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Old 10-01-2010, 06:50 PM   #26
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Mine usually falls asleep on the couch He makes me feel so unwanted
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Old 10-01-2010, 06:59 PM   #27
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Some days I wish for separate bedrooms...
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Old 10-01-2010, 07:08 PM   #28
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where would the dogs sleep??
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Old 10-01-2010, 07:09 PM   #29
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where would the dogs sleep??
Mine would sleep with me.

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Old 10-01-2010, 07:11 PM   #30
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Seperate bedromms? I didn't get married so I could sleep alone. I got married because I hated sleeping alone.
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Old 10-01-2010, 08:19 PM   #31
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We've had separate continents for the past two years and would rather be back in the same bed. I've had so much me time that I'm sick of me.

Yet, sharing "her" bathroom is a whole different story. I've never even tried as it would set off the alarm system.
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Old 10-01-2010, 08:34 PM   #32
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Old 10-01-2010, 08:49 PM   #33
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Been in separate bedrooms for so long that I've gotten used to it and actually don't like it when we're forced into the same bedroom (i.e., on vacations).

But, the separate bedrooms was a continuation of the decline and eventual disappearance of our sex life. We've now become housemates (roommates doesn't seem the right term) and don't really have much of a connection left, sexual or otherwise.

Had it been left to me, we'd have never slept apart and our sex life might still resemble what it did before we were married. And my feelings for her might still resemble what they were before we were married. No way to know that things wouldn't have waned naturally, but I do know that what I loved was taken from me much sooner than I was ready to relinquish it and I've never really come to terms with that.
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Old 10-01-2010, 09:01 PM   #34
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Old 10-02-2010, 12:00 AM   #35
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We don't have separate bedrooms but one day I expect us to have separate lives.
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Old 10-02-2010, 12:26 AM   #36
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We don't have separate bedrooms but one day I expect us to have separate lives.

Sorry to hear that..hope you are okay with that possibility.
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Old 10-02-2010, 05:20 AM   #37
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I wouldn't routinely opt for a separate sleeping space, as I think it would establish a closeness barrier that would be hard to budge. That's fine if your skin crawls at their very touch, but not good if you don't want a gap to grow in your personal contact and intimacy. Also, bedtime is sometimes the best time to talk, discuss the day, clear the air and recompense. You could be avoiding more than snoring or sex by sleeping alone....Avoiding issues will soon become the default response rather than insisting your spouse works with you to find a solution.

However, having said that, I sleep in the spare room whenever it makes practical sense - say one of us is feeling unwell, has late bedtime reading, is tossing or turning, has eaten garlic or is keeping unsociable hours due to work. There are times when it's just more considerate. Also, when she can't bear the sight of me...I will go outside and sleep in the chicken coup because they all love me unconditionally there.
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Old 10-02-2010, 07:42 AM   #38
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even in those glasses??

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We sleep in the same bed but you could park a tank between us. King size bed and she stays way over on her side and me on mine.
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...I will go outside and sleep in the chicken coup because they all love me unconditionally there.

even in those glasses??
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Old 10-02-2010, 08:45 AM   #41
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Old 10-02-2010, 10:39 AM   #42
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Morning sex would just not be the same.....nevermind I forgot the only morning sex I get is with myself.
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Old 10-02-2010, 10:43 AM   #43
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I've had separate bedrooms for 12 years.. (not my idea) ..and for awhile.. it was bearable.. we would visit each others rooms for intimacy.. but then over time.. it just sorta died off.. now.. I don't want her back in my room..
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Old 10-02-2010, 12:51 PM   #44
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We usually sleep in the same bed. Unless I get lucky...
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On reflection, I think that if you have a healthy marriage, sleeping in separate bedrooms doesn't necessarily do any real harm. The problem is that it's often the case that the separate bedroom issue arises in marriages that (like mine) have problems already. And, in that case, it's likely to amplify them.
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When I'm there of course
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I don't like the idea of separate bedrooms for my marriage, what I like is when he travels and is out of town.
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Old 10-02-2010, 08:24 PM   #48
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At the tail end of my marriage, I was pining away for my own bedroom. I couldn't stand to be in the bed with him when I was awake. I either had to go to bed early enough to fall asleep before he went to bed or go to bed significantly later than he did to insure he was sleeping. Honestly, I couldn't bear to sleep in the same bed with him and wanted, was dying for my own space. And, now that I wrote that I see how sad it is.

But, now that my sweetheart is going to share my bedroom with me, I couldn't be happier. I couldn't imagine not going to bed with him every night~ cuddling together, sharing thoughts about the day, picturing our next days together, throw in some sex (hopefully lots). In fact, I look forward to both of us modeling our bedroom into something that both of us feel absolutely comfortable and happy in.

Guess, for me it's all about intimacy and love.
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Maybe one of them snored...........
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