Sex with the same gender

[Dsparate Hswife]

I have never and do not have interest in having sex with another woman. There is nothing like the feel of a man....IMHO.....

[MomentOfPassion]

Like others, men's reaction to this subject has always intrigued me when so many at least appear to not just tolerate two women, but encourage it and see it as erotic. I'm not repulsed by it - rather I see it as another aspect of sexuality/sensuality. As for me, having never encountered the opportunity, I really don't know how I would react.

[Dragon_lady]

I've never got the double standard on this particular topic... men are so sensitive about sexual orientation....

Ok, never did, except a little kissing
Not only consider it, but its on the "list", although i'm not attracted, i'm very curious about it.
3some, 4some, one on one... all good in my mind anyway!

[Ricki Raxxx]

Part of a threesome long time ago ...

[Rex]

Originally Posted by Dragon_lady

I've never got the double standard on this particular topic... men are so sensitive about sexual orientation....

Ok, never did, except a little kissing
Not only consider it, but its on the "list", although i'm not attracted, i'm very curious about it.
3some, 4some, one on one... all good in my mind anyway!

Quite true.
Some men are very "defensive" about it. Others really don't care.
I personally, have no interest in men. Sorry guys.

Hey D L
how about a 2some to start !!

[scobbydoo]

Cant say what I woud do or or my wife in a threesome or with another couple,, suppose ther hve beed drinks involved,which is very likley, we have all done things in that situation, that we may not admit,,,,

[Down to Zero]

Originally Posted by Sneaky

I agree...but one of the questions was "Would you consider it?"

I agree with Brink too. We are so open here with so many parts of sexuality but when this topic is discussed most of the men are quick to say "No way in hell!". I don't know..I think sexuality can be a somewhat fluid thing that can change. I've never been with another woman but there have been select times that I have found myself attracted to one. I think I'm way straight but there are moments that I think I'd be open to it. I can't imagine men NOT having the same moments..there's just a stigma attatched to them voicing it.

I agree whole heartedly about women. That is kind of what I was getting in my post.

With men I don't think its so much the stigma of voicing it but I think it's more about us being wired different than Woman.

Woman tend to be more emotion driven in their sexuality than men. That leads to them building intimate emotional relationships to each other which can lead to "romantic" or "sexual" type feelings toward each other. Men on the other hand tend to be more on the physical and visual spectrum and guarded about our emotions. By nature I believe that most of the time we just do not developed those types of feelings for each other.

Take me for example. I may not show it often but I'm about as emotional as a guy gets with out crossing over into the fairy realm. I have close knit group of best friends who I can say I Love and have been friends with for the better part of 20+ years. I can look at a man and say he is an attractive guy or not... still I have never once developed, wanted, or even thought about being physically intimate in with a man. There is 0 attraction to me for my own gender.

I believe that you would find it is far more common in Woman than it is in Men. I know that has been the case with "most" women I have meet have had this same thought at some point. I can also say that "most" Men that I have been close to this has also been the case ... we just tend to not find each other attractive in that way.

Now these are generalizations bordering on stereotypes. The fact is that it does happen both ways. Not all women have had the thoughts or attraction to the same sex and some men have had those emotions and feelings. I just tend to believe the reason its more common one way and no the other is because of the way men and women are by nature.

Either way I'm not condemning men who feel this way, everyone is entitled to their emotions, likes, and dislikes. If that is what floats your boat go for it ...

[pointofnoreturn]

Originally Posted by Musing64

I'd rather do a knothole in a tree than another dude...

[pointofnoreturn]

When I was very very young, I kissed another woman. I mean really kissed her. Felt different, but not sure it was right for me or not. Now that I am sooooooooo much older.....Who knows????

[Sneaky]

Originally Posted by Down to Zero

I can look at a man and say he is an attractive guy or not... still I have never once developed, wanted, or even thought about being physically intimate in with a man. There is 0 attraction to me for my own gender.

NOT that there's anything wrong with that! LOL.

[disturbiagirl]

I was involved in a threesome with another couple and definitely prefered him to her. The next threesome I do will involve 2 men.....and that's all I've got to say about that!

[virgochick]

No I haven't done anything sexual with a woman; but gotta admit I'm soooo curious. Besides I don't want to miss out on a single pleasure.

[ldon]

Originally Posted by Kinkawon

Have you done it?
Would you consider it?
How about as part of a threesome or similar encounter?

Dude,

What would possess you to ask such a question? If you are gay, that's certainly ok but you question just doesn't seem the kind a straight guy would ask.

It would be like me asking if any guys liked taking it in the ass. See what I mean? No offense meant.

[Dragon_lady]

Originally Posted by Rex

Quite true.
Some men are very "defensive" about it. Others really don't care.
I personally, have no interest in men. Sorry guys.

Hey D L
how about a 2some to start !!

Its a nice way to start... and in this scenario, you're sitting close by and watching intently? Maybe giving a few instructions?

[Down to Zero]

Originally Posted by Sneaky

NOT that there's anything wrong with that! LOL.

Hey now .. just because I can look at David Beckham and say .. Man I would let him stick the tip in doesn't make me attracted to him .. No Homo ..

