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Old 10-15-2011, 04:32 PM   #1
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Is a marriage without love and sex....truly a marriage....or just cohabitation.........
in my case...cohabitation

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A marriage without love and sex is still a marriage...it's just DOA and waiting on the paperwork to be completed.
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A marriage without love is roommates.
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A marriage without love is like Barbecue without food, whats the point?
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I didn't love my ex for most of our marriage... actually probably more like from the beginning... I had no clue what love was nor did I really believe in it.. I will say though that it was a marriage... we respected each other.. we were friends.. we both took part in doing thing to make the marriage work.. it was the one that most people thought was going to last forever even though they didn't know why we were together as we were complete opposites..

but it was still a marriage until the day we separated..
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Old 10-15-2011, 06:28 PM   #6
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in my case...cohabitation

sorry its cohabitation. Might as well live with a friend
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LMAO, try telling that to the judge when she says you're "Friend" is getting your car, house, savings, and dog......oh yeah, and kids...and you get to pay your friend's bills.
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I didn't love my ex for most of our marriage... actually probably more like from the beginning... I had no clue what love was nor did I really believe in it.. I will say though that it was a marriage... we respected each other.. we were friends.. we both took part in doing thing to make the marriage work.. it was the one that most people thought was going to last forever even though they didn't know why we were together as we were complete opposites..

but it was still a marriage until the day we separated..
Sounds familiar, most people still ask why my SO and I are together. We dont really have any shared interests besides our kids. In the many years weve been married it has felt like roomates more then once.
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Kentx I think you have it spot on!

No love left for my husband, no lust... just duty. I cook for my kids, may as well make another meal for him too.

However, I think room mates actually talk to each other and make each other laugh don't they?
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My ex and I were more like buddies....we could have fun together (if he was on his meds), but there was no affection, no "love" and no sex. There was also NO trust and little communication. There's a lot more to the story of course, but the end result was the divorce.
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My philosophy on this - when there's no love or sex - is to starting shaking the walls.

If no joy - then shake the walls harder. Marriage is a tough institution and in my opinion requires whatever it takes to keep it alive, to wake-up the sleepy spouse, to show him or her that the status quo will not do.
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My philosophy on this - when there's no love or sex - is to starting shaking the walls.

If no joy - then shake the walls harder. Marriage is a tough institution and in my opinion requires whatever it takes to keep it alive, to wake-up the sleepy spouse, to show him or her that the status quo will not do.

I shook the walls more than the SF Earthquake did. Nothing happened. So I left. NOW he's making the promises that he'll change, that he can make me happy... why NOW??? Why not when I told him I was leaving? Why not when I left??? I'm over it.
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I shook the walls more than the SF Earthquake did. Nothing happened. So I left. NOW he's making the promises that he'll change, that he can make me happy... why NOW??? Why not when I told him I was leaving? Why not when I left??? I'm over it.
To women men are slow-learners and take too long to makes changes to the point that they don't seem to do anything, but let me say - au contraire, don't you realize Rome wasn't built in a day? Men need time to formulate, make up plans, think about the next course of action, then thoughtfully, after long deliberation, carry out their plans. If women would only stick around long enough to see the wonderful plans we have in store for them.
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To women men are slow-learners and take too long to makes changes to the point that they don't seem to do anything, but let me say - au contraire, don't you realize Rome wasn't built in a day? Men need time to formulate, make up plans, think about the next course of action, then thoughtfully, after long deliberation, carry out their plans. If women would only stick around long enough to see the wonderful plans we have in store for them.

So what you are saying is that I should have waited longer than 18 years?
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So what you are saying is that I should have waited longer than 18 years?
LOL...so you didn't find blueprints for the dream house he was secretly working on when he moved his stuff out and those brochures he had been collecting for romantic getaways?
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LOL...so you didn't find blueprints for the dream house he was secretly working on when he moved his stuff out and those brochures he had been collecting for romantic getaways?

Ummmm, not so much. I did however, find bills that he had hidden from me and a pair of my panties under the couch that he jacked off on, instead of having sex with me.....does that count??
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Ummmm, not so much. I did however, find bills that he had hidden from me and a pair of my panties under the couch that he jacked off on, instead of having sex with me.....does that count??
Yes at first glance, it would appear that men can be up to no good, but the bills were actually legitimate expenses incurred to pay for the wonderful surprise he had in store for you and those panties tucked away meant that he dreamt of you day and night.
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