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Old 03-28-2011, 09:42 PM   #51
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I dont think it can be just sex you have to have some sort of connection even if its friendship because u need to care about the person and have a phyical attraction to get turned on.
And really the greatest sex i have had was with a friend and we both know our limits so all is good...
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Old 03-28-2011, 10:14 PM   #52
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I dont think it can be just sex you have to have some sort of connection even if its friendship because u need to care about the person and have a phyical attraction to get turned on.
And really the greatest sex i have had was with a friend and we both know our limits so all is good...
I agree totally
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Old 03-28-2011, 11:07 PM   #53
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Depends. A one-night stand or short-term thing can definitely be just sex. But I totally agree with Barkiss that it frequently becomes more than just sex - at least for one of the parties involved (usually the woman if you believe the research).
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Old 03-29-2011, 04:20 AM   #54
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yes it can be just sex - but rarely for both people involved.
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Old 03-29-2011, 06:34 AM   #55
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So basically, no it is never "just sex", but I will admit that the fantasy of "just sex" is appealing in some ways.
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Old 03-29-2011, 05:10 PM   #56
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There has to be some feeling and if there isn't I probably wouldn't do it
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Old 05-10-2011, 01:43 AM   #57
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A woman approached me once and said, "Excuse me, may I borrow your penis?" - I guess for some, it's just sex. Or, she just misplaced her dildo.
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Old 05-10-2011, 02:14 AM   #58
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Old 05-10-2011, 02:27 AM   #59
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well if you have to think about it then its a no..I am sure someone will pity me and just sex me
Do you have to put a year limit on it?
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Old 05-10-2011, 02:30 AM   #60
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Sure it can be, but is it worth it without at least some connection?
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Old 05-10-2011, 03:30 AM   #61
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For me it's only "just sex" if I didn't care about the woman involved. That's rare.
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Old 05-10-2011, 05:11 AM   #62
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For me it can never be "just sex". I don't want to have sex with someone I don't have feelings for. It feels so much better when you do.....

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Old 05-10-2011, 05:59 AM   #63
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"Just sex" is very difficult for me , i like wild uninhibited and crazy. That involves connection and trust. so by definition, it's not "just sex"
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Old 05-10-2011, 06:08 AM   #64
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I need the connection. Probably why I've never had a one night stand.
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Old 05-10-2011, 06:12 AM   #65
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yes it can but it takes negotiation on both sides ... you MUST be on the same page
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Old 05-10-2011, 06:23 AM   #66
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I have had just sex, after that initial thrill--"its just sex"--
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Old 05-10-2011, 08:15 AM   #67
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Yes...thus getting some strange. And it's phuh-nominal.
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Old 05-10-2011, 08:25 AM   #68
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Yeah, that kinda sums it up. I think it's better with some kind of "connection," but you do have to be on the same page
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Old 05-10-2011, 08:33 AM   #69
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i think it can be 'just sex' but i don't believe it's ever earth shaking or world rocking. i firmly believe you need to have all senses and emotions involved for that. the words 'just sex' simply by definition imply a sense of selfishness and sex should be about both giving in to yourself completely and of yourself completely; when can you do that without strings?
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Old 05-10-2011, 08:39 AM   #70
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If I wanted just sex, i'll take a long shower, or continue having bad sex at home. Just sex was the bad hookups in college (well some were really good). Completely agree with Smart above, you need to have some level of connection to let it rise above just a physical act.
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if I ever have sex again it will be with a friend.. and it will be just sex.. sure I will care about the person.. but no love anymore... that is a thing of the past for me..
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Old 05-10-2011, 09:01 AM   #72
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if I ever have sex again it will be with a friend.. and it will be just sex.. sure I will care about the person.. but no love anymore... that is a thing of the past for me..
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Old 05-10-2011, 06:47 PM   #73
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Unfortunately, I will have to agree here. I wish the ladder was true, but I don't think it is.
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Old 05-10-2011, 07:01 PM   #74
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I had a couple of "just sex" relationships while I was gong through my divorce. It worked great. And the sex was awesome. The chemistry was there but no one was wanting anything more than sex. It was exactly what I needed at the time ...
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I had a couple of "just sex" relationships while I was gong through my divorce. It worked great. And the sex was awesome. The chemistry was there but no one was wanting anything more than sex. It was exactly what I needed at the time ...
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