Do You Feel Like You Fit In??

oz_nymph. · 09-22-2012, 11:45 PM

So, guys and gals Im just wondering who. if any of you feel like you don't fit in with the rest of the members on here?

I personally feel like I'm doing something wrong (although I won't be changing who I am anyway). I'd love to have a couple of girlfriends/guyfriends I'm not picky that I can joke around with, share stuff I don't want made public and debrief with) but no matter what I do I seem to be repelling people (that may be a little over dramatic!).

Does anyone feel this way? Or have you felt this way and been able to oversome it? If you've overcome it, explain how you did it....

notomorrow · 09-22-2012, 11:49 PM

Just be who you are. Be true to yourself and just say "fuck it" to the rest of it. You'll find your niche or you'll stand apart, but either way, don't worry about it too much. It'll be alright.

Dixie Peach · 09-22-2012, 11:53 PM

I've been here awhile and have felt the way you do...

gotahallpass100 · 09-23-2012, 12:08 AM

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Originally Posted by notomorrow

Just be who you are. Be true to yourself and just say "fuck it" to the rest of it. You'll find your niche or you'll stand apart, but either way, don't worry about it too much. It'll be alright.

that's about as well said as it will get ... emphasis on don't worry about it too much

Jelly · 09-23-2012, 12:14 AM

I don't fit in .. AT ALL. Not here. Not anywhere. I kinda prefer it that way

tink062570 · 09-23-2012, 12:14 AM

I gave up fitting in .. i am just me ... either it works or it doesnt

Jelly · 09-23-2012, 12:15 AM

Btw I really like you

Yodameister · 09-23-2012, 12:16 AM

No, but I really don't care!

chicagoff · 09-23-2012, 12:16 AM

I am the same, I don't fit in anywhere either. But that is part of the fun of being me.

jjone · 09-23-2012, 12:20 AM

I bet thers are many that feel the same way, that they haven't built the relationships that it seems others on the site have. I feel that way too. Just be yourself and have fun...u seem cool

daisyduck · 09-23-2012, 12:22 AM

i dont fit in but i dont care , i am just ducky thats it.

notomorrow · 09-23-2012, 12:26 AM

So Oz...judging by the responses on this thread, you fit in just fine...coz no one fits in!

Jelly · 09-23-2012, 12:28 AM

I keep coming back to this thread.

I'm thinking back to when I was new. I was the most hated girl on this site. Admittedly I probably deserved it but that's how it was. It took me a LONG time to even feel comfortable posting with any if the women here. They already had strong friendships with each other. But after a while I just kinda jumped in. And I've made some amazing friendships here over the years. One that I consider my best friend. She was with me on my wedding day. And I have others that I text almost daily. They are on my Facebook. And known by my family as my friends.

Give it time. Don't stress too much. Be who you are and don't apologize for it. And, like i have offered in the past, if you ever need a friend you are welcome to message me.

oz_nymph. · 09-23-2012, 12:46 AM

Thanks for your input everyone. Theres some great advice I've been given and for anyone else that may feel like I do. Jelly - thank you

scoobertina · 09-23-2012, 12:51 AM

Hell no I don't fit in.. Never have, never will.. I don't have but one close friend on this site... I have always danced to my own beat in the forums and I will continue..

I have to say that there are times when I wish I could be funny and witty and banter around like others do... but I can't.. never will be able to.. so I accept who I am.. and pay no attention to being one of the crowd..

I just need my bestie..

Pinewood · 09-23-2012, 12:52 AM

There are people here that have been talking and getting to know each other for years it seems! And they have built great solid relationships!
People GET who they are ....
As a newbie I can honestly say I've been made to feel very welcome but also understand it takes time to build trust and relationships! Whatever form those are!
Just trying to be me though and hope I fit in!

oz_nymph. · 09-23-2012, 12:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Pinewood(m)

There are people here that have been talking and getting to know each other for years it seems! And they have built great solid relationships!
People GET who they are ....
As a newbie I can honestly say I've been made to feel very welcome but also understand it takes time to build trust and relationships! Whatever form those are!
Just trying to be me though and hope I fit in!

From what I've seen hun, you seem to be fitting in great

Welcome by the way

Scoob - thats what I love about you

Kraken73 · 09-23-2012, 01:04 AM

why try to fit in...being the same isnt worth it...being yourself and let those who should flock to you, come to you. fitting in is for sheep and high school!

oz_nymph. · 09-23-2012, 01:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Kraken73

why try to fit in...being the same isnt worth it...being yourself and let those who should flock to you, come to you. fitting in is for sheep and high school!

