Solution to Sexual Frustration

largon · 09-11-2011, 01:12 PM

There has got to be a solution to this sexual mismatch. I wonder how many ladies married to someone who doesn't satisfy them sexually (frequency and quality) vs the same stat for men. If it's close then I think we need some sort of tool to predict sexual drive before people get married.

If men and women were meeting each others needs then there would be very little porn or playboy or affairs.

disturbiagirl · 09-11-2011, 01:14 PM

Don't marry 'em....take them for a test drive, if the engine doesn't purr, move on to the next ride

TomIAm · 09-11-2011, 01:15 PM

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Originally Posted by largon

I think we need some sort of tool .

well not fer nuttin', but this ^ may be at the heart of your problem if you haven't found it yet! Welcome to the site!

wayneypoo · 09-11-2011, 01:18 PM

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Originally Posted by largon

There has got to be a solution to this sexual mismatch. I wonder how many ladies married to someone who doesn't satisfy them sexually (frequency and quality) vs the same stat for men. If it's close then I think we need some sort of tool to predict sexual drive before people get married.

If men and women were meeting each others needs then there would be very little porn or playboy or affairs.

perhaps the trouble is with tool you have already lols??

DiscreetGuy · 09-11-2011, 02:08 PM

The answer is always right at hand.

Bailey~* · 09-11-2011, 09:09 PM

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Originally Posted by largon

If men and women were meeting each others needs then there would be very little porn or playboy or affairs.

I wouldn't say those are, or have to be mutually inclusive.

...

or is it mutually exclusive?

I always get them mixed up.

A grammar wonk will have to come and berate me

Whichever the case, one doesn't have to mean the other.

OnceAKing · 09-11-2011, 10:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Bailey~*

I wouldn't say those are, or have to be mutually inclusive.

...

or is it mutually exclusive?

I always get them mixed up.

A grammar wonk will have to come and berate me

Whichever the case, one doesn't have to mean the other.

That's what I was thinking...wait....or was it?

Bailey~* · 09-12-2011, 06:44 AM

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Originally Posted by OnceAKing

That's what I was thinking...wait....or was it?

I know, right!? It could be either, or either.

MrHyde · 09-12-2011, 10:32 AM

Did she ever satisfy you there? Do you satisfy her? Sounds like some communication could help get things going in the right direction if you both want to have a better sex life.

KKali92 · 09-12-2011, 10:38 AM

Being more worried about satisfying your wife, will lead to a better sex life for both of you. Unless she is a greedy little bitch, in which case why did you marry her.

redcat · 09-12-2011, 12:58 PM

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Originally Posted by largon

There has got to be a solution to this sexual mismatch. I wonder how many ladies married to someone who doesn't satisfy them sexually (frequency and quality) vs the same stat for men. If it's close then I think we need some sort of tool to predict sexual drive before people get married.

If men and women were meeting each others needs then there would be very little porn or playboy or affairs.

If I were you, I wouldn't hold my breath for any sort of solution. Unless, of course, neither person plans to grow and change.

Moral objections and health risks aside, I think DG has it right...test drive!! If each person had at least 3 partners prior to their intended, no marriage licenses allowed before the age or 25, and the license expired in 3 years (provided there are no children involved), then maybe.....

Navy · 09-12-2011, 12:58 PM

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Originally Posted by disturbiagirl

Don't marry 'em....take them for a test drive, if the engine doesn't purr, move on to the next ride

Problem is that after 7 years or 72K miles you eralize the ride is not that good and wish for a new model that is more fun.

Solution? Don't get married. Just live together and sign a pre-nup. And don't have kids undless you intend to marry.

Navy · 09-12-2011, 01:00 PM

I ran across my ex wife several months ago and she was looking really good. When we divorced we were both tired of each other and sex was bad. Funny thing how time changes things.

Texmale1974 · 09-12-2011, 01:32 PM

Am I missing something here, isn't the hand the cure for sexual frustration?

smartass · 09-12-2011, 01:33 PM

i'm here, what?

Frenchie_lady · 09-12-2011, 01:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Navy

I ran across my ex wife several months ago and she was looking really good. When we divorced we were both tired of each other and sex was bad. Funny thing how time changes things.

Time and sadly, when the situation is bad, getting out of it can give you a brighter outlook on things and be generally more happy!

