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Old 09-04-2009, 10:05 PM   #101
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Hell ya Medic we all do...cause y'all can't finish the job LOL

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Old 09-05-2009, 10:12 PM   #102
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What????? why not?

My question is do men like to watch?
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Old 09-05-2009, 10:36 PM   #103
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Old 09-06-2009, 07:56 PM   #104
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well growing up i was taught that it was wrong, it took yrs for me to change, still not sure if its not wrong, just know it feels good. its onenot for every
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Old 09-06-2009, 08:06 PM   #105
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My question is do men like to watch?
I do my own thing while she does hers. This is together.
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Old 09-06-2009, 08:08 PM   #106
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well growing up i was taught that it was wrong, it took yrs for me to change, still not sure if its not wrong, just know it feels good. its onenot for every
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Old 09-21-2009, 03:56 PM   #107
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my wife wont unless i've got her spread eagle and bangin hard. May be the only way she can get off.
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Old 09-21-2009, 03:59 PM   #108
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What a lovely visual...... Thanks so much
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Old 09-21-2009, 04:01 PM   #109
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I love it. But if you ask my husband, he will probably say i don't, because he feels threatened whenever I mention it. He also says he doesn't, but i'm not that gullible lol
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Old 09-21-2009, 04:04 PM   #111
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Old 09-21-2009, 05:34 PM   #113
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Why do we continue to bring up our children with the notion that sex and sexual feelings are bad, or wrong? I don't recall sex ever being discussed in our household when I was a kid..but I sure got the message that it was something I'd better not do!

I tried to raise our son differently. To an extent, I instilled the same values, but once he reached an age where I knew he was experimenting and engaging in sex, the message was 'be responsible and safe'. (I say I did it, as dad lectured; I tried to keep communication open.)

My point is... if we can be open to communicating with our kids, rather than embarassed, I think we'll have a lot more adults who are comfortable and happy with their sexuality. In the meantime, we have some who are too uncomfortable to enjoy the pleasures masturbation and sex can bring.
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Old 09-21-2009, 08:31 PM   #114
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I agree with you, Red. Spent lots of years in Southern Baptist guilt hell because of my natural urges. My daughter is now 14 and just starting to notice boys' attention on her (and is thrilled). I know what to say about responsibility for her body, owning it, birth control, but what about masturbation. Because I am less guarded about sex will she naturally feel more comfortable?
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I agree with you, Red. Spent lots of years in Southern Baptist guilt hell because of my natural urges. My daughter is now 14 and just starting to notice boys' attention on her (and is thrilled). I know what to say about responsibility for her body, owning it, birth control, but what about masturbation. Because I am less guarded about sex will she naturally feel more comfortable?

I don't think her comfort level will necessarily come naturally. I think it will need to be discussed with all the other aspects. It's amazing how much kids know, and how early they know it...but they need that input from us in doses ~ the casual comment or conversation as we go through the day, etc.
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Old 09-21-2009, 10:09 PM   #116
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Forget the toys, I like her to caress her breast and between her legs.. I would lead her to that, but she stops as soon as I do. I would love her to touch herself as we are making love...I think it is sensual for both of us. Any thoughts??
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Old 09-22-2009, 08:17 PM   #117
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Old 09-23-2009, 08:51 AM   #118
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My wife is very similar. You can try buying things and telling her, "No you don't understand, it's reallly FUN!" but I think they need to make the connection. After that happens, you still have sex, but you end up on some Married and Flirting forum.
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Old 09-23-2009, 09:09 AM   #119
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Old 09-27-2009, 05:35 PM   #120
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My wife won't masturbate. She has a low sexual drive and participates in sex out of duty. I cannot woo her into sex and so we have no spontaniety. She chooses the time for sex. I have bought some vibrators over our 32 years of marriage and she has accepted using them when we have sex together. They do help her reach orgasm. However she finds pleasing oneself while alone abhorent. As a result, she does not know her body's responses very well.

I agree about the comments about being unable to change someone else with respect to masturbation. Everyone is different. I have often thought that if our language had a nicer sounding word for self-pleasuring, more people would be willing to accept it and do it.

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I wish my wife enjoyed masturbating. I would be delighted if she did. I am confident she would learn a lot more about her body and enjoy sex a lot more. There is nothing wrong with private, solo pleasure.
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She used to a lot. (so she says) before we met. She doesn't now but her sex drive is almost non-existent.
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I don't think her comfort level will necessarily come naturally. I think it will need to be discussed with all the other aspects. It's amazing how much kids know, and how early they know it...but they need that input from us in doses ~ the casual comment or conversation as we go through the day, etc.
I used to think masturbation was one of those things discovered on one's own and we really didn't need to talk about it with kids. I saw Dr. Laura Berman as Sex Therapist on TV talking about it & she kinda made me think. She said that with girls it's probably even more important to talk about it a little. Girls are more llikely to get those feelings for the first time with a boy and it's important she knows it's not just the boy that made her feel that way, she can make herself feel that way. She's less likely to stay in a relationship that she shouldn't if she knows that.

Dad's of daughters every are cringing I'm sure. Sorry. LOL.
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