#71
Han Solo Back in Meh-Trocity Join Date: Aug 2007 Age: 42 Posts: 21,260 Thanks: 1,911 Thanked 7,364 Times in 4,585 Posts	Never even crossed my mind as something even remotely interesting to me __________________ I don't hate people. I just feel better when they aren't around.

03-28-2010, 09:09 AM	#74
~freshly~ totally singed... Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: in the paradise of my mind.. Age: 51 Posts: 2,279 Thanks: 354 Thanked 400 Times in 315 Posts	nope ~ strangers on a screen is good enough for a little visual stimulation, couldn't watch or be watched by some one I had feelings for. __________________ LiFe is ShOrt ~ BrEak the RulEs, ForGivE QuicKlY, KisS SlOwlY, LovE TrUlY, LaUgh UncOntRollAblY aNd nEveR rEgeT AnyThiNg tHat MadE yoU SmiLe.....

09-10-2007, 02:14 PM	#52
romanceforu I Like Flirting Join Date: Sep 2007 Age: 46 Posts: 123 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	I'm IN on the threesome deal......

09-11-2007, 02:24 AM	#54
musicman1181 Super Flirt Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Atlanta, GA Age: 32 Posts: 165 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	yeah, that is no mans land for me...No one else for my mrs. I guess I wonder if there are many women who would love a husband like that...one who allows them to do that? And vice versa of course...

09-12-2007, 02:07 PM	#56
p.a Flirting God Join Date: Sep 2007 Age: 62 Posts: 1,132 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	http://www.avantfind.com/search.asp?...about+swinging This may help

11-20-2007, 09:52 AM	#58
a_hungm_houston I Like Flirting Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Stafford, tx, near houston Age: 52 Posts: 133 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	would love to watch my wife be seduced by a man then taken

11-08-2008, 01:25 AM	#59
Psynge Flirting God Join Date: Nov 2008 Age: 48 Posts: 1,264 Thanks: 80 Thanked 176 Times in 132 Posts	I'd love to watch my wife...but I would be a little nervous that she'd like him better than me....

11-08-2008, 09:22 AM	#60
Hands_solo Super Flirt Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Alberta Age: 44 Posts: 154 Thanks: 1 Thanked 20 Times in 12 Posts	would defiantly be a big turn on , I know we came close a cple times back when the ole hot-tub was holding water still, but she backed out - However , in her mind if she ever went thru with it , that give's me a free pass to fool around with another women , which she ain't down with - Gotta be a pretty secure relationship before u go down that road

07-21-2009, 01:23 AM	#61
blu Flirting Guest I Love It Here Join Date: Jun 2009 Age: 55 Posts: 5,846 Thanks: 759 Thanked 584 Times in 488 Posts	i dont think i could do that

10-06-2009, 07:15 PM	#64
calicple Super Flirt Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Cali baby!!! =D Age: 39 Posts: 331 Thanks: 68 Thanked 26 Times in 25 Posts	My wife and I have had our fair share of threesomes with other females. She is bisexual and loves the touch of another woman. she says she's not comfortable being with another man. Especially since she came out of the closet our so called (guy friends) have tried getting with her by asking her for pics or to hook up with their wife and giving them a threesome without me knowing. Not to jump off topic we have discussed the possibilty of another guy but she's not comfortable. She is open for a one time swap with another couple. but it would have to be same room. It would make her feel safer if im there and the fact that im with his wife turns her on!!! the couple we find interesting are old friends of mine and live in another state. the ladies have discussed it before but havent brought it up for a while now. Watching her I know would be a turn on but also scary like other posts have said. so take it slow and talk it over with your wife go to adult clubs and adult conventions and see how far your sexual explorations want to go before jumping into something that you both might regret.

10-08-2009, 12:02 AM	#65
goaway113 Living in Ecstasy Join Date: May 2008 Location: New York Age: 32 Posts: 233 Thanks: 45 Thanked 18 Times in 18 Posts	I have fantasized about watching my wife with two other guys at the same time. I often fantasize about my wife watching me with another woman...

03-18-2010, 07:40 AM	#66
hotlady702 Super Flirt Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: illinois Age: 49 Posts: 193 Thanks: 0 Thanked 20 Times in 17 Posts	this may sound bad ....but i'm a big flirt and love to perform for my husband ...but i get really jealous when he does it lol...but that's ok he likes to watch rather than partake

03-28-2010, 08:42 AM	#69
Tempest Flirting Guest I Love It Here Join Date: Jun 2009 Age: 40 Posts: 13,707 Thanks: 4,980 Thanked 2,883 Times in 2,258 Posts	I haven't. But would enjoy being watched. Kind of like a threesome, but my man wouldn't participate. Just enjoy the view of me being taken by someone else. Not sure why that appeals to me, but it does.

03-28-2010, 08:55 AM	#72
neil48 Flirting God Join Date: Mar 2009 Age: 53 Posts: 6,017 Thanks: 771 Thanked 1,182 Times in 1,023 Posts	Nah, not my cup of tea.