Thats great that you feel that way Kraken, but some aren't built that way. I'm a very outgoing and friendly person and as I said can fit in everywhere. To suddently find myself in a situation where I don't kinda sucks.

scoobertina · 09-23-2012, 01:12 AM

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Originally Posted by oz_nymph

Thats great that you feel that way Kraken, but some aren't built that way. I'm a very outgoing and friendly person and as I said can fit in everywhere. To suddently find myself in a situation where I don't kinda sucks.

you are a sweetheart.. just come in here and do your thing.. don't worry about what others do.. have fun.. and if you aren't having fun.. create your own fun.. that's my motto... and hence why I need batteries tomorrow...

oz_nymph. · 09-23-2012, 01:12 AM

So apparently I'm intimidating???? Seriously????

oz_nymph. · 09-23-2012, 01:14 AM

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Originally Posted by scoobertina

you are a sweetheart.. just come in here and do your thing.. don't worry about what others do.. have fun.. and if you aren't having fun.. create your own fun.. that's my motto... and hence why I need batteries tomorrow...

lol Scoob, I invested in a battery charger and 2 sets of batteries that way I never run out of much needed BOB power

God girl, you are awesome

chicagoff · 09-23-2012, 01:17 AM

Perhaps the need or desire to fit in is part of a desire to connect, since so many of us feel disconnected in one way or another. So there is no shame.

scoobertina · 09-23-2012, 01:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by oz_nymph

So apparently I'm intimidating???? Seriously????

LMAO! I've heard that one before... a few times... welcome to my club...

oz_nymph. · 09-23-2012, 01:36 AM

LOL we do have so much in common scoob

09-22-2012, 11:45 PM	#1
oz_nymph. Flirting Guest Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Australia Age: 42 Posts: 1,924 Thanks: 746 Thanked 611 Times in 493 Posts Blog Entries: 2	Do You Feel Like You Fit In?? So, guys and gals Im just wondering who. if any of you feel like you don't fit in with the rest of the members on here? I personally feel like I'm doing something wrong (although I won't be changing who I am anyway). I'd love to have a couple of girlfriends/guyfriends I'm not picky that I can joke around with, share stuff I don't want made public and debrief with) but no matter what I do I seem to be repelling people (that may be a little over dramatic!). Does anyone feel this way? Or have you felt this way and been able to oversome it? If you've overcome it, explain how you did it....

09-22-2012, 11:49 PM	#2
notomorrow Half Man - Half Amazing! Join Date: Sep 2011 Age: 46 Posts: 1,083 Thanks: 105 Thanked 154 Times in 138 Posts	Just be who you are. Be true to yourself and just say "fuck it" to the rest of it. You'll find your niche or you'll stand apart, but either way, don't worry about it too much. It'll be alright. __________________ I love to take it slow...then she not only knows who it belongs to, but why she gave it to me in the first place. - Me

09-23-2012, 12:14 AM	#5
Jelly Bite Me Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Mayberry Age: 40 Posts: 18,489 Thanks: 9,071 Thanked 9,431 Times in 5,156 Posts	I don't fit in .. AT ALL. Not here. Not anywhere. I kinda prefer it that way __________________

09-23-2012, 12:15 AM	#7
Jelly Bite Me Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Mayberry Age: 40 Posts: 18,489 Thanks: 9,071 Thanked 9,431 Times in 5,156 Posts	Btw I really like you __________________

09-23-2012, 12:16 AM	#9
chicagoff Flirting God Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: chicago Age: 48 Posts: 554 Thanks: 135 Thanked 112 Times in 106 Posts	I am the same, I don't fit in anywhere either. But that is part of the fun of being me. __________________

09-22-2012, 11:53 PM	#3
Dixie Peach Flirting Goddess Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Georgia Age: 52 Posts: 1,880 Thanks: 2,376 Thanked 435 Times in 335 Posts	I've been here awhile and have felt the way you do...

09-23-2012, 12:14 AM	#6
tink062570 Sheena Queen of tartness Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: in that spot right between the heart and soul ... NEVERLAND Age: 48 Posts: 36,689 Thanks: 7,658 Thanked 7,403 Times in 5,654 Posts Blog Entries: 49	I gave up fitting in .. i am just me ... either it works or it doesnt

09-23-2012, 12:16 AM	#8
Yodameister The ole B & C Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Somewhere between here and there. Age: 46 Posts: 1,986 Thanks: 291 Thanked 248 Times in 213 Posts Blog Entries: 2	No, but I really don't care!