[jimmy-love-fl]

Originally Posted by virgochick

No I haven't done anything sexual with a woman; but gotta admit I'm soooo curious. Besides I don't want to miss out on a single pleasure.

It sounds like your location is very accurate.

[Brink]

Originally Posted by Down to Zero

I would have to respectfully disagree here ...

It has nothing to do with people being uncomfortable with the subject. It just a question that was indirectly meant to be asked toward females under the pretenses of being a forum wide.

Using logic here we can deduce that there is not a forum with a large homosexual demographic due to it's nature. Most males would never admit to the fact that they had a homosexual encounter if they consider themselves straight. That is simply not in our nature....

On the flip side same sex encounters for females are much more common due to their emotional nature and sense of bonding. Not saying that all girls like girls but its much more common place period among the female straight community to have had some form of encounter same sex encounter due to those factors.

Plus it's much more acceptable in this forum in the sense that guys would think 2 girls are hot .. the same can't be said about women and 2 dudes ..lol

You might be right about the demographic to a degree, but it's a myth that every man who has established their heterosexuality couldn't at some point have had fleeting homosexual experiences. Out of the 1000s of men here, the probability has to be many. For me, though, it’s beside the point as to how many have done what exactly; I don't think it's essential to experience something in order to feel at ease about it!

What is necessary is a non-judging, freely expressive forum, however, and not this sense of abruptness whenever certain subjects are raised. Granted, not everyone does feel uncomfortable, DTZ - thanks for stepping up and offering some insights, aiding the discussion! Nothing will change on the forum if we don’t take the opportunity to truly challenge some instilled avoidance.

With that in mind, I suppose I’d better say something more than “no” myself....hmmm, and I can see that for most there is nothing much to say! I don’t shy away from brotherly affection when it’s required, but actual romantic/sexual stuff has not appealed, and I’ve had the odd offer! I can’t account for every single thought I’ve ever entertained, though. I know I've pondered killing another man.

Just to add further, according to the most recent British research, by far more women have dabbled with “fleeting” homosexual experiences than men - that much is true. However, the conclusion of research is that it's simply because of a widening social acceptance. This fits with reportedly a big increase in fleeting between young women, but not nearly as big a rise between young men. I would have thought there would be little rise in female experimentation if an age-old nurturing/bonding theory was guiding the situation. It seems that social acceptance of any behaviour leads to more of that behaviour. I use the term ‘behaviour’ as these fleeting experiences are clearly different in manner to established homosexuality...

When you adjust the statistics to take into account that the widening social acceptance, especially for young women, has lead to more openness, and, therefore, a wider disclosure (as you were hitting on, DTZ) the occurrence of lesbianism is actually not that different from male homosexuality. Lesbianism is not more common, hence you don't often see the statistics about homosexuality broken down into gender.

Society has made larger strides towards lesbianism, yet there’s been no large uptake as it's become more accepted, and it hasn't quickly overtaken male homosexuality, which, although becoming more acknowledged, has been slower to gain approval. This fact leads some scientists to believe that a gay gene is present in humans - opposed to social & environmental theories, which could alter the frequency over time.

[Avibeagle]

Have had incidental contact while participating in a MFM threesome. As far as one on one sex with another male... haven't considered it and not even remotely interested.

[skysthelimit]

Originally Posted by highvoltage1951

Not a matter of condemning or condoning someone else's lifestyle. Missing the point.
Just answering the question.
No
No
No

Very good point. I didn't think that the questions posed meant anything except to be answered simply.

As for me, NO, NO, and NO!

[Penny]

Yes and yes and yes would do it again if I could find willing partner

[Fwd40s]

Originally Posted by Penny

Yes and yes and yes would do it again if I could find willing partner

I'll volunteer !!! Oh wait, I'm not the same gender as you....but I am the same gender as myself so maybe then you, me and myself.

Sorry....I couldn't resist the smart ass comment to your post.

[Denny422]

Originally Posted by Penny

Yes and yes and yes would do it again if I could find willing partner

Well! I'll bet YOUR PM box is full before the night is over!!!

Or the next hour for that matter.........

You should have lots of "takers" on THAT "teaser"!

[Kinkawon]

I find it interesting that it is ok and even desirable for two women to have sex, but not ok for two men.
I've even know some porn stars who would only do girl on girl movies because their husbands didn't want them to have sex with another man. but that's besides the point.

I did actually start the forum to see what both men and women felt about the subject.

Honestly, I'm one of those who doesn't find men attractive, but I'm all for letting him join the fun to spice it up a bit.

I don't think of myself as straight or even bi, but perhaps a bit of a sex addict. From that point of view the sex is more important than the gender of the person involved.

So now the next question would be would your answer be different if you met a transgender and couldn't tell s/he was the same gender physically?

[mongoluvcandy]

Yes, I have, and enjoyed it. Mongo does swing both ways on occasion.

Yes, see above.

Threesomes rock! Both MFM and FMF. Done 'em both. If you haven't yet, give it a try, highly recommended. With the right people...

Men are hard and crunchy, women are soft and chewy, it's a textural thing... :-) Definitely much prefer women, but men have a certain appeal at times...

Mongo

[learman3]

No...