But I guess sex is now good huh?

nuts 4 u · 09-12-2011, 01:38 PM

In my personal view a marriage will change just like body size will. Now if you fight the change life will be hard . Sure you get what you want but what price . She will say your a controling person, and not like you anymore . Cus you change the wrong way . I'm not saying let the other walk all over you but if you don't let it change there will be trouble

Brian_California · 09-12-2011, 03:28 PM

Well, my wife and I (we're 14 years together, 10 married) spent a lot of time for the first five, six, seven(?) years of our lives together making like rabbits as often as we could. Saturday morning... wake up, make coffee, some pancakes, back to bed! Wednesday evening... dinner and the best kind of dessert! We were young and in love, we did it all the time. And then, life sets in... careers advance, working hours get longer, then you start having kids, you're exhausted, even if the desire is there, sometimes it's hard to find the time. This is normal. Frustrating, but normal. You have to work really hard to keep the passion lit. Would I like to have more sex that we do now? You know it! If we get busy once a week (usually a weekend night) that's doing pretty good. lately it's been less, and I get frustrated (hey I'm here on this site right?) but then last night, she pulled out the massage oil and we had an amazing time. So for both of us the desire is there (definitely more on my part than hers, just because she tends to be more tired than me) but not always the wherewithal. I still think she and I are very compatible sexually, always have been, but life gets in the way. I hope that as our kids grow up we'll have more "us time", and I am confident that we will. Just have to muddle through it.

Anastasia · 09-12-2011, 03:33 PM

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Originally Posted by largon

There has got to be a solution to this sexual mismatch. I wonder how many ladies married to someone who doesn't satisfy them sexually (frequency and quality) vs the same stat for men. If it's close then I think we need some sort of tool to predict sexual drive before people get married.

If men and women were meeting each others needs then there would be very little porn or playboy or affairs.

Oh what I wouldn't give!
What I don't understand is if it were the reverse and I was the one with the low sex drive I would still see to my partners needs.

funnidtguy · 09-12-2011, 03:34 PM

i agree anastasia

Anastasia · 09-12-2011, 03:37 PM

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i agree anastasia

Are you following me lol!!

virgochick · 09-12-2011, 03:37 PM

My husband and I used to have amazing sex....all the time 24/7 if we could. Then he was assulted and suffered a severe head injury and 10 years later his stamina still hasn't come back, he lasts minutes, then gets upset and disappointed that he never could please me and now we both have given up hope that it will ever be the same. Oh and life and stress that comes with life tends to but a huge gap between us so there isn't any intamacy at all any more and without any kind of affection...I can't have sex

Texmale1974 · 09-12-2011, 03:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Anastasia

Are you following me lol!!

Stalking thread?

Steve30 · 09-12-2011, 03:39 PM

I saw this thread.. I ran like I was running after the holy grail...

Pathfinder1 · 09-17-2011, 09:53 AM

We will all be dead before we figure this one out

09-11-2011, 01:12 PM	#1
largon Flirting Guest Join Date: Sep 2011 Age: 40 Posts: 6 Thanks: 0 Thanked 2 Times in 1 Post	Solution to Sexual Frustration There has got to be a solution to this sexual mismatch. I wonder how many ladies married to someone who doesn't satisfy them sexually (frequency and quality) vs the same stat for men. If it's close then I think we need some sort of tool to predict sexual drive before people get married. If men and women were meeting each others needs then there would be very little porn or playboy or affairs.

09-11-2011, 01:14 PM	#2
disturbiagirl 💓Gregarious💓 Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Pulchra Confusa Age: 50 Posts: 31,691 Thanks: 9,703 Thanked 9,239 Times in 6,396 Posts Blog Entries: 10	*Don't marry 'em....take them for a test drive, if the engine doesn't purr, move on to the next ride* __________________ *"Always remember, you're unique. Just like everybody else".*

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Texmale1974 Tette per la Scienza-Ivan Join Date: Jun 2011 Age: 44 Posts: 12,936 Thanks: 3,562 Thanked 5,462 Times in 4,034 Posts Blog Entries: 2	Am I missing something here, isn't the hand the cure for sexual frustration? __________________ Does your mailman have a gun?