09-23-2012, 12:20 AM	#10
jjone Flirting God Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: N/A Age: 44 Posts: 1,084 Thanks: 147 Thanked 313 Times in 241 Posts	I bet thers are many that feel the same way, that they haven't built the relationships that it seems others on the site have. I feel that way too. Just be yourself and have fun...u seem cool __________________ I'm your Huckleberry

09-23-2012, 12:22 AM	#11
daisyduck *Beautiful disaster * Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Down south Age: 37 Posts: 30,095 Thanks: 6,667 Thanked 6,133 Times in 4,886 Posts Blog Entries: 1	i dont fit in but i dont care , i am just ducky thats it. __________________

09-23-2012, 12:26 AM	#12
notomorrow Half Man - Half Amazing! Join Date: Sep 2011 Age: 46 Posts: 1,083 Thanks: 105 Thanked 154 Times in 138 Posts	So Oz...judging by the responses on this thread, you fit in just fine...coz no one fits in! __________________ I love to take it slow...then she not only knows who it belongs to, but why she gave it to me in the first place. - Me

09-23-2012, 12:28 AM	#13
Jelly Bite Me Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Mayberry Age: 40 Posts: 18,489 Thanks: 9,071 Thanked 9,431 Times in 5,156 Posts	I keep coming back to this thread. I'm thinking back to when I was new. I was the most hated girl on this site. Admittedly I probably deserved it but that's how it was. It took me a LONG time to even feel comfortable posting with any if the women here. They already had strong friendships with each other. But after a while I just kinda jumped in. And I've made some amazing friendships here over the years. One that I consider my best friend. She was with me on my wedding day. And I have others that I text almost daily. They are on my Facebook. And known by my family as my friends. Give it time. Don't stress too much. Be who you are and don't apologize for it. And, like i have offered in the past, if you ever need a friend you are welcome to message me. __________________

09-23-2012, 12:46 AM	#14
oz_nymph. Flirting Guest Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Australia Age: 42 Posts: 1,924 Thanks: 746 Thanked 611 Times in 493 Posts Blog Entries: 2	Thanks for your input everyone. Theres some great advice I've been given and for anyone else that may feel like I do. Jelly - thank you

09-23-2012, 12:51 AM	#15
scoobertina scoobalicious Join Date: Apr 2007 Age: 52 Posts: 77,416 Thanks: 21,130 Thanked 18,122 Times in 12,264 Posts Blog Entries: 87	Hell no I don't fit in.. Never have, never will.. I don't have but one close friend on this site... I have always danced to my own beat in the forums and I will continue.. I have to say that there are times when I wish I could be funny and witty and banter around like others do... but I can't.. never will be able to.. so I accept who I am.. and pay no attention to being one of the crowd.. I just need my bestie.. __________________

09-23-2012, 12:52 AM	#16
Pinewood ... Join Date: Sep 2012 Age: 44 Posts: 1,387 Thanks: 351 Thanked 365 Times in 274 Posts	There are people here that have been talking and getting to know each other for years it seems! And they have built great solid relationships! People GET who they are .... As a newbie I can honestly say I've been made to feel very welcome but also understand it takes time to build trust and relationships! Whatever form those are! Just trying to be me though and hope I fit in!

09-23-2012, 01:04 AM	#18
Kraken73 Super Flirt Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: nyc Age: 44 Posts: 405 Thanks: 41 Thanked 45 Times in 39 Posts	why try to fit in...being the same isnt worth it...being yourself and let those who should flock to you, come to you. fitting in is for sheep and high school!

09-23-2012, 01:12 AM	#21
oz_nymph. Flirting Guest Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Australia Age: 42 Posts: 1,924 Thanks: 746 Thanked 611 Times in 493 Posts Blog Entries: 2	So apparently I'm intimidating???? Seriously????

09-23-2012, 01:17 AM	#23
chicagoff Flirting God Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: chicago Age: 48 Posts: 554 Thanks: 135 Thanked 112 Times in 106 Posts	Perhaps the need or desire to fit in is part of a desire to connect, since so many of us feel disconnected in one way or another. So there is no shame. __________________

09-23-2012, 01:36 AM	#25
oz_nymph. Flirting Guest Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Australia Age: 42 Posts: 1,924 Thanks: 746 Thanked 611 Times in 493 Posts Blog Entries: 2	LOL we do have so much in common scoob