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Old 09-30-2010, 02:11 AM   #1
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Default Things Women Find Boring in Bed

By Melissa LaRicca

Published September 29, 2010|Askmen.com

I'm sure that "boring lover" is not something you want on your dating resumé. In order to help you circumvent this horrible fate, I have compiled a list of the seven things women find boring in bed.

So read on and learn what not to do if you want to keep 'em coming back for more.

Asking for permission

There's nothing sexy about a man who asks for permission to have sex with his woman. A good lover knows how to let her know he's in the mood and turn her on without ever having to ask. Something as simple as an intense look or a certain touch is a much better way of going about it.

Predictability

If you've been together for a while, this can definitely be a problem. Part of the reason why things were so hot between you and your woman when you first got together was because you didn't know what to expect. If you want to maintain a similar level of excitement with your woman months or even years down the road, you have to keep it fresh.

Don't be afraid to try new things that you'll both enjoy; never let it get to a point where she can anticipate your every move. For instance, if you usually spend five minutes on foreplay, spend 15 minutes next time and tease her mercilessly. She won't know what hit her. And soon, neither will you.

Mechanical sex

Most women will agree that sex without passion is quite dull; no woman wants to be treated like a blow-up doll -- well, maybe occasionally. I'm not saying that every sexual encounter has to be mind-blowing, it's just that you should never ignore the fact that, no matter how cool she is, she's still a woman who would like nothing more than to be treated as such. So be the lover of her dreams and make love to her at least once in a while.

If you never go the extra mile, she just might find someone who does...

Not going the extra mile

Although many women – as well as men – feel that they must be content with whatever sexual act they engage in with their partners, the truth is that they will eventually tire of a bare-bones routine – pardon the pun. So, if you want to prevent her from ever tiring of you, you must put in a little extra effort every once in a while.

Here comes the dreaded "R" word. You guessed it: romance. The fact that most women don't even expect this at this point in the devolution of dating is to your great advantage because if you are romantic every once in a while, she'll wonder what distant planet you hail from and be all over you – trust me.

For instance, leave her love notes describing what you'd like her to do to you, what you'd like to do to her, and what she should slip into or out of while she anxiously awaits your return. Make her a romantic dinner for two, play some mood music, and seduce her. Write her a song and make her melt. Make it about pleasing her next time and not only will she not be bored, she may just do anything to please you in return.

Same location


If your woman has memorized the cracks in your bedroom ceiling, you're in trouble. But don't worry, a simple change of location can fix this situation. Take it to the shower, the kitchen table, your car, a secluded beach, the woods... the possibilities are endless. Use your imagination and try not to get caught.

Too vocal or not vocal enough

Excessive grunting or repeating certain words can be just as tiresome as making no noise at all. So try to find a comfortable medium that lets her know you're enjoying yourself without letting the whole neighborhood know as well. The right choice of words can also be a turn-on for many women, and no, it doesn't necessarily have to be the three little ones that you dread.

Telling her that what she's doing feels amazing, that she looks hot, or what you'd like to do to her or have her do to you will go a long way in preventing the boredom from setting in.

Never experimenting

If you've been with your woman for a while, and want to keep each other turned on, you had better try some new positions, spill your fantasies, engage in role playing, and anything else that will serve to spice things up, or you risk breaking up out of sheer bedroom boredom.
Pour yourselves a glass of wine or two, and talk about what turns you on, and you may just end up fulfilling these fantasies sooner than you think.

Dream lover

That about sums up the seven boring bedroom blunders. But don't stress, most women don't have insane expectations, they just want to see you make the extra effort every once in a while.
Just remember that the opposite of boring is spontaneous and unexpected; so if you try to be the latter sometimes, you should never bore her in bed. Just make sure that you're with a woman who'll want nothing more than to please you in return.

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Old 10-08-2010, 07:01 AM   #2
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Not going the extra mile is a big thing in my marriage...if he doesn't, then I never want to....it's a bad cycle.
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this one could be interesting ladies please chime in so i can learn lol
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HUH??..you mean you do not know what bores a lady in bed ?...
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The last book I picked up was really quite boring.
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I think as women we need to keep the candle burning and most of us are great at having illustrious thoughts and fantasies. I tend to go that extra mile just so things don't get boring. Sure, there are times when it is wham bam, thank you ma'am kind of sex, but on the whole it is the responsibility of those involved at the time to keep it fun.
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I think as women we need to keep the candle burning and most of us are great at having illustrious thoughts and fantasies. I tend to go that extra mile just so things don't get boring. Sure, there are times when it is wham bam, thank you ma'am kind of sex, but on the whole it is the responsibility of those involved at the time to keep it fun.
Great answer however what if it's one sided and not just in the bedroom but elsewhere?
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Great answer however what if it's one sided and not just in the bedroom but elsewhere?


things seem to get that way after a few years "onesided"

but let him know how good it feels when he..... or when you.....

fun is the key to good sex at least to me
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doesnt help when you tell him its not enough and you want more and the first thing he says is to get a vibrator or a lover....
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I think a lack of sense of humor is a killer. I mean let's face it some of things we might do or say can be funny. I laugh during sex or afterwards. It doesn't mean I've stopped being turned on~in fact it usually means the opposite. What it DOES mean is that I'm having a great time. And, for some reason I laugh after all is said and done. I mean I don't get tears in my eyes. And, if someone doesn't have a sense of humor they may not be able to see it for what it is. I'm not exactly sure what it is, but one thing is for sure. You've made me happy.
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you hit the nail on the head
great time is had by all
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Trying new things (as the article says) is amazingly hot to me. Moving outside of your comfort zone says so much about how much you want someone, how much you trust them, how eager you are to step outside of your norms. The smallest things count for me. For example, the first time he said to me "Let's fu^&" knowing that was the first time he'd EVER uttered those words was so amazingly hot. Every time I know he's venturing into new territory with me I feel so special~trusted and desired.
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damn last time i said
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my husband

So fellas, my only advice? Don't be my husband.
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So fellas, my only advice? Don't be my husband.

get him a book on wild sex

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I don't know that there is much I can add.....I do like an enthusiastic partner, and if I'm turning him on, I want to know. The hotter he is, the hotter I am....simple as that.
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Why? Does the book come with the author?... lol
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Why? Does the book come with the author?... lol
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