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virgochick Loving life Join Date: May 2009 Location: somewhere in between Age: 44 Posts: 19,207 Thanks: 6,313 Thanked 4,785 Times in 3,629 Posts	My husband and I used to have amazing sex....all the time 24/7 if we could. Then he was assulted and suffered a severe head injury and 10 years later his stamina still hasn't come back, he lasts minutes, then gets upset and disappointed that he never could please me and now we both have given up hope that it will ever be the same. Oh and life and stress that comes with life tends to but a huge gap between us so there isn't any intamacy at all any more and without any kind of affection...I can't have sex __________________ "I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." ~ Marilyn Monroe

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DiscreetGuy Flirting God Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Northeast Age: 61 Posts: 3,896 Thanks: 284 Thanked 436 Times in 410 Posts	The answer is always right at hand.

09-12-2011, 10:32 AM	#9
MrHyde ... I Love It Here Join Date: Jun 2008 Age: 44 Posts: 6,064 Thanks: 1,151 Thanked 1,532 Times in 1,108 Posts	Did she ever satisfy you there? Do you satisfy her? Sounds like some communication could help get things going in the right direction if you both want to have a better sex life.

09-12-2011, 10:38 AM	#10
KKali92 Married And Flirting Join Date: Sep 2011 Age: 59 Posts: 53 Thanks: 3 Thanked 5 Times in 5 Posts	Being more worried about satisfying your wife, will lead to a better sex life for both of you. Unless she is a greedy little bitch, in which case why did you marry her.

09-12-2011, 01:00 PM	#13
Navy I'm Being Punished Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: 80123 Age: 62 Posts: 1,980 Thanks: 333 Thanked 411 Times in 322 Posts	I ran across my ex wife several months ago and she was looking really good. When we divorced we were both tired of each other and sex was bad. Funny thing how time changes things.

09-12-2011, 01:38 PM	#17
nuts 4 u FBI Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: not where you are, but give me a few days and i can be there( midwest) Age: 50 Posts: 3,906 Thanks: 926 Thanked 429 Times in 377 Posts	In my personal view a marriage will change just like body size will. Now if you fight the change life will be hard . Sure you get what you want but what price . She will say your a controling person, and not like you anymore . Cus you change the wrong way . I'm not saying let the other walk all over you but if you don't let it change there will be trouble

09-12-2011, 03:28 PM	#18
Brian_California Living the dream Join Date: May 2011 Location: Southern California Age: 46 Posts: 448 Thanks: 45 Thanked 75 Times in 65 Posts	Well, my wife and I (we're 14 years together, 10 married) spent a lot of time for the first five, six, seven(?) years of our lives together making like rabbits as often as we could. Saturday morning... wake up, make coffee, some pancakes, back to bed! Wednesday evening... dinner and the best kind of dessert! We were young and in love, we did it all the time. And then, life sets in... careers advance, working hours get longer, then you start having kids, you're exhausted, even if the desire is there, sometimes it's hard to find the time. This is normal. Frustrating, but normal. You have to work really hard to keep the passion lit. Would I like to have more sex that we do now? You know it! If we get busy once a week (usually a weekend night) that's doing pretty good. lately it's been less, and I get frustrated (hey I'm here on this site right?) but then last night, she pulled out the massage oil and we had an amazing time. So for both of us the desire is there (definitely more on my part than hers, just because she tends to be more tired than me) but not always the wherewithal. I still think she and I are very compatible sexually, always have been, but life gets in the way. I hope that as our kids grow up we'll have more "us time", and I am confident that we will. Just have to muddle through it.

09-12-2011, 03:34 PM	#20
funnidtguy Flirting God Join Date: May 2011 Age: 47 Posts: 873 Thanks: 1 Thanked 142 Times in 132 Posts	i agree anastasia

09-12-2011, 03:39 PM	#24
Steve30 What?!! This is my face. Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: The moment Age: 40 Posts: 1,799 Thanks: 496 Thanked 375 Times in 315 Posts	I saw this thread.. I ran like I was running after the holy grail... __________________ I'm not self absorbed... I just forgot to take my Adderall.

09-17-2011, 09:53 AM	#25
Pathfinder1 Flirting God Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: British Columbia, Canada Age: 66 Posts: 736 Thanks: 53 Thanked 176 Times in 158 Posts	We will all be dead before we figure this one out