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Old 10-16-2010, 02:06 PM   #1
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As a result of an interesting discussion I had the other day, I thought I would start this thread.

Hypothetically speaking, if you were to have a physical (meaning not strictly cyber or emotional) fling or an affair, which would make more sense to you...locally or long distance?

I see pros & cons for both sides of the coin...but which would you prefer, IF you were considering an affair?? (because we know that nobody really is, this is just a flirting site, right?)
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Old 10-16-2010, 07:23 PM   #2
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Well the subtitle for the website is "Looking for something extra?" I wonder what that means to most of the people on here?
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I'm thinking it would take just as long to plan a local hook up as it does to plan a long distance one. Other than running the risk of a local, common acquaintance or interest, I doubt it would matter either way.
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it's long distance here.....double edged sword....*sighs*
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Well, first they have to NOT make me insane.
That's a toughy.
I would PREFER just far enough away that I can't be a bonehead at times but if very far they have a plan or are willing to come to me. And I live in the fridged north. NOT a primo vacation spot.
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Old 10-16-2010, 08:39 PM   #6
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Is an hour and a half away considered local?
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Well this is a intresting thread, at the moment I am involved with someone 800 miles from me, we talk as much as we can and have met twice, to be honest I do wish we were closer but then again would we take more chances. I will say since meeting I find it harder not to see her and touch her. but it is what it is. I think the emotional side is stronger and the desire for each other makes it wonderfull when we do get together. just my thoughts.
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Long long long distance much better I am thinking.. too close..makes for getting on the nerves.. just my thoughts..
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Old 10-16-2010, 11:15 PM   #9
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Distance doesn't matter for the right person.
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Hour away would be good...

...or bad!
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Old 10-16-2010, 11:53 PM   #11
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I guess if you were going to do it further away would be better. I have always heard you don't shit where you eat
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I'm thinking out of town would be better. No chance of running into each other when you're not expecting it. Plus not being able to see each other anytime would add more to the excitement. Local would cause too many problems IMO.
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i disagree with CM, local is better, close by, no issues with travel, call anytime as long as you have limits set, so local is way better, I have done travel, it's a hassel trust me.
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i disagree with CM, local is better, close by, no issues with travel, call anytime as long as you have limits set, so local is way better, I have done travel, it's a hassel trust me.
I guess you don't wanna have a long distance relationship with me then?
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As a result of an interesting discussion I had the other day, I thought I would start this thread.

Hypothetically speaking, if you were to have a physical (meaning not strictly cyber or emotional) fling or an affair, which would make more sense to you...locally or long distance?

I see pros & cons for both sides of the coin...but which would you prefer, IF you were considering an affair?? (because we know that nobody really is, this is just a flirting site, right?)

Are you going to answer your own question? Curious what you would want.
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Old 10-17-2010, 12:47 AM   #16
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Are you going to answer your own question? Curious what you would want.
Oh you are, hmmm???? Look for a PM....

I suppose I should put some sort of definition on local....anything within 100 miles (give or take).

Anything much closer than that would spell disaster, IMO. Much too easy to get sloppy, take things for granted, long for a quickie...And heaven forbid, you get involved with Glenn Close....

Of course....we're only talking hypothetically...
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Since I was the other half of PA's "interesting discussion," I guess I'll chime in here, too.

I can understand wanting distance for all sorts of reasons, but my own preference is to at least see the person who, beating all other contenders in the Crazy Olympics, captured my attention enough to get a few online conversations out of me. So I'd like it very much if it wasn't a Herculean feat to get together, if only occasionally.
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maybe with the next door neighbor... on both sides lol
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It's such a challenge falling in love or just feeling 'in lust' with someone online that adding any extra considerations past who you're attracted to, such as their location, just creates even more barriers and 'reasons' why someone isn't suitable for you! I think the overriding factor has to be finding someone you gel with. As one of the advantages of meeting someone online is the bare open window into their soul, I'd be more concerned about their internet speed at this stage! Besides which, if someone is already thinking in terms of how to meet you, then perhaps they aren't looking to get to know you - perhaps anyone in the right area will do.

Having said that, similar cultures, backgrounds and familiarities might, naturally, play a part in establishing/maintaining a connection! While you can bridge a lot of personal differences while in person, sharing certain focal points might give you a better grounding in reality if you're apart - a feeling that you breathe the same air out there, share the same weather fronts! It's probably harder to imagine the life of someone if you're not sure whether what they describe to you translates accurately.

But, eitherway, if/when you do meet, hypothetically speaking, the 'distance' you are apart turns into a 'time' and 'money' discussion - as in it becomes an equation to overcome, that is all....And if you really want to meet someone, it can be another way of showing them how special they are. Conversely, if you live so close by that you could just meet them on a whim, with no "cooling off" equation, then you're forever relying on the premise that you would take enough precautions before taking that step:- that, as exciting though it might be, you wouldn't just 'make the most' of the situation....and, in a moment of madness, just pick them up from your local town centre!

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Long distance. Hopefully things wouldn't be as complicated.
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Not to far away so we could meet and it would not take to long to plan. Not to close so we would have to worry about running into each other at unplanned times. So I would say, across town would work very well, especially in a big city.
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No Idea. I will corss the bridge when I come to it. :-)
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across town is desirable but not always feasible..... but i wouldn't mind a long drive, or a short flight
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it depends what you are looking for ... i feel if you're still in a relationship with your spouse then in my opinion i would prefer it long distance ..... the further the better .....relationships are complicated as it is .... risking bumping into each other or getting caught by someone you know would really make the situation worse ... not to mention the tention and the problems that would arrise form the very emberassing situation ..... but if both sides are in love and would like to take the next step then local would would be better ....just because i would honestly want to feel his touch and see him and have conversations with him while holding his hands ... but then again ....if it is long distance and it gets that much more serious then i guess both parties can think about moving closer ..well it is just my two cent worth comment ...
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I don't think there are any right or wrong answers here. Clearly arguments for both cases make sense. It all depends on the individual and what they are looking for. But to answer the question for myself, should I ever decide that route, I agree with fwd distance wouldn't matter to me for the right person, including locally. If I met someone I had a strong connection with and chose to take it further, I would try to make it work.. if he lived 2 min from me, or on the other side of the country. If it doesn't work, at least I tried.
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